Noreen Ahmad this is so good to hear thank you for sharing x

Jill Lord thank you x

@@thetruth5094 I'm not living a normal life like most people :) I'm not able to follow the rat race or high expectations of society. I need much more rest, stay home often, can not keep a full time job or anything like that, can't keep a social life like others, can't do many things in one day (sometimes just going to the supermarket makes me overwelmed and exausted). But I learned to accept it and to realize my life is just as valid as anyone elses. My psychologist always says: "normal is what is normal to u". I also used to compare myself to the 'normal' of others but doing that will make u feel like u are failing. My advice would be to not focus on the norm, every step your child takes is an improvement, no matter where she's at compared to others. Make her feel that she is loved and accepted the way she is. It will give her confidence and the feeling of support, which she will highly need in life! As a child my autism was not seen, my struggles where not taken seriously. Therefore I was constantly being corrected. As if things were my fault and I was just not trying hard enough. That created a very low self-esteem, feelings of shame and guilt. All that created many psychological problems in life, and made my functioning less. I strongly believe the struggles I had as a teenager and adult, are mainly because of the lack of support. My autism itself doesn't feel like the main problem. The problem is that I didn't get the support, help and love I needed. The fact that u are here looking up videos, asking questions,...shows that u are a parent who is involved and who recognises the struggles of your child. That already means a lot! You're doing a great job, keep researching and asking questions, ask for help if u need it etc. If there is something else u want to know, feel free to ask xxx

@@thetruth5094 I don't remember having obvious speach delay. But I had difficulties understanding instructions. Also while reading a text, I would know the words but afterwards had no idea what exactly the text was about. Also for example when I rewatched Disney movies as a teenager, I realised I actually used to not understand the movie when I was watching as a child. Every child is different and develops differently and at their own speed and order. I understand it's hard as a parent. But try to not worry about her future based on her speach delay. U can use that energy to look for ways to help and support her instead. She might need more time than some children and a different approach and that's okay! I think watching families with autistic childen on KZfaq (as it looks u are doing) is a good idea, so u will feel less alone with your struggles and worries and u can learn from them. Is there any professional support available where u live? Speach therapy, kinesitherapy,psychologist, relaxation therapy,...?

Noor Aziah thank you so much for sharing your experience it helps others so much. Your so right and your advice is invaluable . Thank you x

Healthy Family hey there don’t worry about speech delay too much dylan didn’t walk until he was 5/6 he was very slow. He caught up though x

@@thetruth5094 Going part time to a normal school seems a good sollution, whatever works for u and her is a good sollution, there is no 'best way' for everyone to follow. My autism would be considered as 'mild' indeed, which does feel kinda strange to me cause that's not how I experience it. My struggles and the impact they have on daily life sure don't feel mild (I can not motivate myself to get dressed some days, am sometimes too anxious to leave the house, didn't dare to drive the car for years or take a bus alone, have difficulties in many areas of life). But I do understand what people mean with it,where those functioning labels come from or why people feel the need to use them. The channel 'Yo Samdy Sam' has an interesting video about functioning labels. Also the channel Stephanie Bethany I find interesting. It might be helpful to u as they are females on the spectrum, which shows differently than boys, so u are likely to recognize a lot of what they say. Don't lose hope, your child can flourish with support and love. Wish u the best luck with everything! X

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Emma Naidoo Thank you so very much

Growing Jesse well done you! What’ amazing parents you are! I think we are going to do the same x

Katie Vanston thank you katie! It’s re assuring in a crazy way that it’s just not dylan! It’s so hard so many sleepless nights at the moment x

martybixwheeler thank you so much and well done you for homeschooling that’s incredible x

Florencia Lopez thank you so much. That’s so right maybe we just create what does not exist x

Shara cy big love to you . Love my little KZfaq community xox

Colleen Caddick thank you for your Re assurance so lovely to hear you had a good experience x

it takes time. andrew took a while to come around and i took a while to let him in.. keep going mama your doing great x

Tech Social hello there he’s absolutely love building a caring understanding community x

thank you so much for watching.. if i can ever help at all please do let me know x

Seebz M thank you xox

Missy PL well we are in this together our boys are the same age too. It’s a tough age! Apparently last 14 it gets better! Just 4/5 years more of this then 🤣 in all’s seriousness it is hard but it will get better I’m sure of it ! Sending love x

@@ComingHometoAutism I sure hope so! It is very nice to know that there are people who truly can understand each other, like me and you! It helps to not feel like we are in it all alone.

