I'm an older gay guy who wants you to know that your sensible, rational yet fun attitude to life is awe inspiring. I've been through some of the questions you have been asked and worked them out for myself. You're conclusions are a lot more understanding than mine and I congratulate you on your plain old common sense! Love from UK. x
@pv96844 жыл бұрын
Love how thoughtful and genuine you are. You have a soothing voice.
@VivBeyer11114 жыл бұрын
Perfect for ASMR !
@Lorre164 жыл бұрын
You have very pretty eyes.
@ronmiller82424 жыл бұрын
Hi bro. Joseph. I'm old enough to be your grandfather. When I wore my PFLAG Pride braclet to church, members who I thought were friends no longer spoke to me etc. God will still love you completely. Do what is necessary to remain commited to Him and yourself. Only you can make yourself happy. xo
@johnmoon38484 жыл бұрын
Joseph, you are a great joy! You're wonderful! (Please, no ASMR!)
@nickschultz80034 жыл бұрын
Just being you, keeps you close to God. Let no one tell you that you have to be different than who you are. Great to see you again Joe! Hope you guys had a great Christmas and wish you both the best New Year ☺👍
@Jonatrus4 жыл бұрын
I really apreciate that you're open about your relationship with God and the church. Glad I'm not the only one who feels this way.
@JayBhateja4 жыл бұрын
Wow, that was a lot of questions, and it definitely looks like a lot of editing. Thank you for putting in what must have been a lot of work. Every time I hear your perspective on what you do and how you think, I am stunned by the beauty in its simplicity. And that is what I love most about your videos. Happy New Year to you and Hayden and your family, both blood and chosen relatives. Wishing you a beautiful 2020.
@richardwhytsell79744 жыл бұрын
omg u do not need a church to feel close to God, just take a walk in the garden of life and u will see God all over, even a simple flower and the beauty of it has Gods hands on it. Blessed be.
@tomasmundo33673 жыл бұрын
Yes, and God is not a he, maybe a they?
@garygreely77824 жыл бұрын
Thank you for an open and honest response to the questions. I feel that a church is not going to save you but your own relationship with your lord is what matters. Keep being you and keep up the good work in your videos.
@terrystephens11023 жыл бұрын
Rules regarding PDA apply equally to both gay and straight - discrete expression of affection is totally okay. You are a great person and you are entitled to be happy. I think you are very cool, you have a great personality and intellect.
@jonbowman28054 жыл бұрын
I loved the ASMR part at the end I could not stop laughing! Please do an ASMR video
@VivBeyer11114 жыл бұрын
I second that :)
@joeowens61804 жыл бұрын
You are a brave and beautiful young man. I appreciate your complete transparency!
@jceades19504 жыл бұрын
You are an amazing young man, and you have obviously been through a lot. I enjoy your videos.
@snowyowl70423 жыл бұрын
Love you Joseph. Live your life, follow your interest, make you happy! 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
@chucklambooy84574 жыл бұрын
Joseph I truly admire you. Listening to you as you articulate your feelings...very nice these days with all the attempts to dumb down people!
@simon20773 жыл бұрын
There are different ways to keep in touch with God through prayer, the Bible, good works. The church is a good connection, but I believe as long as you have him in your heart & soul no one is truly lost, or alone, Trying to catch up with your videos. You would be great as a social worker.
@oldwestguy3 жыл бұрын
Wow... you are wise beyond your years, and I don't even know how old you are! Thoughtful, insightful, and compassionate... impressive. Hope you achieve the same degree of happiness that you wish for others.
@kinpatsu63664 жыл бұрын
I started taking cold showers to lose fat and for conditioning..( I lost 30lbs. Thank you Tim Ferris & Wim Hof.) The cold showers had a few unexpected side effects. It lowered my blood pressure, helped my mood (a lot)….and significantly cleared up my rosacea. I highly recommend them. Spend time focusing on your face when you take the shower. 8 min, per Tim.
