10 Strategies for Overcoming Childhood Neglect

Рет қаралды 56,440

Күн бұрын

Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Qualified Clinical Supervisor. She received her PhD in Mental Health Counseling from the University of Florida in 2002. In addition to being a practicing clinician, she has provided training to counselors, social workers, nurses and case managers internationally since 2006 through AllCEUs.com 📢SUBSCRIBE and click the BELL to get notified when new videos are uploaded.
💲 AllCEUs.com Unlimited CEUs $59 based on these videos
Join this channel to get access to perks:
/ @docsnipes
#emotionalneglect #ACES #adversechildhoodexperiences
NOTE: ALL VIDEOS are for educational purposes only and are NOT a replacement for medical advice or counseling from a licensed professional.
Video by Dr. Dawn Elise Snipes on integrative behavioral health approaches including counseling techniques and skills for improving mental health and reducing mental illness.
AllCEUs provides multimedia counselor education and CEUs for LPCs, LMHCs, LMFTs and LCSWs as well as addiction counselor precertification training and continuing education.
Unlimited Counseling CEs amd Social Work CEUs for $59
Specialty Certificates and #MasterClass starting at $89
AllCEUs courses for counselor continuing education are accepted in most states because we are an approved education provider for NAADAC, the States of Florida and Texas Boards of Social Work and Mental Health/Professional Counseling, the California Consortium for Addiction Professionals and Professions, the Australian Counselling Association, CRCC, Canadian Counselling and Psychotherapy Association and more.
Dr Dawn Elise Snipes provides training through AllCEUs.com that are helpful for ACA OPD, Counsellor OPD Points, LPC CEUs LMHC CEUs LCPC CEUs LSW CEUs LCSW CEUs LMFT CEUs CRC CEUs LADC CEUs CADC CEUs MAC CEUs MCAP CEUs NCC CEUS LCDC CEUs CPRS CEUs CTRS CEUs and HPCSA ACA NBCC counsellors needing counselling continuing education counseling continuing education ceus for social workers social work ceus addiction counselor training counseling ceus continuing education training, NCMHCE test prep and exam review, addiction counselor training, addiction recovery specialist training, mental health awareness, anxiety relief, addressing abandonment and inescure attachment, learning cognitive behavioral techniques, depression, motivation, mental health awareness, addiction awareness, holistic habits and integrated behavioral health approaches to treatment CEbroker CE broker @cebroker, better help, talk space, seven cups, 7 cups, online counseling, self help IC & RC, IC&RC test prep, IC & RC Exam Review

Пікірлер: 236

@kaylasspiritualblog2028 2 жыл бұрын

I hate that I have to parent myself as an adult. That i have to validate myself with touch to feel loved. That i have to look up ways to stand up for myself and that it had to be this way... I'm so tired of it and wasn't ready to enter the real world with so many childhood wounds. Not only that I'm the only one that really gets it.. communicating these wounds with others they count it off as insignificant

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@talitabotana6992 Жыл бұрын

If you wanna someone to Talk to I'll be more than happy. I am going through the same and think people like us could feel more understood and cared for if we can call talk about it and share our experiences between us. Send you a hug from Spain ❣️

@MakaylaCole123 Жыл бұрын

Wow I feel the same way. I hate that I have to do all this work as an adult because I wasn't loved properly.

@aubriellemorgan Жыл бұрын

Same here 😔

@SofiUk0319 Жыл бұрын

I love your words, they hit me particularly hard today.. it will never be right that it is now up to us to change and move forward. I can't stand hearing just those words sometimes, because the depth of the pain is beyond than well you need to just move forward now . Thank you and God bless ❤️

@noturbo 2 жыл бұрын

I get resentful as a kid i got abused and as an adult i have to work 10 times harder than others just to get to where they are-the gift that just keeps on giving.

