These are the conversations that get me up from my bed ❤️‍🔥

But ladies do you know how you have impacted our lives with this show? Honestly you deserve a medal

Kudos to the husbands who don't mind you discussing them. And to you ladies for not shying away from sharing your stories.

"Old age needs a friend" That point was deep.

This conversation was phenomenal!! Thank you for tackling a hard topic. After 30 years of marriage we’ve reached our hardest moments!! My husband lost his job and cascaded into a deep depression. ( our marriage had been shaky for some time prior to that) He completely rejected me. I was a stay at home mom with our 6 children. I was not opposed to working but he wanted me home and at the same time making money. I had to do some deep inner work by the grace of God and give room for him to find his way. It’s been 4 years, all the children are out of high school. I’m happily working and doing what I love. I was counseled to leave by many but what held me is what one of the ladies said -“Did I know that he was the one for me from the beginning?” The answer is yes! Therefore I will stay no matter what. I am finding my happiness because it’s not dependent upon him. Slowly but surely he is finding his way again. We live in the same home but separate. I’m still believing that by Gods grace our marriage will be restored and that we will be “jubileed”( I think that’s the term you used). I just love your frank honest open conversations from an African perspective! I’m from the Caribbean and married to a Nigerian. My expectations were the story book, movie, eurochristian ones. I had to search the word of God and dig deep to discover that the real thing is very different. I have a promise in God’s word that says that “ love never fails” so my quest is to discover what that looks like as to how I’m to demonstrate that. How does one live 1 Cor. 13: 4-8 I love you all ladies! I wish to host conversations like these one day on my own channel. You’ve inspired me!! Blessings!

Loving Manuelas emphasis of asking God before you settle down with a partner. I have always believed that God is the author of marriage but if you leave Him out at the start then you are doomed

"Old age needs a friend... everybody needs a gang" Great climax

I love how these ladies put out real life for the young generation. We appreciate you👏🏾

What Aggie said just reminder me of my late step dad. This gental man came into our lives when I was 12yrs. But he had been single for a very long time. But when he got my mom all he wanted was a friend. So when Aggie says old age needs a friend. To the both of them their friendship was more than any thing. He died so happy. To point when he did I felt so bad for my mom because she had lost her friend

Before I even finish watching, I soooooo appreciate the authenticity in the conversations you've held. Thank you dear ladies.

The most honest conversation ever. This show is so under rated, you need a full hour show on TV. Good job ladies

Life is too short to be unhappy!! I am on Pumula’s side. Leave. My parents stayed for the kids (and societal image) but sleep in separate rooms for the past 15 years and counting of a 40 year marriage 🤷🏾‍♀️ I just got married and me and my husband talked about our “no’s” that are an automatic divorce during our courtship. No questions asked. Divorce. I’ve seen happy divorces

This was very emotional to watch but good. Thanks ladies. We need a part 2 to also show the good things about marriage, those situations you feel you wouldn't have made through without your husband. Tell the good stories too ...why we love these men even if they hurt us in one way or the other. Let's hear someone talk about staying for the man even before staying for the children. I think we need to celebrate such men too.

after watching this, i can strongly conclude no marriage is perfect gal child is going thru a lot thanks for sharing ladies at least have learnt something in relation to my marriage

We’re getting a little personal today and throwing the question back to you: what situation would absolutely make you leave your marriage? And are the children enough reason to stay? Sound off in the comments below! Loved this episode? Share the link with a friend! Leave us a like and please subscribe to our channel 😘 #bumplove #motherhood #marriage

It was a nice conversation. Adding on what Angie said, one of the partners has to lead the way and hold fort and fortunately, it encourages the other partner to work on themselves. I am speaking from a place of having seen my mother do it and my Dad with time realized he didn't want to be left behind. So unless it's life threatening, then try to preserve your marriage. Even after you have left , the next person you get, there will be work to be done. And more so prayer works, include the big man up there and He will reward you with beautiful things.

I am a huge advocate of happiness. Harm and life-threatening situations aside, if in my deepest of hearts i do not feel happy being with you and i do not see change in the near future, i will still choose me and my happiness and walk away. I do not think God intended for marriage to be miserable.

