"I'm ok with being unimpressive. I sleep better" - from the movie Garden State

Facts!

There has to be some balance imo because having and maintaining your social skills is actually very important. You should never seek external approval from others, as you should rely on your inner worth and approval the most but you shouldn't fully disregard what other people say or think either. The best thing you can do is to find an occupation you have the skills to become great at and surround yourself with like-minded people in an organization to become better and create the best results. In short, care about the things that really matters and ignore the things that do not.

@@True38 Yes, I agree that it does not mean being asocial. You can still enjoy social situations, you just don't have to sacrifice yourself in the name of pleasing others, especially if their values differ a lot from your own.

The only approval will ever really matter is you approving yourself...

Rick Sanchez

I’ve never heard that saying but that is really a good one.

Your boos mean nothing i've seen what makes you cheer

❤❤❤

Wow this comment. I screen shot.

It’s true, it really is.

Amen 🍻

Thank you, I needed to hear this.

that's personal; "Alone as ALL ONE = Being in the heart as everything"

I'm way happier alone, laughing alone even at myself, making jokes, being more kind to myself. I'm a quiet person and people always say some really evil shit to me. It's pretty wild that if you don't talk people get really insecure and start being disgusting human beings. People say they like me once they get to know me but social groups I'm always singled out and not wanted so I just walk off or leave

Hey, I’m in a similar spot and I’ve been looking at jobs like that. What did you do to get the job and what is your life like now that you’re doing it?

what kind of "engineer"? Mechanical, Electrical, Aerospace? Or a "facilities engineer" aka janitor?

@@BobWiley808 Mechanical

@@KindaSemiCompetent In this case, firstly you have to process the license, and then once you have it, you just have to apply for the many vacancies you find out there for truck driver.

I agree!

This is the right answer!

What's toxic positivity? Please give an examle

I agree with Super Sado, I'm curious what you mean. Toxic positivity is a contradiction of itself isn't it? I dont think you can be positive and toxic simultaneously. You may be referring to the modern trend of virtue signaling, in which case you try to put yourself on a higher moral ground than others because they do not share your beliefs

@@sadeddinmus which will make you depressed and less efficient

@@GamerSix66 It becomes extra complicated if you put yourself on higher moral ground because you don't share the beliefs of people who do that type of thing.

Like what they say, less is more...

the peace one gets from zero to no wants is underrated to an ungodly level. people look at you funny. BUT FUCK THEM. you cant look and compare yourself at all. no matter what you do, there is always a bigger shark and a smaller shark. so its pointless to even run thinking to beat someone up or beat someone down

until you just want a small house but the price is still crazy high

Then I am one of the wealthiest people on this planet, blessed.

IN 2015 I WAS WORTH $6 MILLION* Now I have nothing except neighbours who bring me vegetables from their garden - IM way richer now... *I suffered brain damage in a mugging and lost everything - became homeless.

this is truth👍

That's brilliant! Such a lightbulb moment you have given me about gratitude! Thank you.

Yes and no technically we don't need shit so if u are naked and eating an apple seed a day u can survive but that's not recommended by medical doctor

You can have everything and still be miserable

I don’t need much in my life, as long as I have my internet and this basement I’m living in.

I thought he replied "I am not a loser! I did 4 touchdowns in highschool!" :D

@@robertschiller5422 He said that in many episodes, but to the old librarian in that episode he spoke only of his failures and how not giving up in life makes him a winner in life.

That episode is a classic , i haven’t seen it in years i remember that he told her that even as crappy as is life is he still wakes up every day and does the 9 to 5 and that make him a winner …great comment

@@ifyagotajaburadumsheep1752Great show. Long live Al Bundy!!!

​@stephendacey8761 is it a good show?

Reminds me of ,,Fight Club" directed by David Fincher

@@Footballfan-rj1gf i was just going to say this!

Absolutely, and the next line about everything we own having power on our mental state… it just clicked on me.

That's Jesus in a nutshell.

Reminds me of avatar korra being no longer bound to earthly desires

*Unless you live in an Asian society. Just kidding, you're right.

So it is! Lol

People who are self conscious of judgement have been harmed before hence the predicament. People judge hard and then use that judgement to rationalize harm to others. That's a hollow saying.

We find that out late.

Reminds me of David Foster Wallace quote- “You will become way less concerned with what other people think of you when you realize how seldom they do.”

Yes integrity Ghandi said no coward can be moral you won't be popular but at least you can live with your self. Thank you 😊

Holy crap that literally went through my mind 3 minutes ago! I was wondering why I am working twice as hard on what I love but I’m not really into the money even if it gives me good money

@@ericklucio9555 that's power my friend.

Isnt the point to Not want great power?

@@ModeratelySpeaking no. The idea of losing is to do it with no regret, and still be able to carry on. Intuition is a power. You have to know it, when you see it. This video is sarcasm. Ever heard the term, "ya win some, ya lose some". Well we're all losers at one time or another.

or depressed

@@Coal_XVII i am depressed

I am in that boat, I really don't want nothing in traditional terms. Even if you give me. But I do want the ability to do something creative, independently , and without any pressure. That freedom keeps me happy and excited to wake up everyday.

​@Coal depressed man wants it but does nothing. Being content with nothing and looking at people in worse situations, not looking down on them, can even help that will help with depression. Ignorance is the big reason for depression. Ignorance is karma catching up. It's more about the inner world not the outside world. Depression is about two self's being at war inside one mind.

​@@Aenzley ❤

and he who conquers ur mom is poggers

The PURPOSE of strength is to lift up others

What if I do both do I break the game?

@@bigmayne5982 No, adolf. Just no.

@@bigmayne5982 conquering yourself comes with self-realization. Self-realization will make you see that hierarchy is but a tool of control to keep the weak blind and obedient. Thus it is the duty of the self-aware man to break the slave trance of the people around him to get closer to utopia instead of being a mercurial moron who's so insecure of his strength, he must always keep an external tab of it by oppressing the weak. If you don't relate to this point of view, you haven't achieved step 1.

