Not sure if you've tried fb dating, but you pool might be a little bigger?

Don't let the haters or nay-sayers get to you, we all do our best & sometimes we have to learn for ourselves how we feel in certsin scenarios & prayers we find our person that we're meant to find...One thing I've leaned is not to compare myself o others, I have to remind myself all the time of this

Have you ever tried a plus size dating site?...I'm plus size as well & also in your same boat & never tried looking for a plus size dating site, but wonder if it would have a different outcome if the other person is specifically looking for a plus sized partner🤔

I actually would love vlog videos! Even if its like the single life vlogs

Your sexy

The "cycle" of online dating is SO relatable. Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing. I also struggle with the lonely part when I take breaks. I mostly try to distract myself with unrelated activities but tell myself it's only a temporary break, which I guess in some weird way comforts me enough to focus on other things. It's not easy though! xoxo You're absolutely adorable and beautiful by the way.

What’s your job?

I'm a plus size woman too & sensitive, went on & off the apps...I can definitely relate, even the unattractive men think they deserve a 10 & are judgemental...So frustrating 😑

I would suggest just trying to find a guy friend not in a romantic way but so that there is so much less pressure just take it slow and it can turn into more

Awww my heart goes out to you ❤❤ I’ve definitely been in this cycle of loneliness too and it’s not fun. I’m so sorry you’re feeling alone, i think with how disconnected we are nowadays it is something you are not alone in AT ALL!! I have 2 pieces of advice for you, feel free to take them with a grain of salt cause who knows if they apply: 1. It might be good to find a good counselor/therapist-NOT because there is anything wrong with you!!! But exactly the opposite. Even just through this video it is easy to see your are someone with a huge heart who is pretty, kind, likeable, and positive…so it is WILD to me that these men you’ve seen could ever make you feel like a monster. You are most certainly NOT. It might be helpful to find a therapist to talk through these struggles with, they might be able to help you through any mental blocks you have about putting yourself out there and help you maybe see what an amazing human you are and that you do NOT need to be wasting any energy on someone who makes you feel bad about yourself. 2. It might be good to focus on building friendships. I also hate the dating apps and all of that, and one thing that’s been helpful for me has been to just focus on making real life connections and friends. That can mean joining clubs and groups in your area and often can be uncomfortable as an introvert or someone with social anxiety-but that fear and discomfort is worth pushing through! Making meaningful friendships can make that lonely feeling go away, and can also sometimes offer unexpected romantic connections too! There might be a guy in the group, or someone might have a brother/friend to set you up with…it offers new possibilities, and meeting people organically is always WAY better than the cheap dating app interactions. I recently listened to this episode of the Mel Robbin’s podcast and it was so comforting & offered great advice, I hope it can be helpful for you as well ❤ good luck with everything I truly wish you the best!! You are not alone ❤❤ open.spotify.com/episode/58UwEyGFtzmSQjoZNbuKV0?si=9j2td3-9TeuNhaHFQadqtg

Women setting their standards too high is the reason why 95% of them stay single. If you are using dating apps and chasing after men that are out of you league they are only going to f**k you and never marry you. You need to humble yourself and date men who are your looks equivalent or you will never find a long term partner. "I waited this long so why should I settle?" Because as women age your value in the dating marketplace declines, for men it does the opposite as they build their wealth/resources. The men you are dating have the option of dating women in their 20's so you are now competing against those women who we know men are naturally going to be more attracted to for the biological reality that they can have more children. This isn't something men think consciously, it's just written in their DNA. As women age, dating gets harder not easier so instead of raising your standards you need to lower them. Resaonably of course. Women date hypergamously, I don't know if you've heard of this term but it means that women try to date up in terms of looks. Men are perfectly happy dating someone their looks equlivalent or below, which is why you are able to get sexual attention from men better looking than you but no commitment. You need to stop dating men out of your league and get off dating apps. Women just go on there and chase the top 1% of men who are just there to be fuck boys. I say this all with love.. I really feel for you want you to find happiness. You need to live in reality. ❤

I noticed being slightly cold and rude to men actually works. Idk why. But i was sweet and loving when i dated in my 20s. In my 30s i was stoic and nonchalant and i literally met my husband with that energy. Men are strange creatures 😂

