an honest mental health chat

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4 жыл бұрын

I've been wanting to share a video like this for a while, but I kept on putting off filming it! I wish it weren't so hard to talk about mental health!
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@UnJadedJade 4 жыл бұрын

Ruby, you mean so much to me. So proud of you for posting this 💛

@evaxmila 4 жыл бұрын

She's so precious! 🥺💞 I'm very happy she spoke about it! We need to normalize speaking on this topic 💕

@affanshikoh5069 4 жыл бұрын

@@evaxmila I agree. Mental Health is still a stigma in my country and not enough help is available 😔😔

@rashedulkabir6227 4 жыл бұрын

@@affanshikoh5069 Where are you from?

@theswiftvet7107 3 жыл бұрын

Awwww

@ning_song 9 ай бұрын

@@affanshikoh5069me too

@lids380 4 жыл бұрын

Everyone else: kitty collar Me: is there an owl hanging from the ceiling???

@RubyGranger8 4 жыл бұрын

yes yes there is!

@sinemgoc64 4 жыл бұрын

İt's hedwiiiigg😂💕

@happyme7268 4 жыл бұрын

😂😂

@jan-nn9ix 4 жыл бұрын

@@RubyGranger8 What career are you gonna go into

@georgie1214 4 жыл бұрын

friendly reminder: there's no such thing as having a logical conversation with your anxiety. If you're feeling frustrated or silly because you feel anxious or have panic attacks for 'stupid' reasons, they're not stupid. There aren't any things you 'should' or 'shouldn't' feel anxious about.

@georgie1214 4 жыл бұрын

Aw Ruby liked and then I edited a typo 😅 come back Ruby!

@midnightstatic9437 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@mayapadilla9385 4 жыл бұрын

For someone like you who’s constantly perceived as “productive”, I’m really happy that you’re shedding light on the reality of mental health. Excited to hear your meaningful insights, always looked up to you as a role model. Love you, Ruby!💕

@lilyblack5155 4 жыл бұрын

I am crying while typing this. There are many "mental health" chats on youtube but most people don't open up like you have. As someone who has many issues I salute you for your bravery. This video felt like a hug.

@sarah.93.30 4 жыл бұрын

“If I’m having a bad mental health day, don’t go on social media” damn I need to write that one down!🖊

@letsnottalkaboutit1727 4 жыл бұрын

if you see someone who seems to be in distress , if they’re alone then lightly , very gently ask them if they’re okay and try to calm them down , if they’re already with someone , KEEP ON MOVING PLEASE DONT EVEN LOOK AT THEM IT WILL MAKE IT WORSE JUST GO THEYRE BEING LOOKED AFTER

@princessspray6670 4 жыл бұрын

Sometimes I wish I was strong and stable enough to talk to someone who is feeling anxious or depressed and tell him/her everything is going to be okay...but first I have to work with my own depression and anxiety, because that words only make me feel sick because I know I'm not okay... But someday I believe I will be able to do It and I will be so happy to help others

@kawaiiida 4 жыл бұрын

I did great in the first semester, and then when Corona occured I was really depressed. Wouldn't study, wasn't motivated and kept keeping up with the news. I came around, but I still have so many restrictions in order not to catch the flu as it was dangerous for my sick brother to get it... I just want to pull through right now. And be outdoors as much as possible. Ruby you helped loads. I'm glad I found you on YT (it's been a year now). You genuinely help me go through with my studying 🤗

@kalkidanmebratu900 4 жыл бұрын

Trust me you are amazing

@SoumilSahu 4 жыл бұрын

Could you share what you did to come around? I'm pretty much in the same situation, only an year ahead. Did great in the first 3 semesters, Corona happened and now I've no idea what's happened and how.

@googlechannel1539 4 жыл бұрын

What u studying?