"The Lord gives and takes away."

So what is the one thing that you have that you can hold onto in life?

@@billyin4c514 yourself

@@rhbmn and your integrity.

@@rhbmn What you prize as valuable

Church is toxic, too. I left church and I'm so happy.

B*tches ain't ish anyway😄

You sound like a cool guy. Sorry you struggle with depression, it's a common problem for many now. Try seeking help for it, as you dont deserve to suffer

@@RainyMood90 I'll try I guess tho I've been let down so many times by what little help there is for mental health in this country

@@greathornedowl1783 which country is it? Some of them have affordable options for therapy via national health insurance. Or even orgs that employ trainee therapists who are in the middle of their certification can be of use, if money is the issue

college is over-rated m8

Sometimes ...? lol

Let me asked you being alive, or exist is it a luxurious state, serendipity, fortuitous event rather than non-existence.

@Caleb Newman92 well my problem is not nature that I've to defend myself against pending disasters, but fellow human beings never now their mood swings or madness.

Are you kidding?: every day.

This right here!

Thank you for your service and Godspeed to you.

This is correct ideologically but the system gives you no leverage it's work or don't eat. I am fundamentally forced to participate in a value system or perish. Existence is the real trap . The enemy itself

You have freedom 🙏

Great advice! I've always thought that those who are "cool" are those who have let go of what others think of them. They do what _they want_ because it makes _them_ happy... rather than mimicking others in order to appear as such. ✌️🌞

Repent to Jesus Christ “Now that I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also should wash one another’s feet.” ‭‭John‬ ‭13:14‬ ‭NIV‬‬ J

So it doesn't cost somebody you didn't want to worry about. Then they fucked up the whole damn trucking industry ffs

Wow, stealing this

That’s great!!

I love me some Camus

🔥🔥🔥🔥🤍

Camus, the naive pessimist. Try Cioran.

good stuff

Depends tho. If u live 100% alone in the jungle you can be 'absolutely free'. If you live around others, live in a society you must be respectful and wisely use that freedom in a harmless way.

You don't know what power you have. You have the power of peace on you side. Time for you, and what you want. That's all that matters.

If you're not in debt then you are not a loser.

@@kylep3759 Well I guess I'm still a loser

@@Gambeat569 ... Naw, you're okay man.

@@AlldatJazz-rw9wy Thank you bro 😊

But whatever you do, don’t call him late for dinner!

Do concur, 65 year old "loser" here. It cracks me up now when people like Jordan Peterson assume that I must be quite unhappy, I can assure you this is hardly the case.

Here ye’ here ye’

I'm reading all the other comments on this video.. Everyone is so nice and supportive here.. Seems like "losers" are the friendly, supportive type. Oh wait, maybe it's because our society values greed, money, fame, "beauty", and other things with no real value!

@@wisdom-for-life well if you focus on all those things, you tend to compete with other people, and when you fail, you see yourself as a loser. However, if you just don’t care, it doesn’t really mean you’re a loser, you’re just you.

Remind me of, "culture is not your friend" - Terence McKenna

This is so right

Society most likely has always been a sad state of affairs, you got your “elite,”convincing everyone that the elite own the land, and that we have to make all the money for them but get the table scraps. Then over time the system gets smarter, the elite build this crazy fucking system that manipulates us, and pits us against each other, while they swing glitters and golds in our face like a carrot on a stick. They exclude our basic needs from us, and force us into gathering the ingredients, putting all the work into the mix, but at the end of the day, we get the smallest slice of the cake

Yes. Can we still call it a society when it is profoundly antisocial, as revealed whenever challenged?

@@frequentiis Yeah, the technocratic separation agenda is quite obvious now. It is all an expression of fear gaining ground but bumping into obstacles, too. The strife for external power is an escapism from inner turmoil.

I’m a ditch digger who makes 80k a year. Lol didn’t even graduate high school

@@theinevitableend9412 yeah thats the funny thing he never mentioned how much those “shitty” jobs actually payed/ what the benefits are actually like

@chesnok. mp4 ya you are

@chesnok. mp4 nitch ni, apparently

@@theinevitableend9412good pay and a free gym workout

I agree but it's not that easy. You need balance and realize that you are dependent on other people and can't just not care... The world doesn't work that way and we humans are social animals.

@@fi6ue-traitor ....

@@fi6ue-traitor No, you're mistaken. I once thought similar to you. But when bullshit happens in life, when life throws curve balls at you, you will wish you had a trustworthy social network to stand with you in your time of need. Imagine you were Kyle Rittenhouse, alone, with zero camera evidence of the event that happened that night in Kenosha. You'd be innocent but fucking screwed.

@@True38 Some people need other people, and others don't. It's an individual's personality which decides. I'm highly introverted and actually prefer being away from people. That said, to be social generally is a need for sure. Complete isolation is unhealthy. As for "balance," everybody's balance is different. As for me, I'd actually prefer living in a small community on the edge of nowhere. Visiting crowded places is not ruled out, but I truly dislike society as a whole, so I keep my distance. I've discovered humans are untrustworthy, and unreliable. I'm actually more at peace following my own path, and not one that other humans try to force on me. I love being a loser, it's a hell of a lot less stress. I got rid of all social media except KZfaq and the occasional search engine. I'm so happy I did! All I need is my inner world. The outside world can suck a fat one. 😝 (Sociologically, and not in any way that diminishes the natural beauty of the outside world.)