@trysmarter1014 2 жыл бұрын

I get that way, but then I look at the little ones- I SEE the little ones, how half sized, adorable, and vulnerable they are- I think of what I went through at their age- I can't imagine them going through what I went through. I think of what they've been spared from, and I'm grateful, so (expletive deleted) grateful. Our efforts to correct our dysfunctional childhood programing will ripple onwards into the future and change the outcomes for generations to come, if we're lucky.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@HindustaniQueen 2 жыл бұрын

🙏 Thank you for creating this content to help heal the collective 🌠

@chesterini Жыл бұрын

@@trysmarter1014 iooiiiiih oyyyy iiiiipiiis is ithe a time time I o ihoihiiiihiiioiiiiiihihiooiiiiijiuiiiiiiihîuu gu ioiiuiiiioiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiioouu

@chesterini Жыл бұрын

@@trysmarter1014 ookk@@999887))?8888809

@ED-lc8qk 2 жыл бұрын

I cried almost the entire video. I thought I was over it. I'm not mad at my mom, but the damage it caused was huge. Just venting....

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

You may want to explore this with a professional counselor. You can find other therapists via Psychology Today search: allceus.com/Psychology_Today_Therapist_Search If you are interested in Virtual EMDR therapy: allceus.com/Virtual_EMDR Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@kosovir 2 жыл бұрын

oh please, stop it.

@talitabotana6992 Жыл бұрын

@@kosovir ?

@CynthiaSchoenbauer Жыл бұрын

This is sooo good. When you cry because you're recognizing what and who was not there for you, you are touching the child. You can do a lot in that place to make up for what you did not get! I am in the same situation and when I pay attention, there is someone inside who breathes a sigh and says "thank you, finally!"

@toby7582 Жыл бұрын

It took me about 9 minute to break. I've been homeless on and off for about 30 years thanks in no part to coming from an abusive family.

@gwortman3515 Жыл бұрын

I experienced severe physical abuse along with neglect...my childhood was a traumatic nightmare...I forgave my parents yet at 61 still have PTSD and can get triggered when I see a child or animal neglected....it's a gut wrenching surge of emotions for me!!

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@gwortman3515 Жыл бұрын

@@DocSnipes your videos really help me to better understand the root causes of why I turned out to be who I am and measures to take to better understand and heal myself. The healing process for me never stops.

@julieannmaloney7187 10 ай бұрын

Me too

@ceterisparibus8966 7 ай бұрын

@@gwortman3515 You have a lot more work to do, it looks like. I wish you well.

@gothope5915 Ай бұрын

Keep healing, imagine if you were as unaware as you used to be. I'm encouraged that at 61 you are still moving forward.

@esthermoriarty1378 5 ай бұрын

I’m 41 and am just realizing what it is that’s been my issue/s all my life, I thought I had a personality disorder or just emotionally detached, but the more I listen about CEN, this explains a lot about my entire life!

@DocSnipes 5 ай бұрын

I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video

@Exodus26.13Pi 2 жыл бұрын

When I imagine my kids being treated like I was makes me irate. How could adults care so little and screaming is not problem solving. Thanks for letting me vent. Love y'all

@WackadoodleMalarkey 2 жыл бұрын

Nothing but anything boils my blood faster than optics looking like parents dumping their own shortfalls on their children. I hear ya bud

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@kosovir 2 жыл бұрын

you're not showing compassion. you're not better than anyone else, you're blind.

@Exodus26.13Pi 2 жыл бұрын

@@kosovir I always ask for forgiveness and love them. I still would ring their necks.

@KimJilene 7 ай бұрын

Screaming is not problem solving - PREACH 🙌🏾 Too many of us were subject to this kind of explosive parenting on the regular. Now we have to pick up the pieces of this damaging type of communication and re-teach ourselves how to communicate effectively. It is hard work but we can get there 🦾

@PS-xb9hc 2 жыл бұрын

I am in therapy and been workimg on this for a year now but every now and then there are days were the resentment gets back to me and makes so sad. At least now I allow myself to feel the pain, cry a bit and move on little by little. But it takes a lot of my energy not to want to abandon myself.

@liadhainsmith 2 жыл бұрын

I needed this, a lot. I very much appreciate this. I am almost 29, better late than never, and want to stop the cycle. Thank you

@yasmino6387 2 жыл бұрын

Always said this. Better late than never.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@CynthiaSchoenbauer Жыл бұрын

Almost 67 and much better late than never. A lot of years of pain can be turned around. It's what we came here to do anyway... so might as well do it while we are here.

