The tip about having an emotional connection to a task is so spot on. That is the main reason why I can't follow through with things.
@realSimoneCherie10 ай бұрын
Society demonizes not caring - even though people who care about everything have crippling, anxiety, low self-esteem, a loud inner-critic and inevitably burnout.
@johnroekoek123459 ай бұрын
This comment to remind you, a year later 😊
@barbaraharper6225 ай бұрын
Me too. Never really realized it could be caused by my adhd. I love sewing and crafting, but I can't seem to get myself motivated to do any projects for money. My motivation for wanting to do a project, is always for family/friends. So my motivation is love.
@bl83883 ай бұрын
I'm trying to figure out how to emotionally connect to my bills and paperwork. If they could talk or meow or squeak, it would be MUCH easier for me.
@halim8289 Жыл бұрын
-picking one thing at a time -deciding what to say no to -know why behind why - be. Clear on what done looks like -
@SacredSoulPractice Жыл бұрын
And stop magical Thinking ❤ thank you for this
@InspiringYoungLady5 ай бұрын
- Get clear on next steps (and where are dependency - Put things in a Calendar or planning tools that are used every day - Outsourcing accountability (todo lists etc) - Celebrate the things we do well - Take ntentional breaks
@surewhatever88438 ай бұрын
I use what I call my “TA-DONE!” list. It’s a quick and messy handwritten list of what I’ve done. I include *everything* that I would have beaten myself up about had I not done it, so yeah, sometimes “brushed my teeth” makes the list! Traditional to-do lists tend to drain my energy and can be overwhelming, but “TA-DONE!” lists get me rolling into action and help me seek out tasks to complete so I can keep the wins going. The feeling is similar to what you describe when marking an X on your calendar. For some reason, it only works for me if it’s literally scribbled by hand, ideally with brightly colored pens. Writing neatly, using proper grammar, or typing it somehow kills the vibe.
@xannaz92268 күн бұрын
I love this.
@lifewithmargot11 ай бұрын
I’m consistently inconsistent lol 😂
@thaliamerida18364 ай бұрын
lol!
@TellitTay3 ай бұрын
Thissss😂😅 can feel this!
@Infojunkie-lj1up2 ай бұрын
Saaaaaaame! I'm great at it.
@lifewithmargot2 ай бұрын
@@Infojunkie-lj1up lol 😆
@jowaovieiraАй бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 WHY!!!?
@hollywright3610 Жыл бұрын
We don’t like being predictable. Adventure not simple is what is harder then creating
@xannaz92268 күн бұрын
I'm seeing this two years hence, but I applaud this move. I wish more podcasters would take breaks, rather than just force out content. I'd rather have "occasional and brilliant" than constant and mediocre.
@PadmaDorjee6 ай бұрын
I can honestly say you are the most likeable person on KZfaq and possibly the nicest. Your genuine empathy oozes from your skin and you do not look like someone who's here to make a career or money, it actually looks like those are secondary and wanting to help others was first because of what it was like for you scrambling around in the dark for so long. 🙏🏽
@stefaniebrauer128 Жыл бұрын
I just discovered you while searching for help with clutter if your a woman with adhd. I remember realizing and writing down at 19 that my problem was consistency. Wasn’t diagnosed until I was 32 and now at 55 I’ve learned much during my journey. A lot of it I forget and relearn many times over 😂. Love hearing how others approach life on the daily and I’m glad I found you. ❤
@thequeryqueen9 ай бұрын
You described me too😂🥲 and I hate relearning stuff its so frustrating. Atleast now I have a direction.
@americasariesson1862Ай бұрын
55 male and just searched online an agency to help me. I accepted defeat and now willing to pay 💰
@vanessacaballero9943 Жыл бұрын
I love that they are many people like me out here experiencing the same ugh I’m so tired of not being consistent and it’s not like don’t want to 😅 thank you for this video please don’t stop making them
@djmandyland Жыл бұрын
Not only did I feel you on the 26 hr days but they aren't even productive, for me, it's just 26 hr days of stressing and worrying how I have 12083 ideas but can't seem to pick or start any then just giving up.