@@Un1234l lol I personally don't view Rittenhouse as an innocent victim and his situation really doesn't fall under "friends helping friends" as the people who came to his aid did so not out of friendship but out of seeing him (and using him) as a cause celebre. With that said, friends are great to have and can seem to be the ones who take your back in your time of need, but wait until they hit their 30-40's and have a family of their own to provide for and protect. It took me until my 30's to fully appreciate the meaning and truth behind the adage "blood is thicker than water". A family's bond (esp. between siblings, but not exclusively) will begin to outweigh the best of friendships in terms of significance, trust, endurance and willingness and ability to "stand with you in your time of need". Just a thought.

I am camping in the forest with my dog right now. So glad to have left the city... It's cold but i love the fresh air, no people around, less radiation, feeling of more freedom, silence, insights about life, connection to the elements and so on.

Hang in there, much love, don't let anyone get you down because what they're projecting their insecurities, and don't give up or stop telling yourself you're strong enough to handle anything

What happened my man

I want to do this. But I have kids of my own 😭😭😭

I know what you mean.. I left my wife and kids.. haven't talked to them in 7 years now... some people say that it's wrong.... but life is sooo care free now. I finally feel like I did when I was a toddler... totally focusing on myself

that is only if you care about the reputation .....

Tell that to the victims of suicide who have killed themselves because of their shame because their reputations have been tarnished falsely, cancelled online or were harassed/bullied to death in real life and in the online space. I feel like people try to live on unrealistic platitudes and advices like these then wonder why suicide rates are through the roof nowadays. Human nature and a sense of belongingness always triumphs against false advices like these. Stoicism isn't even a philosophy. It was originally a diary by a Roman Emperor who wrote down his feelings. A Roman Emperor, the highest position of power and prestige and privilege isn't the best place to take life advice if you are in a position of vulnerability or oppression or come from a minority. It's like President Trump writing down his feelings and taking advice from him.

@@Incubator859 I get your points, and agree to some extent. But Epictetus, whom this video was based on, was a slave not an emperor. Pretty sure Epictetus came before Marcus Arelius, and Stoic foundations predate Marcus by about 400 years in Ancient Greece, so it is an established philosophy

@@jwalk5804 Ah, so he was coping then. One is coping that you shouldn't have a sense of achievement because it was a coping mechanism for his lot in life and the other one is speaking from a position of power and privilege that you shouldn't let anyone "affect" you (because surprise, surprise, when you are the most powerful man on your Empire during that time, you have the luxury of doing so and shrug off the most personal malicious attacks to your reputation). You shouldn't take advice from both as these are both extremes and not really in the range of "normal".

@@jwalk5804 yeah, they got bullied and shamed cuz they couldn't keep up with their reputation and others expectation right? idk, that sounds like another proof why stoicism is quite useful

I want to ask you a question that moving out of your parents house without the constant feat of being kicked out of your house brings, most of us peace and freedom and for that you need money for that and that to as soon as possible, for you to enjoy your freedom from today.

@@mrintrovert5068 what I mean about being less ambitious, I don't mean being lazy and doing nothing. I mean by the fact that I just want to buy a small house and live out my days as simple as possible. That includes my work, not gonna stress out over my job just because everyone else is to make it in life according to societies high standards. I should've clarified more on what I meant. I've moved out of my moms along time ago.

@@rogercolon619 What joy is there in simplicity? The greatest thing in the world is its complexity waiting to be discovered...

Full ✊✊✊ You’re one of the few,who like myself really gets it.

@@ZetaMagnus It's subjective as most things are; some might enjoy the complexity and deal with it well, adapt to it greatly and enhance their life and standards, while others (me included) hate the chaos and complexity surrounding our life, as it does nothing but stress us or corrupt our inner being too much to go back. Personally, I have dealt with a lot of complexity for my own sake, and it all burned me out and took away many things I deemed important, precious and integral to my self, while all I wanted was stability and improve myself. I did get a lot of ideas and advice to deal with certain circumstances, but it won't matter much to me as I lost my sense of "innocence."

Thank you for your compliment! The videos have ads, though...

no mom, its called not wanting to play someone's else game, and not "unemployed"

@@plainidiot7596 It also depends on the country. I have a friend who gets more from gov for 3 months due to not working compare to me who has to work 7 months just to earn what he gets from gov.. Also most 3rd rate countries get way less then others. My monthly paycheck is 300-350e a month and i work in construction.. sometimes 8 sometimes 10h a day 6 day a week

@@filds1Is 300-350e in euro? Regardless, gov benefits is temporary but stable job gets you more money in the long run.

​@@filds1 yea and you don't have to pay 800€ rent or pay 100-200€ a month for food. welfare won't make anyone rich. i've just been in a third world country for a month ; outside of successful people, they were like "oh my good you earn 2000€ a month you must be rich" "everyones earning 5000€ and drives a ferrari". meanwhile i earn 2500€ a month and can't even save a single euro ; I don't go out and haven't been on a holiday in 5 years.

When everything you touch breaks or turns to shit, when you loose every bet, when you hurt yourself at every opportunity, when you are stupid and gullible, when your entire life is garbage, and mostly, when you have statistics and physics defying bad luck, you are a loser

Well said. Just don’t lose your mind, your heart or your spark for life.

@@analogmatrix1442 I think I've lost all of those.

@@TheFracturedfuture What you think is on you.

@@alvinjosebasa1158 No shit but thinking a certain way doesn't change reality, you can jump off a building and believe that you can fly all you want yet you will always hit the ground no matter how positive you are.

@@TheFracturedfuture Welcome to back to reality. You previously sounded overly dramatic.

what if you do bring pain? And isn't being happy and peaceful enough to bring pain, or at least mad jealousy, to others? I'm just being provocative 😉 good luck

this is one of my favourite youtube comments I've come across. I absolutely agree with this philosophy :)

@VAERS Sandwich I know

@gt345 Why with the "harmless"? why should their pain be any different than their "reactions"? Disregard both. I think there's an awful lot of unintended consequences in everyday life, and I don't think anyone got a real good grip on what's "harmless" or what will bring pain in the short run, but happiness in the long run. I think a better philosophy is to not care too much about others' pain, happiness, well-being or jealousy. Don't examine your actions closely at all! Follow your instincts, and when your instincts are wrong..., tough, just say it was fated, meant to be. Or as Billy Burroughs said, "exterminate all rational thought!" It's the only way to survive the language virus!

