Your Parents Aren't The Problem... The Parents Within You Are!

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5 жыл бұрын

Teal Swan teaches about the root of the problems you are facing in your life. Most of the time, the root of those problems is your relationship to your parents/adult caregivers as a child. In this episode, she throws a curveball by teaching that once you are grown up, your Parents are not the source of your problems anymore, the parents that you have internalized however are. In our childhoods we develop a plethora of coping strategies to deal with perceived threats from our circumstances, parents or upbringing. A genius coping strategy is to create internalized parents that give us back control and keep us safe. But this strategy prevent us from getting what we really want in life once we are grown up.
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@Goddessglow888 5 жыл бұрын

*watching Teal is my quality time with myself*

@Goddessglow888 5 жыл бұрын

Kristin Hanna Omg, this made me smile. Thank you so much dear, I am in fact an empath but an educated one if you may say. And wow, Criminal law is my passion, I'm studying International criminal law right now as well and will graduate with a degree in it. Your comment really tied everything up for me in a beautiful way, thanks. Enjoy your night and kick ass in Court. Hopefully, I'll be a criminal lawyer as well..😍❤️

@Goddessglow888 5 жыл бұрын

Kristin Hanna Also I love Louise hay

@BC-gu8vs 5 жыл бұрын

Kristin Hanna hi! Your comment I think found me by no coincidence. I was wondering if I could ask you for advice. I just graduated law school and started my bar prep to take the CA bar in July, but I’ve also been going through a lot of shadow work throughout law school because it did put me in a depression my 1L year. I am in a much better state now and actually very happy, but I’ve been trying to practice meditation and struggling to really calm my mind. How long does it take you to reach a deep vibrational state and what are some things you do to shut off your brain and be open to your higher self? I too am an empath, life path 9, Aries. Went to law school to study employment law and environmental law (more specifically water law), but my dream is to legislate :) the only time I’ve ever been able to talk to my higher self is in a lucid dream but for a few years I’ve had trouble lucid dreaming as much as I used to, so I would like to be able to utilize meditation as well.

@michaelabecker6712 5 жыл бұрын

I'm not surprised the inner child wanting to study the Law after a tough childhood. As a child I always wanted my parents to be made responsible for their hypocratic behaviour. Therefore I studied the Law. But it doesn't interest me any more. It seems to become more and more ridiculous. It's so "old earth" nowadays...The journey goes back to the blueprint...And this video is a part of this journey...Fine!

@Kimchiiii88 5 жыл бұрын

Then what do you do for yourself period? (Its not a real question I don’t really care)

@Salmoninyourrice 5 жыл бұрын

Teal gets it. I was flourishing in college. I made the most friends I’ve ever made in my life. I didn’t feel depressed until I had to go home. And when I was on my way to graduating I went into a deep depression and began having panic attacks again. It feels validating to know that sometimes you have to grow away from the toxic ppl in your life. If I stay home I will not grow. Plain and simple. If i stay here, i subconsciously make decisions with the notion that my parents will eventually see how they hurt us growing up to get that resolve that my younger self is longing for. But being away from it reeeeally heals a lot of wounds if you let it.

@ThomasDoubting5 5 жыл бұрын

I'm the same I stay away from them now..

@cookie_dough_hangover 4 жыл бұрын

Exactly. The moment I got married and moved to another country (I'm aware I did it unconsciously to get away as far as I can from my parents) I began to learn who I am and to finally be who I really want to be. It was the most creative period of my life. I love my parents , but their toxic relationship has really messed me up.

@iva6692 4 жыл бұрын

Trying to get away from ther, they are toxic as hell.. Hoping I will be soon able to provide myself..

@thewarrior6784 3 жыл бұрын

@@cookie_dough_hangover I don't think love can exist in toxic relationships. If it does, it's one-sided. That's my opinion.

@nina755 2 жыл бұрын

Exactly story of mine got semi panic attack when i realized i was going after graduation i stayed with them 8 months and boom real panic attack. I hate my father so much now i go to psychologist.

@gustafrindestal 5 жыл бұрын

I always find it interesting when I come home to my parents to fall into the old patterns. Nowadays I´m the leader but when I come home to my parents I rarely speak. Anyone else too?

@gustafrindestal 5 жыл бұрын

@@ruyadamon Yeah, do what you know is best! I moved to another city but we have a great communication at distance

@gustafrindestal 5 жыл бұрын

@serendipidus1 Great input! Everyone should read this!

@mushroomzulu 4 жыл бұрын

Yes, I feel like they can't see the real me and my actual potential and growth I've made.

@rosarioborrini1147 4 жыл бұрын

Hey I feel the exact feeling!

@rosarioborrini1147 4 жыл бұрын

And I wonder whether to continue visiting them or not

@carolinelaronda4523 5 жыл бұрын

Omg Teals adorable dork laugh gets me every time 😂

@alexanderringler5747 5 жыл бұрын

It shocked me xD

@lindsayleigh984 5 жыл бұрын

Caroline Laronda I LOVE that laugh too!

