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3 Secrets to Be Irresistible to Him...Without Saying a WORD!

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Mat Shaffer

Mat Shaffer

5 жыл бұрын

We spend so much time worrying about our words, when we have so much more powerful ways to connect with people!
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@ivyschank6940
@ivyschank6940 4 жыл бұрын
“Only 5% of what he hears are your words”...makes sense😒
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
right?! gives us some great guidance on what to focus on with communication :)
@just_a_light
@just_a_light Жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂
@priscillaL83
@priscillaL83 Жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂
@BetterTogether300
@BetterTogether300 18 күн бұрын
Only hearing 5 percent?
@pattyhill9278
@pattyhill9278 4 жыл бұрын
Loved the little giggle after you said, 5%; yes 5% . I love men. They are so ......words escaped me. By the way, I am 61 and happily married 32 years. Still learning though. Thank you for your help.😁
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
congratulations on the 32 years! we should all continue to learn throughout our entire life.
@minxfarah364
@minxfarah364 3 жыл бұрын
Having a signature scent with a mysterious yet seductive note. Smiling even though I don’t have a great one, happy people are always going to be drawn into and finally being comfortable around their presences. This video is facts. Discussed good points us females tend to look away😋
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 6 ай бұрын
I’m glad to hear everything worked out well.
@iamURHO
@iamURHO 4 жыл бұрын
I like your "energy" as a person! 😊
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
thank you, URHO!
@brookeroothaan7731
@brookeroothaan7731 3 жыл бұрын
Me2. Thank u so much for helping us ladies
@anjiline
@anjiline Жыл бұрын
I did this. My guy mentioned on several occasions how this tactic made him feel more comfortable with me. I return I sensed a deep sense of respect and connection from him in the intial phases of dating.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing!
@sandrachavez5382
@sandrachavez5382 4 жыл бұрын
Excellent tips! I will focus on my nonverbal communication next time... I smile and make eye contact (3 -5 seconds) in a natural way because it's part of my personality but I feel I speak a lot (perhaps nervousness) and have to keep in mind that it's only 5% ...thanks a lot for the video!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
so welcome!
@emma-dc6dl
@emma-dc6dl 3 жыл бұрын
The way he smile.. Oh my heart..
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 6 ай бұрын
Glad to hear that.
@laram5104
@laram5104 3 жыл бұрын
I keep eye contact much longer because I enjoy looking in his eyes.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 6 ай бұрын
Thanks so much for your feedback!
@jylbek71
@jylbek71 4 жыл бұрын
His quick moments of laughter throughout are so cute... I think he knows that, too :)
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
🤗
@Bobi484
@Bobi484 4 жыл бұрын
Well, when I like someone I can't actually help smiling and looking at him. Mat, you've got a nice smile too!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
@aaryalouise6391
@aaryalouise6391 4 жыл бұрын
I not only watch your videos in order to learn how to attract guys but also how to subtly show that I'm not interested by doing the contrary of what is mentioned in the videos. Thanks for all the advice
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
amazing so glad to hear that!!
@heatherherries1754
@heatherherries1754 4 жыл бұрын
I've seen many relationship type videos and yours are by far the most relatable. Your videos are great for me. Thank you
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Wow, thank you!
@tracismith1715
@tracismith1715 4 жыл бұрын
I love the eyes! Key 🔑 2 the soul!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
thanks love!! Totally agree :)
@jeccym8715
@jeccym8715 4 жыл бұрын
Ahhhh, that's why the guy am seeing right now says he likes the way I look at him, I didn't know how important is eye contact, thanks for letting us know! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
aww YAY glad this helped you ! :)
@blingblingnelida
@blingblingnelida 4 жыл бұрын
Hi Mat... Thank you for Being for us Ladies...You Rock...!!!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
YOU ROCK!!!
@santosacosta1199
@santosacosta1199 4 жыл бұрын
I trust your input on this subject matter more than any woman’s viewpoint because only men fully understand other men
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
Exactly you got it Santos Acosta!
@gigybumper6989
@gigybumper6989 4 жыл бұрын
I need this right now in my marriage
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
yesssss
@santosacosta1199
@santosacosta1199 4 жыл бұрын
I’d love to hear more about attracting younger men please
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
great idea Im gonna do one of those soon!