@catie7466 4 жыл бұрын

i was in a similar situation. last fall i took a break from college bc of health reasons (i have generalized anxiety disorder, gastritis, and at the time i also had lyme disease). i got the rest i needed and when i returned to school for spring 2020 semester i was doing better than ever with my grades and with how happy i felt. once we switched to online i regressed in mental health and the classes i was getting A's in before were dropping to C's and D's. i ended up having to drop half my classes. i was just so depressed trying to work at home. like i could never fully motivate myself and i also could never fully relax. but i got through the classes i stayed in. i wish i had some helpful tips but all i can really say is that you're not alone in this. be gentle to yourself and be proud of the little things. if all you do today is survive and stay home to keep others safe, you should feel accomplished. if all you do the next few months is survive, that's okay. i dont think any employer is going to judge someone for having incompletes or lower grades during a pandemic bc we all suffered through it. i hope something in this ramble was helpful and i hope you all stay safe, healthy, and happy ❤️❤️

@kawaiiida 4 жыл бұрын

@@SoumilSahu well the first step for me was to stop being so harsh on myself and understand I'm not under normal circumstamces. So I relaxed and found new hobbies and new things to learn. Them Ruby spoke about how I should ask myself why I study what I study, what is my goal -- and my motivation started crawling back, little by little. I eventually got tired of tv shows and wanted better accomplisments. Also, if you like writting by hand - study at least by doing that. I studied very little every few days but at least I did some of the work by writing down notes and thoughts. Try anything and dont give up 😊😊😊

@harshagobinath9384 4 жыл бұрын

Is it weird that I can't stop staring at the cat around her neck 😂

@mira394 3 жыл бұрын

A little bit 😂

@citigirlmichebudgets3357 3 жыл бұрын

@Lara Theumatt bc the cat is starving, the cat wants food, no not that nasty dry food, the good food, no you didnt just feed me 15 min ago, no you did not, you absolutely have not fed me in days... weeks... forever... do you see any delicious wet food in that food bowl? Me neither ... and you never fed me today, nope, I am wasting awayyyy... why why why are you letting me starve....meow meow MEOWWWWW

@Adelaideanegg 3 жыл бұрын

@@citigirlmichebudgets3357 my cat XD

@beepboop9976 4 жыл бұрын

I have 4 anxiety disorders, major depression, ocd and bpd. I’m not ashamed 💕

@beepboop9976 4 жыл бұрын

Cherry Cola yes. I’m 22. I was diagnosed with depression at 14, my anxiety disorders at 16, my bpd at 18 and my ocd recently at 22.

@lewessays 4 жыл бұрын

@Cherry Cola You don't really need to be so called officially diagnosed...I mean I haven't since, if I do I might have just ruined my career and future...since, mental heath is stigmatized...especially where I am from...I suffer depression and panic attack. I just treat myself without any medication and occasionally visit my therapist secretly.....

@adventureawaits3860 4 жыл бұрын

You need not be deary you're special and you're amazing!😊

@kosratonwheels368 3 жыл бұрын

Jemma G how did u get better

@beepboop9976 3 жыл бұрын

Just Kosrat I didn’t lol

@shenicejohnson7059 4 жыл бұрын

So glad you’re uploading this. I’m having a rubbish day and honestly just need a hug lol

@mcrmcr8408 4 жыл бұрын

Virtual hug for you darling ✨🌹

@missvickster_ 4 жыл бұрын

im giving you a hug through the screen, all my love xx

@ashanderson2559 4 жыл бұрын

Here I'll give u a hug 🤗

@horrorzone476 4 жыл бұрын

Sending you a hug and much support🤗

@Sarah-ty5ev 4 жыл бұрын

Sending you a hug lovely ❤️❤️

@hermionemoo 3 жыл бұрын

i struggle with depression and ever since i found your channel you have motivated me to be organized and i spent the whole day cleaning my room to your videos and it gave me so much motivation. i love u so much ruby and mental health is ever so important and im so proud of you for coming out about this

@DemetriPanici 4 жыл бұрын

Ruby thank you so much for being the open and honest KZfaqr that you are. I aspire to be half as great of a content creator as you are 😊

@eternity9691 4 жыл бұрын

Aye, I just saw your comment on captain Sinbad's productivity KZfaqr video. Haha so much love and light.

