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“If speaking kindly to plants helps them grow, imagine what speaking kindly to humans can do.” 🙏🏽

1. They intimated you 2. They don't respect you 3.They don't listen to you 4. They don't show remorse 5. They are overly possessive of you 6.They are overly dependent on you 7.They cant be trusted I'm so sorry for anybody else who is going through this. Its okay we will find good friends

I used to be like this, I'm glad I started to recognize this earlier when one of them confronted me, I felt horrible realizing what I did, I don't deserve them, they still accepted me and helped me change, I feel really grateful for that.

This. This made me realize I was in a abusive friendship. Thank you. I needed this.

You’re supposed to feel comfortable around your friends but half the time I’m worried I won’t say the right thing to them...

I don’t need this, but hugs to those who do!

I always feel guilty for ending the friendship and even kinda long for them but watching this definitely reminded me of how toxic the relationship was and that it was best I got out of it. It definitely made me remember how i'd always push these things off, make excuses for them, plus even my friends tried to tell me but I just would defend them.

I can't help but feel grateful that my friends had abandoned me lately, I just realized that I was abusing them and did most of those harmful acts without knowing, I hope they find cure in each other company , and I will take a rest from making friends until I'm emotionally stable and safe to form any kind of relations without harming anyone, thanks for the video I now understand myself more.

Dear Bad Friend: "If you're going to be two-faced, at least make one of them pretty "

How did you know I need this right now? What type of black magic is this

I was friends with a girl for nearly three years and our friendship covered exactly all seven of these points. At the beginning of the last school year we were friends, I was diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety. I was in a really bad place at the time, and I told four people, her being one of them. Literally the next day, we were walking home and she was talking to our other friend and leaving me kind of walking along behind them. I stopped to tie my shoelaces and they didn’t even notice. At this point I was kind of like, yeah, fine. So I let them walk ahead of me. At the time I lived in England and I took the train to my high school, and I’d walk to the station with this girl. I got to the station by myself, and, assuming they’d already got on the train, took a seat at the platform. They then proceeded to walk over and sit about six feet away from me and had their own conversation. I, having just being diagnosed and being a pretty big mes, had a panic attack, right next to them. And this girl, who was supposed to be one of my best friends, just ignored me. Turns out, she’d already told the other girl I used to walk with about my diagnosis, and when I asked what was going on, she said that being depressed wasn’t an excuse for the way I had acted. I was confused, until she told me I had been bullying her about her interests for the duration of our entire friendship. Strangely, it was me who was ignored when I spoke about my favourite things, me who had to change my schedule to revolve around hers, me who couldn’t hang out with anyone else except her, me who apparently ‘wasn’t the person I used to be’ in her eyes. Because the old me never would have stood up for myself the way I did. One thing I do remember clearly, however, is that I was the only one who made any effort at all to try and salvage our friendship. She refused to take time out of her oh so busy schedule to talk to me about mending a friendship we’d had for three fucking years. And she couldn’t be bothered to meet me once to talk about what had happened. What made things worse is that she was such a big personality, that when I stopped being friends with her, none of my other friends were allowed to hang out with me. So not only am I depressed, suicidal and a teenager, an awful combination on its own, but I’d also been stuck in an extremely toxic relationship and lost everyone I trusted at the hands of this girl. I was not in a good place then. But I am so glad that it eventually happened. I can imagine having to be in a relationship like that again. To anyone who relates to this video, I do urge you to leave this relationship sooner rather than later. Thank you for taking the time to read this :)

My abusive relationship started in the second grade and lasted into the fifth. I never identified it as an abusive relationship, but rather, I've always identified it as bullying. The moment I realized was when our school social worker showed us a video on bullying and at the time, I didn't know ignoring someone counted as bullying, or that it had a specific category (silent bullying). Or that rumor spreading counted as verbal bullying. I wish in 2013 there were more videos like this, but now I'm glad that whenever I have kids, I'll be able to show them these videos so they are able to identify signs like these earlier.

When I’m with my Friend group I feel like I’m constantly small and not a good friend. It sucks sometimes

Okay, random story: I used to be a really terrible friend I hated when my friends hung out with other people, I didn't ever listen to what they were saying, and I pushed my own beliefs onto them. Because of that, our friendship was hurt beyond repair and we rarely talk anymore. Value your friendships and treat your friends like human beings and not objects, because you might not realize how amazing they were until they stop talking to you.

