Well said my friend! Traveler: "What kind of weather are we going to have today?" Shepard: "The kind of weather I like." Traveler: "How do you know it will be the kind of weather you like?" Shepard: "Having found out, sir, I cannot always get what I like, I have learned always to like what I get. So I am quite sure we will have the kind of weather I like." ~ Anthony de Mello "Heart of the Enlightened" You can dance in the rain, or sulk in the rain. It will rain regardless.
@user-wp5qo6qg7q3 ай бұрын
I have experienced anxiety so much this year with transitioning to looking for a new job that I want to get, moving into a new apartment, trouble with finances, anger, frustration, etc. One way that i have dealt with this is taking walks.
@hoesclapper4 ай бұрын
The beauty in your videos is irreplacable. I have been invested in them for some while and it pains me on how people do not pay much heed to such advise yet they divert themselves towards useless entertainment.
@aaryag34064 ай бұрын
I have experienced anxiety very much quite a lot in my life, but then I realize that life comes through us, and then it made me even conclude that seeking pleasure in comfort is nothing but seeking weakness, I am quite hard on myself It's been a very tumultuous ride, some paths and roads are just not meant for you, even if you walkthrough nothing changes, It's the change of perspective not the prospect
@lilawei54914 ай бұрын
Like you said, dead is something we all will be sooner or later confronted with, but there is anxiety because we have (just like animals) a thrive to live, which leads to reasonable repressing and this shows in society where death has no place in daily life (contrary to the past i think). Thinking of death is such an overwhelming concept. I had a lot of anxiety of dying. For me i like to think at it as borrowed time we get on earth and at some point we have to give it back. In the meantime we may enjoy life and thrive for the goals we have. This thought almost has something beautiful and soothing to me, maybe because it brings a feeling of connectedness. Eventually this view will change in the funture and become some other perspective, but for now it is sufficient to lower my anxiety :)
@ErnestAbikis4 ай бұрын
My biggest problem is that mentally I accept everything with equanimity but my body acts in a different way it's stubbornly stiff and cannot just take it easy. The only reasonable solution seems to be identifying myself with myself who cannot be affected by mental or physical states.
@scottmillin38563 ай бұрын
My experience is that the conceptualisation of our world is in an attempt to escape the sensations of our body. All your body wants is your attention. Give it that and it will return to homeostasis.
@caty9995Ай бұрын
I believe you're right to a point. No matter how much you've already been through grief, no matter how much you know about it or you've prepared for it , when loosing a loved one or a pet you are never truly prepared for it. This is like saying grief won't happen or won't hurt so much if you're prepared for it and you know that eventually your loved ones are going to die. Grief just doesn't work that way. You can't control grief. You must go through the grieving process. I know you have good intentions and you think maybe people will have less of a hard time with grieving if they know what you're saying and it is good to know but it doesn't change the grief. Yes grief can up your anxiety x 100 but anxiety alone without grief can be managed while with grief people must go through the grieving process. Grief feels a lot like fear. Grief is one heck of a rollercoaster ride. Grief is love with nowhere to go. Grief is not something you just get over with and move on, you move forward with it when you're ready and everyone is different in their grieving process. For some it could take a year, for some 2 to 3 years. You don't stay in the first stages of grief for years to come , the grief gets softer with time and you move forward with it. I just lost my girls ( cats ) a year ago and I knew before hand that eventually they would go and they did after 19 to 20 years of having them with me every day. I'm still grieving the loss of my fur babies but it has gotten a softer, it doesn't feel so raw. I know this video was months ago but I really do hope you'll see my comment. Also want to say that I love the work you do and I truly enjoy your videos. I have learned some good stuff from you. Keep up the good work ❤✌️🕯️
@flowergirl72602 ай бұрын
In an age of distraction and "manifesting" effortfully, we need to find the balance, and i think acceptance and thoughtful reflection is it. Thanks.