@santosacosta1199
@santosacosta1199 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks, Matt. You’re easy to listen to. I enjoy that you speak with your kind eyes and brilliant smile.
@honey77777
@honey77777 4 жыл бұрын
Please make a podcast 😭🥺 I love your videos so much wow
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
aw thats so sweet! YES definitely planning to launch a podcast in the next 12 months or so :)
@annamariest.angelo8523
@annamariest.angelo8523 4 жыл бұрын
I Adore You ! Mat Shaffer 💗 Your 💗 Relationship Connection 💗 Coaching ~ Is Seriously. . . . So Spot On 💗
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much Anna Marie St.Angelo! 🙏❤️
@sharonslye2690
@sharonslye2690 4 жыл бұрын
What you say and how you convey it, makes more sense to me then others in your field. Plus you're handsome with eyes are so beautiful!!!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 5 ай бұрын
Aw thanks you’re making me blush;)
@duqueshinclaudem.s2035
@duqueshinclaudem.s2035 2 жыл бұрын
Great advises! thanks Matt for sharing this kind of video. Listening from: Manila Philippines and your subscriber.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 2 жыл бұрын
Awesome, thank you! So glad you enjoyed it! :)
@Saffronikka
@Saffronikka 4 жыл бұрын
Great info, thank you! I would love to see a video that talks about how to know when I am engaging in healthy vulnerability verses unhealthy or toxic behaviors. That would be much appreciated🙏🏻😁
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
GREAT SUGGESTION it's been added to my topic list... look for a video on this in the future :)
@louisianaeu828
@louisianaeu828 4 жыл бұрын
Check Instagram Lovingmeafterwe
@realworld2737
@realworld2737 4 жыл бұрын
Awesome...first time I heard this from relationship coach...Thank you so much for this video.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
fantastic so glad to hear that!!
@dena9849
@dena9849 4 жыл бұрын
I did all that and Im still single.
@dena9849
@dena9849 4 жыл бұрын
I think a man and I expect different things in life.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
set intentions and be patient, there are lots of men out there! :)
@MilkCh0c0lat3
@MilkCh0c0lat3 4 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@ladyshenna967
@ladyshenna967 4 жыл бұрын
I know that's right
@radjeramel1736
@radjeramel1736 4 жыл бұрын
Dena@😊😂!!!!
@winnieclarito1279
@winnieclarito1279 4 жыл бұрын
Oh Mat. I’ve watching this video for the 3rd times, trying to memorizing your advices. Trying to date again after 5 years. I’m so excited but hahah gosh ... you know that feeling? I can’t believe explain either i feel scared, or not enough confidence ? I’m trying my best. :)
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
Fantastic loving hearing that Winnie clarito! Keep us posted on how things are going 🤗
@sallierichards9810
@sallierichards9810 4 жыл бұрын
You. Are. Good!!!
@captainswan3079
@captainswan3079 3 жыл бұрын
Update?
@Sindi63084
@Sindi63084 4 жыл бұрын
I smile at anyone and it's been that way all my life. How do I stop this bcos some men mistake it for something else? And I've a gorgeous smile
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
dont hide your smile!
@virtue1495
@virtue1495 4 жыл бұрын
If you don’t like it then smile without showing your teeth. Show your teeth to the hearts you wanna win.
@hunny585
@hunny585 4 жыл бұрын
@@virtue1495 haha i love thiss
@wildwoman4911
@wildwoman4911 4 жыл бұрын
Mat, thank you! This was very good and a clear explanation. QUESTION: How can I do this in messages/texts on a dating site?
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
hmmm interesting question! I may do another video on that :)
@marilynclark7298
@marilynclark7298 3 жыл бұрын
Thank You Mat !!!! Sometimes just exchanges of the most casual of looks speaks volumes!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 6 ай бұрын
I appreciate your opinion on this!
@lovelife3298
@lovelife3298 4 жыл бұрын
Second time I’ve watched you-- wicked good- thank you!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
thank YOU!!!
