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@adesso.laurenzo Ай бұрын

Fact sheet here! cdn.plannedparenthood.org/uploads/filer_public/60/46/6046d759-7766-472d-919c-1d77fd2cd6f8/maarap_summary_factsheet_2.pdf

@user-l33kn0w2 Ай бұрын

the commets shocked me😨😨 its clearly people from non abusing families

@waffles3629 Ай бұрын

For real. So many people saying they should be told to talk to their parents. Like no, the solution to "it's too dangerous to tell my parents" is not "tell your parents". Teens have been beat up by their parents and hospitalized for having sex.

@Kandy96 Ай бұрын

What is even the point of this law? Like where do parental rights start and end? Shouldn't a teenage parent have rights, too?

@zackfelker Ай бұрын

In the US we tend to regard people as property until they turn 18. Remember: the most common surgery in the country is removal 1/3 of a baby’s penis skin because the parents want it that way.

@some1else2baby Ай бұрын

If her parents are not safe that is a problem that should be dealt with.

@Kandy96 Ай бұрын

@@some1else2baby it won't. They don't care about children. All of this is about controlling people. Period.

@misspatvandriverlady7555 Ай бұрын

@@some1else2babyNobody else wants responsibility for raising someone else’s kid. There just aren’t enough safe adults in this country to care for all the kids that need care. If parents aren’t actively endangering the life of their kid (or using illegal drugs), they almost certainly will keep them and the legal rights associated with that.

@waffles3629 Ай бұрын

@@zackfelker yep. It's ridiculous. I hate how prevalent it is.

@wegotthechoccies Ай бұрын

The negative comments just show that some people do not have any perspective on lives other than their own

@catdownthestreet 29 күн бұрын

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@Nol. 21 күн бұрын

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@chaotictransgamergirl666 17 күн бұрын

The fact 17 year olds can't adopt cuz they are too young but 15 year olds are FORCED to have it is terrible

@maelavdrak Ай бұрын

In a perfect world, we can trust and rely on our parents for support and love and guidance. But this is not a perfect world and people sometimes forget that not all parents _should be parents._ I would HATE for my child to get something as serious as an abortion without my knowledge, but i can see why it's necessary to hide that information from some parents. It's those parents that are the type to *beat their child half to death* for something like this.

@_snaiio5492 Ай бұрын

mad props for spreading awareness of these issues, keep up the great work!

@trist__ Ай бұрын

oh shoot. i didnt actually know this was still a law in MA, thank you for letting me know about this!

@APerson863 Ай бұрын

The comments in here make me pretty conflicted. Because I get where it is all coming from, but like, at 15 you are fully your own person. Not yet an adult, but no longer a helpless child. Also, depending on the home situation there are so many things that you wouldn't want to, or wouldn't be able to tell your parents because it is unsafe. I hear a lot of stuff about parents rights and the like, but what about the childs rights? Why do those seem to matter less? I get that you'd want to know. So foster a relationship where they would tell you.

@itzetehagachauwu3934 12 күн бұрын

Some people's family might just hurt them if they get pregnant there should be without a parent law too

@tahraethestoryteller6079 Ай бұрын

I think their best bet is to go to a nearby state (preferably New York that doesn’t require parental consent)

@Kpop-Stay.09 Ай бұрын

The country i am from it is legal to get an abortion since 1986

@ambarpal70pal2 12 күн бұрын

Then don't go do the boom boom if you're a minor simple! And if you're raped your parents should understand that, hiding such an important info from parents may be risky if you get certain complications and other stuff in future

@user-ty6hk4ul8s 12 күн бұрын

They should still be able to get an abortion even if it was consensual It’s called basic human rights

@ambarpal70pal2 12 күн бұрын

@@user-ty6hk4ul8s world is not ideal. Such laws are very prone to exploitation if you include the minors. I agree that abortion should be the right of an adult given certain circumstances like in India you're liable to get an abortion with a doctor's note if you're in the first trimester, in second trimester you'll require signature of atleast 2 medical professionals and in 3rd trimester that's too late, you're not allowed to get abortion at this late.

@VrapsysClone 11 күн бұрын

@@ambarpal70pal2I get what you're saying but also I mean what if it was the apparent I feel like they should have laws saying that if the rape involves the parent then you don't have to go through you just go through a quart and it's just easy

@allister.trudel 11 күн бұрын

@@ambarpal70pal2 so it has nothing to do with age but body autonomy, there are tons of people in need of organ transplants but we can't mandate the use of any humans body or body parts for the a survival of another. And that"s when there's a fully formed already born human in need of life saving organ/ blood/ marrow. The decision should be even more straight forward when we're talking about a non-sentient clump of cell or foetus.