@watchmedo635 4 жыл бұрын

A therapist you can really connect to is truly a wonderful lifesaver

@denibezdrob421 4 жыл бұрын

I think personally mental issues don't always have to be connected to clinical issues. I would say I am a very positive person, but inside I am very depressed especially during quarantine, but I don't think I necessary have clinical depression. Mental health is the most important thing in our lives, and thank you for sharing your experience.

@isabelconnolly3015 4 жыл бұрын

thank you for uploading this. it's comforting to see and hear someone who's experienced similar things and tendencies to me ❤️

@itsnotthursday6938 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for being so honest. I really often thought about how you deal with mental health because saw so much perfection in you. I am amazed how you deal with it and how positive you stay. You are a strong woman! You inspire so many people out there every day. Thank you so much!

@mythilikamath3041 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for talking about this!! Mental health is such an important topic to discuss and it truly makes me feel better knowing that there are people willing to talk about it. Also, the collar on your shirt is absolutely adorable!!!

@heatherflorence124 4 жыл бұрын

I put off watching this for a little while just because I knew it would affect me- I'm currently in year 12 and I've struggled with perfectionism and similar issues with compulsions alongside regular panic attacks (more frequently in year 11, at one point I was having 2-3 a week). Ruby, it meant so much to me to hear you talk about mental health, in this video and the wooden spoon podcast. in y9-11 I almost much idolised the version of yourself that you showed in your 15 hour study days, when it wasn't healthy for me to be studying for so long. it's helped me so much to see you discuss how that has changed and it's helped me accept myself and work towards a more healthy mindset- you've inspired me so much, especially this year. Your mention of mental health before an exam and underperforming brought me to tears, I have year 12 PPE's in a fortnight, and for the first time, I think I'm actually facing the fact that I will not be in a well enough state to get the grades that I'm capable of, which is quite distressing for me as I'm very much a perfectionist when it comes to my academic performance. I'm going to try my best to accept that I'm working as hard as I can in these circumstances. :)

@CinnamonToast 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this! I was diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder when I was 7, so it's always been part of my life, but in the last 5 or so years there's been so much change in regard to how mental illness is spoken about that it's become so much less stigmatized. I've loved seeing that change and how it's positively impacted people and I'm glad you're contributing :)

@sterenncosqueric7689 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video Ruby ! I am a very anxious person and it can't be really hard to deal with sometimes. It feels good to see that I am not alone. Everyone should be open about mental health without feeling ashamed or anything. Love from France ! ♥

@zaniquerichardson6432 4 жыл бұрын

Literally so happy you posted this !! It's so important for mental health to be an open discussion and the fact that you would be so open about your experiences is actually really inspiring so thank you !!❤

@TheLalaland681 4 жыл бұрын

As a psych major I’m really glad you made a video on this :) you have a unique way of putting things into perspective

@isabellemay9071 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for being so honest - it can be such a vulnerable thing to discuss - you're very brave for opening up, and hopefully others will be encouraged to do so xxxx

@booksteaandlove2135 4 жыл бұрын

So empowering! I struggle myself and it's been so hard to cope with so thank you for sharing this xx PS: love your content and you've kept me sane throughout this pandemic period 😊

@maziekate 4 жыл бұрын

I've been feeling so unmotivated lately. I can't bring myself to do my work for online school, and then as it piles up and I fall behind I get even more overwhelmed. Thank you for sharing, talking about mental health is really important.

