It’s so hard to accept that he’s not the man I thought he was. So disappointed. Still grieving 😭💔

Forgive ourselves for not knowing what I know now. That hit home.

Understanding that there are more fish in the sea that are actually higher quality than the last person you met is a good way of recovering from break ups.

I have listened to this 3 times in a row. Such a powerful video. If you don't forgive and move on then they have won.

One of the biggest things, was when I did or saw something that I would usually rush off to text or tell him about, and I stopped myself. That’s big. You become so used to sharing laughs, and sharing moments, and then you realize that sometimes you just have to appreciate those moments on your own ❤️ Or with other friends and loved ones.

Accepting isn’t being okay with something, it’s recognizing that this is what it is. It’s not about agreeing with it or understanding. It’s just taking in the fact that this is life rn.

People who has parents with the same issues, it’s hard for them to see it’s not normal.

I’m finally accepting this phase of letting go. Ready to move on after being stuck for awhile.

I'm struggling being alone and feeling alone all the time after the breakup. I know it's something i have to go thru, but i am so sad and lonely and depressed. Everyone walks around me, i feel like i do not exist anymore

I’m gonna list some powerful and uplifting break up songs 10/10 recommend . 1. B.S - Jhene Aiko ft. HER 2. Speak - Jhene Aiko 3. Define me - Jhene Aiko 4. Lexiis Outro - Kehlani 5. Love myself - Olivia O’brian 6. Best thing I never had - Beyoncé 7. Good As Hell - Lizzo ft. Ariana Grande

It’s the way he left that hurts. I can’t get past it. I know he wasn’t who I wanted to be with but the hurt won’t go away.

“Nothing can grow without tears”

She ripped my heart out but I spent 10 years with her. It's so hard to let go, to move on.

The changed version of them is what I’m grieving for sure 😊❤ Thank you. 🙏🏽

I can do the forgiveness in my head, but the acceptance and moving on I'm struggling with, even though I know it's not good for me to stay in this relationship.

You are so good at what you do. Whatever you talk about ALWAYS talks to me and I don't feel judged but always eager to find healing! 🌸❤

This is what I’m going through right now. Going through the grieving process of a breakup that happened almost 2 months ago.

Pain is a great motivator

Accept who they are & pay attention to the red flags y | build your self up with self-love | move on quickly & let go of controlling your future - life is good again 🤟🏽

If something causes pain it is not love is my new motto in life. Practising self love and care. Stand up and stay calm in difficult conversations with abusive partners. I forgive myself and him.

This is such a great message, and so easy to understand intellectually. But very hard to implement emotionally. The sense of injustice seems so strong even though I'm a year into this. And three kids that were so young. It's a very hard situation to accept and internally forgive.

I have forgiven them and now i am working on forgetting them , its the only way to recover

This is spot on, Stephanie. Tears in my eyes. Thank you so much!

These videos have saved my sanity! Thank you so much. During covid I haven't been able to see my therapist in person so being able to watch these videos really help me in therapy. I am going through a separation with someone I really loved and they hurt me badly. We have a beautiful baby so I have to deal with him still. These videos have really helped me! 💝

Thank you for this video, it’s been a hard 3 weeks for me since the break up, but I have hope that I will get through this hardship and be able to heal and find a man who can be respectful and have integrity in a relationship❤️

Being concerned about financial stability as a senior citizen is keeping me stuck in a less than satisfactory marriage.

Thank you, I so needed to hear this and am making the final break after 26 years with a borderline narcissist💜

Stephanie, Thank you for this message. You made me realize what was preventing me from moving on because of a recent breakup. Everything you said hit me hard because it was everything I was feeling and wondering about. I'm going to take some time to myself tonight for some reflective thinking. I can forgive my ex, myself, and move forward after this.

Growth comes from pain squeeze out every lesson. Thank you Stephanie ❤️

Man this video came right on time!! I really needed to hear this! I’m going through this right now!

This is so great and what I am finally realizing after 54 years and 2 broken relationships as well as the ones with my family of origin where all this stuff began. Cry at times but realizing the importance of self, boundaries and self worth. Thanks

This talk is very deep and i actually felt that it was very useful. You only grow through pain as you said and you need to know how to process your negative emotions and not suppress it and be kind to yourself. The fact that some people in your life will hurt you and that will awakens you is so true

Every episode, new or old, resonates with me. It's like you're talking directly to me. You'll never know how much you have helped me heal.