@GAMEKLLER Ай бұрын

Dont forget to tell them that they could just take a bunch of vitamin E i was told thats the best way to have an abortion because then it can't even be considered an abortion you just took ur vitamins lol

@VDotBlank Ай бұрын

Mugwort is also another way for abortion supposedly. Just thought I'd add onto your comment

@jessiedoe5840 21 күн бұрын

@@VDotBlank mugwort could cause nervous system damage but is safer than vitamin E. Of course if the child is doing this with no supervision they could end up in the hospital so I don't recommend telling children how to do this. We don't know what dose is safe for a teen.

@mad.2.cool.4.u7 18 күн бұрын

the fact that ms. donna is someone who works at my school. pst. it’s not like i’m giving away her adress or number. (i DO NOT know her number, nor adress.)

@Itslunatheanti 15 күн бұрын

Me being a 12 year old trans

@nayriacadera6048 Ай бұрын

While I do see that it can be in many cases difficult to involve the parents It also is kinda troublesome to have a minor pumped full of hormones and understandably afraid making all the decisions and handling the consequences alone

@moonflower8525 Ай бұрын

Minor's bodies already pump them full of hormones. It called puberty

@tsch2655 Ай бұрын

@@moonflower8525 You know something that pumps hormones into your body? Steroids 💕💕 lets make all Steroids legal for minors, since its just hormones!!

@JesusChrist-sm4bm Ай бұрын

Like pregnancy. Look abortions are hard. But I promise a pregnancy is harder both emotionally and Physically. Rember we learned that giving brith and Kate term pregnancy causes memory loss. I can't imagine a teen in highschool is going to think "Well but an abortion is painful" when they realize studying itself is harder

@nayriacadera6048 Ай бұрын

@@JesusChrist-sm4bm in itself yes, but making the conscious decision to end a pregnancy might trigger guilt later There is this discussion at what point a pregnancy becomes a life I'm NOT from the US Here abortion is legal until a certain point generally And after that point still legal for a vast number of medics reasons There is no perfect solution for how to deal with abortions but I think the way here is about as perfect as it gets But considering how some women react to losing a pregnancy they didn't even want in the first place It's not out of the question that they'll get mental problems later for making that decision especially when they are young I'm not saying they should But the potential is there So while strictly physically an abortion early in pregnancy is much easier on the body I fear for those who make this decision based on fear of their parents and their youth

@cfspring. 20 күн бұрын

I live in Idaho and I’m female and this scares me to death…

@lilLevesque539 27 күн бұрын

Don’t get pregnant as a teen and don’t kill and innocent child 😮 no wayyy

@ElizabethofHungry 24 күн бұрын

Ikr!!!!!!!!! This is a bad channel😭

@KittynamedHysteria 24 күн бұрын

Y’all got the wrong idea. If you tell someone that you just can’t be pregnant as a team that doesn’t lessen the chances. And abortions are sometimes necessary to save the life of a person or someone unable to care for a kid.

@Tjay2024 22 күн бұрын

@@KittynamedHysteriahow about we only abort when necessary and not because we decided to be irresponsible teenagers that don’t want to live up to our consequences. If you chose to have sex it’s like signing a safety waiver that you understand you can get pregnant.

@KittynamedHysteria 22 күн бұрын

@@Tjay2024 Yes that’s what I was trying to say! Ty :)

@rinthedimensionhopper9007 22 күн бұрын

I knew a teen girl that got pregnant but not by choice

@user-zw9ko8dr3d 22 күн бұрын

Yikes!! Omg parents need to be involved !

@EvelynOLeary-hx4kx Күн бұрын

Ah yes, murder

@crazy-b00 29 күн бұрын

This is horrible. Why should a human life suffer because their mama decided to go play hooky with guys? Maybe you shouldn’t even done it in the first place! Same thing goes for rap3, why should a human life suffer because of someone else’s choices?!

@kstuart371 28 күн бұрын

I’m sorry, are you.. amazing abortion in the case of rape…?

@MrMid-kw6eu 27 күн бұрын

No stuffing happens, a featus is not conscious

@crazy-b00 27 күн бұрын

@@MrMid-kw6eu Just because you’re in a coma doesn’t mean your still a human, or alive. It has a heart beat, has cells(which you have to be living) and can grow. Just like it would outside of the womb

@crazy-b00 27 күн бұрын

@@kstuart371 and huh? What I am saying is that yes r@pe is wrong, and has to have punishment for the r@per, but if that victim were to get pregnant, why should they abort it? They should that baby suffer for someone else’s doing?