@VivBeyer11114 жыл бұрын
OMG, I would MELT if you did ASMR Videos.........and I think you would make many many people very very happy if you did.......your whole personality is very soothing and relaxing.......Much Love to you !
@AdamxApple944 жыл бұрын
You have a unique perspective in the community, I personally am so glad you're here and get to share your experience with us. :) also ASMR would be great bc you can attract that whole audience as well lol.
@baronlipschutz-perry50893 жыл бұрын
You offer good advice about just being a good person. You often mention the open mindedness of people. This shows a different era or maybe I'm just still scared.
@robertbissonnette51604 жыл бұрын
Happy New Year Joseph happy to see your back and hope to see more videos myself and my partner got married in August 2018 great video can't wait to see the next one love ya ❤🌈🎊🎉😘
@michaelholbrook74694 жыл бұрын
So refreshingly honest. I'm sure a help to others in any community going through similar situations. You are so right...God is the judge and loves us for who we are and what we become....Be kind to others..it is important...Blessings...
@wholoki4 жыл бұрын
I just came across your videos through the rabbit hole that is youtube. Thanks for being so genuine!
@m.swelam26884 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your videos Joseph, it helps a lot. I am a gay 31 year old muslim who is trying to come to terms with his sexuality. Guilt and self-hatred were and to a significant extent still are things I have to deal with on a daily basis. Watching your videos makes me feel much more accepting of myself. Just you being you and posting it makes a difference for all of us out there.
@terryburns Жыл бұрын
Joseph, I do like the way you talk about everything. I know it is hard talk about all the things you do talk about. I know how hard it would be for me to come out in public and I am a lot older than you are. So please keep your comments coming. I'm sure you are helping others deal with there lives. Thank you very very much.
@terryburns Жыл бұрын
Joseph I do really think you are a great person and I would love to be more like you. Because you are a really nice looking man and I do love your guide and I really do think you are helping alot of people as much as you do me.
@terryburns Жыл бұрын
Joseph, I really do think you are a great person and I wish that I could be more like you ❤♥💕 but I know that will never happen because I can not talk about my life the way you do but I do love watching your message so don't ever stop. Because it really makes me feel good to listen to your stories so please don't stop. Please, please don't ever stop.
@yamahamasterfz4 жыл бұрын
You are so perfect, sharing your view and feelings help a lot of people that are less fortunate. Love you!
@andrewjackson58054 жыл бұрын
Joseph, I also came out to be authentic and honest with myself. I am 64 and came out 1 year ago after 50 years of denial, shame, fear and loneliness. In many ways I am a teenager gay person in an old man's body. There are many churches out there that accept LGBTQ+ people. Glad to know you still have a relationship with God. You don't need the church for that.
@davidhoulder563 жыл бұрын
You are so lovely and insightful. I’m a Christian and I’ve always been afraid to date guys. You give me hope! Xx
@williampieta79724 жыл бұрын
Consider me SUBSCRIBED! Just discovered your channel and I love how real and honest you are...A truly relatable kind of guy!
@geng1030324 жыл бұрын
You are a very enlightened and well spoken young man,
@OLDS984 жыл бұрын
I hope you keep your relationship with God. Good responses to the questions. Informative responses as well. As you say do not worry about you. Live your best life and be fulfilled. You have a warm personality. You take care. You are helping people and you do not realize it.
@jameskantor04594 жыл бұрын
You are not the only person and you are not alone.
@lonnyfox4 жыл бұрын
Thank you very much
@davidkaps51014 жыл бұрын
Please do the Conjoined Twin Challenge! That would be funny :)
@amym37834 жыл бұрын
Thank you for saying that you support whatever makes people happy, whether they decide to stay in the church or leave the church if they're gay. I feel like many people in a church setting aren't supportive of a homosexual lifestyle, and many people in the LGBT community aren't supportive of gay people living according to the teachings of a church that prohibits homosexual behavior. I don't know how true that actually is, but I'm sure it's a fear a lot of religious gay people have.
