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Anyone else feel so calm and relieved when their parents leave the house and pray that they aren't home when you come back home?

It’s horrible when you’re separated from your parents for over a week and all you feel is a big sense of relief. I related so hard to a lot of these, the last one in particular.

Another one I think can be true is, you feel like you're walking on eggshells. Always afraid if you might trigger something unwanted and become the target of that anger. So you start being extra careful. Anyone else feel like this?

"I'm the dramatic one?" "There you go again" "I do so much for you every day, thats all I do, and you do nothing" "You're going to grow up to be a horrible person" "I never even said that, you're just asking things up for your own suit"

I remember telling my parents how I really felt around my family while we were having dinner one time and my mom decided to INTIMIDATE ME LIKE IT WAS GONNA CHANGE MY OPINION ON THEM

1. they don’t listen to you 2. they decide things for you 3. they tend to dismiss your problems 4. they tell you you’re overreacting 5. they deny their shortcomings 6. they shift the blame towards you 7. they never just take your word for it personally know how all of this feels, i hope me and whoever is reading this heals from the things we don’t talk about, i still have some hope it’ll get better, and i’ll give it to you guys ❤️

My mom: "You're such a crybaby" Me: *Oh yeah I'm sorry I guess I should just express my frustration as shouting and verbal agression like you do*

Man, I can’t imagine how many people suffer from this because how much it goes undetected. Now I realize how much I was gaslighted as a kid and didn’t realize until now.

I'd send this to my mom, but I'm PRETTY SURE she'll just use that "I CAN JUST KICK YOU OUT" shit against me again, of course

something in there really clicks when your parents are away on vacation and you're just... calm. like, you don't really miss them much. edit: after seeing so many likes and comments that relate a lot, I feel kinda' conflicted, I already knew I'm not alone in this, but I wish you guys didn't have to go through that shit.

Me: *tries to hide her pain* Mother: *pushes and prods to try to get me to open up* Me: *caves and opens up* Mother: "Well my *insert any life event* was worse than yours" Me: stops opening up My mother: *wonders why I never share anything and end up having an emotional blowout about every 2 weeks*

I'm scared to even show this to my parents. Because their probably gonna tried to denied it or just fake apologizing

Albert Einstein: *Don't judge a fish by it's ability to climb a tree.* Parents: *I'm gonna pretend I didn't see that.*

The most cruel thing my mother did was when she answered "I chose not to have heard what you just said". Totally devastating. It still hurts when I think about it, and I'm 77...

Even as a full-grown adult living on my own halfway across the country, my parents still do this stuff to me. Anytime I visit, I immediately lose my sense of self and become their accessory again, the good obedient child with no opinions of his own, at least until the pressure builds up enough for an explosive shouting match. It's a real love-hate relationship.

It sucks to try and have an honest conversation about how their actions made you feel, and they just laugh at you. I was devastated when my mom replied to me being upset with, “I’m sorry you decided to feel that way, but that’s not reality.” Like, what?

Even when the narrator is describing horrific signs of parental emotional abuse, her soothing voice somehow manages to make it calming, and more reassuring.

It's making me cry that they do all of that and still don't understand they're the reason why have been feeling this way.

“You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending...” ―C. S. Lewis Love from a small KZfaqr💙

I spent a full year away from my mother once. The BEST I've ever been. I felt so much happier. I do better mentally and physically when she's out of the picture. I WANT to love her but man, I cannot be around her for my own safety.

My mother enjoys that I confess my problems to her. The problem is that my confession becomes gossiping material with her friends. I am not sure how it is called in the world of psychology, but it makes it very difficult to trust someone like that.

I almost cried, because some points are actually happening at my home. I'm just shocked that parents can be like that. And that I was so blind. I'm sorry for all here, who feel the same

*This is literally how my parents are, I can’t ever choose what I like. Barely, And the grades are always another pressure.*

My mom never outright tells me what to do, she gives me and my sisters the illusion of choices but when we pick something she doesn’t want us to pick, she’ll push and guilt trip her option onto us until we cave.