@VAERS Sandwich as good a reason as any. I'm surprised the general public still has no idea of the difference between taking maintenance doses and suicidally chasing euphoria. Or a specific addiction as opposed to general substance abuse. There has to be a conspiracy, to give all addicts and users the same ineffective treatments! maybe that's a bit paranoid, but I've met "responsible" addicts who are just doing enough to not be sick, and they get the same treatment as hard-core junkies, and that doesn't seem right.

Same!!

You got it going on

Well, how about getting a cool wife this way lol. I'm sorry but I do think that's part of the price we the cool people pay. And again, lol. Cos also this is nonsense.. So? Let's stick to jazz music..

This!! All I do is eat food and breathe air and I feel more content than any billionaire guaranteed.

A lot out there would envy you for what you chose not to have. Be careful if one day you decide to have a family because if it is not a wise enough decision, it would take away that peace of mind. That is priceless.

What do you do all day? Give me a run down of what you do throughout the day as a person adopting the stoic lifestyle?

We seem to be kindreds in these regards.

I guess whatever works for you.

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Thanks

Agreed, the people you find when you just stop caring are truer and like you for you and not some pretend version. My motto, mainly with women as always been, either take me as I am or move on. If I have to change who I am and stop being me then its not worth it.

I thought you said I dont have to shower

I am a loser and do not have to mess with humans at all. I have no friends. I do not know how, but people realise I am a loser without really knowing me. This automatically makes them not anything to do with me. Without friends, nor a romantic interest, life is extremely easy, predictable, symmetrical, affordable, and full of freedom, life is with nobody in it but myself. I am also far more knowledgeable than almost all social people. I am supernaturally self-reliant, have no dependencies on anybody, know how to do everything myself and by myself, even things that most people require assistance from others to do. I do not even have to pay, "professionals," to do anything for me, save maybe medical services. I can not complain. Besides, I have been the only person in my life for so long that I would not even know how to converse with anybody. Thus, I just keep things the way I know them, alone. I require nobody in my life.

Amen to that When you can see it, you feel more alone WITH people than actually being on your own

Let me guess you live off a disability check and only survive by borrowing money from your friends. Your friends are degenerates and you never go out. Great job loser

I’m kinda in your shoes. I retired in October ‘23 at 60 years old because of military service-related injuries. My own condition is also deteriorating and the list of things that I can’t/shouldn’t do is slowly getting longer. In the midst of this I really found freedom. I no longer have to conform or compete…never did, really. I hope that your own condition isn’t so severe that you can’t fully enjoy deciding what your “next act” in life will be. We might not be able to do what we used to, but there’s still some good stuff ahead for you. Really!

@@tonyjones1560 thank you for sharing! Yeah, I quit my job a few months ago and luckily, I had some savings, so I can afford a career change.

@@tonyjones1560 Do you have any friends/family to hang out with? VR/gaming might be a nice way to stimulate yourself if you can't do certain physical activities. I play a lot of chess in my free time, it's pretty awesome

Greetings, stranger! You're not from around here, are you?

No friends Not dating anyone Just...so...lonely

Solitude

i can guess you like Senna? alone but without hurting anyone to make you feel better! Unlike THEM! i wish good things brother! cheers!

You're not alone. God has been watching you very lovingly and k own you intimately

It doesn't sound like you're free at all. Your post reeks of irony. You say you don't care about others' opinions, yet you just labeled yourself by a label that "they" use: loser. Others' opinions can be valuable. You can learn new things, fresh perspectives, etc. from others' opinions. You are only human and are not all-knowing. You can, however, learn from the experiences of others. Competition can be healthy when not competing in a malicious manner. Competition breeds growth and evolution. Being envious of someone has nothing to do with being a loser or not being a loser. Life is never easy. This notion that life can be easy is childish logic. Being a loser will not help you cope with the death of a loved, a terminal illness, financial straits, social ailments, etc.

@@jidowu6019 Ambition is a misguided effort. True happiness lies in your ability to be happy with nothing. Only when you don't care can you truly be free.

@@binbows2258 I disagree with everything here. Having ambition is not a misguided effort nor does it necessarily mean anything. Not caring about anything is straight up depression. Here we have a guy encouraging others not to care. That's a piss poor woe is me attitude that gets you nowhere fast.

@@jidowu6019 Opinions don't matter.

Wow. What a loser.

I suggest embracing it. Just like the N word. If you and your friends say "hey what's up loser?" to each other and use it often in conversation then you own it. There is power in ownership. The tribe of losers should have pride and a group identity. Maybe even a flag with an L on it.

That’s interesting, that would mean humanity has never been freer than today since we are really low on hope.

i read that quote in george carlin's voice

Carlin was a fool. See SCINTILLAM DEI.

@@user-qd4td7yb8e No, he was just ahead of his time. There's a differnce, see?

@@GrogMindwhip there is hope my friend you can lose as many times you want and be a stock of embarassment or never succeed but was it never worth trying if you wanted it? Think of this with me you lose everything will you still try ? Yes or No

You are much loved. More than you will ever understand. You are a reflection of an almighty and powerful God.

Some people are loners. Most autistic people want to desperately belong. I never did want to belong, to have my life busy with others. Take care fellow kitty.

@Sam Ulzzan same lol 😆

Yes the pandemic was (is) awful, but the year I had at home with freedom was fantastic. Never felt so good for such a long time in a row

You're amazing and beautiful.

Did you need a video to let you know that information?

@@hughgevainey3181 apparently

Your job is very important. It's hard to imagine a world without janitors.

