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Painfully true, good qoute

I was bullied by a guy in high school, it affected me emotionally & made me an introvèrt & my academic performance declined. I am in college, now & the effect is still there.😪

@@Horizon429 Oh I'm so sorry :(

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@Λ DΛY ΛƬ DЦƧK Are you feeling defensive, can't meet their standards and feel like you are not able to do anything right only in their opinions? You are the victim, it's okay to defend yourself, be yourself and not be obligated to anyone else. Especially when they have no morals and personal standards for themselves or their behavior and they could care less about you.

Very much agreed! I remember as a kid learning about these different types of abuses but not recognizing at the moment that I was in the middle of any of them at that time. It took becoming an adult and seeing more normal families and how they function to realize how different my own home and upbringing were, and then even more time to come to accept that there was no easy way to change that without a lot of work on myself and without leaving that environment.

I get what you mean. I lived with a mom who was sweet and nice most of the time, but would get mean and delusional when she wasn't on her depression medication. I only somewhat recently learned that what she did to me, was emotional abuse. And sometimes I wonder if I'm just overreacting, like maybe her actions weren't that bad. Then I remember how I felt, and I remember some of the long-term issues I have. Watching this video reconfirmed it in a way.

Usually because you're young and naive and don't know any better, and the abuser and their enablers make you feel like it's your fault and that there's nothing that can be done about it.

So true. Took me years to figure it out and now I’ve just sent this video to my mum.

Damn. What book was that?

TYANK U😭

*fortress

​@@YtWuff same. I guess I should begin to have ONS and never ever again begin a new relationship

@@YtWuff one night stand😅 I often had the possibility, but I always said no because I want a relationship, but yeah, love sucks so maybe I should change that

A kingdom of isolation, and it looks like… IM THE QUEEN :0

As someone who experienced both, I fully agree. Hope everyone gets out of their toxic environment ❤

words are more harmful and damaging than bullets

@@arimarezaee7455 man what have you been through 😭

You got that right. I was helping my mother. Taking care of her. But she was still criticizing and judging me like crazy.

Absolutely!

Maybe you should go for therapy.

I saw an old Twilight Zone, where a man got his wish to relive his childhood, then realizing it was pure Hell. His GF said: "We remember the good." But my 10 y-o self resolved to remember every rotten thing that ever happened to me, so I would never make the same mistake, given the opportunity.

ahh me too

I’m sorry man I hope your happy and healing got any advice how to cope with emotional abuse ?

same

*hugs*

Sorry that you're going through mental and emotional abuse. We'd like to ask, were you able to find help? Do you have the right resources such as mental health professionals to help you?

@@ficmatagaea7813 Thx

@hhyh bruh, try living MY LIFE then you can TALK

@@Psych2go Yes I did find one way or another to cope with it & to go through the pain and agony, But also maintaining a somewhat stable mind set. Thx 4 asking & caring ❤ Also ps. Your videos REALLY helped me find flaws in me that I never thought I had and that helps A LOT.

Good for you and congratulations.

that's really nice. :)

I wss raised by overtly-controlling parents, since childhood. After I left my home during college, the effect started showing & I am unable to còpe with many situations.

please share how you healed this. I feel like I constantly bring out the worst in everyone around me

Same. Wishing you all the best!

Thank you. Beautifully said.

Im so glad you’re getting in tone with your feelings!’

Men are also hurt by toxic masculinity and this is a good example of how

Cry, yell, punch a wall, lean on a shoulder, just be vulnerable. I'm not a guy, but I'd rather anyone show their vulnerability since I get yelled at for it myself, just because it annoys my parent. So please, to anyone- feel a bit more confident and be vulnerable. You can't bottle up feelings after all! It's what makes you human. That's what my friend taught me :)

Down with gender roles! Down with gendered expectations! The only men I actually enjoy hanging out with are ones who are emotionally open and willing to express themselves. What is the point of being alive if you're being forced into a box that isn't big enough?

I hear you. My parents have provided me everything they could. Christmas presents, taking me on vacations, provided financially, etc. However, they fought a lot and the noises and such became too much. I've been more open lately about the stuff I'm doing, but my dad always shoots it down and my mom is working fulltime now (my dad is retired and I live with my parents), so being in the constant state of negativity hurts.