"The greatest gifts you can give your children are the roots of responsibility and the wings of independence" - Peter Griffin

I'm not surprised by the accuracy, honestly.

Is it bad that when I hear my parent's voice I get scared and my heart races up and if they try to hug me my body automatically pushes them away and that I pay attention to their breathing, walking speed, how they step, and their tone?

This is why I lock myself in my room My online friends are just like my dream parents and I mean by that that I always dreamed that I wanted nice supportive parents who ACTUALLY care about me and show me what love is :)

I got my grades* "This isn't your best. Make it higher" Makes it higher* "Alright, now maintain it or make it higher" Got the highest grades possible* "Good, keep it up" I just want you to be proud of me. Is it that hard? I don't get any feeling of accomplisments in any things that I do now be it an achievement or a progress. It's all nothing to them anyway.

The frustration afterwards is unreal.

"Nah, you dont have problems big enoug to complain" "Stop acting like a baby! You're being so dramatic!" "Yea yea you're just saying that to make me feel guilty" Sometimes later "Why do you pass all day in front of a computer!? Come and socialize!"

I’ve recently been finding it difficult to be around my own mom, and it was weird but I was realizing that my mom was being really toxic towards me and I hadn’t noticed until very recently. The fact that I’m finding so many comments that relate to my own problems shows me that I’m not just making it up. I’ve gotten so bad with second-guessing myself that my friends have to scold me and tell me that what my mom has been doing is wrong and letting it keep going is just going to hurt my mental state more. I’m happy I found this channel because it came just when I needed it, to show me that I need to trust myself more and learn how to deal with these things.

My mother is the master of gaslighting. I can't believe it took me so long to recognize the signs. But I'm glad I finally acknowledged that her behaviour is wrong and I've recently cut her out of my life. ✂️

I'm in a bad place right now, and I'm sick of just sitting back and hoping it'll pass, but every time I try and test the waters to see if I can have a genuine talk with my parents it's spat back in my face and I'm left alone in my room in tears.

"Mom, can I have a pet?" "No, go ask your dad" "Okay" 1 minutes later "Dad, can I have a pet?" "No, go ask your mom" "But I already ask mom and she said go to ask you" "Are you talking back to me" "No" "How dare you" slaps "Im sorry, ill go ask mom(again)" 5 minutes later the kid didnt ask theyr mom but go to their room "Honey, are you okay?" "Leave me alone" "Don't you want a pet?" "Not anymore" "Why?" "You and dad keep saying 'no, go ask your mom' and 'no, go ask your dad'" "Fine I guess we wont give you a pet" ".." "Wait! Fine I forgive you guys.." "Good, but first do the chores" "...fine just for a pet.." "Sweet!" 2 hours later the kid was done doing the chores "Mom, I did the whole chores you gave me now can I have a pet please?" "Sorry I didn't remember telling you that I would give you a pet so the answer is no" This is why I will never trust adults even myself and the people I know, I also know kids and teens has been through if your one of those kids or teens please get help or go to the therapist Dont worry about me ill find a way to defeat this without needing help.

I tried to tell my parents that I’m atheist after their religious ceremony, and they kept putting words in my mouth. They said I was forcefully faking a “fit” when I was super anxious about coming out to them. It sucks to be told what and who you are by people who barely care about you. 😥

I’ve been gaslighted by my parents for years, and it’s frustrating. Between their shortcomings and not knowing how to help me with my problems, I feel like they’ve been doing what’s best for them rather than what’s best for me.

