Do you ever mention marriage actually being a commitment that you just don't walk away from? My life ever 25 days because she can't stand up and assert herself with her controlling mother. Idk if she did the best she could. It's been 82 days since she left.

I should have done that but I didn't and instead I got strangled and drugged continueously.

Nope

Except it's a narssistic person. In that case, RUN.

Oooooohhh truth

Me too man I feel pretty stupid honestly but that’s it lesson learned no problemo

The sexual drive is the oldest part of the brain. Forgive yourself. 🙏

Exactly

My ex left me 4 weeks ago...we were together for 5 years...the relationship was so toxic and he did so many things that broke my trust but he swore he would change and forgave him time and time again because I didnt want to be alone...on the day he broke up with me I was completey blindsided and he told me the most horrible things and left...I have went no Contact and have been in a limbo of sadness and loneliness but trying to work on myself through journaling and attending a psychologist...2 days ago he sent me a message saying that he wanted to come back, promising to change...I didnt answer any of his messages or calls because there is nothing he can say that will change anything and I know he wont change...but still I feel so guilty for not giving him another chance...is this feeling normal? please help me

Believe them is key.... I hear it!

It takes a while for the lesson to kick in and become center front for a person to really assess themselves. Once one gets there, its life changing

So well said

Thank you

So true. And I went for almost 4 yrs pretending to myself that the relationship was workable. Lol

Thank you 😊

I'm still angry and idk if I can forgive her. I know holding on to anger is like poisoning the well but idk what to do about it...

That is true but when you got cheated on how is the person supposed to feel. When one was doing all the word and that person could never see the beauty in me

@@averythebutterfly I hear you. I'm sure you have tons of beauty on many levels to have done your part, irregardless what they did.

10x for resume.

What if it’s you who tired the best and not the other guy?

@@robertrainford6754 accept that they just weren't That interested in you and move on...

My wife does this chronically. Then one day.... Kaboom and we're done.

It happened to me. I got anxiety stacks after a year of separation. They are gone now.

So that's why I have anxiety now! Wow...

I'm in the same place but I've realised if we couldnt make the relationship work we weren't going to be able to make a marriage work. She couldnt just speak her mind and tell me what she needed, and then after we were doing long distance for about a month she stopped being intimate with me and ended it soon after, over text. A 5 year long relationship and she didnt love me enough to tell me to my face. She still says I love you, but its "not the same". I'm 1 week into no contact, and although it's hard I'm reflecting on our relationship and I understand how flawed it was. It was our first attempt at love and we were just starting to get rolling in life, but once the distance was there things ended. If I wasnt good enough for her to love me when I gave her my heart and loyalty, she wasnt the one for me.

Same

Living in the future is an illusion though. I know it’s hard, but being present right here, right now is where we have to try to stay.

Agreed

It's a self-destructive delusion. Don't do that to yourself.

Yep! The only way thru it is going thru it right? But....don't get stuck there either.

This was the main reason i didn't talk to anyone about my feelings cause all every one said was "get over it" "move on" like tf if i could i would trust me not like i want to feel low and heartbroken 💔😔

such is life it's not easy being lonely alone without the person you love, but life goes on, I lost my wife 3yrs ago, I understand how you feel, I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind, it'd be nice if you just say hi here is my number +1206-237-2054 😇

Going through this right now. I had to move to the opposite side of the state to be out of site out of mind but my heart is shattered and she keeps texting me every 10 days that she misses me then I get sucked right back in like a wild tornado and end ip more shattered then the time before. My life is shit right now so it’s so hard to show myself any love when I don’t have time to love myself. Don’t know where to start, a lot of shoulda woulda couldas but didn’t. Regrets, shame, ugh wish I knew how to get out of this stuck mindset

It actually have me a parenting tip with my own children. And myself, of course !

Thank you.. takes practice 💗

Wow! So sorry to hear that. Ask God to heal you!!

Hope your doing alright during this wild time in the world

Same here! She really is.

You have been a Knowledgeable Angel to my sanity💛 Thank you Stephanie 🌻please don't stop what you're doing🧚 I depend on you so much🧡Thousands of People Do🏵️ Thank you 💦 Thank you 💦 Thank you💦

I feel the same! She has helped me so much and continues to help me.

So good - saving me tons of money on therapist for sure! Thank you for all you do Stephanie

No, this is good advice but it cannot replace therapy. Go find professional help.

