A Brother’s Heart to Heart | {THE AND} Tom & Dan

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Tom and Dan, brothers for 25 years, can’t help but poke fun at each other as they genuinely answer questions about their relationship. Watch the brothers interact as they examine how jealousy, communication, and their past all constitute their deep love and appreciation for one another.
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With the Participation of | Tom & Dan
A Brother’s Heart to Heart | {THE AND} Tom & Dan
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@kellybutera734 4 жыл бұрын

they have the same face but different yaknow

@crystalcara02 4 жыл бұрын

this

@ajplusb8731 4 жыл бұрын

no i dont what do u mean

@longamukoma3167 4 жыл бұрын

Right??!

@ajplusb8731 4 жыл бұрын

@Marcus Jones haha yeaaah... that was my exact face reading this crap..

@Somelikeitthrift 4 жыл бұрын

YES omg

@zhjregbfddnknthq 4 жыл бұрын

The story about "how they truly met" is the cutest

@crystalcara02 4 жыл бұрын

hell yeah lol

@LB-ri8ho 4 жыл бұрын

I would totally buy these cards but I just don't have anybody with whom I can talk this openly and show me this vulnerable...

@Ursaminor31 4 жыл бұрын

Start with yourself, and they will come. I feel the same way. I will never have this closeness with any of my ‘family’

@ashleyjustice3008 4 жыл бұрын

My people I would do this with live in different states :-(

@gavin3598 4 жыл бұрын

I'm going to have to buy the cards. I'd like to do this with my best friend. Best friends for 17 years and he's all that I have. Not in a relationship, just friends.

@jeanrewss 3 жыл бұрын

Same

@matthall113 2 жыл бұрын

I just did it one day with a close friend, when you both show vulnerability a bond is usually formed. Its a beautiful thing to be vulnerable with your feelings.

@kailynembrack9110 4 жыл бұрын

"You're my person." -My heart really felt this. This was beautiful.

@nayankacfrancisco4919 4 жыл бұрын

I really enjoyed this episode, it's raw. It's something that siblings avoid talking about and also favouritism - which sibling receives more love, especially in a single parent household.

@noellalazar7843 4 жыл бұрын

When he said "I love you" and teared up...oh my heart

@purplegal05 4 жыл бұрын

His laugh at 3:17 was trippy! I had to rewind that several times to see where the laughing sound was coming from lol

@clareg1207 4 жыл бұрын

purplegal05 IKR

@inesmachadocasamentos2828 4 жыл бұрын

OMG SAME

@nole8146 4 жыл бұрын

The audio team is confused as well

@Somelikeitthrift 4 жыл бұрын

I love how he forgot to say that they’re brothers lol but instead said they are best friends

@nyamedoaddae-dapaah3439 4 жыл бұрын

How is this the most laid back thing ever and yet still so vulnerable?! Also lol at them talking about their family drama with regards to therapy - I related to keeping everything stored away in that little black box!

@selasievangeline 4 жыл бұрын

So wholesome, the relationship is so reciprocal I love it.

@kellyfinley4419 4 жыл бұрын

This was awesome, both brothers are very in touch with their feels. Take notes men!

@bonzodamonkey 4 жыл бұрын

Anytime you see brothers have honest conversations it just hits me so deep... you feel so close to eachother and yet so far away. The " i will love no one else the way i love you" answer couldnt be more true.

@sheruns8579 4 жыл бұрын

I think you see how divorce affects young girls bc we tend to show it more and therefore have a higher chance of dealing with it sooner. BUT it’s such a saddening moment when you finally see/hear grown men or adult boys try to maneuver through their experience with divorce.

@ramonanaya6236 4 жыл бұрын

Adult boys lol the oxymoron

@sheruns8579 4 жыл бұрын

I tried my best to find a different term before settling on this lol.

@laurenc7154 4 жыл бұрын

this one made me smile. full of depth and pure love.

@presleyrosier3245 4 жыл бұрын

Forever wishing I had the weed encounter like that with my siblings 🤣 that's fucking awesome, jealous

@peacelovepot4L 4 жыл бұрын

Presley Right?! 😍

@andyaug84 4 жыл бұрын

These brothers/sisters episodes are always the best ones... Cause it's just... family 😉 This ep should have a part 2... It didn't feel like that was 15 min. 😁

@ashleyjustice3008 4 жыл бұрын

Andre, what would they talk about in a 2nd part? I think they showed a ton of emotion here!