This makes me realize it was the right choice to stop the friendship with one of my former friends. I've felt so guilty about it for months, especially since her mom got sick and died a few months after our friendship stopped

Had to end a 6 year friendship yesterday with someone who displayed 5 of the 7 signs in this video. I felt confident I was doing the right thing, this confirmed it. Thank you for this video.

The dislikes are from abusive friends who are trying to deny it.

I had a toxic, abusive friendship for two years until I had enough. I spoke up and they left me in the most hurtful way and as crazy as it sounds, I was very scared I'd lost the only thing that made me happy. It was the opposite. Now half a year on, it was the best decision ever. You are better on your own than with toxicity ♥️

I'm currently writing a novel about a very successful person who is actually the victim of a series of abusive relationships, where they live in constant fear of losing the prestige they conquered - this video helped me A LOT with building the character, but I only found it again today! So I must thank you, that's super helpful!!

ive been emotionally abused for the past 5 years and i only noticed last year. she does most of the stuff you listed and comments on my sexuality by saying sh!t like you'll never be happy with a girl. She's emotionally manipulated me for years and every time I even think of ending the friendship she become super nice and supportive but only for a little then she goes back to being homophobic and not trustworthy. Every time I tell her smth personal i'm not surprised that everyone knows by the end of the week. She made all my friends stop hanging out with me last year. they see her true self now but I used to cry myself to sleep and made a unhealthy habit of making friend on vr instead of irl. She says all of our secrets and when we tell her we don't wanna tell her more bc she tells everyone she says she never did that. I cant stand up for myself and I feel bad when other ppl need to stand up for me bc i cant return the favor. The only way I can stand up for my friends is when they cry or she hurt them more then normal. This is not physical abuse so i didn't know if it counted for awhile. I would like to add i am only 11 and have to deal with her sh!t. I need help...

So so glad I cut off most of my “friends”. My closest circle today does none of this. Deciding who’s in and out of your life based on how they treat you can change your entire life.

Can't have an abusive friendship when you don't have friends

Thank you, I have ended a "friendship" that was toxic and I feel so much better now that she's gone.

I just recently broke off with my "friend" who always didn't listen, disrespected my boundaries, and was never really sorry for everything she did, from lying to me to hurting my feelings, to even leaving me out on purpose just to keep me in line with her, but I kept on holding on, even if everyone around me kept on telling me against it, until my "friend" just suddenly ignored me then very abruptly broke off for incredibly selfish reasons. I can tell you, it took an extreme emotional and mental toll on me, I experienced anxiety and panic attacks, I cried nonstop for weeks because of the stress, and until now, I'm still recovering from what happened... Ultimately I learned that I had to take care of myself and surround myself with better friends cuz ik that there are better people than her but it still hurts that I have put so much effort on her, more than anyone, just for that to happen..

I had a group of friends like this just last year. It took me years to realize how toxic they really were. They belittled me, kept me around just to talk behind my back, thought I was to sensitive for having triggers, and disrespected those triggers constantly. In the end im so glad that they're out of my life, but I can't help but think about them from time to time and blame myself. I know deep down it wasn't my fault that they were jerks, but something in my head like to try and get me to believe that it was my fault. Thank you for this video, it really helped me out

I was in an abusive friendship for about 8 years. We stopped talking about two years ago and still here I am watching videos like this. It takes a toll. It's so hard to recover and it's hard to believe I will ever recover all the way. But on the other hand, I still find myself questioning my own experiences and needing validation from videos like this. So if you're here while still in, or having ever been in any kind of abusive friendship, you're not alone. And if it was a long time ago and you're still struggling to to get close to being the undamaged person you were before all of it, you're definitely not alone.

I find myself in every situation. But I am too affraid to tell them: "I don´t want to be friends anymore." I can´t say a simple "no". I don´t know why. Glad psych2go is here!

The fact the Internet is a safer place then the battle ground out there in the real world. Love you guys

To everyone who's in this kind of friendship. It's really easy to get out of it. (I used to be in a few). All you have to do is: 1- Start spending less time with your abusive friend (decline offers as you are busy). Cut this time down at all cost 2- Start spending time with other people regardless of what your abusive friend might think/say. 3- Notice people who see value in you, and start spending more time with them. 4- Be sure you don't do this kind of behavior to other people. Let the negative energy out through healthy forms (e.g. prayers, charity, reflection, meditation, etc) 5- If your friend starts acting crazy or inappropriate, promptly seek help.