@robl63473 жыл бұрын
Wow, I know this is an older video but I to was a member of the LDS church. Back in my 20's I lived in Idaho and I had a lot of my friends that were Mormon. I talked to missionaries and honestly made the decision to get baptized and join the church. It really all felt right but I did know I liked guys but I wasn't out and still joined the church. I am a lot older now and have moved back to the east coast and I am still not out except to one person. I still have people from the church come do home visits and check up on me and they try to get me to go to church. There are a lot of good and kind people but I just can't go back to the church because I know in my heart that it would be a huge lie to go and to pretend to be someone I'm not. The one person I came out to is gay as well but he turned on me. I just thought coming out to him would give me a friend that I could be myself around and just talk to about stuff. It's really hard 😪 keeping this secret bottled up inside me with knowone to talk to. I have severe depression as well. But I admire you for coming out and just being yourself
@jameskantor04594 жыл бұрын
PDA in public like holding hands and holding each other is cool too.
@Steelflex334 жыл бұрын
I'm glad youtube gave me this and your coming out video. You seem cool, you have a new subscriber :)
@burthuffman28024 жыл бұрын
Hey, good to see you finally. Happy New Year! Love Hayden, look forward to seeing him. You look really tall, are you? One thing about coming out is to see how many other gay people there are in this world. There are billions of us, that really helps. We might have more gay people in our families than we know also. I did. Joseph, don't stay away so long. Thanks
@0530evan4 жыл бұрын
thanks for the vid....it is nice to see u back and I want to wish u the best for 2020......
@terryburns Жыл бұрын
Joseph I wish you to have a very great new year in 2023. May you have every wish come true in 2023. With all my love 💓💘❤💕.
@jameskantor04594 жыл бұрын
I agree with therapy , I am not sure that guilt is good. Care about other and not wanting to hurt it reasonable.
@alananimus91454 жыл бұрын
Depending he may need to seek help for Religious Trauma Syndrome. And no for those that want to start using that as a club it has a very specific meaning. The simple explanation of RTS is that past religions experience *CAN* (not is) be a source of PTSD. The most obvious example of this would be an overwhelming fear of hell or in the case of mormons outer darkness after one stops believing in hell/outer darkness. And before some random commenter says "being afraid of hell when you don't believe in it doesn't make sense". If PTSD is either hyper rational or hyper irrational. If you grow up in an environment where you are constantly receiving the message that you are broken (at best) and that there is something fundamentally wrong with you. And you hear this message both actively and passively for 18 years... you more than likely have at least a little trauma you need to resolve even if you are no longer subjected to that and haven't been for a while.
@kinpatsu63664 жыл бұрын
And I loved your Moho video. I didn't find it sad at all. It was a brave and honest thing that you did.
@kenneththies2754 жыл бұрын
You need to be true to who you are and realize you need to continue to go to God and continue your prayer life with Him. It sounds like your family loves you which so many other people do not have..I was impressed by how much you love your family and love being.an uncle! I think you have found a good partner/boyfriend in Hayden Stay strong and br true to yourself and lean on your faith
@user-mg6cp8vj8c4 жыл бұрын
Thank youtube for letting me find this channel , hi from south korea,
@Thegirlwithapinkbag4 жыл бұрын
Happy New Year to you and Hayden! Thank you for answering all of my questions, did not expect that. I thought you were going to pick maybe one. You have a very soothing voice btw. You could probably make asmr videos if you wanted to. Take care
@jondon11064 жыл бұрын
New here love the video your a smart beautiful young man. I grew up in the catholic church will never stop foot in it or any instationlized religion my God is with me always In the way I live my life being open tolerant forgiving respecting this planet helping others as much as i can no I'm not perfect but my god I hope will forgive me in the end.i will always support you here thanks your voice is so relaxing much love to you.
