“I’m a strong independent woman!” “I’m an alpha male” Both are major red flags

I don’t understand why people go into marriage thinking that relying on each other is bad. That’s the whole point of marriage…..to rely on each other and help each other. The problem comes in when there is an imbalance between who is helping whom, and also who is expressing gratitude. If you help and appreciate each other, your bond will last.

Cheating is always a deal breaker for me. Be loyal or get out.

Well if a girl is on Instagram advertising her body and making it appear that she is single, that is the problem. If a poll revealed that 50% of women have a backup option which means that 50% of the women in the poll admitted to it, then using the internet is a way to conflate the problem

Social media, tv dramas and steriotypes are ruining relationships due to high expectations. 🌹 Courtney thank you for raising issue of must needed topic in today's time

I think issue with social media and particularly Instagram is it’s destructive for relationships in general I’d say. I think there should be an agreement for both parties to come off of Instagram. It makes everything easier. Less drama

“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.” ― Bruce Lee

I’ll say this about Instagram: it depends what the girl is putting on her page before I consider it a red flag. My second girlfriend only posted art she made or pictures of her animal. The only time she put herself on there was if it was her and I or her and family. My third girlfriend did have scantily clad photos of herself but as soon as we started dating she took them down and then eventually deactivated her Instagram a few months into dating. Of course when we broke up she put those photos back up. Women are very aware of what attracts male attention so I’d be very careful with someone that has thirst traps on their page

It's really hard to not be labeled as a misogynist if i say i prefer woman who don't showoff their body on the internet and can cook.Gotta protect Courtney at all cost 😂 ,she one of the few understanding and wise women left

You use instagram for what it’s intended Courtney. Rarely do others. For most women it’s about male attention and backups. It’s the hookup culture problem. So ask, would you be okay with a boyfriend having okcupid or bumble? It’s the same thing. In fact most profiles on okcupid have tags for their instagrams. Lol. Also FandF always hire women to come on and say the stupidest things. It’s their business model, like Jerry Springer

So a man has to be '6 ft tall, and make 7 figures' To date a woman who looks like an aubergine with a big nose?

Imagine if men said that women should be young, hot with DD boobs, obedient with no attitude or back talk. 😲 There would be backlash towards men like never seen before in history.

The thing I appreciate most about your vids is that you read out the captions in the TikTok’s, so I can listen to this like a podcast. Love it

Loved when you said, "You should be what you want to attract." Amen. Good advise for both women and men.

And foolish men will say “I qualify” pick me. The point isn’t to qualify, it’s too avoid a woman shallow enough to have this standard because of the damage and misery such a shallow person will bring upon you.

Courtney, you are a breath of fresh air. I've been married and then divorced after a 9 year run. I meet a new girl about a year later and realized I wasn't emotionally ready yet and that relationship dissolved 2 years later as well. I realized along the way that part of the break up with the new relationship after being married, I wasn't myself due to all the turmoil in my married. Settling for the wrong mate due to how I felt about myself. It has now been about 20 years since I have even been the least bit interested in a relationship. In today's dating world it's so different and even more scary. I feel the expectations that most women have now a days are nuts. What ever happened to you love someone for who they are. P.S. - It's so refreshing to know that there is still some hope for me and I can only imagine how great it would be if who I meet would have a great disposition and personality as you. One last thing... I can't help but to mention it and that is it makes me laugh every time you say "buying farts in a jar". Maybe that's a guy thing. Keep up the great videos and thank you for your inspiring insight. It's good to know that there are still women out there like you 😉.

I think women have to realize that unless they look like a model the 6 ft tall guy, with 6 pack abs, who makes 6 to 7 figures probably isn't interested in them. A women is going to have to be in phenomenal shape, be in her 20's, be naturally beautiful, and possibly even have some cosmetic surgery to have a chance of landing that guy, because there are a lot of other women he could be with.

This is your bread and butter, providing sane advice for a healthier relationship.