I'm so sorry that is happening to you🙏🏼😔 YOU ARE IMPORTANT YOU ARE LOVED YOU MATTER and YOU ARE NOT WHAT OTHERS THINK OR SAY OF YOU Believe in yourself! I'm struggling all these years later cause I never knew this. I believed whatever my parents said or did to me was law. They're the top of the food chain, we answer to them. But that's not the case at all. Parents obligations are to make sure you are safe (from others and yourself), protected, healthy (mentally, spiritually, emotionally and physically)guiding you in confidence, making sure you're happy, LIVING! Amongst many other things. Hands and objects hurt but words cut into us the worst. And because we are conditioned to look up to our parents and honour them, their words hold true meaning to us, even if they "didn't mean it" or if it was said out of anger or stress. I don't care what it is. No one has the right to hurt another person. I don't know your exact situation. Obviously, if it's abusive you can seek outside help or talk to someone you trust🙏🏼write down a list of things you love about yourself. If your parents aren't building up your self love and self confidence then you need to do the work. If you want help with this. You're welcome to dm me on Instagram. If you want or need, we can share affirmations and one thing you love about yourself each day. I do this with another friend and I just started it with another lastnight. It helps! To recognize your worth when no one seems to. I'm babbling on and on. My apologies. What you wrote here triggered me. Except my parents were toxic for me. Again, I'm sorry you're going through that and I'll keep you in my heart and prayers 🙏🏼🙏🏼💜🙏🏼🙏🏼

It's okay to struggle, but you're not alone in your struggle. I believe your situation WILL get better so...

same.. but for me, even when i make the smallest mistakes, the words they use... it stings so bad... and it's been going on for a while, adding the fact that I'm in a restrictive family which also stings me a lot more... i dont even dare tell them much about most of what's been happening because usually they'll just somehow find a way and turn it to me as if i am in the wrong... i wanna love them but at the same time im scared...

You re not alome

We're so sorry that you feel this way. It can be frustrating when the people in our lives, especially our loved ones, seem to be causing hurt even if it's unintentionally. We wanted to ask, have you tried speaking to a mental health professional that can help you set healthy boundaries?

@@Psych2go yes, I have been seeing a mental health professional just recently, and I'm glad I found some help.

I get the feel. gotta quit feeling like you're responsible for everyone else's comfort or whatever it is you feel responsible for that you aren't.

I know exactly how you feel. Why is it that good people have to deal with this. I dealt with those feelings through out my marriage and by my last employer. It would be nice not to feel like a pos every day.

I am truly so sorry that this is happening to you. I know the experience only too well (the way my wife has treated me in our 50 year marriage). Please stay strong, and know that those abusers are wrong, wrong, wrong ❤️‍🩹

and don't worry about hurting their feelings. they don't have any

Wee lamb stay strong ❤

Same with my mother.

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and feelings with us. We wanted to ask, how are you doing now? How are you setting healthy boundaries and loving yourself? Do you have any strategies that you found helpful?

I feel this comment very much and I'm happy to hear that you've been working hard to set boundaries and learn to self love. I believe that you can absolutely achieve those goals and be the best person that you already are! We all got this! 💙💙💙💙

I hope you feel better 💖

You remind me of a friend of mine who is in a friendship with a covert narcissist. I feel like he is slipping back. I did everything I could and gave him all the tools, it's on him now. Set boundaries, love yourself and know that not everything is your fault. You can't control how people feel but you can be kind, genuine and respectful while you deal with people. If they get upset and you checked all those boxes... then ... it's not your fault. Wish you the best.

You definitely got this! Take your time, because years of damage need time to heal. I can very much recommend talking to a professional - it's much easier, than talking to friends or relatives. Because, it's the therapists job to listen to you, so it feels less like you're burdening someone. Don't give up! ❤

Mine never apologized, pray for me that i can always forgive them 😢

It's really good that they took responsibility and apologised to you love. Good luck

Same

It's so interesting how _these_ parents are the same ones telling you, "you can come to me for anything", but then gaslight you about how you feel or about your experiences. I remember almost wanting to throw up bcs of having to do a "sit down talk". :/

I'm so glad I'm older, I won't stand for 'sit down talks' anymore. I won't tolerate being looked down the nose at. I would rather fight than be talked down to.