@chichichiugo8532 5 жыл бұрын

I loved it. I laughed about that too

@v.958 5 жыл бұрын

13:50 You’re welcome

@LittleLulubee 5 жыл бұрын

I don’t get why she’s laughing

@MsRoshniAli 2 жыл бұрын

After loosing both my parents, I've realises their voice lives in your head. How you deal with it is what sets you free.

@Sh0n0 Жыл бұрын

How do you deal with it? Any advice?

@VenusFire314 10 ай бұрын

Yes I want to silence their voice in my head.

@persephonemaeve2704 5 жыл бұрын

Basically, parenthood is an almost impossible task to get right every time. Ive decided not to have children. I don’t even accidentally want to create a damaged individual.

@christopherklimek7484 5 жыл бұрын

Friendly Hi (to you and the "THUMB UPs"). But: What a brilliant avoidance tactic. If life on this planet was meant to be like this, there were no parents/kids on the earth at all. But life actually works like "parents + kids", "chickens'n eggs". That's reality. "Life is not always easy. But the lesson is not, therefore to live no life at all." Don't get me wrong; I don' say, that everybody should have kids. But maybe overthink your WAY to conclusion. We ARE all damaged, and we all CAUSE damage, almost every day. So NOT BECOMING PARENTS is not the instant exit out of RESPONSIBILITY in general. :) Good week!!

@persephonemaeve2704 5 жыл бұрын

Christopher Klimek I have a huge amount of responsibility in my life. More than the average person. Its not about avoiding it but choosing not to take on that aspect of life. It’s not the responsibility that is the issue. Parenthood is not for everyone. You either yearn to be a parent or fall into it by accident. It was never on my radar and to be honest, seeing my peers struggle so intensely with it doesn’t make me inclined to pursue it.

@christopherklimek7484 5 жыл бұрын

@@persephonemaeve2704 Ah ok. Got you.

@christopherklimek7484 4 жыл бұрын

@@Olivedoggy Yes. My statement was written kind a (extra clear) harsh and one dimensional. But not on Sphynx Mumma's DECISION itself -> on the WAY OF COMING TO THE CONCLUSION. (at least on HOW I read/perceived/understood it at first). My statement has its truth. But sure: It can be also a respondsable decision not_to_have_kids BECAUSE KNOWING you wouldn't have enough time/energy/...capacity for them. It depends on the person/moment/circumstances ....(in/under which) who ....says/thinks/makes this statement/decision. In the end a statement and a decision has to feel true to the person who makes it. And "your truth" (one's truth) even may change over time. I think Sphynx has made her point. Good. (By the way - I have no kids.) Have a good sunday! =)

@HughH1111 4 жыл бұрын

The very fact that you can say that probably mean's you're expansive enough to make a parent that really succeed, not perfectly, but brilliantly.

@BethanyKay 5 жыл бұрын

This is one of my favorite concepts you've ever covered. Thank you Teal. Just the other day I was trying to do inner work on some of my thoughts and realizing they were exact phrases my mother would say to me. She didn't even need to be in my life saying them anymore. I am constantly creating her criticism in my mind all by myself.

@JohnDoe-wx2oo 2 жыл бұрын

Believe me, you're not alone. Echoes and ripples of a single abusive event are passed on from generation to generation, across time and space. Consciousness really is like water.

@blue_iri Жыл бұрын

Hey, i know your post is 3 years ago. But, how are you today?

@natasjateerling3622 5 жыл бұрын

I wish parents would go to a (Teal Swan) school and get a parenting diploma before having (star)children at all. The right knowledge and skills could prevent so much needless traumas and suffering. Why do we have to have a license or diploma for everything except parenting?

@moirathreads 5 жыл бұрын

So true!

@JamieLGilbert 5 жыл бұрын

Natasja Teerling that’s my playlist name teal swan school

@sonufmahn2480 4 жыл бұрын

The truth is. In this society it is required for their to be people who struggle. If everyone had a 6 figure job, there wouldnt be anyone to fix your hamburgers.

@sonufmahn2480 4 жыл бұрын

I wish one of my parents told me that and took me out for a 1 dollar ice cream.

@Pol-kw5gq 4 жыл бұрын

Omg i agree

@curiouskatsayshello4673 5 жыл бұрын

Weird it’s like she put words to what I’ve feeling for months. Recently I feel like I was thrust back into my childhood traumas. I needed this pep talk. Thank you Teal and Tribe!

@Slaughta18 5 жыл бұрын

I feel this immensely :O Thank you, tribe. :)

@barbaras5874 5 жыл бұрын

Same as me! Lately I have been revisiting my childhood traumas and trying to heal. This video was much needed!

