My son, who I still love, cut off all contact without any explanation, years ago -- this is similar to what his dad did to me before abandoning our family. Guess they really do share bad genes.

I'm not putting up with nonsense from my grown up daughter anymore. I am done with her. I decided this today when she called to tell me not to whassap funny animal video's anymore 😂..unbelievable. I sent it to make her laugh but everything I do is annoying and irritating to her, she pisses me off something terrible but I have stuck it out but today was the final straw. I'm going to move a few hundred miles away so I don't have to see her very often again or hopefully maybe never. I am so done .

I really love this analogy. I like the visual of seeing the rings. And that is a nice roadmap to where we have been where we are and where we’re going.❤

I need yo talk to you

“The best way to rid yourself of the feeling of that is _” ??? Why are we trying to rid ourselves of the feeling of this? How about looking introspectively and deciding if we really were bad parents? Yeah, that’s uncomfortable. Turns out life isn’t comfortable. Narcissists love comfort though, so I get it

I divorced my husband of 17 years after he invited his 41-year-old son who is chronically unemployed and was on house arrest for his 3rd drug felony to move in with us. Unfortunately, my husband ignored my strong stand against him moving in was ignored! I was just the stepmom, but I’ve been in PTSD therapy for two years. Let me say, though, his son’s toxicity was a symptom of my husband and my toxic relationship.

I was a bad parent. I wish I had a Time Machine.

It is better to live on a corner of a roof than in a house shared with a contentious woman. (Proverbs 21:9)

Love watching Olympics and gymnastics, such amazing athletes! I am in the black ring now but still hopeful to get to the next ring :)

How do you cope with the anger, sadness, and feelings of betrayal and feeling like a puppet

These are good comparisons to the difficult journey of the estrangement.

NO… your mental health is more important… this is a NEW trend nowadays…! Cut your losses …

My daughter left my life. I've literally lost the will to live. I fear there is no healing from this.

Try 20 thousand worth of silver

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You make more sense than some so-called "professionals".

I don’t mind encouragement but as long as it is “shown” out of love & care… not bossy and stern! Anytime I talk to someone like that? I run the other way so yeah I’m dealing on my own, if I destroy myself (fear mongering) so be it. ❤

Haven't talked to my other in over 40 years and never will.

As an adult child at 27, I don’t think my parents have a hard time doing this at all😂pretty much like that my whole life as long as I can remember

Thank you 🙏🏾

You ask how old they are first if they are over the age of 18 you kicked them out of the house then if they keep bothering you and filing charges against you send put a protective order of your own a permanent one a permanent one

If your child doesn't want to talk to you you must assume it's for a valid reason. Whether they were manipulated or not it's 100% because they didn't feel seen enough growing up and there's something you need to work on in yourself.

It's always Mom's your helping.... I guess us Dad's are just sperm donors

Do you think maybe the grandparents should understand that parents have a life of there own and sometimes they need to understand is ok to see the grandparent here and there even ifs 2 years later being pushy doesnt help or saying things that are not for example ...."why are you taking my grandkids away from me " " you dont want them to see me " "your being petty " dont they should understand parents wanna raise there kids on there own terms ?

All I see in this comment section are religious zealot and absolutely ZERO accountability. I'd go no contact too fr.

This is helpful, and timely; thank you Sally ❤.

If I moved to another country my adult child could care less .

Funny enough , I am the one having to set this boundaries , because even thought they are 38 and 41 they expect us to take care of them !! Why is this?!!!

The only way my relationship with my son can work is if HE does the work..I'm done with the verbal abusive attitude that wasn't even called for...

I just found that they could never tell us what we were doing wrong for them to set boundaries, they keeps adding then changing them as we go, moving the goalposts and the rules. at times I feel they are more like rules and control than boundries.

Thank you Sally. I really needed this.

Just found out my formerly close daughter has flipped her values. She even attacks our deepest Christian beliefs to our faces. We have told her and shown her we love her the same. But she demands we approve and participate in her ideologies-or no relationship. Hoping she will mature.

My adult daughter lived with us and she asked me for help co-parenting with my granddaughter. Now that I set boundaries and gave consequences for my daughter's bad behavior she is withholding my granddaughter. This is not devastating to me but to the child because Iwas her second mom She lived me with me and now everything she knows is gone.

I'm the opposite. My mom won't talk to me.

Self reflection and self awareness are key to healing🙏💛

Why hang on to false hope.

Do not initiate contact. Pray, instead. Do not block all contact from the adult child, just dont initiate contact. Do not reply to 'unkind' contact. Do not allow spontantaneous home visits. Do not visit except in public spaces. The adult child must earn your willingness to 'disarm' your 'defenses' against their hostility. They shouldnt have to earn your love, but neither should they receive a trust they haven't yet earned.

If you disrespected your child or you were a bad parent, you don't deserve respect back. That is the bottom line.

What to do with a toxic brother who doesn't respect anyone in the family, makes everyone behave less according to himself and is doing bad work himself, is losing money and is taking away the things that his parents have earned.

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Very lazy, does not like to clean at all ...a narcissistic tendencies... Yes tantrums because I don't give in .. She use to stare in a mirror and watch herself make herself cry. I think she love any kind of hustle... She has a hustler mentality.... Test it... I didn't realize that she definitely gets it from her daddy.... That fasaude is just like her daddy.... You know that's what they say,,, sons are for the mom and girls are for their dad's... Always notice the other siblings as well.... Do they scheme or something or not

Beautiful letter from your daughter. Made me cry 😭❤️🙏

Yes... This is my first time reaching out. I've been dealing with this alone. I'm getting right into your advice because I'm tired of crying silently. Doing something positive is going to be better than crying and being broken hearted.

I am shocked beyond belief about the amount of disrespect I face from my only daughter. I never even scolded her and brought her up with so much love attention and respect. I sacrificed my own life and happiness to be present for her always, she knows and accepts that but now that she is 34 she treats me as if I am a dumb fool. Talks to me so rudely. It breaks my heart.

THANK YOU 🙏😊 YOU'RE SUCH AN EARTH ANGEL ❤️😇🙏

There's no right answers to look for. Taking care of yourself is number one. I'm so glad I ran into your channel.🎉❤