10 Things My Husband Does NOT Let Me Do!!!

10 Things My Husband Does NOT Let Me Do!!! | Christian Wife

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I would not call Ethan an unfair husband by any means but there are definitely a few things he would not be okay with me doing! Because we have been married for over a year now, we thought it would be fun to share our personal standards and "relationship rules"! Please peruse my chapters here below! And of course, don't forget to like and subscribe for weekly content that is always good!
Chapters
0:00 Intro
0:45 Stonewalling
1:56 Big Purchases
3:45 Couch Banishment
4:25 Social Media
5:44 Guy "friends"
6:28 Exes
7:24 Dress Manly
8:24 Uuber
9:11 P*rn and Master****
9:58 Open Car Door
10:24 Be Unloved Daily :)
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@dans3430 8 күн бұрын

I have been married 42 years. I think rather than rules for each other we consider them respectful choices we made as a couple for one another. Our choices align with those the two of you made. Our wish for the two of you is many years of happiness and joy with one another and that you are a living example to your children of what marriage can be like.

@grace_and_purity 5 күн бұрын

@@dans3430 thank you 🥰🥰

@rockyboimedia 22 күн бұрын

Those relationship boundaries all look good. The language is a bit problematic though. Saying "he doesn't let me" makes it sound like these are things that you want to do the he is forcing you not to, whereas better language might look like " we have decided that we are not going to do blank in our relationship ". The language we use is important.

@ThePestilentDefiler 21 күн бұрын

"Doesnt let me" means that if you dont willingly abide to the boundaries you arent welcome in the relationship any longer. If more relationships had ground rules or at least adaptive rules that surface at the face of an issue (especially for new couples learning eachother) then there would be a lot less divorces. The man is the protector, and to remove senses of danger from his girlfriend or wife's life is his duty.

@ThePestilentDefiler 21 күн бұрын

I dont think there was team workshop and brainstorming for all of these. He sets his rule, she abides or leaves. He should keep it consistent and not blindside with new rules however then it may feel entrapping, unless there is a new big problem that surfaces that was unforseen.

@Kellyannejones 21 күн бұрын

@@rockyboimedia right because the term “he doesn’t let me” sometimes leads to the partner being isolated and having no contact with friends or family. But she’s got a good head on her shoulders. I’m sure she would leave if she really needed to

@EstherChavez-gw8ih 7 күн бұрын

Love this! Boundaries in the marriage yes rules !

@rgsmith1966 21 күн бұрын

Congratulations!! It sounds like you will have a long and happy marriage (if you don't let the trolls in your comments convince you that they know what's good for you better than you and your husband).

@Beautytrends77 22 күн бұрын

What In the world did I just watch and why did it come up on my algorithm. Ethan is controlling bottom line and this is not what marriage is about. Crazyyyyy

@ThePestilentDefiler 21 күн бұрын

This is exactly what marriage is about. The coming together of two people and the man being the protector. Realize women need protection from themselves too.

@Beautytrends77 21 күн бұрын

@@ThePestilentDefiler oh please, that’s not what protecting means. Controlling a woman and telling her what to wear is not protecting a woman!! That’s ridiculous. Men are supposed to be protectors and providers not control a woman’s every move. This girl is clearly a puppet on a string and people love to hide behind religion to abuse woman!