Me crying over something that matters to me. My parents: "Don't cry" "You aren't a little child" "Stop acting like a baby" Then they're suprised if I don't tell my feelings to them- :/

My mom is like “get out of the room, GET OUT OF THE ROOM” girl, she really wants me to cry in the living room

One that was a huge sign for me: I once said that I was scared of coming out to them as pan, and when I said I was scared to tell them something, and when I (while terrified) said I was pan, they said the worst response. "Well we aren't mad now, are we?" That implied that they COULD get mad at me for something I cannot change, that in other situations I would be punished for not being "normal"

Once again my parents would do this : - "You're just over reacting" - "Why can't you be respectful for once?" - "Look at your sister! She's very smart and we're proud of her." - "Why are you so useless? We know you want the art and music major, but we're low on money so we need you to pick a useful major" (explanation for you all that in Indonesia, people in Indonesia don't really use art and music major so it's pretty much useless unless you're already famous.) - "Is it really that hard to tell you to study? After all I've done for you would you at least consider us and try to repay us?" - "Stop making up stuff and saying you're depressed. *You're not* " - "Stop using sarcasm, you're annoying everyone else in this house and that is rude. Also you need to learn how to behave well" - Parents after hitting me and calling me a piece of shit : "Don't cry. It's noisy" Me who can't even cry anymore in my mind : And you expect me to respect you? - "Who are you to do what you want? You're my child and I support you on anything you do but can you respect me for once and follow what I want?" And this is how my life is 😃 Have a nice day y'all!

How about having a selective memory? I remember certain conversations with my mom about important things or events, and she always denies remembering them. Especially if it might paint her in a bad way.

This video isn't just able to let you know if your parents are gaslighting you or not, but it can also let you know what not to do as a parent.

“I gave birth to you so you have to listen to me” *honey, I could have been born in a different family. It’s not my choice to be your damn child* 😀 *let me do what I want to do- Idc if you don’t want me hanging out with my friends without you cause your scared, they have parents too ya know-*

*7 signs your parents are gaslighting you* 0:52 - They don’t listen to you 1:29 - They decide things for you 2:04 - They tend to dismiss your problems 2:35 - They tell you you’re overreacting 3:00 - They deny shortcomings 3:35 - They shift blame toward you 4:11 - They never just take your word for it Hey all, if you relate to some of these, know that you are not alone. It’s not your fault, and it doesn’t necessarily mean that your parents don’t love you - sometimes that’s all they know. And yes, it’s hurtful, and not enough. Much love ❤️ from *High Living - animated videos*

In just 2 more years I’ll be turning 18 and will go away from them peacefully without hurting them and will never look back to this time when they tortured me soo much mentally …My current goal is to just survive these 2 years as being a happy person by myself and stop expectations from my fake parents …Just gonna trust the Lord for instance…

The gaslighting I suffer from is sporadic, but the traumatic memories always haunt me terribly no matter how long ago it was.

Some of these are really too relatable to even think it's bad. I was shocked hearing some of the points. They don't fall completely in that category, but yeah, I think every parent has at least once made this mistake. Thankfully, all this happened for just about 1-2 years, and that was itself some 5 years ago. I think they understood they were somewhere wrong too, and I'm glad for that.

Me: trying to explain to my parents how my childhood caused long-lasting psychological problems. My parents: Yeah no, that never happened, we never did those things. You're lying. And if you're not lying, then you must be insane, since you clearly dreamed all of this up.

When I told them my problems their answer: "Then don't do it, don't study"

I tried to talk to my mom about the way she behaves when she’s angry a couple years ago and she turned it into a screaming match, telling me that I was being dramatic, that other people have it way worse, and saying that I was the one gaslighting her before saying she was leaving and never coming back and drove away. I won’t ever forget that, but I wish I could

Last night I really started hearing and realizing that my mom was gaslighting me. I tried to talk to her about why I was feeling like that and all I got was, “I didn’t say that. You’re taking and twisting my words. Oh my god I can’t even talk to you because you keep interrupting me” But the truth was this is what I said to her when she was actually interrupting me and not hearing what I said

I remember telling my parents that I wanna become a guitarist instead of a doctor they went near breaking my guitar

I had massive panic attacks almost every day for 23 years straight. My parent's only response was to tell me to learn how to control it. No other help. The moment I had a friend "remove a brick" from that wall my parents had spent my entire life building, I was able to look through and my panic attacks (at least the massive ones) completely stopped. I haven't felt this mentally lucid and emotionally stable ever. I'm moving out later this year with those same friends that helped me remove that first brick and while I have both my parents trying to gain that control over me continuously, I recognize it and won't budge on my decision. To those of you unable to distance yourselves from your situations, I know you can do it! But I also know it's going to be hard. Remember that no matter what your parents told you, there is always someone out there for you to rely on. They're not even that far away, you just need to remove your wall brick by brick and build a house in which you decide who you let in!