@chrishingley3589 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Mazie, I'm not Ruby, but your comment caught my eye. I've struggled with feeling unmotivated and those feelings of feeling overwhelmed. I also know how difficult online school can be. Please remember you can do the work. You are capable and you are loved. Try breaking one task into smaller tasks, even if its just turning on the computer or tablet and logging in. Do you like lists? Make a list of all the smaller tasks you need to do and crossing off each one might help ease that overwhelmed feeling. Remember you are not alone. These are unusual times and we have to adjust constantly in an uncertain world. Reach out if you need to vent or rant or just need some homework help.

@ammulubulli8100 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much. You literally are one of the reasons I'm now motivated. 😸 Take care.

@alejandroroldan6398 4 жыл бұрын

I'm autistic, I have anxiety and I've had depression. I think it's important for people to let others be open about what you're going through. When I was at my worst, I always felt alone.

@BertFSail 4 жыл бұрын

You're so real in this video. So human. Vulnerable, strong and open. Thank you for talking about these issues and topics in such an educated, smart yet casual way! It feels like you got a bit nervous about opening up about your personal experience but I think it really makes viewers connect and feel seen more easily. All in all, it's a great video! You're amazing.

@katieee6898 4 жыл бұрын

Ruby I love your shirt, it’s so cute! And this is such an important video😊

@rosalyn7765 4 жыл бұрын

So incredible that you were able to share this! I agree with your points especially for mental health services being accessible to all - I know I struggle to talk about my own problems with my mental health, in the society we live in it can be difficult to share experiences. As well as that, I wish people would see “mental health” as a positive thing - we see “physical health” as a good thing. We all have both mental and physical health, as well encountering issues in both of these areas, which we all need a bit of help with from time to time. Great video as always Ruby, thank you!

@katrinasolomon1462 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Ruby for sharing this! It really means a lot to me that you opened up about your mental health because I too struggle with bad anxiety!

@katieadela4034 4 жыл бұрын

i love you! thank you so much for this, ive been feeling alone in my head with my mental health and you've made me feel less alone, thank you

@testkanaalsanne7380 4 жыл бұрын

Okay, but can we talk about how cute her shirt is?😍

@maddyelizabeth6778 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for furthering the discussion of mental health and adding your own opinions on topics. Personally I found it so beneficial to hear you talk about your experiences with therapy and also with panic attacks and feeling overly anxious. I have anxiety myself so panic attacks are no stranger to me. After having one, especially when at school, I can’t help but feel embarrassed. I felt as though everyone was watching me. I hated it. I’ve slowly began to accept it is not something to be embarrassed about, and since you are somebody whom I look up to so much I really love how openly you spoke about your feelings before and after the attacks you’ve had previously. Thank you so much for creating this video, and shedding light on the issues there are in the world of mental health and things related. Xx

@haleyhuh9456 4 жыл бұрын

This video really just felt like a nice, comforting hug :) I've been in a really bad place mentally for the last month or so, and this made me feel a lot better. Thank you for opening up about your experiences! Love your videos xx

@rachelwalker3017 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for talking about your experience with panic attacks, people speaking out about them make me feel less alone

@TheDentistryDiary 4 жыл бұрын

Loving the kitty collar I’m off to wake up my cat to give him cuddles now seeing it, but also stroking/petting your furry pets is a definite stress relief for sure 😬 thanks for sharing this just shows we are all battling something

@Ri5004 4 жыл бұрын

I had seperation anxiety as a kid and I know exactly how you feel. So brave of you to share!

@bookwormrose6289 4 жыл бұрын

I never comment on KZfaq videos, but I want you to know how genuinely comforting this was to hear. In school I was always seen as the girl who had her life together and her whole future figured out, which was very isolating because I do struggle with anxiety. No one is perfect, and it's so important that we keep that in mind, especially in the age of social media!

