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"Turns out, I'm all of them"

I think another type of person that would be smart to stay away from, is a very depressed person that trauma dumps in almost all conversations. Not to say depressed people can't be in relationships (heck, I am), but being exposed to so much negativity for a while stirs up this chronic insecurity about how your SO is doing, and that it's your responsibility to keep them happy when it might be totally unrealistic. Then you forget to take care of yourself. I just stopped an emotionally vulnerable friend from entering this sort of relationship because I've been there myself and holy hell was it a roller coaster ride.

I'm afraid being one of them without realizing it, need therapy after this to fix myself.

NARCISSISM. Narcissistic crush was the worst of my life experiences. Pain, trauma, long recovery. This is pure evil hidden inside, not person. Avoid.

Timestamps 1). The pick me 0:22 2). If you can't handle me at my worst 1:04 3). The ghost whisper 1:37 4). The mirror, mirror on the wall 2:15 5). The lovebomber 2:59 6). The time traveler 3:45 7). The serial monologuer 4:10 8). The social media stalker 4:42 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

i think you should avoid people that expect something from you that they don't have, like they say i like someone who cares about me, but they don't care about you

Another take: Don't date the extremely toxic person. At first, the relationship may seem fine, but when you're at your lowest point, they'll dump you like you've never existed, and when you try to fix it. They're not here for you. Happened to me once, now I'm fully aware

That "Social Media Stalker" part hit HARD. I had a great relationship for 3 years or so; not perfect but I did my best to keep it together, even through the pandemic and a few conflicting opinions. Eventually she found some posts on social media about my previous ex from like 6 years earlier, and started making the worst assumptions about me. I made a poorly-thought out comment that she should "stop letting her assumptions breed with each other", and things were over pretty quickly after that. I truely appreciate this advice, thank you.

Don't date extreme people-pleasers. They won't tell you if something is wrong, they'll just agree with everything you say and be passive. You won't really know if they are happy or not. But when you break up and you'll try to fix at least your friendship with them, they'll tell you how they didn't like you at all, that you were so bad partner and what everything what did you do wrong. But you won't really know about all these things until one moment when they throw at you everything. It happened to me and it hurt because I was really trying hard to be the best partner I could. But he just didn't tell me something is wrong. Sorry for grammatic errors xd

I’m dating the opposite of the time traveler. He’s said he has a lot of trauma from his past so discussing or asking about his past is a boundary for him but we also don’t talk about the future much. He says he wants to live in the moment, which when we are together is fun but it makes me feel like our relationship has no real future.

Be careful and stay healthy guys ❤

Personal take: If you feel that someone you want to date or even befriend or already know feels/seems or just is judgemental, see if you can help the person to acknowledge this flaw and show that they’re genuinely working on it, if they don’t care or don’t want to or can’t notice this and can’t be bothered to do something about it, run away, because they will zap you of energy and confidence really fast.

If you cant handle me at my worst, I cant blame you, that shit is rediculous. I honestly used to do the mirror thing, its a mark of someone who is insecure, its like, they might like me if im more like them, it doesnt work. As ive gotten more confident ive stopped doing it, and im happier for it.

Another one that should make into the list: The Stick-To-You-Like-Flypaper. The clingy and possessive types--the ones that ORDERS you to stay away from your friends and other loved ones. "Wanna have quality time with your friends and loved ones? Why bother when you have me?" These people gonna be receiving the "thank you, next" straight up from me. Lol.

That part about the "time traveler" hits really hard for me.. Sometimes its hard to let go of the past or worry about the future. Something i still struggle with to this day. Compared to now i'm alot more aware of this feeling & i'm currently working on it. Im trying my best to live in the present by being grateful of my past achievements & thinking of certain events or person who have changed me for the better. Also I've been focusing on things i enjoy or are of special interest like music production & life sciences

28 year old Virgin With Autism, Bipolar Depression, Anxiety, OCD,ADHD, schizophrenia traits. When had break down @ 21 years old the Doctors told me Odds are very Low and we need to get you to hold a Job for 1 year also majority in your mental health history Homeless, In and out of mental health facilities ECT. I've been oddly stable since 24 So far about to cross 1 year Market with 400$ week retail job

Love being here🥺❤️this page saved my life 3 years ago

I have met a lot of serial monologuers. A lot of times I was around other people and they would talk and talk nonstop and they would not let me talk. Every time I try to speak they would constantly interrupt me. It’s very upsetting for me and I don’t want a relationship with a partner who does that.

I was caught by a lovebomber...Kinda. She toyed with me for about 3 weeks and then just said "Actually, I don't like you. It was all just a joke and I wanted to see how far I could take it" I thought "am I a joke?" ever since then I haven't talked to a new girls because of this fear of being completely played.