@yolandaneely6431
@yolandaneely6431 4 жыл бұрын
Mat you are amazing! Thank you for giving great advice!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
wonderful so glad you liked it :)
@DavidSmith3750
@DavidSmith3750 Жыл бұрын
You’re Amazing. I Love it. After 46 years marriage I wish I knew all this info long ago. Missing my hubby so much starting Dating. All over you are a blessing Making the connection. Been difficult. Your help is truly Been inspirational ty ty ty ty
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Many thanks!
@Bianca-sw5id
@Bianca-sw5id Жыл бұрын
I love this colour shirt on you , Mat 🥰
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Oh thank you!
@Bianca-sw5id
@Bianca-sw5id Жыл бұрын
@@Mat_Shaffer🌹☺️
@angelfriend5211
@angelfriend5211 5 жыл бұрын
Your 60%/35%/5% formular is very fascinating. I didn't realize that the tone makes out 35%. There's a topic that would really interest me: What about dating a colleague? Could you make a video about how to go about dating a colleague. At my new job I met an extremely nice man, and we really like each other and he's been giving me a lot of signals, but I've been relatively reserved because I'll be working there till next March, and I don't want to end up in an embarrassing situation. So I'm not showing him too much of my feelings. I would love to hear a video from you on this topic. I love your videos very much, thanks!!!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 5 жыл бұрын
Love that my stuff resonated with you so much Vera! And YES that’s a great idea for a video... let me think about how to best address it 🤗🤗
@aquilinasayson9975
@aquilinasayson9975 4 жыл бұрын
Eloquent speaker
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
thanks!!
@colemacedo-phillips5768
@colemacedo-phillips5768 3 жыл бұрын
Body language sure makes sense.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Yes it is!
@Melli510
@Melli510 3 жыл бұрын
Let's talk about long distance relationship!
@paulamieczkowski2152
@paulamieczkowski2152 3 жыл бұрын
I’m in a long distance relationship. We’re 70! Lol. Every other month he comes to me. In between we just talk dirty.lolol. It works for us and we love each other madly! It does work.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 6 ай бұрын
Interesting perspective, thanks so much!
@paula-elizabeth
@paula-elizabeth 4 жыл бұрын
Excellent Video Mat, I am very interested in Relationship Coaching - it’s a Great topic - and it’s what started me on my Personal Development Journey. You say exactly the types of things that the best people I’ve heard say too, so Thank-you! Funnily enough I was going to ask you about doing a video on how to be irresistible to a man. Marie Forleo - who I think is Fantastic - has a concept about being irresistible and her first book is; “How to be so dame Irresistible You’ll Barely Keep From Dating Yourself”! - I can’t find it in Amazon at mo. So I was curious to here from a man’s perspective what is perceived as irresistible by a high value man - Thank-you for answering that for me. 👌🏽👍🏽💫😃🌟
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the beautiful share Paula-Elizabeth 🙏
@irma2522
@irma2522 4 жыл бұрын
Just be yourself 😎
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
YEP you got it!!
@NelehLove9313
@NelehLove9313 4 жыл бұрын
Yes!!
@andreabivens5840
@andreabivens5840 2 жыл бұрын
You are seriously so great thank you
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much my dear!
@sharonslye2690
@sharonslye2690 4 жыл бұрын
I lost my last partner in 2015, my current love interest met us when he was still alive. He was raised to believe that you don't mess with a friend's woman even after he dies. I'd like you do you a few videos and how you show him that you want to be more than friends with him. Also reply to me please!!!
@christina4018
@christina4018 4 жыл бұрын
Sometimes the direct approach is the best, just ask him ! Clearly after 5 years it’s completely acceptable to be more than friends if that’ s what you both want, but of course he could just be making excuses why he hasn’t made a move on you. A more subtle approach if you don’t want to ask him outright if he could see you as more than a friend is touch, I’ve seen it recommended that you start by just a quick playful grab of his arm and judge the reaction! Men do this to women too. At least if you try, you’ll have the clarity of being able to move on maybe to someone who is interested in having a relationship with you, and not wasting time hoping this person will be ready to sometime. Five years is a long time to wait and hope, good luck.
@llllIIIlllIIllllII
@llllIIIlllIIllllII 3 жыл бұрын
The direct approach is to become the Lego star wars venator class star destroyer set number 8039
@graceafuoku1045
@graceafuoku1045 11 ай бұрын
Thanks mat. Your relationship tips are really helping me out. I have followed alot that has rescue my love life a whole lot ❤
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 11 ай бұрын
You're so welcome!
