Not gonna lie when she said that when you transition, it’s where you can wear clothes and make up not true you socially transition then medically transitioned

lmao its the crossroads image for 'what outifits you wear as soon as you start transitioning'

Sounds like a dream 🖤

Same here. I've been living the goth girl life since I started transitioning earlier this year and I've loved it.

@@aris_tutorials2951to each their own.

Hell yeah, you go!

Hell yea, thats what I am talking about. Same here. Thanks to a more then supportive best friend I feel like I am going own this thing as much as possible and dont care what others have to say about it. (Nothing against what Ashley said) but I am already planing on buying more normal female clothes. If you go in, go a 100%. My moto.

YES!!!!!

You are going to look so embarrasing but also beautiful! Can't wait for the world to meet you!

Honestly: You will go crazy and question yourself like mad and be super dramatic about literally nothing most of the time. There is no grace in puberty, no matter at which age you go through it. But it's cool, that's just how it's supposed to be. You will see and in like 5+ years you'll understand so much more about life than you ever could. It's hard as hell to transition and that's not only because of transphobia. But on the other end of that long dark night, you find yourself so much further evolved that you ever imagined. Enjoy the rollercoaster until then.

not the duct tape 😭

@@Luna5829 yup. I have permanent breathing issues, shortness of breath and my ribs have chronic pain from years of it. XD but hey. I don’t have boobs anymore so I’m happy I’m still here, boobless! XD

@NotVille_ cry about it

@@DamienXavier1828 at least both mtf and ftm can agree, don't use duct tape for that

@NotVille_ being cringe is a choice

Squirrel!!!! 🐿️

gecgecgecgec

You are in an alien torture factory.

@@tristanbulluss9386 Shhhhh they're happier not knowing. 👽🦎😉

this makes me so happy aww

Sounds like your friend needs mental treatment!

@@Kafilkavich23 ermm

@Kafilkavich23 *Nicolas Cage subtle laugh.gif*

@@theillogicalmindset And what's up with all of you with freakin cartoons as your thumbnails, you're all freaks! Lost and confused! It's pretty dang sad!

Thats awesome, supportive sisters are the best!.

It sounds like your sisters abused you into believing that you should be a girl. Are you sure you realized or were you manipulated into believing in that because they always wanted a third sister? How did they treat you when you were a kid?(I am not asking you to post it. Just think about it. )

I'm a little jealous, my sister is supportive, but too busy with her family to come visit to do my hair 😭

I think being trans has made me realise that I kinda would've liked at least one sister lol. Unfortunately my only sibling is a brother.

@NotVille_ bait

i... i think i needed this

Maybe it helped that I was experimenting with women's clothing before realizing I was trans (only recently lol), but I have this concept of inside and outside clothes. I do tend to gravitate towards slightly slutty clothing, mostly because of the cut of the clothing or the materials used or whatever, and that really helps with gender affirmation for sure and when picking inside clothes I go all out in that direction. But then I also want to look what I perceive to be pretty and have clothes that are more toned down and directly compliment my bodytype, plus develop an actual style that suits me. These clothes don't really satisfy those desires in the same way, but allow me to have confidence and were an important step in my process, that yes I could in fact be a woman. I'm not on HRT yet though, waiting lists blablabla, so my inside clothes (or my "me" clothes is maybe a better term) are an important tool to feel truly feminine at times. But yes, give in to the cringe, if you're new to this mistakes are going to happen and the only way to learn is by trying out what works for you. I also may sound very confident here but it's not always easy.

This gives me hope ❤❤❤

V much in that early stage, and deffo needed to see this

hehe you sound exactly where im at currently. started hormones 2 years 3 months ago, still "boymoding" with tits, just because its what is comfortable, and im not a big fan of change. I also cant really experiment with clothing at work, because i work a manual labour job.

Thanks 🙏🏼

Nice.@@JesusFriedChrist

​@@JesusFriedChristbro, i've never laughed so fucking hard

​@JesusFriedChrist dont praise this guy theyre transphobic

Sorry about nailing you to across i think that went a bit far ​@JesusFriedChrist

This is so cool cuz I'm totally in that phase right now and I'm 48! I am having tons of fun with feeling like I look silly.