@liadhainsmith Жыл бұрын

@Babs Kaz

@harrydijkshoorn6399 2 ай бұрын

29 is young to be aware of this. Well done!

@BookWorm2369 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you. This was exactly what I googled not too long ago, "how to overcome childhood emotional neglect"

@jenoop60045 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you, I feel very blessed to have gotten the opportunity to see this video. 🙏 💝

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@ksailor71 11 ай бұрын

I didn’t even accept I was neglected until my 40’s when I had my first child. My emotional dependence on my mother was so powerful that I was unable to see it. The consequences for me is the inability to maintain enduring relationships 😞

@DocSnipes 11 ай бұрын

I am so sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video. Here is the video on healing the wounded inner child: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/f7F6g9ehxrS0YnU.htmlsi=_nP_R6ZZbp94XGrc

@birdlynn417 Жыл бұрын

I am age 63 now, still affected by childhood neglect and family who never gets together, we left each other alone all these years. The only time the six of us (kids) got together after we left home was when my mother died in 2017. Never again. This was very good, thank you, but it triggers up a lot of yucky feelings even to this day.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

You’re so welcome. I am sorry the video triggered unpleasant memories and I appreciate you watching it. What did you find most useful from it?

@kingaberlakovich5585 Жыл бұрын

I was a child from divorced parents. My mother had to bring up 3 kids. She worked 12 hours a day and also on Saturdays. We were alone. A lot. And than she became depression and panic attacks, as the middle child ( I was the elder of 2 daughters), I had to take care of my younger sister, of my mother. I was 12! We were not allowed to say no, my mom wanted me to read her mind … i love her but that was not funny and easy. As an adult I also have 3 kids, but I am a stay at home mom ( I think I try to heal my wounds this way), but I also get depression and panic attacks. I am now in therapy. I hope a find my way and a fulfilling relationship.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I appreciate you watching. Other videos that might help can be found at: kzfaq.infosearch?query=innerchild and kzfaq.infosearch?query=CPTSD

@forensicbadassprofiling Жыл бұрын

Thank you Dr S! The damage of parental neglect and abuse is life altering n extremely difficult to heal from. It requires daily discipline n a recovery team. Ur lucky if uve survived the physical. The damage is beyond bruises n stitches that eventually heal. Parents should be held accountable in criminal Court. I grew up w repulsive conditions while these people smile to The world that look like pillars in the community.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I truly appreciate you watching!

@djjustice3244 2 жыл бұрын

THANK YOU DR SNIPES, I'M SAVING THIS ON ALL MY PLAYLIST

@bunnyoncloud Жыл бұрын

thank you from the bottom of my soul !!! took notes and will work on every bit of information

@jennasparks3404 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this presentation, it is extremely helpful. Can you do a video for adult survivors overcoming childhood neglect, as parents, to parent their children in a healthy way, opposite from childhood neglect? Thank you again, your words are powerful and bring awareness.

@kd4465 Жыл бұрын

I’m so glad to have come across this video, it’s extremely validating. I have definitely been abandoning myself, and it’s time to take care of me. Thank you 💕

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

You’re so welcome. I appreciate you watching the video. What did you find most useful from it? Other videos you might be interested in can be found at kzfaq.infosearch?query=innerchild

@ShonnaNelsonWilliams 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much. 🙏 You really understand our pain. You've pointed out things I need to continually work on to be a better person. I know I'll battle with the trauma for the rest of my life, but now I have the tools to accept it and grow.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

So glad my videos are helpful to you. Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@kymc8578 11 ай бұрын

Thanks for this video. I am now married to someone that is just like my mom. Invalidates feelings, etc. understanding that this happening as it did when I was a child, gives me a very different perspective. I know now I have to find my nurturing parent in myself. It’s really hard, but this helps.