@jamiejohanson2662
@jamiejohanson2662 4 жыл бұрын
Dear Mat thank you for all these great tools,it helps a lot🤗... I would love it if u also do a new video about couples with age gap,and share your experiences ,ideas with us about it!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
oh I love that topic! i recorded a video on that today and will be releasing it within a week!
@janac2881
@janac2881 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much. Jana - Texas
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 2 жыл бұрын
You are so welcome!
@Bianca-sw5id
@Bianca-sw5id Жыл бұрын
I would like to know about long distance relationship 🙂 🥰 ways to keep warm and positive (because this is a difficult thing to master)-
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Great suggestion!
@Bianca-sw5id
@Bianca-sw5id Жыл бұрын
Thank You So-o-o Very Much 🙂🥰 Mat , I think it should apply to romantic relationships and Friendships. . . I think 🤔 as a former attorney 🙂🥰 (thee best former attorney 🙂🥰, you 🙂🥰 know , how this works when you see it happening with clients. . . I appreciate your 🙂🥰 brilliant way of explaining these things in detail 🙂🥰 , wishing you 🙂🥰 everything of the absolute best 💯% , Sending L❤️VE 🥰 Bianca
@tolivisumi563
@tolivisumi563 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you Mat....u r the best coach 🤗💕
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
You're so welcome!
@hifiunicorn
@hifiunicorn 4 жыл бұрын
How do you stay confident and engaged when you like someone so much your nerves get the best of you?
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
take a deep breath and check in with yourself and ask... would my friends/family recognize me right now? What do I love about myself? reconnect with your authentic amazing self and check in - what ways of being can I embody to show it right now
@foxyloxy5693
@foxyloxy5693 4 жыл бұрын
DioCalm 🤣
@hunny585
@hunny585 4 жыл бұрын
@@Mat_Shaffer wow this is amazing n works..been doing this consciously n my energy is off him :)
@amyj.4992
@amyj.4992 Жыл бұрын
I adore body language and eye talk soooo much 🥰🥰😍😍
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Glad to hear that.
@ekkydavid892
@ekkydavid892 4 жыл бұрын
Love your advice! Done subscribe!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
amazing welcome my dear! So glad you resonate with my work!
@jacquelynlanghein8439
@jacquelynlanghein8439 4 жыл бұрын
Very informative
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
yepp thats a classic! :)
@karenjensen7566
@karenjensen7566 4 жыл бұрын
How do I meet men while out at a restaurant or bar or a dance or karaoke? I’m 69 but look much younger. I get told I’m beautiful all the time but in my view I’m attractive. I think I put myself together well. I’m not shy but I’m a little reserved. All that said guys rarely come up to speak to me when I’m out. They don’t ask me to dance.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
dont be afraid to invite him in with your eyes! most powerful tool you have :)
@michelemarie7086
@michelemarie7086 5 жыл бұрын
Great tips!!! I wonder if this changes say for a guy friend who seems avoidant attachment style? He's admitted to types of fear/pretty much of being that personality. He is one of the most cautious guys, when a woman shows normal friendliness... that I have ever met! Yet he is a mixed bag showing definite interest at times as well. With a guy like that, is it good to not be too open in body language? Or would openness help? I've pretty much been leaning towards closed body language as to not scare him!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 5 жыл бұрын
Marie S I would say it will serve you to be consistently open nonverbally towards him to help reinforce to him that you are a safe space for him to be vulnerable with. That doesn’t mean FORCE him into intimacy, as with him being avoidant any efforts you make to push the issue will likely cause him to shut down more. But by maintaining an open energy and space and inviting him forward in a non-pressurizing way, you will be able to make the most of the times he IS looking to connect and helping him to step into that more often ❤️
@michelemarie7086
@michelemarie7086 5 жыл бұрын
@@Mat_Shaffer Thank you so much Mat!!! 💖💖That makes a lot of sense! I will try being more open, yet not leaning forward in future interactions! It's also so difficult knowing if I should verbally admit to more of my own openness to explore more than friendship with him, with him being that type. Yet for now I'm trying to let him lead in all ways! Thanks again for your amazing insight!