Most of my bullies have been “friends”. They acted as if I needed to follow certain rules to hang out with them, left me out of things and eventually verbally abused me on a daily basis.

I can relate to 3-They don't listen to you 4-They don't show remorse 7-They can't be trusted But it's not a friend, it's a cousin. She mocks me a lot and with all of her chit chats, I can barely tell her what are my problems

I related to two of those, I’ve already realized this friendship is toxic though and have been working on taking steps in the other direction, and yeah, it’s really hard leaving a friendship, even if it has become toxic, it used to be pretty good. But it’s for the better and will make me happier. ❤ best of luck to all of you!! Thanks for the video!!

This is giving me flashback... Stay strong for those who are still in an abusive friendship, you can be free from them I believe in you!

I didn’t watch this to figure out if I’m in a abusive friendship I watched it to figure out if I’m the abusive one.

i have left toxic relationship of 7 years. Im happy now and really living to see more and explore, i wish you guys nothing but happines ❤

reminder that every single one of these behaviors is abusive. even if someone only does ONE of these things to you habitually, that is still one form of abuse and does not excuse it.

That feeling when you feel like you are the _abuser._

You’re videos have really helped me. My mother has always been an abusive parent, and my friend just recently left me for a new friend group that was more “popular” than me. She bullied me and gossiped about me to them behind my back. I was thinking of suicide. But then I found your channel and I got the help I needed. I just wanted to say thank you so much.

I am actually still stuck in a toxic friendship and all these 7 things actually happened to me, I'm in a friend group I go with them to school so it's really hard to get them off my back, the group I am in is 5 people including me, they always hurt eachother and sometimes on the group chat talk bad things about me, then any time I tell my friends sorry I can't make it they would get so mad and say that I was ignoring them, then say if I was talking to someone in my class my so called friends would grab me away from them. Thank you so much this really helps but I still don't know how to say goodbye to that friend group.

My friends always make me feel like I don't even exist... They only notice me if they need something from me and say something behind my back after they got what they wanted...

Before therapy I never knew that friends could be emotionally abusive. I'm 40 and in the last year I ditched a whole circle of emotionally abusive friends. Bunch of manipulative, egotistical, gaslighting, narcissistic, immature jerks that gave a crap about only themselves. Getting them out of my life was the absolute best thing that I've ever done for myself : )

I was in one with my best friend, it may be hard to break off one especially a bestie but your going to feel much better in the long run

I can relate to all the points. My friend just never acknowledged my emotions even today, instead she gaslighted me for feeling what I felt. All of these is so emotionally draining. Been there for her but she has never been there for me. I'm soo exhausted, I want to go somewhere quite and cry myself out or just scream.

after watching this video i realized one of my best friends are fake. they're clearly selfish and don't clean up the tiniest things they literally did. and when we have fights, we never say a single sorry. but they clearly just keep on lying to me and once, they spilled out one of my secrets to the entire school and I'VE hated them for the entire grade but i just forgave them after and that was a mistake. i'm glad i subbed to this channel

Me, whos terrified of one of my friends who can get upset at me over small things 👁️👁️

Mind : let's watch signs of abusive friends Also mind : but you don't even have friends

“Oh you must have misunderstood” “I don’t remember that” Something my Online BFF/older sibling says to me all the time…

I don’t want my friends spending time with others because I’m scared they’ll like them more and leave me behind. I’ve been replaced, forgotten etc and I know it’ll happen again

it’s hard when all your friends are like this.

A "friend" of my friend was always doing her harm, criticizing, speaking badly, disrespecting and isolating her from the rest of the people, when I confronted her I even recorded what she said badly about my friend and when I showed the audio to my friend she said that I was lying because her "friend" would never do that, it took her a long time to notice that she was in a toxic friendship, many times I had to distance her from that person and protect her from various physical and psychological abuses.

Literally this is all that my old toxic friend was, 11 years of that bs and nothing but trauma to show for it.

i feel like its important to mention that sometimes people dont know what theyre doingh is wrong and they're willing to change. i was codependent towards one of my friends for a while, but i realized what i was doing was wrong and im actively putting in effort to change.