@mag6720 4 жыл бұрын

I just bought your downloadable planner! I am obsessed 😊❤️

@cloudyo_o2792 4 жыл бұрын

I had quite a rough episode of bad mental health that really impacted my results and hearing you talk about not beating yourself up about results because it was all you could do at the time really put my mind more at rest. Thanks 😊

@sophiapinto6506 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you, I deal with very similar things (major depression, anxiety disorder + ocd tendencies) and it always kills me when it interferes with my academics. I really appreciate your openness, and it was definitely very comforting to hear. It’s a reminder that I can pull through it and be productive when it happens, but if I just need to take a step back I shouldn’t beat myself up over it, either.

@myhannibal4806 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you thank you thank you for doing this ❤️ I love you Ruby, thanks for being there for me and all of us.

@tiyaanne1909 4 жыл бұрын

I'm living for your room, it's so peaceful.

@jasminjones9390 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Ruby, it's so good to know that I am not the only one who found staying home by myself terrifying, this makes me feel so much less alone, thank you for sharing this! :)

@sinemgoc64 4 жыл бұрын

İ'm a psychology student and i have seen so many people in bad conditions. One thing that i can say is asking for help is nothing to be ashamed of. There will always be someone to help you. Proud of you ruby💕

@liahlow1435 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you. I needed that. I struggle with depression, I am in therapy but is sooo valuable to hear things like that from a young person who is also studying.

@MrBobbyANDCookie 4 жыл бұрын

You literally described panic attacks so perfectly, I have the same thing where I can't breathe. Kudos for talking about it so openly.

@victoriab7375 4 жыл бұрын

This is really well worded. What I like in particular is that you have mentioned the problems but also the solution! A proposition for a solution shows that you have an open mindset and want get better and help others get better. Inspiring!

@georgiaday2344 4 жыл бұрын

Ruby this video means a lot. Thank you for speaking out about such an important topic. Seeing that you, someone with what can be interpreted as a perfect life, speak about such raw problems is so helpful. Personally, it makes me feel less shame around experiencing similar things that you have described, while simultaneously motivating me by showing that with these problems, a productive, positive and successful life can still be lived! All my love ❤️

@RachelJ715 4 жыл бұрын

I love listening to you speak, you're so articulate and your ideas are so well thought out and developed.

@kaydenlewis2185 4 жыл бұрын

I’m really glad you have made this video, mental health is something we really need to talk about especially with the pandemic going on and it’s important for people to open up but because of the stigma and romanticisation of mental illness it’s harder for people to open up about these things because people don’t want others to think they are being attention seekers, also I think it’s rather brave of you to talk about your own experiences

@hera963 4 жыл бұрын

I had panic attacks, so I feel very identify with you 💙 keep strong and keep journaling, that helps a lot!

@TheFlowerGirl77 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for posting this Ruby. I love your openness and honesty about your own mental health path. My eldest struggles with his mental health which is complicated by ASD and attending a high demand single sex grammar school (Note: He chose it himself and loves it. It was not something put on him. I would NEVER make those choices for either of them). This has been especially the case this academic year and I CANNOT say how proud of both children I am for coming together as a family to support and encourage him to receive the best treatment modalities for him, which have been, overall, positive. I think hearing more young people like him (perfectionistic at times and over critical of himself at times too) say and express their own struggles and letting him know he is not alone helps a great deal! He is here with me now and listened to every word you said. Thank you.

@citigirlmichebudgets3357 3 жыл бұрын

Darling Ruby. You are so brave to put this out there and being real. I am older then your mom probably, yet I feel i learn so much from you.

@tawny28 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video. It was really comforting to hear what you were saying as I do struggle with mental health issues but I struggle to be open about them- I know I should. This was actually really helpful because it reminded me that I'm not alone.

@averymarcellus4048 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for bringing this topic up! I'm so glad I found your channel. Keep inspiring Ruby!

@clare2385 4 жыл бұрын

I watched this to calm myself down. I had some personal stresses in the past few days and today, I watched something really upsetting that completely thew me of my balance again... So thank you for giving me a sense of comfort.