@Bigred338
@Bigred338 2 жыл бұрын
My issue: I am too shy for eyecontact🙄
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
You got this!
@baby-xp9dn
@baby-xp9dn 4 жыл бұрын
That's a Great video with great points Thank You👏
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
amazing so glad you liked it :)
@baby-xp9dn
@baby-xp9dn 4 жыл бұрын
I'm actually new to your Channel and liking it,Keep up with the good work 😊
@sarahhirsch679
@sarahhirsch679 4 жыл бұрын
Our society gives men permission to openly stare at women. Not all men do this, of course, but it's common enough. It's so predatory and it really frightens me. I've never known how to handle it other than to avoid looking at them. Can you speak to this at all, Mat?
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
love this question... yes it is a tricky double standard. I think a lot of what we get to do as women is recognize that not all gazes by men are predatory,sometimes its just a reflexive appreciation of your beauty and magnetism and not meant to be a violation!
@victoriaschera5149
@victoriaschera5149 3 жыл бұрын
Stare them back down! Don’t let them intimidate you. I did this to a dude I’m pretty sure was a human trafficker and it worked-he left!
@MsCorina222
@MsCorina222 4 жыл бұрын
AND GIVE FREEDOM AND SPACE
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
YES you got it!!
@miniantony7889
@miniantony7889 4 жыл бұрын
N. Fk w
@karinae.schofield5605
@karinae.schofield5605 4 жыл бұрын
You're so darn cute..
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
aw thanks Karina that's so sweet!
@RayanRayan-nt8bf
@RayanRayan-nt8bf 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Matt
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
so welcome !
@bridgetgreen4818
@bridgetgreen4818 2 жыл бұрын
I would love to figure out how to strengthen an LDR. These things are just confusing!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
You got this! Be careful with your beliefs! They create your reality
@carmenjacinto4426
@carmenjacinto4426 4 жыл бұрын
What if,he doesn't hold my gaze,or he's the one looking everywhere ??
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
he may have intimacy issues, or not feel safe for some reason. have you talked to him about it?
@crosswind76
@crosswind76 4 жыл бұрын
Or is he under stress, have a lot on his mind? Have ADD or ADHD maybe..
@milanb8123
@milanb8123 4 жыл бұрын
Gracias
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
welcome
@brunaruata7676
@brunaruata7676 4 жыл бұрын
Bravo!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
:)
@debbischafrath6150
@debbischafrath6150 4 жыл бұрын
I have enjoyed each video you have brought to us!!. The painful journey of Grieving with a wonderful man who needs and desires a full relationship with me,but still has such love and fond memories of a near perfect marriage and wife. I would love to hear what you have to say. Thanks so much:)
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 5 ай бұрын
Thanks so much my dear!
@joyrose6604
@joyrose6604 3 жыл бұрын
I would like to know how to manage long distance relationships
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 3 ай бұрын
Great point!
@Elixabeth587
@Elixabeth587 3 жыл бұрын
You are the best love your videos...
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much 😀
@maryamHayaly
@maryamHayaly 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much 🌷
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
You're welcome 😊
@taraasikas8233
@taraasikas8233 Жыл бұрын
Urgent content !!! Questions to ask o. A first second and third date
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 11 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing!
@reginaoke2360
@reginaoke2360 3 жыл бұрын
THANK YOU 🙏🏻
@mistressevamzonia7087
@mistressevamzonia7087 3 жыл бұрын
Hello dr tuda is able to help you , he helped me get my ex back recently just as he did dmine he can also help you just as he did mine too
@mistressevamzonia7087
@mistressevamzonia7087 3 жыл бұрын
Text on whtzapp
@mistressevamzonia7087
@mistressevamzonia7087 3 жыл бұрын
+234 815 689 6436
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
You're so welcome!
@GoodThingsEtc
@GoodThingsEtc 3 жыл бұрын
making eye contact for 3-5 seconds, but how do you break away without being disruptive?
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 3 ай бұрын
Just glance away briefly and then return your focus to the conversation or activity.
@gigybumper6989
@gigybumper6989 4 жыл бұрын
I never heard of This ever
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
well know you have!