@andyaug84 4 жыл бұрын

@@ashleyjustice3008 like more stories... I know there were some here but I feel that they still could have a few more... I don't know... just a hint... 😊

@Socialling 4 жыл бұрын

THEY HAVE SUCH GOOD GENES!

@giovannarenee10 4 жыл бұрын

Lol the “when we first met” is sooo good. So pure yet funny

@justanotherpersonxo 4 жыл бұрын

I feel like Dan is so not like i would expect someone who looks (clothing and body posture wise) like him to be. I mean the man is obviously gorgeous but he is kind of intimidating. I don't know. It's like he looks like that math teacher that you think is uptight but end up being your favorite teacher. Or like a therapist. Yeas. He looks just like a therapist i had once

@shannoncastleberry1537 4 жыл бұрын

Damn, they're beautiful. ALSO Someone drop Tom's IG for musical purposes.

@Irmyy10 4 жыл бұрын

yes pleeeeease

@whitneysmith9037 4 жыл бұрын

He’s in the band Active Bird Community

@Irmyy10 4 жыл бұрын

@@whitneysmith9037 thank yoooou

@anmolkunwar4911 4 жыл бұрын

I actually thought they were Twins. They look so similar.

@carlirogers9834 4 жыл бұрын

Never wrote on one of these before and I watch them all the time, but this was probably one of my favourite episodes, two brothers who face whatever life throws at them and they keep going. So raw and true. Love how much love they have for each other, you can really see it. God bless them. ❤️

@semasarsour5789 4 жыл бұрын

I loved this one. So genuine, so real. The bond these brothers have seems unbreakable. Thank you for sharing.

@reneenadia 4 жыл бұрын

The ending was so beautiful. The way they talked about their love, very moving 💖

@bb86ify 4 жыл бұрын

I love a sibling edition of 'the and'' show. It gives me an insight into the siblings' dynamics what roles they play on each other's lives. They are truly best friends, this was refreshing to watch! Great job SDT!

@RazeAstro 4 жыл бұрын

I love that you’re putting the names by the people! Thank you.

@LadyRow00 4 жыл бұрын

These guys are so real. Probably my favorite episode so far.

@Lizzie-lz2qk 4 жыл бұрын

I loved this episode! It’s awesome that they are so close. It reminds me of my relationship with my twin actually, even though they’re not twins. I love their honesty.

@ashleyjustice3008 4 жыл бұрын

I've watched this 3 times in 2 days. So sweet! I want to cry every time.

@J.LS. 4 жыл бұрын

I enjoyed the sincerity and vulnerability and the obvious love they have for each other

@katrinaassoumou6400 4 жыл бұрын

This is a great session with siblings. I enjoyed the honesty.

@nikki333s 4 жыл бұрын

what a refreshing conversation. loved this one

@sherliandomenech9909 3 жыл бұрын

This was cute “you’re my person” was my favorite response

@Youeo203 4 жыл бұрын

This is therapeutic. Thank you Skindeep.

@mramin8003 4 жыл бұрын

The last conversation? *i love you* Man, those three words always get me, everytime

@EvolvingMama_ 4 жыл бұрын

This is literally the same sentiments my husband and brother in law share lol in regards to comparing their lives. They’re twins as well, so they live vicariously through one another even more so😌

@b8429 4 жыл бұрын

Their relationship is so beautiful, I’m crying

@jaykay5086 4 жыл бұрын

i hate when my siblings say they are jealous of me. it makes me feel bad and burdened with guilt even though they say they are proud at the same time

@gisellemusabimana8049 4 жыл бұрын

I think relationships are never black and white especially with family. I am super proud of my little sister but also have waves of jealousy. But I am always open with her. I think that my jealousy is a reminder to keep striving and be as awesome as she is. Because my love for her will always be bigger than everything esle, she is literally my world.