@tinal.81410 ай бұрын
Same!!! (((Sigh)))
@DanitaWaltonhere Жыл бұрын
Holy cow I’m so glad I saw this video today! I’ve watched it 2x and will watch again tomorrow to take notes. I love your content. It’s succinct and makes so much sense without shame or judgment. Thank you!
@CarenMagill Жыл бұрын
Yes! Thank you so much for reflecting that. It's always my intent!
@nisweeta10612 жыл бұрын
Oh my goodness.. im watching the second video and I already feel like you are changing my life for the better. I love the way you speak and explain things. I have never understood what was going on in my brain- having all these interests and talents and not being able to be consistent with any to manifest my dreams has been very saddening. I finally see some hope at the end of the tunnel. Thank you!!!
@CarenMagill2 жыл бұрын
You are so welcome! I'm glad they are resonating with you!!!
@jeffersonbrendly76132 жыл бұрын
👋 i hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness prosperity love and peace 💞❤️🕊️🕊️ all over the world 🙏🌍 I'm originally from Canada currently living in Key West Florida☀️☀️☀️☀️and you where are you from if i may ask??.
@hajarhajar8906 Жыл бұрын
Can you please make a video about how to implement these things? I like these videos but they’re still too abstract for me 😢
@sirirassap69166 ай бұрын
Yeah think so
@katelynglass9145 Жыл бұрын
ohmygod please never stop making videos! this is smth i struggle with so much, just like so many others, and i can’t express how much of a difference your videos make! thank you for making me feel like i’m not alone in this!
@georgesonm1774 Жыл бұрын
I love so much about these tips, especially the explanation of why it is necessary to celebrate completion, from a cognitive and identity-building standpoint - I feel like this will be priceless for me, as I never really placed importance on that (if I actually managed to complete something, that is) - thanks so much!
@MomBehindTheComputer2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this! I hope your break is helpful for you as you work forward in your goals!
@CarenMagill2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!
@frankribery33622 ай бұрын
I wish I could pay you for this or support you in any way, but I am a student and you have already helped me a lot. I wish you the very best.
@timonibelete90092 ай бұрын
Ughhh the thing I’m so tired of and disappointing myself is the only thing I have is school not even proper school that I have to go school, all I have to do is study and take my exam and I set a schedule for my studies every day to what time I be studying and all that guess what I did that for one week and the next week I couldn’t even get up early, all my plans the whole - non , spent the rest of the week on bed and as the day goes by all I’m thinking is what I could’ve done. I keep asking myself what is it and my conclusion was I felt like I’m doing a chore and mundane and there is no excitement and I get that not every day is holiday but I like spontaneity , I like when I don’t plan on reading or studying and all of the sudden I get captured and finish the book and that feeling is the best. I don’t know,I just need help, beat this and take my exam. Please anybody help?
@bonnacon16109 ай бұрын
Focus on one thing at a time. Decide what you’re going to say No to. Know the “Why” behind your why. Be clear on what “done” looks like. Avoid magical thinking. Calendar block your time. Celebrate completion. Take intentional breaks.
@NotSoEntertaining.4 ай бұрын
The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy is good as well.
@alexjustine3310 ай бұрын
I’m just giggling because it all sounds so simple, BUT the way you explain these things just makes sense ❤
@Bri-vy7zx11 ай бұрын
I think that tip about choosing one thing at a time is about to change my life. I LOVED j-term in college and always soaked up and continue to apply those concepts much more than any of my 4 multiple course semesters….. like I genuinely get sad in January now because I don’t have that anymore. And you just made me realize that I can create my own and explore my interests effectively. THANK YOU.
@3dchick10 ай бұрын
Omg, i did all those things. Five majors (would change every time they tried to make me take math), always listening to other people's "shoulds" even if they were just in my head. Now, at 54, im facing really commit to my not-very-good job or quit and try what I actually want to do. I don't regret my scattershot education, and I don't regret my years teaching since, but I am fairly sure I need to be done with it. (just terrified my ADHD brain won't let me succeed at those things, sigh. Sigh.
@morganquist2 жыл бұрын
Appreciate the personal stories and practical steps. Thanks, Caren!
@CarenMagill2 жыл бұрын
Thanks, Morgan!!!!
@sj426710 ай бұрын
Know your why behind your why is a good one!