I’ve been perpetually single my whole life and am now in my late 40s. I have no advice. It can be rough out there. I have accepted my singleness. It doesn’t help the loneliness. But it is what it is. Good luck

Have you tried Facebook dating? It might have a different variety of people who would otherwise not use dating apps, you may have to skim through a few scammers, but there could be very genuine people there! That's how my husband and I met, he wasn't on anything else! Wishing you good luck

I’m sorry you’re feeling this way girl! I know exactly how you feel because I’ve been there before and it’s really annoying when people say things like “date yourself, focus on self care, etc.” I don’t really have advice for you but I know how you feel and I’m sorry ❤ I went through a terrible relationship so I have now been single for 3 years and am kind of at the point where I want to be alone. But that being said, I have been where you are and it’s hard because obviously you love your family and you love your friends, but you want that specific type of love that comes with a relationship. I’m sorry I don’t have advice but I’m rooting for you lol

It’s 2024 and I still listen to Call It Like I See It lol

Hang in there

Hey girl. Listen I get it. Things can seem hopeless and overwhelming and when it’s for longer than you like or can tolerate it feels even worse. I won’t bore you with cliches. I don’t think you need to change anything about you and anyone who suggests that is a $&@! (lol I know you don’t cuss). My honest and only suggestion is to explore other avenues of dating. And be brave! From someone with significant and sometimes irrational anxiety I know that’s super hard. Also I’m a tad older than you and not much on social media so I probably sound outdated to these kids out here but, what about speed dating or take a cooking class as a single. Look up places in your area and I know there has to be at least one thing. And yes I said do it alone. I’m about to be 44 and I can remember meeting people at bars, bowling alley, etc for my very early 20’s. Since about 25 I’ve done mostly online dating and it’s disheartening how disconnected people are. I want this for you! From what I see you are a good person and you deserve better than anyone has shown you. Anywho I’ve rambled enough but just try! ❤

Maybe the guys that you turn down are those that actually wants to be with you... remember back in high school we all know where we are sitting in the cafeteria? Jocks sit at the jocks table. Cheerleaders sit at their table, drama kids sit at their table... we all have our table, now if you want to sit at a different you have to change 5hings about you un order to be able to sit at those other table

hugs 🫂I struggle to talk to strangers too! it seems like everyone is lonely but society keeps pushing us farther apart.

Don’t ever feel terrible for how someone else feels regarding casual dating. I give you credit for giving it a chance to see if there was something. At some point you have to be very intentional and blunt with him so he can move on quickly. He will appreciate that in the long run. Good luck 🍀

Tour in uk I hope they come back in the states

Yes you should go into more detail, I’m almost 28!

I love the Ask Ash videos even though I didn't have any questions this time haha. Can you link the Boy band Bonanza playlist? I need that in my life.

Can you do a song review of btr "only one"

It’s always so cool to see O. town I really love love them always have haven’t been able to see them yet😢😢😢😢😢😢😢 in concert. So thank you so much yes I know it’s not for me lol but it’s still nice hope you had fun and happy birthday

What’s your favorite attraction at WDW?

favorite song from big time rush

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Eat less calories and do more exercise, that’s what you need now!

I’m one of the new people and your video about quitting Hinge got recommended to me randomly and I binged the romance content. I don’t even watch dating content typically but it’s relatable as a fellow forever single in my 30’s. I could listen to you talk about lots of things though. Your positivity and energy is calming to me 😂

I’m personally here because I like your personality. Maybe it would be cool to talk about what you’re doing while not dating…like a lot of people talk about dating themselves/focusing on themselves? But I would truly watch you talk about anything lol

Hey who is your favorite member of Big Time Rush mine is Carlos and James you are so very pretty have a good day❤

Sometimes it makes us feel uncomfortable to respect the boundaries we put in place for ourselves. While the gentleman didn’t do anything wrong, the fact that he never even gave an acknowledgement of your decision is a disconcerting

Nobody cares if you're awkward in fact many guys will like that. Mam you are obese you need to lose weight that's literslly the only ting holding you back. It's not a joke at this rate you'll be dead before 50

I just saw them with Chris Kirkpatrick from NSYNC and they performed 5 NSYNC songs and it was AMAZING!