@kstuart371 27 күн бұрын

@@crazy-b00 A fetus is a lot like a gorgeous flower, absolutely beautiful because the science of life is beautiful. But a flower is a plant, it’s wonderful but doesn’t have the consciousness of a living human. That’s how we all began, our bodies developed in the womb as a shell for our kind and soul that makes us human to inhabit when we’re born. A fetus is a developing shell of a body like a plant. Alive but not truly… alive. Not sentient.

@mildreddurham2599 Ай бұрын

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@nicolaskullafi9166 18 күн бұрын

This is just wrong. Sorry but I don't support this

@Angryfroggyhere 16 күн бұрын

shut it

@nicolaskullafi9166 15 күн бұрын

You too

@deadbunnys 13 күн бұрын

it doesn’t affect you. no uterus no opinion.

@nicolaskullafi9166 12 күн бұрын

@@deadbunnys How do you know it?

@MidoriyamaRArekusu 11 күн бұрын

Which part don’t you support? A 15 yo having the right not to be forced to have a baby or the kid being allowed to keep their parents out of it if they genuinely fear for their own safety?

@Moxx1e-onyoutube Ай бұрын

A child under 16 or someone or someone whos homeless can have abortionbit besides that it is a crime to do that

@NickFrancoeur-gv4sf Күн бұрын

Are you actually 15?? I thought you were like 18 lol

@swan_909 Ай бұрын

Ya i guess its just better to surprise the parent with medical bills instead of an actual solution.

@rishabhsundaram6121 Күн бұрын

No you're not going to end an innocent life because you were irresponsible. The kid's gonna live

@mikestarverycollo 4 сағат бұрын

What if you got assaulted? Then what would you do?

@jessiedoe5840 Ай бұрын

This child is 15. They cannot consent. We say this about the action that made them pregnant, so why would we not say that about the action that takes pregnancy away. As a parent I am put here to protect my child. I need to know if they are having ANY procedures to keep them safe. And i would want to know the person that got them pregnant to make sure its a minor! I know this is a made up scenario but its a parent's worst nightmare to think their child could be engaging in risky behavior behind closed doors. EDIT: I really appreciate the professional and understanding discourse in these replies! I know my opinion is not a very popular one on this channel's following, but I'm thankful no one has been rude or even dismissive. I'm glad we can talk this out and learn from eachother. Many good points have been brought to my attention and I have tried to reply to the best of my knowledge. I noted the age of consent in different states was brought up a few times. Though I'm probably on a watch list now I did educate myself on this. No state has an age of consent under 16. Hope that answered that question. As for the other answers I don't want to make my comment a book so please look into my replies so far. Thank you all and I hope to reply to any new points brought to my attention. Be well :)

@Kandy96 Ай бұрын

What if it was the parent?

@TheChaoticGoodLucifer Ай бұрын

In most states, the MEDICAL age of consent is 13. A 15 year old should be allowed this decision.

@jessiedoe5840 Ай бұрын

@@TheChaoticGoodLucifer this has gone beyond medical and has gone into a sexual health issue an issue that legally this CHILD should not be in. Also most times in sexual activity doctors are mandatory reporters for minors. I'm not particularly sure I agree with 13 being an appropriate age for medical consent either. If my child is afraid of needles should they be able to refuse vaccines they need to attend school?

@Kandy96 Ай бұрын

@jessiedoe5840 This procedure and a vaccine are on completely different levels. But sure, if they don't consent to being jabbed with a needle, maybe we don't stick them? I just like bodily autonomy, is all.

@jessiedoe5840 Ай бұрын

@@Kandy96 I agree they are on different levels. I respect your consistency in your beliefs. I would like to make it a point that I am not directing parents to disallow this procedure. Regardless of the procedure happening or not I believe a responsible parent or guardian should be involved. This is a serious procedure known to have physical and mental side effects and someone who doesn't have a fully developed prefrontal cortex should not be alone during the recovery. I will leave my own religious beliefs out of this debate since my main concern is for the child carrying the child

@escen_schaferin Ай бұрын

I think abortion should be allowed but a child's parents should probably have to know before their child is having a surgery

@user-l33kn0w2 Ай бұрын

if kid feels safe they would tell you, this if for kids who doest feel safe

@waffles3629 Ай бұрын

Not all abortions are surgical. And not all parents are good parents, teenagers have ended up on the hospital beat up because their parents found out they were having sex.

