hey brai! congrats on everything! i know it can seem hard when the community doesn’t seem like they want you, but honestly (another comment mentioned this) costa ricans have been harassed by a lot of white savior individuals just in history in general so it’s hard for them to be trusting. i know that wasn’t your intent but maybe try putting yourself in their shoes. you’re a child with pure beautiful intentions so don’t feel bad at all! sometimes for us POC, it’s hard to trust certain individuals (even if they have good energy). glad you made an impact on a couple of kids!

Going to Africa to “literally just play with the kids”. Kayli please explain to me how she isn’t doing this in part for herself. THE AFRICAN KIDS DONT WANT BRAILEE TO GO.

Please answer this: why would foreign children be thankful for an unqualified foreign teacher with zero experience who doesn’t speak the same language as them 😅

Kayli, I’ve been a silent viewer since before Winston was born. I adore u and brai but this video made me extremely uncomfortable. I know you two are wonderful humans which is why I had to click off but some of the things brai said were outrageous. I truly hope you two sit down and do some reflection. We aren’t trying to criticize you just want you to grow and understand others. You can say all you want but ultimately brailee went to Costa Rica for herself. Singing party in the USA even tho she knew she was making those in the bar angry and uncomfortable??! Such a privileged American. Please don’t travel if you can’t be respectful. Wishing children were grateful for your presence?? It’s disgusting she has so much to learn. Also teach her that third world country is a derogatory term since obviously the adults in her life failed her. The correct term is developing. When she brought up how the African kids love white saviors I died inside. Please educate her on diversity, equity and inclusion.

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Brailee's experience is a great conversation starter to look deeper into "help" and mission work! Americans are raised to have a narrower perspective around privilege where we force our ideas of what others need on communities. The term will make you uncomfortable (which isn't a bad thing) and is called White saviorism. It's "an ideology that a White person acts upon from a position of superiority to rescue a BIPOC-Black, Indigenous, or person of color-community or person." Organizations like Brailee's are invited in by officials who disregard what their community expresses they want/need. It's like your parent inviting their co-worker's kids who you don't know to your birthday party. I'm assuming most young women who chose to go on the trip shared Brailee's sentiment of wanting to help and educate, which comes from a good place. But these are the growing pains of coming into adulthood that get complex, which makes you such a better person in the long run. Not everything is so black and white; not all help is asked for or wanted. You can choose to be hurt by it or you can learn from it. We often offer help from a self-centered perspective, what we deem that person needs. But if we stop to ask, "may I help you? If so, how can I help you?" we'll find out exactly what others need. If you think about how Brailee and her roommates were there for only 4 months, can you imagine how many other people that town has seen even in a single year? Their feelings toward her were nothing personal. No doubt, they've seen young women treat their every day lives like a vacation or a coming of age experience, take photos with their children like they were pets, and abuse the resources in their town. People can't help but be wary or defensive when their home is a revolving door for strangers.

What a great podcast I have been wondering how your trip was and what an experience! I did it want to tell you it your safe back I had a friend that had dual citizenship in Costa Rica and ended up dead there and no investigation came up with why! Anyways great stuff here and I can’t wait to here about your safe plans in Utah I love you all your friend here Tom🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹😍😂😍

That's such a weird situation that a school would ask for help from other countries to then not be nice or helpful or kind to those people?? Makes zero sense! My sister did a similar trip maybe about 25 years ago from the UK and I always looked up to her for doing that trip as I was a little girl at that time, so hearing your experiences makes me so proud of you! I guess that's how Layla thinks about you with basically the same age gap! You were so brave! When I first started senior school (high school) I cried and begged my mum to take me home every day for weeks and she basically had to kick me out of the car every day for the first term because I was so scared and sad and lonely so I totally get that feeling. I'm now 32 and I haven't done much on my own since university so it would be a challenge for me to do something outside my comfort zone now. You have inspired me though! Life is for living and we're all proof that you can overcome fears and be strong <3

Yes definitely a podcast with Casey. You can do all craft and vlog about it. You vlogs are not boring I truly enjoy them

Will Brailee be starting a vlog channel to document this new journey?

Are you of the LDS faith? Don’t you have to wear the garments?

Aw I loved this! Love your mother daughter relationship. You should do a family podcast, not sure if anyone has done that before. but just everyone in your family taking turns talking about certain topics with each other. It would be cute to see everyones individual relationships.

Hard to understand how you chose this “company” they sound so unprofessional and scary. You were put in really scary situations for what? To say you “helped” unprivileged kids who hated you being there?

it’s so interesting to here how different it is in different countries because here in the uk it’s common to live at home until ur late 20’s . most people will go off to university at 18 then when they have finished around age 22 move back home with parents so it’s crazy to here braille say she was embarrassed to live at home at 19 when that’s just the normal over here because it’s way too expensive to move out

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You do realize you’re in an entirely new country with different expectations and culture right? You were NOT in the USA.

What a crazy experience for an 18 year old I couldn’t imagine! So much growth I’m sure for Brai I know for me traveling (within the US) has made me so much more confident talking to people and finding things on my own

I love this so much! I love both of you ! Moving away from home is seriously that hardest thing I’ve ever done so I totally feel brai! Especially when you’re moving to somewhere not so welcoming ! ❤️ love you guys and love this pod !