Thank you for sharing this video. Your ideas make sense. Sometimes I feel like I must be okay now but it is not how it works. I figured out I feel relaxed when I let myself feel the feeling. It can be longing, anger, or anything both positive and negative. Additionally, I am aware that I will be remembering some instances from this relationship all my life. There is nothing like getting rid of it. Instead, making peace with them, accepting failures, trying to learn some lessons makes me feel relaxed. There are many things that I am disappointed of my ex-partner but I see that there are dozens of things that I could have acted differently too. I messed up in many points too. It does not mean I had a chance to save the relationship. It means from now on I can take the responsibilities to my hand instead of being codependent. Anyways, now instead of holding a grudge, I am re-learning to be self-reliant. I am sure that after that it does not matter if I stay single, get back to my ex, or start to date someone new. Surely, it will be a better experience as long as I take care of myself and share the rest of it with someone who has similar values and expectations.

Thank you for this strong message. Working on self is eye opening with regard to painful situations!

I just want to say you are really a blessing. And I appreciate your kind heart and tone. It helps when you're going through to have a kind voice to get advice from. Thanks and God bless you

Stephanie, I love your videos. You speak so much truth and have helped me with a previous breakup! Happy to say that with your help I healed myself and moved on from a painful breakup in 6 mos

Accepting the bitter truth is painful but necessary to let go

I love this!!✨💕 Thank you For this long & detailed podcast

This is an incredible message!! Thank you

Oh my gosh, you are such a cheerleader! You are singing my song! This so huge! What an epiphany! I am so encouraged to be me and learn to love myself so I can love others and being successful. I do deserve it and I am worthy. That relationship does exist! Allow myself to experience all the feelings including grief. Thank you Stephanie, this is a life changer for me. I am so grateful. Thank you God for the revelations.

Your videos are so very helpful get me through a horrible breakup. Thank you.

This woman is so brilliant and giving of her wisdom. I"m so grateful for her.

I found this KZfaq channel at the perfect time!!!

I absolutely NEEDED THIS ONE TODAY !! Thank U!! I don’t feel I’m not forgiving my abusive X. Listening to this is helping me understand that I NEED to accept him for who he really is & believing I deserve to be loved. And that I’m not being selfish, I did the best I could & learning to get ride of my guilt, to self love & not feeling guilty in doing so. This is REALLY hard when I have 4 kids🥴

Just a fantatic, on-point video again. True forgiveness doesn't come easily to most of us and it does require a lot of inner work that can be difficult and painful, but I'd far rather that than to be mired in negativity for the rest of my life; when people are especially resistant, they don't want to hear that forgiveness is something you do for yourself, first and foremost, but it really *is*.

So good , thank you 😊 I'm at the end of the break up process, it's been 1 year and 6 months . And I let myself feel everything so fully. I'm at the point of now building up my belief & knowing that what u truly want is out there. I've done the work. I've cried my tears I've punched the pillows many many times ❤ Whoever is going through it, keep going 💪 I promise you it's gonna be worth it. Let your tears water your growth

Tough but true, this helped , realizing I was with a narcissist has been paramount! I'm glad I wouldn't accept the behavior

I've looped many of Stephanie's talks, this one in particular! Thank you Stephanie Lyn!

I needed this so much. Thank you so, so much.

This, right here, is exactly what I needed to hear at this point in my journey. Thank you for all that you do.

Thanks for another great video! I’ve watched so many great videos from many channels on the topics of personal relationships. I am feeling very empowered and truly believe there are amazing people out there that will appreciate me as a life time partner. Thank you Stephanie! Your words are spot on.

amazingly eye-opening along with having Blind Faith and going for it. Thank you

Your so good, your advice is so helpful. Their are so many people on KZfaq offering advice, and I have unsubscribe too so many after a couple of videos, but you always give me real clear advice. Thank you so much.

2:50 why is it so difficult? I believe we push to see and believe what we want. Even when it’s clear. We have to let go, even when still in love and completely detach.

A fantastic, affirming, and personally informative video.

Such a healing message , it's really helps me . thank you so much ❤️

One of my favorite teachers, thank you.

This talk was excellent... I very much needed to hear this. I saved it so I could listen to it again. Thank you

You just saved my life. God bless you

Another excellent lesson. Well done! 👍

Wow! This helped so much!!! The way you speak is so clear and helpful, and everything you say helps so much!!! I’m going to make sure to watch all of your videos and check out your website!!! Thank you!!