Man ofc You are overdramatic What a waste of air

Yes it’s gaslighting. Usually people like this will never take responsibility for what they’ve done. They say they love you, but when you ask them to stop something that hurts you, they blame you instead and say you’re too sensitive. Yes this is so common, unfortunately.

Thank you for taking the time to watch the video and for your thoughtful insight. We agree that mental abuse is less apparent than its physical counterpart, which does not mean that it's any less traumatizing. In your opinion, why do you think that the world tends to forget about the emotional effects of abuse?

@@Psych2go Good question I think it has everything to do with how people view others. In other words people try to talk down on others and never think to understand how it could make that other person feel. It's an I don't care attitude many has especially if they are higher in status. They don't take in consideration that they aren't perfect but paint themselves out like they are perfect and better than others, even on social media which adds to the mental abuse because of cyberbullying, hate comments, and even backlash. That's my view which is why I'm thankful that your channel has so many amazing content to share on mental health. Love your content and keep up the good work👍

Man whatever 😂

Dude that’s so amazing what advice to you have coping with the abuse ?

Your mom was your abuser?

@section_b, I fully appreciate what you are saying when you mentioned that you started to do some healing when your mom passed away. I only realized just how much of a damaged childhood I had when my mom passed away too. I loved her but I always had the feeling that life had been so difficult with her. The vast majority of those captions mentioned I had experienced at one time or another, some more than others. Now as an older adult I don't take the much $hit from anyone now. Live to my own tune and am happier for it. Take strength in that you can do this!!

Thank you so much for sharing something so personal to you. Being abused by an authority/mentor figure can have lasting effects. We wanted to ask, how are you doing now? Are you finding your other coach much more supportive? If so, how does that help you with the effects that your previous coach had left?

@@Psych2go well I left that club and got away from her, I think the worst part about it all was that before all this I was very close to her. But once I came back from my Injury [a horribly fractured humerus and two surgeries] she was extremely toxic but I still trusted her. I’m doing better now but if a coach shouts or yells at me I am prone to shutdowns and PTSD attacks two years later. I have found a very supportive group of friends who look out for me or help me if a coach unknowingly sets off an attack. I still struggle with a lot of the stuff from her but I’m talking to a councilor now to and stuffs getting a bit better, it’s slow but it’s progress! Sadly I don’t get to work with the other coach now, she lives in a different state but I’ve found new ones who are extremely supportive and believe in me even though I don’t, [maybe someday I’ll be able to believe in myself.]

I am happy for you wes❤ I am slowly healing finally. I am learning to trust people after a decade and i am expressing myself little by little now. These are small steps. But i never thought I can do all these😊 I dont know know why but I feel like sharing it here

@@stardust942 Small steps or not, they're still steps! Little by little, you will heal. I believe in you! One day, you're going to be fully healed, and you're going to be proud of how far you've come. Keep going! 🤍🤍🤍

Comedy gold XD for the reference lmfao

Jeez, you really need to let these references go

@@wes2326 thank you. This means so much to me:)

Samee 😢

me tooo 😭😭

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Man You are the one who don't love your parents I don't Even know why would they have u

​@@also4406 what the hell is wrong with you?

@Also it’s not their fault that their parents emotionally and mentally abused them.

i was a suma cum laude and my parents told me they could have done better than me and got mad at me. broke my world

I had pretty much the same. It was overall good, but then whenever I had a problem, my mom acted like she was the one hurt and I made her feel bad, instead of being the one to support me. As well as me being her confidant in the time of need. And this is when I was an early teenager. She also acted terribly displeased and hurt when I did small things like every kid, secretly eating junk food for example. But in day to day life, as long as I had good grades, all was good. She wasn't really interested in my life or hobbies, except for superficial questions like: how was school, who are you meeting with, etc.

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Thank you for sharing your insight. If possible, could you let us know which part of the video resonated to you?

