Learn what makes you lonely. I would get distracted on a phone call or movie and my house would get dark in the evening. The dark made me super sad and lonely. I got in the habit of turn my lamps on really early so my house never gets dark. The warm lamp light is so cozy and safe. Sometimes you can’t fight the lonely feel but sometimes you can.

I have a calendar on my fridge that only has fun things on it. I don't put anything related to work, paying bills, etc. That's for my online calendar. I love to look at my Fun Calendar. It keeps me focused on that area of my life so I don't just work...ha

I've been divorced for 26 years after being married for 18 years. I truly love living on my own and sharing my house with 2 cats. I tell people, "The best part of being on my own is that everything's up to me. The worst part of being on my own is that everything's up to me." I have become so independent and capable and have learned to do so many things, mostly out of necessity. Big tip: don't be aftaid to eat out on your own or go to the movies on your own. Sure, it'll feel awkward the first few times, but it's so freeing.

I started crying within 3 minutes of watching this video. I thought I was doing a bad job. I thought I was failing. I thought because I am hungry that I'm not doing this right. But you helped me understand how big of a deal the first few months of moving out alone will be, you helped me feel so much better and cleared the guilt about being lonely or a little rocky with priorities. I cannot say thank you enough. Thank you for saying it's okay to feel the way I'm feeling. I don't feel alone anymore.. I feel like I'm doing just fine..

My husband passed away 5 months ago & now I’m by myself. I call my family & friends. They come to visit me. I feel better now.

I'm going through a divorce currently and soon I'll be living on my own. I got married right out of highschool so I've never been on my own. As much as I'm excited,I'm also nervous cause it's gonna be a whole new experience. I really appreciate the tips, they're very helpful 💚

Just stumbled upon your channel and thought these tips were for young people and almost moved on to another channel but quickly realized that as a 69 year old widow, these tips still apply. In fact, I practice most of them and love living alone Thank you.

Respected ladies and gentlemen; Born in 1973....All my childhood, teenage yrs. I've seen my parents 💥argue, 💥squabble, 💥fight over the pettiest of things. Now they're dead. But the aftermath of their marriage is such that I chose to live alone ; in peace { with my books, my hobbies, my thoughts and above all with my dear Ol'God almighty}. God sent me on Earth; alone, I choose to stay; alone, I'll die & travel to other dimensions ; alone.

I have been widowed for 19 years and I love living alone... It has made me strong as an independent..💕

Thank you so much for the tips, I (34 M)got dumped by my gf 2 months ago from a 6 year relationship. I had to live with my ex for those 2 months because I was struggling to find a place for myself. Today, I was finally able to move out. I moved everything, and after everything was done, I just bawled my eyes out, like ugly crying, I probably didn't cry like that since I was a child, also a day before moving out I found out that she started dating with others about half a month ago. It hit me pretty bad and since I was living with her and other roomies for the good part of a decade and I'm suddenly living alone and the fact that she's seeing other people just joined forces and danced the polka on my psyche. Now I'm in my new bed that I built in 4 hours and watching your videos, and they really help. So thank you again I will follow your advice.

Took some getting used to, but now I love it. I love being able to eat whatever I want every single day, and I *LOVE* being able to clean my house and it just...stays that way. I'm just now starting to adjust to the fact that I can decorate my house however I want now.

im introverted so i think it would be very peaceful for me to live alone

I could be wrong, but to me, being out with your headphones could keep you unaware of danger.

Going through a divorce, and honestly this gave me so much hope on one of the hard days. Thank you!

I am almost 63 and have lived in a special care home for 6 years, and am preparing to move out into assisted living, so these tips are very useful, Tanh You!

What I did for me was to reach out to a therapist to help me through my emotions and being alone for the first time. Thank you for this beautiful video, it made me very positive and hopeful ❤

I can't believe this video!!! I have had the EXACT SAME experience for the past 14 months 😊😊😊. Thank you for this truckload of positivity ❤

This video is so helpful and comforting. I am currently going through a breakup with my live-in partner. I have so much anxiety about moving into my own place, but I am also excited to really make it my own without having to run everything by my partner and get approvals to make the space the way I want it. I know this season of anxiety will pass with time, looking forward to finding peace with living alone. Will be using these tips! Especially the preparation. So thank you thank you!