Thank you for this video. I've been single 6 months now and I don't think I'll be in a relationship anytime soon. I'm still soul searching and I'm okay with that❤

Mannn this type of information is what keeps me single. thanks :/

I'm not perfect, but I am always trying to be a better person. One thing I always pass on is someone who's nice to me one day & mean to me the next. ✌✌

The whole "lovebomber" description hit hard, although I don't think I'd actually use that term to describe what happened. So imagine admitting how you felt to another person, then that person gently rejecting you and quietly exiting your life. The mature thing to do is to move on, right? Only the problem is the person never actually left your social circle, they just avoid you, but simultaneously try to control your life from the outside. Any attempt to move on is deliberately sabotaged. Calling them out on this results in a doxxing and an attempted "cancellation". This was one of the most traumatizing experiences in my life, any person who shows the least bit of interest in me (even if unintentionally or in my head) is now a massive trigger, like it legitimately hurts and I'll turn to alcoholism to dull myself.

i really love this type of videos :)

I THINK I NEED TO WORK ON MYSELF BECAUSE MOST OF THE POINTS GIVEN HERE ARE MYSELF. I REALLY NEED A RETHINK OF MYSELF. THANK YOU PSYCH 2 GO💙.

I'm a love bomber, but I don't manipulate. I just love giving someone a bunch of love and treats(if they don't give it back though they don't deserve it yk?), my problem is is that if I do smth that upsets them or if they seem mad I take responsibility even if it wasn't that bad bc I'm scared of losing someone I love truly

I haven’t watched this channel in so long. WHAT HAPPENED TO THE GIRL VOICE??😭😭😭 congrats on the transition I suppose

I absolutely love this content. My girlfriend is none of these, but she's closest to the "serial monologer." If you didn't say the stuff about it being difficult to have a conversation with them, and them not listening to you, she would be the serial monologer, and I'd be perfectly fine with that because I don't really like talking that much, I prefer to think more than speak. I love her so much because we're polar opposites on things like this, and we're similar in things that you'd want to be similar with your partner on. It genuinely feels like she completes me and understands me.

I’m still trying to find out why I have manipulative tendencies. I’ll be honest with that. It’s not my intention to be manipulative, but I kinda am. I’m aware of these tendencies and want to stop. My main issue is that I’m too trusting. Even with trust issues, I trust people too much. I also feign innocence, mainly to make me a better role model for myself. I feel that if I hide my dirty/inappropriate thoughts from other people and play dumb, I can see myself as less immature. This is because I am actively growing and wanting to help others. But with these manipulation tendencies, it’s very difficult. My version of love bombing is physical touch in appropriate places, excessive joking, and continuous games. What lies behind that is the continuous dirty thoughts rushing through my head. I haven’t acted on them by far and everyone says I’m too innocent to have those thoughts, but I’m actually not. It just makes me feel more secure to hide my insecurities and wear an innocent mask. This doesn’t mean that I’m mean or rude behind the mask, in fact I’m quite the opposite. With or without the mask, I’m still kind and caring, though a bit more stubborn without the mask. I enjoy the sun, doing simple chores, and spending quality time with my family. Heck, even my dog ACTIVELY cuddles close to me! That just shows how much I’m trusted. But I feel that I should be ashamed for being trusted. I’ve obliviously crossed many boundaries because I’m not given warning that specific ones existed. However, I believe I do so because I’ve had my own boundaries crossed. For example, I could be accidentally revealing someone’s secret because they would make fun of my disability to get away with sneaking into class, yet didn’t remember I had publicly announced to my school, “I have autism.” (Whether this is a scenario or an experience I will not say.) Anyways, I’ve got to go to bed on Thursday, April 25, 2024 at 9:57 PM as I type this last paragraph. Have a good night, fuzzies! And please, don’t look for trouble.

As someone with BPD, DSED, DPD and MDD I'm destined to die alone, I hope this is my last breath, I'm not prepared to be alone my whole life but I don't wanna ruin someone else's life, they deserve someone better, I deserve to disappear, take care, guys! Thanks for this vid ❤

I relate to so many of these. I have so much to learn

this channel always give me some good advise! =>

Thank you, now I know why everyone hate me so much ❤

The artwork in cartoon is so addictive ❤😊Thanks again ;)

another one is a control freak where that person always is controlling you and stopping whatever u wanna do like going shopping and etc

I bet most of the people went here not to know which people they shouldn't date, but to check if they are these people

Thanks bro! I have never been dating anyone so I will help!

I overlooked the “social media stalker” as just being cautious but in reality they’ll turn your world upside down and start making it seem like you’re the one that can’t be trusted lesson learned.