@TheSpaniard 21 күн бұрын

Imagine being so close-minded that you think a girl willingly talking about her loving relationship and her letting her husband be a leader means that she must "not be safe." I know this might be hard for you all to hear, but no, not every "marriage in the 1800s" (aka "traditional marriage") was the man enslaving and beating his wife. And no, a loving relationship with a husband being a leader does not mean that this woman is being controlled or abused. Believe it or not, not every woman has believed the lie that masculinity is "toxic," like you all have. Believe it or not, some women think differently than you and WANT a man to set boundaries for them... Because, again believe it or not, sometimes boundaries and structure is for the health of a relationship and because you love someone and want the best for them. Shocking, I know. Especially shocking for you to learn that not all women believe in taking down the OMG LITERALLY HANDMAID'S TALE PATRIARCHY FROM THE 1800S OMG like you do (because, spoiler alert, the feminists have lied about the "patriarchy"). Regardless of how shocking that is to you and how upsetting it is to you that some women believe different things than you, you shouldn't do something so ridiculous and dangerous as to jump to the "you're unsafe and being abused, you should leave/seek help!" conclusion. That's absolute drivel to jump to that conclusion. Not to mention a "boy who cried wolf" situation. Calling this dangerous and abusive is going to dilute our ability to see an ACTUALLY dangerous relationship. Not to mention how hilarious it is that you hear this girl say things like "my husband likes me, his wife, looking like a woman, and he also doesn't like me to be alone with other men" and find that to be a problem. Or that it's a problem that husband and wife only want to share in each other sexually and not alone. Like oh no!!! A committed relationship where they want to please and protect and love each other?! Where there's no drama?! This girl can't even keep communicating with her exes?!?! THE HORROR!!! SHE'S UNSAFE!! LITERALLY HANDMAID'S TALE BECAUSE HER HUSBAND DOESN'T WANT HER TALKING WITH PEOPLE SHE USED TO DATE!!! Give me a break. Honestly it's pretty funny how utterly lacking in critical thinking these comments are. What a joke lol.

@AlexPerazaTV 21 күн бұрын

He is not controlling whatsoever. You have clearly never been held accountable in your life. You will have a harsh wake-up call later in life. If you want to confirm if he is controlling or not, let's flip the script and see if they hold. Example, your man should not be hanging out with female friends alone, getting in shape and showing off his body to random women online, forcing you to sleep on the couch when he's mad at you, and definitely not ghosting you for weeks until you break the silence. See how quickly these standards make perfect sense?

@TheSpaniard 21 күн бұрын

@@AlexPerazaTV hey woah hold up. How dare you flip the script? How dare you point out hypocrisy? Double standards only work if we don't point them out and get to keep benefitting from them!

@Vickyt32 21 күн бұрын

This sounds pretty good tbh!! Good on you girl ❤

@ladypenelope99 21 күн бұрын

3:49 -point 3 - this is right. The Lord says: ‘Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: Neither give place to the devil.’ Ephesians 4:26-27 (KJV)

@fededossi4507 20 күн бұрын

If hanging out with a guy friend makes you want to have sex with him or makes him want to have sex with you, well, that's wild and in a healthy relationship (the relationship you have with your husband and the one you have with your friend) you should be able to hang out with a friend alone anbd that should NOT BE WEIRD OR HAVE ANY SHADE OF FLIRTY/SEXUAL VIBE. JEEZ do we really need to say this in 2024?

@grace_and_purity 18 күн бұрын

There is a reason that the majority of affairs happen with someone the betrayed spouse knows. Unless it’s coworkers ( because you spend 8 hours a day with them and then go home and have dinner with your husband. ) 🤷‍♀️ Biologically we are wired to become more and more intimate with the person we spend the most time with so make sure that’s your husband babes

@michaelgreaney4625 16 күн бұрын

Nice

@toddjohnson271 20 күн бұрын

Meaning you would do them if left to your own devices.

@Mary-gr3mr 21 күн бұрын

i desire a traditional marriage , yes I'm for real 💗💗 people will have stuff to say but I also thought we're allowed to love how we please , so if thats what they stand by they can mind their business and leave us traditional alone:)

@christopherkelly5198 23 күн бұрын

Your relationship is really strong and sweet:)! I feel like the boundaries you have for each other are fair and are out of love for the other person. Hope you two enjoy the life God gives you for the decades to come!