@echoes82 ай бұрын
I'm grateful for being in this present moment yet feel as I have traveled from the past. Listening to your teachings has soothed my soul laying a new foundational purpose & thirst for knowledge. I vision your dog enjoys listening to your wisdom as well. This content is exactly what I have been seeking in my life. Thank you.
@alexkova85483 ай бұрын
This is really important thought. Thank you. It is difficult to find out how you should live, especially if some of your major plans for life did not work out. For years I thought I will have a family in my thirties and that will somehow organize my life, solve all ' thinking' with business. Now I am close to 40 an I know for medical reasons this will not happen. I am trying to invent myself again now. My life is somehow different than I expected, unfortunately I lost good bonds with my sister and a friend who are both mothers. But in the same time, I am able to reflect more on my life and what I want. I appreciate your work and commitment to this channel. Thanks again, all the best.
@_fa_9 ай бұрын
Another great video! This topic hits home because I constantly think about death in general; getting old, and how it will be when I start losing my loved ones. Healthy detachment and acceptance is necessary to overcome that anxiety. Thanks for the reminder 🖤
@peppergee71614 ай бұрын
You either get wet or feel the rain
@Roka-9 ай бұрын
It's always best to examine wise words about complicated topics. Thanks for the video keep up the good work.
@carecatch4 ай бұрын
Thank you - seems philosophy is the ultimate theology.
@JuniperCo4 ай бұрын
Just been through this & I am coming out of it better than I was before….🙏🏽🌺
@The-bi5ry3 ай бұрын
I started crying watching this, because i have been struggling with anxiety and a myriad of mental health issues for a while, but since a year or so I have been feeling so much anxiety, just a constant dread of life and wanting to control but also being aware that I cannot and in turn just panicking more.
@mentoncouve3 ай бұрын
These days I'm dealing with much anxiety. A lot has happened for the last few months, and nothing much has been resolved. So yes, I feel the pressure of not knowing what to do.
@mygoodeyeclosedCC3 ай бұрын
Grief is a reaction to loss; Anxiety is a mental disorder. I like that you talk about preparation; however, thinking and preparing can only get you so far. Coping with grief isn’t parallel to coping with anxiety. I’m a griever and know from first hand experience that the two are not in the same category. They can overlap, sure, but anxiety can decrease in severity with constant work. Loss leaves the heart irreparably broken due to the love and life shared that is now missing an important someone.
@breakthesteak73573 ай бұрын
Hearts don't break, they change. I understand that you're feeling empty now that person is gone, but remember that time heals all, so just be still and grieve genuinely, and you will heal in time.
@mygoodeyeclosedCC2 ай бұрын
@@breakthesteak7357 Respectfully, you’re reflecting grief illiterate culture. To tell someone that hearts don’t break maybe makes you feel better; I don’t have to run away from the fact that my heart is irreparably broken following grief. Hearts can’t change without heartbreak. Time may heal the intensity of the wound, yet the wound remains as a marker of what it took to heal from the pain. So, take it easy when people justifiably know how and why grief is the great equalizer that it is.
@ZariaG720Ай бұрын
Everyone has anxiety…I just want to say that
@gospel87142 ай бұрын
As I got older and now I have family to support I keep getting panic attacks especially in the mornings when I get up, and it's happening more and more often.
@siddharthadas24214 ай бұрын
Excellently explained ❤
@user-wv4hb6zl6jАй бұрын
I am living in Ukraine now and the first 2 years of full scale war, I was handling it fine, but few months ago I've got this feeling of anxiety. This feeling of regrets like it can't really happen with us. I just want to say thank you. Your videos make me calm and provide good answers on difficult questions.
@esthergebel5256Ай бұрын
I am so sorry you have to go through this war. It's difficult to even imagine how you must feel. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your fellow Ukranians every single day❤
@user-wv4hb6zl6jАй бұрын
@@esthergebel5256 thanks a lot, good person
@stephenc1226Ай бұрын
Appreciate your insight
@mizb.91703 ай бұрын
Wise words ❤thank you.