I loved my baby trans phase. Guys I may have got hate from guy but women totally understood as I never had the chance to experience it when I was in my teens

i wish it was that easy to just tell ppl to fck off..the way ppl treated me during that time really tested my will to see how much better life could be-it probably was that way for a lot of us

@@dolphin.starbeam Even worse when the biggest doubters are your own family.

Yep, agreed 😔​@@KentDozier

you were literally half the boys in my school band

lmao you gotta admit the mascara on your mustache is the greatest euphoria you can get before T tho, I'm a trans guy too

@NotVille_ what the fuck is wrong with you💀 (edit: to anyone else who sees this, report it like I did, it could be a weird attempt at edginess or it could be for real)

❤❤

That third phase is such a m o o o o d thooo

@@zen_tewmbs Enjoy every minute of it, but you will get attention being the only one in full face makeup whether it's early morning or late night.

u can try experimenting right before showering, that way you can play around and screw up as much as you want, it'll wash away. helps slowly build skills (at least it did for me)

@@yvonnaFBIthat’s quite a good idea actually. I’m pretty decent at makeup, but I might try it myself because god knows I don’t practice enough still being heavily in boy mode most of the time

as I said in another comment "our journey's are are own, and they are sacred. there is no wrong way to transition or be in the world, however there are safer ways to be, please be careful out there"

no but being an asshole is@NotVille_

​@NotVille_Being a bigot certified is

I really hope you get the help you need. Everyone is valid and you have to remember that no matter how old you are it's never too late to transition. I can relate with you on hating parts of our bodies, but what really helped me is seeing how feminine someone can be even with something like that. I.e: xxx There isn't a widely known step by step plan that we've written down every detail of what to do, so let me help you even a tiny bit. By going to therapy, and telling your psychiatrist about wanting to start hrt, you'll be on this path of self discovery for about a year before he tells you "you're too depressed to start hrt right now… try again in 10 months", where you'll have to do it all again and then finally get approved. Then you'll be sent to your doctor to get blood drawn to check everything before being sent to an endocrinologist, where they'll give you a prescription of estrogen that matches your blood so you can have a healthy transition. Then every 3 months you go back to your doctor to get blood drawn to make sure everything is in working order and you repeat this cycle till you don't need to anymore. What nobody talks about is after a certain age, some things are irreversible by hrt alone. Jawline, bone structure, wrinkles, stuff like that. A lot of people end up regretting spending so much time and effort on this all but you need to realize that it's worth it. Hair removal is a step you'll have to go through too, and it'll suck your wallet dry. But you have to remember this isn't a hobby or a new obsession. This is your life and what you make of it. And you've already done so much by coming out. Reach out to the Trevor project if you need help with anything. They'll help you for sure

@@goldendays2585 Thank you very much for the support and information. I've always been someone who takes action, and I'm not great at waiting, but your text gave me the idea to create a sort of calendar to keep track of progress. Honestly, I don't know how to thank you enough for the comment; it meant the world to me at this moment.

If you'd like more sources of videos that are explicitly trans-supportive, since the internet can be awful to sift through as a trans person, I can offer a few of my subscriptions. Jammidodger is a trans guy who makes very wholesome chill videos, mostly about LGBTQ+ things, which can just be very relaxing and supportive. Jessica Kellgren-Fozard makes wholesome and educational videos about LGBTQ+ history, lesbian relationships, and disability. I discovered her channel most recently, and have been binging her videos, I love them so much. Jessie Gender is a trans woman who makes video essays, mostly about modern LGBTQ+ issues, and Star Trek. (Be aware that some of her videos are best avoided during your baby trans phase. Pay attention to Content Warnings for Transphobia, and steer clear. You can always return to them later. I didn't understand this well enough in my baby trans phase, and my mental health payed the price.) Lily Alexandre makes video essays as well, a lot of them having to do with transness, and her videos have been some of the most insightful and emotionally moving that I've ever seen on the topic. (Same advice with Content Warnings, though I feel like her videos are a lot gentler in general.) Mia Mulder also makes video essays (are you noticing a trend in my taste?) about modern politics and transness. (Again, Content Warnings. The intersection of transness and politics is sometimes crushing.) And finally, Philosophy Tube makes videos about philosophy (shocker). She came out as trans shortly before I did. Her coming out video and her earlier video about transphobia were my two pillars in my baby trans phase, when I was grasping to understand myself and my place and my worth. I find all of the philosophy very enriching, and lots of it is very directly applicable to our experience. I hope maybe some of this was helpful, that at least one of these channels can be another source of support and positivity for you, on top of ICKY. We love you, it's all going to be okay.