Yep, my ex friend of 12 years was like this, most of the signs she had. All she had to say when I told her that we couldn't be friends with her anymore was "lmao bye". Yep after more than half of our lives being friends that's what she said. Edit: this comment is nearly 2 years, so here's an update: almost exactly a year after the friendship ended, she apologized to me; however that does not mean we're friends again, the two of us have moved on with our lives. Thanks for all the love.

I didn’t need this but I just like watching these types of videos.

ive had an abusive friendship in over 3 years, only at the last 2 years it got really bad, and they would directly be rude, saying 'shut up' and ' Emo Bitch' or stuff like that. If I didn't watch this video i would never know that they abused me. Thank you a lot for this video, it has helped me!

I've been in my fair share of abusive friendships. After this happening several times I got to where I learned not to emotionally invest in the relationship when I realized what was going on, and would ignore them. When confronted, I'd use their own tactics on them. Boy were they quick in leaving. Because of these experiences, I learned to be a good friend. Some of the friends I've made had also been in abusive friendships, and I'd point the things their "friends" did. I believe that on hearing that I've been through that kind of thing helped them feel validated. It is sad that people don't talk about this kind of thing. For those going through it, it does take time to heal but it's worth it

I used to be in an abusive relationship with my friend since 1st grade, I recently broke off with them and honestly I've been free ever since. After I broke it off with them though they tried to spin the narrative into me overreacting, being a baby (after they invalidated my triggers and refused to respect them), said it was my fault for not telling them all the details of my abusive relationship, gas-lighted me, said I was mad at them for opening up to me, called me a liar, and lost their shit. All I wanted was for them to respect my boundaries and my triggers and to stop treating me like a therapist. When I asked for an apology they accused me of talking behind their back, but I'd never done anything like that. They tried to make my current friend group into the liars. I was so afraid of them hurting themself when I left which is why I ignored all the red flags for up to two years after they started showing up. It's been months since I've last spoken to them and I've never felt more free. Just know, if you're in an abusive relationship you have the power to walk out. If you're genuinely scared of what your abuser may do then seek help, talk to a trusted adult (if you're a minor) or someone you know. It may be hard but just know you don't owe anyone anything, and if a relationship is bad for you then you don't need to stay.

Hoping everyone that reads this finds loving friendships that they deserve! 💗

bro, i’m so glad i cut off all of the toxic ppl so called my friends back then. they don’t worth your comfort. sometimes it’s best to just let ‘em go.

When i was younger, I had a lot of so called friends who have done toxic actions like these scrion you stated in the video. I have already started to not contact with these people as they didn't help to change themselves. Thank you for raising awarenesss about the different types of people that are like these. I wish that i see these videos and learn from these videos more often.

I was abused emotionally, physically, and s3xually by my "best friend" for 3 years and everything they did to me haunts me to this day. And the hardest part is when my trauma isn't validated because it wasn't a parent or partner abusing me. Because of that I started to think I was just weak and fake. But this video made me feel heard and validated for the first time in a long time. To anyone else who's in or has been in an abusive friendship, you're not alone. Stay strong and know that you are important and loved by someone even if you don't know it. 💚 (Edit: To everyone in the comments, thank you so much for being so supportive and kind it seriously means so much to me. It's been awesome being able to connect with others who have been through similar traumas, and I hope all of you are safe and in the process of healing now. You guys are amazing.)

My friend has been telling lies to people about me, and this in this video, this relates to everything from my social life

My bestfriend is toxic, but whenever I tell her I found a new friend she gets mad and says she is scared to lose me. Tough love.