I left after 26years because the man was so abusive and no discussions ever resulted into good out come. So that's why it's good to get married at a young age now I am 48. And it's so great after the healing process I got another husband who had also divorced his first wife so we are together and I am so grateful. Amen

I'm with Pumla. I never want to get married. Its too much work. I think I need a partner so we can co parent

Wow. Thanks Ladies for allowing yourselves to be vulnerable for our sake. I have indeed learnt alot.

I love Pumla. I feel like we have so much in common. I really look up to her

Personally, me as me lol, domestic violence is a deal breaker. I will leave mubitiibwa, and actually it is because of the children that I will leave, just to show them that it is not okay to be abused by another person. Besides, research has proven that staying in a DV relationship harms the children more than leaving.

This conversation was something. The authenticity is applaudable. I have been married 10 years, together for 13 and I saw myself in all of you at the very different stages of my relationship. I'll just say different people have different thresholds, personality, needs etc This is very key on whether you can stay or not. Thanks for sharing ladies.

Such Wise YOUNG Women. This is indeed a Program/Show that Young Unmarried Persons should be attentive of.

Don't you love how candid they are about their marriage lives?? Thank you ladies. I'm always looking forward to the next episode. And yes, marriage is about compromise.

Loved the conversation. I decided to take marriage as a journey , and since I know not what to always expect, I decided to take with me the one who holds the keys to All unknown and I am glad I did today is my wedding anniversary. Been doing life with my man for 17 years. Work towards thriving and not surviving. That has been and is my goal. Just like we work at many things we need to work at our marriages. And Angie said it well, Old age needs a partner.

😂😂😂😂😂 my ribs u pple...Aggies stories...who remembers wen their mum made them club for a week 😂😂😂😂

I agree being honest with yourself because sometimes compromise doesn’t work, an unhappy parent doesn’t raise a happy child! That’s the truth!

Angie, sorry for that very painful experience losing your babies. You are such a strong person. You somehow manage to come off both as soft and delicate whilst sharing very strong opinions, holding your own and all round bad-ass! Oba okikola otya!?

These detailed 1 hour heart to heart conversations are the best, especially when the topic is as delicate as this one. I like the honesty. I know girls and women who have not had the privelege of loving mother figures speak wisdom into their lives are learning a thing or two. Thank you ladies.

I can't count the number of times I have watched this episode! And it gets better everytime I watch it. Thanks ladies, this is one of the best really. Very personal and yet so relatable (simanyi oba luzungu lutuufu🤣🤣)

I just came across this conversation, with so many incredible minds. Their vulnerability is teaching and healing beyond measures. Thank you. For sure a new sub 🥰

This has been my best show ever on Bump love.......I clearly agree that the devil is here to destroy our marriages bacause God works through them.Thats yy as ladies we have to stick on prayer for it's the only way we can win... Thanks to you guys for sharing..

This by far is the best episode ever bse it came at a point when I needed it the most. Thank you for being authentic ladies. Thank you very much. I hope you know there are some of us that really look forward to your new episodes and learn a lot. This was WISDOM!

Eeeee Ugandan women are beautiful! lots of love from Kenya🇰🇪🇰🇪

i loved Angiez mature opinions and the authenticity of everyones sharing. Rossette isbusually not so talkative but i enjoyed her sharing. i love the lady likeness in her

Well done ladies and thank you all for sharing! Whoever thought marriage was a bed of roses? For me it’s been more about compromise and the realisation that we’re all different individuals forging a union. Looking forward to your next show 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

Great topic Bump Love. I really love all your raw and honest opinions on this sensitive topic. You couldn’t have said it any better. I just got a lot of knowledge and insight from you lovely ladies.

thank u so much for being authentic , sharing yo stories, may they edify and bringout the best in us in the name of Jesus. Amen

I find myself repeatedly drawn to watching this specific episode for some reason.Your authenticity and honesty shine through,making it incredibly relatable.It's striking how the issues that trigger conflicts in relationships and or marriage seem to remain consistent overtime..Personally ,i dentify most with Angie's "Love dovey" personality. It's effortless for me to be swayed back if there's sincere apology accompanied by positive actions and genuine remorse.