@DocSnipes 11 ай бұрын

Sorry to hear that. I appreciate you watching the video

@harrisongirl1541 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the road map, I have needed it for so long. Now finding the route in my own way

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Glad I could help. Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@rosakova08 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this knowledge. Learning about childhood emotional neglect from a tiktok video felt revelatory...I'm trying to learn all I can about its impacts and ways to overcome it now so I can stop feeling so bad all the time, and I appreciate that you put this out here to help others on the same journey.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

You’re so welcome. I appreciate you watching the video. What strategies will you use first to overcome childhood neglect? Here are some videos on the inner child: kzfaq.infosearch?query=innerchild

@YouToo472 2 жыл бұрын

You have a lot of ‘feels’ regarding this topic❤️👶Thank you for sharing & advocating.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching!

@_black_is_black_ 6 ай бұрын

I am very grateful for youtube and doctors like you for making these videos. They are very healing. Thank you for the work you do.

@DocSnipes 6 ай бұрын

You’re most welcome. Thank you for watching the video

@Nandaksilva 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! 🙏🏻It has helped me to notice some steps that I had not followed yet to get the healing I need.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@LadyPR1 2 жыл бұрын

This is such a great training! Thank you!

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Welcome

@Stranded360 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your great videos Mrs. Snipes- this one may help me hopefully.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@ridgoro 5 ай бұрын

thank you so much for this! you are a lifesaver, literally

@DocSnipes 5 ай бұрын

You are so welcome!

@equalityforall5620 2 жыл бұрын

She is so great. I wish I had heard this years ago. Thank youy so much for putting the time into this.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Very welcome. Thanks for watching.

@dee0731 2 жыл бұрын

Great information Doc Snipes thank you 🙌🏻☀️

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Welcome

@lucianogiudice8569 7 ай бұрын

What can I say....Neglected, sexually abused by a stranger, physically abused and beaten up regularly, emotionally blackmailed by my mother and invalidated by my father. A psychologist dream. After many KZfaq videos, I am just starting to make sense of my childhood experience and where I am today. They say what doesn't break you down makes you stronger, not sure about that, but better to be aware of how and who we are, than wondering in the emotional world without a clue. Yes it is very painful, especially for someone that was born with very high expectation from himself (Capricorn). If I can take one single advise from this wonderful video as the most important, is assertiveness and been able to communicate our emotions and needs openly. Yes it will be a hit and miss with people reaction, but it will be great for my self-esteem.

@DocSnipes 7 ай бұрын

I am sorry your childhood was so traumatic and I appreciate you watching the video and sharing

@KimJilene 7 ай бұрын

Your comment really resonated with me. My heart goes out to you for all the awful experiences you have been through. You are a survivor and a fighter and I don’t know you but I am sending positive vibes out to you and I am ROOTING FOR YOU. We can get through the pain and anguish and be stronger and better for it. It is part of our story and our journey to being the wonderful people we are destined to be. ❤😊

@lucianogiudice8569 7 ай бұрын

@@KimJilene Thank you Kim, if it can be of any help trough out my research for help, I found that mindfulness and meditation does wonders, I belive I have a borderline personality disorder and CBT therapy can also help a lot, other tools are familiarising with the concept of Sadow (Carl Jung) and Sadowork, and try to get rid of addictions. I hope you find some pace on your life and get back you self estime. Love L

@harrydijkshoorn6399 2 ай бұрын

Bless you.

@adristrydom5154 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video. It is extremely helpful.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

You're very welcome!

@yinmaysoe7140 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video. It makes me aware that it's time to heal my inner child.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@G_14440 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this healing and informative message.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Welcome. Thanks for watching.

@user-ot2uy2og9l 2 жыл бұрын

I can't thank you enough for this. So clear and validating.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful! Thanks for watching.

@EzequielSanucci Жыл бұрын

Excellent presentation! Thank you so much!

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

You’re so welcome. I appreciate you watching the video. What did you find most helpful from it?

