Exactly, he seems like a petulant child who can't handle conflict or stress. He's a middle aged father!! Time to grow up!! He should have tried to work it out with Jen Garner!!

He needs to figure himself out and probably isn’t good in relationships.

They divorced way before JLO, how have we forgotten his substance abuse?

​@@micherylgaines9930he's a child, she's a 🐝

He has not been normal for years ,,,,

😊

Amen to this!

Fantastic comment ❤

Loving this comment!

❤ Love this

Could not hv said it Better !!! I was thinking the exact thing !! Until he makes himself completely happy & is HAPPY WITH HIMSELF !! He can never be happy !!!

The man never looks happy, he needs to learn to be happy by himself before he gets married.

He needs to freaking grow up!

He will get his wish

Man at his age is always a bad investment, the ones that are alone lack skills to be in a relationship

And drunk

So why get married?

​@vivabehi1314 Aging men don't like to decay alone. The average guy wants someone to look after him. Wealthy men want all their ressources and capital to serve a purpose (legacy), which is unlikely if they end up dying alone.

Nah she ruined this because she over shared & sold their personal life! Like the book he gave her she thought she had to prove to Gadren that he loves her MORE

@@deend7824this was after their marriage, read the comment well, she said she was a diva n Ben knew her lifestyle. But yet he still went out with her n married her.

No exuse! It's like saying "he knew she was controlling, self sentered, want things her way, dominant, attention sick etc". I actually don't think there is a man who can handle her 🤔

@@deend7824He still knew who he was dealing with.

Diva ? Like DIVA ? Haha not even fuc*k close

Jennifer Garner has moved on from Ben. She’s engaged/soon to be married to businessman & attorney John Miller whom she started dating in 2018.

False equivalence- plenty of top actors aren’t in headlines every second of the day…

😂😂😂😂

Its exactly like how most men who want traditional wives chase after working girls and later try and make them stay home. Do men even know what they want?😂

@@thetannareeit’s not a false equivalence. He is not an actor, he is an A-list actor. He is not just some random guy, he is academy award winner Ben Affleck. You literally sign up for possible overexposure and media attention if you hit it big. On top of the fact he married someone who he knows is a media wh*re so yeah.

Just because you excel at something, doesn't mean you like the attention. Actor makes movies, on a set ....pretends to be someone else for a storyline , does not equate to wanting attention ?

💯 percent, Ariel!! He's a grown man. He knew what he was getting into!! Nobody put a gun to his head. If they really want to stay married, both of them need to compromise!!

Absolutely

He followed the wrong head 😂

Exactly

That's why he said it was "Temporary Insanity"

Addicts always blame everyone else.

AT THIS POINT J.LO. NEEDS TWO HUSBANDS, TWO BENS. AND MAYBE THAT WOULD MAKE HER HAPPY. !!!❤❤❤❤

He must date a drunk like himself

@@albertomartinez2345 Jlo isn't the problem

@@vernamurray1161 I disagree, respectfully 😊 She is a huge part of the problem! Don’t get me wrong, he’s a hot mess, but she is a glory hound, fame chaser, and just flat rude too most everyone!

I agree. I was too and it was awful

BIG EGOS can’t find that PEACE-I know, I lived it, too…sad

It's exhausting @ u lose yourself...glad u moved on ...obviously I'm not suggesting any of it was easy..have a rewarding life.

Have you forgotten about the multitude of relationships on JLo’s part? 😂 this is her 4the marriage 😂

Come on…Jen has never been satisfied with any man she’s been with!

However, each needs to figure out their own issues before becoming involved with anyone.

J.lo has had failed marriages too. They’re both the common denominator.

True

Thank you ❤♥️🌹😍🥰

EXACTLY!! HE'S A ALCOHOLIC! JENNIFER GARNER DIVORCED HIM BECAUSE SHE COULDN'T TAKE IT NO MORE!! (GET HELP BEN)

They will blame her she is not white , he is a total loser that falls off the wagon and hear them oh poor Ben 😂😂😂

He is a drunk and acts like a child no one mentions that all you get is jlo this and Jolo that. I don't want to live with a drunk constantly watching him, he and his wife former is now playing house and everyone acts as if this is normal. Who accepts their husband spending time with his former wife in his house I won't , but no one finds that odd and seems to act as if jlo needs to accept that why?