This so far has been my best episode. It’s the honesty and the vulnerability for me . Thanks for helping us learn by bringing such engaging conversations

Such a welcome conversation. Thank you ladies for being vulnerable. Such conversations are needed in a society that tends to make women choke down their feelings and emotions.

My best episode yet, i laughed, learnt, empathised, related. Thanks for being more than candid ladies. Loved it💜

No to a bad marriage for anything or anybody because my children are a compliment to me not a hindrance of my freedom and happiness!

I am seriously falling in love with you ladies. My take is, don't stay for the kids. They see through the dysfunction. Its even worse when you have a daughter, it can negatively shape the woman she becomes in future especially coping with toxic men.

My appreciation goes to you ladies. You have impacted my life alot. The level of transparency in your discussions makes us who are still in stage one of marriage learn how to handle. God bless you and your husbands.

This is more than soul food ,by listening if u wanted to cry u couldn't pure laughter

the way Pumpla rolls her eyes 😂😂😂 thank you ladies for the show,I loved it

Ladies, standing ovation! 'Drops mic'

Patience pays, its one of the fruits of the holy spirit. therefore kuguma is worth. your children matter so much

Very revealing. One of the best shows. Also glad that you have ventured outside the topic of raising kids and are now broadening your discussion scope. I had a good laugh 😂😂😂.

Pumla I can relate...truely relate nze he even took my phone and changed my lines, deleted all male contacts,... I resorted to kuguma as well.. very insecure and a narcissist... Well siika marriage... left last year Sept making a year on 10th 😊am happy for my peace of mind. Let me work munange... Btw was in for 2 years.. We only did kukyala only. At 25 now I don't want to deal with mental health problems even. 🚮🚮🚮

I have watched this episode more than twice...thank you ladies for opening up.

Lovely episode. Thanks for sharing ladies. We have got to know you better. It really hits home. So much hard work in marriages these days.

The way I enjoyed this show. You ladies are amazing in every way. Thank you for always pouring yourselves out.

Thanks for these honest conversations. This takes honesty but thanks for opening up your lives to impact the lives of other women. God 🙌 bless you all

This was a candid, insightful conversation. Thank you ladies.

Wow! Best episode ever! Love the truths in it. Love you ladies.

your experiences, our lessons. thank you ladies for sharing.

Thank you so much ladies, i love the kuguma so much but you might choose too but still your partner in the old age leaves you and takes all the things you worked for together, eg spending the resources to care for the current partner( building them houses, buying cars etc) leaving you with nothing, I’ve seen some old women left alone. So i advise as you kuguma you be doing some personnel savings for the old age to avoid disappointment.

Beautiful vulnerable conversations! Thank you so much ladies for your honesty in sharing personal lives.

Debating such hard and personal things in our homes with friends is easy. But here on a platform with an audience you don't see is HARD. This was a brave episode. Thank you for getting into it and leaving no stone unturned. This is one of those conversations where we could talk all day... I will agree with Angie-Growing old alone is not proggie, I can tell you that for free. 😆 Also marriage is a beautiful challenge because it is the one place that forces you (if you allow it) to deal with your 'bu'things and after that parenting then highlights any pending things you may not have addressed. And I agree with Rachael's approach to invest in looking inward because after all you're the only thing you can control in the marriage and everything else you report to God. As I grow I realize that despite my commitment to marriage and staying, it is brave 💪to stay, and it is brave to leave as well for those that choose to. Pumla you did a stellar job moderating this discussion 👏Thank you

I choose to stay coz the vow says for better for worse. A vow made in front of God is unbreakable by humans and through all the joys and sorrows, the Lord is there to help us carry the cross. The goal is heaven. Keep the vow, play your role right, ... Carry the cross, and you will get the crown👑

It’s clear that the discussion is opening our minds and hearts to creating a narrative that speaks to our evolving journey of our relationships from one generation to the next. I love the complimentary stories each women used to make their points. Thank You all’

Whoah! A high 5 and hugs ladies Kuddos!! You've indeed spoken my mind, I am literally Just tied a note to my hubby this very year's march with whom I dated for 12 years and a lot of what you've talked about in all the conversation has been appliances. Well; According to my experience so far I can say, marriage is a school of series without expectations You've really built me both physically, emotionally and spiritually. Thanks loads you guys for sharing. God bless you for me.