@zonefreakman 11 ай бұрын

That is really interesting. I have talked with a therapist quite a lot and have done mental health programs, but I feel like still learned something from watching this. One thing that clicked for me watching this is realizing how I never felt like I had any help, like no one cared about me. And that has made me feel like I can't have any assurance that things will work out for me. I was even getting to the point of thinking that it's a good thing that no one cares about me because then I could learn to look after myself. I have learned that it's important to be responsible for myself, but I still have those feelings that I would never get any help if I needed it, and that can create anxiety for me and paralyze me sometimes into shutting down and avoiding problems. But I think that is really extreme thinking I picked up from my parents who have their own mental health problems. I think that if I became sick or needed help with something for some reason, that there would be someone available to help me to get through it. I would do the same for someone I cared about, so there should be someone who cares about me like that. That paralyzing anxiety I've had since childhood I think also made me believe that I am incapable of looking after myself and that I couldn't become a responsible self regulating adult. But that really was just an unhealthy mindset I learned from my parents. At every step of taking better care of myself and being more responsible I am always surprised that things just work out, as if it were some sort of miracle, rather than an outcome that is supposed to be the norm.

@DocSnipes 10 ай бұрын

Thank you for watching and for sharing

@KimJilene 7 ай бұрын

Loved your comment. I have become fiercely independent too because I learned from a young age that I could not count on my parents due to their inconsistent behaviour. Despite not relying on anyone, I never really took care of myself and because a people pleaser to help everyone else. I made myself small to appease my parents growing up and I continued to do that in adulthood. I am now learning to stand up for myself and advocate for myself so I can live more authentically for me.

@user-is5se5ke7v 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for this clear presentation about how to overcome emotional neglect. ❤

@DocSnipes 4 ай бұрын

You’re most welcome. Thanks for watching

@yolisamsomi1130 3 ай бұрын

When I feel my inner child coming to the surface, I take a mental health day and I listen to a playlist with some of the most comforting songs I've ever heard. The second verse really speaks to me. "Troubled little angel Inconsistent, flying blind most of the time Don't know who to be, yeah Always rearranging the Wreckage of her life Ever holding tight To the hope that she'll be free"

@DocSnipes 3 ай бұрын

Awww. I love that. Thank you for watching the video and for sharing

@ny3683syr Жыл бұрын

I'm impressed. You are a very knowledgeable therapist. Subscribed.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Welcome aboard!

@annied4084 2 жыл бұрын

On the spot addressing such complex issue on a short span of time.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@malloryr315 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this great information.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@angelica351a Жыл бұрын

S o glad I just found this am writing down notes,this is sohelpful.

@patriciamorgan2501 2 жыл бұрын

Doc Snipes, this training is awesome. Excellent examples and use of real life situations!

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@esthermangula4731 2 жыл бұрын

Do stuff drr St try CD tu trttgtyyt try z try my t try t st and and I I I 6❤️😩🙈

@esthermangula4731 2 жыл бұрын

c😘

@jahspruce8616 2 жыл бұрын

Hawa sabata Ahab. Thank you for ur lessons ur erudition & dispelling of mentality has been a delight to acquire.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@jameslove9696 2 жыл бұрын

Bless you Dr Dawn thank you!!!

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Welcome. Thanks for watching.

@bpassion4fashion581 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video . After much searching I found you. I couldn’t believe that this is not talked about more in depth by others. I have been on a healing journey for over 25 years. I still struggle with the impact of not being physically and emotionally protected. When you finally said the words “ physically safety “ I was relieved. I experience poverty, neglect in every possible form and shape and although I understand that my mother was traumatized herself, but forgiving our parents doesn’t help to resolve the anguish and bodily terror that I feel when confronting the world and “ adults matters” as in some areas I feel incapacitated / not capable / damaged/ missing the “ how to.” I took many notes, so that I can actually do some of the exercises you mentioned on this video - for example , I love to journal so I will journal about my needs back then, the grieve of what never was and my most pressing issue -the physical safety I didn’t get. Please make more videos on how can we create safety as adults ?!!! Thank you!