@abhay84379 ай бұрын
End is certain. The pain associated with it is certain as well. I avoid acquiring attachments altogether to avoid dealing with this pain. This has lead me to have no friends, no partner, no pets, only essential material possessions. I have been aware of this inevitability, but I haven't figured out the right way to deal with it. I am pretty sure that avoiding these attachments in the first place is not healthy as well. Would like to hear your thoughts on this.
embrace the pain? or at least trust yourself enough to know you'd overcome it, no matter what. As someone wise said: Pain is inevitable and suffering is optional
@re_lamb4 ай бұрын
Life is temporary, attachments are temporary. You’re robbing yourself of the very experiences that make life worth living by avoiding forming attachments. Whether you like it or not, there is already something you’re attached to and it will cause you distress to lose it. It’s good to have things worth losing. I say this as someone who lost my entire immediate family by the age of 21.
@abhay84374 ай бұрын
@@re_lamb I have attachments, but I am not willing to form any new ones. My only goal in life is to outlive my mother. That'll give her a purpose for life. I am not afraid of losing her, I am only afraid of disappointing her.
@sagemaster34084 ай бұрын
This whole video IS His thoughts on what you are asking .
@rahultimmala73532 ай бұрын
your videos are like a breath of fresh air to me. i watch your videos each and everyday without fail and it has impacted me in a positive way. i am from india and i am a huge fan of your work
@lilywashere_2 ай бұрын
You’re a delight to listen to and look at.
@justamom48535 ай бұрын
How do you prepare? Every time I think about it, I am brought to tears and stress, causing a migraine. How can I prepare without such a visceral reaction?
@JoVeda_xАй бұрын
Cant force anybody to be some perfect way or feel or think clearly. I feel okay and yet other people make me anxious.
@JorgeGtz5099 ай бұрын
You a beast homie
@pablors333 ай бұрын
Thank u ... over and over again
@manuelaworle12432 ай бұрын
Thank you for your view about nature...
@lalalabad2 ай бұрын
Hey brother, ever since I found your channel I’ve been drawn more to the philosophies and being the master of my mind. In a similar vein to the topic of this video, have you read anything about dealing with insecurities? And some wisdom or strategies one might use to work on these things. I’m really fond of this channel, thanks for sharing the wisdom with us!
Only when we face true pain and true loss.. only when we face things that make our heart ache with no answer available will we dive deep into the depths of the mysteries of life.. searching for true meaning, not a meaning we find in theoretical approaches.. but we will search in the depths of our despair, soul.. in every left corner of our being, the meaning of such pain. We may find some answers.. some of them may take a lifetime to get, other answers would point beyond anything physical. Another realm .. the other side of life. Mental health issues of loved ones, death of loved ones.. true true pain. Things we have no power over.. things that belong to a bigger force, life itself. Then we truly humble and ask, and wait.. and maybe we will find our own idea of God there.. expand our understanding, our beliefs.. pain is a great master and is inescapable for most of us. Some things no other human can answer for us, but ourselves.
@Yvefutura4 ай бұрын
I vibe with this
@pcw224123 күн бұрын
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@marissaclaridge76272 ай бұрын
Have to respect the Natural World❤
@meloearth4 ай бұрын
I'm there right now. I'm exhausted. My beautiful angel furbaby best friend seems to be on his way out. I dreaded this time and now it seems to be here. I can't even say it affirmatively because it hurts so much so I say "it seems". I'm in denial. But I'm working through because I can't change it. It would be worst if I died and he couldn't be with me. I can be stronger at his absence than he would be w/o me. We have been together every day and night since 2012, except for one night when he had to overnight at the vet. Indeed, I feel that I am looking at a tsunami. Oh to grieve before they even leave because you know it's coming...