@erinscott9547 4 жыл бұрын

I'm currently studying a Mental Health course and you making this video and sharing your own experiences honestly makes such a difference in combating stigma. Thank you💚

@PlanetImo 4 жыл бұрын

I reckon this pandemic's going to open up a whole pandora's box of issues for years and maybe even a generation or two to come, with issues like hand-washing, contamination, social anxiety, agoraphobia etc.

@maneskinnnnn7190 4 жыл бұрын

I have hypochondria and the pandemic is hell for my mental health

@ohgodohgodhelp6152 Жыл бұрын

Congratulations! You are correct!!! 🎉🎉🎉

@annabelsheridan1 4 жыл бұрын

thank you for sharing Ruby, it's so important to not stigmatise mental health, and to speak about experiences in order to help others feel they are not alone xxx

@ellaroberts2336 4 жыл бұрын

You have been so open with this video! I find it hard to be open about mental health and this has inspired me :). Thank you. I agree with the therapy and medication thing. It was crazy when I wanted help, I got medication really quickly, but had to wait months for therapy.

@mayapadilla9385 4 жыл бұрын

a reality check on mental health is so refreshing💜

@cashewdays7125 4 жыл бұрын

This is so important. I love your channel btw!

@mcrmcr8408 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Ruby for this video right now 💗

@VanessainSTEM 4 жыл бұрын

I agree mental health is something to have a conversation about. Thanks for being so open

@laylaralph5292 3 жыл бұрын

its so nice that she talked about ocd as i have struggled with it grately and it got to the point where i wouldn't speak and just count to four instead-contstantly. it really makes me feel not alone! thanks so much!

@nadineolivier2738 4 жыл бұрын

I love you so much Ruby. Thank you so much for always being inspiring. I love you in all ways. 💜💫🌻

@jersongerebese2856 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for another video Ruby!! I love you so much!

@amidnightkid5053 4 жыл бұрын

I think in terms of labels you can really have two types of situations. On the one hand, I do agree that a spectrum and less “trying to fit this into a box” would benefit all of us, on the other hand there is the promise of a diagnosis that explains what exactly is going on with you. As someone who struggles with diagnosed depression and social anxiety disorder getting a diagnosis has helped me so so so much. I was questioning my mental health because I had been really bad in the past, and so when I got “better” (but not well) I was questioning whether I had issues in the first place - and being told that my issues and struggles were valid and that there was a word for it, that it wasn’t just “oh this is life, being this unhappy” was so helpful. Similarly with my social anxiety, i used to tell people “oh i’m really anxious about speaking to people and eating in front of people and generally doing anything” and they usually responded with “oh me too i hate presentations too” and I thought that my struggles were normal and me complaining/venting about them was attention seeking and asking for help with them was rude and inconsiderate until I got that diagnosis. That’s usually what convinces people otherwise, it distinguished between normal struggles and struggles severely impacting day to day life. And personally I have benefitted from these diagnosis.... I think there are two sides of things.

@angkur1 4 жыл бұрын

Honestly talking about the difficulties is one of the most confident thing one suffering from any mental health problems could do. I am so thankful for this, Ruby.

@anushar7223 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so so so much for being so honest and raw with us!

@zozzle_ 4 жыл бұрын

you talking about being home alone spoke to me. I’m 25 and my anxiety around being home alone and especially at night is overwhelming. Thank you.

@supulisenaya5243 4 жыл бұрын

We love you ruby 😭😭❤️

@salomet.793 4 жыл бұрын

You read my mind!! Thank you so much!! I'm not having a good week and this video helped me with accepting that it's ok not being always fine.

@jurottluff2364 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for being so open. I think, many people still struggle with admitting, they would profit from therapy, including myself, but I overcame my pride after years and start therapy this week. Because it's not a sign of weakness and I am not "giving in" to my bullies, when I admit their actions damaged me to a point that I am over five years later still struggling because of it.

