apologies if the audio sounds different, my mic exploded during recording

When I was younger I thought a crush was someone you hated because you wanted to crush them 💀

Some asexuals: "I don't feel anything, something is wrong with me" Chad Jaiden: "I don't feel anything... You all are ugly"

I am a boomer. It took me a long time to realize what i was. I was raised in an environment where being homosexual was the worst thing possible. I’ve come to realize i am asexual. I felt ashamed of myself for years with no knowledge. Thank you for opening up Jaiden it makes even an old timer like me not so alone.

"romance and intimacy is what makes us human" well guess i'll just be a silly little alien

"WHY ARE NONE OF YOU ATTRACTIVE" Literally the best line in the whole video.

Jaiden thinking she's bi or pan because she was equally disinterested in everyone is the funniest thing to me.

Having a crush on someone isn't.... wanting to be their number one best friend?

God I know this animation is two years old; but having just tried to come out as ace, this is still so comforting to rewatch. It’s nice to know I’m not alone

*”In the nicest way possible, its none of your business”* is literally the most understandable thing I’ve ever heard

Ok, speaking as someone who is in High School and desperate for affection… Jaiden’s story about thinking “man I don’t have a crush on anyone, I guess I keep getting unlucky” really hit close to home… but I don’t think I’m aromantic? Because despite not feeling any romantic attraction I still deeply crave a romantic relationship, because theoretically, it sounds really nice and like something I would enjoy. And at this point I’m not sure if I’m just bad at identifying my own emotions, keep getting “unlucky”, or am somewhere on the aromantic/demiromantic spectrum.

Shout out to anyone who doesn’t hate on people for being different

As a fellow Aro/Ace, this was great. To your point at the end about "coming out" feeling weird, it absolutely is for aro/ace people. We aren't coming out as gay, we just aren't interested. It feels like telling someone you don't have a favorite sports team because you don't watch sports. Also, most people in your life already probably know you are comfortable being single, they may not know the term aromantic or asexual, but they know you aren't the kind of person to always be dating someone. So "coming out" as aro/ace feels more like educating people on the terminology than it feels like telling them something you've kept secret. For most of my life, I just thought I was a broken straight guy. I "dated" a bit in high school, but just as you did with crushes, that was more about trying to fit in than something I wanted. I was like 25 years old when I first read the terms "aromantic" and "asexual" on an online list of sexualities. I remember reading the description and going "That one! That's it, that's me, I didn't know there was a word for that." Also, aro/ace has the coolest colors on the flag. Purple, green, and grey go look so good!

"WHY ARE NONE OF YOU ATTRACTIVE" would be an awesome senior quote

Hearing other Aces say "...wait they're not joking?" about sex songs is the most validating phrase

I used to think having a crush on someone was like a “level up” thing were once you get close enough to them ud have to have a crush on them and wanna date them like it was an xp bar or something 😭

As a bisexual, I did the complete OPPOSITE. I thought I was ace because I felt equal attraction to everybody and had no crushes at the time

This was literally my aroace awakening. This was the first time I heard of these terms and I was like, “OH. OHHHHH. That’s why everyone is unattractive.”

Alright. James has a girlfriend, Jaiden is aroace. *No more shipping them.* Edit: Jesus Christ this reply section is the scariest sh-t ever.

you helped me Jaiden, nobody will ever see the comment but whatever. I have felt the same way all my life, never having a crush EVER and not understanding relationships at all. This video made me realize that I am aromantic and I'm not ashamed of it. If it wasn't for this video I would still be confused and lost, thank you!

I’m actually really glad Jaiden made this video because I don’t think things like this are discussed enough because sexual and romantic feelings are experienced and expressed wildly differently and topics of feeling neither kinds of attraction are like.. ever talked about. So thanks Jaiden, this was super comforting to realize everyone feels differently with this stuff. (I’m asexual and this helped me to realize that)

“WHY ARE NONE OF YOU ATTRACTIVE” Literally the best one liner in the video

Man, highschool and even college were such a weird time to me. Your "fake developing crushes on people" is resonating with me so much right now.

i think almost every ace/aro go through the "guess I'm bissexual" phase with the same reasoning that 0 attraction is "equal" attraction 😅

I discovered I'm aromantic thanks to this. For the longest time I thought I was a pervert because I was very sexual and I didn't know I was makinbg up for my lack of romantic feelings by being overly sexual, because I don't get romantic feelings, I only get sexual feelings. Finding out I am Aromantioc and NOT assexual was one of my greatest epiphanies. Thank you for this video jaiden.

"We're all pretending to be adults here!" jaiden has perfectly summed up the internet experience

“At the end of the day, we are all just strangers ignoring the stranger danger rule.”