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

You’re so welcome. I am grateful to be of help and I appreciate you watching the video. What did you find most useful from it? Here are the videos on safety: kzfaq.infosearch?query=safety

@bpassion4fashion581 Жыл бұрын

@@DocSnipes what I found most useful was to put name to the many things that remain in the “ invisible world “. Terms such as “ lack of physical safety “ and “ the child’s safety need “ that was huge for me to hear, as no one has ever acknowledged how traumatizing fending for y that can be when being so young and vulnerable . Other things like the parent “ not being physically available.” That went straight to my heart bc my mom was never around for no apparent reason. She didn’t drank , nor was an addict of any kind , but now that I know better and studied psychology myself , I know she was disassociated all the time. At this point is not about blaming , but putting name to the invisible wounds so I can continue the process of healing. How could anyone grieve if there is no name for what happened ?! Since your video , I have done some inner work with the help of my journal and the extra chair and I now have hope that I can shake up and release the energy of terror in my body. I’ll tell you this , yesterday was the first time I was able to see my terrified little girl as separate from the adult me . I still don’t know what am I going to do to provide her with safety bc my fantasy was that a man would give me that. Needless to say, I haven’t been that lucky ! But seeing her for the first time helped with the flow of communication between the two parts of the psych. Thank you 🙏 please make more videos like this for childhood neglected children . It is the wound no one can’t see !

@silviaarzamendia 11 ай бұрын

Thankyou so much for this video. I developed BPD, and this information and suggestions are very useful to me. Thanks.

@DocSnipes 11 ай бұрын

You're very welcome! Thank you for watching the video. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at kzfaq.infosearch?query=BPD Helpful videos can also be found at: kzfaq.infosearch?query=DBT

@elainehodgson6403 2 жыл бұрын

wow this was extremly helpful

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Wonderful. Thanks for watching.

@elisalozano4862 8 ай бұрын

Thank you for helping others w your content.

@DocSnipes 8 ай бұрын

You’re most welcome. Thank you for watching

@joonambeauty3161 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video it makes me feel like it’s not my fault that I feel like this sometimes

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Welcome. Thanks for watching.

@LAZY_PHILOMATH Жыл бұрын

what i find particularly difficult as an adult is not feeling "Allowed" to have what i want. Therapists and gurus tell me all i have to do is ask, to receive but i have trouble conceptualizing the ideal. For exam[e, she would encourage singing cus she liked singing in the car, but when i was a 4 YO, asking for Piano lessons, i wasn't allowed. Years later I'm an excellent singer but i flunked piano lab in music school, Another time she bought me some darts, i got really good at it. because i felt i had permission. I want my childhood back, but i see it clearly now, it was the Roman Catholic church, (in my families case), and i cant blame them although i did for years...

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching. I am sorry you feel that way. Some videos that might help can be found at: kzfaq.infosearch?query=innercritic Please let me know if these help. Thank you!

@Doriesep6622 Жыл бұрын

this is gold

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Thank you! I am grateful to be of help and I appreciate you watching the video. What strategy will you use first to overcome childhood neglect? Here are the videos on the inner child you might be interested in: kzfaq.infosearch?query=innerchild

@onepanwonders3579 2 жыл бұрын

This is a very important video.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

@ambrosehunter5164 2 жыл бұрын

“There are indeed stewards whose own contradictory nature causes them to treat the children entrusted to them in so unreasonable a fashion that the children’s illness would appear to be unavoidable.” Carl Jung, The Theory of Psychoanalysis

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@iurk0_streaming Жыл бұрын

This is really good stuff

@lianasweeney2287 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! I'll be watching this video a lot to help me heal as it is dense and has a lot of really great information.

@leratomatonkonyane 7 ай бұрын

Thank you so much

@DocSnipes 7 ай бұрын

You're most welcome

@queenbean5573 2 жыл бұрын

@Doc Snipes - what about the effect of trauma on the brain development? How does childhood neglect affect the development of the brain? Can childhood development impair the ability to even seek help? Assertiveness is huge for me. The moment someone gets abusive, I have to stop.

@fightswithspirits915 Жыл бұрын

Self medication is helpful. I feel normal. Mom and dad never gave advice. Mom knew I discarded her when I was 8 years old and just went with it. I was at a friend's bday party and it clicked, "I've never had a party and don't matter" Don't need anyone or anything. When I make a decision it is absolute.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I am so sorry about that and I am grateful and I appreciate you being here, watching videos. What tips will you use first to overcome childhood neglect?

@ItsSoarTime 8 ай бұрын

lord have mercy!!! i thought i had issues! and i do! but...my God!!!!!!!!!! THIS could have been me!!!! and now i've met the male me and hearing this woman talk about THIS PAIN is just...breaking my heart!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i may as well just allow myself to cry though i am VERY GRATEFUL for this BEGINNING to my understanding of this pain!

