So the free plan basically does nothing. You are forced to pay $24.99 a month for a app that basically does the exact same thing my cell phone does. What a scam.

The churches have allowed narcissists to even get married..Frightening!!!

Family courts need narcissistic people in order to continue to get money. You have to pretty much be a narcissist to put someone through challenges with their kid instead of simply coparenting correctly. So of course the core system they are not going to acknowledge that they’ll go out of business.

Thank you so much your information.

🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

GOOD STUFF 👍 GOD BLESS YOU GUYS

With all due respect, as there is a lot of good info in here for "normal" people who are just dealing with normal anger and resentment after a divorce, this is not appropriate for situations involving one parent who is disordered (e.g., narcissism). The people targeted by narcissists are (generally) highly empathetic, and advising that they ask themselves "might I be the problem here?" is not only counterproductive, but harmful to their recovery. We've already asked if we're the problem, probably for years. As someone who DOES specialize in high-conflict (it's all we deal with), the targeted parent doesn't need this advice and the abusive parent won't listen to it.

Valuable information !!! Thank you

Watching this again and again… SOOOooooo GOOD!! Thank you 🤗

Solo parenting would be easier. It’s unbelievable that my ex can drop the kids off after I had a round of chemo and the kids were throwing up. My kids are being abused by my ex and it’s hell every time they see him. He’s starting to refuse to see the kids last minute I’m guessing bc he has a new girlfriend. I’m praying he just totally loses interest

Oh thank you I definitely shared ❤ looking forward to more of your videos

Never go to court, they don’t care about your children

Great to see your lightheartedness about a child’s health, welfare, education, that’s all. You all just don’t want to be bothered, you’re burned out , change jobs already, lives are at stake, that’s for the old man, young girls not so much

A good question would be”why is Bobby not in school today?” I got a notification from the school. Dad does not respond at all because he thinks he does not have to

My daughter is coparenting with a narcissist. You are correct. Its daily. Mind games, manipulation, etc. He is constantly gas lighting. So many things. Thank goodness my daughter chooses not to react.

I thought this was a review of the app, not your marriage?

My ex wife got me onto talking parents and uses it to abuse me.

I’m correctly using for free Talking parents app. Is it communication between me and my Ex still will be recorded? Because I’m downloading every single picture Thank you in advance!

Listening to this sounds like, tick, tick, tick when every point he ticks. I already raised a beautiful child alone and oh my, it was sooooooo much easier.

I find all this information helpful if you’re dealing with two humans who are actually engaged in the welfare of their children - but you are encouraging victims of coercive control to gas light themselves by questioning their own feelings and instincts to protect themselves and their children vs dealing with a toxic abusive individual based on a long history of behavior of them proving over and over who they are

Thank God I waited till my kids were raised.

yup

I am the step mother, and it has been four years of having to deal with the narcissistic mother. Every aspect pans out from her childhood to many other witnesses having the same experiences with this person. I have dealt with many narcissists in my life and this one has made me do the research because of the consistent contact. It is so draining, and I thought I ended it in a not so pretty way, but no. She came back and asked if we could talk and I ignored it. Unless it is necessary and about the child then I do not want to deal with it. I had to go to therapy. She constantly asked me to do for her and the child on her week. I always made sure to do for the child on our week because that is the right thing to do, and I do not want to deal with her. I would rather parent this child with his father without her. She controls the taxes by taking a cut out of it when we have two other children on top of this child. She has none. She goes from man to man, literally moving her and her sons property from one mans house into another. It is awful. I do not know what to do. Court is not an option right now, but in the future, yes. I do not think this child should be separated from his mother because of the traumatic things he has been through with her but she is also not the best role model for him either. It is hard trying to get him on the right track when it is our week again. She has an excuse for everything, not even good ones and the same ones are used. She is great at manipulating and gaslighting. She is entitled and obnoxious. I felt her energy the first time i talked to her on the phone. It is not good. She does not ever care if the child's school stuff is checked. I don't know what to do.

Narcissistic co-parent told me he would keep me in court and turn people against me if I did not abort our child. He kept to his word and kept me in court for 17 years, appeals, appeals to appeals to the provincial level with 3 judges and then started ALL OVER AGAIN,. The courts allowed it despite my drawing attention to those three reasons to toss it out: frivolous, vexatious and without merit. He represented himself so they heard him out, at my expense, every time. Good luck teaching family court about narcissists!

This was fantastic. You hit the head on the nail with certain specifics in my situation, along with giving simple ways for improvements. Thank you.

This info is gold!!! Sharing!!!

Regarding recording at drop offs.... I have a button on my phone and I hang my phone up on the front dash and record only myself while I wait in the car. By recording myself I can refute accusations and you can still hear the other parent if words are exchanged. Kids don't notice I am recording myself. I have also disclosed, several times by email to the EX, that I will be recording myself EVERY SINGLE TIME so she can't say that she wasn't aware. It works great as a deterrence and evidence against false accusation. Love this discussion. It was very helpful.