@curiouskatsayshello4673 5 жыл бұрын

Yeah I’m assuming I’m supposed to be working through all this for a reason. I have a lot of pain and trauma within my father and I’s relationship. After his sixth stroke, I brought him to my home bc he can no longer live alone or he has to live in a senior care center. He has a two mile deep wall around him, denial to the extreme, complains constantly, and talks to me like I’m six years old. (Although, Six year olds would considerate it a condescending tone too) Not to mention I let my mom move in with me years earlier and they are divorced living in the same home with me and my child. On my weak days I’m in a constant state of being triggered. Teal is right. They hurt me much more in my head than they do in the physical. I’m so angry he abandoned me constantly and that nothing was ever good enough. But my guilt and shame surrounding that anger can stop my life in its tracks. I’m so glad she is speaking on this. I needed this confirmation. Much love to all of you who are also struggling with pain, trauma, and isolation. I see you. I’m proud of you for holding on.

@barbaras5874 5 жыл бұрын

@@curiouskatsayshello4673 It must be so difficult living with your parents while you are trying to deal with the emotional side. I find it hard going to visit my parents because every time I go there, they treat me like a child and everything comes back to me, anger, and lots of emotions. A lot has to do with my dad's emotional distance and controlling behaviour when I was a child and my mom not being emotionally open either. I think there is a lack of honesty in my family pattern and everyone seems to use guilt to make people act a certain way. Lately I feel like I need a lot of space from my parents and don't even feel for speaking to them on the phone. I feel guilty about this but I remind myself that I need to do this to heal myself. I am trying to feel all my feelings now and not block them and to stay open, even if the feelings are uncomfortable. I really want to heal this inside me. Much love to you too!

@Preeti_Berry 5 жыл бұрын

@@curiouskatsayshello4673 I see you too. I feel you too. I Love you too.......And thank you Teal tribe, I finally feel like I belong somewhere:) I Love you all so so sooo much

@Annniiika 5 жыл бұрын

It depends on the individual. There is not "one path" for us all. In my case, i broke contact with my family, and i am still working on reconsiling what have been done to me, within. But for me, there has been so much programming that i am the problem, a lot of shaming and guilttripping, that when i realise that it wasnt my fault, there wasnt anything wrong with me, it was my parents behaviour towards me that was and is wrong, i finally started healing. There is enoumus freedom in realising this. I wasnt actually angry, i was feeling guilt, and because of the gaslighting and invalidation, i did everything i could to defend some sence of who i am. It was guilt. I am not the problem, there was not ever something wrong with me. Im coming out of the rabbit hole. It was actually all my parents fault. Im not saying it in anger. Just relief.

@TasnuvaAshrafUm 2 жыл бұрын

same story, sis. same story.

@psychologicalsuccess3476 5 жыл бұрын

When I become a parent I'm going to make sure my behaviour is analysed and criticised properly.

@ThomasDoubting5 5 жыл бұрын

Best of luck with that you'll torture yourself... Best thing to do is to cater to their needs diligently and become patient... Really patient children need love a security.. And trust If you create an environment where you can be trusted to believe insist on honesty.. And listening.. Believe me I still remember how hurt I was when I told the truth and was called a liar... Also if you know you're wrong about Something don't be afraid to apologize for you're mistake as we all make them

@jenscott6733 5 жыл бұрын

I tried so hard to be a "perfect" mum and do no damage to my son. I have made mistakes. Some mistakes were made as a result of trying to avoid causing harm. Just do your best and apologise for the rest. Be loving and present and all will be ok. The children have their own path to walk too

@thankyoujesus2836 5 жыл бұрын

Jennifer Scott that’s right. If my parents at least apologized and owed up to the crap they’ve done to it would help

@jenscott6733 5 жыл бұрын

@loveisforever it definitely would help but if they won't it's still possible to heal yourself and move past it x

@jacqueslohier2710 Жыл бұрын

Literally had this convo years ago as a kid. Teal is on point with this. My parents wanted me to uphold being abused by them and by my sister. I ended up ‘betraying’ them in the end.

@mariadinn4441 10 ай бұрын

Good for you

@shubhammehta5573 Жыл бұрын

The feeling after Teals videos is OMG, I was living without this information till now! I want to know everything else by Teal before taking the next breath….

@klingonsexy 5 жыл бұрын

After realizing that everything my family did that was crazy, unworkable, and harmful was done out of the fear of consequences and "what will people think?" I was able to forgive them and the way they taught me. Then, I realized that I had programmed myself with these fear-induced values and was beginning to act just like the ones who raised me, and so I began to look at the "why" of every reaction, belief, and opinion that popped up in my internal monologue. I'm not completely healed, but I do feel lighter and less judgmental of everyone, including myself. It took years to become who I was, so it may take years for me to become who I want to be, but at least I have a better idea of who I want to be now. Thank you for all of your teachings and the clarity you have given me!

@DidiLassen Жыл бұрын

As a mother realising some of the faults I have been making I do understand the resistance to admit and change. It is very painful to realize that you have hurt your children.. Extremely painful.. Those little precious beings trusted in your care... And you hurt them... As you grow wiser through the years you also see your own doings from a wiser perspective.. man that can be depressing... That is so painful so filled with regret and shame. I think having to go through that process stops a lot of growth... That is a tough one to swallow.. Cause most parents want to give their child all the best..