When I was a child my (late) Dad took me to a show. While we were in the venue getting our tickets there was this bum/scalper bothering customers. The security guard asked him to leave. This rubbie then starts giving attitude, even made "fighting motions". The security guard then took him by the collar, practically picked him up, and threw him right out, and that was the end of it. Problem solved. My Dad told me after that this is what you have to do with toxic people sometimes when you detect abuse that is constant. No, not violently as this was just an analogy. But he said to just GET RID OF THEM ASAP or they will erode your life, sanity, social life, finances, time, etc. I took this advice and believe I have lived better because of it. And, every time I tell someone I wish to end a relationship with them I build more and more courage to do it again for the next bad person. It's tough, but trust me - you gotta do this laundry sometimes. But, I assure you, that I have had NO REGRETS so far. Bless you Dad. 🙏

I recently got out of an abusive friendship and it was one of the most challenging things I've had to do. Even after realising that the friendship wasn't healthy, it took me so long to be able to get out of it. As you mentioned in the video, people don't tend to think of friendships when they talk about abusive relationships, and even though my other friends wanted to support me and agreed it wasn't a healthy relationship, I don't think anyone quite understood how much of a challenge it was to get out of it. The abusive friend in question seemed to know exactly how to keep pulling me back in each time they did something that should have made me walk away for good. I almost completely lost my sense of self, and I was so vulnerable as a result. Even though I am much happier now that the friendship has ended, I still have days where I wonder if I did the right thing, where I blame myself for the failure of the relationship or wonder if I was too harsh. I'm realising this is ok, and like the end of any relationship, it can be complicated and messy and my feelings are valid, despite their changing nature. But, as time goes on, I have more good days than bad days and I am beginning to find myself again, and gaining a newfound confidence I didn't have before. I'm not glad I had to go through it, but I have certainly learned a lot from the situation. I wanted to share this so that other people in this situation know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. You are loved and respected, and deserve to be honoured in your friendships, not taken advantage of. I hope anyone in this situation is able to find their way out. Talk to your friends and family if you can. If not, see if there is a professional who may be able to help you. As always, if you are in any danger, call a crisis line or emergency services. Big love to you all

I’ve definitely been in more than one abusive “friendships”

I used to have a really good best friend, but this video is exactly what happened and why I stopped being friends with them. They spread a rumor about me, told all my crushes I liked them, etc. But when I told my teacher that my ex-best friend said I liked him and I don't, he didn't believe me. And I immediately stopped being friends with my ex-best friend. It really hurt to let go of that friendship, because I loved them, but I was better off being friends with someone who would treat me with the love and respect I deserve, because that friendship wasn't healthy for me. Stay safe, and keep doing you!❤

They keep you isolated. It gives them more power over you. They will have other friends but you will never get to meet them.

this vid is 6 years late, I have a deteriorating mental health bc of this lmao. I'm so glad videos like this exist now because it helps people identify the situation and make them aware of what's going on.

I used to be in an abusive friendship for months and I'm so glad that I got away. Abuse comes in many ways and forms. Thank you for making this! 💕

i seriously cant take this anymore ive been in a abusive friendship and toxic for many years and still am im afraid they will not be friends with me no more and i cant help it but do everythig they say i cried once and i told my mom and she said"it doesnt matter what they say it only matters how u feel and if u need someone to get phisically help from im always there for u dear once im gone i wont be there so make sure to be safe and if u have problems talk to me honey" since i got 4 sibs i can talk about my problems too so please always share ur feelings and thoughts i once had a fight with her and i had enough but they begged for me to come back now here i am being a sad and depressed loser with luckily my bestie on my side so always remember to smile and stay healthy!

this actually made me realise how absolutly amazing my friends are. the openness we have with each other and the way we trust each other is amazing! I am really happy to have them as my friends.

My ex friend was like this "your the reason I have anxiety" "of course you can't hang out with me" "you never listen to me" "you made my whole year horrible" " are you stupid" these are just some of the things she would say to me

You forgot, they make you cry and laugh when it happens

Recently I actually did remove myself from a toxic friend group because they made me feel useless and the sad thing is the things they've done in the past affect me now in the current time I don't know what to do anymore 😔💜

Friendships can be just as damaging as romantic relationships and other relationships too. My childhood friend was incredibly abusive- to the point the special ed teacher told my ma to discourage our friendship outside of school. The friendship has left me with incredibly deep rooted issues with self worth, self esteem, self confidence, paranoia, anxiety, abandonment etc. still working through it all in therapy.

This is my first time doing one of these! I hope I did it right! 😊 7 signs of an abusive friendship. 1. They intimidate you 0:43 2. They disrespect you 1:27 3. They don't listen to you 2:10 4. They don't show remorse 2:49 5. They're overly possessive of you 3:29 6. They're overly dependent on you 4:03 7. They can't be trusted 4:36 No one should have to go through an abusive friendship/relationship, and if you are going through one, I hope you are able to get out of it. Love you guys, stay safe and take care of yourselves.💖

I agree. Your abusive behavior towards me is coming to an end.

