Cool

With my crush.

With anybody that talks to me 🤩🚪🏃‍♀️

I can be very quiet around a lot of people sometimes I don't wanna be there

U are the best chanell

oh frick im all those

Thank you

AvDP was why I didn't enjoy my time in college and I really wish I could undo it

100%, I won this lottery guys, where's my price?

Oof

Lol I have the strong belief that friends, coworkers and family shouldn't be mixed.

@@CrisOnTheInternet Same! I treat my family, friends & co workers as if they all exist in different worlds 😂 Gives me anxiety when the worlds collide. I don’t know who to be

It has the same vibe as seeing your teachers outside of school 😭😭😂

I would most likely avoid them as well, though if they come up to me I’ll greet them and chat a bit, then try to get back to what I was doing.

thats normal

This is exactly my thought. I dont want to dissapoint anyone.

Well to me i just want to talk to people.Its my thing which i do everyday.

I feel like I'm not capable of genuinely loveing and being nice to other people and that everything I do is just for praise or something I hate feeling like this

Yeah... I get the feeling that I come off as a very cold person even as you get to know me. It's just a lot of people I talk to seem to just want to hear what they want to hear and disregard anything else. I'm not really sure how to talk to people in a way everyone in the conversation gets something out of it.

same, idk why but I have this fear of if people know what I like they would use it against me

I agree with you man 👍 (it's happens to me)

This comment is relatable...

I've never seen anyone so like me 😫

Lol fr

Me at school: *current* *objective:* *SURVIVE*

And then they call you "selfish" for it.

@@R4GNAR0G Which is big cap. It doesn’t make sense to demand a drained individual to serve others. It’s like asking a dead phone to work without charging it first.

15 years trying to heal. I'm a lost case and I gave up

year, same

Relatable

Ha just what I thought 🤣

Dont just assume m8 these vids aint diagnoses.

@@thomasshelby1172 Not assuming anything, I've been diagnosed with mental health issues, a hell lot of them :)

Felt; I always feel like the "second choice friend"

@@j00nha That's exactly how I feel

So, you think, the problem is the other people?

@@trappart9209 Not really. I usually just assume it's me or something I did, and then try to improve.

You won't always feel this way. I think people can be focused on just themselves sometimes instead of others but we all do that since we're living our own lives so its not such a bad thing I think.

I can relate to this a lot. I just recently started a new job after being stuck at my old one for 2 years. It was so hard for me mentally, and I had the worst anxiety for the first 4 weeks or so. Taking the first steps towards finding a new job was hard for me to do, because I didn’t want to have to face the interviews and starting something new, not knowing what to do, and being around people that I don’t know, but I’m honestly so glad I’m not where I use to be anymore. I’m lucky to have a mom that understands me and is there to help me with these things. She is my support system and I don’t know what I would do without her. But, yes, I get scared to talk to everyone in my life- even her. I’m scared that one day, once i’m moved out and don’t see her everyday anymore, I’ll stop talking to her, too.

@@tayelisa3669 congrats on finding a new job! Living like this isn't easy but we must try to see the glass half-full; you were able to find a job and get past the anxiety of the first weeks,that is a great accomplishment. Glad that you have people supporting you, I also don't know what I would do without the support of my family.

I feel you're pain girl 😔

hey guys, just wanted to say that im sorry this happens to you and that i wish u the best in life. also, u guys might try a therapist?

@@SinisterScoundrel6562 i understand that some therapists that you've worked with have been pretty much useless but trust me theyre not all the same. there us cure, love. for example, it was Jesus for me. He got me out of a very dark phase

Yes!

Thanks for the feedback. Stay tuned!

I'm in England where the "Help" Is free and it's still done nothing for me over the last 25 years.

maybe you should try finding other people that truly appreciate your friendship

I agree

Finding your tribe is imperative! Once you do find people you can trust, the world would seem a lot brighter.

I agree too 💯🥲 almost my way of thinking

I know how you feel. 🥺 What’s fucking depressing to me is that I’ve lost two “best” friends in a month after my b-day. They ghosted me and left without a word. This experience has left me jaded and cynical about being open to anyone. The only friends I have are nonexistent ones in my subconscious. That’s not too depressing is it? 🥲

Timestamps??

*Fear

I relate to all of these but I don't think I have Apd

Wait 2 weeks ago?

How did you comment this two weeks ago when the video came out an hour ago (from time of comment)

@Marshmallow Kitty You'll eventually get better.

