As an Empath I have attracted nothing but Narcissists into my Life. Now that I am totally aware Im able to notice the red flags sooner than later

I am actually laughing at this because IT IS SO TRUE! Oh my goodness. I made him look good to everyone around us because I looked at him like he was so special. He must have enjoyed knowing that all of the men that he worked with wondered what he possessed to deserve a nice woman such as myself. They must have looked at me and wondered what I saw in him. He never gave anything to me except false hopes, broken promises, and emptiness. I was so stupid.

once you see it ,you cant unsee it..

Dr.Phil quoted his father "If you don t have it in you, you cant see it in others." That is why we couldnt see the toxic narc!❤️

Exactly He brought nothing to the table but criticism and heartbreak.

on a positive note, once you no longer give the narcissist all your life & energy you have SO MUCH MORE of everything to yourself...time,energy,money, resources,strength...it's like everything comes flying your way, like life is so EASY!!..once you get over the mental brainwashing part ,life is quite blissful..❤️❤️🖤

The last six months I was with him I would look at him, and my stomach would turn. He literally disgusted me intimacy got further and further to the point it didn’t even exist.

I remember simultaneously throwing up and crying for hours at a time. I was told by many that my body was trying to rid me of all the toxicity. 😢

I realized my narc was the opposite of everything he said he was. It was weird. He made it seem like I was the emotionally disturbed person and he was worse than me. He blamed me for everything wrong in the relationship, but a lot of the problems were his repressed emotional problems.

Everything you say is so true, Danish… I experienced all of it! I punished myself and was called the selfish one my entire life. Dealt with this with my mother, my sister, ex boyfriends, ex husband…finally getting smart and healing. Now I’m working on attracting better people. It’s tough when we’re empathic in nature.

Honest people find it hard to spot liars. People that dont spend all their time trying to trick and manipulate everyone around them dont see when its hsppening to them. Bc it doesnt occur to you to do that to others. If you feel scammed dont be too hard on yourself. Learn for the future the flags. Let go of feeling bad youre not an expert liar like them.

Danish.... I'm profoundly grateful to you for guiding me through the darkness of narcissistic abuse. Your support has been my lifeline. Thank you immensely.

Ive decided to remain single, no dating. In fact, just being friends seem like a firevwalk. Too much of this out there nowadays. Better to remain on superficial level for survival sad to say. 🕯️

Waking up to the fact that you've been majorly deceived is painful but necessary. It also takes time to accept. You may feel tempted more than once to go back to ignorance because the reality that the person you loved and honored isn't who they claimed to be is so hard to face. But keep embracing the facts, the truth because in this case that really is what will set you free.

" I wish I could show you when you are lonely or in darkness the astonishing light of your own being" - Hafiz of Shiraz I love beloved Hafiz and his pure soul. This is how I loved the narcissist - deeply, truly. And slowly I stopped seeing my own light in the process.

Everything u say is so true. The nicer i got the worser he got Snd was nice long as we were around other people. Actor of the year.

After being with him for two years, I knew I should’ve left but instead I moved in with him and that’s when it started I started watching him talk bad about people heard him lie over the phone and then I saw that through him he was able to maintain the lie when we were together on weekends onlybut once I moved in, I knew I made a mistake and still stayed two more years till he discarded me after a huge fight

Although I created his portfolio, supported him through grad school, introduced him to my professional colleagues who hired him, got his job back after he lost his temper at a supervisor, he stated openly "I never knew what I could have had". He selected someone from a flier of eastern European dating site & married her within months of the divorce. 20 years marriage meant nothing.

Many thanks for your guidance Danish. I have been living with a narcissist for 15 years and finally filed for divorce last month. He took all my possessions, my friends and most importantly my peace of mind. He has left my house but still sends messages through his friends and family. They pressure me that he feels guilty and can't live without you but I can't prove to them that he is a narcissist. I am exhausted now.

That really resonated and described my journey. After all the confusion and blaming myself, thinking I had failed, I realised the behavior of my ex had been to keep my supply. Even suicide threats were part of his show, as it meant I felt sorry for him and let him stay. He only did things for me if he felt he had pushed abit too far. I took a leap one day, I went quiet, grey rocked, stopped paying for things. Within 2 months he left, having raged and ranted. He found another supply, a very vulnerable person. I had a lucky escape. I have learnt so much about myself though, and forgiving myself has been part of recovery. My advice, any red flag... Leave.