@mmmonnomnetedonnerapasmavi4119 5 жыл бұрын

I just had a conversation about this subject few minutes ago and here is you uploading this! What a nice synchronization

@marianadesilva9174 5 жыл бұрын

Your phone spies on your audio to sync adds to what you talk about

@mmmonnomnetedonnerapasmavi4119 5 жыл бұрын

@@marianadesilva9174 I've heard of this before and found audios of me in my google activities from years back when i was cleaning it, but in this case the conversation was face to face with a friend then when i finished, i activated the wifi and got the notification right away when she uploaded the video.

@Intrepid_Insomniac 5 жыл бұрын

There is a saying that what you say to your children becomes their internal voice later in life. As a parent, I agonize over what faulty programming I am giving to my children because I know I am riddled with flaws. I hope someday they will feel comfortable to tell me what I can change/improve as their mother, so we can grow together in this journey of life. Thank you for your video, it is well timed. 🙏🏼💕

@veronikaamaya 5 жыл бұрын

Ask them :) Give your children permission to tell you authentically how they feel. This doesn't mean you allow them to be mean to you - instead speaking about their feelings towards you should happen in a non-violent way - the same how you would tell them when they have hurt you. This will make them feel as though their opinion and feelings matter and that they are being heard and seen - this is the most empowering thing you can do for them. And also it will enable them to become people with a strong sense of self worth - which is literally the most important ingredient for a happy life! Thank you for being a conscious parent

@LeeAnneRMT 5 жыл бұрын

When my son was small I found myself getting frustrated or cranky with him. I stopped and told him and reminded him frequently that it was ok to say "Mommy don't be cranky with me" and then I would apologise, reassure him that I wasn't upset with him that I was just worried about being late ect. It worked. Sometimes you don't recognize your behaviour until someone calls you on it. Now our relationship is mutually loving and respectful even when we are tired or cranky.

@ElijahPerrin80 5 жыл бұрын

I can tell the videos that resonate with me the most are the ones that take me the longest to watch, most vids I just sit and chill and see but your vids I find distractions constantly to avoid the topic... then I laugh at myself after I have used up all my excuses, blader, check, coffee, check, lighter, check, phone away, check. Ok restart the vid and lets try again. Oh a squirrel. damn. Ok try again. Worth it.

@holistichealthlifewellness2182 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks for making me laugh out loud on a boring Saturday afternoon

@tihana13 5 жыл бұрын

@Elijah Perin SAME!!! Thanks for putting it out in words!

@SurrendertoSoar 5 жыл бұрын

Omg same. I was avoiding this but eventually I saw and wow !!! Some more healing coming my way

@CodyJakubowski 5 жыл бұрын

AYYYYYYE, i'm doing it right now by typing this reply! 😆😅

@chrise.6667 5 жыл бұрын

These past few days were really hard for me. I am struggling with guilt and shame and self-abuse in my childhood. I had a dream last night about me fighting with my parents about my decisions in life. I only remember clearly the fact that stood up to them. Tday I was working on those patterns of self-abuse and then I see that you posted this. Thank you, Teal for clearing even more the picture for me. I was feeling really hopeless and lost. I hurt the most important person because of all this and now I can work with even greater perspective. Thank you again for making this video. 💞

@Goddessglow888 5 жыл бұрын

*Healing inspite of them"* Perfectly summs up my life.

@Slaughta18 5 жыл бұрын

Sums up a tiny part of it. You got this. :)

@Goddessglow888 5 жыл бұрын

The WREDFOX I love how supportive people are here❤️

@Slaughta18 5 жыл бұрын

@@Goddessglow888 If you find that people are kind, honest, supportive and more, then you are on the right path

@danguarino1045 2 жыл бұрын

In recent years I have realized there were two "Siamese twins," as you call them, embedded in who I am. Each needed the other to survive and/or have a purpose to surviving. Both have shaped me into the individual I am. There was the "Loser Me", a pattern very prevalent thru most of my life. And the "I Can Do Anything Me," which it turns out was the internal strength and promise that kept me going. Until you hit it on the head in this video, it never occurred to that me in them I had internalized my parents own patterns toward me. The Loser Me was my Dad, always unconsciously putting me down. I could never do anything right. The I Can Do Anything Me was my Mom, who, although seeming distant, put her faith and trust in my intelligence, self-reliance and wisdom from very young. She, for instance, reckoned I was smart enough/wise enough when I was a very small child to decide for myself whether I could cross the street by myself, and she entrusted this decision to me. You video and its revelations, teal Swan, was like the sun suddenly coming right up to my door. Thanks you!! hat

@babysloth14 5 жыл бұрын

So true. This is the idea behind the *ho'oponopono prayer* - healing the aspects within ourselves to create changes in the external.