LOVE that you mentioned attachment styles because I learned I was anxiously attached 3 years ago and really have gone through entire mental and life transformations since then and have become more securely attached and I can really say I wouldn't have wanted to be with me before! I can really see the difference between secure and dysfunctional now!

💯 agree with the divorce lawyer! I so related to the last lady… My husband is literally a carpenter and doesn’t use social media, nor cares about it!

Staying single and having the mindset of “she’s not yours, it’s just your turn.” Is the way to live now a days.

Every time she says "farts in a jar" in a video I hope I'm not drinking soda or coffee, cuz I will surely choke on it laughing. Her dainty voice saying that just makes it extra hilarious.

You never disappoint Courtney! You’ve helped me so much! I’ve been watching you for a little over a year now.

I appreciate it when women who are upfront about their standards, that way I dont waste my time. I dont want to be pursuing a woman who is only interested in men who have been to mars, only to find out a year later she is not interested in me because I havent been to Mars.

The monk life just looks better and better with each passing day. Accumulate your hard-earned resources, Men. They will get old and wither away but so will you...while being completely broke and broken. Stop putting them on a pedestal and make YOU your number one priority.

I’m 5’8, workout, into cars and I’m Catholic. But I don’t understand why some women would want a guy who makes 7 figures a year but they don’t know how financial literacy works. (I’m 19 btw)

Getting close to 300k, so amazed by how far you've come! Road to 500k!!!!

>"That is controlling, if a man told me I couldn't have an Instagram I simply wouldn't be with him. If a man said I could or could not doing something..." Well he wasn't being controlling; he was stating a boundary. You wouldn't be with a guy that is controlling, while he's just saying he wouldn't be with a girl that essentially gives her attention/body/time to a bunch of men on Instagram. Keep in mind this guy is from Miami, the land of Insta thots, so whatever your opinion is of Instagram and how classy it is, Insta thots are 10x worse there.

Im 6 feet tall, run 6 miles every morning, lift weight at night and am hitting 180-190k per year. Im 38 years old and married to a hottie feminine woman who takes care of me, my house and our kid. Even if I was single I wouldn't give these bimbos a second look because guys like me have options. I have an option almost daily to be involved with beautiful women. But my wife gives me everything I need. LADIES! Before you make a list of what you want in a man, make a list equally as long about what you offer as a woman. High value men demand a high value woman.

Courtney, the man from the _FreshAndFit_ podcast you showed is Myron. He explains that women use Instagram as dating apps and they post nudes or scantily clothed photos to bait men to give her attention. He defines this as being disrespectful to her boyfriend/husband and unacceptable because it facilitates cheating. In the full podcast video he explains that he has no problem with Instagram pages whose visibility is set "private" or public pages that contain no skin revealing photos that bait for attention and cheating.

Omg I’m reading Attached too lol. I feel so seen. Yes Courtney! We love to see it! 👏

"I wouldn't be with a guy who said I couldn't have an Instagram." As a man; Men are becoming a LOT more critical of women's social media nowadays. Social media is becoming the new 'red flag.' Men know women are getting endless attention from these platforms. He was making the point that through that avenue, she is getting endless attention from endless amounts of men. If she does not have one, she is not getting that kind of attention. You made the example of, "What if I baked bread?" You're a woman. You will still be getting that attention even if it was something benign like bread. It is subjective and different people will have different opinions, but it's more setting a boundary on you getting endless attention from endless men.

She nailed it when she says "women can be addicted to chaos". I've just eliminated 5 women out of my life that I've know for years because they prefer abuse and chaos over living a life they can grow and become a better them in.

No you are totally right Courtney about a woman posting photos that are indecent on instagram, that is disrespecting the partner 100% fact, if anyone disagree's enjoy getting cheated on then, cause it will happen sooner or later.

No love to give. You buy them a house, they want a mansion. You buy them a new car, they want a Mercedes’ Benz. Stay single boys, stay single, it less stress.

oh yeah? well, a woman has to be 7ft and make 8 figures to date me.