My best friend is lesbian and cis, but her mom keeps on insisting that she could ONLY like girls if she was a biological guy because of homophobia. She totally tricked my friend into thinking that she MUST be straight because it's impossible to be a wlw person. I HATE her mom. I later found out that her sister is a closeted bisexual, and she is M2F trans. (She transitioned on her own in her early 20's and still has not come out to her parents out of fear. Also, her mom is a super transphobe who has # superstraight on her Twitter bio according to my friend.

Watching this after my mom yelled at me for pointing out her problems. I’m definitely sending this to her. Thanks guys and God bless.

The biggest one for me is not being heard. I’m afraid to even let my mom know the things she does and says that really makes me feel horrible. I’ll never forget this one occurrence, I was invited to someone’s birthday party and I didn’t really know them too well so I told my mom I wasn’t gonna go. She asked me why and I told her number one: I don’t really know this person, and number two: I’ve been physically and mentally exhausted from everything I’ve been going through. She starts laughing at me and saying how ridiculous I sound, then she starts comparing her life to mine saying how worse she has it and I have no right to be tired. She literally yelled at me saying YOU DONT KNOW WHAT ITS LIKE TO BE TIERD. I was so scared, she made me ball my eyes out in fear. I was shaking, and getting a full on anxiety attack bc of it. She wouldn’t let me give her a reason why I was so mentally and physically tired, she just kept on ranting about her life and how hard it is to be a single parent and what not. This event happened a while ago so I don’t remember all the details, so I was possibly crying by the other things she was also saying to me. My mom isn’t verbally or physically abusive, but it was terrifying the way she was screaming at me..

If i got a nickel for every time my parent told me "You're overreacting" or "Stop being so sensitive" i could finally get the BTS albums i want

My mother makes me cry. She doesn't even bother to apologise, she acts like it's nothing and she doesn't care

The scariest part is, you can feel like your just making it all up, and that its all just something in your head. My parents and i would go for weeks arguing and then I have to apologise and be grateful they forgive me before we'd have some peace. And then it snaps and the cycle continues. I'm learning to listen and validate myself but it's SO hard and I'd always feel so 'selfish' hearing myself becuz that's what my parents would call EVERYTIME i listened to me over them. I'm being gaslighted but not anymore.

Before watching: I had a happy childhood, so probably won't relate, but I'll watch anyway. Relates to nearly all of the points: Wait...

My friend has been suffering from this and she absolutely needed this video. Thank you

I think the biggest thing that related to me here is "they don't listen to you/shift the blame to me." My parents have done that... like... my whole life. This might be a little personal, but the best example of this happening was: my mom got really drunk one night, and she does this thing where she repeats everything cause she can't think straight. 3rd time around, I raise my voice a little bit and she gets into a hissy fit. Next day, family sits us all down and gives us reasons for why mom got mad. Wanna know what wasn't mentioned. Moms drinking problem. It was all the kids fault. I WAS SO PISSED. Ah didbdjd sorry about that.

I got bullied a lot in school, and my mother always (yes, ALWAYS) responded from this knee-jerk assumption that I provoked it.

If you happen to be a parent watching this to make sure you don't do this to your children, I would just like to point out that you are a hero 💖

Gotta be honest.. It takes a while to face the fact that, as much as you love your parent(s), you've been gaslighted _so many times_ by them, perhaps even still because they know you've been so obedient to their words up till now.. :( Thanks for the video :)

I think it's pretty normal to enjoy parents not being around for a little while so you get some time to enjoy yourself as a teenager, but my mom has been gone for months at a time before, and I've enjoyed every second of her being gone. She does a lot of the things listed in this video to me, and I really hate it.

That’s a yes on all seven, still happy every day I haven’t spoken to them after 15years.