@jowaovieiraАй бұрын
Well covered! 😂 now to get all that done hahaha. I needed a different video to help deal with all this progress task 😂 by bucketing part by part and by ruling principle values to actionable desirable actions
@JJ-ds2get-her Жыл бұрын
I just found this channel. I think I can love it. And thank you.
@CarenMagill Жыл бұрын
You're welcome!
@HansOttoDieter6545 ай бұрын
1.Simplify - Say No (Unrealistic Expectation) pick 1 thing at a time 2.Choose - Decide what u say no. so that u create ur working space which is needed for realising ur dreams 3.Motivate- Know ur why behind ur why. Write it down. 4. Visualize ur Product. Write it down in detail 5. Concretize ur Magical Thinking phase. write it down. Till here, was for DECIDE what u WANT 6. PLAN - Operationalize ur Priorities WHAT, WHO, HOW 7. EXECUTE - Put them on the Calendar WHERE, WHEN 8. CHECK - Externalize Accountability 9. PARTY TIME 😊 - Celebrate it. Look at wht u got it done. CONFIDENCE STUFF 10. DESERVE. U deserve taking BREAKS.
@dexthegrumpАй бұрын
thank you for this! this was amazing
@RenewedbyHim11 ай бұрын
Quite frankly I have never been diagnosed with adhd but this year I have been thinking that I do have it. This video was so helpful
@rappcu2 ай бұрын
It was at about the 5:30 mark that I said “Caren has a microchip in my brain and is reporting on everything I go through.” I don’t have a diagnosis, but it’s finally time to seek that out. Tired of living this way.
@unthought_known Жыл бұрын
I've been watching your videos all weekend, so helpful. Thank you for making these video. I really appreciate that.
@CarenMagill Жыл бұрын
thank you!!!! I appreciate you watching them!
@rayoa19 ай бұрын
Thank you Caren for your beautiful and amazing videos. They are SO helpful❤
@draftsandideas8372 жыл бұрын
Amazing video!!! Thank you so much for putting the time in making it!
@CarenMagill2 жыл бұрын
My pleasure!
@mouriziozeland71409 ай бұрын
Wow. I thought one thing which I normally do was bad. Thanks for the advice.
@user-in4mz9go4d11 ай бұрын
If only I could stay consistent. I would get FAR in life and I know it 😢
@desireco6 ай бұрын
I love magical thinking... love it!
@soundhealingbygeneАй бұрын
Fun fact, everyone who does have ADD or ADH. D as an adult, it's not always a people pleaser. Or tries to be a people pleaser or wants to be a people pleaser. I just need help with consistency, and I don't want to be labeled.As such this is f****** annoying
@victorias9483Ай бұрын
Suggestion from an ADHD kid - add more visuals and/or make it much shorter. We get distracted and need the immediate and the shiny!!
@9xqspx69 ай бұрын
So happy I found your channel. Love your energy, and I got a bunch of great tips from you. (Although I still don't know if I have ADHD.)
@thecreativemastermin10 ай бұрын
We love you Caren!
@vaibhav6151 Жыл бұрын
That's a great video. Too many important points briefly discussed. Thanks
@maleekrichardson899321 күн бұрын
She’s describing my life
@Circe_of_Aeaea2 ай бұрын
I don't have ADHD, but at this point I'm trying everything that might work lol
@Mindsetolympics Жыл бұрын
God bless you Caren!! God brought me to this channel for a reason! And I'm so happy about it. This is about the best video you have posted! GOLD complete GOLD!
@CarenMagill Жыл бұрын
welcome! I'm glad you're here.
@YubTub-ym4qj Жыл бұрын
I've already started 2 more businesses on top of one that isn't doing so good. Now my weaknesses are out there for everyone to see coz I can't deliver well to everyone.
@laybachaudhry29787 ай бұрын
1. One thing at a time - why is important?? - another why?? - be clear what done looks like - magic thibking impulsively
@SnoozeAddict Жыл бұрын
Very helpful tips! Thank you!