@DocSnipes 8 ай бұрын

Thank you for watching the video and for sharing

@littlespressurewashing Жыл бұрын

Just found Channel and subscribed

@Trying_very 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for the tip!!

@Mags58 2 ай бұрын

At 66 I often wonder why my mom told my dad, “we have ignored her long enough” (used my name) in front of me when I was 8. Nothing changed. It’s mind numbing.

@DocSnipes 2 ай бұрын

I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video

@smoothandchunky1 Жыл бұрын

This video is very helpful. The bright side I've been in worse situations and came out like a Phoenix. I understand my Mom was under a tremendous amount of pressure and abuse from my psycho narcissistic "dad". She was literally up against impossible odds dealing the equivalent of a colicky infant that was supposed to be her spouse. She was just as much a victim as her children, I forgave her long ago. FF > I'm stuck with two siblings who just can't get it together. One unemployed for more than 3 years and the other is underemployed. I realize the pony is dead. I'm just standing in a field of shit.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video. What tips will you use first to overcome childhood neglect? Have you seen the videos on ACES? kzfaq.infosearch?query=aces

@nesha2456 2 ай бұрын

Rising my self since 8 I didn't know any of this and can relate so much

@DocSnipes 2 ай бұрын

I am sorry about that. Thanks for watching

@JohnJones-qj8dm 8 ай бұрын

You are a smart woman

@DocSnipes 8 ай бұрын

Thank you. I appreciate you watching the video

@SeiergaRugendorf 2 ай бұрын

The best moments of my life are going to sleep at night, when my husband cuddles me and i feel safe and warm. Something I didn't have before him. Everything else in being alive sucks or, like, okay. If I could just lie down forever with or even without him, just being asleep, I would be so happy.

@DocSnipes 2 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching the video and for sharing

@Tutume1111 7 ай бұрын

I see your point however when it comes to neglect it's how that makes a child feel rather than what the parent do or doesn't do.If the parent does his best , sometomes that's still leaves the child feeling neglected regardless the other circumstances.Similarly with trauma both children can go through the same experience and one will be affected differently than the other so I would say its an internal state of the child that can be the most accurate of childhood neglect issues rather than anything else. Similarly there is an aspect of false memories so it's hard to say whether the neglect was voluntary or involuntary action

@DocSnipes 7 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching the video and for sharing

@sacredspacesllc5260 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the videos! Is inner child healing evidence-based? I would like to use this with clients.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

There is no evidence based treatment for inner child work. Thanks for watching.

@irwincrook567 Жыл бұрын

How the hell did you know everything about me and my childhood?

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

I appreciate you watching

@dtylice 3 ай бұрын

Detachment is my superpower.

@DocSnipes 3 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching and for sharing

@Trying_very 2 жыл бұрын

Hi Doc Snipes!

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

@screechingwind114 6 ай бұрын

I want to reprogram myself , but perhaps thats where " Honor your Parents " comes in and I hesitate, I have explored the neglect , realize parents arent perfect, and have forgiven their imperfections...but still dealing with the first 7 years+ program of the past...

@DocSnipes 6 ай бұрын

I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video

@massangabe 2 жыл бұрын

Danke!

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for the tip!

@yesthank1577 2 жыл бұрын

On point

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

@ambrosehunter5164 2 жыл бұрын

Rageaholism becomes some of us due to thy topic thou art discussing Madame Director Snipes. This ISM needs to be addressed and how to properly navigate one's self through it as a recovery process?

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@adristrydom5154 2 жыл бұрын

How can I replace messages that are so ingrained that they're a central part of my identity?

@littlewillowlinda Жыл бұрын

Subconscious work

@Trying_very 2 жыл бұрын

I must have just missed the live 🤦‍♀️ oh well - next time 😅🤞

@jameslove9696 2 жыл бұрын

Same here catching up now though lol

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Catch me next time. :)

@jameslove9696 2 жыл бұрын

@@DocSnipes absolutely!!! You are awesome and the world needs more of you!!! Xoxo

@furkandesign-art9213 2 жыл бұрын

15:45

@paramjitkariyam3782 2 жыл бұрын

V good sister

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@SweetUniverse Жыл бұрын

I have no idea what a good caregiver is & that's kind of scary. I don't know anyone who has had a good parent.