One of the best episodes hands down with so much to relate to, thank you ladies.

This was a good conversation. Thank you ladies.

I don’t know how many times i have laughed throughout this episode, one of my realest n favorite. All your stories were hilarious but alot to learn from.

Am happy that the five of you represent different versions of marriage... if its not life threatening, then I would stay for the sake of my children, deal with the bad I have than leaving and meeting the worst when I can't retrieve back..

Good topic,Watching you all the way from London. It would be wise to bring men on the show to discuss about this same issue as I believe a lot of men too go through so much to contain certain women too.

What a vulnerable episode this is!! 🎉🎉. Thanks ladies 🙏🏾. Watching you from Algiers.

God bless you ladies, wonderful conversations you hold,am binge watching all your videos and so far ive enjoyed all of them and learned a lot

Glad that the videos are longer now everyone gets time to talk this is an interesting topic especially for us who are still single and have no children.

Another very interesting, informative episode. I love that you guys share honest bits about your experiences with us. I agree with you all hence my leaving the man who gave me a ring and became a different person altogether. Rather single and happy than in a marriage miserable.

Candid conversations, thank you ladies.

You ladies really raised the conversation, this is important especially for young newly weds

Love love this, you all made me laugh thanks ladies.

Wow wow wow what a conversation?????????? I wasn't expecting this. I LOVE YOU GALS, BECAUSE YOU ARE IMPACTING LIVES. THESE ARE THE REALLY TALKS WE NEED!!!

You ladies are the best. Thank you for doing this podcast. It was really eye-opening.

This episode was very amazing 😍 thank y'all for being so real and open 👏

I love love love Angie's way of going about this issue.she has really put it so well."old age needs a partner" kiddos to u angie.i actually thought u were devorced.

What a candid conversation! Thank you ladies for this episode.

This episode is sooo juicy 👂🏾👂🏾👂🏾👂🏾. Thank you all for being so transparent. Very educative and encouraging 💕🤗🤗🤗.

Thank you Ladies for being so vulnerable.

I have enjoyed the conversation. So many lessons to learn from you ladies.

This conversation was hilarious .Rossett thank you for making me laugh.Your vulnerability as women has taught me something

This was refreshing! Thank you ladies

Thank you ladies for bringing this to table, we have been able to relate.

Would love to know the daddy version opinions wn daddy's come around,we needed this info marriage hehehe,loved this

Thank you ladies for always putting things together for us, especially making it as personal as possible, i have learnt a lot and i always look forward to watching you always.

My beautiful hun buns..😍thanks for the interesting talk and allowing your selves to be alittle vulnerable..funny and hilarious moments there 😄

This is by far my best episode of bump love..thank you for sharing ladies♥️♥️

I just celebrated our 15th anniversary and like Angie I married young write from campus. I have kunobad in my heart times without number, but after the emotions of the tough conversations and arguments with my hubby have come down, am like it wasn't worth my kunoba thoughts. Thank you ladies for making this talk too real and honestly. Truth is if we went through school there were tough times at school,cantab and all but netulemerako mpaka degree, same applies to marriage. Love you ladies

You ladies are so funny 🤣🤣🤣 Thanks for sharing your lives with us.

This particular conversation is what i have always wanted from you ladies, thank you🥰

Love these ladies 💞 thanks for sharing

What a candid conversation. Truth and reality 💯

This has been the best bump love show ever😍😍

Bananage am a man but this was super …this talk was for World Cup …Pumla looks such a sweet soul full of good vibes ….she really took this interview in the best way ever ….

😂 Manuela forgot the contractions when she saw the messages. That was funny.