Good job young lady... keep it up.

I would not want to be of dating age nowadays!

Thank you for posting this. It’s great that you’re willing to be so open about your convictions and your struggles. I pray that you may continue in purity and free from lust. 1 Thess 4:3-8

Man, all of these are PERFECT! Very good rules, and absolutely necessary if you plan on having a long-lasting union. Way too many people ge lax on these things, and almost all of the stories on reddit about couples not sharing passwords with one another for "privacy" reasons are the exact same couples who end up cheating on one another.

I struggled with this problem for 4 to 5 years but God delivered me and now I am free, I just wanna be fulfilled by Jesse's because the sense of emptiness I tried to fill up by doing this now and again, he satisfied me and his love is all I ever needed.God bless you all❤

All good points. Neither one should have opposite sex friends. They create distance between you and can cause opportunities you don’t know about.

And your recommendations when your spouse is not on-board with sex? She won't go to counseling in case you were wondering. So if marriage cannot meet yours needs, then what?

Love this! Boundaries in the marriage yes rules !

Married 47 years. I have and have always had girl friends. Always in a group setting, never alone, always in full public view. One running girl friend over 5 years, documnetetede we ran/joged over 7000 miles.

thats great praying for future temptation not thought of that - I have been stuggling with this since my beakdown

God does not tempt us... He put the tree in the garden of Eden, he made the snake. So, yes He is the designer of temptation and sin, because... sin did not exist before Eve took the apple. Only after eating it. Eve did not create sin and the just told the truth: you will know the difference between right and wrong. If Adam would have masturbated in the garden, it would not even have been a sin: did nor exist then. God created our bodies, our big brains, our possibility to have and want sex. I would say: be grateful to God that He gave you the possibility to relieve your tension that way. Who are you hurting? No-one. Who were the church leaders hurting by abusing tenth of thousands of children, mostly boys, over time? Did they apologize? Are they the phedofiles dat wrote about masturbation in the bible? Very possible. Worse than eg. the monks, having sex with each other because they couldn't stand it anymore? Yes. To human standards, yes. So stop hurting yourself, God has better things to do than convicting you having fun or pleasure.

Pretty good.

I’ve watched some of your videos now. I think your heart and mind are in the right place and I think you have good messages. I like the biblical references that you share. If I can offer one bit of feedback. Try working on the delivery. It seems to me you’re speaking more monotone. A monotone voice can cause listeners to lose interest. Maybe listen back on your recordings with attention to words you tend to repeat. Observe your mannerisms. We are your audience out here in you tube land. It’s okay when reading a verse to look away for a moment but bring your gaze back to the camera and connect more with your viewers. These are just my thoughts. Don’t know what others think. I do think you will improve with each video.

I have been married 42 years. I think rather than rules for each other we consider them respectful choices we made as a couple for one another. Our choices align with those the two of you made. Our wish for the two of you is many years of happiness and joy with one another and that you are a living example to your children of what marriage can be like.

Sharing this is very important. A lovely sex life will bond you both together and sustain you in harder times.

Thank you for the message..we are Humans Indeed.....

As a guy, does it help if you think about Virgin Mary when doing sex? Maybe keep a big painting of her near the bed. And for women, during sex, thinking about Jesus. Preferably Jesus on the cross.

Thank You!!

Imagine being a member of a religion where the God claims to love you but shames you for natural feelings he gave you. Makes total sense.

quite informative haha, nice video thanks!

(1 Corinthians 7:1 MLV) Now concerning the things of which you' wrote to me: it is good for a man not to touch a woman sexually. 0(1 Corinthians 7:2 MLV) But, because of fornications, let each man have his own wife and let each woman have her own husband.(1 Corinthians 7:3 MLV) Let the husband repay to the wife her owed benevolence and likewise also the wife repay to the husband.(1 Corinthians 7:4 MLV) The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband, and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife.(1 Corinthians 7:5 MLV) Do' not deprive one another, except it should be from agreement for a time, in-order-that you' may occupy yourselves to fasting and to prayer, and you' may come to the same again, in-order-that the Adversary may not tempt you' because of your' shortage of self-control.

From Rudy: I really appreciate your video. Also as a husband, I do not like my wife hanging out with girls who are not Christians, or even Christians who are not serious about their relationship with Christ. I also will not hang out with men or groups of buddies who are not serious about their faith in Christ.

I have Instagram specifically for the funny videos. I personally don't really see half naked people on there, but I'm sure it happens.