Ha ha. I talk to myself all the time. Well also the cats as well. I’m kind of a “living alone” veteran (and a former latch key kid lol) but lately I’ve just been feeling like interesting and intelligent convo is hard to find. And sometimes you can just feel like I should have more friends. People might say you need to be more “social” but also solitude can become one of the best friends you’ve ever had. But my background was fleeing toxic relationships tho and it’s truly better to be “alone” than with bad people…for the sake of just not being alone.

Thank you ❤ I love living along , most of my life I’ve been alone and I have no regrets . I’m in my middle 70 and just moved into my last home in a small community. Great tips ,

we need more people like you on youtube !!!

Dear Lauren, I have been living on my own for years and these tips you gave are just excellent, most I hadn't known! So even after years, these tips are great!!! Thank you for your warm, heart-felt video. You are special. May everyone who listens to you and yourself have peaceful, cozy, safe-feeling goodnights.🌛⭐

Excellent tips. I'm not sure I could have come up with half of those at your age. I'm decades older than you, and many of those tips still apply. I didn't hear you mention books, but those have been a lifesaver for me. Not only do I learn (I read non-fiction), but I can get into a discussion with the authors through journaling.

This video is confirming because I am the only one I know that do this. I have lived alone for many years and I have meticulously scheduled everything. This is something I have been doing since middle school. Even though I only follow through with half of what I write down, having a schedule keeps me productive. I even schedule little things like washing my hair or picking out my clothes for the next five days. I've sometimes been late to work because I had to make a decision before work on what clothes to wear that I did not pre set. I also agree with the content creator about chores. I only do chores for one hour.. Then I recontinue cleaning the nexy day. Like the content creator I'm least likely to get overwhelmed when I break down things I don't like into small segments one at a time.When I was in school I hated studying so I would only study each subject for one hour then come back to that subject later. If I didn't do that I would day dream and not focus intently on my subject of study. I didn't have Focus Mate in the 1990's but I did have the Library for studying. If people around me were studying then it was easy for me to study. Same thing for working out: If I saw other people at the gym working out then it was easy for me to work out. The gym was better then working out at home. This is a good video weather you live alone or with roommates or live with your family. Some parts of this video is good advice for having order and structure in your day to day life.

I was on my own for about 18 years before being married for a good stretch and am back on my own again . Your advice is good and your have such a friendly manner that anyone would be happy to be your neighbor 👍 (cookies or not)

I moved out for the first time in February and never really settled in and have been lost. But then my dog passed suddenly last week and now I have to make my apartment my own even more so I can feel at home grieving if that makes sense? So this video is very helpful. I think I’ll start celebrating my on-my-own-iversary as well!!!

Thank you for this video. I’m recently separated and getting a divorce. M41 years old and I’ve been living with her for 15 years. We have a seven year old in the mix and they have all left the family home last Friday, including the dog. So far, we are very amicable that I am finding it very difficult to adjust to the big empty house. I really appreciate this video and your outlook on life, I really needed that today.

Thanks, i feel validated now especially on the bored part. Every night, i get so bored i just walk around my apt

Thank you. from the bottom of my heart. I am a nearly 20 yo student moving this summer to be closer to the Uni i wanna go to and my girlfriend, I have been TERRIFIED, but how much i know I'll be shouldering on my own for the first time and this advice truly was helpful. Even just seeing you so openly talk about the struggles of it. I'm glad there are people out there like you with a platform, letting people know there's somewhere to go and feel safe, even if its just a channel on the internet

I just loooooooved so much this video. I¿m 22 and thinking of living alone, but my family isn't really accepting it (I have already graduated, have a job, etc) but I think they just see mee as a really young person hahaha which makes me scared of it sometimes, listening to this advices was really helpful and make me feel calm,

Have been walking this journey and it's taken a little longer for me getting through the uncomfortable zone, but I'm starting to see the light. This is a very funny and inspirational video. Wishing you all the best!

Going through the first rough breakup of my life i have a few months to live with my ex partner before i have to for the first time in my life as a 24 year old living on my own and someone who also struggles with abandonment issues, chronic loneliness, and severe anxiety. This process is really hard already and im trying to make this transition as easy and comfortable as possible.