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@wakinglife7065 11 ай бұрын

I just tried drawing with my non dominant hand of my dream parents. The attributes I wish they had such as respectful, helpful send me to school with lunch etc. apparently if you do this with your non dominant hand it starts rewiring the brain. I have only just did this but it did help me figure out what I needed and what I need. Starting to journal as I’m just overcoming addiction. This is a hard road. My parents specifically my father set me up to fail. I drew him and all the truths I wanted to tell him. Hope you recover and get your needs met

@USMARSHALL2011 2 жыл бұрын

Cool

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

@justinheer9098 2 жыл бұрын

I don't need to lye in a pile of manuer to know it stinks lol

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

@justinheer9098 2 жыл бұрын

I love your stuff I stumbled onto the codependency stuff , it's been very helpful your soothing and the other pages offered info but were way to bent on narcissists . You cover a wider range with a more helpful doable approach .

@helloworld188 Жыл бұрын

My goodness, the prototype of my parents

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching. Other videos that might help can be found at: kzfaq.infosearch?query=neglect

@moonshineonme75013 2 жыл бұрын

36:30

@moonshineonme75013 2 жыл бұрын

Thank 🙏🏼 You.

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Welcome

@rickbrummer3628 Жыл бұрын

I think neglect is a type of abuse

@DocSnipes Жыл бұрын

Yes, it is. Thanks for watching the video. What did you find most useful from it? Other videos you might be interested in can be found at kzfaq.infosearch?query=innerchild

@charleshurstreinvention3959 2 жыл бұрын

They way to do it is to not fall into the victimhood mindset as many do for the rest of their lives. Something I told my own subscribers this week. As I see this daily as a healthcare provider. People who are destroyed adults because they couldn't outrun a terrible childhood. Too many times this becomes the excuse to give up. The reason someone won't try. "Because this (fill in the blank) happened to me." Now understand I am not discounting terrible childhoods. I had one as well. What I am saying is that the world doesn't care. It is totally indifferent. It may owe you but good luck trying to collect. The only way to collect your due is to go out and seek it, pursue it and take it back from the universe. The stories of great triumph are rarely without great adversity--ever notice that? Most will lie down to bad circumstances. But those who get up and fight back will insure that their story is a great one. Hope this helps someone out there---keep being great---Charles.

@julietcrowson3503 2 жыл бұрын

Hello Charles I think you have valid points but something missing from the assumption that someone get up and fight is that they have the energy to fight. Some people don't have any more energy to fight, because they've had too many traumas and are exhausted, or they're too old to want to fight for a life of yet more drudgery day after day. I think it's important to recognise that sometim s people are so exhausted that they can no longer think properly any more, so can't open their post to pay bills, can't deal with complex situations any more and just want some peace. 'Giving up' is sometimes the route to painlessness and not really giving in to victimhood... Whistleblowers are badly treated and their adversaries would have the wb neutralised, they're not in victimhood but are actual victims of narcs.... Tired now so hope this makes sense.. 🙏🙂⭐✝️☯️🌼✌️🕉️☮️⛪💫🫂☁️✨🌟😴

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@charleshurstreinvention3959 2 жыл бұрын

@@DocSnipes Good stuff

@Angels_surround_me747 2 жыл бұрын

👋👍❤

@DocSnipes 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching.

@kuibeiguahua Жыл бұрын

Hehehe I hugged and kissed myself, then did the dishes then high fived myself

@cmarkd1 10 ай бұрын

Dr. Snipes, thank you for an insightful and compassionate discussion. I hadn't realized the full impact of childhood trauma and neglect that disrupted much of my adult life. I'm happy to BE learning self-compassion as I reconcile health challenges and rewiring unhealthy misconception s. Definitely a subscriber now! 🥲

@DocSnipes 10 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for subscribing. I am sorry you’ve experienced childhood trauma. Here are the videos on the inner child: kzfaq.infosearch?query=innerchild