That’s awesome! Do what makes you happy.

i am also a cleaner and my sister calls me a loser. but i am happy and satisfied with my life. people don't expect anything from me and that makes my life peaceful.

Thanks

Best comment

I don't have the right words, so I'll follow Menard's lead and just say thanks.

My Dad used to call everyone and everything a 'loser' but everyone in the room knew he was just projecting.

Cheap justification for internal dissatisfaction. Shallow toxic positivity that doesn't actually solve anything. A loser might be a label, but it's also a feeling, a state of mind, and a position in society. It is an observable thing, not a social construct, and it should absolutely be avoided. If you don't think losers exist, you are either very lucky to be in a place where you don't see people who have lost everything, or you have blinded yourself with your own toxicly positive, unhelpful attitude . There's a few absolutes in life that relate to being a loser. First; hierarchy is inevitable. All live exists in hierarchy. Second; the natural state of the universe is entropy. Life is no different, and if you aren't moving forward, you're falling behind. Third; it absolutely sucks to be at the bottom. It is chaos incarnate. Nearly all the crime happens to the people at the bottom. Nearly all the rape, theft, murder and assault happens to those, and by those, who have little. Not only is being a loser not "just a label", it is living hell. At the lowest rungs of society, health is poor, and pain is a constant. Depression and anxiety is all but guaranteed. Those people can barely do anything for themselves. They don't even do housework, because they are so busy trying to distract themselves from their discomfort with cheap entertainment and substance abuse. They can't get a job because they're discriminated against, truthfully not because they are poor, but because they aren't organized, or are uncomfortably nervous. You are not only dead wrong on this, but harmfully so. Source: I'm a support worker.

Happiness is a cat; keep chasing it and you’ll never have it, but take a second, and it’ll be in your lap.

@@kentredwine8123 wow great quote

@@DhruvPatel-zg1zs thank you

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

Success is a relative term, as long as you feel successful, then it doesnt matter what people call you

Mostly put up by society, I dare say. Hierarchy is all around us and makes lives miserable. But most people do not see through it and continue the rat race and the futile comparisons and never ending judging of others and themselves. Adopting some Stoicism and the philosophy of Epicurus is very healthy.

Haha, I love that

It is, but it's also a FU to society, as opposed to something like: "going through chemo is bad, but it beats the alternative!". Don't get me wrong, it's not necessarily a bad thing to question blind optimism, but I'm sure your family friend alienated some people.

Word. My mom has less than 2 years to live. Cancer. It’ll all be over soon enough. Live it up.

Memento Mori. We all die, and each one of us takes nothing to the grave.

@@squirlmy chemo isn't that bad if you fast, studies have shown that 3 days of fasting and then eating before chemo reduces the effects of good cell death/damage by over 90% but doctors don't tell you this, some doctors think telling people to not eat for 3 days is cruel, but fasting also creates new stem cells and regenerates the immune system. but yeah if you do chemo without fasting chemo can be bad.

There is no victory or defeat, only the attitude of how we meet the consequences of our actions is what matters

Sounds like a loser who heard the details but never felt victory over defeat. There is nothing sweeter bro

Deep!

This blew my mind. Thanks for sharing.

That's a nice quote, and can very readily see how it is true. For example, surely many a legal case "won" is like this. The details are indeed often public.

Same. I'd rather be broke and single than working my ass off like a slave for a big salary, an ugly nagging wife, and a bunch of cheeky kids.

So do most losers...

I understand what you’re trying to say, but be mindful that mental illness has nothing to do with “success”. I can be happy and fulfilled in my life while still needing to take antidepressants to keep my brain chemicals in balance 😉

@Rodrick Perkins_CPA I meant “need” exactly in that way. When my neurotransmitters are in balance, my symptoms of mental illness decrease. My brain needs those levels balanced or I can’t function. Literally. I was born with a serotonin imbalance which in turn is why I struggle with OCD. Having them balanced out helps me stay alive and function. I don’t think it’s fair to say someone is less successful because of medical issues.

No they don't, many are very content.

I am a loser and yes,you'll win just keep believing .

Don't give up

I was in the same boat, I didn't have my first real friend until I was 25. For about two years I kept floundering, losing friends and looking like an idiot in the process. But eventually I got good at socializing and at one point became popular where I lived (I lived in a co-op). What's funny is that after finally being popular, I realized how useless it was 😂 Turns out it was my insecurity in the end that drove me to seeking friends 🤷🏻‍♂️ Now I have two friends and their partners that I see on a weekly-ish basis, otherwise I keep to myself (and even with two friends sometimes I wish I had none so I could have more free time!). I think you're good in seeking friendships, you'll eventually settle on a number that feels good, I would also throw on how to thoroughly enjoy your own company on top of that.

Keep the boxing up bruh

welcome back to the Bay :)

How? Can you explain further?

When someone calls you a loser keep walking. Don t give him/her the chance to say or do more.

I think you're getting Jesus and the Dude mixed up.

I don’t think Jesus would use sarcasm 🤷‍♂️😂 Can say the same thing without sarcasm and be real about it .

@@onionheadguy7094 lol

Sometimes crying is good, it's healthy to take it all out every once in a while. About the "meaningless life" part - make your meaning finding a meaning, something to live for. And make it your life's goal to make that happen, life is way more exciting this way ;)

enjoy the distractions of the screen instead , Run away from what is hurtful , after all we as humans have done that for centuries , but right now in the digitized age that is made much simpler

Wow same here man The LESS im around other people the BETTER i feel I LOVE IT!!!

@@GORILLA_PIMP Yeah brother! I spend my time watching documentaries and learning everything I can, I just started learning about building computers and I'm thinking about trying it. I have a million hobbies, lol... I don't fit in with anybody, I'm just socially awkward. I'm happy, there's not a angry bone in my body at anybody, I'm weird and I love it.. People just complicate life, always something negative or about things I don't care to discuss... I have absolutely no desire to fit in.

