loved the show but at sometimes it felt more like a movie review. especially because I have not watched it.

My goodness. I am so sorry to everyone who has gone through so much with toxic mothers. My mum was so kind and soft-spoken(she passed away when i was 18 years old). She was such a wonderful lady even my teenage friends loved her because she always told them how beautiful they were. My mums name was Peace. She was such a peace maker.

I had to repeat this episode again the fifth time I feel like I keep on forgetting what you guys tell me and repeat same mistake.....I think you should do another episode on how to be assertive on decision making

Murugi looking so pretty 😍😍😍

Acting like a first-born and undergoing alot has made me rough to my younger siblings even when I don't intend to 😢....

I just hate my mom. She makes everything about her. Every time I express my feelings or a problem I'm having, she gives me advise which invalidates my emotions. "You're not the worst, I was just trying to help maybe I love you too much". Fast forward to today, I don't want any kids🙃

Where is the mother wound webinar??

Wuehhh😂😂I just love reading the comments and seeing how people are complimenting their dressing while others are just sharing how traumatized they actually are 😃😃 Going from 0 to 100 real quick😂😂

30 seconds in and am like😱😱WHAT!!!

Khaiii!!! You are awesomest!! (If there’s anything like this 🤭) Woiyeee Poleni to those dealing with the pain. Poleni sana. How we pray and hope to be better mothers please to the next generation.🙏

Omg!! Wait wait wait!! First of all, congratulations for even chartering this taboo, unspoken, mucky, sensitive waters! We have come a long way as Africans! Our mothers and grandmothers could never! Even a lot of us could never! We will die with our wounds! 😂😂😂 We will heal through you! Thank you ❤

Mine I don't know if it's a mummy wound but I always feel really let down by my late mum. She was diagnosed with HIV when I was around 8 years old and she died in 2010 when I was in form two. I didn't grow up with siblings because i had two and they also died with AIDS while still really young. My dad died in 2003 too. So being alone and now having to move in with the extended family was such a tough thing emotionally. Because I barely knew them too well. My mum refused to take her ARVs and she ended up becoming too sick until she died and I always felt she would have pressed on for me, I was in the age where a girl needs her mom. Yet she gave up on herself. I suffered through so much emotionally over the years.

Imagine prep failing😢

Murugi looks so fly. The hair and the dress 🔥

I just know I have a lot of healing to do because how is it that I can relate to 90% of the comments? My mum was and still is my biggest bully. It's even harder when you still depend on her because I'm under her roof and depend on her for a lot. I'm still 19 but she keeps telling me to go sleep with men for money if what she gives me isn't enough

I started crying as soon as clicked the play button, personally my mum put me through alot,she wasnt there for me both Financiallyand emotionally,I had to beg her to buy me even a 50 bob pads...School opening days were a night mare,I almost dropped out of school. She used to drink so much alcohol and I would be left with so much shame in the neighbourhood not forgetting that I would be left taking care of my siblings...The list is too long MOTHER WOUND is not a joke. I have a daughter now and I am raising her in a way that I wished I was raised.

Why am i single? Because I'm not married. LOL...

This is such a much needed episode. I applaud everyone that has come out to speak about their mother wounds and especially those who have chosen to cut off when their peace of mind was compromised, we are really evolving as a society. My mother wound spans back to my high school years when I would fall sick and she would say I am pretending :) or that I needed to take up certain subjects forcefully or I was demanding. This made me closer to my dad who was way empathetic and took me to hospital whenever this happened. I always ended up going back to school same day just to avoid my mother's remarks. While these are not substantially significant, I matured and came to acknowledge that the woman was going through alot back then mainly driven by the marriage and overwhelming financial demands. We have a very good relationship now and her empathy is just out of this world. I am not sure whether I want to tell her about it someday, but I am soaking in how much love and care she has for me and my siblings now. Our lives certainly changed and she does not have any toxic trait.

Wat i want to know is why in particular a certain child is the victim not all the kids such a mother has get to go tru her trauma

Have been and still going tru dis thing of struggling to make my mum and pipo around me understand that as a child everything about my childhood was not cul like it was too much for a child like the pain still hangs up with me but she and others are like am the bad child

I came here to laugh and be happy only to cry the entire episode and leave sadder than before i pressed play🥺🥺😭😭😭wishing everyone going through this lots of healing

But why're most African mom's so toxic aki for sure? Maybe they're projecting what they've been through. Mostly people in Africa have children with the mentality that they will serve me when i grow old. In today's world things have changed, most people cant afford to take 100% care of their parents. So that means her ambition has been cut short, hence the bitterness. Please let's normalize saving for old age to avoid such scenarios.

waahh...your hairs are hairing, really cuuuuuuuute! plug us please.

