4 Tips to Stop Trauma Dumping in Its Tracks! w/ Dr. Kate Truitt

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In this psychoeducational video, Dr. Kate Truitt explains that being in the presence of someone who’s trauma dumping can be complicated and painful. It pulls on our empathy and compassion strings, and it’s important to remember that our nervous system is critical. We are going to learn 4 tips for when this happens.
The first two tips are external tips for setting boundaries. If we notice that our mind and body system is being disrupted by this data, we need to take care of ourselves. The first tip is to say, “this sounds like it’s tough, but I need to XYZ.” This allows us to create space to step away and use CPR for the Amygdala. The second tip is to say, “this sounds like it’s tough, I hope you have or are looking for someone to work with to help you.” By doing this, we are providing an awareness that this is hard stuff. It’s important to remember that it is not our job to do this.
The second two tips are internal tips. The first being to turn energy towards you and expand that energy into a safe, loving bubble. I am worthy of taking care of my mind and body right now. We are worthy of giving ourselves that same attention. The second tip is to imagine you have an inner ally sitting next to you. I am deserving and worth taking care of.
Dr. Kate reminds us that, yes, it’s hard to disrupt a trauma dump. Trauma dumping can be traumatizing for both people. Therefore it’s an act of loving kindness to set boundaries and take care of you.
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Dr. Kate Truitt is a clinical psychologist, neuroscientist, as well as holds a MBA in Healthcare Administration. She is the CEO of the Trauma Counseling Center of Los Angeles, Chairman of the Board of the Amy Research Foundation, and leads her flagship organization Dr. Kate Truitt & Associates located in Pasadena, CA. Her teams of expert psychologists and psychotherapists provide individual therapy, group therapy, executive coaching, and neurofeedback throughout California via telehealth.
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@Citrusverbena 10 ай бұрын

I needed this message years ago. I was trauma dumped over and over and got emotional drained for two years. Finally insisted they move out and I am trying to heal from it. A year later it’s still affecting me. Tough when it’s a family member and I struggle how to ever be around them again 😢

@DrKateTruitt 10 ай бұрын

I'm truly sorry to hear about your experience, especially when it involves someone so close to you. 😔 Navigating such complex emotions, especially with family, can be incredibly challenging. Sending much warmth, strength, and healing your way during this journey ❤️❤️‍🩹❤️

@LilyBecca 3 ай бұрын

I am going through this now. I am not surprised to hear that a year later you are still trying to heal from it. If I can ever get it to stop, I wonder if I will ever heal. It took about 1.5 years, but I finally realized how sick it was making me about 6 months ago.

@Elijah.Ashman 8 ай бұрын

I’ve been always complaining and venting too much and draining all my pressure on my friends and I never knew that I was doing it and I just realised when they brought it up and I never knew that I could hurt someone without even thinking about it and it’s hurt me even more that I’ve hurt them and now I always stop myself from this

@DrKateTruitt 8 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story 🥰 Self-reflection is a powerful step towards growth and healing. It takes a lot of courage to reflect on our actions and the impact they have on others. Remember that we're all on a journey of learning and growing and to hold space for yourself as well. Sending you warmth, strength and healing ❤️❤️‍🩹❤️

@Rocketman0407 5 ай бұрын

Get new friends. Real friends should be able to handle you talking about your problems

@lauralaabs7917 Жыл бұрын

What a wonderful way to identify why they trauma dump. Thank you for reminding us that we are worthy and to set boundaries. This is so helpful.

@DrKateTruitt Жыл бұрын

You are so welcome 💗 I'm glad you enjoyed it

@ciarraxzombieface 10 ай бұрын

@irmacarver3327 4 ай бұрын

YES. Love this! Does not demonize the trauma dumper. or the uncomfortable object of the dump. I wish I had seen it before. New friend told me specifics of her child sexual abuse- no warning and at length. Later I was so triggered/drained I asked to take a break. She has told others I do not support survivors. So my listening helped no one. and now I'm worried. I wish I could wear a T shirt saying "check in before sharing". I have CPTSD myself and am working to regulate, heal and thrive. Thanks again for this.

@DrKateTruitt 3 ай бұрын

I'm truly sorry to hear you've experienced this. Please remember that your feelings are valid and it's important to protect your wellbeing as well. Thank you for highlighting this as well. Sending you much warmth, strength and healing ❤️❤️‍🩹❤️

@irmacarver3327 3 ай бұрын

@@DrKateTruitt you too. I appreciatate this

@SweettoothMarie77 9 ай бұрын

It is so draining! These are useful tips❤

@DrKateTruitt 9 ай бұрын

I'm glad you found them helpful 😊

@inezneal6917 3 ай бұрын

I've started blocking people that send me messages about being depressed. Then immediately asking to hang out. If they do it a few times I drop them. Especially when these people are already in therapy. Like what?