@@drinasun6984 Worst that can happen is you become a 49 yo virgin :lol:

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I find it being easy to be manipulated when I avoid tension. So I’m agreeable all the time. Subject to narcissism etc

Same here. If you're like me, you'll never see this because the anxiety is so intense that the idea of reading a reply causes instant panic. Hopefully that's not the case. At least we gained another name to throw in the list of diagnoses. For me, this one will go at the head of the list. It's the most painful and severe of all of them. Being "forever alone" is worse than death. If only I had the courage to end this torment.

@@JB52520 now sure if i relate to what you guys said. but when i write comments on whatever topics utube vids are about i will check out replies if there are any. vivd example. last night when i was about to sleep i found i lost my student id card and i became panicking and somewhat depressed that i couldn't keep my own stuff. i then wrote some comments on one vid this channel made not far ago. basically writing about what i really thought after watching. and just less than 1 hour ago i saw one guy replied to that comment. that was sth discouraging and i just deleted my comment so i won't see his either. sadly i am now convinced that i have this avpd thing. sigh,

I'm 100% like this irl but on the internet I don't care coz nobody knows who I am irl so it dosnt matter what I say on here

1000000% this. It's a freaking nightmare!

@@JB52520 Agreed. Although I know that this is a "public social environment", I still treat it as if it is a place to share a monologue with my perspective on things, and then run away hoping that I may have brought insights to someone and dreading if anyone would actually want to engage in further discussion; no matter how much doing so would likely benefit my own mental health. Heck, my username here was only ever meant to be a placeholder after they split Gmail from KZfaq accounts. I had no plans to have this side of me ever seen in 'reality'. As far as the diagnosis goes, for me, I'd say it is likely a co-morbidity to some other conditions of mine; most likely in that the symptoms themselves overlap rather than this specifically applying to me despite how much everything lines up. Having been 15 years since I've had true friends, and limited mingling with coworkers over that time, it is hard to suddenly stop and trust people with my vulnerabilities in a time of division. Doesn't help matters when a part of your last circle of friends went on to become now infamous criminals... But that's just my take. I am sure that there's a ton of people out there with more or less severe traumas associated with their avoidances that are equally valid in their hesitation. Here's hoping we can all find a place in the world that can slow down enough for us to comfortably reach up and fit in.

God that’s me too. Seems like the more friends I would have the more of my flaws I’d expose to all of them and I’m fucking sick of that 🤦‍♂️

Nobody’s dumb and incompetent bro, that’s an ego thing, nobody knows everything you might just not know as much as others, be honest with yourself and give yourself the chance to grow.

I’ve also had enough of people telling this as well. I’m not saying I’m dumb and incompetent in a self deprecating way, I’m saying it because it’s true. I have grown a lot. I’m very self aware self, and that’s how I know I’m a person who slow to get things, bad at school and people have made fun of me for it my whole life. I like getting constructive criticism, but it’s hardly ever been constructive from people in my experience. Teachers and tutors were a nightmare, My first job I was let go because I wasn’t good enough at it, I quit a job a couple months ago cause the manager and some servers were barely patient with teaching me things. My moms friend nicknamed me ‘Dory’ when I was a kid and my dad said he didn’t think I could make it into a school I wanted to get into. My mother said to me this same thing when she was showing me how to drive. I don’t think I’m completely dumb but it’s frustrating when people think this when it’s actually the complete opposite.

I liked this as i agree and feel the same. not to mock.

Same, I usually avoid a lot of people because every single time that I open up my insecurities to them I feel like I'm just being an attention seeking person. I'm also worried a lot of times that I may come off as a narcissistic since I usually can't handle criticism. I don't really know how to handle my problems sometimes and the only right way I know is to avoid it.

Exactly. Every one feels at least a couple of these at some point in their lives. In order to be a clinical diagnosis, it’s about the intensity of the symptoms, more than one of these symptoms, AND the symptoms are pervasive across all aspects of a persons life.

I feel you. I never had issues making friends when I was younger. Just went up to people and said "Hey, you're cool, do you wanna be my friend?" and that was it. Later I got bullied and school and from then on, everything just went downhill. Lost most of my friends, my self esteem just didnt exist anymore and trying to make friends became difficult and exhausting. I now only have two friends, both not really close. One I barely see and one I am starting to get a little closer to. I wish it would be easier but it just isnt. I constantly feel, like I have to act like someone else for people to accept me. And I am also sorry that you and so many other people have to feel the way I do. No one should have to deal with this, but sadly, its not that easy.