@merakicedar 16 күн бұрын

valid

@TheSpaniard 21 күн бұрын

These toxic comments are drivel. Everyone saying this is abusive or "crazy to hear." Imagine being so close-minded that you think a girl willingly talking about her loving relationship and her letting her husband be a leader means that she must "not be safe." I know this might be hard for you all to hear, but no, not every "marriage in the 1800s" (aka "traditional marriage") was the man enslaving and beating his wife. And no, a loving relationship with a husband being a leader does not mean that this woman is being controlled or abused. Believe it or not, not every woman has believed the lie that masculinity is "toxic," like you all have. Believe it or not, some women think differently than you and WANT a man to set boundaries for them... Because, again believe it or not, sometimes boundaries and structure is for the health of a relationship and because you love someone and want the best for them. Shocking, I know. Especially shocking for you to learn that not all women believe in taking down the OMG LITERALLY HANDMAID'S TALE PATRIARCHY FROM THE 1800S OMG like you do (because, spoiler alert, the feminists have lied about the "patriarchy"). Regardless of how shocking that is to you and how upsetting it is to you that some women believe different things than you, you shouldn't do something so ridiculous and dangerous as to jump to the "you're unsafe and being abused, you should leave/seek help!" conclusion. That's absolute drivel to jump to that conclusion. Not to mention a "boy who cried wolf" situation. Calling this dangerous and abusive is going to dilute our ability to see an ACTUALLY dangerous relationship. Not to mention how hilarious it is that you hear this girl say things like "my husband likes me, his wife, looking like a woman, and he also doesn't like me to be alone with other men" and find that to be a problem. Or that it's a problem that husband and wife only want to share in each other sexually and not alone. Like oh no!!! A committed relationship where they want to please and protect and love each other?! Where there's no drama?! This girl can't even keep communicating with her exes?!?! THE HORROR!!! SHE'S UNSAFE!! LITERALLY HANDMAID'S TALE BECAUSE HER HUSBAND DOESN'T WANT HER TALKING WITH PEOPLE SHE USED TO DATE!!! Give me a break. Honestly it's pretty funny how utterly lacking in critical thinking these comments are. What a joke lol.

@grace_and_purity 18 күн бұрын

This was wonderful to read ❤❤❤❤😂

@TheSpaniard 18 күн бұрын

@@grace_and_purity lol I'm glad you enjoyed reading it as much as I enjoyed venting about it. And thanks for what you're doing on KZfaq, keep up the great work!

@AlexPerazaTV 21 күн бұрын

All of this is common sense. Anyone who disagrees is not thinking straight. How can we verify this? Easy, flip the script. Would you want your husband hanging out with female friends by himself, or getting in shape and showing off his body to random women online, forcing you to sleep on the couch when he's mad, and then ghosting you for weeks until you break the silence? Obviously, none of these are healthy if the GUY did it, and its the SAME for the women. PLEASE GET OVER YOURSELF. thank you.

@Kellyannejones 22 күн бұрын

Yo! I stonewall like crazy :/ wow I suppose I should stop.

@grace_and_purity 21 күн бұрын

You do you 💓

@AlexPerazaTV 21 күн бұрын

you should definitely stop. it's extremely toxic and degrading for your partner because you are quite literally shutting them down entirely and saying that their entire being is worthless to you unless they agree with you and break the silence first in total submission.

@JoelWende 22 күн бұрын

This is all so gross to me!

@AlexPerazaTV 21 күн бұрын

You grew up with a weak father figure then. These are all very reasonable boundaries. Just pretend it was the other way around. A man shouldn't talk with his female friends alone, make big purchases without his wife knowledge and give his wife the silent treatment for weeks if he doesn't get what he wants. Suddenly, these rules seem very reasonable and intelligent right? They work both ways.

@JoelWende 21 күн бұрын

@@AlexPerazaTV No they don’t suddenly sound reasonable (with the exception of the silent treatment one - that’s obvious). It’s 2024 not 1850. People have their own agency whether in or outside of a relationship. Relationships are about trust not rules. You should be able to trust your significant other to have friends of another gender. You also shouldn’t care how it makes you look. You should be able to trust your significant other to make purchases, and likewise they should also be free to have their own interests, enjoyments, and hobbies without needing permission to do so!