@lizzyc4485 5 жыл бұрын

Omg I've been obsessed with this prayer lately, I imagine people saying it to parents I've never met etc I was quickly scrolling through comments and landed on yours

@PriyankaGupta-ew1li 2 жыл бұрын

True

@pennyyeomans4115 5 жыл бұрын

Thank-you. That was so incredibly correct. I am from a dysfunctional family. Both my parents were probably what we call narcissists. Narcissists don't want you to grow so they try and control you and sabotage your life. I am an adult. I really don't need a parent anymore. I can look after myself. I no longer have contact. Maybe one day I will. Maybe not. They are stuck and can't move ahead. I feel like I grew up and left them behind. I tried to help them for awhile but they are not interested. They made their choice and I made mine. When I became my own parent life opened up. I don't see the world the way they do. I hope I never do. I really don't need a parent. I just wanted one.

@LittleLulubee 5 жыл бұрын

That's awesome that you're doing so well. I came from the same kind of family and had a similar story. The difference is, I can't look after myself. I have learned helplessness and feel powerless. I have multiple illnesses, both physical and psychological, including CPTSD, which prevent me from functioning and were all caused by them. How did you get out unscathed, strong and powerful? They took my power. They destroyed all my confidence, courage, and self-esteem. I need a parent. I want a parent so badly. I've never had any guidance. I don't have anyone to give me love, comfort, and emotional support, or good advice, as a parent would. I would love to parent myself, but I don't even know how. I never have had a good, healthy example of parenting. I feel like a lost child, I don't know how to survive in this world.

@pennyyeomans4115 5 жыл бұрын

@@LittleLulubee Knowledge is power. The more educated you become the stronger you become. Your self esteem rises and your confidence rebuilds. As my happiness increased my physical health improved. I also use a zapper for my physical pain. It worked. You can see them online. I have a Don Croft one. I realized I was the family scapegoat. It is the role of a lifetime. I am no contact. All my advice came from online websites. Their advice works.

@LittleLulubee 5 жыл бұрын

@@pennyyeomans4115 Ok, thank you

@user-uq6ic8pw8x 8 ай бұрын

It's so great u could be your own parent after double narc abuse. It's very rare. Wish I could have done that guess karma is too much within me and family. Also stakes at the family is too high as my narc parents run a freaking hospital like a circus. If I dnt become the scapegoat they eat up my elder brother make him psychiatric and pull me into the abyss. As teal said some ppl move far away from their family and some stay change or shift the energy pattern to get close or heal. Guess I chose the latter.

@tugglebee0753 5 жыл бұрын

This is amazing. The last few days I have been allowing things to happen and your videos to autoplay. Everything has been synchronizing in some crazy ways. This video is a literal thought I had the other day. I feel I'm going excitedly crazy 🤣

@Electronicmedium1111 5 жыл бұрын

Yes! I feel like this happens to me too....

@ms.turquoise6341 5 жыл бұрын

I feel the same

@WildcraftWellness 5 жыл бұрын

Yes, rewriting the old programs is our mission here! I have learned this more than ever as a mother! Teal, you are amazing. Thank you for speaking the truths of life in a public forum. Many blessings to you!

@elodyluna 5 жыл бұрын

The syncronisation is unreal, seeing how many people have been dealing with this specific topic lately. Thank you thank you thank you

@kathrynl.sheridan1407 5 жыл бұрын

Elo Dy The N and S Nodes are on the Cancer/Capricorn Axis.... cosmic healing of the Mother/Father Archetypes 😀

@moralebooster8437 5 жыл бұрын

Hahaha the thumbnail. Teal I absolutely love your work and videos. I just finished reading The Completion Process and am just loving the new life I'm creating. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!

@sontrajamfemininegaze145 5 жыл бұрын

A month ago I said to my boyfriend, "I wish Teal would tell me what to do about my parents", and a few days later she published this article on her website. ♥

@dattagrace 5 жыл бұрын

Oh my god thank you teal. This explains my inner dialogue so much!

@valdezd625 5 жыл бұрын

This is actually pretty awesome. My mom prayed for patience before she had my sister, and my sister certainly taught her that patience! She was a little nightmare lol!

@mswinters9178 3 жыл бұрын

I am 53 and I moved from California to Kansas a week ago to care for my 84 yr old mother. This has helped me. I am diligently trying to care for her without going crazy. She is an energy sucker...this video has helped me. Thank you....I am trying to deactivate all the buttons she installed. lol

@natushkhan Жыл бұрын

0:11, 4:55, 7:01, 9:02, 12:03, 13:11 your healing has nothing to do wether they change or don’t.. All you need to do is improve the relationship between the internalized fragments that are a reflection of your parents and whatever parts are opposite of those parts of you (the parts they oppose) 14:42 “In a perfect world” 15:41

@lolapatton5444 5 жыл бұрын

I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that my 3 adult children are playing out patterns that they were erroneously coded with by me and their father. I accept this and I own this. Currently, my children and I do not have a close relationship; it seems as if we are all going through some type of shift. I can see some of the negative programming in my children based on their choices and behavior. It is what it is. I am working hard to overcome the faulty programming that I received from my own patterns.