Yea it's better to stay alone thab being with dramatic people's

@@Shyress I completely agree, in order to have close connections, you gotta put in a ton of work, and I don’t have time for that when I literally have to put in a ton of work for my classes lmao

It's funny how Ive been the most shy introvert in the world but somehow always ended up the most popular with a ton of friends only to find out none of them were friends. I like being away from foolishness that comes in the form of people lol

This comment is what I'm going through, I'm constantly trapped in my mind. Relating to almost everything on this list and constantly feeling inferior to everyone I meet. If I didn't have friends from elementary school that I made before my parents got divorced I wouldn't have any friends at all. Those extroverted friends have made my life much easier when I see them on the weekend, but going to a different school i suffer every week, stuck in my mind, overthinking almost every social reaction ever. A girl last weekend wanted to hangout at a pizza place and I got intimidated and nervous and instantly over thought even though I've known her for months. I made up an excuse about how I was busy and had homework to catch up on. Instead I sat on my room for the night, rejecting the invite in fear, even though I wanted to see her so bad. I don't want to self diagnose but I relate to everything in this video and I'm so exhausted of being trapped in my mind. I need help.

I don't know about that where I identify with all of the things on this video is as you said a extroverted friend forced me to hang out with them I would unfriend them immediately and ghost them and never speak to them again I hate being forced to do anything even a gentle forcing. 😢

I don't know about that where I identify with everything in the video as you say if an extroverted friend gently forced me to do anything I would immediately unfriend them ghost them and never speak to them again as I react very badly to being forced to do anything even a gentle forcing

This is why we need more extroverts

good for you, i have 0 friends. People make attempts to make friends with me but the problem with me is I unwillingly end my relationships with them bcuz I fear criticsm to an extreme extent so I withdraw from any social situation. I have been like this for like 6 years since I was 9 and as of now im 15 and still don't have any friends and i haven't improved much. And now im basically having some feelings of depression just cuz i haven't changed socially and academically. Well in terms of academics I was dong quite well way back elementary only problem with me was that im forgetful, i lack confidence (which is why I suck at leadership when it comes to group projects), and i was slightly lazy and disorganized. If only i wasn't lazy, forgetful and disorganized I would have with high honors instead of with honors only. Now as a highschool student im on academic decline just cause I can't concentrare (probably because of stress) and my lack of confidence became worse than it was when i was in elem. I want to seek some help from an expert but im scared that the expert might think im just being ridiculous

And that honestly makes it even more likely I have it, because I USED to be a more open person, and just generally more social, then just got a bit more and more shy, and then had to stay at home for over a year and now I 100% fit all (or almost all) of these signs. I'm not trying to self diagnose, and, well, you can probably guess based on how many of these fit me that I'm honestly too nervous to talk about this with anyone, even if I really want to.

Yes! This!

I hope it's not just covid lockdown yet. I had AVPD like this, first depression second anxiety third it that. the hardship for killing you inside.😭

YES. Something some people don’t understand. I’ve been harshly criticized and made fun of my whole childhood.

Me too i was bullied badly in my school life ,always being interupted during talks,had fake friend who used my innocence,this had lead to me where whenever i talk i cannot talk with any emotion

On the perfectionism point, I agree it is hard to accept not being perfect. I still want to help everyone, and not leave people behind due to arbitrary things like "annual budgets". Just got into civil service myself, and the idea of telling people no to their face in regards to support programs just makes my gut wretch. It is painfully hard, but I've been told to take solace in the gratitude of those I can help. Might not be working for me just yet, but maybe thinking of perfectionism in that light might make you appreciate what can be done without being perfect? Good luck.

While our minds know social rejection won’t kill us in the modern day, our brain tends to think otherwise. Failure is a symptom of having normal fallback plans for rejection. Because when you can’t rely on deep social connections, you search inward. “Maybe I’m not good enough for them, but I’m good on my own.”