I watched this thinking that I might find that some of my friends were toxic but then I realized I was the toxic one. I’m about to go rethink all my friendships

This was a childhood friend of mine. I always look back and think "Why did I hang out with her?" or "Why did I believe that this was a normal friendship?". She would prioritize other friends over me, even if we already had something planned. She would openly belittle me and even distance herself from me when we were around our school peers. She'd act like I was unworthy and would frequently make negative comments on my appearance. I actually thought I was unattractive as a kid/teen because of her criticisms all those years. Eventually, when we got to high school she decided I wasn't cool enough to hang with her new friends. She became even more standoffish and rude, rolling her eyes whenever I would talk to her. In the middle of freshman year, I stopped trying to reach out to her. It hurt at the time, but it was for the best. I had to redefine what "friendships" were to me and what they weren't going forward.

ive had really toxic friendships. the quarantine is helping in one way to show me who really cares and wants to stay friends and who doesn't care

I remember, everytime my friend and I have an argument they say "I had to say sorry last time so you say sorry, I'm the one who always has to say sorry" even though I apologize everytime, the worst thing is I made a friend and then they yelled at me saying I replaced them. And to this day they keep convincing me to be their friend.

I never realized how toxic my friends are. They always talk about the past that reflects on me and makes a fuss about it when i tell them to stop, and expect me to get over it. They always ignore me and whenever i try to go near them, and then i go away for a small task, i find they move and have to go around and look for them. I have always tried to get them out of my friend group, but their parents know mine and im scared they might tell them bad stuff that i didnt do at all. And the other one threatens me very badly like “my friends will beat you up” or “ill put pictures of you around the school and tell people what a bad person you are “ (im not a bad person im actually really nice.

I clicked on this cause I’m bored... but I see my friend doing atleast 4 of these things DAILY! But I also noticed that I myself do one...

When my friend does something wrong they say “I’m sorry if I did something wrong”, IF, no matter how obvious it is that they did, in fact do something and if I say something about what they did they say I’m attacking them

There's also a friendship in that one friend doesn't have the energy to build a relationship. It can be seen in simple gestures like: 1. Inviting them and ignore afterward 2. Second-guessing most of the time 3. Sharing small things but the person doesn't really listen. It's kinda tiring to be in this relationship because of the uncertainty of that person building something.

As someone who’s had many fake friends here’s a list I made 😊 1. They leave you out when they make plans 2. They sneak diss you and make rude comments about how you look or what you do 3. They never congratulate you 4. They’re always on social media but never like or comment on your posts 5. They talk bad about you to others 6. They flirt with your partners or ex partners 7. They talk down on you even more when people are around especially when the opposite sex is around 8. If they let others talk bad about you and don’t defend you 9. They always want free car rides and to barrow money but never want to help you out My biggest tip is to trust your intuition, every time I thought a friend was secretly jealous and trying to compete I brushed it off and it ended up hurting me. In astrology you have a full birth chart with multiple houses to them, if you have a 12th house you tend to have more hidden enemies not everyone has a prominent 12th house but if you do check if you have a 12th house see what signs fall into it and at what degrees to protect yourself because I have libra mars in my 12th so my biggest enemies are people I extend my heart to, the singer Selena who was killed by the leader of her fan club had this exact placement but I swear learning about it helped me a lot. Also the sign of your Chiron helps you learn about your biggest wound I think that helps people a lot to learn about this placement despite it not being friendship related. Just trying to help people heal with astrology 😬💗

Other things you could add is "They don't respect boundaries "

Finally a video that’s super on the nose for what my abusive ex-friend was like. If she tries to contact me again I’m sending her this. She does not deserve any more of my words or head space after I laid out quite plainly and easy to understand what the issues with our friendship was. To any of the abusers who landed on this video: wake up. They don’t want you back. You hurt them so much that after all the years they put up with you they finally escaped and cut ties. Let them heal. Figure yourself out. Do not initiate contact. They probably have you blocked on everything anyway

I had experienced six years of a toxic friendship who had all these signs. We were in high school at the time and those days were miserable for me. They would belittle me at everything whether it’s a new hobby or drawing. They would play it off as a ‘joke’. They would always want to come over or hang out 24/7 and I feel like I couldn’t say no to them in any way since they were going thru a lot. I hardly ask them anything in return. It was mostly them asking for favors. It got mentally draining over the years and I finally had the courage to block them on everything and never talk to them again and I felt like I could breathe again. Sometimes they still try to get in contact with me again but I block any of their new accounts. To those who are in a toxic friendship, leave them for the sake of your mental health. You are not responsible for their happiness. If they don’t do anything for you in return, they’re not a good friend.