Always thought after seeing most of vids in yt saying about standards that if someone can't handle you leave... And now i came to know what are real standards ☺️

I watched this video to see if i was any of them so that i could improve myself and i am not. But i did find out one of my friends is a love bomber. Thanks so much! Your videos are awesome

I don't see why dating someone insecure is something you shouldn't do as it doesn't necceserily harm you, dating or having a romantic relationship should be about showing special gratitude and fondness for someone you love and recieving it back, NOT a way to climb up status ladders or to be held like some kind of trophy, thinking otherwise feels like something a person with some kind of personality disorder would do

Literally everyone has some personality trait like one of the above. This seems like an excuse to just break up with anyone over the smallest bad feelings. No one is perfect dont be nit picky.

Very good examples, thank you.

Thanks for sharing these tips

Sigh. I'm a total mirror. When you look at yourself, it's just an endless reflecting void of nothingness. Asking yourself if it's worth finding yourself and if I even want to find myself. It's an interesting journey.

The "Houdini" isn't necessarily a commitment-phobe but likely someone with an Avoidant Attachment style (Dismissive Avoidant or Fearful Avoidant)-- It's not that they don't want the commitment, it's that they're afraid of and don't know how to handle emotional intimacy and conflict, so they distance themselves when certain feelings come up. It's more complex than that, of course, so I encourage anyone interested to watch some Heidi Priebe and Thais Gibson videos on attachment styles. They're both very informative. And avoidants should REALLY be in therapy to work on themselves before, during, after, or instead of being in relationships. Relationships can trigger a lot of trauma wounds and bring up shame, which can be great to talk about in therapy, but sometimes that all makes it unhealthy to be in a relationship with someone. It can be so difficult and stressful to be in a relationship with an avoidant who hasn't worked on themself and at least learned how to communicate.

Thank you so much for this video.

From my last experience in a relationship, my ex scored 4 out of 7 from this video. Thank you.

Ok so quick tip ask someone if they have a ex and why they broke up cause if they cheated on their ex don't date them it highly likely they'll cheat on you

I mean sometimes people are going through a very rough time dealing with stuff, nobody's perfect.

I think of a more focused and dedicated person

I miss the old days when you dated someone because you both like each other for who you are now it's about what can you offer me

I don't want kids, so dating is not my problem. Not to mention my mental defects and my heart turning to heavy stone.

All the above is true.

Two of these I definitely needed to hear. Thank you so much for this perspective.

I find people attractive and I hate how I'm like this. I don't want to find people attractive. Desire hurts, and I don't want to desire a partner. I hate looking at people and thinking that they're attractive or someone I'd like to get to know more. I'm definitely not someone that needs to be in a relationship. I hope whoever finds me as a potential partner looks away and finds someone else

I never dated anyone but I used to have this friend who was always depressed. He was always so negative and pessimistic and he would always talk about wanting to kill himself. He would make me sad and I would try to be there for him but there was nothing I could do. Being his friend never helped him to get better, I only made it worse because I was mean to him at times. I felt bad that there was nothing I could do to make him happy, and I am happy we went out separate ways because he is not mentally healthy and he has too many problems. I wish the best for him and I hope he gets help, and it’s also better to not be friends with him cause I was also toxic to him.

Funny how I was told there is someone for everyone...

One simple way to look at it after a while: Is what you have NOW worth keeping? Not what was, not what could be--NEVER what could be--but how the partner is now? If your partnership is not healthy and fulfilling after you feel like you've truly got to know them, don't assume it will get better. Try if you feel it's worth it, but don't assume you will succeed and suffer for an extended period for someone who won't change.

It seems my attempts to simulate an expression of my love have backfired

I don’t think any of these are me, but I’ll keep an eye on myself just in case.

Pretty much what I learned from this is that I most likely won’t get someone, due to not having a personality and copying someone elses

The ghost is a person who sees you're not worth their time.

There are people that keep lying and seeking attention in expense of other peoples trust

I love this video. I learned a lot about myself. Now I know on what to improve ^^. I'll try my best!!

I like the Golden Goddesses reference in the thumbnail👍🏼.

victim to two people of multiple types: one being the pick me/media stalker and the other being the lovebomber/constant trauma dumper. the latter is not listed in the video, basically means in any conversation they vent about any inconvenience. thats fine occasionally but not when its every time i speak to them. now im aware as hell

I must say... for me.. ITS A BINGOOO

And another proof im perfectly dateable. yet im still alone, fearing rejection

Unless I misinterpreted #2, a different way of viewing it would be that it’s a means of exposing conditional or superficial people. Because every relationship has it’s ups and downs, so those who stick around through the thick and thin together helps strengthen their bond. Therefore, I’d rather be with someone who sticks with me throughout the entire race than waiting at the finish line. Yet, this should never be used as an excuse to guilt trip anyone into being or staying with you if the feeling isn’t mutual though.