I have just realised my parents do all of these things, and now that I really think about it they never did all of this for love, this isn't what love is, this hurts your child and make them unable to love people because THIS is what they think love is when it isn't at all

I have parents just like this and it’s hard to live with, but I’ve taken the steps to have distance between us. Anyone who is dealing with this should take steps to take care of your self because the toxic nature can rub off you.

3:01 This is so real. I’m 32 right now and I still remember, when I was 12, asking my Mom can I say something without getting in trouble while I was getting chewed out for something. (I was going to tell her she was a hypocrite) She told me, flat out, no I can’t. So I never did. I knew I would get whipped if I did. 20 years later I remember this vividly and my relationship with my mom is still rocky even though she seems to try to better it

This almost made me start crying again, I see my parents as all of these signs and I just calmed down from a I think anxiety attack while being in little space so wow...

this happens daily in my life but I hope that even if one person reads this comment, they know that we can be independent and strong without anyone's validation. There are always better people in the world. Don't think that only blood-related people care for you. Others may care about you more. You just need to find them. I hope you lead a good life!

Damn this video really just defined my entire childhood, and my life right now. I hope that when I become a dad, I will get the opportunity to prove that I can be a much better parent than my mum and dad combined

Whenever I complain about my job or the things that happen at work, usually the two responses I get are "that's life" and "better find a new job." Neither of those are helpful, and it feels like they're both blowing me off and shaming me for complaining.

Ah, reminds me when I was around 14 and for the first time in my life told my Parents about my feelings. They both just paused and than bursted out Laughing. Telling me to not act like a spineless coward. That memory has been burned in my brain. Il remember that moment until the day I die, I think

When you thought your relationship with your parents was improving, but you relate to 5/7 of these:

I felt empty at many points of my life. It's sad that it had to be the closest to me causing this. Cutting ties with toxicity and focusing on self improvement is the way to a more peaceful life. Anyone reading this stay strong to the very end as things will get brighter in the future!

parents treat their children like this and leave them walking around with emotional scars for the rest of their lives. i moved on with my life, but the nightmares still won’t stop after over 3 years of no contact. if you’re a parent, please don’t permanently damage your kids. they will remember. they will hurt.

The thing that hurts the most is she will never understand what she's doing, she will always think she does everything right and she doesn't things to help me when she won't even talk to me

100% my relationship with my mother. "No contact" is SUCH a blessing!!!

This is so my parents and I wish I'd never had them as my parents just by how awful they are

I remember tell my dad about how low my self esteem was...he literally got mad at me. He got mad at me for having LOW SELF ESTEEM. He also constantly makes fun of my emotions so yeah,,he's not the best.

My mom has been a good parent most of my life until I started showing mental illness symptoms. In the past year, she's told me I'm lazy, not trying, dramatic, and told me that I'm too much work and I've made her have to rearrange her entire life. When I tell her this hurts, she gets irrationally mad, and yells telling me that she's human too and she can't be perfect, and that I should be grateful that I have a parent who's doing their best. Every time I try to say that she hurt me, she tells me that she's allowed to, because she had a bad day, what I did was justified to be angry at. Usually what I did was just things related to my ADHD - not being able to focus, executive dysfunction, etc. But I've told myself that since she's nice sometimes too, she can't be that bad. I'm only just accepting that she could be abusive. This video helped me realize that.

"Are you tired of arguing with your parents" *me who has an argument with my mother at least once a week* Me: Let me introduce myself

I swear you guys read my mind with these videos posted at the perfect time.

I'm feeling like this at 34! I've even started telling myself to not state my opinions anymore or speak unless spoken to first. Because I truly don't believe they care.

All of this is so familiar. Especially lately, my mother tries to guilt trip me into talking to her about my feelings. When I finally try to talk about how I feel, she laughs at me, screams at me that that never happened, I'm overreacting, I'm crazy, it's all my fault, I'm stupid, I'm not trying hard enough, I'm a spoiled ungrateful brat, etc. I'm turning 18 in a month, but I have no idea how to take care of myself. My anxiety is so bad that I feel like I can't function properly, I don't know how. I wonder if that's another thing she's caused. Sadly the most hurtful things anyone has ever said to me has come from her, and I'll never forget them.