Well done. 🎉 You are adjusting well to being on your own this is good. Make sure you go for medical checkups with your doctor occassionally. ❤.

I enjoy living alone for the most part. As a social introvert, I realise I only get scared when I feel helpless and feel, if I can't be self sufficient then life is hell. One, become lonely because one can't make many social friends so it is a habit. But also, one starts enjoying the independence of alone space, but what gets to you is when u feel helpless. That's the scary part. And then the problem is u just cannot become social and when u try u feel uncomfortable or bored. Then u come back home and are happy....but suddenly a bug or pest is in the house, or a life situation that involves getting out and dealing with people and situations u don't know how to tackle and suddenly you feel HELPLESS AND LONELY and invisible with no support group. So now my conclusion is...if living alone was without fear or stress....most people will enjoy living alone. But fear and helplessness drives a lot of people to be around people. It's just a safety in numbers. Being with someone who doesn't really pay attention to u can also be very lonely and worst... isolating.

Monday 25th December 2023. 17.42pm. "Dear Madam. Good-evening. How are you? I trust you are well." "I, have lived on my OWN for many years 14yrs+. The thing is .. I do better on my own. I am MORE successful. I get less headaches. Less arguments etc. I am Afro-carribean and England, is not my Country so therefore, I struggle day-to-day, with RACISM etc. Living alone is fine. I encourage MORE PEOPLE to do it. Do not be afraid. Life Is unfair. Life favours the rich and well to do." Yours Respectfully. Sir Francesca Kray.

Excellent advice--very practical. One variation on giving a key to a neighbor is to get a padlock-type key box (where you have to line up a dial or type a code to open it). Give that to the neighbor and if there's an emergency, you can give them the code. I'm sure the boxes can be broken into, but it's just a little more secure if you're unsure who comes and goes from their apartment, or if the neighbor might be a little too eager to check on you. :)

This is a great video; so many good suggestions. I think it's a really helpful thing for seniors who fear ending up alone later in life, like a widow. But even though I am scared of being lonely, I think there are a lot of good things about being on your own.

this is such an excellent and uplifting video about treating yoursekf well and self care

You are doing great :) I am so proud of you. Made a lot of mistakes in life but I am trying to be a better person.

Amazing- I was just eating and flipping through KZfaq suggestions and this video was one - my former spouse divorced me in 2015 and announced her engagement via Fakebook right after divorce court. It was a very hard transition - my guy friends from church ⛪️ supported me with prayer 🙏 and understanding. I’m 59 now and still living alone with anxiety, some depression and trust issues (especially concerning women). After scrolling, I see that there are three other guys that have commented - wonder how many others would if they weren’t afraid of what others would think about them. Thanks for ideas - I came home thinking about how can I make life more than just work, food, shower and sleep- repeat every day… like the main character in the movie “Nobody” 😕

I'm really happy that I found your channel. My experience is a little different, I used to live independently but not alone (with flatmates), now I am getting a divorce and so far the living alone part is absolutely amazing. I feel so fresh, energized and free. And I hope everyone in this comment section experiences this in such a way. My advice on learning to cook for one is to print out some info on how long can certain foods stay in a freezer, put it on your fridge and freeze any leftover food you have before it goes bad. This way you can learn how much food you need without wasting it and you have backup meals for busy or lazy days.

I just got out of a relationship a month ago and I’m finally on my own after 27 years of living… I’ve always wanted this but for some reason the empty feeling inside became to eat at me more recently and I’m trying to shake it! This video and the comments really help 💕

that candle burning 🔥 next to dried flowers

I'm probably your oldest viewer in distress! I'm 57 and have never been alone but heading there QUICKLY. My mom is gone now. We lived with her for 6 years after our special needs daughter moved out of state. My husband is mostly bedridden. We moved into a small apartment complex (4 units) and have nothing to do with any of them. (After thinking about what you said, holidays are coming. So I think I'll make some Italian treats and use the opportunity to hand them out. Hopefully it will help.) I don't know how much longer I'll have my husband, but after that I'm on my own, so I'm trying to figure out how to navigate my life. So, thank you for sharing your thoughts, experiences and encouragement to all of us. Praying you have a lovely rest of your life!

Thank you Lauren, another great video. I appreciate you putting out so much great content. Some of these things I would have never thought of on my own. Thanks for sharing.