14.5% of the U.S. male population are 6-foot or taller and many are under age. The avg income is between 40&60k You may 📌 this lol

I make a 7 figure salary if you count the digits after the decimal point

This was a beautiful video, I love all your points of view. You are such a down earth person, amazing. Thank you so much❤️

I love your content & views on things! Keep up the great work!

If a guy makes 7 figures he better rents than marry unless the lady is fairly wealthy.

Girl: “I need to be financially independent. This relationship might not last forever.” Me: “okay so you’ll sign a prenup?” Girl: 😡

That divorce lawyer gave good advice. My ex-wife and I split all our bills 50/50, maintained separate bank accounts, had no shared property, and no kids. When she cheated, it was super easy to divorce her.

"shots fired"....god I love your commentary, its spot on and to the point.

The first things women say to start a conversation when I match with them on dating apps: "How tall are you?" "Are you 6ft?" "Only $10 to subscribe to my OnlyFans babe" Me: "Bruh"

All social media apps are essentially dating apps, everyone is an option In the eyes and thoughts of the beholder.... even if they don't have a chance with said other options. So to a point I can understand why some couples do not have social media accounts.... What's even more strange is when a couple shares a social media account...

A lot of people confuse love with relationship. Love means sacrifice. Relationship means responsibility. Thanks so much Courtney for your effort from Yemen.

Myron from F&F is right about Instagram. Even if she's not taking particularly risque photos, if she's attractive she will have men giving her attention both in public and in DMs. You use Instagram for work and your personal brand. Most women use it for validation. In both cases opportunities are lining up. Are you seriously going to tell your audience there aren't men in your DMs right now trying to scoop you from Teddy? Then understand certain men aren't going to be okay with this.

people these days act as if STD's have been eradicated

Courtney Ryan: “Have fun being single, my friend!” 😂

But if I as a guy say I want a girl who’s young and attractive, then all hell breaks loose lol. Btw I’m only 5’10.

With a background in banking I can say with quite some certainty that money is the one thing that the average person is attached to the most emotionally. It is very hard for many people to recover from a financial loss, and there is no easy adjustment. No therapy session will make it better. That's why I would agree with the divorce lawyer: Feeling a sense of financial security is essential in a relationship. This is also why the search for the "one-percent-man" generally doesn't work, with a few very notable exceptions.

I don't know if people really understand what being an alpha male actually means. When I hear a guy say that he's "alpha" I already know that he's probably deeply insecure, struggling with his self-worth and life in general. If you feel the need to wear a sign that says "alpha male" this in itself is very much the opposite of what an alpha male would be like. Men who are confident and secure in themselves don't care about labels, they don't feel the need to prove their strength or abilities to anyone, they likely would't even care if someone thought of them as alpha, beta or anything else. And this is what makes them so attractive - this is true strength, this is someone who can handle life and makes a partner. you can rely on. Claiming something and being it are two very different things. And even I can put a bed frame together - doesn't make me an "alpha male"

Divorce lawyer: "I'm a divorce lawyer and I get asked all the time...." Mr. E: "Public service announcement. NEVER listen to what a divorce lawyer tells you about how to maintain a good marriage. And what THIS woman just told you all but assures one day you WILL get divorced. Your finances should be a separate issue in a marriage, not the reason why you get married in the first place. And full disclosure, I am an advocate against ALL marriage, gay and straight. THIS is why. I take no joy in saying this, men and women, you've lost your way. Our laws victimize men in family court in ways that no one else or nothing else ever will. Don't take my word for it, statistically there is almost a 100% chance you KNOW a man who got destroyed in family court. Ask them. "Who hurt me?" Kiss my ass, that's who.

These days i find it hard to find a woman that is reflected, good looking, have a nice job, has ambitions, is nice and polite. I think Courtney stands out as a good role model for a lot of girls/women, because she is very professional in the way she talks. She doesnt talk bad about anyone, its like plain and simple critique and showing off her opinions in a respectful manner, i miss the people who talks about others respectfully like this, its just good form. Anyway keep up the good work Courtney!