This makes my childhood make a lot more sense, especially with my mom. She's done 5 out of 7 of these, and I've never been able to talk about it. Here's to hoping it doesn't get worse, I guess, when I move out.

I always knew that my "father figure" did not care for me at all, and this was one of the reasons why. Luckily, just a few years ago, I moved out of his household before things got much worse for me.

This video brought me in tears because this is what I’ve been going through for years with my Dad 🙁

This ruined me, I'm a broken person due to gaslighting. Well played.

Sadly, most of these things are true, now and when I was younger. I've realized that it's not that I haven't recovered from being bullied, I've also been gaslighted by my own parents, causing me self esteem issues. I have anxiety and one of the things that make me extremely anxious is thunderstorms, so, whenever one rolls around, I get anxious. But, my parents just say I'm being "over dramatic" or they tell me that teenagers shouldn't be afraid and anxious about things all the time, even though most of my anxiety is still out of my control.

This is like, the story of my life. Every single point you guys made, in this video, fits shockingly with my parents :(

Telling me I'm overreacting. That was the biggest one. When I was 4 or 5, I can look back and see I was indeed overreacting. But right now, when my mental health is a mess and I'm going through a lot, those words hurt.

I related to all of these... they got mad at me for going to therapy because of my depression because all they say is that it's just "self-pity" and it's just me "being a spoiled brat" or "other people have it way worse than me" the last one i know that it's a fact... and i feel guilty for crying myself to sleep almost every night...

I have had to deal with every aspect of this my ENTIRE life and its frustrating to the point where "those dark thoughts" seem like an easy way to get away from everything and everyone cause I never seem to have a say in anything.

man... its really sad, my parents decide things to me and tell me that im over-reacting things... well yes they said "you can do whatever you want" but they start telling me that i have to do this and that and there... kinda sucks cuz my dad beating me for to be smart in math... well thats was in the past... and of course... my mom and my dad never say sorry to me until now...maybe they do say sorry but.. i kinda.. forgot about that...i dont know why, when they break up i was like "understandable,have a nice day" i dont really care at all.. is it bad? i starting to get more feel bad about it ... is it because of me? am i not good enough? i dont know and i want to forget everything just happen... in the end.. i cant forget it... meh im just enjoying my life in my way oh yeah im from indonesian.. sorry for a bad english

I've dealt with my mom being a jerk to everyone since she had a surgery go wrong. Ever since then she has used that event as an excuse when someone says they're suffering. I say that the stress she brings me is breaking me and she says something like "I almost didn't make it back, I have PTSD and I will never recover" and completely stomps on my words. Recently she's gone and started going on about how horrible my dad is and every time I say that I'm suffering she just says "Oh your dad abused me for years and violated boundaries" because she caught him doing "naughty things" on his phone. Here's the thing. They still hold hands a lot, especially in public. I don't think you do that with someone that's supposedly a horrible person that abuses you. And then she goes on and says that I'm the issue, I'm gaslighting and manipulating people, and telling lies behind her back when I vent to others because I can't take it. I told her she's called me a lot of horrible names and denies it ever happened when I have audio proof of it happening. She's threatened to call the cops to kick me out of the house for standing up for myself and not taking this bullshit anymore. When I say I'm done with her bullshit she says "alright go sleep outside with the bats then" because she knows that I'm terrified of being outside after dark because of bats. She has actually tried waking me up by playing a game with sounds that she knows makes my OCD go haywire, with the intent to disturb me so I can't sleep. She constantly complains about my OCD compulsions and tells me to "quiet down" and says empty phrases like "that's enough" "you're okay" and SHE is the one in the house that self diagnoses us with disorders before the doctors confirm what she says and SHE is the one that says she knows a lot of psychology. She's not ignorant with my disorder problems. Its clear that its that she don't care. Thank goodness I am free from her in 12 days, but these 12 days will be an eternity with the way she treats me.