Well said!!!

8:36 Crazy shi we just connected on her vulnerabilities and not closer we did that on Sat Pride nyc and Sunday it all came crumbling down when I wanted clarification around something and didn’t want to harbor any feelings without really what’s showing up and let’s talk about it. I realized her melt down was the same one her narc daughter usually had she would rage at any perceived criticism aka narc injury. Like daughter like mother I saw my gfs reactions were similar to her daughters and she denied she acted that way others perception of her was faulty. She couldn’t see herself out of the nice person she crafted and she wasn’t nice at all actually very very negative and always judging and gossiping about people.

Exactly.

Ain't no one who wants a real life got time for that especially a healthy healing person. Sometimes they act stupid lower level one dimension and unfortunately these folks are the ones who should be ignored always till the point they're exiled entirely. These folks are in charge of so many things and these people can't be critiqued and also need sooooo much help on how to be human step by step and we cannot allow ourselves to keep breaking life down piece by peace including our own. It's exhausting and we don't actually need to engage. Yes there are narcs who do act violent when they're actually ignored by others who know that they're not compatible with life not just human interaction. These folks abuse stoic objects, animals and everything they're dangerous. Unhealed people are like flying double sided daggers.

Kids don’t act like this

Wow, my new husband does this to me now 😢what I have to say isn't important

Oh yes.. Look at the wall. I alwasy thought he was doing it on purpose to piss me off. I just didn't know how many other people do so. It was the craziest experience I ever have been through. Damaged my brain from all the stress.. Good news, it can heal. 🎉

They are demons non the less

It just goes around and around...it's better to talk to the wall at least the wall won't abuse you!

Facts 🎉 💯

You get more honest and intelligent responses from a wall.

They listen súper well to everyone BUT You 😢

This is exactly how it was with me.

Lol, the one I knew would either game or be laying in bed with a phone plastered to his face 🙄 sometimes when pretending to be a good partner he'd put his phone down or get off the game but clearly would be distracted and talk about random things, act stupid ,or bring up random important information i never knew about 🙄

Mine was the same. I had to smile and be happy regardless of what happened. He hated when I spoke. He always tuned out.

My ex did this then had the nerve to demand my full attention when he spoke.

Yes, he wants you to finish talking so he can tell you why he called and what he needs you to do for him. That why they occasionally call and you think and hope he was thinking of you and missing you?? Ha ha 😅 Let him talk to find out what he needs and hint-it’s NOT you!!! Something you can DO for them. Very sad. While you “dreamily” hoping and thinking he must realize he really does love you??? Ha ha Is it working?? He hopes so!!! Ha ha 😅

To bad it's only in the foot..🥴 just kidding hang around one long enough you get a weird sense of humour..

You put into words what I could only think in my head- I want to matter! I want to be seen! I treat others the way I want to be treated. If I were to pass away, there wouldn’t be anyone to give an eulogy…

That issue is tied to the whole disorder. The entitlement and egoistic mind of a narcissist is part of a huge disorder. Everything is tied together.

Yeah but in the mean time, they shoot you in the chest😂

@@pamelajordan2890 Actually I agree with you in all seriousness. They get off way too lightly for all the misery they cause.

I got that. We broke up because I’d get angry when she pathologically lied and cheated on me as if had a bad temper! I never even swore at her let alone touched her and she was just being awful and expecting me to co-sign it. There must be some that do because she married an older rich dude and still has the same guy “friends.” You can be nice or mean as hell either way it’ll be used against you. It’s an ugly disorder that I can see now as she gets older. All I wanted was her to be honest with herself but she’s not going to change. It’s sad.

I just left a guy for this type behavior and more. 2 months dating or whatever the hell it was. I just let him have it verbally and through text messaging. And he told me if I leave him and I’m a come back and he is going to dog me. I said. GOOD BYE. Not planning on coming back. Who says this type of shit. A toxic ass person. Sick as PHUCK. IJS.

I heard that too, projection.

Mine would say " maybe you should think about what you write before you write" projection because I made sense, he never did. He'd twist words or assume what was said but not ACTUALLY reading. 🙄

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HAHAHAHAHA you remind me of my mother. She forces herself to be a moderator of people's private conversations. 😂

Bingo, you're so right.

research cognitive dissonance

Could be a covert. They gain sympathy and credibility by acknowledging they have ‘issues’. Then you think you can help them. Look at what they do not what they say. They wil tell you how much they value/love you if pushed but will actually play emotionally abusive mind games on you. Remember - these little games are about intentionally inflicting emotional pain.

It took cancer. Twice. For me to realize she just didn’t care about me in a basic genuine human way and her words were empty. They only get worse. Thinking your behavior or actions can somehow change them is the trap. They find new supply and act like they’re totally different and great but the pattern just repeats they use peoole and wear them down and they refuse to acknowledge it at all. I look at her now more like a drug. There’s no amount of heroin that’s good for you. You just have to stop. The person you loved disappears. As horrible and pessimistic as that sounds it’s what happens.

Yolanda Rowe, You said, “ I speak with words that cannot be misconstrued. “ then you use these letters: IDC. Does that mean, I don’t see?

@@bonnielee316 IDC. Acronym for "I don't care." A common form of short hand in the style of texting used in the United States.

Yulanda Rowe, Oh ok. Thank you. Yes, what you say makes perfect sense for everyone who’s in on that information. So you are not incorrect. That means that if you are communicating with someone else who also knows this, short hand writing then it is true that you are clear with them. But ultimately I know that you were making a point but I was challenging you simply because I caught that. But it is true. If you are trying to communicate with someone who cannot communicate back with you, that’s a big problem. I know that that was your point so I apologize to you.