I’m so grateful for this video because I originally had no idea what aroace even was, and now I’ve looked a bit more into it, and I believe I’m an aroace person. Thank you Jaiden, you have shown me part of my identity that I was unaware wasn’t average and what everyone felt :D (that’s a good thing)

“I’ve got my eye on some of you,BEHAVE!” 😂

Oh my God the "why are none of you attractive?!" being yelled in the room full of people killed me 😂😂😂😂😂

"That's not gay what the hell is that" That line was too funny

Greetings fellow traveler, it appears you’re taking a stroll through the newest comments section. I warn you now as this route will lead you to a bunch of comments that will bring you down to eternal stupidity. With that, have a nice day.

"WHY ARE NONE OF YOU ATTRACTIVE" I legit cracked-

I’m not aromantic but i agree with the not-getting-why-being-just-friends-is-a-bad-thing point. Friendship rocks. No kisses i suppose, but still great Edit: this was not meant to cover every situation or be seen by many people at all, agh! I totally understand it being extremely painful when someone you have deep romantic feelings for doesn’t share them! I do think sometimes friendships, particularly male-female friendships, aren’t appreciated enough on their own unless they have the possibility of leading to a relationship. I was more trying to refer to that concept, though I realize I didn’t make that clear. I was sort of imagining a low-stakes situation of an acquaintance shooting their shot with another acquaintance (which could also be scary or embarrassing depending on the individual situation of course, but I figure it could also turn into a friendship if the awkwardness was surmountable). If you were rejected by someone you had romantic feelings for, I promise I’m not trying to dismiss that hurt, this comment was not meant to be universally applicable! And ending a friendship because it’s painful or awkward for this reason is absolutely not inherently a bad choice. Edit part 2: rewatching the video, I think I also should have phrased the sentence as understanding a feeling rather than agreeing with a point.

as an ace person, the realization jaiden had in the car was SO RELATABLE!!! "Like what do you mean you actually want to do that kind of stuff with the people you find pretty?? Do people actually feel this way?? I thought it was just a concept" were exactly my thoughts

when this video came out, it helped me realize I'm on the aromantic spectrum, and even though it's been a couple years I'm still learning new things about it, especially with not being asexual and then also being trans, any form of intimate attraction gets confused with dysphoria and stuff. It's like the suspension bridge effect

"We're all strangers not listening to the stranger danger rule" Yeah that's the Jaiden we know, classic sense of humor too, good start!

i dont identify as aroace, but as an autistic person, the feeling of "well everyone else is feeling this way now so i should probably start doing it too" without understanding thats not how feelings work is very real

"WHY ARE NON OF YOU ATTRACTIVE??!!" Cought me dead 🤣🤣🤣

Its funny my dad tells me ill get married some day. Me: what are you talkin about?! I dont feel that way about any one. I have my video games thats all i need. My dad: (disappointment) The video actually taught me im pretty much the same you as jadien so thanks.

I know Jaiden referred this as the cliff notes version but honestly I learnt so much from this. This video is definitely going to help a lot of people out there :)

The whole “wait you guys weren’t joking???” Is the ace EXPERIENCE JDHDHD i remember the day i learned what asexual meant and instantly i felt so understood!

My daughter, 13 going on 14, just asked me what romantic feelings are like, and after a long talk, we discovered that she may Aro Ase! I sent her this video for more insight.

This comment section has made me lose my faith in humanity then regain it more times than I can count.

As someone who isn't aro nor ace nor both, I have to say that the whole "WHY ARE NONE OF YOU ATTRACTIVE" bit hit suprisingly hard lol 😂

That “wait, they’re *not* joking??” moment is so accurate. This entire video describes what I was trying to figure out up until like a year ago. And the happiness of figuring it out, you’re not broken, this is a thing. It so upsetting in a good way? Relieving almost.

-what gender do you prefer to like? Jayden: “no”

I rlly liked this video, especially because i don't usually see ppl talking about this. I'm an asexual lesbian, and whenever i say that, ppl just go "WHAT? How is that possible??" bc they think if you're ace, you're automatically aro too. I just loved the way you explained things and i rlly hope ppl start understanding more these concepts bc otherwise i'd have to explain that EVERY time 😰

I have been saying "I am sure I will feel love and affection if the right person comes along" for like the last 10 years. This kinda makes a lot more sense now.

i found out about a term under the Areoace umbrella it’s called Cupioromantic! i did a little bit of research and i feel like i fall under this term. The definition of Cupioromantic is “Cupioromantic is a micro-label orientation that describes someone who doesn't feel romantic attraction but desires a romantic relationship.” do what you want with this information but it’s a fun term i found.

It's been 2 years since I watched this video, but thank you so much for coming out. It helped me discover my identity, and it must have helped many others too.