@ginalibrizzi52043 ай бұрын
I truly feel your grief, and I’m sorry that you’re experiencing so much pain. I’ve been through this 5 (FIVE) times with my beloved fur babies in less than 3 years. The first succumbed to cancer with so little warning that nothing could be done. We were so close, I felt like he was my own son. I had about 2 weeks to come to terms with this, and then gave him permission to leave when he was ready because he was in such pain. I had a vision of our light bodies, and know that I am always holding him. During this same time period, my baby sister was diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer. This was something that had never even crossed my mind. She was the strongest woman I’ve ever known. She died 6 months later, having endured a level of pain and suffering that was difficult even to see. It was a tremendous shock, and the emotional pain was so unbearable that I had to deny it for quite some time. I’ve been living with more death, and pain, and grief in these last few years than I could ever have imagined. It didn’t just start recently, but this period of loss has been so intense that I haven’t had enough “recovery” time in between. I am exhausted too. I think maybe I’m a little stronger though. When you find ways to live with losses that you thought you couldn’t possibly bear, it eventually gives you a different sense of freedom that I can’t really explain yet. I just want you to know that I understand how you feel. If I can possibly help in any way, please ask. ❤
@meloearth3 ай бұрын
My furbaby child departed on April 10. I am riding an excruciating emotional roller coaster in a world that feels like foreign lands without him. Thank you for sharing your experiences with me. It means a lot!
@TinkerDota2 ай бұрын
For most people, isn't anxiety a fear or sense of dread for the future? Isn't anxiety instigated by an spontaneous attempt their mind makes at trying to parse through and unwilligly prepare for what is to come? On that note, I believe the whole process of preparation can be precisely what causes some people to feel a debilitating level of anxiety, which is why so many of them instinctively don't engage in the exercise of preparation in the first place. Maybe the problem comes from people doing it unwillingly, but from what I've observed, telling them to do it with full awareness, still wouldn't make the feeling subside.
Finally someone who touches on stoic thought without taking an anti-emotional/ robotic stance, but rather a dialectically controlled stance. Does he have any other socials that he shares ideas on?
@dianacolvin447211 күн бұрын
Not sure how to mental or emotionally prepare for a loved ones death. I lost my bestfriend last year and I still cannot move on.
@maneviyat85704 ай бұрын
Dude, how can I get an image like you? What is your camera brand? Can you explain to me what you do? When I will shoot a video in the future, I want to share it this way.
@reasons41713 ай бұрын
Learn how to color grade, or just buy a fujifilm and use the film simulations
@blackpearl1t4 ай бұрын
Thanks
@amarmeshal77304 ай бұрын
The hole I see in this argument, or this perspective, is that if we merely accept things for what they are, we surrender to the idea that we shouldn't bother trying to change anything, and this is problematic as well. To accept things as they are is a principle that can be useful in the right context. But the status quo is not something that we should just accept with complete surrender. Or else slavery, segregation, gender inequality and much more would still be the status quo. What do you think about this?
@niels40013 ай бұрын
Krishnamurti - Total Freedom
@AniketKhanal20093 ай бұрын
You can't change something unless you first accept it. That's the paradox. Once you fully accept something, then you can decide whether or not to act on it, but if you run away from it, you don't get to make the choice
@wax61013 күн бұрын
Thanks!
@acceptingtheuniverse12 күн бұрын
Thank you!
@wax61012 күн бұрын
@@acceptingtheuniverse Thank you Sir for all the knowledge sharing
@marissaclaridge76272 ай бұрын
Have to respect the Narural World ❤
@kaliwander34794 ай бұрын
This is what Buddhism is teaching
@szxnv3 ай бұрын
:)
@pedroba7616 күн бұрын
It seems the stoics have much in common with buddhist wisdom.
@user-qj8bu2rt5m3 ай бұрын
I really need to talk to you.
@KaylaJ88273 ай бұрын
Hey, there is a spiritual realm. There are demons and there are angels of God! Jesus Christ died and three days later rose again to his father! Jesus won! We, children of God won, we have power over the demons - who by the way, deceive you and bring thoughts to you that cause anxiety! I crushed anxiety when I figured this out. Don’t be deceived by him or the devil! You will see your beloved in heaven - remember Jesus won for us!!!! Praise God, hallelujah!!!
@Marina.cm.5 ай бұрын
Everything I needed to hear today. Amazing Synchronicity ❤