@pagep9876
@pagep9876 5 жыл бұрын
Awesome Mat!! 😊 good things to practice
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 5 жыл бұрын
Page P truly valuable stuff!! And it gets easier with practice 🤗🤗🤗
@pagep9876
@pagep9876 5 жыл бұрын
Gonna practice tonight!!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 5 жыл бұрын
yessss
@coachmarytv6552
@coachmarytv6552 4 жыл бұрын
Im learning !!!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
yess you are!! :)
@linglingtay4060
@linglingtay4060 4 жыл бұрын
That mean eye talking😜,what will happen is that man was shy and scared want to talk.everytime he want to say somethings to me about his feeling to me,he using song🤦‍♀️.same me too,
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
gerat share!
@brightafghans2886
@brightafghans2886 Жыл бұрын
Nice and NICE , Thankssss
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Many thanks!
@ersheri
@ersheri 3 жыл бұрын
How to get my man to open up without showing pity and make him feel comfortable.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 3 ай бұрын
Make sure he feels safe and comfortable. Listen without judging and show genuine interest.
@MsCorina222
@MsCorina222 4 жыл бұрын
CONFIDENT
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
YES
@natibond4352
@natibond4352 4 жыл бұрын
I have difficulty to make my date understand to be creative, more communicative , he takes always defense mode and says I am negative , He says he is what he is and not novelist who writes beautiful texts which in reality most of time short and lacking of emotions, expressions. Whatever I try to guide him in communication way he just keeps his way and always have excuse not to develop to better. How shall I go with it ? Plus our dating is basic , more like quiet evenings at his place, he doesn’t take me out .
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
he might be avoidant- have you looked into attachment styles? read Attached, its a great book :)
@charminggirl6748
@charminggirl6748 4 жыл бұрын
Move on! Next!
@user-xv8tq6rh3o
@user-xv8tq6rh3o Ай бұрын
how do i make him want to spend the rest of his life with me
@MR-fl6ul
@MR-fl6ul 4 жыл бұрын
I had a friend date and it seemed like it was a double date or it evolved into one. This dude is always sitting next to me and there is always some sort of body contact, like sitting super close, and doting kind of behaviors....is this normal friendship type stuff or something more? I suppose my attraction to him really blinds me sometimes. If he continues with these behaviors at which point should I say something? Thanks 💚
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
These definitely seem like powerful signs that he is interested in you romantically! If you are wanting that as well, that's fantastic :) Maybe next time you all are alone on one of these friend dates you can make a playful invitation to do something one on one (I.e. invite him to take you on a date!)
@MR-fl6ul
@MR-fl6ul 4 жыл бұрын
@@Mat_Shaffer so yesterday we hung out....I legit went back and forth if I should call, and I got a wrong number call asking for someone with his name. So I'm like ok guides I'll call. So I set up a date; well I had one plan but then something else ended up happening which was him cooking shirtless and watching sleeping beauty. So little by little I think I'll know what to do and he will too lol. Thanks for responding.
@tinasturguess5449
@tinasturguess5449 4 жыл бұрын
M R in
@MR-fl6ul
@MR-fl6ul 4 жыл бұрын
@@tinasturguess5449 it's going super slow, today he/we were in our underwear and 1 ballsack popped out....didnt make an effort to hide it...I'm waiting for verbal communication tho. I have standards too lol.
@elsabassi4557
@elsabassi4557 3 жыл бұрын
How can we be true friends online when a man asks for more than that and we don't want to lose them , lose the connection , lose that great vibe .
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 6 ай бұрын
I promise there are good guys out there my dear!
@gloriadelapaz6282
@gloriadelapaz6282 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you asa always
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
My pleasure
@nonnyvundhla4715
@nonnyvundhla4715 4 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣🤣 u just made me laugh when u gave the eye contact example
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
HAHA making people laugh is my favorite!! :)
@winonarobinson397
@winonarobinson397 3 жыл бұрын
How do you get your man to sit still long enough to talk.He will while playing video games but other than that.He's busy.
@mspence0826
@mspence0826 2 жыл бұрын
Same question for me. It seems like the conversations only ever happen in his terms bc he is always moving. Very frustrating.