Same, its hard to know its out there. It's scary the older I get. I broke it off with someone a month ago, and I still don't feel over it yet.

Jae Me a month is not that long, take time to heal ❤️

There are millions of great men right in front of you. There may be reasons that they are avoiding any entanglement with you and your friends, eh? For the record, most married men are absolutely miserable with the constant shaming, abuse and degrading behavior they are subjected to by their wives. No man wants to admit his mistake (her) in public and feel that divorce is his failure, he's been conditioned to think that way. "Take it like a man", remember? I've defended, to my communities, a few of my very guilty ex's and a wife to simply carry on the illusion that she was a good person and I had not made a gross error. These women had hit me repeatedly, tried to stab me and had me incarcerated for made up heinous crimes, this beyond the daily down beating and psychological abuse. I've quite a few stitches in my body from women but have never raised a hand in self defense. Luckily for me, neighbors, hospital staff, police, gangbangers, local merchants and even Interpol. My ex wife accused me of ridiculous very heavy international crimes in an effort to have me incarcerated for life and murdered inside immediately. In each case they all seen what was going on and came to my defense. I tell you right now, if Interpol was not called by local authorities in the case of my ex wife, I would have been dead a long time ago. Most men have learned that what women offer is extremely sketchy at best and death/ruin a bit too probable. There are plenty of great men out here, they are most likely avoiding you and the rest for valid reasons. We know exactly how dangerous narcissists are and the vast majority of women unfortunately tick off most of the signs of that sickness. I avoid any interaction with women outside normal daily transactions in shops or the very few women I sometimes work with. Women can't offer anything that would cause me to take that gamble again and many many men now give the ultimate respect to women... distance.

@@StaggerLee68 I’m sorry you have been through such a hard time. I hope you can find healing and recovery

@@FionaC1 Very much appreciated. However, please don not feel sorry what I've been through, I am not. Those hard times were part of my life and I don't regret them or any of the hard times in my life. They are lessons and scars are just unwittingly bought "tattoos" that serve as the reminders some of us need to become better to ourselves. I've many scars and some I am proud of, gained in great efforts in the mountains. you could call them weird badges of survival I suppose. Others are there to keep me in line with the lessons learned. As for healing and recovery, it starts with introspection and acceptance not only of things that others may have "done to me" but a clear view of how I made mistakes as well. I got myself involved with hurtful and dangerous people and invited somehow these things to happen. I feel no vengeance against the one who openly tried to kill me or the others who hurt me less, there's no reason. Should I make the same or similar errors of judgement, it's on me. I let them in, I failed me, they were just doing what they do, naturally. I've a joke about the 3 scars stacked on top of each other. The embarrassing one is on top, from a woman. It is my least favorite scar of many on my body because it partially covers a proud climbing one before it and a big silly one from wrestling with a tractor at 11. She ruined my awesome face scars! haha. That is how good men think and act, we're out there but are mostly ghosts these days, happy in our solitude, out of the fray. Thanks you though, it's good to know there are humans out there now and again. This is one of 3 interactions this year, not too shabby for a ghost. I do hope that some women can see the irony in using that hideous phrase " Where are the good men" ever again. It arrogantly states all of us are shit or too stupid to see your brilliance and worship you. That is exactly how it comes off and the battle cry off the insufferable Girl Gone Wild. That statement is the single biggest red flag a woman could wave, even sweetly. One would do well to not embarrass themselves like that, particularly if they are looking for a man, yah? Cheers, I mean that.

So glad!

Paulo Furtado I’m rooting for you. You can do it 💪🏽

@@starsandstripes5013 thanks, im fine now, better than ever actually, but thank you.

Paulo Furtado that’s awesome to hear and you are inspiring. Wishing you so much peace, happiness, love, and blessings 🙏🏽

Same experiences, older people laugh and act like its nothing. It's really sad. Thankful there a therapists and thankful for youtube that we can get this info so easily now!! I so wish I had youtube in my teens and college years. There's so much helpful info.

well said Im gonn a write this sentence somewhere

You’re trying to flirt with her 😂

@@donnas8408 yeah, I know, but 3 years later and she's still not taking the bait 😞

I don't know how to get there.. because i was really bad to my ex husband. I wasn't normal. I have mental health disease which i didn't treated so my ex husband dealt with a lot of horrible. Now i am in such a better place but he just had enough.. and he is now already engaged and living the life he wanted