@@jaykyuification fantastic insight

@@ChaosCorpse4tube I’m talking about perfectionism where being the best at a subject in school and feeling ashamed when the teacher praised me since I didn’t feel like I deserved it. I wasn’t wasn’t good enough to deserve it since my results weren’t 100% just very close to it. It’s a rather complex psychological issue that can have many causes, as well as cause severe issues for people, like how I eventually became anorexic since I should probably loose weight and then you just become fixated on that. Always something, and always a feeling of never being good enough as a person to deserve anything, overworking yourself so that you can make things perfect but since it’s impossible you’re doomed to fail from the start. It takes a lot of work to even try to change this kind of behaviour when a single spelling error in an entire essay ruined EVERYTHING, despite having found out that I’m severely dyslexic at sixteen. Why that long if it was so severe and obvious when getting diagnosed? The perfectionism. It was extremely hard to learn to read and write but I still did it, on my own, spending hours upon hours trying to make sense of these nonsensical scribbles that seemed so obvious to everyone else, I must be so STUPID because this feels impossible but I kept practicing, determined to not be a failure. Only to be continuously called lazy by teachers due to my poor spelling “for someone that reads as much as you do” over the following nine years further confirming that yes I’ll indeed never be good enough This is why psychologists and psychiatrists say that perfectionism isn’t a positive trait, it’s something that more often than not hinders people from achieving what they want in life due to “knowing” deep inside that they’re not good enough, because they’d have to be perfect and that’s impossible. It’s not always extreme, but it definitely can become in combination with other things, and you have to learn to compromise to even get things done. At some point exhaustion hits like a brick and it’ll just have to do, despite not being perfect and thus, rubbish, shouldn’t even be shown to others they’re going to hate it I have a whole bag of issues, perfectionism just happens to be one of them, but trauma specialist therapist is on my case now

Same :(

Same...

I always thought that I was just an introvert. It's much deeper than that. I agree with you that it's not just social anxiety. It's much more complexed and more common than I thought.

I agree 💯

No No No Yes Yes Yes 🥴

@@GouramiNatural same but I’m working on my self esteem now 😊👍

@@Luv4Jay1 yeah same. It's pretty important nowadays.

@@ssssssss1973 same

@@Luv4Jay1 Good luck with that!

Good for u.

Me too, i dont have to be around anyone!👍

Same. I feel much calmer alone.

Woah i actually feel sad for you tho.

That was kinda the same case for me as well but i feel sad for you, that really sucks

this also happened to me. Idk why but I feel like I am not as close as my 2 other online friends are, like they would talk about someone they know and I would be the third wheel and just be silent in the call...

Same

I can relate to this so much. I always am the only one who tries to keep friendships going and the one who cares more and if I don‘t to anything no one would ever text me or anything. I always am the least favorite of everyone and always feel like no one likes me no matter what I do. I don‘t even have friends and sometimes it makes me really sad but I don‘t know what to do anymore because I don‘t seem to find anyone who cares as much about me as I care about them or someone who would just appreciate me the way I am. But just like you I‘m so so tired of everything and I don’t even want to try anymore because it probably won’t work. and I‘m SO SO sorry for the long text

Maybe your two friends are in love no...? That would explain why they want to spend time only the two of them. Anyway, I hope you find true friends very soon ❤️

Same for me, it's tiring. I'm sorry you have to feel that pain. Honestly, I wish someone could care just for once for myself instead of leaving me behind.

Meeting people takes so much out of me. Sometimes I feel like I'm so stiff & hyperaware of everything I'm doing, how I'm talking, the way my mouth moves, the way I'm standing or sitting, where my hands are, etc that I can't even enjoy what's going on. & Usually just end up being really anxious & uncomfortable. There's only been a few times when the first time meeting someone has been really nice & I've felt quite comfortable. Most times I'm so uncomfortable, it's almost painful. & I always feel so anxious like I'm in danger.

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Thank you! Amanda has an amazing voice :) - Cindy

I agree,it's sooooo relaxing and sweet

This leads to being an incel though.

You’re not alone man it breaks my heart. I’m an introvert I got tired of chatting with new acquaintances and it’s getting exhausting I just want them to become my friends I tried of this bull crap I don’t want to make new friends sometimes and I just prefer to make a small circle, like right now for example a female acquaintance admitted that she doesn’t like talking to me and it broke my heart plus it’s been months since I last talked to her and I miss her every day now she leaves my messages on delivered and she doesn’t even check on my social media stories anymore I still miss her and I honestly think the acquaintance became my crush even though she friend zoned me and now it’s been months since I talked to her

Same situation been bullied, hated on, and rejected has made me become just like you it sucks I’m an introvert myself

@@xdrazormon454 i’m really sorry you experienced this, and this may seem ironic coming from a person who wrote a whole paragraph about my issues with myself, but you’re worth so much and no other human can decide that except yourself. it really does get better even if it may seem it doesn’t, sometimes it takes a month and sometimes it takes 3 years. i still struggle with my mental health a lot but now i’m trying to be a lot more confident, even if i’m faking it. but it really does help to fake confindence, so while you may not be confident for real right now eventually you will start feeling more confident naturally. “fake it till you make it” haha. also, if you need someone to talk to, i’m always here:) if no one else in your life got you, know that this random internet stranger does! 🩷

i am in the same boat, just like a quote from another Psych2Go video, "i rather be alone than abandoned" i am tired of having to deal with abandonment i no longer hope for something good to happen, just want the bad things to stop

I feel the exact same way. I don't want to get hurt anymore and I'm often misunderstood. So, what do I do? I put up these huge walls and don't let anyone in. I always feel like I'm flawed. (Not the right kind) My heart goes out to everyone who feel this way! So sad!