Are you crazy? This is JLo's entire career, her ever evolving love life. She will absolutely get married again.

😂😂😂😂😂. You lost hope and I understand your pain.

Who cares???

@@melinaesposito3434It’s not about her having the free will to marry. The original commentator was saying based on what the public has observed about JLo, she doesn’t seem like marriage material. It doesn’t mean that another guy won’t marry her.

I agree

It happens to us regular non famous folks too.😢

Well of course he is the problem.

I think that was just to promote their movie?

​​@@klickingkayasmr7585 Exactly. HIS movie, otherwise all people around him should bend over for his mood for media/no media attention🙄

Omg she’s so beautiful too!!

Of course he is the problem. Garner is a simple person, and he couldn't get along with her

💯💎💪🏽

Yeah, the women are great. He is immature and has to be true to himself.

Those vices sometimes are less harmful than a half bad.

Some only feel "complete" living like this. Anything else is boring. I know someone like this. Sadly, 8 years in. It is exhausting to deal with folks that do not know what direction they are headed. If they dont know how is anyone else supposed to follow that lead?! We can't! Ugh 😢

And she can roll with puffy ,to face the music ( allegedly) time will reveal the whole mess.

I don't he knows what he wants, the guy is lost and confused.

Bang on

Agree

I mean she did work hard on her knees to get her acting and music careers. Lol if you like that kind work to get ahead

Some men are just never satisfied and is always self sabotaging

Exactly jlo never changed her life is the same. He knew that!! He's been w her b4. It's not Jlo fault. It's his fault. He never understands and just a man who waste women time!!

😂 true but i definitely don’t think anything is wrong with that! U are suppose to love u to The upmost

​@@astrospiritYes, you're supposed to love yourself. However, JLo really loves herself, so much that she doesn't have time or love for anyone else. Think narcissist... and Ben is one also. Two narcissists rarely last very long.

@@Diannab75 Agree with that. She's the overt narcissist and he's the covert narcissist. It was always going to end like this. They are like two demented flames snuffing each other out.

Good for her if that's the case - all women should love themselves and get away from men like this.

Gardner erkek arkadaşı ile evlenerek gölge karakter olmaktan çıkarsa iyi olur .Ben mutlu olacağı onun ruhunu iyileştirecek biri ile olmalı.

Or a man that cheated on his wife with the nanny!! Jen Garner is practically a saint!!

Mannn....Your right, but Ben dated so many people during rehab and after. He's been on a ball since his first divorce from Garner. It was never going to end well from things I saw, like that time when she was promoting her brand alcohol and drinking like it's not a thing in front of a recovering addict. It's a thing even when they say it's not a problem, and it's ok if you drink, but knowing on the inside it's a vice that's your downfall. Nope, I don't see it working. However, I wish no marriage to fail. He needs to be with someone who also practices sobriety, and he likes living a normal life. That's why he married the other Jen in the first place. He doesn't like her lifestyle. He doesn't want to go to loud BET concerts. Lol Both of them need to take time out to be single.

​@@positivehighvibesx This! Garner is just as gross. She cheated on her husband Scott Foley with Michael Vartan. Then on Vartan w Ben. They're all messy

​@@hayallebaslarhersey1777Your statement makes no sense!

I didn’t know that!😮

and alcoholic

Gambling addiction ​@@jveschi5875

😳

Probably still is

This is the best comment I've read

Yep and marriage is all about compromises. It’s also about not changing the person that’s growing together. It’s not about fancy dresses cars huge houses it’s about hospital stays. It’s about being there and fighting to stay together through it off. It’s about kids it’s about if you have kids, it’s all about sacrifice, which Jennifer Lopez could not do either of them could not do it.

She doesn't want a divorce

​​@@stacyhunt4783She doesn't want a divorce and she's been putting up with his disgusting smoking habit. Something Jen G was not putting up with. JLo even moved ther kids way across from Miami ti LA, far away from their regular schools. Ben hasn't had to be inconvenienced or lift a finger. He's acting like the spoiled brat that he is.

The only one compromising here is JLO, because she’s always been weak for this fool. He doesn’t deserve her, or any woman, until he works on himself.