@DrKateTruitt 3 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for the vulnerability and sharing your story. This is an important aspect of mental health that is not often highlighted. While it's important to be supportive, it's equally vital to ensure that you’re not taking on too much emotionally, especially if it starts to impact your own mental health. Encouraging those reaching out to you to continue with their therapy and perhaps discussing these feelings with their therapist could be beneficial for them. It's okay to offer support while also being clear about what you're comfortable with. 💗 Sending you much warmth, strength and healing ❤️🤗

@emanuellandeholm5657 18 күн бұрын

I could have used this video some 30 years ago when I met a person who used me as a trauma dumpster. I was convinced I was at blame for not always picking up the phone! The guilt... I wish I could go back in time and tell my younger self what that all was about.

@DrKateTruitt 17 күн бұрын

It's incredibly powerful to reflect on past experiences with the knowledge and understanding you have now. Many people find themselves in similar situations, feeling responsible for others' emotional well-being. Sometimes, verbalizing these reflections and receiving affirmation of your new understanding can be very healing. Thank you for sharing your insights and experiences. Much warmth and healing your way 💗😊

@emanuellandeholm5657 17 күн бұрын

@@DrKateTruitt TY!

@Baysk8er24 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for this my colleague has been trauma dumping on me for a while, I will definitely use your tips. Thank you

@DrKateTruitt 4 ай бұрын

You're so welcome and I'm glad you find this helpful. You're not alone in this and it's important to prioritize your won well-being too.😊 Sending you warmth and healing ❤️❤️‍🩹❤️

@beasaroseco5840 11 ай бұрын

My issue is when an abuser is trauma dumping to inflict mental and emotional injury.

@DrKateTruitt 11 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry to hear you're experiencing this and you're definitely not alone. Sending you all the healing, strength, as well lots of caring people who don't trauma dump and honor boundaries! 💞

@beasaroseco5840 11 ай бұрын

@@DrKateTruitt Thx😊

@chrissydicriscio3785 8 ай бұрын

Thank you so much, this was so helpful, validating, and encouraging

@DrKateTruitt 8 ай бұрын

You're welcome! I'm glad this resonated with you 🤗 much warmth and healing your way 💗

@ZayDay67 Ай бұрын

Thank you so much, i tried these with my girlfriend and it totally worked!! ...I guess I forgot how good being single was! :D

@DrKateTruitt Ай бұрын

It's great to hear that the strategies were helpful! Navigating conversations around trauma can be delicate, especially in a relationship 💗 much warmth and healing your way

@paulak3221 11 ай бұрын

Wow! How powerful is this message. Thank you so much.

@DrKateTruitt 10 ай бұрын

I'm glad this message resonated with you 🥰 Thank you so much for your kind words!

@Ms76Cocoa 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much! Your steps are helpful and practical.

@DrKateTruitt 5 ай бұрын

You're so welcome ❤️ I'm glad it was helpful 😊💖

@yueyin3419 7 ай бұрын

pretty great sharing with a warm style, thank you Dr. Truitt.

@DrKateTruitt 7 ай бұрын

Thank you for your kind words 💗 much warmth and healing your way 🤗❤️

@yueyin3419 7 ай бұрын

you're amazing!@@DrKateTruitt

@sheresentsl Жыл бұрын

You ate! Thank you.

@DrKateTruitt Жыл бұрын

Thanks for your kind comments ❤️

@Anggieisgood 4 ай бұрын

thank you!