The dynamics at my work place is very complicated, feels like a cult, to be precise. I ignored so many red flags popping up every now and then, the way the narcissistic directors treat me and some of my co workers. Finally, I became the center of their hatred to the point they the narcissist decided to cut my pay and take away the incentive I kept earning by showing up for work everyday and on time. I pleaded with the heartless bastards, as they knew I am a single parent to three children. But no, in fact these heartless bastards justify their decision as company is not making enough money! No SHIT, but my work load is not reduced, so I retaliated and choose to work my dollars worth. Lesson learned know your net worth! I only sell my service, not myself! December 2023 is my last month in this toxic work place. Come next year will be a new beginning for me. I was in denial all the while because I did not want to face reality, but my mind and body does not agree with me. I literary had experience d night mares with excruciating pain in my lower back and I cannot forget that annoying pain to this day! That's how my body is programmed to react to narcissistic abuse.

Accurate accurated!! I can't believe how blinded I was for 6 years! Rose colored glasses for sure - unjustified. I'm just so thankful God did not allow any permanent ties to happen! Finally free and happy. No longer dealing with chaos, confusion, pain and sadness anymore! Finally, goodbye narc!

This is exactly how it went down for me with the Narcissist. I felt a switch of disgustion about them. Even looking at them made me feel sick. I was no contact for the last 3 months and he walked into the doctors office where I also was and I almost threw up. I knew then I am breaking away because I felt absolutely nothing for this person. I actually think I needed that. One last acknowledgement for my self that leaving was the right thing.

Every word is the truth almost 2 years out and i feel great and stronger!!!

Thank you for the video. This was spot on. After I went and maintained no contact I realized how disgusting he actually is, and it made me sick to my stomach. I am so embarrassed to have been with him, and I must have looked like a fool to everyone. He is such a clown, very laughable, and realizing those things helps with the healing. Stay strong everyone. You've got this!

Thank you so much Danish, this is spot on! 🙏🏻🕯🌹When we finally wake up from the narc's spell it is truly sickening and we can experience so many weird symptoms, both emotionally, physically and spiritually. Headaches , joint and muscle pain, nausea, stomach issues, nightmares, anxiety, etc, etc. Our bodies and our souls know that something is very wrong and they are trying to tell us, we just need to listen. After I unmasked my covert narc.ex husband I couldn't stand sleeping next to him, it felt like he was a predator just waiting to attack me... I used to wake up in the middle of the night, finding it really hard to breathe and I had to go out on the balcony and gasp for fresh air... To anybody who is currently in a relationship with a narc, my heart goes out to you❣Know that you can break free, no matter how hard it may seem. You CAN rise again! Know that you are enough and you are loved. So very much loved❣Just for being YOU❣Love and blessings to all🙏🏻🦋❤😇

When he found that I had been watching videos about narcissists and how they are that was when he dropped the mask permanently. I learned what trauma bonding is and that is a major reason I was finally able to move on. Ultimately it reached the point where either he was going to kill me or I was going to kill myself. There wasn't really one incident or point where I realized how he was more like a million events moments instances that I continued to tolerate from very early on in the relationship. When I first met him I knew there was something seriously wrong with him but I pushed that feeling aside because he showed me all this attention and "love".

Yes! Helpful to take the time to have this info repeated several times. To anchor us in the truth. Break through the denial.

At my 45, never had I experienced anything like that. Sometimes, I wonder whether he was something worse than a narcissist, Maybe, a split personality? He broke me before I left him for good, this time. It all happened as you say. I watched your video multiple times. Thank you❤

U are absolutely right. I thought i would never be able to accept this fakeness drama, how could i? These just dont make any sense. How a person who plans future with you, being possesive and in the end cheating behind you with a young student that he met for 5 days. It disguses me to the core. But after going NC for 4 months, my brain slowly accepts everything that i was not dealing with a 'normal human'. You were rite, they are less than ordinary. We are the extraordinary !

Never showed me compassion no matter what I needed emotionally any support I would go to him and he would say don’t ask me that’s on you figure it out yourself. You’re gonna do what you want. Anyway, I used to stand there with my mouth hanging open he was so demeaningand I had nothing but unconditional love and empathy being an empath

This video was extremely helpful; had not heard of reverse projection before.

It defies belief that anyone can be so calculating and devious but your every word is spot on, it’s only through reflection that you recognise what actually went on 🤬

Once his mask slipped. I felt I just woke up from coma. I was so disgusted that I started brushing my teeth numerous times a day. At the end his mouth started smelling evil. I blocked him and never saw him again. Yikes!