@AlexPerazaTV 21 күн бұрын

@@JoelWende you should be able to trust your husband going out with his hot young female friends without you there. nothing is going to happen if he has a few drinks with single ladies without his wife right? You shouldn't care how it makes you look. That would be "controlling" of course. You should be able to trust your husband to buy all sorts of things without telling you anything, like a new dinner table his friend was selling (the example she used in the video) for $300, a great deal, that you actually don't need. He should be able to have his own interests such as going drinking with his single friends on Saturday night, exploring different cities without you, having trips to vegas to gamble thousands on his own, visiting the museum with a cute female friend, attending tantric yoga classes all alone, and buying an upgraded convertible mustang, because why not right? Theres no such thing as "simple boundaries", anything that impedes his freedom is "abusive" of course!

@JoelWende 21 күн бұрын

@@AlexPerazaTV The answer to all of that is, yes, you should. You can try and flip this around on me or on other genders all you like mate, but yes…you should be able to trust your significant other to do all of those things. And with that trust comes the ability to communicate why and how you are doing those things. Right now you’re a walking red flag dude!

@AlexPerazaTV 20 күн бұрын

@@JoelWende you are a man. now it makes sense. ask any WOMEN if she is ok with a man doing the above, i dare you. She will laugh in your face.

@heytherekaela 21 күн бұрын

I think the boundaries you listed here are healthy. I just think the title/reasoning is a little odd and inflammatory. It makes me sad because you’ve chose to strip yourself of your autonomy. Rather than proudly stating that these boundaries are your own and have been laid on your heart by God, you’ve given your husband that role. It almost feels a little like idolatry to me. I truly pray that you return to your first love and claim your own autonomy and boundaries, because I think they’re good ones. I also worry that the “weight” of being THE person morally upholding the family (by “letting” you do certain things) is putting your husband in a position that he shouldn’t have to be in. I really hope this doesn’t come across as discouraging because it comes from a deep place of wanting you to be empowered to love the Lord and your husband, not purely being submissive (although there’s a place for that with every person). 🤷🏽‍♀️ minus the dress like a man part. That’s a little silly to me.

@grace_and_purity 18 күн бұрын

Part of the reason this video is not sitting at 200 views is because of the title and thumbnail. All part of my plan to get monetized (hopefully) 😂

@Mastikator 21 күн бұрын

1) You mentioned you were like a child when you married him? HUH? How old were you when you got married? How long had you been dating? 2) big purchases makes sense from both directions, if you have a shared economy you need to be on the same page. 3) this is a reasonable practice. Don't wait on issues. 4) it's bad for women to post thirst trap pictures of social media. You are selling your self worth for instant gratification. It's a really bad deal, single women would benefit from not doing this as well. Stories from women who do OF really back this up. Don't do it. 7) what woman would be OK if their man dressed like a woman? I'm sure there are a few. 8) Uber driving is dangerous work, your man is being protective. Fair. 9) This seems unfair unless he lives up to this to. 10) I think this one is very sweet and I try my best to do the same for my woman. Over all I think your man is being trying to be a good man and trying to protect you as a way of showing you his love.

@grace_and_purity 18 күн бұрын

Engaged at 20 and married at 21 🎉 Ethan is only six months older than me. I said 19 but actually I had turned 20 by our engagement. We started dating right after I turned 19. Regarding point #9 on sexual stuff, we both hold ourselves to a high standard there.

@MarkTregelt 22 күн бұрын

Really i do think you misinterpret his opinion. By nature or god, as you wish, you can do anything on earth. BUT all actions come with consequences and i suppose your husband just wants to point out those consequences for certain actions in a marriage. Everyone should communicate transparent and openly so you both know each others views and consequences to keep marriage intact, as it is ment to be by human nature. Good luck so far, just be the best partner possible and all will be fine.