Such a great video! Thanks a lot dear Stephanie!! Helped me so much! 💟😘

So grateful for your videos! ❤️

Rejection is God's new redirection for your life. It was only a lesson a failed relationship. You were there to teach him a lesson and he was there to teach you lessons... your life is a storybook with chapters. He was part of one chapter..

Thank you Stephanie for this great Video. I will listen to it more than once because I really think it will help me to go on and to grow like I should.

I needed this. ❤️

Thank you so much for this.

If it doesn't hurt a little..it's probably not the truth. Thank you for this Coach Stephanie.💙 #TruthHurts

That was beautiful! Thank you

This information has been so helpful, thank you so much.

This came at the right time for me x

Thank you for you sincere words. I can tell that you can relate to words you say. You helped me realize that "it had nothing to do with me" on a personal level. At least I hope. But I feel it is right. Please know that your video made a difference for me. Thank you

Thank you so much..I needed this to hear again and again

Its super cute the way she says "and". And fantastic content!

Love your videos! Help me a lot ❤️

I love what u said in this video! It inspired me thank u! I think ur an awesome person giving back like u do...

Excellent video, Stephanie! I need to listen to this on a daily basis.

Perfect advice so powerful and true ...

You may have already noticed this but coaching is misspelled in the website URL in your graphic. I really appreciate your videos - especially this one. I've been in therapy for depression, anxiety, and OCD for about 6 months. I've struggled with these since I was a child and I'm just now - at 48 years old - dealing with them. As I unravel all the damage over the years, I've had to take a very hard look at the people in my life and try to determine if they're good for me or if I need to move on from them. Your message is exactly what I need. Thank you!

Thank you This really helps me.

The video that has the greatest impact ever on me

Great advice and much needed ❤️ 🙏 thank you 😊

Really helpful and clear. Thank you!

Thank you for all this knowledge and information

Brilliant and thank you. This coaching has helped me heal.

Gosh!! Lightbulb went off with your video for me!!

Thanks a lot you really help me a lot with your worthy coaching..

It’s the ego man the ego is something else I rock with this video

I can't say I've ever really struggled with a break up, I think I've just had trouble in the past, escaping bad situations. You almost feel dragged into helping certain people that are not strong enough to take care of themselves as much as they were and it makes me feel guilty, knowing I can't just pick up and leave like everyone else. When you get stuck, and somebody isn't feeling well anymore, it's hard to focus at times, but the good thing about this person, is that he finally came to terms with how I felt, and it's actually been more peaceful and easier for me to study, knowing that he's stepped back and just did his own thing and just by me being honest he's actually calmed down a little bit, and we've some how managed to remain friends, which is odd, but it does happen.

Love this one.. Gonnabsave this and thank u steph.

Great talk...hope to be able to talk so authoritatively in the coming years. Take care❤❤🔥

This is GOLD

This is a fantastic speech

Your videos are so helpful

Very true. It's also valid that sometimes people can become, not only emotionally riveted to a person or situation, but economically stuck as well. Especially married couples with children. When it comes to nurturing a family, individual goals can often get lost in the fray, superceded by what's in the best interest of the whole, particularly where children are concerned. Accounts merge. Goals get postponed, even forfeited. Assets become communal and you really begin to lose autonomy, over time. This is amplified for families with one breadwinner and one parent who stays home. The domestic parent can begin to feel weakened by their situation and grow stagnant (another noteable lack). In those unique situations, I think many times, folks prefer to move on (even though it's hard) but, financially, it may not be feasible. In those cases, I think the stuckness becomes a kind of comfortable complacency.

I love your videos. Unfortunately i was someone who fell into the trap of not being able to move on for long. Until i lastly realized that they are living happily their lives and that i don't deserve to be dreading over them but, I deserve a loving and a happy life with someone else as well and, that this person didn't know me well to appreciate me anyway because it was their problem not mine. I'm still single but I'm much happier clean minded now.

Getting over a break up is a cakewalk it’s getting over the abuse that most of us here struggle with far after we have realized it’s for the best that the person is out of our life

Great video Stephanie. ♂☺

Thank you so much for this video, Stephanie. You describe exactly what I am going through. I hope I will make it. It just hurts so much... I am trying to let him go....but I am afraid of letting the hope go.