Olivia Ann your so lovely thank you Olivia xox

Jill Lord thank you so pleased it worked out for you guys x

Sarah Holley I love I know this is hard. Have you thought about videoing him when he has these meltdowns at home and has obsessive need to control you can also show this to the same department in your area. It’s very common for children to mask it at school but really let it out when they come home. X

Sharon Williamson thank you. I have to say I think personally a unit attached to a mainstream is the best . As they get the best of both worlds x

Rita K thank you So much. I’ll definitely keep you updated on what is happening with the school situation. Thanks so much for watching our videos x

Brooke Stephens oh sweetheart your not alone .. I’m right there with you x

Caroline Johansson thank you xox

Amber Nycole thank you so much for commenting it’s really nice to hear that your husband did so well. Good luck to you With your boy as well. We really would do anything for a kids would we x

bubullik I love that so hard for you. I hope that you find a place that is right for you and then your son will be happy x

luciemule thank you for your comment and sharing your experience so nice to hear . I haven’t heard of that school no but I’ll look at it! We just want our kids to be happy right! I don’t even care about grades just friendships and a community that cares about him. X

Coming Home to Autism it’s certainly not easy - I truly believe the government needs to start building ‘sensory schools’ to support the many academic, yet sensory sensitive autistic children. Standard mainstream and standard special schools just aren’t supportive enough in all areas.

Astrid Bellido Will definitely keep you posted I’m going to spend the next few weeks figuring this out. I love your idea of getting our own community together with her own school I’m seriously thinking about opening my own school if I can’t find one for Dylan I will open one x

Coming Home to Autism that would be awesome if you could create your own school. It will benefit not only Dylan but so many other kids 💙

nicola richardson hey there it’s so hard isn’t it Dylan also still has some bowel issues and can’t help himself in the toilet. He has a wonderful caring one-to-one now but I do think that the whole secondary school he’s going to need a specialist one. I’ll keep you updated with any discoveries I find. Sending you a big hug

anjali sinha thank you for telling your story and for your love. Xox

merin babu oh I feel you I really do! Dylan was very late to talk so please do not give up hope sending you lots of love xox

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Hilary Scott I wish there was a school for our kids . They are like the crack kids. They fall ok the cracks.. not really able for mainstream but not enough for a specialist setting. It’s nice the girls mother her though means they look out for her. Does she ever have any play dates at the house.? Structured play dates? So I take dylan and his friends to a place dylan likes so they bond together x

You’re absolutely right. Our kids have so much to offer the world but it’s like fitting a square peg into a round hole. Play dates are a hit or miss. We had a disaster last Easter. I invited two friends over, hid eggs all around the garden, arrived at school with flutes, schloer and strawberries to have in the park on the way home...everything was planned to perfection until I said “I’ve hidden eggs”. Summer had a meltdown, crying saying I wasn’t to do it, it was supposed to be the Easter bunny! Wouldn’t join us on the picnic blanket in the park, even though her friends tried to calm her down etc (I’m sure you can picture it!) We had a successful pamper party for her 11th birthday in Sept but everyone very much marches to the beat of her drum. She seems so much younger than her peers and very much lives in this fantasy fairytale bubble. Summer has absolutely no interest in school whatsoever and spends most of her day asking when it’s home time! xx

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Hey there gosh I’m so sorry that’s so frustrating for you. You can do a lot at home your selves so keep up the good work your doing amazing you guys x

Connor Duke this is awesome info thank you for sharing I’m going to look in to the ayvedic medicine for sure. And thanks for the advice on the schools x

KatesPlace77 catherinehunt.me.uk thank you so much so nice to hear how well your son is doing! X

ginette pamela thank you darling. I don’t think it’s possible to do both but I know we will find an answer soon just got to find the faith x

abeero100 I believe there is a way through it we just need to find the right answers for our children. How old is your daughter ? X

@@ComingHometoAutism my girl is 11 years old .. we are from the middle east i want to thank you for your channel it's very useful and you are such a kind heart bless you and your beautiful family i hope we all go through this gracefully :D :D

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RebeccaW thank you so much I’m sending you so much love

C D thank you so much for sharing your experience and for your advice yes we actually are looking into a service dog funnily enough. It is so hard because Dylan loves his friends but they all moved to a different secondary school soon too and I’m worried he’ll be left behind. I would homeschool him but he also wants friendship so I feel that might not be the best option for him either. Thanks again for taking the time to comment x

@@ComingHometoAutism Thanks for responding. Is there another way for him to fid buddies? Perhaps a local organization. In my area in America we have things like boy scouts, boys and girls clubs, science camp, and sports. Just curious since we live in different places.