@grace_and_purity 21 күн бұрын

Balance is key for relationships! ❤

@Kellyannejones 22 күн бұрын

I’m sure he’s sweet but babe. This is 2024. We are not in the 1800’s anymore. Please don’t let the controlling get violent. He has all these rules for you but where are the rules for him? You have to dress feminine to impress your husband?? I thought he married you for your personality not your outer appearance. You aren’t allowed to know your own pleasure? You seem very strong minded. So if you aren’t feeling safe or happy please leave. ❤🎉❤❤

@grace_and_purity 21 күн бұрын

I encourage you to view my video prior to this! 🥰

@TheSpaniard 21 күн бұрын

Imagine being this close minded that you think a girl willingly talking about her loving relationship and her letting her husband be a leader means that she must "not be safe." I know this might be hard for you to hear, but no, not every "marriage in the 1800s" was the man enslaving and beating his wife. And no, a loving relationship with a husband being a leader does not mean that this woman is being controlled or abused. Believe it or not, not every woman has believed the lie that masculinity is "toxic," like you have. Believe it or not, some women think differently than you and WANT a man to set boundaries for them... Because, again believe it or not, sometimes boundaries and structure is for the health of a relationship and because you love someone and want the best for them. Shocking, I know. Especially shocking for you to learn that not all women believe in taking down the OMG LITERALLY HANDMAID'S TALE PATRIARCHY FROM THE 1800S OMG like you do (because, spoiler alert, the feminists have lied about the "patriarchy"). Regardless of how shocking that is to you and how upsetting it is to you that some women believe different things than you, you shouldn't do something so ridiculous and dangerous as to jump to the "you're unsafe and being abused, you should leave!" conclusion. That's absolute drivel to jump to that conclusion. Not to mention how hilarious it is that you hear this girl say things like "my husband likes me, his wife, looking like a woman, and he also doesn't like me to be alone with other men" and find that to be a problem. Like oh no, a committed relationship where they want to please and protect and love each other?! Where there's no drama?! This girl can't still communicate with her exes?! THE HORROR!!! SHE'S UNSAFE!! LITERALLY HANDMAID'S TALE BECAUSE HER HUSBAND DOESN'T WANT HER TALKING WITH PEOPLE SHE USED TO DATE!!! Give me a break. Honestly it's pretty funny how utterly lacking in critical thinking these comments are. What a joke lol.

@AlexPerazaTV 21 күн бұрын

These are all very reasonable boundaries. Just pretend it was the other way around. A man shouldn't talk with his female friends alone, make big purchases without his wife knowledge and give his wife the silent treatment for weeks if he doesn't get what he wants. Suddenly, these rules seem very reasonable and intelligent right? They work both ways.

@TheSpaniard 20 күн бұрын

@@Kellyannejones Imagine being so close-minded that you think a girl willingly talking about her loving relationship and her letting her husband be a leader means that she must "not be safe." I know this might be hard for you all to hear, but no, not every "marriage in the 1800s" (aka "traditional marriage") was the man enslaving and beating his wife. And no, a loving relationship with a husband being a leader does not mean that this woman is being controlled or abused. Believe it or not, not every woman has believed the lie that masculinity is "toxic," like you have. Believe it or not, some women think differently than you and WANT a man to set boundaries for them... Because, again believe it or not, sometimes boundaries and structure is for the health of a relationship and because you love someone and want the best for them. Shocking, I know. Especially shocking for you to learn that not all women believe in taking down the OMG LITERALLY HANDMAID'S TALE PATRIARCHY FROM THE 1800S OMG like you do (because, spoiler alert, the feminists have lied about the "patriarchy"). Regardless of how shocking that is to you and how upsetting it is to you that some women believe different things than you, you shouldn't do something so ridiculous and dangerous as to jump to the "you're unsafe and being abused, you should leave/seek help!" conclusion. That's absolute drivel to jump to that conclusion. Not to mention a "boy who cried wolf" situation. Calling this dangerous and abusive is going to dilute our ability to see an ACTUALLY dangerous relationship. Not to mention how hilarious it is that you hear this girl say things like "my husband likes me, his wife, looking like a woman, and he also doesn't like me to be alone with other men" and find that to be a problem. Or that it's a problem that husband and wife only want to share in each other sexually and not alone. Like oh no!!! A committed relationship where they want to please and protect and love each other?! Where there's no drama?! This girl can't even keep communicating with her exes?!?! THE HORROR!!! SHE'S UNSAFE!! LITERALLY HANDMAID'S TALE BECAUSE HER HUSBAND DOESN'T WANT HER TALKING WITH PEOPLE SHE USED TO DATE!!! Give me a break. Honestly it's pretty funny how utterly lacking in critical thinking these comments are. What a joke lol.