@SEFR73373 жыл бұрын
My coming out took time and some conflict. But I am fully comfortable now. I still go to mass and receive communion as a Catholic. The Bible says if you're a leper, you should stay outside the city walls and shout "Unclean" if anyone approaches you. Of course, no one today thinks that's correct. Why can't our knowledge of human sexuality evolve too? In the days of the Jews and the early Church, they needed everyone to marry, procreate and raise as many children as possible. They could be wiped out otherwise. Today, that's no more an issue than shouting "Unclean" once was. We can be gay and not feel any guilt.
@Richie07a14 жыл бұрын
A great video from a great person. I personally left the church because all the guilt factors seemed to emanate from what man has inputted into religion. But if you want to belong to church, there are gay-friendly churches that you can find... just Google it.
@quoctuanlai20094 жыл бұрын
Hello handsome boy. I love you from vietnam
@michaelalexandru24594 жыл бұрын
Omg the being a more likeable person after coming out... I agree on so many levels😌
@curtisdaniel92944 жыл бұрын
Joseph, don't forget that not all the branches of Christianity are homophobic. I belong to the United Church of Christ, an Open and Affirming church. All are welcome, accepted and loved.
@alananimus91454 жыл бұрын
As an agnostic who does not believe in the supernatural and with a rich spiritual life what I am going to say is more than likely going to be controversial. What most people are looking for is a particular emotional experience which can be brought about by a number of ways but is usually dependent upon ones aesthetic taste which is usually but not always shaped by childhood. Think High vs Low Church. I know most people don't think of it this way but Mormonism is actually High Church masquerading as Low Church. Someone coming from a High Church background often finds it difficult to find what they are looking for in a Low Church environment while someone coming from a Low Church environment often finds High Church to be stiff and stifling. Both settings are ritualistic the only question is how formal and tight the ritual is. In many ways it's about finding replacements that work for you. I believe Salt Lake has a Sunday Assembly that is modeled on Ward experience though that may have changed.
@migalbryers4 жыл бұрын
it's been nice hearing some of your videos on KZfaq
@jameskantor04594 жыл бұрын
@ Joseph , maybe you can do another coming out video, with the positive things you have learned.
@ethanwatson52594 жыл бұрын
I definitely feel like open relationships and anything other than monogamy are a lot harder to come by, but also I agree that very few people want long term relationships, I am biased tho bc I’m young and it feels like no one wants to settle down just a little bit haha
@Tiedye63364 жыл бұрын
Joesph you answered some good questions in this video hope your holidays were going and hope you have a and your boyfriend have a great year!
@dangoodall-williams42004 жыл бұрын
Go to the dr. for metrogel for your rosacea. You had good advice. I'm old, and I am sure other young gay guys will benefit. You are definitely an inspiration.
@musu66504 жыл бұрын
Happy new year filled with love to both of you. Kisses
@izakzurita39844 жыл бұрын
Yes
@patrickt.64924 жыл бұрын
I know plenty of people who are gay and religious. While growing up gay and Mormon presents its share of obstacles, you should still be able to have a healthy relationship with God. The Church is just a conduit for that anyway. For the record, I'm a lapsed Catholic, but that's because I realized I just didn't need religion in my life at all. It's different for everyone.
@joeseeking35723 жыл бұрын
Off topic, but I've watched a bunch of vids by younger gay guys and encounter 'skin care routine' questions frequently. OK, I'm old: 'skin care routines' for guys didn't exist when I grew up. Soap, water and some Clearasil until you got past it. Guys, gay or not, were guys. You played sports, mowed lawns for pocket money and could change the oil in your car. Then again, you also didn't date guys until you (wisely) went off to a pretty big school near or in a major metro area :)
@robertstruder44344 жыл бұрын
Joseph, we've "talked" very briefly before. I wish you would make an effort to meet the British boy videographer, Ben Morris. I think Ben is at the top of his craft in both Britain and America. He also is an incredibly engaging and kind personality. Please do seek him out. Let me know if you connect with Ben. You both will benefit.