@phoebzie228xx 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this Ruby. I have just finished my dissertation, which was about mental health in secondary schools, and it stressed the importance of speaking out about mental health and having good support systems. Thank you for using your platform for this!

@rhiannon9213 4 жыл бұрын

Ruby, thank you so much for posting this. Your story is so similar to mine - I first went to therapy in year 10 for anxiety. I was so stressed and panicked about GCSEs, had social anxiety and based all of my self worth on exam results. I had panic attacks before most of my GCSEs. I finished year 13 recently and I’m now in so much of a better place! It’s still not easy, I still obsess over grades more than I should and get anxious but going through cbt and taking medication has really helped. I got through my last set of exams without panic attacks and am now so so much happier!

@stevie5350 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for being so open and filming this video. ✨💕

@linneahdalmus1978 3 жыл бұрын

You have a very compassionate voice and input on mental health. I agree that labels segregate and they can cause one to feel even more isolated. As someone who has had OCD and Panic attacks i know that it is so important to take care of ourselves and to practice self love...Allowing for ourselves not to try to reach Perfection but rather to see ourselves always as "works in progress". This is so much kinder and so much more Freeing...After all, what we see as errors or mistakes are simply learning tools on our way towards Growth...Thank you for this heart felt and compassionate video...

@emilypage4920 2 жыл бұрын

I have seen this video pop-up so many times and I have always been afraid to watch it as I was worried that it would be triggering hearing someone talking about mental health. Why did I worry? Ruby, you delivered that video in such a sensitive way, it was a comfort. I have severe OCD and often feel quite ostracised but inaccurate representations of OCD in the media and it was wonderful to hear some speak about their experience in such an honest and non-glamorised way. Thank you 💖

@dabinnkim6299 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for uploading this video today! I was having such a bad day today and I felt so down but this really helped!!

@alexiamaria1718 3 жыл бұрын

So happy that someone really had the courage to talk so openly about that. Thank you, Ruby! You are an inspiration for all of us, not just for me, as i see from the comments. I struggle with anxiety since a year ago. It was really hard realising that I have it, realising that I need to go see a therapist. I had a huge panic attack which lead me to faint and that was the time when I found out. Been struggling with that since then and to be really honest I am not in a very good state of mind but I learned that life doesn’t mean just bad days and paintful experiences. Now I can’t believe that I am preparing to be a therapist. I would have laughed so hard if someone would have told that little girl from years ago who wanted nothing but to be on big stages acting that she would want to become a therapist. So for everyone who needs this: Life is full of paintful experiences, awful people who will hurt you but the power is in your hands. You may not think like that but you are strong enough to overcome your fears, your insecurities and don’t forget, good days are coming. Don’t give up after a bad day or more bad days, or even an awful year or more years. If you get here, thank you for reading all of this, I felt like I needed to share my experience here. With love, a girl who didn’t gave up

@love4life465 4 жыл бұрын

I’ve really been struggling. Thank you for posting this ❤️

@pixieblossoms7675 4 жыл бұрын

As someone who nearly lost her battle with mental health a few months ago this video is so so relieving to watch, knowing that even if it appears online that someone is okay, they might not be and it feels so much less lonely for me. I sometimes forget that what you see online isn’t always how it is in real life. Thank you for making this video, Ruby. It has been so nice to listen to you talk about this sort of thing & use your platform for such important things! 💛

@aidaovalle6349 4 жыл бұрын

omg ruby I found your channel again after a few years!!! I'm so gladdddddd to hear your voice again

@user-fe7ml7cy2t 4 жыл бұрын

Oh Ruby everytime you give me inspiration and this is a rare talent,truly 😘😚

@anna.mra3 4 жыл бұрын

Ruby, you're the best KZfaqr in this world! I love you♡

@horrorzone476 4 жыл бұрын

Can't agree more👍

@ainhoacardenal9522 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Ruby. I've really enjoyed this video. I was diagnosed at the age of 16 with a learning disability and since last year i've decided to be more open about it, and about mental health. Hearing other people talking about their own experiences with mental health, really helps. Thank you.