@summertime2993
@summertime2993 4 жыл бұрын
Why this is all about what they want or look for in a woman?FYI We also look at You Guys during the whole date.. more than you think.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
love it thats great! :)
@SandhyaLinda-cd6vo
@SandhyaLinda-cd6vo 11 ай бұрын
Actually woman if they love man they avoid most of time eye contact because they feel shy often they do but for just 2 second and take eye of because of shy and smiles.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 11 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing!
@shirleychester9922
@shirleychester9922 2 жыл бұрын
love it
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 2 жыл бұрын
Glad to hear that.
@LiaDuarteGoossen
@LiaDuarteGoossen 4 жыл бұрын
I have a question My ex and I have been separated for 4 yrs and things are HELL but what I don’t understand is he still has all the photos of me and us on his FB also I moved out he’s kept the house exactly as I left it but treats me like shit... what’s going on in his mind?
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
it doesnt matter my dear you are better off without him! what are you looking forward to in relationship moving forward? :)
@janettetteh9507
@janettetteh9507 4 жыл бұрын
Y yes just y are you sooo charming
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
aww thanks my dear :)
@leonajansevanrensburg805
@leonajansevanrensburg805 3 жыл бұрын
I get that, but in the begining just chatting on whatasapp what then......?
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 6 ай бұрын
Thanks so much for your feedback!
@elalieleinyuy2106
@elalieleinyuy2106 Жыл бұрын
How do one practice this nonverbal in a distance relationship?
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
strengthening the feeling of love, affection, and connection:) thanks!
@PillarofLightAngelMessages
@PillarofLightAngelMessages 4 жыл бұрын
Dearest Matt,?? Why does man tell you after he breaks up he loves the friendship and doesn't want to let that go,I asked why the friendship and no relationship and was told your goodperson ....I dont get it .......I'm a bleeping stupid or what I'm not chasing the friendship at all , judt asking why maybe you can give me a mans point of view, I'm flipping confused Thankyou
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
sounds like its time to release him! a better and simpler love awaits you :)
@desireelamarche7149
@desireelamarche7149 3 жыл бұрын
How to make a man open up and be vulnerable
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 6 ай бұрын
Great point!
@gratitude5740
@gratitude5740 5 жыл бұрын
What is his body saying when he slumps down in a chair or even lies down on a couch 🛋 when we are taking on video calls... I feel he is bored 😑 when he does that .
@namyalosusan6628
@namyalosusan6628 4 жыл бұрын
😂
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
maybe hes just tired??
@SoEepyy
@SoEepyy 4 жыл бұрын
I think hes comfortable!
@genevieveauguste3353
@genevieveauguste3353 4 жыл бұрын
I liked your tips about how to be irresistible to him without saying a word. Your suggestions make a lot of sense... but it s possible only if you are actually in contact physicality. How about when you are talking on the phone ? Apart from the tone if the voice, what alse can attract him ?
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 ай бұрын
So glad my content supports you:)
@kellyann2858
@kellyann2858 5 ай бұрын
The little mermaid 🧜🏻‍♀️ taught us this already 😂
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 5 ай бұрын
I appreciate your opinion on this!
@donnalittle1964
@donnalittle1964 4 жыл бұрын
I looked at guys more than 3 to 5 seconds nothing happened not always true their thoughts could mean something different than relationship be careful.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
gotta practice discernment!
@barbieblue3336
@barbieblue3336 3 жыл бұрын
People in ny area are different re eye contact than in the south.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 6 ай бұрын
I appreciate your opinion on this!
@navedian739
@navedian739 3 жыл бұрын
Bless you're soul You're an Excellent Energy super Communicator 💯can U plz talk about friendship among girls and boys.. How is that healthy? ☕Can we make ig healthy
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 6 ай бұрын
So glad you enjoyed it!:) Many more to come!
@doreenporter8176
@doreenporter8176 4 жыл бұрын
I think we should talk first.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
🤗
@allisona9490
@allisona9490 4 жыл бұрын
I'd like to hear of a kind way to say I'm not interested once I know.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
hmmm what do you mean?
@allisona9490
@allisona9490 4 жыл бұрын
@@Mat_Shaffer ...if I know I'm not going to be interested in them as a partner. I sometimes have trouble letting them down. I know in my head it's right, but I stubble through the process.
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