I just want to share this.And I realized this just days ago from my Narc. We have been married 26 years long with 4 kids. We had an epic quarrel months ago, from his cheating around, to which he said he had broken up with me 13 years ago,thats why it was'nt considered as cheating. I was like, then who the hell was I sleeping next to these past years??!! Who was I having a family with?? What a freak! I'm realizing now that his epic bedroom tactics on me, was to justify his taking of the pie, with no commitment in our marriage. See how subtle this sly foxes are.Everything they do is always enveloped in a mission to just use you, yet seemigly not. Now I know how to read between the lines and the shadows. Be careful of the devilish wolves out there, everybody!!

It's sad many get abused and exploited for their beautiful decent character and then we ask wtf is happening to this crazy world

Wow, this episode is the absolute best one ever, every thing said is 100 percent truth. Thank you, Danish, your work inspires true healing like no other for someone like me who has suffered the deep complexities of narcissistic abuse for 13 years. Without your help, I would have never broken free from this nightmare.

Feeling nauseated is the real thing! I couldn't believe how disgusting someone could be and after I got discarded I couldn't eat and kept throwing up for days.. I freaked out thinking I was pregnant but it was just my bodily response to being completely grossed out by them

This video is brilliant. You captured exactly what happens with these people. I did project all of my goodness and compassion and many more qualities on the narcissist thinking how special they were. Plus this person mirrored back my personality which made it worse. Actually this person was a nightmare and it took me lots of therapy to break free. It’s been 20 years and I’m a different person now. I healed and you can too if you’re reading this. 🎉🎉🎉🎉 I’m happily married now to a wonderful person. 😊

Thank you for that explanation. I found myself going back to him even after I knew he cheated on me. I have his baby and even though I've gone no contact for months I still think about him. I watch these videos to keep myself from ever making that mistake again.

You are right Danish - we think this way because we think the world operates this way. Basically, they want our energy ❤

My guy did not like any affection. He told me not to bother thinking about him because he never thinks of me. He told me not to have any affection for him, and this was after being together twice. He said he hates people and only cares about himself. Not sure what happened to him early on, but he had a very hard outer shell.

Thank you so much for these videos Bashir, they give me closure.

You are so right on this subject. It has happened to me through friendships. My deepest hurt and disappointment resulted from what I misjudged in people I befriended.

I figured this out when my girls told me a story about the ex (covert narc) and his gf (overt narc). They live on a steep hill, about half way up/down. During a heavy ice storm (we live in West Michigan, snow and ice are normal for us) there was a car struggling to get up the hill, not being able to get any further up the hill than half way up, which was right in front of their front porch. When I was with my ex I would tell him to go help the person. In this case he could have given them a quick detour where they could climb the hill on a busy road, meaning plowed and salted early and often. But I was not there, his possibly sociopathic gf was. She watched and laughed at the person struggling. He joined her, and then they went out on the front porch laughing and talking about how "stupid" the driver of the car was. The gf basically yells at her normal conversational volume. I'm sure the person/people in the car could see them making fun of them, and probably heard her too. They did nothin ng the help at any point. When I heard this story I was appalled! It was in that moment that I realized any good deeds he had done when we were together was because I made him. Of course he took all of the credit when he was praised. That stung the most when it was his family, and they went on about what a "good guy" he was and how thoughtful he was. He continued this deceit by blaming everything negative/bad/wrong on me. Sometimes he would even tee me up with "agreement" on some family issue. Somehow he would get me to be the one stating our agreed on stance on an issue. Once I was exposed and his family (large wolf pack, he has 8 siblings) would go on the attack. I would freeze, my fight or flight response. He wouldn't do anything to help me, and would often leave the room while I was under attack, leaving me against everyone else. He would do this when we got together with my family too. Since I'm the black sheep in my family, they would always and predictably side with him! I felt so alone in houses filled with people, like 20 to 40+ people, all inside because it's Michigan. He would deny doing it on purpose, and take great pleasure in how his actions and now gaslighting affected me. This single story opened up an entire book of realizations about how much of a good person I am, and have always been. It opened a memory vault of m telling him to do good things, and his initial arguments about doing anything. He would drive past a fresh car accident, no police/fire/EMS on scene yet. No sirens to be heard. I would ask him why he refused to pull over and he had no good reason. However, ther was good reason for him to stop and help; he is a paramedic with additional training in trauma. (Narcs/sociopaths make good paramedics, if they seek praise for doing something good, because empathy doesn't get in their way. They stay calm and focused without pesky emotions getting in the way. Plus driving lights and sirens, having people pull over & stop to let them through, and the adrenaline of the job gives them some excitement. I have to remind myself and my wonderful daughters that a lot of people aren't good to the core like we are. We need to stop assuming others are like us, but even when it looks like someone is good I don't trust that it's genuine. My ex is a covert narc, and he shattered my trust that people are genuine. I'm always wondering when someone does something nice for me what they want or what their motives are. Because I was raised (brainwashed) to believe I didn't deserve anything good & no one would have any reason to do anything nice for me. I went NC with my parents, my ex is still a part of their lives.