Thank you for this episode. I am raising my daughter with so much love, simply because this is all i know. I come from a house where mom showed us so much love. People in my community would always say that we are spoiled since my mom is always nice to us. In my mom's world view, her children come first. Mom was brought up by her grandmother, her mom did not/does not love her as much, however, my mom chose to parent differently, she chose to show love to her kids even though she didn't get it from her mom. Becuase of her good choice, she was able to pass on the button of love to me and my siblings. My daughter is three, and i expect her to pass on the same button. We can break the chain, we can undo, we can unlearn, there is no excuse.

Another Zim subscriber over here 🥰🥰

✋️I literally scheduled a check-up with my OBGYN that evening. This episode changed everything for me and I am grateful 🙏

I love singing but everytime I try leading songs I just can't because she told I couldn't 😭😭

Love it!! Shanga is a necklace made of beads I guess 😂😂😂

I've really had tough relationship with my mom she believes that the way to success is through education and not being able to reach that level she wants me to has made me go through emotional torture ...every tiny mistake makes her say all kinds of names even to the point where she says she will curse me ... I really feel depressed and pray that i will heal and forgive her one day.

yoh you ladies are smart saana

Where to begin with this??? Thanks for having this conversation

My mum has her days but General speaking she's a good mother. For her, I feel like things she's said are out of ignorance or because she thinks its okay since they grew up in such environment bila kuuliza maswali. But my sisters and I have learnt to call her out if she says hurtful things. Good thing she gets defensive but eventually turns around. Another thing is my mum likes kutambuliwa. Some of her choices led her and dad to be in debt. We paid those debts when we started working. Just from that I fear debt yaani. But now sometimes even now she has this lifestyle she expects you to help her keep up.

Murugi you look beautiful!

This.....this is a conversation i didn't know i needed and all this while i thought it's a "me" problem ...i thank God

How do you cope with the fact that your mother constantly reminding you that you are a product of rape and she even tells your siblings 😢

Damn! Growing up my mum was so tough on us, if something went wrong, my explanation was never considered but then as a kid I lied alot too, but obviously there are times I wasnt lying. She exposed my weaknesses and mistakes to others, being a teacher, she would ask another teacher to beat me for something I did. With time, I resented our relationship, that as working woman right now, I feel weird when she expresses her care, concern and love for me. It feels really really weird. Hopefully, I can overcome this

It’s mindblowing When you realise you have a good relationship with your mom because you live by her rules, cannot make decisions without telling her first because your mind has been conditioned to be a people pleaser. It’s a humbling moment.

This is a very powerful topic that’s very uncomfortable to a lot of Africans who have created this beautiful picture of their lived experience and fear to criticise their parents.

I haven’t seen my mom for 6 years, she constantly asks me to go see her and I keep saying I’ll come. But in real sense she’ll NEVER set her eyes on me in this lifetime, I’ve grieved her while she’s alive (any function I have she’s not invited), third parties will be dealt with accordingly, I’m in the healing process and she’s blocked everywhere 💯!

I haven’t seen my mom for 6 years, she constantly asks me to go see her and I keep saying I’ll come. But in real sense she’ll NEVER set her eyes on me in this lifetime, I’ve grieved her while she’s alive (any function I have she’s not invited), third parties will be dealt with accordingly, I’m in the healing process and she’s blocked everywhere 💯!

I haven’t seen my mom for 6 years, she constantly asks me to go see her and I keep saying I’ll come. But in real sense she’ll NEVER set her eyes on me in this lifetime, I’ve grieved her while she’s alive (any function I have she’s not invited), third parties will be dealt with accordingly, I’m in the healing process and she’s blocked everywhere 💯!

I haven’t seen my mom for 6 years, she constantly asks me to go see her and I keep saying I’ll come. But in real sense she’ll NEVER set her eyes on me in this lifetime, I’ve grieved her while she’s alive (any function I have she’s not invited), third parties will be dealt with accordingly, I’m in the healing process and she’s blocked everywhere 💯!

Dr Anita Phillips says "The way you treat the child inside of you is the way you'll treat the child in front of you" Listening to this shows how much hurt people can hurt people. Our mums have mother wounds themselves, unfortunately, the trauma is passed on to the next generation. Also if you have struggled with father wounds, mother wounds are hard to acknowledge. You struggle with one parent so your crave for attention, affirmation or validation goes to the other parent. So acknowledging that your one present parent also has flaws can be really hard.

If you could just sing the intro as in episode 27. It was nice

What's this Ledama series y'all are speaking of and where do we find it?🤔🤔🤔

That introduction.weeeuh.tear

Murugi the dress 👗 is cute,plug wako

My body issues and eating disorder comes from my mother. Always has a -ve comment about how I look. From my hair down to my feet. Also, my self-talk is extremely critical. My therapist asked me to identify whose voice it is that I've adopted as my internal voice. It's my mom's voice

Todays show should have been titled the "review of shanga"😊

Wanna be a better mom yoh😢😢😢