@CarenMagill Жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@nanostar76605 ай бұрын
3:40-books she reccomends
@TripleBlsdNHlyFvrd9 ай бұрын
It's hard for me to set goals and work on accomplishing because I need instant and consistent feedback or "dopamine increase" for me to start motivated. That's why it's hard to lose weight because I need to see and feel some positive results daily instead of weekly or monthly. I'll get initially excited, but soon lose the excitement which decreases my motivation. Any and all feedback is welcomed.
@ambermariemalone7 ай бұрын
You’re brilliant 🎉
@thequeryqueen9 ай бұрын
You got a new subscriber ❤
@sirirassap69166 ай бұрын
It understand it’s a good advice but it’d be great if you have an easy example to make it less abstract
@ariestre7702 Жыл бұрын
You are super helpful
@Claudia-sm9te11 ай бұрын
Omg why are you calling me out? Putting things on a calender and then forget to look at it. Oh all the unused calenders and planners I've had in my life..
@Selfunraveled Жыл бұрын
Awesome video
@tarat53 Жыл бұрын
9:54 You say you'll link some videos on how you plan your weeks months and quarters, but I can't seem to find any video links in the description for those things? Could you please provide those resource links? Struggling to stay organized. Thank you!
@CarenMagill Жыл бұрын
Thank you for calling that out, Tara! Here's a playlist of videos for you. kzfaq.info/sun/PLGIy8-DZZV1xGXXJf4D05KT9uXWt_VMh8
@marciesalkowski813910 ай бұрын
i let my emotions control everything until now… i lived more in my head
@-CornDawg15 күн бұрын
Not sure if she taught any practical things that you can apply, just felt like some words put together to make it looks like she's teaching something.
@lifebypernille94537 ай бұрын
Someone please explain what "snizzled on" is, I keep imagining being sneezed on and that cannot be right xD
@hollywright3610 Жыл бұрын
Right brain /left brain not the executive function in the middle
@ginarusselhp11 ай бұрын
awesome video
@ShermanWilliamsVideo4 ай бұрын
Oof. I’ve tried all of this and none of these work
@sweetlife3623 Жыл бұрын
What does done look like?
@NADA-ok2ce11 ай бұрын
How do you make the calendar fun. I HATE it….
@holachristin72098 ай бұрын
Colors, stickers, emojis. I found that star stickers help a lot lol
@holachristin72098 ай бұрын
I use a Eisenhower matrix in Notion, so I can add emojis and check off a task when it’s finished.
@misssquizza56169 ай бұрын
Do you work with a naturopath to manage ADHD?
@CarenMagill9 ай бұрын
No
@derosa1958 ай бұрын
I can not trust my brain any more
@illyaan4 ай бұрын
How will my future wife handle me? She will divorce me on the wedding night
@mess29645 ай бұрын
I am consistently inconsistent ?!*
@life_aftersobriety2 ай бұрын
Okay but do you take adhd medication because lists are my fucking problem. 😂 it’s the execution of the list. Even with intention I go for a week and then… BAM I stop, and I don’t even realize I did.
@derosa1958 ай бұрын
No friends duh
@designerguy6257 Жыл бұрын
I dont know why I would paint my whole house. LOL. I did a room and paid for the rest.
@thecommoncentrist Жыл бұрын
I felt very attacked at the magical thinking part
@derosa1958 ай бұрын
I just want to be normal
@nosequiters Жыл бұрын
what do you do if youre not interested in anything and youre just fucking tired lol
@CarenMagill Жыл бұрын
sleep!
@sewmad1400 Жыл бұрын
Investigate the possibility of depression- especially if you’re not interested in anything.
@LimalMathew12 күн бұрын
Mam,love you and your channel but the beginning of your video gave me the most ADHD temptation to change the video😅
@AAKIYANWAWAQTABLEEpabilla29 күн бұрын
Wiiwiwiwow
@lakritzeslena Жыл бұрын
But I CAN diy difficult things I have no prior experience with. 😜☝️
@rameenfatima52916 ай бұрын
Listening to the part about knowing why behind your why i just remember dumping my midnight thoughts in my notes 3 years back and writing “do we really love the things we love or is it because of the people around us”. I am starting research on ADHD because when someone explains how ADHD works i just feel like they’re explaining the inner me 😭😭 i reallyy wanna deal with it right now but not sure if i am interested in it tomorrow 🥲🥲