@lisa-gayle9939 5 жыл бұрын

Without a doubt the best video I’ve ever watched! At 58 years ago, it finally “clicked “ and made sense! Ive searched a long time to understand so many things. Teal Swan, you have certainly made a difference in my life and I am so grateful. This is the one key video that I will share and share and share again since I feel that so many others will be able to overcome and understand the same questions just like myself. Thank you for sharing your awesome words of wisdom so that the world can become a better place and we all can become better people!

@LifeByKpop 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you Teal. Needed this right now. This is my biggest road block on my spiritual ascension journey, at this time. Have a wonderful day. ✌💕

@TheMirrorAndTheWindow 5 жыл бұрын

The story we tell ourselves about our relationship with our parents, based on childhood created patterns, is perhaps the most important aspect affecting every timeline that manifests for us and every pattern that plays out in those timelines.

@thousanduniverses 5 жыл бұрын

well said 🙌🏼😊

@charliz369 5 жыл бұрын

Such gratitude for your teaching lately Teal, this one so hit home. (literally!) Been in a 3yr wake up of my parent patterns....started with my parents and led to my parenting patterns. Not easy at times....but I get tool and encouragement from your videos. Don't know where I would be without that. Thank u!!

@mrsbellegrave 5 жыл бұрын

I cannot even begin to tell you how completely valued your videos are to me. I am facing the truth within myself with the help of your teachings. Thank you Teal❤️

@rcrose8 5 жыл бұрын

This is brilliant. I’ve never heard this concept explained in this way... I’m currently at the stage in this process where I’m feeling a lot of anger and resentment towards my parents...it’s messy and awkward and I’m at a loss of how to interact with them or even be in the same room. Thank you for making this video and giving me some clarity to work with.

@karioca84 Жыл бұрын

Im the same

@ling-lilim3258 5 жыл бұрын

Brilliant video Teal, thank you so much! I feel so uplifted and encouraged by your message. It all rings so true.

@soffieeverdeen4807 5 жыл бұрын

AMAZING.

@Dawn-bl8ze 5 жыл бұрын

This is very relevant to me. I’m constantly breaking free thanks to your videos. Your perspectives enlighten me and show me the truth and there is no way in which I can thank you enough. And this video as well, revealed to me a part in me that aches to heal, and its mind-blowing every time. Thank you so much for this❤️

@desireewagner1479 5 жыл бұрын

This is powerful perspective, will re-listen a few times for the message to sink in, deeply. Nobody can fix you but YOU. I love the beautiful reminders. Thank you Teal

@emocionadissimaa 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you. This came up perfectly. I'm Brazilian and I've always said to my parents that I chose them and they wanted ME. So. I CAME. To change what they wanted to change. But. My mom always saw me as the ANTAGONIST. She was loving and Kind, but also, blind to herself. NOW she has been 4 years in a depressed-panic-hysteria "fase". She has pain in her chest. Monumental pain. The tries to contain the pain, and then it hurts more. She is suicidal, but her Higher Self clearly doesn't want that, because every everytime some saves her. Some times a voice just goes and says: GO TO THE OFFICE ROOM. Or WAKE UP, GO TO THE KITCHEN. She doesn't listen. Anything. Anyone. She wants the medicine (those don't work) or the hospital (also don't work). My boyfriend (infinitando is his channel here at youtube) has learned a lot from you, and tried to use what you teach in your books... but my mother doesn't listen. She doesn't want to change. But she also doesn't want to be "ill" anymore. I don't know what to do. Or how to be with her screaming everyday "help me" " I'm I'll" "Eduardo" (my father's name). Stressful and frustrating.

@2cents996 2 жыл бұрын

Shaking your hand would be an honor. I can not, so may my words echo into the bounds of your soul and touch the very core of your being in the form of many voices. Thank you. Thank you for guiding those of us who grew up in chaos and abuse, for those of us who grew up in a toxic environment... who are now parents. So many of us want to raise a healthy family yet lack the structure to know even the most basic knowledge of how to do so. Our parent's parents lacked the knowledge as well. Breaking chains is a beautiful type of magic that comes through determination, fueled by love. Teal, you enable magic. And you are truly beautiful. ❤

@hereisalfi 5 жыл бұрын

This one was needed 💙 Thank you for this 💕 Amazing insight 💚

@gracepurcell7825 4 жыл бұрын

I have been that person who justifies how my parents raised myself siblings; which seemed so cool with all the metaphysical teachings: we choose our parents, we sign up for all lessons..good or bad, we create our reality, etc etc..HOWEVER, I can no longer turn a blind eye that my parents were 100% spiritually bypassing and NOT looking at their own psychological wounds/issues/patterns. AND it had major consequences on my psyche.. Teal sums it all up in this video..the conflict I have felt all my life around loving my parents and being so angry at them. Teal seems to really have a solid understanding of both the spiritual and psychological realities of life. Thank you Teal for your continued work in helping others HEAL. Much LOVE

@zealtracey6169 5 жыл бұрын

I love that teal swan tells people the truth we need to hear in order for us to heal.