Everything feels bigger and scarier at the beginning. Finding creators like this who are a bit further into their transition and are willing to look back and give perspective helped me. I don't know if you're a podcast person but Gender Reveal and Call Me Mother both helped with this. But yes, as the previous responder said, there are places to go and people who can help. Connecting with people in your area, if you can, is useful because they'll have the most info on local resources and what legal and medical transition could look like for you. Your local/closest LGBTQ+ centre and regional/state/provincial/national trans organizations are invaluable resources. I wish you well. It's hard, but this is a path many have walked before and many more will in the future

Congratulations on finding yourself! I came out to a very select group of people at 35. I'm not out at my job yet but I am out basically everywhere else. The online trans community can be great to lift you up and help you along. You can do this! Don't let the world defeat your spirit!

As long as you're still here it's going perfectly, if you need some additional encouragement or support during it though we're here fam

Keep on going! You'll get to where you want to be.

all the best for you sweetie

@NotVille_ uuh... Is everything alright with you? That's literally a crime

@NotVille_ sure buddy, sure, now go take your meds and go to sleep, it's past your bed time

saaaame I have some pink but I just buy what I like haha- Glad I'm not the only one sometimes I feel my experiences seem different and so something is wrong, but no, we all find ourselves in our own way ❤ Wish you the best!!!

i think a part of it is that trans women just grow up seeing femininity from the outside and do have this caricature idea, and it takes a while to adjust to what it's actually like to women

People who do that have a strong sexual component to their need to transition. Eventually like a long term girl friend, you settle into the less sexual aspect of it.

I am a cis girl and sincerely is as she said, something that cis girls also go from when they are younger, the difference is that sometimes os parents don't let us or our phase is more "subtle" Like me for example, I was shy, I always liked doing things that were considered boys things(so sometimes I felt like playing the part) and was addicted to anime so I loved cute things, this way my phase was wearing hoddies/inboyway/incuteway. I still don't have much of a style lol, i just wear whatever but yeah its a girl thing, also my closet was full of pink stuff from when I was younger, being a poor teenager girl meant that it took years to get rid of and replace everything( I still have a fuck ton of pink clothes, I didn't even ever like pink lol it was just cause I was a girl and a child)

shes very validating. im not "trans" but i get it and its cool what shhe does

this. i was so so terrified, and then i found out what E could do and what i was missing out on, and i got even more terrified of _not_ doing it... so i tried i never wore dresses, never came out to anyone, never even painted my nails, just same old dysphoria hoodie and suspiciously tight jeans, and fought tooth and nail to get on E of course at this point i pass even in boymode, and im still not out to the majority of people i know. i have no idea what im doing and this sure doesn't feel sustainable, but doing anything about it is just too hard. im stuck in boymoder limbo. but hey, at least my body feels okay.

thats so fucking sad. please try hrt, try to transition. you need to give yourselves a chance. you may think it's hopeless, that you're too ugly, this or that -- please, take it from someone who was certain it was hopeless too, take a chance on yourself.

I'm assuming you're MtF? Take one step at a time. The most important thing when it comes to fear is to slowly show your brain the reality, to replace the expectations with experience. Start for example by shaving your legs/body hair, after that, swapping your shoes for casual ones from the women's section, after that you can try women's jeans, use mascara on your eyes etc. Take the time to get to know yourself.

Warhamster 🐹

​@@klimble🐹⚔️

High waisted flowy pants are an actual dream, they're so amazing. Especially so that they're usually always a lil longer than other women's pants so they like actually fit tall girls as well as short girls who can just cuff them.