@RavenBlaze 28 күн бұрын

A comment for the algorithm

@captaincatho 20 күн бұрын

I respectfully disagree. I think, while still under 18, you should have to get approval from parents. Also, in this situation it was clearly the person’s fault for getting pregnant!

@Starlove503 20 күн бұрын

Some people get raped and get pregnant that way...even 10 year olds...

@losernamedveronica574 13 күн бұрын

no, it takes two people to get someone pregnant. why shame the pregnant teen but not the person who got them pregnant?

@captaincatho 13 күн бұрын

@@losernamedveronica574because the teen is the one trying to get the abortion

@MidoriyamaRArekusu 11 күн бұрын

I fail to see the moment in this vid where the girl is said to be “clearly the person’s fault.” As there is literally nothing said about how she got pregnant.

@losernamedveronica574 8 күн бұрын

@@captaincatho so all the blame has to go in the girl and not the boy as well?

@GillyFromPhilly Ай бұрын

I’m pro-choice, but I think it’s pretty gross that a kid could do something like this without parental consent. Gross as in - I’m responsible for their wellbeing, but they could get a medical procedure without my knowledge or consent? What if something goes wrong? Who’s responsible then? Me, or the state that allowed the procedure? And where is the line drawn? This isn’t medically necessary, so can my 15 year old go and get a nose job without my consent?

@user-l33kn0w2 Ай бұрын

well i think it depends, and its only for vital things. like if your kid thrusts you - they would tell so whats it the problem? this is for kids who can be abused because of pregnancy or even forced to give birth

@jessiedoe5840 Ай бұрын

This law is in place for more than just a botched procedure happening. Although that is my big fear too. Children cannot consent and this is also a sexual matter as much as it is a medical one. I would be concerned a predator is pushing my child to have an abortion behind my back to hide evidence.

@waffles3629 Ай бұрын

Did you just compare a nose job to pregnancy? Wow

@GillyFromPhilly Ай бұрын

@@waffles3629 no. I compared it to another medical procedure.

@waffles3629 Ай бұрын

@@GillyFromPhilly "no, I didn't compare pregnancy to a nose job, I compared pretty pregnancy to a nose job" Lol, ok

@VoteBidentoSaveDemocracy Ай бұрын

JUST BE GAY

@VDotBlank Ай бұрын

I mean yeah but just because you're gay doesn't mean you can't be impregnated through sa

@rinthedimensionhopper9007 22 күн бұрын

Lol slaaayyyy 💅

@fredburroughs4533 Ай бұрын

if your pregnant at fifteenth your parents are taking care of you right.

@Cann_o_Clarissa Ай бұрын

Or you know... KEEP YOUR LEGS CLOSED SO YOU DONT HAVE TO MURDER SOMEONE (You may not agree with me and i don't really care but i will agree to disagree, but i will not be replying so some of the replies to my comment, as i find them nonsensical and unworthy of my time. Please do not attack me for having an opinion, most of you are adults replying to my comments, and as a young teenager I find it funny that you can't agree to disagree. Please at least act like you have a brain.)

@ohpurpled Ай бұрын

Who said it was a choice?

@Cann_o_Clarissa Ай бұрын

@@ohpurpled If its rape you get authorities involved, and communicate with parents, don't just kill the child. And in the video it said no such thing as rape or forced sex

@Mawpawz Ай бұрын

A fetus is equal to a plant , if eating plants isn't murder neither is abortion Also if a person is a victim of rape then they 100% should have the right to not be forced to carry the child of their rapist considering how painful childbirth is it would be a punishment to the victim that already has enough truama

@lunavixrn5651 Ай бұрын

@@Cann_o_Clarissano, it didn’t, but slut-shaming women is not the way to go here. If the school system taught sex ed, maybe girls would understand how to use contraceptives. Maybe if contraceptives were more accessible. Or maybe, hey, if someone taught women that they’re allowed to say no. You don’t get to tell anyone what to do with their body. If two, consenting people of legal age or both above the age of consent but still minors want to have sex, they’re allowed to do that. You have no right to tell them not to. Abortion isn’t murder anyways, so please stop telling other people what to do with their bodies.

@emma-lynnsnow3730 Ай бұрын

@@ohpurpledif it was not a choice then they can take a plan B pill but if that doesn't work then its gods plan