@DrKateTruitt 3 ай бұрын

You're so welcome 😊

@LilyBecca 3 ай бұрын

I have been getting trauma dumped on every single day for over 2 years. It has made me sick and changed me as a person. I don't know how much more I can take. I recently told her that it doesn't matter if her anger isn't directed at me, it feel like I am being yelled at, and I have a really hard time brushing off the negativity. I was attacked for saying this. She went off on a manic rage all about how she's not allowed to be upset. She's not allowed to raise her tone. And so on and so forth. When it first started getting bad a couple of years ago, she would threaten to kill herself, and I would give her money, and then it would all be good until the next day when she needed more money. Well, I'm out of money now. I've loaned over $20k that I will never get back, my savings is completely wiped out, so now when she threatens to kill herself I have no way of getting her to stop her manic rapid fire trauma dumping. If I dont talk on the phone, I get texts. If I don't reply to the texts, she becomes even more angry and then will verbally attack you in the most hateful way imagineable. She will show up at your house, even when you say it's not a good time. (I work from home)Other times, after yelling at you, she will cry and say she gives up, she can't do this (life) anymore and start saying help me, help me. You can't give her any advice, though. She becomes enraged and goes off about how she knows she does everything wrong because everyone loves to tell her what a piece of shit she is every single day and she couldn't feel worse about herself. I'm really at the end of my rope. I was so stressed out and overwhelmed a few nights ago that I almost went to the ER because I thought I might be having a heart attack.

@DrKateTruitt 3 ай бұрын

I'm truly truly sorry to hear about this difficult and overwhelming situation you're in. Please remember that you cannot pour from an empty cup, and you're not responsible for someone else's mental health or happiness. The behavior you're describing might suggest a level of crisis that requires professional intervention, both for her and for your own well-being. While you can offer support, you're not equipped to manage someone else's mental health crisis, especially one that's impacting you so negatively. Taking steps to protect yourself doesn't meant you care any less. It means you're recognizing the limits of what you can provide and taking necessary actions to ensure your well-being. While it's clear you care deeply and have gone to great lengths to help, your first responsibility is to your own health and safety. Please take care of yourself. Sending you both much needed warmth, strength and healing ❤️❤️‍🩹❤️

@LilyBecca 3 ай бұрын

@@DrKateTruitt Thank you so much for your reply. I truly do feel desperate for help at this point. How would one go about getting a professional intervention for her? I'm not the only one in the family she does this to, I just get the worst of it because we live in the same area. I truly appreciate you replying. I'm going to reach out to my PCP to get therapy for myself. I don't think I can force her to get therapy, but I can take care of myself.

@inezneal6917 3 ай бұрын

Can you remove this person from your life?

@abbiealverez2960 16 күн бұрын

I've had a friend like this and ultimately I disengaged I know it's hard but you can't be their responsibility especially when they threaten suicide, they need a professional

@artdenattic1 2 ай бұрын

Gesult therapist is really important for trauma it allow all expression of exist ream emotion to be let out

@DrKateTruitt 2 ай бұрын

Absolutely right! Having a supportive therapist can make a significant difference in trauma recovery, providing a safe space to express and process emotions deeply and authentically. It’s so important to find someone you can trust to guide you through your healing journey. Thank you for highlighting this crucial point.

@richard-en2dx Жыл бұрын

😘🍵🍦

@rik-keymusic160 Ай бұрын

I'm actually angry because mostly they never talk about solutions, all they do is talk and talk and talk about problems. They often never take in any advice but instead break down every potential solution presented to them. My father does this all the time and it took me a while to understand that this isn't healthy.... i thought i should listen and listen and listen and be empathic... i now reached my point and it really annoys me because he only sees me when he can talk about his issues. I walk in and he starts dumping his shit... It's a very one sided relationship and i don't like the situation. He doesn't understand it, he has no clue what so ever about how relationships work. He thinks everything is fine if everyone does as he pleases but there is little to non genuine interest in me. These people only need you when they need something from you. A listening ear or whatever...and they believe they're doing anything wrong.

@DrKateTruitt Ай бұрын

I'm truly sorry to hear about what you're going through. This can indeed be draining and feel one-sided. It's important to set boundaries in any relationship, especially when interactions become overwhelming or detrimental to your mental health. Make sure to take care of your own emotional needs. You can engage in activities that replenish your energy and give you a sense of peace and satisfaction. Sometimes, sharing resources about healthy communication and relationships can help the other person understand the impact of their actions. Remember, while you can offer support, you are not responsible for managing his emotions or solving his problems. It's okay to prioritize your well-being and seek a balanced relationship where your emotional needs are also met. Sending you much warmth and healing ❤️❤️‍🩹

@helenachase5627 7 ай бұрын

People who trauma dump should realize that others don't deserve to hear your trauma. They'd rather you spend 180.00 an hour and tell a stranger. But you do need to share your trauma , and it is not a dump , its just that you are in the trauma when you share it. Thats why it comes out so emotionally loaded. You may even be dissociating. You see, people only want to hear your truth if it can be communicated in a non trauma state. But then, why would you bother sharing it if you are okay ? People are full of it.

@21stcenturyshowgirl 5 ай бұрын

i agree