@CC-dc6hv 3 жыл бұрын

On the zoomed out image (the farther-away perspective) when you can see their whole bodies really shows how different they are. It also illustrates as elaborate on their different life’s that they talk about.

@malazxo 4 жыл бұрын

I really loved this, is was beautiful.

@simini1837 4 жыл бұрын

Go figure how much divorce of parents influences their children! Beautiful video and brotherly love!

@247cmbcmb 4 жыл бұрын

So genuine. Thanks for sharing

@devinraecorey8509 4 жыл бұрын

These are always so wholesome! I bought the relationship one for my boyfriend & I. So excited!

@salinax98 4 жыл бұрын

Literally so loving ❤️

@cecisanchesrodriguez8414 4 жыл бұрын

Tom is so attractive 😍

@ramonanaya6236 4 жыл бұрын

Absoluteley

@ukuma1 4 жыл бұрын

Omggg😍😍😍 how cute are the brothers! Usually I’m NOT into younger guys but they are SO cute!!

@raincoathaveli 4 жыл бұрын

These videos are so heartwarming. They also make me sad I don't have a sibling.

@anashellfire4216 4 жыл бұрын

i'm watching a lot of this shows to learn some english and some new words , and this episode is good

@shannonpost6908 4 жыл бұрын

loved this because i see a lot of the relationship i have with my sister in what they have.

@CherieButler 4 жыл бұрын

Eyes are welling up...that was beautiful.

@aspiringwayfarer 3 жыл бұрын

12:56 “oh fuck, yea, that sucked” lmao his reaction is almost if he heard it happened to someone else. 😂😂

@cynthiaford4105 4 жыл бұрын

They were incredible! I want more!

@nijaallen6497 4 жыл бұрын

THE BROTHERS HAD MY ❤😭😭😂😂😂🙏🙏🙏🙌🙌🙌

@AnabelPena15 4 жыл бұрын

Nothing like sibling love 💗 Could be the most painful but also most unconditional love you could ever experience.

@faeriesmak 4 жыл бұрын

Anabel Pena I don’t have siblings.

@justjoy5076 4 жыл бұрын

Would love to see Les Twins answer these questions!!!

@lavonnealexander6936 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah girl , 😂😂🤣omg it would interesting.

@giannacerra9246 4 жыл бұрын

Now *this* is a bromance

@pluffshangazi8487 4 жыл бұрын

I enjoyed this!! Awww!!! Brothers!!! I hope though they have sobered down!!

@mramin8003 4 жыл бұрын

I wish i could do that with my own brother, we haven’t spoken to each other for sooo long

@selasievangeline 4 жыл бұрын

Thought they were twins at first but wowww 😍 their S.O.'s are very lucky

@elizabethtimothy4776 4 жыл бұрын

They don't look alike that much to be twins. They must be close in age though.

@selasievangeline 4 жыл бұрын

@@elizabethtimothy4776 the more I progressed in the video the more I realized that yes.

@kailynembrack9110 4 жыл бұрын

The laugh at 3:18 what is is face doing lol

@sandyg.8318 4 жыл бұрын

Being adorable

@awkwardathena434 4 жыл бұрын

That last question made me cry

@gretaumunozakayigema9764 4 жыл бұрын

I thought Dan was gay but then they mentioned Katie 😂...they’re both kinda cute, and the conversation flowed naturally..love tht

@cusny01 2 жыл бұрын

Their communication is amazing 🤩

@uji541y2eg 4 жыл бұрын

Why do I cry in these so much 😩

@Angelusfighter 4 жыл бұрын

Normally don't comment, but just couldn't resist. This September will be 15 years since my older brother died, my only sibling. I was in my mid teens; we were both so young at the time, and it was "easier" to pretend the other didn't exist. I always wondered where our relationship would have been if we had finished growing up together. This video is a beautiful, and painful reminder of how short life can be.