I think also the kind of person who doesn’t reciprocate in a conversation, for instance you are the one who only talks or shares and they give no response or exchange. It can be daunting in a relationship too 😂

Don’t date the Idealist (rose colored glasses) type: The kind of person who dates you because they love the idea of you but they don’t actually love you. Sometimes they project their own personal idea of the perfect SO with unrealistic expectations. So much that they are disappointed when the person is not what they wanted and to correct this idea they try to change them. But no one can change a person less the person wants to change, this leaves the person they’re idealizing feeling like a doll to be personalized. In some cases this could be potentially dangerous, because they’re hung up on their own ideas they can’t see the red flags or people for who they truly are. Which could lead to a toxic and abusive relationships.

Your voice is really calming❤

My ex was a copycat. Always ordered what I ordered, said we had the same phobias, even both had the same health conditions. Sigh, low self esteem I think.

what a beautiful voice and accent!!!!

A ghost whisperer broke me. But nice to know it wasn't me

My first thought whe i saw the titlle: "Am I one of them?" After i watched the video, the answer is: Yes, I am. (more than one)

off topic question: how do you edit your videos ? I also want to learn this, pls shed some light

My question is, if any of these types of people see the error of thier ways and genuinely want to better themselves do they deserve love still?

Hi! Is it time traveling to be worried or scared because you have betrayal trauma from the past and don’t want it to happen again in your next relationship?

This isn't comprehensive, I am super depressed and sad/mad with myself all the time. I make for a sweet person but an awful boyfriend for how stressful I can be. (As such Im no longer voicing it to anyone because I can destroy people. Im a chrinic trauma dumper, goodbye)

I'm a serial monologer a lot. But I am truly doing everything I can think of to stop. But I still catch myself doing it. It's frustrating because I want conversation, I don't just want to talk. But I also have a lot of thoughts I want to express. Any ideas that might help?

There are two more examples I can think of. First: The lazy one. A person who is too lazy to support anything you like or want to acchieve. Sometimes they even try to forbid everything you want to do, even inviting friends or doing hobbies. Second: The not serious one. Somebody who always tells you that she/he is acctually in love with somebody else and you are only the emergency option so that person is not alone. By the way, I think most personality traits that were described are not only about lovers, but also about friends.

Dude mine is a "if you cant handle me at my worst" and a "ghost stalker" like ligit

At first I thought of my new acquaintance, then realized it's probably me, who she shouldn't date. In fact, I imagine romance without some of these traits as incredibly dull and one to avoid...

The mirror mirror on the wall kind of people are soo frustrating to date especially if u are someone that loves a lady or guy that know wat they want and have their own lives apart from just dating you

The love bomber got me guys. It was the WORST thing that could ever happen to me. If they say they love you after 2 weeks......RUN

Hey, psych2go. I've having trouble with focusing on things like reading my bible or writing a story, especially when there's noise. Can you make a video on how to improve focus and ignore distractions?

Me: using this knowledge to push away my admirer

Being a proficient dater I think this is a great video to help avoid longer term problems, well done @Psych2go!!

Im kinda insecure nowdays, this is because whenever i watch your videos thinking they're gonna help, i usually dont get any things that match up with me unless it relates with staring and humor. Not to say they dont help, it just that they dont match up with me. Can you guys make a video about insecurity's and stuff please?

I have the 3rd problem 😢, time to go better myself

The social media stalker have no effect on me. I don’t do social media, unless youtube some how count as one.

When you are the type of person that you should avoid: 💀

I've both been ghosted and been the ghost, sometimes life gets crazy busy, but that's with strangers maybe made friends on the Internet, but if it's a relationship or close friendship that's a different thing imo. More communication is important in such a situation.

Imo the worst red flags are people who value someone on the basis of superficial things like partners who are here for you only because you have money and they are gone once you have less money such people are too unreliable to form a healthy relationship. Same for people who constantly need attention all the time with ultimatums like "it's me or your [insert random hobby]" instead of trying to understand things and communicate clearly. If I date someone who appear to have those behavior patterns I'm out

I don’t know if I’ll ever experience this

Guys I stalking people online ALL THE TIME! I do it because I want to learn more about them and find out what mutual interests and friends we have, as well as when I get bored and miss them sometimes. Does that mean I am the last one? I really hope not, I don't want to be a crazy obsessive person. I just tend to hyperfixate one things. I do the same thing with people I barely know.😅

love bomber but just because I feel the feeling so strongly I genuinely can't help myself I feel like I gotta tell them over and over again and then I get worried I'm being annoying or that they'll see me as a red flag for it 😔