@@petergriffin383 Hey i been learning bout computers too lol Yeah but for me part of why i choose to isolate is people just make me too mad Like every time i leave the house people be pizzin me tf off Like man i can't tolerate being around anyone these days But being alone constantly just feels so right it's great And yes i agree Being around other people makes life WAY more complicated Wow i hate that Man if only i knew when i was a kid about people an life what i know NOW Holy chit i would a been the all time goat of loners lmfao

That sounds nice. Can I ask how you pay your rent and bills? Do you work?

What do you do with your time

"We never failed to fail, it was the easiest thing to do." I on the other hand have had to work hard at it but it has paid off pretty well, now as untroubled as I was once quite troubled indeed...

I'm right there as a real loser

lol

Biggest loser hear, i wanted to be youtube gaming content creator and a career in it but no money to put in equipments and family doesn't supports me

@@learningnew732 Don't let the equipments be more important than your imaginatition or creat power. Your parents is just worried with your future, go ahead and make some videos, creat, dare.

I agree. Social media is antisocial.

I see this as a stupid step, I want to be able to talk to people I know on facebook and see how they are doing. Different if you want to completely isolate yourself.

@@rc6115 If you feel that it's good for connecting with family and friends and it's not toxic, keep it. Otherwise, slowly part yourself from it, reminding yourself why it's bad for you to go back. Start with just one day off social media per week, then two, then three, etc. You'll probably get used to it or even start to enjoy your days offline. I did this some years ago and I don't miss it at all. No FB, no Twitter, never had a TikTok (I quit before that) and I could not care less. Anyone worth keeping in touch with already has your phone number. And messaging is free nowadays. Won't solve all your problems ofc, but it did bring me some peace of mind and extra time. Sorry for the long reply, just wanted to genuinely help, and I hope this was useful! 😊

Social media is a machine that is designed to be very addictive. With any addiction the substance is draining you while making you feel full. So. Are you the elevator moving up, or it's counterweight moving down?

I deleted my Facebook about 6 months ago(the only social media I had) and it's been refreshing not have to see old acquaintances I never really cared for. Not comparing my life to others. Not having to see everyone else's opinions. Not having to watch human beings getting devided. 100%

Well put

« Its when you loose everything that you are free to do anything »

It would make us Kaiser Soze...

true

Losing everything is not noble or glamorous. FTW

Agree

Put me at ease I needed deeply

Or be the way we think we don't want and be better off

Right as long as person is not a burden to others, they should do what they want to be happy.

And at the end doesn't really matter being loved or hated by anyone else but you. The most important thing is to love yourself.

@@yellowlightingbolt You should love yourself and not have everyone around you hate you unnecessarily.

The flaw in this is "who are you?". No matter what someone sees you as or how you see yourself, you are always being "you". Weither you gain a massive ego and be an asshole or just be humble about things. You could have been anyone or be anyone as of right now. To think about how wide it is, it doesn't really answer the question until you come to the conclusion of saying "I'm me". No one was ever fake, neither were you, when people say "just be yourself" they're just saying "do what you want to do", but that's another thing to talk about. Should we always do what we want to do? I know some of us are taught we don't always get what we want, however I think a better thing should be "Sometimes getting what you want isn't good for you". Although it teaches you to not always go by your desires, it does make one a little more empathetic towards achieving someone else's desire rather than ones own. (Aka kindness and being selfless, even though you incorporate their want to your own desire).

False. It’s better to be hated for who you are not.

@@areyoutheregoditsmedave you should over not give a fuck about people hating you for being the way you want to be. These days I couldn’t care less about the opinions of others about my way of living or the way I want to be

Yep, for example being unemployed and living with parents when you're 45yo. No need to work and be a modern slave + free everything from parents $ = true happiness. /s

@@ExacoMvm missed the point lol.Gotta love youtube experts

@@ExacoMvm How miserable are you?

+Exaco you wake up every morning worrying what the fuck everyone else is doing?

@@ExacoMvm If that's you're goal, that's messed up and I hope you're parents don't support it.

Glad to hear but I think the video was more about the way we value the material world as a part of ourselves and others when it isn't. Whether or not you get a job really shouldn't have so much power to determine your value to the degree that it makes or breaks your ability to be happy.

@@thornanalysis I was just making the point that I had to be a loser, accept losses, to reach my goal. That’s all. Don’t read too far into it, seriously!

@@mellelicious6370 Very smart.

after many job rejections...I started up a humble service business working for myself. That was 5 years ago..and I have job security and noone can fire me or change my hours or tell me when to eat my lunch. So, fuck em.

@@user-dq2ym1nn9k Great way to escape the toxic work environments of politics, rigid social cliques, backstabbing, lying, slandering, and gossip mongering semi-retarded coworkers and incompetent bosses. Moving in that direction myself. One of the worst prisons one can be in is the prison of a toxic job.

yes and no it shows you how much you can change and evolve and makes you think what can it evolve it from . And makes me question So?whats next Because what stops me from thinking that nothing And thats where the million dollar idea comes

this advice while it sounds nice is far from useful or practical. it's more of a thing you tell kids instead of "don't worry about it". it has all good intentions i assume, but still i find the "be yourself" to be very superficial! just my 2c :^)

@@genesises hi there, let me explain, in this context “being yourself”, otherwise ambiguous and cliche, as you pointed out, means being yourself in essence, the pure consciousness - here and now. In this state of presence you are free from conceptual labels and identifications. So any identification with “good” or “bad” is ultimately false and harmful. For example identification with the label “winner” is as bad if not worse as identification with the label “looser” because things change and nothing in the world of forms is lasting. We are one consciousness in our essence and the less we identify with thoughts 💭 (stories our mind tells ourselves) on the individual level the closer we get to the realization of that truth. That who we already are and will always be - the one ☝🏻

@@genesises you’ve misunderstood. Read Andrew’s clarification. If you understand it, you’ll realise this is real freedom.