Of all your great videos, this one is perhaps the most transformational. You have a unique gift in communicating. Once we understand it, cut through the Maya, we heal. God bless you and all of the seekers and subscribers here. This whole pitiful destructive charade stops with us!❤️🙏🏻❤️

I mirrored him for the last month I was with him acting just like him he couldn’t handle it, and then I publicly humiliated him for the last FU he threw me out the same night never heard from him again 16 months separated after five years

I remember if I had to crawl over glass to get to him, I would I would run to him now I avoid him like the plague

It's true. I ended a 5 yr relationship with my covert narcissist today. For the first time I'm disgusted. I'm so angry and all illusions have fallen away. I've tried to leave so many times but this time I reached my limit. I think I needed to get to this point in order to make the break

Thank you Danish. Your videos helped me alot to move out from a toxic relationship.

People used to see us together. I had complete strangers men pull me off to the side and say to me why are you even with him? What is wrong with you and my dumb ass would say, but I love him.

Studying them is like going to hell. You are at the level -100 and you think this is everything just to find out there are other levels even worse. Personally now I want to explore my past with narcissistic aka psychopathic/ sociopathic (not sure how to define them) parents more, but I already feel scared because there are things I want to understand, but I feel that is scary. Like my parents demonstrated absolutely toxic and destructive patterns related to all the aspects of my upbringing. They made me think they are perfect by persuading me. I am grateful to the community and Danish and each psychologist and kind, caring person here on KZfaq and in the world because I have realized who they are. I recommend EDMR. I hope you will win against these predators, and they are really pitiful at their core.

I realised I wasn’t dealing with a normal person down the line. I didn’t want to believe it as I class myself as a strong woman. He told me I was crazy.. I tried to leave him multiple times but he would threaten to kill himself. He cheated and I left after he gave me a broken nose. It was only after I left him I realised WHAT he was and to this day it sickens me

THIS is so accurate regarding my own experience! Thank you, Danish.

This explains a lot about how I felt. Thank you.

Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde, Yes, it did my head in. Thankyou that is it!

U r just exactly talking what has happened to me...u videos are so helpful

Thank you Danish. Your videos are so helpful. I went through each and every thing with my Narc husband.. By god grace I am in the process of divorce.

Thankyou Danish . I want to tell something to Empaths. Yes, Empaths attracts Narcissistic if not aware. But , ever thought -why Narcs Don't attracts narcs- because they are aware of The kind of people they want in their life.

Why narcissistic woman even forgets husband once they discarded and enjoy life, very painful being a husband.

Yes, of course, they've probably been more rotten to us than we realize, in the past, just before it's, all out war sought after by them, insecure babies needing to feel our love (aka our sticking it out with them) we've finally exploded, just like they require, it's not good enough we weren't complaining sooner of their bad behaviours, letting them ride! With them any little annoying thing 'we do' is brought to our attention just cuz we'd not done it exactly as they'd of (ya think?)... 😊

Trauma boding is a b--

Thank you for sharing! My daughter's EX-partner was a narcissist or at least he had narcissistic tendencies. What are the best ways to help our survivors if we are family or friends of them? Your videos are really helping me see how I can listen to her and help her but sometimes I feel so helpless to help her! She was not telling me everything he was doing and all of the abuse until the end of their relationship when she finally realized that crying every day is not a good relationship. He was immune to her tears and emotion UNTIL he realized that she wanted it over. Only then did he start trying. Thankfully, it was too late and she was already working on escaping it.

You said it Danish.. Many thanks for this episode 🌹🙏🙏

I’m 46. Divorced a narc. I still fall for them, just shorter times. I’m so annoyed by it.