C D dylan can’t manage extra activities such as scouts I’m afraid I’m looking at Minecraft’s clubs and things like that though x

Kaylene Harris I will do for sure. I’ll keep you posted! I’m going to be spending the next Fee weeks figuring this out and talking to young people in the spectrum them selves to find out what worked for them. How old is your child? X

@@ComingHometoAutism my little one is 6 years old and non verbal, she stated year 1 this year and so far it's OK but I can see problems on the horizon as the support seems to be less available compared to last year, but I'm going to give it a go for a month or two and reevaluate then.

hi im joanne mother of kico , im english and have lived in spain for many years , my son kico is now 13 , he started at a mainstream school when he just turned 3 , still a baby in my opnion , he was dry and he went in the mornings and came home for lunch and went back at 3 pm , that was the time that he went to sleep , and just to be clear he hasnt slepted in years since he was born , he has to take drops and that doesn't keep him asleep for a full 8 hours . We didn't have more children so he is an only child , he stayed in this school until he was 10 , there was talk he would , maybe go onto the secondary school with his school class mates which have been like little angles sent down from heaven , he had a social life and it seemed possible he would go on to be with some of his friends and lead somewhat a normal life . Then life got in the way , a teacher was mimicking him when he had a meltdown she started to jump up and down , and all his little school mates came running out that day telling me exactly what had happened , that started him off , then a new boy arrived and started to bully my son and , kico retaliated but got caught and blamed for all of it .He started to get aggressive , violent with frustration that noone believed him and it went down hill from there ,his teachers most of them were wonderful they understood him and he misses them dearly also the contact of his friends that he grew up with .So he was moved early to a special needs school , and they showed me around and it was a magical place , i was convinced he would strive and his true potential would begin to shine as they assured me it would , with in a month of starting this school he was locked into a closet room , the door was locked and the lights were not switched on , so here is my boy new school , all new and scary and then to make it even worst they lock him into a dark closet , tell him while his screaming and banging the door to let him out , until you calm down we are not going to let you out , i ve been up to the school as this happened more than one occassion , amongst other things , but 3 years later , he went to school one friday morning and came back on the school bus , and i could see with his covid mask his eyes were gone , lost , his was mumbling things , my kico as i know him wasn't their , we are now approaching december and this occured on the 30th of october , he has been in and out of hospital , they have done tests and they have all come back normal , we have been locked away in our house as he suffers to the extreme sensory issues , our teles have been turned off and he has stopped drawing and art work of any kind been sitting in his dark bedroom and when he does come out he is looking into the mirror turning the light switches on and off starriing into nothing .He has not ever been so bad as he is right now , fortunately lately he has started to improve without any help from the doctors or other professional help. So , i cannot tell you what to do , just give you options and some insight , it depends what type of autism your child has , and if you think that a sibling would help your child by being in the same school , i think that would help alot and the teachers are as great as kico had at his first school , i have noticed and alot of friends and family have noticed to that kico being in a special need school , he has not improved socially he has gone backward . I think if he was in a school just for autism , then yes he would shine and be stimulated and show his true potential , Its not a nice thing as a parents to think your doing the right thing and then later to find that i havn't done the right thing but in this country its out of my decision , its the board of education and the lack of or to be absolutely correct , there are only 2 special need school in this big community and none of them are all autistic . so my hand s at the moment are tied and so in these last 8 years of my son being at this school which is great for other special needs but not for autism , he will leave when he is 21 , and my fear is , in what state will he be at the most important time of his life . i wish you the best of luck and go with your gut instinct and listen to your child if they are verbal , if they are not happy ,in my experience its not their fault there is another reason why this is happening . ,

sian williams hi there I think at 2 they don’t notice. If he can get the help to help him speak and more one to one work then that would be great. Dylan did this and was lucky enough to meet another little boy with autism as well who is now his best friend. X

@@ComingHometoAutism hmm never looked at it that way... I think for me the problem with quite a few non specialist nurseries, is lack of experience or understanding with staff when it comes to autism , also the fact my son would hate being in a class of say 16 children. Very difficult decision! :) x

Jill Lord I’ll look in to it for sure x

he wasn't interested until about 6 even then its about trying to engage doing activities they both like

Chips&Sushi we will I’m sure of it 😉❤️

Kristine Willems thank you x

Meet friends after school times. Schools are crazy, Id get anxious in a school these days and i'm not ASD. With homeschooling you can achieve so much. It's much less stressful.

Our son is 5. I'm not even going to try with school. Too much stress just thinking about it.

That sailing idea is amazing. Dream, enjoy childhood, learn in peace if you are anxious school is the last hell.

Jill Lord you think I’m a car crash?