_"You don't have to be in a romantic relationship to be happy"_ Based Jaiden

My last girl friend learned that she was aroace, and didnt have any romantic attraction to me at all. She just saw us as really good friends, similar to that college person. We worked through it, and are now BFFs. I'm so proud of her ❤

I respect you for sharing this so publicly and stepping out of your comfort zone.

I just love the fact how many homophobic comments in this section are written by 11 year olds, yet they are almost indistinguishable from stuff adult homophobes say. It's hilarious.

Fun fact: bread is one of the major things that make us human

You see, I'm not aroace, but holy shit do I relate to "Society expects you to be in a relationship."

my best (female) friend is aromatic and asexual and i'm asexual (man). a lot of people asking if we're together/ a couple because we get along very well. some find it weird that we don't want to be a couple, like why don't you try it? you might like it. things like this, i find annoying because i find that these days everything needs to sexualized and romantised

I love how other characters just are placeholders, always loved that tactic as an animator

If someone ever passes you a note that says "do you like me yes or no" just just tell them I'm not registered to vote

“No one presented to me OTHER options.” Wow, WOW this hit hard. It took me a long time to finally realize I was Ace, it was a revelation that being Ace was a legitimate THING and not just me being indecisive/selfish/weird.

i watched this video when it first came out two years ago and i related to a lot of it but didnt really admit it to myself. ive been in about 8 relationships and all of them sucked because i felt like i was roleplaying being in love instead of actually loving the other person. i always felt trapped in relationships and as soon as i got in one i would try to find reasons to break up with the other person, and when we did break up, i felt incredibly relieved. being in a relationship felt like a burder instead of feeling good. recently i started looking into aromanticism and i think i might be aromantic and grey asexual. we need more videos like this, talking about aro ace people's experiences. thanks for making this jaiden, youre awesome :)

Hope no one I know sees this comment but this video helped me see that I might be aromantic at some level (I’m in middle school)

Everyone else: I'm not in a relationship because I'm not attractive Jaiden: I'm not in a relationship because everyone else isn't attractive

James: Has a girlfriend Jaiden: Is aroace Fanfiction artists: Let's go ahead and ignore that

This video: exists Literally Every 6 year old simp:😭😭😭

... This video helped me finally accept some parts of myself I was afraid to confront for a long time. I think the aroace colors suit me much better anyways :)

"I hope you can understand even just a little of what I talked about, and if not, I just hope you can be nice." Standing ovation for that line, honestly. So many people who don't understand something use that as a reason to dismiss or invalidate it, but not fully being able to comprehend something doesn't make it impossible to have compassion for those who do experience it. (As someone who is constantly confused by other people, I have firsthand experience in this.) Also, major kudos for the approach of this video. Using your platform to speak up for those who don't often feel seen is a really admirable thing to do, and maintaining boundaries of your own personal life at the same time is very respectable.

Figuring out youre aro or ace or both is so hard bc society really teaches you that you need to be in a romantic relationship and be intimate or you'll be sad and die alone.

ill be real, this sounds better than being straight🥲

This helps me a lot, because I been questioning this things, like, girls are pretty, but I don't want any relation of any kind with them

"The more I came to terms with being AroAce, the more empowered I felt." Me, with the brain of a 5 year old: Well of course you do, purple and green are the hulk's colors. That makes you the strongest there is

I didn't realize "choosing random people to "crush" on because it seems like the thing to do" was a universal thing lmaoo

Jaiden over here helped me figure out that I was nonbinary/agender when this video came out. Thanks, man.

I feel so silly about this but the video is old enough that I feel like I can share. I was actually *scared* of this video and only just today worked up the courage to watch it, lol. Topics like this had always caused me discomfort due to my inability to understand myself. I for the longest time was under the assumption that I was Aro-Ace myself because I was never interested in like having a relationship like that with anyone. I was afraid that intimacy was a thing you had to do and thought that my only option was dating a man as a biological female. I did the same thing in middle school and highschool where I just- decided that ‘Yeah! This guy mark? He’s my crush now because I don’t know most of the other girls like him so that must mean I do too’. It took me some years to realize that I was not interested in men and even longer to confront the fact that I like women. I spent so long confused with the labels because in my brain it made sense to want to have someone by my side that was like my partner in life but I didn’t want to ‘have’ to do the things you were expected to. I liked kisses and hugs and handholding, the idea of it was very appealing and made me feel happy, but when it came to intimacy I felt dread. I was terrified of being in a relationship because all my life it was explained you had to be intimate with your partner. When it came to being attracted to girls I also feared getting in trouble with my family so I just decided that with my fears that I had to be alone. I looked up what that meant and decided I was Aro-Ace even though I didn’t fully understand what that meant. For years I claimed to be this way thinking there was no way I could be in a relationship with someone without being comfortable. I thought that no matter what I was going to have to do something that made me unhappy or uncomfortable. It also felt like any girl around me who was ‘attractive’ wasn’t worth attempting because they’d all want the same thing so soon after we got together. I knew I didn’t want to be intimate, at least not for a long while, even though it was something you’re supposed to do. I never felt those emotions that drove a person to want to be physically intimate and anytime I tried to get help people always told me ‘you want a good friend’. I accepted that as truth even though I knew a part of me felt far beyond that for some people. Then I started to engage with the LGBT community despite how much I’d been corralled away from it and it was so overwhelming how much information there was. In the end I found out that while I’m romantically attracted to people I’m not attracted physically which is okay! Which is a thing and plenty of people are the same way. I cried with relief finally being able to understand who I am and that there are people like me out there. I’m happy to report that as an adult I have found my first girlfriend who understands that about me and respects it! We’re going to have our one year anniversary shortly here and I couldn’t be prouder to be ace myself! Thank you for this video and all you do Jaiden. Sorry this comment is so late!

