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Secrets For Getting A Stubborn Ex Back
In this video were going to discuss
- Understand it needs to be his decision
- FOMO Syndrome
- Be willing to walk away
- Stop putting men on pedestals
By definition someone who is stubborn is very attached to their ideas, beliefs and tastes. Now what you’re trying to do is institute change, to change those ideas and beliefs.
Now how do we do that?
It isn’t going to be easy, which is why I'm making this video for you, what matters isn’t the factors you have no control over, what matters are the factors you DO have control over. Even though that sounds cliche you’re going to allow yourself a better frame of mind as you go through this process.
So, the four secrets that are going to make your ex change their mind and come back to you;
#1 - Understating it needs to be their decision
A stubborn ex who’s very stuck on their ideas, it’s not going to be easy to change their mind about their decisions. So, the first thing you’re going to do is figure out how to make it seem like it was their idea. It’s not about you forcing them to change their mind, more about you influencing their decision
#2 - FOMO Syndrome
I’ve always been struck by the irony of the deathbed argument we’ve all seen the videos of biggest regret of their lives. Even though many people understand that throughout their lives they’re going to have regrets, they do nothing to change it. Something such as wanting to spend more time with family, yet they continue to work, even though it’s not what they want to do. Another regret is love, they are too afraid to tell someone how they really feel and fear gets the best of them and they do nothing about it.
The only way to get these people to change is to potentially make them realise or have a paradigm shift that they’re going to miss out. Our most valuable commodity is time, and it’s about getting someone to look at their life and using their time in a way that’s fulfilling for all of the aspects of their life. Until someone comes around and inspires them and shows them what they are potentially missing out on, they start to change their mindset. This is what you need to do, to show your ex what they’re missing out on by not being with you.
#3 - Be willing to walk away
One of my favourite quotes is, “The person who is willing to walk away is often the person who wins at dating”. I have found it to be true, time and time again. It’s not as easy as it shows your ex you’re willing to walk away, but you also need to believe it and feel it and be willing to lose. To many clients that’s the most terrifying thing to do. They’ve put a ‘all or nothing’ feeling and not getting their ex back is a failure to them
The thing I've seen working with clients, those of who have gotten their exes back in the past seven or eight years I've been doing this. The one common pattern I see is the people who get pushed to the brick, who are really willing to walk away and are almost at a point where they say “I give up” they start to see real results. Asking them out and asking them for dates. You really need to feel that you’re willing to walk away and be okay.
#4 - Stop putting your ex on a pedestal
Putting your ex on the pedestal, it’s giving your ex the power. If you do this you lose your leverage with your ex that you need to build to get them back especially when it comes to a stubborn ex. Tried to get your ex back, and he doesn’t want to get back together and you’ve done everything to change his mind and nothing has worked. By doing all of those things you’re glorifying your ex and making him feel he is better than you. When re-entering a relationship is like when you enter a negotiation of equal terms, this is difficult when your ex is feeling better than you. The one with the most leverage will always win and get their way. So, stop putting your ex on a pedestal, he does not deserve to be up there.
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