@@sentientpower i very well understood the context im just arguing the other side of the coin. i doubt anyone is as you describe all of the time and improving as a person takes constant hard work and is not a "level" you reach. as humans we are all incredibly subjective and biased as well - you can't escape this. identifying to anything to a certain degree isn't necessarily harmful and most of these emotions are there for a reason to begin with - then as you say, how you choose to deal with it and learn from it is another thing.

@@genesises what you say is true. However, it is possible to bypass all that by identifying with the real Self. Whichever route is taken ultimately leads to freedom.

True....we are basically whatever we perceive we are ..

Wow. Fuckin' aye

Remember the one with the real inferiority complexes, are the ones that Need attention all the time, look at me see how great I am. The wallflowers are not looking for recognition as they are secure in their being, and don't seek or need validation and legitimacy of actions.

You bring up a good point about real losers. Our current definition of loser is wrong. It's all opposite.

Keep going forward

This is true for me.

Same with me. I have social anxiety which I tried denying for years but I’ve come to accept it now and it’s the reason I have not done a lot of things I wanted to do. I hope I can conquer it so I can be free.

Life is a war, dear soul ❤️ You will eventually leave your body here on earth, one way or another, so better get it ready and go, go and fight! Just make sure to strive to do the best to your ability, as you can see the world through your own life vision - to fight for the good cause 🙏🏻

Same. Fear of contact with judging people made me avoid living life.

TD is fraud, you might as well quote a deepak chopra generator

Not quite yet. Im already at peace with myself, but there are these stalkers who can also hack me, keep bothering me. And before I knew their existence, theyve been approaching and be close to all of my circle, and all of my circle including my parents approve them but as to me, i do not know them, and them are strangers and everything is weird and not comfortable. And to make it worst, they accused me a lot of bad things to cover up their weird actions on me. they gave me triple qudraple problems. i dont know what to do now

​@@sarahm2023everything? Have you spoken to a convicted felon incarcerated lately ?

Oh nice a Ted Danson quote that's lovely thank you

what about the means to do anything

Don't just get a job. GET A SKILL!

@@therealjayseh stfuop jayseh let the man have his moment

to whatever is behind the screen i am to lazy i'm 19 and didn't even pass highschool because i just am to good damn lazy to even sit my ass in classes and have social anxiety but now im just trying to fix my life and balance it out because i missed alot like alot ,alot alot that much , and now im feeling more free then before i feel like im able to say anything outloud more and more on the street everywhere i dont care what others think but i do have to say i still do thats why im trying to figure out my fears to confront them head on I like this video because i felt this myself a state of complete inner peace i can say what iwant i can do what i want of course im still not completely at peace with myself but slowly and steadily im being more of myself , i just dont care as much as the image of being perfect and this and that and being not weird , creepy or even good or bad i feel more with myself with me and those around me And i found this thing before i even saw this video , dude even if i saw this video i wouldnt of learnt that being honest with you dave i dont think you ve learnt it either You have to see your fears deep inside your mind then confront them and accept them as part of what you are

I enjoy, "A new commandment I give you. Love one another as you have loved me. Do this to show that you are my disciples." - John 13:34. This is proof that most humans are evil. Very few people even acknowledge this commandment, yet claim to be some sort of Abrahamic religion. This shows hypocracy. Though, I love no one, it is because I know no one. But, there are millions that know many and they do not love the person they have known for many years. I just assume not know anybody.

Yes and most upset about the things you don't even have at all!

@@marklimbrick The things I can not have, I do not thing about them. It is likely I am in the extreme minority when it comes to this. I am simply not ambitious nor an envious person. Only when I have means to aquire something do I think about something I do not have. If someone else has something I do not have, I do not care. This may be part of why I have happily had the same vehicle and for 26 years, and home for 18 years.