Based wife

Wait how old were you when you got married because I’m also 19 and single

I would say 10 hours is over sleeping and will make you tired. 8-9 hours is perfect. I tried to see what my average was and for a week I had no alarms set, I always woke up after 8 to 8 and a half hours of sleeping, never longer. On the nights I do sleep 9-10 hours (maybe from not sleeping the night before) I am very tired that day

When I was growing up our church youth group was a good place to make friends.

I can get 1 and not be tired all day (known from experience LOL)

Thank you for this video! I'm 28 years old and since I hit puberty I gratified myself. Growing up without christian values just didn't teach me that this was wrong. I also felt guilt, it also build up over time. I'm kind of on the beginning of my journey back to god but I'm shocked to the core with the wisdom that I've got so far. Thank you and god bless you!

It's so refreshing to hear a woman that I instantly see as one and take serious. If had my personal issues with god in the past, I didn't trust the church as an institution. But since I've been diving deeper and read the bible I'm blown away with the amount of wisdom and truth that I found in there. Now I pray every day and try to become a better christian and through that a better man. Thank you for your videos, in my personal life I sadly don't have a person that is so traditional. You made me more assured of my values and I feel confident to let some people go. God bless you!

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That last bit about engaging sexually even when you're not entirely in the mood is important - cause you WON'T be in the mood 100% of the time, but like eating vegetables, like working out, like doing your taxes, it'll be good of your and your spouse. It's good for the health of the partnership. I've done it as a man. Cause I wanted to please her, and we should all try to be unselfish to a reasonable extent. (not when you're actually sick or whatever, but if you're just a little tired, you can still do something for your spouse)

You must be so much fun

Meaning you would do them if left to your own devices.

If hanging out with a guy friend makes you want to have sex with him or makes him want to have sex with you, well, that's wild and in a healthy relationship (the relationship you have with your husband and the one you have with your friend) you should be able to hang out with a friend alone anbd that should NOT BE WEIRD OR HAVE ANY SHADE OF FLIRTY/SEXUAL VIBE. JEEZ do we really need to say this in 2024?

I think the boundaries you listed here are healthy. I just think the title/reasoning is a little odd and inflammatory. It makes me sad because you’ve chose to strip yourself of your autonomy. Rather than proudly stating that these boundaries are your own and have been laid on your heart by God, you’ve given your husband that role. It almost feels a little like idolatry to me. I truly pray that you return to your first love and claim your own autonomy and boundaries, because I think they’re good ones. I also worry that the “weight” of being THE person morally upholding the family (by “letting” you do certain things) is putting your husband in a position that he shouldn’t have to be in. I really hope this doesn’t come across as discouraging because it comes from a deep place of wanting you to be empowered to love the Lord and your husband, not purely being submissive (although there’s a place for that with every person). 🤷🏽‍♀️ minus the dress like a man part. That’s a little silly to me.

These toxic comments are drivel. Everyone saying this is abusive or "crazy to hear." Imagine being so close-minded that you think a girl willingly talking about her loving relationship and her letting her husband be a leader means that she must "not be safe." I know this might be hard for you all to hear, but no, not every "marriage in the 1800s" (aka "traditional marriage") was the man enslaving and beating his wife. And no, a loving relationship with a husband being a leader does not mean that this woman is being controlled or abused. Believe it or not, not every woman has believed the lie that masculinity is "toxic," like you all have. Believe it or not, some women think differently than you and WANT a man to set boundaries for them... Because, again believe it or not, sometimes boundaries and structure is for the health of a relationship and because you love someone and want the best for them. Shocking, I know. Especially shocking for you to learn that not all women believe in taking down the OMG LITERALLY HANDMAID'S TALE PATRIARCHY FROM THE 1800S OMG like you do (because, spoiler alert, the feminists have lied about the "patriarchy"). Regardless of how shocking that is to you and how upsetting it is to you that some women believe different things than you, you shouldn't do something so ridiculous and dangerous as to jump to the "you're unsafe and being abused, you should leave/seek help!" conclusion. That's absolute drivel to jump to that conclusion. Not to mention a "boy who cried wolf" situation. Calling this dangerous and abusive is going to dilute our ability to see an ACTUALLY dangerous relationship. Not to mention how hilarious it is that you hear this girl say things like "my husband likes me, his wife, looking like a woman, and he also doesn't like me to be alone with other men" and find that to be a problem. Or that it's a problem that husband and wife only want to share in each other sexually and not alone. Like oh no!!! A committed relationship where they want to please and protect and love each other?! Where there's no drama?! This girl can't even keep communicating with her exes?!?! THE HORROR!!! SHE'S UNSAFE!! LITERALLY HANDMAID'S TALE BECAUSE HER HUSBAND DOESN'T WANT HER TALKING WITH PEOPLE SHE USED TO DATE!!! Give me a break. Honestly it's pretty funny how utterly lacking in critical thinking these comments are. What a joke lol.