@lorelikesthings 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this! I have severe anxiety disorder and get really bad panic attacks, & I am a perfectionist for everything, pictures being straight, cupcake cups being the same color, literally everything, so thanks for shedding some light on it, love the video as always!

@torihawk1967 4 жыл бұрын

Hey Ruby, I didn't do well at school because I had some family alcoholism issues at home and wish, wish, WISH I'd told someone at the time - I told nobody! I'm 30 years old now and even though you're younger than me, your productivity and calm manner is inspirational and helpful even now since these past problems still affect me. There will be young people who are going through problems like I did, and you will be making a great difference to their lives - helping them focus and do the best for themselves - thanks for being you and for your honesty x

@pamrizzo6663 4 жыл бұрын

As someone with three different mental illnesses I don’t have a issue with the “labels”. Diagnosis is important for treatment. You do need to to know what your dealing with to be able to treat it.

@bellac6311 4 жыл бұрын

Same. I was diagnosed with ASD when i was 12, and for a while we queried ADHD. But my mum was uncomfortable with all the labels, so i wasnt followed up with an assessment for ADHD. I dont mind the labels, if it means i get the help i need.

@SmileySasky 4 жыл бұрын

Pam Rizzo 100% agree. Also the relief in knowing you have something that is medically identified is amazing.

@georgie1214 4 жыл бұрын

I agree, the amount of relief I felt when I was finally diagnosed was a form of treatment itself. I understand the other viewpoint, that all symptoms are a spectrum and all people fall someplace on that spectrum. I think that idea is favoured by people who struggle occassionally with their mental health but aren't necessarily suffering from mental illness, for example feeling depressed and having major depressive disorder are two very different things. As a psych student, it's also important to have diagnoses so we can engage effectively in research. It's difficult to measure 'how many people suffer from x' or 'what's the best treatment for y' if we don't have a definite understand of what x and y actually are. This goes doubly for diagnoses which have an identifiable cause (think PTSD, DID, etc).

@neurodivergentdawn 4 жыл бұрын

Me too. I was diagnosed with a serious mental illness two days ago, so from now on I can access treatment and my pain is taken seriously. Diagnoses can be so important.

@elmiraadili 4 жыл бұрын

Same, I think you could combine the spectrum view ruby has with distinct disorders too.

@shahana9542 4 жыл бұрын

Pressed the like button before watching.. 🤩 (me : giving first attention to the cat collar 😍😁) 💖_RUBY_💖

@historicalsimmer9043 3 жыл бұрын

I have clinically-diagnosed OCD and have definitely felt a kindred spirit to you, your struggles, and habits. Thanks so much for sharing :) It really does mean a lot to see obsessive compulsive tendencies portrayed on social media.

@TheHollyChronicle 4 жыл бұрын

This is such a helpful video, it has genuinely made me feel a lot less alone. Thank you Ruby :)

@merispell7961 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Ruby! As soon as I saw your instagram story post, I've been really excited for this video because I think people on this platform censor the negatives and only show the positives, and I think videos like these encourage people to be more open and less hesitant when discussing mental health. So thank you for this, it's helped alot of people including myself!

@watchmedo635 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for talking about this! It’s so devastating that the CAMHS waiting list for a therapist in my area is 12 months, I’ve been let go from mental health services because they cannot see the point in waiting so long for help to come. However, things will always get better, the sun will shine again and happiness will come. Stay safe everyone

@rekalisztes3333 4 жыл бұрын

Loved your honesty and thoughts on this matter. The first thing that people do when they break their leg is that they go instantly, without second thoughts to the doctor. We should have this same natural reacton to mental health issues as well!! Sending you lots of love Ruby, adore your videos! 🤗