In my past relationship, I made the mistake of giving in too early to a committed relationship and I gave my body to that person. I trusted him but soon it became a ritual that the only time he would come see me and even text me was when he wanted my body. I became depressed but had hope that maybe he was taking time and he would change his behavior. Yes, I confronted him but he gave me more punishment and didn't talk to me for days. I became desperate. Then he just cut me off suddenly. Not text me if I had any questions otherwise he would just not reply to texts, wouldn't pick up calls, and even if he did it would be for rarely 1 minute. I ended things with him and yes I made it messy. I was desperate, and now when I come to think of it. I'm embarrassed. I'm embarrassed to behave desperate. I regret to give in so early. And it's a constant cycle of self-criticism. I feel stuck. And most often I am at war with myself to convince myself that I was desperate for a valid reason. He blocked me and is living his life like nothing happened. But now I even hate my body. I hate looking at my body in the mirror. It has become hell for me.

The answer is probably the last bit of the video here, ❤ sometimes people have a hissy fit when you tell them you don't want to let something happen that has gone on for a long time, either they accept it and get over it eventually, or they show that they really don't care for you by their actions or not wanting to deal with their own problems that are affecting others. Not sure if you wanted my answer or not, but thought I'd help if Matthias didn't respond.

@@largefamilyruralliving7434 thankyou ❣️

Cut off. I can live with a person who forgets their socks on the floor, who has a hobby I don't participate in, who maybe gets too heated talking about what upsets them, but stops before they berate or yell at ME and eventually talk it out respectfully. You can live with levels of imperfection. No one should live in abuse.

Cut off. I can live with a person who forgets their socks on the floor, who has a hobby I don't participate in, who maybe gets too heated talking about what upsets them, but stops before they berate or yell at ME and eventually talk it out respectfully. You can live with levels of imperfection. No one should live in abuse.

Literally the same thing as cutting back.

I'm choosing to do this, for my own sake. 👍

He said that if the behavior is unhealthy you have to confront or cut back. The consent option is for minor things like sometimes this person is late or you don’t like the way they do certain little things

Exactly. I don't have to consent to anyone's behaviour, because then I'd be setting myself up to fail, and the instigator gets away with yet another manipulation tactics. No thanks. I'm far wiser than people give me credit for. People think that I avoid certain people because I'm "scared" of them. They've got it way wrong. I'm not "scared" of those certain people. It's just that I see no point in making small talk with these certain people, if their behaviour is bad, for my mental wellbeing. Very different to being scared of anyone.

​@@kimmeebThen I choose to cut back-to leave the friendship behind. I don't need the drama.