Child-exploiter-Breediot 'logic', 'morality', 'ethics' 101: - NPC-normies who want kids be like: The world is a horrible, disgusting, oppressive place! - Also, NPC-normies who want kids be like: I hope to force at least 7- 20 kids (against their will, without their permission/consent) one day into this horrible/disgusting/oppressive place! - I am like: soooo you choose to impose exploitation from all points of views, suffering and death on innocent sentient beings?! Your lack of empathy is horrifying and astonishing at the same time. Religious nutcases’ ‘logic’: "Everyone is born a sinner " "Sin is what causes us to suffer" "Let's be fruitful & multiply to create countless suffering sinners" Humans are born with sin. Sin is bad. Is it a good thing to create more sin through breeding like animals? It's just funny how anyone needs a license to drive and a license to do pretty much anything, BUT not for forcing innocent beings into this existence of exploitation, suffering and death. If an unborn soul existed and if it could take a look at the world beforehand, it would never choose to come into existence. Breediots are death factories. Breediots are needy, codependent, narcissistic, psychopaths. They lack logic, compassion & empathy. They know breeding is the easiest way to have a codependent, narcissistic supply! Breeditos lie to their kids, for example they do not tell them they were used as a life insurance and or because of laziness because their mom didn't want to work at stay at home. She literally made a human sacrifice (you) 4 that. It's scary and wild. Let's analyze or translate what doctors say about people with "depression": they are basically saying that, the brain, does not produce enough happy drugs to make people think that this place is a walk in the park or some kind of paradise therefore, they need to give you drugs so that you too think this is something magical . in other words, you need to be drugged to want to be here. Every pot head and druggie/alcoholic that I know is adamant about themselves breeding. Even though they need drugs to be able to cope with life, they insist on FORCING their own spawn into existence knowing their spawn will also have to be on drugs to be able to cope with life. Misery loves company. they insist on creating suffering spawn pawns to keep them company in their own misery. That is The Epitome of Selfishness/narcissism/immorality/sadism/being unethical/being irresponsible/being diabolical. Somebody once said "if you aren't happy with being alive you're probably depressed" Then I realized they were taking pillz for depression and anxiety....like how dare you? Do your children a favor - DO NOT HAVE ANY !!! Yeah my non existent children will never have to wake up early for school, never worry: about failing a class, about being bullied, about how they will pay for college, about taking ridiculous classes in college that have nothing to do with their major, about competing for a job, or trying to impress some pompous asshole on a job interview, never have to sit in traffic to go to a job they hate, never have to worry about inflation, about health issues and DEATH! LIFE IS BEING SHAT OUT OF A STINKING CUNT INTO A LONG MEANINGLESS ESCALATING SUFFERING THAT ENDS IN DEATH... AND I WOULD NOT WISH THAT ON MY WORST ENEMY… Nobody asked to be here and be bullied in school and have to be a slave and be exploited from all points of views for the rest of my life and DIE in the end... ALL TOTALLY POINTLESS, for no reason. I wish mercy on poor souls forced here by sadist, child hating, with no constructive purpose/hobbies, low IQ, lonely, bored to death, narcissistic, selfish, immoral, unethical, irrational, illogical, control freak, megalomaniacal, power tripping, virtue signalling, suffering with god complex breediots/child exploiter-NPCs. Once you purposely become a unconscious breediot-child-exploiter, i.e. a biological parent, you are saying to the world that you are ready for every terrible thing that will happen to the innocent souls you forced into this dimension (without their consent/permission, against their will), and you as a breediot shouldn't complain about anything! Just b/c you found a way to make it doesn’t mean the next one will. If you love children, don’t FORCE them here, especially without their consent/permission. I would never bring one into this insane asylum! I have far too much empathy to ever do that to a child! IF i ever really wanted a kid i would adopt one! A child that is already forced here and stuck here and needs a home! Pretty ironic how "loving" breediots get so violent about violently bringing/raping others into a violent world. I'm always expecting violent outbursts from the breediot crowd. These triggered individuals are the same ones that are okay with the prospect of inevitable harm to those they claim to want to protect, so of course they wouldn't flinch at the idea of harming someone that challenges their narcissistic point of view. The gov changing their tax laws regarding breeders vs non-breeders to Stop robbing the non-breeders to give breeders free rents, will cause more people to choose to not breed more than any other Preventionist activity, but the gov won’t listen to only one person complaining about this. We need to approach the gov as a Big Tribe to get them to change these tax laws. The precious cargo the school-busses carry will be future wage slaves, and most of them will repeat their breediot parent's mistake of breeding more victims and perpetrators. Procreation should be illegal & everyone should be involuntarily sterilized! No one should have the ability to inflict serious, preventable harms upon others without their consent by creating a life. More broadly, no one has the moral right to take action on someone else’s behalf without their consent, except when the action is taken to prevent an even greater harm. Reproductive rights my ass. Procreation is murder. Literally a death sentence. You don’t want everyone to have homicidal rights, do you? Preventionists love children enough not to bring them into this world of life-long exploitation, slavery, suffering, death and eternal torture in hell. Life is not a gift, life is just a sick game so this sick bastard called "god" can abuse us.

@@incorectulpolitic That is why it takes a very selfish person to force their own child to exist in this Hellhole of a planet full of hate, oppression, lies, deceit, and betrayal. Very little consideration to what the child will inherit is given by all that force a child to exist here. It is the ultimate form of cruel selfishness to force a child to be born here, exist here, then die here.

Thanks for a brilliant and comforting response ...even though you may interpret my words however you choose!

@@paulhansen6496 Thank you Paul for starting my day with an esophageal giggle! It was what followed the "..." that lit me!

I also purchased his book and his other book u Unoffendable about 6 months ago. These two books are books that I will read multiple times in my life.

@@lovely7983 So true and so well stated. We are each the only life we will ever know.

Ive had similar problems. Don't let those people get in your head, assert that you aren't lazy but over-stressed, even if they don't get it. If you're like me, you experience psychological distress that paralyzes you, which is much more excusable than laziness or apathy

@@hannahpickles4825 I mean, I rock climb and hike. I just don't like work. But obviously I do work so I can afford certain things. Only, I work as little as possible. I'm a bear minimum guy. I own very little on purpose. I genuinely don't care about material gain or traditional definitions of success and achievement. I do get stressed and end up with decision paralysis often and get overwhelmed with stimulus around me, but more often than not, I just feel like The Dude, desperately trying to keep it easy and constantly getting drawn into situations where that's difficult. So by all conventional standards I actually am a slacker and a bum, but it's because I think all of the garbage people chase is a bunch of bs. At least it's not for me.

Charles, I think that you're doing things right my friend. The mainstream is all about mass consumption and Consumerism - to the detriment of our planet. I'd much rather go for a long walk with my dog than be seen eating in an expensive restaurant, wearing fashionable clothes, driving a gas guzzling car. :)

@@charlesbetz9475 I get decision paralysis to the point where I am directionless in life, dropped out, no discipline, and going nowhere in life. I figure if I had just joined the military at 18, I would at least be making money to contribute to my family, have money for hobbies and all the experiences that came with going through the military. Now at a depressingly loser age of 24 having done nothing it's demoralizing. But I realize on the bright side, if I joined the military without a mature mindset, I would have probably gotten kicked out for doing something stupid due to my mental immaturity/emotional intelligence. I learned not being mentally prepared is a recipe for disaster which is what makes life so hard since we always need to be mentally improving or else it can go downhill without a healthy mentality. Without these types of emotional intelligence, mental health, philosophy, self improvement videos, I would probably be a mindless rat in the rat race. Hate suffering without knowing how to make the situation better. I deviated from this conversation probably, but I wanted to say that I guess prefer trying something I might like versus dreading something I have no direction in since I didn't actively critically think about my life back then.

Yeah Ive kinda had the same realization recently. Except for me it was “Im not the main character here” and so it kinda helped me just to roll with the punches