@MoonForest88 3 жыл бұрын

This video is literally waking me up. Thank you teal! And you were talking about changing internal patterns, could you make a video about it please? 💖

@velikimilos 5 жыл бұрын

Bravo, Teal! Thank you so much! ♥️ This was my story and I want to make a change. Time to grow up and live my full potential ♥️ So liberating...

@reckacheck 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you Teal for your information and the insight it brings. I personally suggested this video. Really appreciate it.

@celark 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks Teal, you have confirmed and validated what I managed to achieve with my family and made me realise that the path I'm on makes sense.

@reneecullen1045 4 жыл бұрын

I've been climbing out of this Cave for 18 months. Both my parents are dead and I've had extremely close relationships with my grandparents; I've moved in to care for my Gran. So there's been a lot of conflict going on between in me. Thanks to Teal for her constant string of pearls, that have helped me - and will continue to help me grow into a much happier woman. Thank you Teal, you're an angel xxx

@sophialovecraft7894 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for covering this subject, my parents and I don't get along. I love them, but my dad is really mean, not just a little, I wish I could work things out with them. I don't feel like they love me, it feels so artificial when they say they do.

@kamalkattani883 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! I really needed it!!!

@jenscott6733 5 жыл бұрын

This is SO on point! You're an amazing woman, Teal! Thanks for this message, I felt like it was made so specifically for me. And I love your sense of humour 😂

@WildcardMikey 5 жыл бұрын

I loved this 💛 I needed to hear it. Thank you teal for sharing with us! Btw loving the new outro jam 👍🎶

@thecoolestgingerkid 4 жыл бұрын

This still has me feeling mad and hurt by my parents 😭😔 and I know I need to work on my inner parents too.... *sigh*

@LeeAnneRMT 5 жыл бұрын

My brother used to physically put himself in the corner for time out when he did something he knew he would be in trouble for; deliberately taking control of his punishment away from my mother.

@NJGuy1973 3 жыл бұрын

That's a terrible place to be in.

@alaaaaa4132 2 жыл бұрын

Embracing these parts of us that are in conflict with one another ( there’s a big chance that it’s a child/ parent figure) _Find that part of yourself, that needs some love. _Imagine pulling it out of yourbody, & put it right in front of you. _As if it’s a person, see how it’s looks & give it a name. _Notice what’s doing, saying to you & see if it have a gift for you. _speak to it: 1- I love you. 2-I hear you. 3-I feel your (pain, doubt, sadness, anger..) 4-Thank you for sharing this with me. 5-I am never going to abandon you. 6-I am the adult & I am incharged.

@oxk_gaming 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Teal. I needed this video today in particular... I appreciate your wisdom.

@carolinenelson3621 5 жыл бұрын

I was just talking about this last night! It’s like you heard my conversation Teal! 😂

@nupian06 5 жыл бұрын

The same here, very spooky!

@nickidaisyreddwoodd5837 5 жыл бұрын

11:00 That is exactly what happened in my life. My mother and my grandfather were the main massive humiliators in my life but also my brother and father occasionally humiliated me and shamed me. I was living in a saturated shame based environment where each person used me as a scapegoat for their frustrations. This horror led me to dropping out of my psychology graduate program in Germany because I just simply Could Not give presentations. Everything else was going very well. But there was no way for me to stand in front of those cold faced people and speak for an hour. I have lava fields of rage inside of me because of what my family has done to me when I was growing up and from day one of my life.

@UnknownUnknown-zj3pz 3 жыл бұрын

I would shot them all myself. No abuse shall happen to any human.

@NJGuy1973 3 жыл бұрын

Are any of them still alive?

@LaciJaneDIY 5 жыл бұрын

Just what I needed 🙏💜 Thank you ☺️

@AllieMetz 5 жыл бұрын

Just awakening to my mistakes as a parent. Teal, your desires come true, my thirteen year old and I are learning feelings vocabulary together. My parents did the best with what they were handed, and I will do better as well.

@harleenv3657 5 жыл бұрын

This is so important!! Thank you so much 💕🦕 thank you for inspiring me and many others 🌱🌸

@fabienne8888 9 ай бұрын

Thank you so much. So grateful!

@shaunrussell4558 5 жыл бұрын

I love this super important topic!! Thanks for all of this insight🙏🏻✨... side note~ I absolutely love these earrings and style of your top!! Super 80’s magic🥰✨

@emmelinepitcher6721 5 жыл бұрын

Love you Teal XXX My children and i have all just gone through a major healing together and we are all even closer now ! And i have healed my relationship with my inner parents and can love my mum and Dad ( who I live with at the moment) in a unconditional and understanding way. X It truly is beautiful

@LaGataSolar 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you teal & team

@winnifred233 5 жыл бұрын

Absolutely wonderful video! Thank you! ❣️

@Shamedxmx 5 жыл бұрын

I just love to watch your videos, It has´been a real treasure found for me, I can not stop telling my friends and family about you, I recently found you while I was searching for information about the shadow work as a suggestion from Swaru, about to weeks ago. And I just become a fan of your work, It´s really refreshing when you see somebody who really wants to help people whitout any kind of reward, as a true helping hand, when someone speaks from their true self. Hope your books will get translate someday, meanwhile I´m getting The Completion Process on english, Thank you so very much for what you are doing Teal, You have been a light for me as for others, I send a lot of love for you an your beloved ones.