@NotVille_ simply educate yourself. see what trans people say

​@NotVille_ mf you really copy and paste this shit under every comment😭😭😭 get a life dawg

@NotVille_ ratio

​@NotVille_touching grass is a choice, its a shame u havent used that chance

Honestly it also really depends where you are at. If you are in the states, places like the Midwest dress very boring most of the time compared to more dense places like New York City where more stand-out fashion is the norm in certain parts of it

Same, a society in which people (especially cis men) think the color or style of clothing a woman like wearing gives them the right to physically assault them is profoundly twisted and immoral, so f*k them, pink and proud here.

So true. I mostly wear pastels. I've gone out in a few goth looks but people prefer my pastel looks

@NotVille_keep that to yourself

​@NotVille_ wanna have a tissue?

There’s no right way to be trans ❤

you aren't hurting anyone, sweetie! Just close your eyes and ask yourself "what would I _really_ want to wear, do, go, whatever- if the world was a safer and kinder place?" I know it's hard, but don't project the shame inwards; it's society that we should be disappointed in for letting our fellow trans folk down. hang in there! - sincerely, a cis ally

Welcometo the club! I just made cookies :3

@@snjert8406 We all are heartbreakers, all of our thoughts are evil and all our good deeds are filthy rags. Jeremiah 17:9 - The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it? Mark 7:21 - For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, murders, Romans 1:21 - Because that, when they knew God, they glorified him not as God, neither were thankful; but became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish heart was darkened. Isaiah 64:6 But we are all as an unclean thing, and all our righteousnesses are as filthy rags; and we all do fade as a leaf; and our iniquities, like the wind, have taken us away. We all were: Psalms 51:5 - Behold, I was shapen in iniquity; and in sin did my mother conceive me. Our Life Is Like Unto A Race 1 Corinthians Chapter 9 24 Know ye not that they which run in a race run all, but one receiveth the prize? So run, that ye may obtain. Why are rich and famous depressed? lets list the reasons; they`re trans, faking life 100% daily their master is lucifer, the father of lies. they have no looks, needs to fake these, they have no talent, needs to fake these. they are famous only a moment. they are rich only for moment. To have the moment on stage, wicked and sick ritual must be performed. They are masons in masonry. Nothing`s real, only illusions. They have it harder , to give their soul over to CHRIST and return back HEAVEN (Luke 18:25 KJV and Mark 10:25 KJV) true Christians are born again = new creatures in CHRIST, able to no longer sin and able to understand GOD perfectly. We are to make a conscious choosing between GOD = CHRIST and mammon = lucifer. Deuteronomy 30:19 I call heaven and earth to record this day against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life, that both thou and thy seed may live: Joshua 24:15 And if it seem evil unto you to serve the LORD, choose you this day whom ye will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell: but as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD. we since birth live in the devils kingdom, this earth here, it shall be created anew, but not yet, still is the church time = still time for souls to get saved and be raptured up. until we come to repentance and born again, we remain living according to the devil. devils expectations to us are: lie/deceive kill destroy remain wicked sinner who praise death daily. because devil is the father of lies: John 8:44 Ye are of your father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it. GOD `s expectations to us: come to repentance come out from BABYLON born again live holy do the will of your heavenly father. Matthew 9:13 But go ye and learn what that meaneth, I will have mercy, and not sacrifice: for I am not come to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance. John 3:7 Marvel not that I said unto thee, Ye must be born again. Revelation 18:4 And I heard another voice from heaven, saying, Come out of her, my people, that ye be not partakers of her sins, and that ye receive not of her plagues. 1 Peter 1:16 - Because it is written, Be ye holy; for I am holy. Matthew 7:21 Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven.

I LOVE pastels

i'd love to be a trans mother or something n guide you :3 !! Thing is, my best advice is to not sweat seeming cringe or trying to mask yourself a certain way for approval.. please just be who you are. be yourself. are you autistic? Well that's ok. be unapologetically cringe. fuck what others think and do u!

I am experiencing a similar thing! I realized at the start of this past summer, after finally entering the real world again and being confronted with people and concepts that were different from what I was used to, that my passive comments about my gender identity, clothing goals, physique goals, etcetera..., that I am trans; whereas most friends I have that are Trans realized they were Trans early on. I have socially transitioned among my friends and some of my family, but none of the core members of my family. Thankfully, I was seemingly given-very fortunately-decent physical features which allow me to pass as androgynous at the very least. Best wishes to you, friend! You got this. You are a beautiful human. ✨ Cheers.