The funny thing is, i feel the same as a cis woman with my straight friends cuz I’m queer. Sometimes it feels almost wrong if we’re all getting changed or something, i don’t wanna be weird as the only gay girl

hundreds of trans women are killed or commit suicide every year, so clearly women take this risk on just to get their rocks off. sensible.

U first problem is Calling it cis woman. Its just woman.

Love the new hair, Icktopus! As for the "Would you get naked in front of... etc.", Most people only want to get naked in front of their partner, and I've just realised what I have just said as I'm typing this and have remembered what you do, and I am SO sorry, please don't kill me! <3

I love your new hair!

I pass but that doesnt make me love myself and thats depressing

Sssoooooo Spider-F1nn and Icky Jane when?

Omg I feel this so much!!!! I struggle with internalized transphobia a lot due to the content I consumed when I was younger (tip for babytrans, do *not* read the comments under transphobic posts!!!). Due to my constant consumption of transphobia, as well as enforced masculine upbringing, being in public becomes a nightmare full of anxiety and jealousy. As early as middle school I remember seeing the other girls and thinking "look at them, they're all pretty, you'll never be like them no matter how hard you try." No matter if at school, at a dance, in band, everywhere I looked was a reminder that I'm destined not have what they have. Even though most of my friends were girls, it was always a distant friendship, even guys never were platonic with me since I'm bi. People tolerated me, but I never had anyone I could come to for support, or go hang out with. Nowadays whenever I see girls hanging out together, I get sad knowing I never did that. To this day I struggle to find any semblance of my authentic self buried under enforced social standards. Ever since I could remember I wasn't allowed to be anything remotely feminine. No being exited, no liking cute things, no dancing, no dressing up, no cheeryness, just be male and feel numb. I also struggle with thinking I'm a creep like you described. No matter what I always see myself as a big dumb thundering oaf who intrudes women's spaces for my sick fantasies. A few of my friends have suggested doing a girl's night out, and even though they're completely accepting I feel like an imposter who doesn't belong with them. This past spring/summer I did drum corps (touring competitive marching band) and they were supportive of trans people, so I was able to be out while there. Despite that I felt like I wasn't worthy of being treated as trans. I felt greedy for asking for shower accommodations like the other trans members. One time I was assigned a private time block in the female showers, but I literally didn't go in until one of my female friends checked that it was empty. I felt like an ogre whenever I wore a sports bra because because every woman in the hornline was built smaller and more feminine than me. I ended up getting sent home early for SH. Sorry for the rant. I just want to not be scared anymore. I'm tired of this hypermasculine body. I just want it all to go away.

After 4 months into my transition, I've had beautiful acceptance from almost every CIS woman I know or have met. Would I disrobe in front of them? Probably not...

one off the best videos so far ngl

I'm an egg please help me :')

Meow❣️

7:09 got a masterkey on my balls and a red dot sight on my shaft for close quarters combat

I have a cis female friend and she just doesn't think about that at all At the start of my journey when I didn't pass in the slightest she just started to change in the room whit me so I instinctively started to leave and she asked me where am I going like she is so awesome

AFAB, Never felt comfortable changing with anyone in the same room, especially considering I had too many male hormones(naturally) so hair growth was abnormal and dark since early primary school? Changing rooms were just very judgy, especially when you had older people in there as well like at public pools. Still don't know if kids or adults are more brutal with their opinions.

It's giving "Go get 'em Tiger"

THE TITLE OF THIS VIDEO OUT OF CONTEXT IS INSANE

"F1NN5TER does not own a cat..." genuinely terrifying

this should be called scarY cis women

So icky wants me to ask my friends to shower with me and talk about my hog with my other fellow ladies. ✅ Got it.

I just had a hangout with some friends this weekend and was feeling a lot of this. This was healing!! 🫶

MTF, 57y.o., HRT since May 4, 2023. Two of my very dearest friends are cis women. I would not feel comfy showering with either of them (this might be a generational thing, too). I have, however stripped down to my undies in a Torrid dressing room with my big Trans-sister, when she took me shopping for the first time. There is no way I could be comfy stripping down with my Bestie, a cis male (mostly because I want to jump his bones) but I don't want to make him uncomfy. Being Trans-Fem is a very different experience, especially early on in the process.