I feel like I'm never enough to satisfy my partners (or my parents, whom I no longer speak to). I am also sick of feeling this way. It hurts. And I never want to think or feel this way again. I'm sick of being hurt and betrayed.

i have the same feeling. i told about my feeling to my bf. and he said that he dont deserve my complain. and i dont want to tell aboit my feeling to him and i stopped tp tell my problems to anyone else. cause its not help at all. it seems no one cares to listen about my stupid problems too.

This is true, my mums ex was very abusive towards me and i did have two hostile teachers. Its no fun

Abusive family and bullied in school here 🙋🏽‍♀️

@@YurenaRA same. Bullied because I showed potential in school, I'm from a low income area. I'm much more successful than my bullies but they continue to live in my head rent free

My family wasn't abusive at all. My parents were addicted to moving, however, and it made it impossible for me to form lasting friendships, as we moved an average of more than once per year, and didn't stay in the same place more than three years until I was in my teens. Also, while I got along great with most of my teachers, the other kids in some of the schools I went to were absolute hell spawn.

Exactly

I dress and talk confidently but am usually shy to start conversation or take things to the next level. My shyness is not visibly obvious in a public environment

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the first step i think is to accept that you are shy and introverted :) and a very important thing is that if you need your time than take your time - you have to learn to go home if you feel tired - i mean i am an introverted person and i always need my time to re-energize after meeting with someone when you do this i have learned that you have much more energy to talk and interact with people and you can give more - sometimes maybe you think that you might miss something if you go but before you realize that the meeting is dragging you down because you have no energy left you should go home and take your time and after that you will realize it is much easier to be around people ✨💫💕

Easy. Throw yourself into situations where you have to deal with people. Preferably in a healthy way, like for me I hate interacting with people. People are scary. And yet I work in retail where I have to interact with people every single day. Now how does this help with the confidence part? I have low self esteem and little to no confidence in just about anything I do, but because I enjoy camping and sell camping gear I feel very confident and comfortable talking about most things because I have a lot of experience. I hate the job… but at least I know what I’m doing. Put yourself in all sorts of social situations and level the field by controlling/choosing those situations and shift the topic to something that you have lots of experience with. That’s how I get by. If you don’t think you have a lot of experience in anything that’s probably a lie but even so just find something you can enjoy and gain that experience.

You need to be able to immerse yourself into something, whether its a skill based physical activity like skateboarding or playing piano, or even learning another language. It's hard for several years as you have to diligently put the work in to make something second nature before you can enjoy it and gain the benefits of confidence that come with it. This is the best advice I can give you as someone who's been there. Being introverted can actually be a strength in this case, you can channel your emotions into something that will always be there for you unlike another another person. There are many paths out, this was just the one for me.

You’re not alone I suffered from this my entire life I’m trying rxposure therapy and i think it helpe me slowly to rewire my brain again and to build confidence and even i go to do rejection exposure to see that I didn’t die because of rejection

@@hasansarhan9296 I'm glad you're getting exposure therapy and I really hope it will help you out! I recently figured out this may also be connected to my autism, so I'm staying strong and trying to challenge and put myself out there more as well. 😊 I wish you the best!!

@@belsong thank you which you the best

Thank you for sharing :) Glad these videos helped. How do you feel about this video ?

Thanks for sharing. Glad it was helpful!

Do u have Avpd?

You got this!

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How did you overcome it ?

Thank you!! Glad you find it helpful.

Same thing happened to me. hope you’re ok! Three years later and my trust issues still going strong 😓

Thank you so much :) Would you like to see more of this animation?

Yay, thank you! It's one of our new animators :)

They sound like good people as do you, try telling them 🌸🕊️🙏🤞🤩

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Thank you too! Is this your favorite one so far?

@@Psych2go Yes ❤️❤️❤️

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you should get checked out first!

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Thank you so much :) Would you like to see more of this animation?

@@Psych2go yesss your new animator is awesome!!