Im moving out on my own this month. I am so excited! I am defintely already a very introverted person and i think itll be a good transition. I found yoir tips around to reach out/ be more social treat. I think the ones about knowing your neighbors and your "get good at knowing less".

Hey, finally, you have an actual Dresser! And choosing a Girly things. On my own anniversary day( like it ). And cooking for one, instead of my family. Enjoy my own company... Thanks for the tips.

I'm new here, just found this video, so helpful. I have been on my own since my son moved out a couple years ago. I wish I had seen this video then! Great tips! ❤

hi there! I've stumbled across your video, and i found it really touching :) I'm usually the quiet viewer, but this video made me think for a while I'm scared for whatever is going to happen in the future, I'll move abroad when i finish high school and I'll be on my own. although i really love to be alone, I'm afraid of what is going to happen, because my family or friends will not be there with me, so I'm feeling a little bit lost thank you so much for your advices, I'll do my best to apply them in the future

I've been living on my own since my divorce in April 2022. With this video I felt seen and definitely less lonely. Thank you for that ❤️

Congratulations! Freedom is powerful….😊

Just what I needed

As an introvert being a lone wasn’t really my problem what did scare me at first was bill payments so I’d recommend to budget. I had to cut back on buying stuff and only buy things I need. The neighbour tip is good thing because it shows your respectful and in an emergency they can help you.

meal prepping is my way to go about food, i don't particularly enjoy cooking so that works for me. i loved your video and learning from your perspective after a divorce. i moved out of my parents in need of peace and quiet so it's interesting learning from your seeking of community. i just subscribed :)

This is you tube is exceptionally good.I am a 56 year old male .One thing I can do is to eat well ,don't have to be expensive,avoid too much anger if you can and yes plan for today,tomorrow but keep it to yourself just think maybe tomorrow might be better.

I just recently started pursuing a divorce, which means I’ll be moving across the country to be closer to family. I’m excited for it but also feel so clueless. Glad I found your channel!

I love this video, and will return to it frequently. I went from living with a big family to living with a smaller family to living with multiple roommates to being a mother figure to someone's kids for a short while. Now I'm preparing for my first time alone at 27 years old. I'm excited, and a little nervous. I've got my emotional support animal, my home defense tool, and some trusted local friends and siblings so I think I'm all set. One bit of advice I want to talk about though. When dealing with cars, please don't let your mechanic or dealership know you don't know about cars. They may charge you more for not knowing what you're supposed to pay for. Ex: I had a mechanic try to charge me for 3 visits on a transmission issue but I was able to watch them do literally nothing. I started putting marks on all my bolts and anything that moved so I could prove they hadn't been touched. Got a full workup for free after that.

your vibes are SO comfy omg ♥

I will be on my own so scared of The budget and the loneliness, especially since I grew up in a big family, and my biggest fear is that the apartment is not beautiful. I hope i can read my comment after while and laugh on my self that it was much easier then i have imagined

Hi, Lauren. Welcome!

I leave the TV on so I dont feel alone

My husband left 2 years ago. I'm now trying to come up for air. This was helpful. I don't have any friends or family near. I do know one neighbor. I'm struggling. I will say for the ladies don't garden at night last summer I was watering my plants and got bit by a snake at midnight.... Had to call an ambulance go to the hospital alone stayed alone had the Uber home because I don't know anyone. I don't know how to make friends... I'm 49 and was married for 20 years. My kids are in a different state. I can't just go home and be a burden on them.

I’m about to be living on my own in a few weeks and I feel so many things. Financial stress aside, I’m excited to get out of my parents house and finally have my space and independence, but I worry so much about loneliness. I don’t have a significant other, I don’t even have friends to be honest. I want to be more excited for this next chapter, but I fear that I will be overcome with painful lonely. I have been there before even while not living on my own.

I was the oldest of 9 children...never alone! I had 3 Daughters and once my oldest was 11 and the other 2 followed our house was always filled with girls!! I'm alone now and don't think I'll ever get used to being lonely! 😢

So grateful you make and share these videos 💛

I really appreciate we have something in common I can relate thanks for an inspiring story,God bless.