@@Psych2go This is not Rich, but my sentiments exactly. Every part of the video fit me. I would say the most obvious part is that I used to blame myself for everything and everyone. ___Steve

im so proud of you,keep going

@@_Maryxmkhan09 Ty 💗 I'm proud of you too let's keep pushing 💪

I'm trying to work out the problems with my dysfunctional family. No one's bothered about anyone in my family. I tried to make things right but now I understand that this would take a very long time to recover.

@@nicholasleipzig5448 keep going I'm proud of you. Healing takes some time but it's not impossible :).

@@nicholasleipzig5448 hey what should I do because I have not seen my girlfriend in 8 months so should I go to my girlfriend graduation 👨‍🎓

sure they did

Someone wrote the timestamps an hour before you though

@@Anubonek that's okay. I've seen two comments with timestamps on this channel before.

So sorry, but PLEASE Don't let those thoughts and feelings have rule over you. There is Hope and healing. Focus on what you can do and what is pleasant in your life. : your favorite hobby, favorite food, fav music, fav animal. I'm noticing that being around dogs have been so healing for me. Write some affirmations down.: I will get through this, I matter, There's more to life, I Am a survivor, One step at a time, I'm getting stronger. Say them everyday. I'm praying for you, Philippines 4:13🙏🏽🩵😇

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Hey, I usually don't write comments but this one got my attention because i had to go through a similar phase than you did. Usually people say they were emotionally abused by their parents/family or their partner but rarely seen people say from a simple freind. So I had a similar "friend" than you did. Always tried to manipulate me so I spent time with him and not others and made me feel bad for it.Also insult me stuff like that. I could go on with things he did but that would take way to long. I mean it was never that one thing but rather always small things but those add up. But back then I was very naive and felt like I had to be friends with him. Also because I feared that he would talk shit in school about me and annoy me all the time or something like that. This would go a couple of years. But tbf in the beginning he wasn't like that I don't know why he tourned like this. Anyways. Luckily at some point he found a girlfriend and slowly I distanced myself from him. To this day I have trust issues and I'm very cautious with who I be friends with and even then I don't want a very close friendship. To this day I ask myself why he was like that and how he could do certain things because I can't believe that a kid or lets say young boy (we were like 13/14) manipulates others on purpose or doesn't have any sympathy at all. Like he told himself "oh today I'm going to manipulate him". I can't really believe that tbh so i think this question remains unexplained. I don't know why I'm telling you all this but I somehow found myself in your text so I wanted to share my experience as well and letting you know your not alone😅

@@Meilo33 I'm so sorry that you've had to go through a similar experience like mine. It can be a bit sad to see friends change or become different as we get older. It tends to happen to anyone and everyone, and it's a bit upsetting. However, you sharing your experience with me, makes me feel like there are people just like me out there and that's something to feel a bit good about. I am in the recovery process of my trauma and while I may not feel 100% myself most of the time, I can definitely see the difference in how I see things and I feel a lot better. I really hope that you have better friends today that treat you with the respect that you should always deserve and receive in return. Thank you again for sharing! It means a lot to me

@@gremlingabe thank you very much for this comment. Yeah today i have better friends and I'm glad that you also are feeling better now and i hope that you continue to get better and have already found friends that treat you with respect. Don't give up no matter in which situation you are. There will always be people that actually care about you and love you. Life can be hard sometimes but it makes me feel better that I'm not alone. I wish you all the best✌️

@@Meilo33 You're too sweet! Thank you very much for the support! I do now have better friends and I adore all of them with all my heart. I'm very happy you've found better people and I hope you continue to do better and be the best that you already are! Again, thank you for the sweet comment and support! I wish you the best as well! 💕

Same..

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These replies are so cruel-

@@Gracewillwood2837 FR💀

That can happen. I've lost most of my childhood memories thanks to my cPTSD. Sometimes you're left guessing because the symptoms match but you just have a blank for most of those years. Best of luck to you and I hope you can get someone qualified to talk to and figure it out.

@@suitov So sorry to hear that! My best regards to you as well. Luckily, I've managed to talk to a therapist, and we've been working on this matter now!