Nearly 3 million congrats

Vamos Courtney! ❤

Its sad when what Fresh and Fit have been saying from the beginning is becoming more and more true everyday, I don't think any young guy or girl dating nowadays can deny these things sadly

Keeping it classy as always we love to see it court keep it up 👍🏽

Yeah, I want to squat twice my body weight again like I did two years ago and I'm very close but I still have to put in the work to build that skill and strength back up

Courtney u should definitely go on the Fresh n Fit podcast. Y’all really have similar views and would definitely give out some major game on dating

Courtney, can you please go on fresh & fit and teach those school boys what women are outside of Miami?

Paraphrasing Gunny Sgt. Hartman from 'Full Metal Jacket' regarding those jeans at 9:25 "Are so f*ckin' ugly they could be a modern art masterpiece!"

So many of these things come down to feelings of insecurity and low self esteem. It may manifest somewhat differently depending on gender, but the behaviors aren’t actually going to make anyone feel more secure or have better self esteem in the long run. Find a way to be ok with yourself first because you just won’t get that from the other person. Relationships work best when both people are healthy and happy. Respectfully submitted.

The girl with the "7 figures" plus, plus, plus, requirements. Does she not have a mirror in her home? Has she looked into it lately and seen her reflection? 😂😂

The standards that women have that involve height, rich and genetically gifted probably says a lot about the woman and her lack of experience with that very standard. If women are asking for that, they're probably the ones that can't get it.

16:29 When I saw this Tik Tok where it says a guy has to be 6 feet tall, make 7 figures and have an 8 inch. I was like LMAO 🤣 I started laughing when I saw the words “8 inch”. I don’t think I expect a guy to be that BIG in a sense. Not my criteria at all hahaha 😂😝

No Courtney!!! You broke my heart!!! lol I love those blue jeans 😂 I’m not going to stop using my loved skinny stretched ripped jeans because you said so… but why those jeans are red flags??? So am I the toxic?? Lol 😂😂😂

I enjoy the tiktok reactions Courtney and about the Instagram thing I really wouldn’t care about if my girlfriend or wife had it as long as like what you said about posting inappropriate pictures for everyone to see

Why aren’t you on more mainstream podcasts,girl?

6-7-8 "Have fun being single" Love it! :D

I don't remember where I saw the study but apparently money DOES buy happiness, just not in the way most people would think. The current figures are somewhere around 55k - 160k of annual income in an average household which is just enough to provide for a stable home without stressing about bills and enough financial freedom to own a vehicle or two plus some vacation for you and your loved ones. The study also indicated that anything more than that does not bring more happiness and in the extreme can even bring mental instability due to having to make the extra efforts of protecting those finances.

“Man has to be 6ft tall to date me” Cries in 5’11”.

Courtney in red today 😊

OMG I can't believe there are women out there that have never worked in their life! The minute I turned 16, I couldn't wait to get my first job and work through retail jobs until my education allowed me to get into it accounting job. But then I went back to school to learn computers in the late 90s and from that point on I worked in the com industry, research assistant all kinds of stuff, such an incredible journey! I often think back on all my jobs the way some people think back on their romances, I learned so much and I grew so much! It just makes you feel good about yourself when you're doing something that you actually worked hard to be able to do, trained for, etc. But I come from a different generation probably we're hard work was a pretty important thing and not gender-specific. So interesting!

"Have fun being single " ! Hilarious !

Your videos bring a gentleman like me peace, hope and calm in this vicious & unfair world of modern dating, I should have been born in the 50s where you focused on one lady at a time and if that didn’t work out then you started dating someone else!

The amount of drama I get to avoid for being short and not a millionaire - priceless *Never confuse customer service with affection ..... #WhenYouSeeIt

Social Media can be a problem in relationships. If said couple has a fight, then all someone has to do is open their DM’s and then set up a time to meet someone else. My sister and her ex broke up over lack of communication and she ended up hooking up with someone else.