Great advice!

Love this app!

I think it’s a good app but it’s the same as having texts you can erase on your side but not on he’s side so it’s just spending money for the benefit of the system I think

Y'all...I'm back here years later reminding myself that I'm doing ok. My daughter is finally seeing her father's true colors and coming to stay with me after almost 3 years. Boy is it causing issues with the Narc. Thank you Dr Ramani for sharing your wisdom. So grateful for you ❤

The counselor assigned to us via the courts could not see my x’s manipulation & lies. Eventually, the courts gave my x full custody. My kids are grown now & are suffering from a life with their narcissistic father. It is heartbreaking to watch my son re-live his past trauma as he works with his therapist. I’m re-living it too! How do I cope?

Bless you for this information ❤

Dr. Ramani this is an amazing insight and great information. I am in the filed of being a mediator and a Professional Supervised Visitation Monitor and you have hit the bullseye with this video

I’m in the process of planning to go to court with my ex wife who is a narcissist to the max. Her family wants to help me get my kids back. We know that she’s a black belt in lying and manipulation. Her family is willing to write a statement on my behalf and go to court. The hard thing is that she has always tried to talk with them and not text because she didn’t want anything to be used against her. They have some but so much more from conversations. We do have a video of her saying she didn’t want anyone recording her. I know how difficult the courts can be but is there any advice that would help me in this process?

Interesting observation; narc survivors interact w and upvote eachothers posts more than other groups im familiar with. Hm. Seems like a manifestation of the need to support and validate, but now its through others like us instead of against us!

Omg thank you, With my ex husband i always ended up over explaining things and writing so much till I learned to do this trick: finish writing the text, then read it, delete it, and just stick to facts. He always made me feel like if I didn't attach receipts, dates, whys and hows it was gonna be a full on 3 hr phone conversation. Now i stick to facts and that's it.

Im in a high conflict situation. As much as I say im not the issue idk anymore.... i need help and advice. Very happy i found your video. I bark back and i neeeeeeed to try not to let him push my buttons... its hard

Narcissistic personality disorder is a real problem. The judges may not want to hear it😡 just like they don't care that these children are in harms way. As a caring mother or father because women can be Narcissistic as well. To the decent parents Fight like hell to free your kids. This is not ok for anyone to constantly being harassed and it's not ok for the Narcissistic parents to use the children. We need stricter laws against this. There seems to be many single parents going through this and no matter how much you document these courts act like you have nothing, the lawyer are ripping us off for thousands and no one cares😢. Strike the fear of god in this Narcissistic. Everyone has a weak spot use it!!!! It has to stop!!!! The courts can't protect your children who are victims in this situation but when your children grow up with serious emotional issues and serious behavior issues the courts are there to lock them up!!!! It's up to us as caring parents to fight back against the Narcissistic parents and the laws that doesn't consider protecting our childrens well being😡 Be victimized by no one!!!!

I really have a problem with the idea that you should never tell your kids what you are going through. So I should really let my kids think that I’m mentally unstable with no reason behind it? That’s bullshit. I’m not telling them every stupid thing he says, but I’m absolutely open with my kids at times about when he’s being extra abusive and my mental health is struggling because of it, and I think that HONESTY with my kids is best. I can’t see any other way around the situation. I won’t be a parent that lies to their kids. Also, I have a cousin whose dad was a horrible narcissist, and when she was a baby he stabbed himself, and then when the police came he told them my Aunt had done it and they took HER to jail. At some point my cousin was told about this, and years later when she was a teenager and he tried this exact same thing with his new victim, she was able to tell the police that he had stabbed himself and he had done it before to her mom, and they arrested HIM. (And my cousin finally got to never have to see him again.) Telling kids the truth arms them with the truth, it protects them and I don’t understand arguing otherwise.

What if my ex is all of the above it just depends on the day?

Judges and attorneys should be able how to spot and read a narcisist

In my opinion, this about not talking bad about the other parent is complete nonsens. We cant just look the other way on how the other parent is beahving, it will just confuse our children.. If we just ignore it will just be more confusing then it already is. But there is a difference on how we talk about it. Just trash talking will do no good, but that dosnt mean you still cant talk about it. For example, if your child brings up something about the other parent or a situation, then you can ask your child like "how does it make you feel when daddy/mommy does that? Or, what do you think is right or wrong?.. Just plant the seed and let your child come up with the conclusion on their own.. Becuse they need to process their trauma, not neglect it..

This is so informational and validating .

What if the other parent refuses any parenting plan / won't even look at one / ripped it up ? And has kept your child from you for years .

This is so helpful!

Thank you for the invitation to attend this great conference. It will help a lot!!!♡

I'm dealing with this Right now thru the Courts and I feel like I'm losing this Battle. Just Terrible 😡😔

I am currently an intern working on my masters for clinical mental health counseling. I sought out additional resources in preparation for working with co-parenting clients. I found this presentation incredibly insightful. Thank you for your time and enthusiasm!