@Gerontiusny3 жыл бұрын
You could also watch the videos of Joel Wood (Joel and Lia, Joel Wood, Two Brits). Joel's a gay Christian. UK
@miguelsarriamaldonad4 жыл бұрын
You are so cute
@steveweston1174 жыл бұрын
Joseph, Happy New year to you and Hayden :)
@jimmyhudzgarage3 жыл бұрын
Creepy reply of the day, You have lovely eyes buddy.
@namaskwa33564 жыл бұрын
Omg the tingles at the end. Yes, do an ASMR video! :D
@andrewsmith57463 жыл бұрын
I was brought up in the Church of the Brethren, a conservative anabaptist denomination. While my local congregation welcomes and embraces any and all LGBT+ folks, the denomination still has the old view that we are sinners. Personally, I find it difficult to embrace a denomination that refuses to embrace me. Maybe you would be better off without your LDS affiliation.
@oscarguardiola3164 жыл бұрын
I literally just saw your coming-out story video yesterday and I Got a notification about your new video today and I wasn't even subscribed! That's crazy! However, you have a new subscriber! ☺️
@hosinw4 жыл бұрын
"To make it hard" black screen sweet naive me hmm ... oh wait 🤦🏾♂️😂
@williamm82404 жыл бұрын
Some very good advise.
@terryburns Жыл бұрын
Joseph, can you tell me how I could find a gay guy that I can talk to and ask about how I could be a normal gay guy. I don't know any guys that I think are gay so it's really hard for me to find a friend to share my life and wits with. I really do love your site and I hope you never quite posting your thoughts because it really helps me out.
@jeffj51294 жыл бұрын
I'm subscribing today! You seem so genuine and an honestly nice guy. Do you really edit out 90% of the video? This one almost seemed like a lot of short clips cobbled together.
@richardwhytsell79744 жыл бұрын
Just love yourself and live your life the way u want to. Be happy.
@Jessejames__4 жыл бұрын
What hair product do you use?
@hwarzek4 жыл бұрын
I’ve recently learned what ASMR is so now I vote you gotta do every vid in a HUSHED tone. Thanks.
@VivBeyer11114 жыл бұрын
Well not every one.....but I´m sure you have a natural talent making relaxing videos, as your normal videos are already relaxing !
@michaelbloesche40504 жыл бұрын
You know Joseph, there are plenty of Christian Communities that openly accept LGBTQ folk. I'm a Catholic, and even though the church has a bad history and beliefs about us, there are many communities of Catholics who disagree with church teaching and welcome us. Other traditions within the Christian tradition are very open to LGBTQ. Even Pope Francis has said "Who am I to judge?" when asked about LTBTQ. My point is, being gay has nothing to do with your being away from a community. Perhaps it's more strict in the Morman church, but God does not ask that you be part of any churchmen particular. You can be close to God whether you are part of a church or not. Good luck on your spiritual journey. If you need someone to talk with, I'm a great listener.
@stephencourton33284 жыл бұрын
He is just too cute!!!
@eugenefrankmd54333 жыл бұрын
Joseph, do not be so down on yourself for demanding a monogamous relationship. The crowd you travel in may need changing if the sexual press is there to sexualise a first date, or even the second: if the guy needs sex to maintain a budding relationship, change guys. Keep your moral compass in the right direction, if he gives you heartache by doing so, change guys. Trust in a longterm relationship must be used on monogamy, it is essential. Your identity is not being gay, it is who Joseph is a a whole person, being gay is just one tiny aspect of your identity.
@twofeathers30064 жыл бұрын
Flawless as always love
@masood00084 жыл бұрын
I'm so happy for u both bc of ur good reactions and feelings about being together❤ but i have a big and imp question; how can i find the right person who i attract on and trust on him????? Pls answer me; i cannot hide my sexuality anymore.