@Kellyannejones 20 күн бұрын

@@TheSpaniard⁠I know this might be hard for you to hear but believe it or not. I struck a nerve for you. There’s a fine line between boundaries and controlling. If she didn’t conform what do you think he would do? Divorce or invoke mental and emotional abuse……and most dangerous relationships are diluted which is why women have so many excuses and defend his terrible behavior because his mommy did a bad job raising him.

@SG-qm7to 21 күн бұрын

You know, there are shelters for women in your position. Blink twice if you need help.

@TheSpaniard 21 күн бұрын

@AlexPerazaTV 21 күн бұрын

Should the man make big purchases without his wife's permission, or get fit and show off his body to random women online or hang out with his female friends without his wife there? all it takes is a minute of critical thinking and you would have realized that these boundaries are extremely reasonable if you flipped the script, and therefore reasonable for her too. You might need to visit a psychologist though if you are afraid of this. Do you hear voices and are the voices here in the room with you now? lol

@TheSpaniard 20 күн бұрын

@@SG-qm7to Drivel. Imagine being so close-minded that you think a girl willingly talking about her loving relationship and her letting her husband be a leader means that she must "not be safe." I know this might be hard for you all to hear, but no, not every "marriage in the 1800s" (aka "traditional marriage") was the man enslaving and beating his wife. And no, a loving relationship with a husband being a leader does not mean that this woman is being controlled or abused. Believe it or not, not every woman has believed the lie that masculinity is "toxic," like you all have. Believe it or not, some women think differently than you and WANT a man to set boundaries for them... Because, again believe it or not, sometimes boundaries and structure is for the health of a relationship and because you love someone and want the best for them. Shocking, I know. Especially shocking for you to learn that not all women believe in taking down the OMG LITERALLY HANDMAID'S TALE PATRIARCHY FROM THE 1800S OMG like you do (because, spoiler alert, the feminists have lied about the "patriarchy"). Regardless of how shocking that is to you and how upsetting it is to you that some women believe different things than you, you shouldn't do something so ridiculous and dangerous as to jump to the "you're unsafe and being abused, you should leave/seek help!" conclusion. That's absolute drivel to jump to that conclusion. Not to mention a "boy who cried wolf" situation. Calling this dangerous and abusive is going to dilute our ability to see an ACTUALLY dangerous relationship. Not to mention how hilarious it is that you hear this girl say things like "my husband likes me, his wife, looking like a woman, and he also doesn't like me to be alone with other men" and find that to be a problem. Or that it's a problem that husband and wife only want to share in each other sexually and not alone. Like oh no!!! A committed relationship where they want to please and protect and love each other?! Where there's no drama?! This girl can't even keep communicating with her exes?!?! THE HORROR!!! SHE'S UNSAFE!! LITERALLY HANDMAID'S TALE BECAUSE HER HUSBAND DOESN'T WANT HER TALKING WITH PEOPLE SHE USED TO DATE!!! Give me a break. Honestly it's pretty funny how utterly lacking in critical thinking these comments are. What a joke lol.

@grace_and_purity 18 күн бұрын

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