I just want to say I’ve watched a lot of your videos and I thank you from my heart❤❤❤❤for making them and sharing your stories. Iam so deeply sorry for what happened to you and I wish I could give you real huge hugg and be your friend in person because you deserve that and so much more. You have helped me wake up. I was with one for six months just got out. It’s terrible because his energy and his true self did not open up to me until the fourth month. I had no idea until it’s too late and we were together a long time. Sickening as hell. I was in complete shock when he just started screaming 😱 all the time at me like a maniac all of a sudden went from super nice to nightmare here iam true demon in disguise. He flipped out even right before my father was coming over for dinner and was like if you want normal go somewhere else. I was like what in double hell did that mean. And then he started play jabbing me and smacking me but I knew it wasn’t play because ur was hurting me bad. And he told me that’s what you get for disobeying me. Fourth month started until I said enough was enough at the beginning six. Him putting his hands on me and then demanding I go to bed with him or else with a long killer stare was what flipped the bulb 💡on. I was terrified to go with him after that. And I stayed up a bit too until i just went up to him. He woke up and jabbed on me while I was dead tired instead of loving on me. I was like in the morning when I get up and he goes for routine walk without me iam so freakn out if here. I grabbed just my clothes left gifts 🎁 and said never ever ever again will I be so nieve. I have serious boundaries now trust no one. I will try again but iam super cautious. Iam worth loving and I will not I repeat will not let no one get close to deceiving me ever again. There were a couple of red flags 🚩 in the beginning that I ignored that something was but off but I didn’t understand until I heard you. I just thought he had a tough upbringing because he kept saying that a lot. I really liked him gave him a chance anyways and thought he wasn’t going to get that bad. But it got worse to where I was like iam I insane. He really did a number in me. What’s sicker is iam poor and he preyed on that. That’s why I was a target.woke me up to work on me not staying poor. Which is a great thing, independence in a woman is the greatest achievement in the world truly. Amen. I love you danish please don’t be afraid to text me back if you want thank you I have left him and iam not in harms way everything is better. 😊❤😊❤😊❤😊❤😊❤😊❤😊❤😊❤😊❤😊

Danish you are 💯 right l went through everything you mentioned hi was my husband and lived with him for 22 yrs could not take it any more devorce him but l still have feeling for him l don't know what is wrong with me.God please help me to stop caring.

True. 5mths ago I realised there is an actual name to what I have been subject to these past 40yrs. H did not have other women and was not a social being. The rest of it, yes. Yes ago I called him a robot. I cannot go no contact. I am unsteady on my feet. Don't drive. Live in Malaysia. Have cats. I am in my 80s

Thanks! Loved the content of this video. ❤😊 Have a fab day!

You know what, I'm never gonna be ready to accept the fact❤bcz I'm left with none and tired of being the only one who pours

That's a brilliant video👏🏻

hey, assalamualaikum! the most difficult part for me, is that I recognized he is a narcissist. Yet I still find myself loving him. I've already analyzed the relationship and found I was abused throughout. Why do I still love him? I have started hating myself for this.

omg!!!! spot on!!!! so true!

ty so much. as a demi-sexual i found it so strange that ex's would project mistrust onto me. but, you made me understand.

John 8:12 (NKJV) Then Jesus spoke to them again, saying, “I am the light of the world. He who follows Me shall not walk in darkness, but have the light of life.”

From JANESVILLE, WISCONSIN USA Thanks again

Thank you brother

Ur each word is so true 👍

Exactly..!!100% truth..

He took my car keys. Yesterday he told me "if I give them back, you will hurt me and then I will have to hurt you." In 13 years Ive never done him wrong and he has brought me nothing but evil treatment. He has rules on me like dont leave the small town we live in and dont help anyone. If I disobey/ "hurt him" even a bit, I get eternal wrath. I have no money or family who loves me. It never gets better. But my trust is in Jesus and he sustains me well. I have hope he cannot steal

Yes, yes, and more yes!!! Disgusted.

I’m patiently awaiting the day our AC flips that switch in their head!

Thanks 🙏

Love your videoes thank you so much

Yes , danish as narsacist abuse survivor , asper search u the best to help abuser, plz making to reach more , survival's to reach u . Plz make hindi language channel.

Spot on ❤

So Accurate!!!!

So true

Very true👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

Spot on

Awsome

I have an unrelated question: Is there laugh real or fake?❤ do they experience humor?

Do you have a bird in a cage?? Thats so very cruel

Thank you for stating this ❤❤❤-Xclusyph Icon

Lady at the city Hall is like that

Looks like you speak about romantic relationship with narcissist,but actually can be implicated also in the relationship children - narcissistic parent. They are so copy paste.

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Hello sir. I'm interested

The lack of empathy you show for narcissist makes me wonder if you aren't on the spectrum

All happened to me and it was just end 4 month ago , i begin to educate myself about narcissists and all make sense about him …i feel disgusting yes and feel more relieved when I walked away even I’m still sad but will get better 🥲