Develop your hobby: book reading, painting, drawing, writing, photography, outdoor walking, day trips to nearby towns , fun shopping ( no spending required), baking classes, pottery, learn a new language online, plan a short vacation to a national or state park. Invite a friend.

That little song at the end was so encouraging! Thank you for the great tips on solo life! Glad I’m not alone!

So helpful, thank you!!

I have decided to live alone because I have tried to join various groups ie volunteer,recovery etc.Frankly I got very hurt.Never the less I will join others.I think the list is a very good idea.Take care of your health etc more than anything else.This you tube is v v good.

I’m here for the very end of this video ❤❤❤ my fav. Thanks for this I definitely needed to hear it before the big move

I was an only child, so living alone, never bothered me. I always kept written, audio and video journals. I love the KZfaq, and I made videos for free from age 70 to age 75. Help others, who are not beggars, Use wired notebooks and both sides of the legal pads.

These tips will really come in handy! Thank you for sharing these. 😊

Thanks for this I am a DVD and sa survivor and am living alone for the first time so embarrassing but I am scared all the time but I will make it happen for me this time ❤😊

Being alone is a process. First you go through the steps of misery. I also believe that everyone has a different perspective and it depends how bad your situation is I am Enjoying my current solitude state, never better than this. Blessings

this video was very wholesome it made me smile a lot

You are so lovely. Thank you for this content and your honesty. X

Hi, I'm 23 and started living on my own. I feel quite lonely, especially at night. And for some reason, talking to friends or family over the phone makes me even more lonely ?? Anyway, thank you for this video it was quite helpful ! And you're beautiful

Great tips 💯 I especially like #2

I thought I had living single down pat until I heard tip #4. I am running to Walmart right now to stock up on essentials. Thank you so much!!!❤❤❤

You’re so young! This was great advice. I want to move out, but I’m not so sure if I can do it for some reason. Thank you again.

I'm 24 going to be on my own soon ill be having my hamster I'm glad I picked this video I'm currently having some fears about being on my own especially with my ADHD I've always all my life I've had someone with me I'm scared that on my own ill screw everything up and land myself on the streets again

Hi ive just found your vlog still watching infact, I lost my wife who was also my best friend and its seriously lonely at the moment after 53 yrs together, Hardest part there's no one to even ask if they want a coffee or tea just simple things like that, Dont know how am going to cope being single its awful at moment i crack up at a moments notice.

Some great tips, I'm divorced at age 70's different feeling than when you're younger but enjoying the freedom learning how to adjust in a older don't be afraid of being your own friend

And don't forget to put God in the middle of your life. With God in your life you will never truly be alone and your life will have real meaning and you will make a difference in the world.

I love this I’m about to be on my own as been with someone for long time and it’s been abusive but now I’m going to end up in a house share in a single room excited and nervous. A little lost and not sure how to put my life into a single room ? Would be great to see a video on must have essentials ie bed clothing space etc or game changing things you’ve found

Thank you so much for this video! ❤ this was so helpful. And so many things that feel painful are super normal from the way you’re saying them. This is an adventure! 🎉

❤ Love it!

im about to move out for the first time, so im happy I found your video on my feed^^

l just found your channel. you are inspiring. keep going girl

This video has been so helpful! 😊 I have not come across one which helps people who live alone! Some very useful tips too! I actually feel less alone now! Thank you so much about the positives about living alone. Reassuring about how to connect with neighbours as well 👍 😂

I've always been lived with my parents. But now I'm planning to live alone. I'm scared. But hope it will turn good.

Just found you and hate to say this however I got married the year after I graduated married in 1987 and currently his caregiver. I no longer have me time. But when I am alone I will probably be lost ya know I'm 55 now with my own mental and emotional and medical issues and now I don't matter ok I'm fine love your attitude ❤️

Your story is so relatable wtf Was engaged in an almost 4-year relationship and she broke up with me a few days ago and even crazier: I’m 21!!!

Why does everyone make living alone out to be this complicated thing. It's pretty straight forward really...

I love your energy! Thank you for the great advice 💚

hi Lauren, I just want to say that this video came at the perfect time for me. Thank you so much! Also, I do the same out-loud check before I leave the house :)

Thanks for this!

Thank you. I really needed this

Wonderful suggestions. Thank you for sharing this. You are blessed to learn these tips at such a young age. Go you & thanks for being an inspiration!