All of this is common sense. Anyone who disagrees is not thinking straight. How can we verify this? Easy, flip the script. Would you want your husband hanging out with female friends by himself, or getting in shape and showing off his body to random women online, forcing you to sleep on the couch when he's mad, and then ghosting you for weeks until you break the silence? Obviously, none of these are healthy if the GUY did it, and its the SAME for the women. PLEASE GET OVER YOURSELF. thank you.

3:49 -point 3 - this is right. The Lord says: ‘Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: Neither give place to the devil.’ Ephesians 4:26-27 (KJV)

1) You mentioned you were like a child when you married him? HUH? How old were you when you got married? How long had you been dating? 2) big purchases makes sense from both directions, if you have a shared economy you need to be on the same page. 3) this is a reasonable practice. Don't wait on issues. 4) it's bad for women to post thirst trap pictures of social media. You are selling your self worth for instant gratification. It's a really bad deal, single women would benefit from not doing this as well. Stories from women who do OF really back this up. Don't do it. 7) what woman would be OK if their man dressed like a woman? I'm sure there are a few. 8) Uber driving is dangerous work, your man is being protective. Fair. 9) This seems unfair unless he lives up to this to. 10) I think this one is very sweet and I try my best to do the same for my woman. Over all I think your man is being trying to be a good man and trying to protect you as a way of showing you his love.

i desire a traditional marriage , yes I'm for real 💗💗 people will have stuff to say but I also thought we're allowed to love how we please , so if thats what they stand by they can mind their business and leave us traditional alone:)

You know, there are shelters for women in your position. Blink twice if you need help.

Congratulations!! It sounds like you will have a long and happy marriage (if you don't let the trolls in your comments convince you that they know what's good for you better than you and your husband).

Girls and women watching this… this is not love. This is not what marriage should be. I hope today’s generation is smart enough t see the red flags. Your partner should have absolutely 0 say over what you wear or do with your body. These kinds of relationships are so controlling towards the woman. The men see their wives as their daughter or something. I’ve literally cut out friends whose spouses treat them like this. How any woman isnt embarrassed to live like this is beyond me. Also masturbation is so healthy and normal. Anyone shaming you for it is a red flag. NOBODY owns your ability to be sexual with yourself. That IS controlling. I’m so glad I left the cult of Christianity and realized only I can own myself. My life has changed for the best since seeing relationships as something to enhance your life, not limit it in any way. My partner will NEVER tell me what I can and can’t do with my body as my style. And if they did they’d be out of my life a fast

This sounds pretty good tbh!! Good on you girl ❤

Stonewalling - I disagree as going into immediate talking without allowing heads to cool can cause more conflict and build up of resentment. In the moment when you are angry you are not in a good headspace and can say things you do not mean, but when you take time to allow yourself to calm down you can approach things more logically. Big purchases - I believe the one who is best with finances should be in charge of spending decisions. So if a woman is a "Shopaholic" she should only have access to a card with a capped limit spend, and if a man has a gambling problem he shouldn't have access to ANY of the finances and purchases should be made on his behalf (I have heard some horror stories of guys putting their wife and 3 kids practically on the streets). Social Media - Unless it's for work, I wouldn't recommend having a social media platform (this is also to protect kids, as there are some parents who post WAY too much pictures of their kids to the public). Or just have a private social media with family and friends, that should be no issue. Guy Friends - Guys know how other guys act, it's not that he doesn't trust you, men don't trust other men. I also wouldn't recommend your husband be alone with "Girl Friends" for the very same reason. Exes - Only reason you should be in touch with an ex is if you already have kids together, and it's to talk about that. Dress Manly - I don't understand, women in suits can be very attractive and feminine, as woman's suits are designed to be a lot more flattering. I think things should go both ways, so if he has a boundary for you, he should have a very similar boundary placed on him.

What In the world did I just watch and why did it come up on my algorithm. Ethan is controlling bottom line and this is not what marriage is about. Crazyyyyy

I’m sure he’s sweet but babe. This is 2024. We are not in the 1800’s anymore. Please don’t let the controlling get violent. He has all these rules for you but where are the rules for him? You have to dress feminine to impress your husband?? I thought he married you for your personality not your outer appearance. You aren’t allowed to know your own pleasure? You seem very strong minded. So if you aren’t feeling safe or happy please leave. ❤🎉❤❤

There’s nothing wrong with bikini pictures. You’re a woman. Plenty of married women wear bikinis. It’s not our fault men see women as objects and only want vagina not the person.

Yo! I stonewall like crazy :/ wow I suppose I should stop.