Keep making vids you are quickly becoming my favorite youtuber for all your great insight and tips

You can be “1%er” financially and be a terrible person the money doesn’t make anything

I think telling a girl to delete her Instagram is ridiculous. But as a guy, if I find out a girl I'm seeing is posting lude photos, obviously looking for attention, then she instantly gets put in the fun girl basket. Pointless trying to change people, especially forcefully trying to control them.

I love how you're not explicitly saying that her ambitions are too high based on what she "brings to the table" but you're strongly implying it. I was pure creasing at that part ahaha 😂

Advice for marriage. Prenup. Prenup. Prenup. And Affidavit. Prenup to keep your shit you earned before marriage. An affidavit to keep the shit you earn during marriage.

I think the bigger picture with the 1% guy thing is that Myron is low key saying you should date down. Why get a 1% man that cheats, when you could get a 30% man that treats you good, but can't buy designer bags.

Putting someone down to make a point is sometimes wanting power over someone or sign of that person's low self-esteem. Two people can have two different perspective and still have a respectful conversation.

Selflessness is the singular answer for a happy relationship.

I had a gf that wanted me to delete all my female friends from FB. But SHE could keep and hide all the men that like her on FB. So no-she had to go. No double standards.

this is the most mature woman i’ve seen on the Internet 😳 aspire to meet someone like her

The book "ATTACHED" is phenomenal. I recommend EVERYONE read it.

Inflation of ego and dating standards are from social media

Aye congrats!!!

Seems weird to me. I'm not trying to hype myself up in anyway. I'm a train wreck disguised as unicorn. That being said, whenever I was with a women in a relationship, literally every woman in my vicinity was pretty much dead to me. I had absolutely loyalty and devotion to my significant other. I honestly struggle to understand why others don't have that mentality.

I think it's cool that you keep your body just for your fiance.

"The waitress game" is old as the world. It's not about giving a tip to a waiting staff. This clip is taken of of context so I can't say if the girl is crazy or not. But "the waitress game" is very real thing. It's about a guy who you date for some time already and he ignores males stuff/sales person, he ignores YOU when you are together on the dinner AND, at the very same dinner, gives the waitress overly friendly comments, asks her questions about her private life, compliments her overtly and even giggles (when he never does that with you). This is a real thing. I dated few man like that and then for many years a wonderful man who never did that. Reverse the roles: a woman who is overly friendly and gives a ton of attention and a huge tip to a male waiter while ignoring her boyfriend. Isn't such a behaviour toxic?

Another great video. I often wonder… about expectations men/women have and those who voice them on a media platform like TikTok. In the case of girl near the end of the video. She should have whatever expectation she wants but should also be out there trying to attract that somehow imo. There are men and women alike who are just waiting to rip her a new one based on a few things that physically are on display. What if everyone was just searching instead of talking? 🤷🏽‍♂️

Make your money. Work out. Have your hobbies. Don’t take women too seriously. Don’t treat them poorly. If she doesn’t fit into what you’re doing then move on and find a new one. The height thing doesn’t matter. Plenty of short dudes with cash hooking up with good looking women. Plenty of tall dudes with cash going home alone. They really don’t know what they want so how can you provide something to someone that doesn’t know what they want ?

Im getting tired of women telling men what to be or should be.. I feel bad for men who be at the gym spending hundreds to be '" perfect".. it still dont mean shit if u aint have swag and confidence.. is Jay-Z the most handsome man? look who his wife is.. stop being insecure guys and stop take advice from superficial females that dont even know where Uganda is located and is too concerned with looks...the only female validation we need is from our mother

Best marriage advice I ever got. Marriage is not 50/50 it needs to be 100/100. If you are not committed to helping your partner be the best person they can be and vice versa it ain’t gonna work.

"6' and 7 figures..." I love that they do. As an old sales maxim goes, "Each 'No' is one step closer to a 'Yes.'" I can quickly dismiss her and seek someone else. Those are not standards, they are "nice to haves." That woman doesn't know the difference.