3:04 there’s one time I never apologise to my friend because she was also in the wrong not telling me that she was in the toilet. I said it’s hard to apologise sometimes and she said if it’s hard, I’m not sincere. NO. It’s because she never told me and never answered my question when she was in the toilet, and I knew that if I apologise, I would have a feeling of emptiness because the apology is not completely fulfilled and lose trust in the friendship. I’m very sensitive to how I make best friends these days and I think it’s because I’m going through adolescent stage.

I was bullied by my friends in 7th grade but then found a true friend after that incident. People bullied her for staying with me but she still stayed. When we're friends, I met 4 new friends along the way. I thought that the bullying incident will stop me from meeting someone (as it caused a traumatic experience) but I found 4 new friends who never left. Now, they are my best friends. Despite that we have different courses and different schools, we still keep in touch. For those whose struggling or experiencing a bad friendship, you'll then meet someone who will make you feel you're special. Stay strong and hold on.

I’ve been struggling with making/holding friendships since I graduated from high school (10 years ago now) and recently I realized I think it’s due to my “best friend” being extremely toxic and abusive. Been trying to do more research on it lately, I wasn’t really sure if “abusive friendships” were a thing, this video made me cry. I realized it’s real and it was my reality. It really feels like it’s ruined a big part of my life, struggling to make/maintain friendships...

I had that problem recently thank you for making that video and helping everyone some of the things you said is what I had to deal with like being told what to do, always had to attend their needs, only want me to care about their interests and not mine, keeps asking me to spend money on him and always wants me to be on call with him and if I mess up on a video game or leave the call he will get mad at me and the hardest part is letting go that friendship. They can be nice to you at first but over time they can get the best of you and it can take away your freedom like what it did to mine. Sorry if the comment is long but I am away with words

In grade five, I was in an abusive friend ship with a girl and she tried to k!ll me, after I told someone, she kept saying "it wasn't me! She's lying" and "it was my evil twin" and I was so glad when she moved schools. We haven't spoken in six years

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Yes! Finally someone who said it! Abusive friendships are often overlooked because ppl often assume relationships can only be abusive if it’s between parents and children and romantic partners smh. I’ve been in so many abusive friendships and so glad I left them. I left one recently in mid 2022 and it’s gotta be the worst one. The so-called friend had an unrequited crush on me and showed via extremely implicit actions that he wanted me all to himself and doesn’t want me to hang out with other people. When I rejected him, he didn’t take it maturely and asked the second time on the same day, thinking if he put in the right combination, i will eventually return his feelings. He got jealous when I showed interest in someone else. I called him out for the BS he did and unsurprisingly he kept self-victimizing and going “Don’t let this ruin our friendship” Every time he gets criticized for anything, he would always assume the other person doesn’t want to be friends anymore which shows he doesn’t want to take accountability for anything. One of our mutual friends found out what he did and shot him down hard. She KNEW he had feelings for me before I found out and never supported his interest in me. She had a feeling we’re not compatible and she’s not wrong. I eventually cut him off and I felt a weight has been lifted off my shoulders.

i was never really a person with many friends, or a best friend for that matter but when i did have best friends, i was the one who caused such abusive relationships because i never had a friend growing up i always used to think people would always abandon me for other people, but it turns out it was just me as of now i don't have a best friend but i have learned from my mistakes and this video made me realize that thank you psych2go

All my "friends" r like this. They always ignore me, tease me, make me feel uncomfortable and they even bodyshame me and say that it their opinion. They shout at me, even one of them pushed me and did like nothing happened the next day. They always seek attention. They say:"u dont even have ADHD, depression and anxiety. I had anxiety and depression at a rlly young age." I asked them if they even know what is anxiety and didn't even answer to my question. Like, they dont even know what does that means.