@noreenjenny7039 3 жыл бұрын

Wow, I really like the Consciousness explaination! Such clarity, thanks Teal ❤🙏

@user-bk1ez4sz8t 5 жыл бұрын

This is great but HOW? How do you change the pattern of the parents within?

@daniellew5056 5 жыл бұрын

Yes how

@lizzyc4485 5 жыл бұрын

Completion process

@queengoblin 5 жыл бұрын

She said how to in her fragmentation video. By doing parts work.

@jenscott6733 5 жыл бұрын

You can do the work yourself or find a coach or healer to help. I'm a Master NLP Practitioner, Master Time Line Therapist and Master Hypnotherapist. I use a technique called "Parts Integration" to heal internal conflicts. Through the work I've done on myself I feel I have healed so much. I got help from a coach then felt inspired to help others on their healing journey, so became qualified. It really does accelerate the process when you find someone to work with. Much love

@kathryneregaudie9264 5 жыл бұрын

@Noah Daughhetee thank you so much!

@juliechen8710 2 жыл бұрын

Omg thank you Teal. You spelled out how I’ve been actually healing the wound with my mother. It is to realize the troubled relationship I have with the mother within me and heal that first!!

@The_Ark880 3 жыл бұрын

This was helpful ❤ You voiced everything I was going through, therefore helped me to declutter. Thank you so much Teal🙏

@nonexistenty4152 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much, dear Teal!

@lindsayleigh984 5 жыл бұрын

This came at the perfect time! Thank you Teal!

@Messindra 5 жыл бұрын

This is perfect, thank you!

@ravenrelics 5 жыл бұрын

You're beyond amazing Teal. Thank you!!!

@manasikashyap 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this!

@dancingshiva7008 10 ай бұрын

Yup, yup! Between the bullies at school, my family, and teachers, I developed an overly protective part, a drill sargeant, and a chorus of bullies inside me to help me navigate my life--and sometimes give well-intentioned bad advice to others

@lizcuero9065 5 жыл бұрын

This was SO SO SO helpful! Thank you, Teal!

@angelarabenbauer4115 5 жыл бұрын

Jeah! Teal you are great!🦊 thank you so much! have a good week!🙏

@AshtaraktsiTxa Жыл бұрын

I needed this. Thank you!

@aricar8178 5 жыл бұрын

Anybody else wish they could just play a specific video on loop in their family's living room until something clicks? Cause I do lol

@elodyluna 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you Teal. This matched my life how it currently is 100%. I don't know how you do it, but it's right.

@XiomaraThaGoddessMeow 5 жыл бұрын

The synchronicity is amazing.... I've been dealing with issues with my mother... She projects, and attacks me, and everyone else... But she's sickly, and I have to take care of her. I keep trying to show her higher perspectives, but she pushes it away.

@XiomaraThaGoddessMeow 5 жыл бұрын

Lots of gaslighting, and abuse... She refuses to see herself....

@chimmidema3199 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for discovery, it’s make lot sense and is clear and healing.

@chadroberts9900 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video Teal. You are helping so many, and I am one of them. I pray that I will heal, and to completely forgive. I have always thought and noticed that everyone acts differently in every given circumstance or people/people/group of people that one is involved with. I constantly criticize myself as well.

@toohonestDee_Dee88 3 жыл бұрын

This is extremely helpful. I'm going through a lot of this healing currently, the deep stuff, of the programming that was instilled by my parents and especially by my mother. Trying to learn how to love myself and do self-care is a big challenge for me as I struggle with not just self-worth, but also my self-confidence.

@rajvimittal3753 4 жыл бұрын

Just love how you bring both physical and non physical aspects together! That at some level you may have chosen but it still sucks!!!!!

@the_luminary 5 жыл бұрын

🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 Very illuminating resonated much with me at this point of my life. Thanks teal

@jacquelinewalters9986 5 жыл бұрын

It all checks out, as on the pulse! Appreciating Truths spoken. 🙏

@seykai 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Teal for such a wonderful video! Truly helps a lot!!

@emmerss122 5 жыл бұрын

Love you Teal! Thank you.

@fortyseventen 5 жыл бұрын

Recently, ive attempted to relieve the parents of some of their guilt in raising 3 children. Moving it a generation up! Told them that we all have 1/4 genetic tendencies of each of their parents. They seem pleased... perhaps of my awareness relative to theirs. Was a good conversation. Gaining insights into them, the grandfathers I've not had a chance to know them in living memory. Though I've been held by them as an infant. In adulthood, having tendencies of them both.