@brianlupo65864 жыл бұрын
Happy New year 🎉
@JefferriAndrews4 жыл бұрын
I’m bisexual and I’m still active in the church 🤷🏾♂️
@jameskantor04594 жыл бұрын
@Jefferri Andrews , does the church treat you well? I am Jewish, they treat me well.
@JefferriAndrews4 жыл бұрын
I’m not out
@unwichtig10484 жыл бұрын
Well I'm a Ministrant (that's German, I don't know the English Word) and a Catholic and I support LGBTQ+ It's sad that the church divides Humanity into Straight and not Straight. :(
@jannik28694 жыл бұрын
I'm german too but i don't know the word ministrant
@unwichtig10484 жыл бұрын
@@jannik2869 Echt? Sagt dir Messdiener mehr?
@jannik28694 жыл бұрын
@@unwichtig1048 ja das sagt mir was
@Svangen14 жыл бұрын
the word is minister i believe
@unwichtig10484 жыл бұрын
@@Svangen1 Basically the guys that help the priest. I don't know if that's just a German thing.
@michaelslane6654 Жыл бұрын
you really do look like a wholesome and handsome Mormon boy. love your videos. too bad the LDS church is so homophobic
@donaldthomas19634 жыл бұрын
your awesome!!!!, i find gay scene sex, bar and club driven, being raised LDS It was never my scene. You would look awesome in Drag, it was very hard to deal with that fight between God and Love. Was scouting very tough and tempting?
@thatweirdscienceguy98804 жыл бұрын
At 7:27 I think that was just some creepy person... it sounded not very innocent lol
@germanmoreira69314 жыл бұрын
🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸
@davidseanazzolina4 жыл бұрын
You are the best. Have you seen The Falls Trilogy?
@josephgarner944 жыл бұрын
I haven’t, whats it about?
@davidazzolina17674 жыл бұрын
@@josephgarner94 It is about 2 missionaries who fall in love and what follows in the years after. Very moving. What about Latter Days? Have you seen it?
@davidazzolina17674 жыл бұрын
@@josephgarner94 Not sure my reply got posted. It is about two missionaries who fall in love and what follows in the years after. One of them is the son of an apostle (actually one of the sons of a current apostle is gay). It is very moving. Also, have you seen Latter Days?
@chuckanderson69334 жыл бұрын
Joseph you are the best!
@chuckanderson69334 жыл бұрын
I found a song when your dad was bishop called “God and Me” by Teri Clark. Google the lyrics...it helped me make peace with who I was and the religious culture we come from. It helped me soooooo much! So much love to you and your fam! (This is Joy A, btw). ❤️
@chuckanderson69334 жыл бұрын
Yes to ASMR!
@donaldstorm49594 жыл бұрын
This is absolutely nothing wrong with holding hands while you're walking down the street absolutely nothing. Peck on the cheek is nothing wrong neither, but I do think it's really rude when you see people sucking face it is a bit obnoxious. Tongues looking for each other's throats get a room LOL this was a good topic and I liked this vlog.
@ressljs4 жыл бұрын
I don't think avoiding PDA is necessarily "internalized homophobia." I was raised in a strict religious family, and no one in my family ever does PDA because it's considered rude even if it's the Jesus approved straight variety.
@travismaupin66174 жыл бұрын
I adore you so much
@chuckanderson69334 жыл бұрын
Here’s the song I mentioned. kzfaq.info/get/bejne/pJtiq8-Hl7SnaZs.html
@darinlegore2844 жыл бұрын
beautiful eyes!
@brianlupo65864 жыл бұрын
Just think, you said mark e miller was your LGBT (I forget) anywho, younger gays will be watching you and they will get in abundance, a great and beautiful guy that they can look up too. ALSO thanks for introducing me to friendzone!! ✌️❤️