Don't give up, no matter what. You are stronger than you know. At 67, I am looking back on having survived and abusive childhood and I wish that I could somehow mind-meld with others currently in the situation and let them know not to lose self respect. Their opinions of you are not YOU. Do not allow them to kill your self-esteem, causing you to engage in behaviors that are an offshoot of that feeling - risk-taking and poor "coping" mechanisms that you engage in because you know something is missing but you don't know what. And by the Gods, don't think that harming yourself in any way will make them feel badly. Nope. They'll just use that as a bit of "I told you so" so they can play the long-suffering victim to the group of fawning sycophants the loosely refer to as "friends." Save yourself a LOT of misery and just realize you will never be perfect - or as in my case, even acceptable - to them but that the fault isn't in you, it's in THEM. Bide your time until you are able to leave and set out on your own. When you are able, you may want to search out a therapist who specializes in trauma-based disorders - I have one and he's awesome. I am so sorry that you have to be in such a situation. Just know that you aren't alone (I know that doesn't always help much, but still) - I mean there ARE others who DO understand. I always was partial to the quote by Friedrich Nietzsche that was used at the beginning of "Conan" - (no, not the new one, the REAL one with Arnold - "What does not destroy me, makes me strong." I have found it to be true. Be well and safe. (And I gather from your name that you're a gamer - me too, my husband and I - it's a great catharsis - (I had a therapist once who played GTA because she said she needed it after talking to some of the people she had to deal with all day - she did assessments for the prison system on pedophiles, to give her op[inion whether or not they should be released). Anyway, gaming is great for totally catching your mind when you start to feel yourself slipping down the rabbit hole to self-defeating and unhealthy thinking. Anyway sorry lol didn't mean to go one so! Geez it's about time for me to log in to ESO 😆😆Be well, friend.

You’re going to look back with such love and pride in the future, when you remember yourself now. Big hugs. ❤

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End your own misery then if You know what i mean 😂

Double check family of origin issues, because you don’t normally move into abusive relationships without having something controlling you in your childhood, no matter how small it is, demand for good grades, etc. if you can pinpoint where it started it might give you a heads up on why you continue to go there in relationships. I could be so wrong though in this situation. I just figured out what my issues with my parents where when I was around 40 yrs old. And they raised me well, too. 🤷🏻‍♀️💔

Same

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I think the best thing u can do to not repeat history is, don’t push your assumptions on them. If they are feeling uncomfortable sad, don’t always try to solve it.. listen., I think this was the main problem for most of us.. our parents didn’t try listening nor understanding, instead blaming.. saying it’s out fault we can’t figure 💩 out. At least for me.. i feel like im in a prison.. anxiety is crippling..but that’s what I would try not to do.. I won’t offer solutions unless my kid asks for it. But I will listen to them. And take into consideration what they say instead of blaming them for being broken.. maybe it’s my fault for breaking my kid? I dunno.. Also don’t hit them.. that 💩 destroys the kind..

I hope you the best sir,I might not know who you are but I hope you recover from all your wounds.

@@margaretteschmidt4423 thanks 😊

Me too! I can relate.

This comment couldn't anoy me more try living with it then tell me it's our responsibility you have no idea

Man too much to read 😂 JustKysAlright?

Stay strong ❤️‍🩹💔

I know exactly what you mean. I am sorry you are going through this as well as me. We may never know what we did wrong but it is their loss if they let us go from their lives. We are still surviving. 😊

Maybe you should go for Therapy.

Thank you so much for your kind words. We'd like to ask, which part of the video did you relate to?

@@Psych2go I really relayed to socially withdrawing which I’ve been doing recently not even realising but this really brought my attention to it thank you and keep making such great content ❤❤

Samee

Dude same I had to be my brothers care taker when I was kid and I wish I could’ve been focusing on homework that’s sounds horrible but I didn’t need to be a care taker I needed to be a child so now I’m all ducked up with my mom that can’t even take a second to ask me how I’m doing but I hope we healll so amazingly I believe we will :)

(•̀ᴗ•́)و 𝚍𝚘 𝚒𝚝!!

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