Jaiden: *comes out* Companies making pride quizzes: it’s free real estate

"So I made up a crush" is one of the most relatable things I've ever heard. I distinctly remember being in middle school and everyone talking about crushes and when I was asked about mine I just mentioned a close friend, and I did the same thing like a year later with someone else, and then the same when I got into high school, and I kept feeling like I wasn't doing something right. I eventually discovered I was aromantic and asexual but everyone around me was so weird about it. A teacher even told me "how are you going to teach your kids about sex if you've never had it?" Which- no comments honestly. I'm much happier now knowing exactly where I want my relationships to be and not stressing over which I'm expected to have. Great video Jaiden :) thanks a lot!

A fellow aero/ace I see… ⬇️Polite Handshake⬇️ 🫱🏼

Finally someone who believes the phrase “sex is a distraction from 2005 Battlefront II” more than I do

i feel like the line "Why are none of you attractive?" will become a meme.

The fact that i went through the same thing from not having crushes to thinking i was pan

I think the best relationship is just being best friends 😎

As soon as Jaiden said that she was aro/ace, my mind straight went to the flirting video and thought about her mentioning how two people who didn't have a relationship work out should still be able to be friends and how that makes a lot more sense now knowing that she's aro/ace... AND THEN SHE MENTIONED IT IN THE VID AND I HOWLED LMAO

Dude the “picking a crush out to feel like I’ve reached my emotional quota” is such a mood. I’m autistic and have always struggled feeling left out because I’ve never felt romantic attraction.

At the end of the day, all we truly need are cats and kittens. Period

Honestly I think we need more people talking about aero/ace and platonic love more because it really feels like being in a relationship is something that people kinda pressure other people into.

"Why is no one attractive?!" Had me laughing so hard I'm awake now. Thank you.

Love the line “WHY ARE NONE OF YOU ATTRACTIVE!” 😂

Me:watching this 2yrs ago,Also me:watches this 2yrs later:TF IM AROACE NOW!?!?!?

Gotta love how if you go in the recent tab you’ll be bombarded with 7 yr old kids that are going “this not sigma”

I remembered talking about aromantic with a friend and he legit said “How does smelling nice make you LGBTQ?” because he had mistaken aromatic = aromantic 🤦🏻‍♀️

“That’s not gay what the hell is that” goes crazy

I think it's crazy that people tried to disprove it You're not saying you can't care about someone you just don't feel romantic love but you still love your family and your friends as well as your birds in no way is that sound like a robot to me!! 💕💕

This sounds like me ……. Wait a minute

"WHY ARE NONE OF YOU ATTRACTIVE?!" You're fantastic. I really relate to all of this -- like, in a way that has me thinking "Okay maybe I do need to reevaluate some things I thought I knew about myself" -- and I really appreciate that you made the video even though it opens the door to a lot of people speculating and making assumptions about your personal life.

12:34 I don't know if this was intentional or not, but I love the idea of an aroace person expressing platonic affection and following it up with "no romo"

THIS VIDEO IS TWO YEARS OLD 😭

As a pansexual gworl, my story is that when i was little I had a crush on boys, BUT THEENN I developed a crush on this girl when i was 10 and i thought i was absolutely crazy but many years i learned what bisexuality and pansexuality was and I realized... "Damn. I was ✨pans✨" Sadly the girl i had a crush on only liked boys so i had no chance lol plus she was my bestie-

"All you need to feel complete is friends and family" Me: "Nah..." "And birds." Me: HELL YEAH.

As someone who isn’t asexual or aromantic it always confused me and no one really explained it to me. This was such a good video to help me understand