Yes, keep dreaming. I heard (and believe it to be true) that we all need someone to love, something we love to do, and something to look forward to. Thank you for sharing pieces of your heart with us.💟

I definitely think there's a lesson here that Brailee could learn in how some countries (especially ones that are considered by the rest of the world to be poor/behind/third world) don't actually want white saviors coming in from the US. I think there's been an industry made around it, and it sells an opportunity for experience to young white kids. It just doesn't take into account the community you're going into. The entire situation is just white privileged people coming in with a mindset that the community is something that needs to be saved when it doesn't consider itself that, so they can feel better about themselves for doing something good.

This was fun! I'd been wondering about that Costa Rica trip. I hope you all do continue with a podcast.

I love watching every video. I remember watching Gage and Bralie when you guys did crafts ❤❤ Amazing articulation of the stories - love mom and daughter Duo Thank you Kayli for putting this effort. I get inspired to be a mom like you ❤

i heard about brai going to costa rica 6-7 months ago and i looked into it and now im going to mexico with the same program! next summer:)

I would love a podcast about living with a grown child :-) That sounds like a good idea

Such weird things to say.. alluding to the fact that you wish they were “poorer”? And assuming those in other countries don’t have iPhones?? And speaking on how you wanted the children to love you comes from a very self-serving place. Should not have to teach children English in other countries in order to feel loved

Brailey has learned from the best about loving (her Mama)! Maybe a nurse or a nurse’s aid in paediatrics is your calling! It sounds like you want to love children who need to be loved!

I would love a podcast about how your family deals with being mormon.Are you still mormon? Do you go to church and do all the mormon things like wear the garments and stuff like that.

Sounds like a horrible experience in Costa Rica but you seem to have made the best out of it!! Such a great experience regardless!!! Congratulations on going to school and I wish you all the best!

Brailee!!!! Geesh girl!! I had no idea. You are a ray of sunshine please don’t ever loose that. I am so very sorry this happened. And it is serious very serious. I just want to give you a hug. Congratulations on moving. Have fun and enjoy. My youngest closes on her first house in a couple hours!! 😳 I feel for you Kayli but it will be ok…fingers crossed. 😂😬

I recently travelled with my school to Cambodia, a third world country in Asia, to teach English and renovate their classrooms! It’s 100% the company’s doing for making brailees experience so unfortunate.

if one of your kids want to be part of the LGBTQ+ are you going to support that or what will you do?

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Loved watching this! So proud of you Brai! P.s I had to move back in with my parents for 9 months at 27 and it was tough for both me and my parents but they were so accommodating for the same reasons you said Kayli. I had to sell my house with an ex and buy a new place alone and so she didn't want me to be spending all of my money on rent in the meantime. So grateful for them but would be good to see you both talk about it from your experiences

You didn’t want her to come home after they threatened to put her in jail? Was this with the church at all or just an outside company? Or a girl getting a concussion and not being sent home? Sounds like a horrible company

Or maybe they send young girls there because they know they are the most vulnerable…this all does sound very serious

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Haven't even watched yet and I'm so excited to see the new video! ❤

I love Bailee she still my favorite she was little girl but she grown up 18 year old

So happy that you are home , Braille

I wonder if the kids/families just didn't like feeling like they needed "white saviors". Not saying that's why you went I'm just thinking maybe that's why they gave you pushback. I think you should share the name of the program so others don't run into a similar situation!

Wow Costa Rica sounded like you had a very interesting experience. Good luck on your future plans.

Unfortunately "law enforcement" there is so corrupt. You can't even trust it's legitimate law enforcement. They will 100% scare you just to get money. The rules were 100% to keep you safe. It's terrifying there. I'm glad you're home.

Thank you Braille, this was fun. I’m sorry it wasn’t the experience you expected. Wishing you all the best and hope all your dreams come true. 🩷🇨🇦

oooooh brailee i hope you are moving mostly for yourself and not primarily for the boyfriend🥲 i hope all the luck and good things follow you 😆 love the pod!! also totally also miss the moms view!!

Greetings from Costa Rica. I am sorry you had a difficult time here. Many of the problems you encountered seem to be a result of the company you travelled with. They should have prepared you with the history of the country and what to expect especially discussing your safety. So, Costa Rica is not a 3rd world country…..they have dissolved their army and used the money for universal healthcare and education, many software companies have offices here and the amount of world trade they are doing is increasing every year. There is an American hospital in San Jose that provides outstanding care. I am retired Nurse Practitioner from the United States, and I can tell you that the healthcare I receive here is outstanding. One of the reasons that you might have felt uncomfortable or unwelcome is that so many “ westerners “ are moving here. My husband and I live here in Atenas 6 months of the year and in Virginia.

Also, Brailee you really articulated your story and feelings surrounding Costa Rica really well. I totally felt how much you valued the experience and how much you wanted to help. It sounds like the program didn’t really support your guys as much as they should have. It also sounds like they didn’t do a good job communicating to the school what you’re there for. I’m sorry you had some negative experiences! But you’re so well spoken though! Would you be able to talk about growing up with cousins are your same age?

Omg I was literally just watching old when the kids go to sleep podcasts with you on it, Kayli, and watching old TMV classics!! So excited for this podcast to drop!

This made me so happy to see!! Hope to see more!

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