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They do overlap.. which makes it all the more complicated

Lol i had an ex friend too. I told him yada yada yada how i felt about something then he said "so thats ma problem too?". I was like wtf. Then accidentally i saw narcs traits n so on on articles and youtube videos, his behaviors matched all of em even his phrases 🤦‍♀️

That could be more than NPD or not NPD at all...Asperger's, histrionic, borderline...a combo of disorders and/or mental health issues. The labels don't matter though. She seems self aware though.

Oh !!! But you ARE 😊

You're so worthy of love and kindness!! Tell yourself daily ❤🎉

I did. I kicked her ass to the curb. Bi-atch!

Is it lost on you that you just basically said he was beating around the bush and wasting your time so to be the knight in shining armor you're giving us all a time stamp to get straight to it? I would say your contribution is a perfect example of the subject matter at hand. 🙄

Thank you!

How long you been in recovery? Do you actually feel love for someone or your force your self to feel it? What made you get diagnosed?

@@prietagarcia1155 I'm not sure if I ever really loved someone. I mean, it surely wasn't that healthy feeling that normal people harbour toward someone. It was that idea of ugly narcissistic fusion, where your and your partner's personalities merge, the world dims and then disappears, and you become a new world to each other. Relationships have been starting and, well, eventually coming to an end, without a chance to really test my feelings for my partners. I've been viewing love as such for almost my whole life, and since I've been diagnosed with NPD and learned about my flaw very recently (a few months), I still struggle with abandoning my old ways and adopting new ideas. The reason because I turned to a psychologist is that I was very lucky to get close with my female coworker, who is very empathetic, frolic and easygoing. Before I knew I am a narc, I was drawn to her like a moth to a flame, I've started syphoning compliments, encouragment and her positivity from her. I've been craving her attention solely for myself, I could become frustrated and enraged, seeing that she would simply even smile for anyone BUT me. When we became more closer, I applied my usual tactic of silent treatment, which appeared to be an undearable torment for her. I could make her crying and insomniac using just my mere silence. This is when things get ugly, she turned from a nonchalant woman to a pale shadow, and I felt like a biggest a-hole planetside. I was disgusted by my own self, by my loathsome deeds. She was like a sister to me, and I repaid for her sincerity and genuine support with mental abuse. I realized that I should never do anything like that to anyone whatsoever, and to achieve that, I needed to start somewhere, so I started with a psychologist's office.

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Yes, they are delusional 100% of time... When you talk to them and look in the eyes they are empty. There is no person/awareness there. It is pure subconscious/instinct talking. It IS mental illness after all...

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I understand it. Me too

We end up becoming them.

power over and control...testing boundaries... dominance and submission...it's always a cluster fuck with Cluster Bs.

Thanks for your opinion

A sociopath. All. Sociopaths are narcs. Not all narcs are sociopaths. They don’t need to be serial killers to ruin your life.

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Good question...

That would make sence actually... I have ADHD and also some narcissistic traits like vanity and wanting to be the constant centre of attention. I suspect my biological father to have NPD and I thought that I may have inherited those traits from him, but maybe it's my ADHD.

Which part?

@@nabilc1667 the prefrontal cortex I believe.

Nabil C, Yes, the internet said that the prefrontal cortex develops slower than normal children. Also I found this: Findings revealed significant associations between ADHD diagnosis and widespread changes to the maturation of white matter fiber bundles and gray matter density in the brain, such as structural shape changes (incomplete maturation) of the middle and superior temporal gyrus, and fronto-basal portions of both frontal lobes. ADHD symptoms in childhood showed the strongest association with brain macro- and microstructural abnormalities. At the brain circuitry level, the superior longitudinal fasciculus (SLF) and cortico-limbic areas are dysfunctional in individuals with ADHD. The morphometric findings predicted an ADHD diagnosis correctly up to 83% of all cases. Conclusion An adult ADHD diagnosis and in particular childhood symptoms are associated with widespread micro- and macrostructural changes. The SLF and cortico-limbic findings suggest complex audio-visual, motivational, and emotional dysfunctions associated with ADHD in young adults. The sensitivity of the morphometric findings in predicting an ADHD diagnosis was sufficient, which indicates that MRI-based assessments are a promising strategy for the development of a biomarker.

Thank you for watching, that's an interesting question...

I have the same question

Raw motivations, I’m going to add to this for a critique: I do have adhd and I will zone out. That said, I know that you’re just trying to get to the point, I get that. And I know what’s going on. You’re trying to be thorough, give details, but you’re also feeling pressed to get to the point and hence, talk fast. So I get that, it seems ok but it’s not a good flow for listening to. Here’s another thing. Now, I understand to annunciate, stress, or emphasize words to A). Convey an important point; and B). “ punch in “ sound, to keep the person alert. But the problem is that you are doing it throughout the whole conversation. It’s only effective if you do it every once-in-a-while. Otherwise, when overused it has no effect but an, annoyance or hard time to listen to because there’s no gentle, natural, flow to the speech. I find myself having to rewind, over and over again when I’m listening to you because I’m loosing interest. Also, you’re hard to follow because you’re fast and sometimes your words blend together. Or, I can’t tell which party you’re speaking of, the narc or the victim, because you’re ideas go so fast that the party gets blended. Sorry, it’s just my experience. Just letting you know.

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