She's skinny because she's doing Ozempic or some other form of weight loss drug. She can't handle getting old. Also she's the real narcissist. Keep it real.

She's skinny for the new movie Axel I think is the name.

Isn't he a big gambler too?

Jlo destroyed? I dont know her but she doesn't seem to be a sadybetty crying over a man. She probably just wanted a little hot mess drama, lol. Omg thank God that man is talented and hot . He seems to be the hot blonde bimbo in a man version.

Well she should have proceeded with caution! They are both narcissists. Now she knows how it feels considering she ended her last three marriages

Is not about her marriage being on social media. Is just something beyond we the viewers.

Jlo has been herself the whole time, HE walked into it knowing how she is, the blame is on Ben on this one with poor decision making skills, he doesnt like attention but seeks out attention seeking person? Make it sense please

Well, not as far as saying she's my favorite but I really thinks he likes himself, & himself only. He must get himself together before getting in a relationship... why going as far as marrying J-lo again, just give it a try again no formal commitments 😮😢

Some of these comments are so All Knowing! I don’t even believe some of the comments. Someone referred to Ben as a “philander “ wow that’s a lot! A man who readily or frequently enters into casual sexual relationships with women; a womanizer. Do you KNOW him personally?!? No. How do you judge someone good or bad just from the media?!? I don’t know about anyone else but I personally don’t want to live my life under such scrutiny 😢 And I really like Jen Gardner but she’s been married before too. I can’t imagine anyone knowing what all happened in all of her previous relationships.

It's self preservation propelled by fight or flight mentality.

Team jL

Is he taking bad about jlo? What did he say

Yeah. In that respect, he’s no better than Charlie Sheen.

Eu sou JLo

He’s full of 💩

WTF is a Fever Dream sounds stupid. 🙄 lol

He is gross for saying that.

Brutal😂

He walked into this one knowing her history. He says doesn't want attention but seeks out most attention seeking person wver? And he was with Garner with little media attention but that was too boring for him so he chose cheating and alcohol. Come bro, sometimes your got to admit life is crap from your own poor decisions.

You nailed it!!

Adultery and alcoholism is definitely a demonic issue

Profound words and apropos!

That's why Jay-lo broke up with him originally. She should've listened to her gut feelings.

@@gointothedogs4634 you can love someone but be wrong for them. She hung out with Diddy also rumor is the girls hold held his guns...idk ai lies so dont know media lies too. She could've going thru menopause and hes not understanding the moods but life style differences are real so is hygeine lissue differences

👏🏼👏🏼

Agree, she must move on and stay single while figuring out herself. Someday she will meet someone who values her ,and you know, if she never does, that is also okay.

I agree too, she needs to just let it go n be alone for a while

I think it’s clear to everyone that JLO is smart and driven and Ben is a has been who’s just unhappy, no matter who he’s with.

I'm happy Jen got away from him.

He also made disparaging comments about his previous marriage

Totalmente de acuerdo.

Ele precisa restar solo... És um pobre hombre rico 😱

Haci es la cosa.

Si

Amen, Lourdes. Soooooo true.

Yea I agree.. im a JLo fan but she should have never put that personal stuff out that was meant to be for just her n Ben.. she could have used the letters to inspire Her music without putting it all out there .. I dont know what possessed her to do that .. Maybe she felt like she needed to prove to everyone that he really loves her cuz he embarassed her back in the day

Truest comment on here. She’s so self absorbed with ZERO self awarenesss and little care to his feelings about anything. Yes he knew she’s media hungry and craved the spotlight and attention but he probably hoped she might compromise a bit on things if she truly loved him. In which turn I believe he would’ve been willing to compromise and be a little more open with the attention she seeks from media and fans. But thennnn…she went and totally destroyed trust by not only not keeping that book private but making it into some big extravagant tell all of their lives. And he tried to get her not to do it. Of course she could care less about his feelings on the matter. So…now she’s got herself another dee-vorce in the works.

But he could have told her, no. In the documentary it feels like they were already starting to write for the album. But that’s one thing, the whole making a movie or documentary was another. And if he wasn’t comfortable with that, he should have spoken up.