Your eyes look really good! The hair dye too

That is a healing video

Holdup I could get this EXACT fit.. I live in birmingham

Oh the need to decide between Mary Jane and Gwen Stacey

I'm two months on HRT, trying as hard to present femenine without looking like a man in a dress (which, I feel like I just can't), and yeah. It feels weird having girl friends treat me closer to a woman than they used to, speciaully this early, I feel like they're lying. I have this uncontrollable fear that when I leave the room everyone can finally stop pretending, and they use male pronouns still so it's not like a full woman treatment thing, I just feel like "you weren't nice to me before, why are you trying now?".

The duality of these 2, Finn with the red bull and Ashley with the Huel

love you two.

I totally agree with Ashley’s point that most of your cis fem friends probably don’t care at all, I had a female friend at work before I came out and I didn’t even come out to her, I just started wearing normal bras (to where most people wouldn’t even notice) and she immediately started calling me by female pronouns completely unprompted. It didn’t change anything about our relationship other than she seemed to actually be a bit more comfortable around me. Having a friend that you really care about and really want them to be okay with who you are, just immediately do that is so affirming it’s crazy. Her unwavering support and completely unchanged treatment of me as soon as she found out how I identified is one of the only reasons I felt comfortable transitioning socially at all. She is pretty much the only reason that I ever felt comfortable going out and dressing in feminine clothes and coming out to people

Secondary problem, don't have any friends to lose the brain rot, cis trans or whatever gender

See, I’ve felt all of these things with everyone since I can remember. Now I’m transitioning, I feel way more comfortable around men now and slightly more comfortable around women

Omgg yessss TOT I have a new female friend and just feel like a creep T_T

I feel seen. Thanks Icky 🖤🏳️‍⚧️

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Great topic. There is so much I can say. I was raised amab, and am a bit older than you. One of my closest female friends and I had a falling out when I started seriously transitioning...she hit me with some jk rowling like comments, but then came around, but the friendship was never the same after that. My current bf, is a lesbian cis woman, and we're like siblings. I'm also close with a sister who is an A+ ally. It took some work for both of us the let the relationship evolve from brother/sister to sister/sister but it's great for both of us. Some of my straight guy friends pre transition are okay with me post transition, but that's because the prospect of hooking up was never on the table. It's harder to have newer platonic friendships with straight guys.

I can do compliments, holding hands, and sleepovers however I don't feel comfortable undressing around anyone at all

2 of my cis friends just started complimenting each others eyes and I fully thought they were about to kiss but it was platonic

I was about to say that I’m cis and everything about showering with and kissing you’re female friends isn’t normal but then I remember that I’m a lesbian and all my friends are trans guys and so I don’t usually have a normal friendship with a girl. I can’t shower with my friends those are my bros. That’s weirddd

I'm cis but i tottally relate to feeling weird around other women changing, probably because I'm bi. Like I'll have a friend just start changing in front of me so we can go out and I'll be in the corner just staring at wall lmao, even in elementary school it felt weird changing with all the other girls.

Hey, great video. I totally agree. I'm like 7 months in now still definitely don't look like a woman but everyone well most people know at work I'm trans and one of my bosses always greets me with a hug and I know she doesn't mean anything but it still feels weird though like as a man the only woman I hug is my girlfriend or mom that's it well and sisters but nobody outside of my family. All the other stuff you said like hand holding, showering and all that? Yea I don't want another person showering with my woman because I'll think something is going on. So with that same mind set I feel like others would also misread it. Yea brain rot lol. Anyways good video, much better then last one. Keep it up 😊

Idk I felt more comfortable after bottom surgery when it came to changing in public places

I definitely feel seen and i love your new hair

This puts words to thoughts that I could not figure out and it makes me feel very seen

Fin's a Homey Hopper lmao

your local british billionaire hate group leader and wizard book author is very upset about this video

Loving the new hair it's so cute ❤

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I feel sad, and I want to cry but I am cramming for exams and don’t have time to be emotionally and it is not fair.

Called imposter syndrome… I sympathize with discomfort.