@TheSkinDeep 4 жыл бұрын

We are sorry for your lost and sending you our deepest condolences, thank you for your beautiful comment ❤️

@jofalcon3389 4 жыл бұрын

I love this, it reminds me of my brother & I

@a.pieceofpie 4 жыл бұрын

I feel like this is going to make me cry

@Somelikeitthrift 4 жыл бұрын

They look exactly alike and it’s adorable

@presleyrosier3245 4 жыл бұрын

HIS FUCKING LAUGH AT 3:18 is fucking hilarious I watched it 14 times

@hermoonflower4350 3 жыл бұрын

1:23 right guy making swag face 😂😂

@annmariebrzozowski9308 4 жыл бұрын

These two. 💜

@kymberliethefreespiritedone 4 жыл бұрын

Heart melt...

@ciaraedwards3152 3 жыл бұрын

This is my favourite video on here

@mschurchgirl16 4 жыл бұрын

Anybody think they look like Nat and Alex Wolff from the naked brothers band?

@sydneyschermerhorn2406 4 жыл бұрын

I wish I could listen to tom's music

@stefania3577 4 жыл бұрын

yesss love this dude

@wendy7915 4 жыл бұрын

Love it❤️

@alliblackman5020 4 жыл бұрын

Cool I'll just sit here and cry for a bit.

@natthekat69 4 жыл бұрын

The brothers are so sweet

@shakirahsulaiman377 4 жыл бұрын

Az a mother ov only two boyz this iz really cool, I want to see my boys lyk these two.

@SEFR7337 4 жыл бұрын

I love my brother. But I can't say he's also my best friend. "We love our significant others in a different way. But I will never love anyone more." These guys are great!

@theoriginaljean3917 10 ай бұрын

Lmao they’re so honest and sort of awkward 😂😂😂

@elisamartinez6728 4 жыл бұрын

My siblings need to play this but I feel like theres not enough maturity for us to handle these questions . But I would try

@Somelikeitthrift 4 жыл бұрын

I would watch this tv show!!

@saramcgowan3798 4 жыл бұрын

Great question about losing your memory - was that inspired by Tell Me Who I Am?!

@Somelikeitthrift 4 жыл бұрын

My sister and I could never do this, there’s just too much hurt there.

@NickyM_0 4 жыл бұрын

Loved you Brothers and the trust and love you have for each other. Was curious about whether one was older or you were twins. The hugely frustrating thing was the video left the audience with more questions than it answered because for most of the video you talked around private topics. So we never quite knew the back story or factual references to anything. Even your relationship as Brother (older/younger/twins?) or jobs (to put that segment into it's true context).

@dominiqueeden 4 жыл бұрын

Jenny Jerome just in case you missed it in the rest of the episode the one with the crew cut is older(28) and the on with the longer hair is younger(25).

@NickyM_0 4 жыл бұрын

@@dominiqueeden Did they actually say/write it somewhere?! My mistake! Thank you so much for letting me know. It puts things in perspective for my understanding of the video content.

@unetrehumain1353 4 жыл бұрын

@@NickyM_0 It's actually implicit. The left sitted one with the short cut says he met his brother when he was 3 years old "i don't remember, yeah i was 3" for the 1st time. Maybe it's written somewhere else, but that's how i understood it. I understand what you mean but i feel like they don't want to publicly go into details coyly and out of respect for their parents. You can still see how the fights and the divorce affected them. I find it very interesting actually. It made me want to talk to my brothers about it. We mostly avoid the subject, too much pain.

@NickyM_0 4 жыл бұрын

@@unetrehumain1353 Yes! I remember when he said that but I was still confused because I thought the younger guy with the long hair had maybe been adopted! I thought this because they ethnically looked very different to me. The older one looked very Hispanic looking (olive skinned, dark hair) and the younger looked very White European looking. But.... they did look like Brothers facially, so I was confused all around. I'm African, we like clean, direct communication. Lol.... I don't do well with things that are 'implied'.... my creative, fluid brain runs into all areas with the amount of possibilities! 😄 Yes, regarding the family privacy, especially when dealing with painful family events, I totally understood and respect that. More so, as the internet can be sometimes brutal and judgmental regarding information it receives without regard to the lives and feelings of the people concerned. Thank you for helping me clarify things. Appreciated. Helped me understand their story more.

@justanotherpersonxo 4 жыл бұрын

I wish i had a relationship like this with my brothers. 😂😂😂😂 It's beautiful that this is the norm for most people. Can't relate though. I just don't have patience. I need to work on that