@@lfuentes4098 when he realized, then he did. She could have ( should have imho) pulled the plug on it but she brushed it off, ignored it, She did the same with Jane Fonda's advice against continuing

Beautifully said! He’s rather blatant about the fact that he never wanted people just thumbing thru their deep feelings and thoughts of TWENTY YEARS!!! I can’t believe she even has the clip of Ben finding out about that and the “Pen Affleck” yet then has a clip of her boppinglika little HS’er with her gf’s at a sleepover and saying “Yeah I just keep it in the studio and people can go thru it.” Like .. DID YOU NOT hear what YOUR HUSBAND just said??? Yeah, but you just didn’t care …

Jen is older than Ben.

@@jayannakelley9051 I meant he is no longer young, he is a mature man.

Good take on things

Is that why he was sending her emails & love letters the past 20 years they were apart & with other partners?? No this is on HIM..not HER! HE USED HER 2ND TIME AROUND. HE'S A LOSER!!! F... you like she said!

She dumped him....not the other way round

Add to that, she raced into this marriage straight from A-rod and the cheating rumors surrounding him in their relationship. He was not going to marry her AND he was apparently cheating so she ran straight to Ben and immediately married him. She wasn’t over ARod yet.

Every women has to come in the comments and dog pile on Ben. Lets make it real JLo has been married to 4 and has probably dated dozens of some of the most successful and powerful men in the world when it comes to celebrity status. It seems they had a flirtaious relationship going on for decades away from the public eye. This suited them the one part of their life they could keep private. They probably both lived in a fantasy of sorts with it but then realized when in the public eye it wasnt what they wanted. Ben doesnt seem to love a high profile media persona while JLo feeds of the attention. For them they probably felt it was the perfect mix of two worlds. Normal people cant understand how celebrities and high status people live and date, it is nothing like you could ever experience or imagine. Now just think about how hard is for many of you to keep a relationship going.... now imagine if you had serious baggage, 100s of millions and endless paparazzi following you every second of everyday. Every look, gesture etc anazylazed. Dude wasnt happy and left whats the big deal sometimes fanatasies dont work. It seems to me every man wants JLo in theory but once you have her its not all that maybe shes not all that. Probably the same for Ben and women.

No. She is an AGING star. She is a Norma Desmond.

Exaaaaactly!!!!!

Good for her!!

Yes you are right….that is self love ❤️

Best comment

Some people don’t like confident and empowered women

Yes he did! And he even said that's what he admired about her..her hard work..her continued efforts in face of racial adversities..not to give up! He knew exactly what he was getting when he asked her back into his life!!!!

Ela busca o amor e deve continuar tentando

Not going to happen. She will be living with a man or married again within 2 to 3 years. SHE IS A SERIAL MARRYER!

Amen

Is that why she keeps visiting him at his rental home without her kids??🤔😳🤣😂

He doesn’t need her money. He’s got plenty of his own. Jus sayin…

​@@detrafranks9325she's worth 3 times what he has! And him blaming her for some type of mental abuse (insanity) might be a plot to prove this against her. He needs to support 3 kids through college..lots of money going to Garner. Yea..at his age he better be working his ass off the next 10 years to pay for all this. I wouldn't put it past him to try to sue her for something. I don't know if Cali is a no fault state when it comes to dissolving a marriage?

He is rich beyond anyone’s wildest dreams. He DOES NOT need her money. GET REAL..

@@kittycarlisle8416 he's not that rich! He has 3 kids & an ex to support!! 🥴

O gerçek aşk mı bilmem ,ben için gardner ikinci anne figürü sanırım. Bu adamın oidipus kompleksini atlatması,ne istediğini bulması gerek .

She’s moved on & won’t be taking him back & is worried if he & Jlo divorce he’ll go back to drinking & she’ll have to pick up the pieces again!

Nah...that man's true love is himself.

He cheated on Jennifer Garner with the nanny. So he didn't want her either. He has a problem.

No, he’s not. Lol. Lopez is way more global.

This show does not suck.

What ??? Jlo has hit movies and hit songs...

I actually didn't know who Ben was until he started dating Jlo. Both of them suck though.

Ben affleck is definitely as famous as Jlow and it’s bc he has actual talent. He most certainly did not need Jennifer Lopez to make him more famous. And more so than that he doesn’t care about being famous. She does.