Awwww, I just watched this video right now! I'm so sorry that things ended in such a weird way! I can imagine how aweful it made you feel that he didn't respond! 😢 When I watched you talk about the situation, I really honestly got the impression that you really miss him! 😢 He sounds like a great guy! And I really got the feeling that you liked him a lot! But maybe you got a little overwhelmed with the situation and tried to get out before it got too serious too soon?? When it comes to sparks and magic and all those big feelings, I think they just start to come when you get more comfortable in the situation with each other! First dates are hard and conversations are hard the first few times because it's always awkward at first! But as you get to know somebody better, it gets more comfortable for everybody and I think that's the time where all the magic starts happening! Awwww, the situation sucks! But I feel like it's never too late to maybe contact him again if you really miss him! I think he would understand that you got scared and it maybe was too soon for you! But it's never too late for a second chance! But of course if I got the wrong impression and you are totally over him, it's totally fine to move on! Write me on Insta if you want to chat about it! Sending you lot's of hugs and good thoughts! 🫂🫂🫂

Awww, stupid dating apps!! 😢 But you got this! I know he is out there somewhere! 🫂

Hello! First of all, thank you for your vulnerability as always. I want to say that I standby my opinion that you did the right thing. In your last video, I didn’t hear you judging this guy, I heard you saying that you weren’t feeling right and that you didn’t really feel like you could easily talk to him. I don’t want to sound like I’m projecting here, but seriously if I had listened to that same feeling in my last relationship, I would’ve saved myself 3 years of trouble with the guy. I had feelings right away that it didn’t feel right with him and I just kept pushing through because he seemed nice and he was interested. I have been learning how to set my own boundaries and it’s HARD and it feels uncomfortable even after you have done it because it’s unfamiliar. But I think as women we have to remember that we are allowed to have standards and we’re allowed to be picky and we’re allowed to follow our gut and turn people down. It sucks to do it, but I really REALLY feel like you did the right thing. I obviously don’t know you lol but based off of what you explained about the situation, it seemed like if you moved forward with this guy, you would have just been forcing a connection that wasn’t there. And that wasn’t fair to you - you deserve that Disney love that you want lol

Girl, sometimes there is no spark like in the movies. It comes later 😌 When I first met my partner I wasn’t feeling the spark, 4 years later and we are happy together, loving and supporting each other

WTF is a "dating cycle? Sounds like another made up bullshyt word for a woman going out and being a 304 for a while and then taking a break from 304ing so that she can reflect on how much a 304 she has been and then question her life choices and swear to never do it again aaaaannnnd then going through another "dating cycle" on the off chance some simping, white knight, cuck will take her 304ing ass in. I think that about sums it up.

If you are socially awkward you can't judge him for being the same. You done messed up

If you feel a spark (or fireworks) IMMEDIATELY that's usually not necessarily a sign of long term connection.

This is a shy guy, obviously. I'm out there trying to find "the one" too, and I promise you.. we cannot tell after 4 spaced out, awkardish dates. If you think this guy is super sweet and kind and apparently thoughtful, that's big. There are just not that many sweet thoughtful guys out there . Try not to judge too fast. He hasn't said anything because he's mortified. You will not know if it's right this fast. Nice will elude you if you jump to a conclusion. (elude US.. I'm with you and know what you're saying. Shy people need time.)

You stated over & over he’s so nice ! He’s moved on … it’s like you want validation that he’s upset that he’s not your person ! Move on !

Got banned from hinge, and alternative site. Men are so entitled.. They can mention all sorts of things but God forbid you demand anything or just mention your standards oh no..

Get a pet, unconditional love and a lot less trouble!

You’re so cute! I love your laugh 😊

Girl, I said it before but I’ll say it again - you do not owe anyone anything. You’re looking for your person. Don’t quit looking and don’t put so much energy into other people you barely know. I promise you they’re moving on while you’re worrying about what they think and feel and you don’t even like them like that! Your sensitivity and empathy is amazing but save your heart for the ones that earn it. Hard to do but you have to. Wishing you the best 💖

I do think there's something to be said for taking advice from people who have what you want. Like taking business advice from a successful businessman would be much more preferable than taking business advice from a thrice bankrupted 'entrepreneur'. So if you know people who are in healthy relationships, I'd be more inclined to listen to their advice than the long-term singles. Personally.