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I think what people forget is that Billie was 14 years old when she blew up. She was a damn child. And she hit 18/19 and was like “Cool now I’m an adult so I’m going to dress in a way that emphasizes my womanhood” and people want to say all sorts of stuff about this transition. She was SO SMART in the way she dressed and avoided being sexualized as a child.

People do realize that you can love women, without being romantically interested in them?

I just hate that people talk about breaking down gender norms but get pissed when someone who is either straight or closeted actually does that. It's so messy

I'm gonna need to reference this video every single time someone sees a "masculine, tomboy" woman, and insists she's secretely a lesbian, a transman or nonbinary (which is, a lot). The way you choose to express yourself and your gender has nothing inherent to do with your sexuality or gender identity. By fixating on those things, we're actually perpetuating gender stereotypes whether we realize it or not.

Another example is Avril Lavigne - which is a really big inspiration for billie too. In her first album she was a tomboy teen and then on her third she loved the color pink and expressed her femininity more. Many people were bashing her too complaining she became another Britney. She was still growing up and expressing herself.

I used to be "one of the boys" when I was younger. I hated all that was feminine and made an effort to show that "I'm not like them". I was treated with respect, I was treated like an equal. But then, I started to become more comfortable in my body and I started to wear t-shirts and skinny-jeans instead of hoodies and sweatpants, and everything changed. I was no longer included in the group of guys, they started whispering stuff to eachother around me, they stopped inviting me to stuff. I was now treated as an accessory, as opposed to a member. They started flirting with me, groping me, treating me as a subhuman. I was no longer looked at with respect, but rather, disgust. All because I stopped hiding my body.

Another reason why society demonizes hyperfeminine women: femininity is very classist. To be feminine it costs money and special education. The most popular girls in my school maybe weren't hyperfeminine like Sharpay, they always wore the trendiest and expensive clothes. They were what girls were "expected" to look like. And those girls were horrible to any girls who couldn't reach their level with fashion, with pop culture knowledge, hairstyles, hairdyes, nails, shoes etc. So a lot of this hyperfemininity used to be associated with spoiled rich princesses

Finally a girl who admits to being a 'pick me' in the past. Everyone else just talks about girls they knew that are like that, but tgey never admit to being one or open up about how they grew as people and got out of it. As a former nlog, I find this refreshing

this is so out of topic, but am i the only one who has noticed that more and more social commentary youtubers is crediting and publicly supporting other channels. yeah yeah i know its the bare minimum but it just makes me happy

I relate in the way that I am a "Tom boy" and I have never felt safe presenting feminine. I like to look pretty but mostly unwanted comments keep a lot of us scared to even show our bodies. I can't take a creep talking to me at the store I can't imagine what Billie has to deal with and other women celebrities.

i don’t think billie is really queerbaiting by saying “i love girls”? i couldn’t care less about her sexuality, and for the most part, we’ve already established that sexuality is fluid. she isn’t really feeding into any negative bisexual stereotypes, unlike to the extent that a more obviously queerbaiting bi song like “i kissed a girl” or something else does. so it seems like a harmless caption to me (i haven’t seen the music video though but my point still stands), especially as girls are known to be more touchy/huggy even platonically than guys usually do. however her problematic boyfriend is an issue as she considers herself an ally, but their relationship is weird on his part too, being the large age gap, it’s concerning at best.. and her random aave usage and mocking asian accents was uncalled for. hopefully they’ve both changed since then

This is also a big issue with men. Is a guy likes to paint his nails, the color pink, cover imperfections on their skin it is considered queer. Now I see people just being unashamed of what they like. Your preferences shouldn’t be put in box.

Salem is beyond stunning. She’s like a princess wtf 🥺

9:50 I also have a problem with this notion tbh. Femininity doesn't always mean showing skin. You can be feminine and wear baggy stuff. I understand though. The traditional 'feminine' look isn't that.

When me and my sister saw Billie Eilish being more feminine we weren’t really mad we were just surprised. We loved how she looked and it just open my eyes. I feel much more comfortable wearing masculine clothes in public but I feel so beautiful when I stand infront the mirror with feminine clothing and I felt confused. But I’m just gonna wear what makes me happy lol.🌝

I definitely went through a "tomboy" phase where I was like "eww pink, dresses, ect". Now I'm older I realise it was stupid and I don't care anymore. Girly things still aren't my favourite but I don't hate them.

I understand why people are mad at her racist boyfriend but she shouldnt apologize for his actions no one should ever apologize for someone else mistakes

ngl as a queer black enby, its frustrating that yt ppl especially are just getting angry at billie of all things, queer baiting, when it is never really clear when it comes to such personal things like sexuality. if anything, im more frustrated at how ppl aren't holding billie accountable of her taking from blk culture and using aave, whilst associating with racist ppl, ie her boyfriend. but obvs for yt folk, that isn't their main concern since it doesn't affect them at all lol

im a 14 year old girl that's been having issues with this as well. it's a bit similar to went penny has been through, but different. i wore baggy clothes because i liked the style and because i actually wanted girls to notice me. i never had a lot of female friends because i would end up liking them and they would say "you're too feminine" or "you're not really my type of girl" meaning i didnt dress or appear masculine enough. i love wearing makeup, baggy clothes, revealing clothes and i adore long nails. at the end of the day i'm a still a young woman and i feel like a lot of the time not even women support who i am.

When I was a tomboyish kid people made fun of me. Girls didn't want to be my friend because I was too "boyish", and boys didn't fully accept me into their social circles because I was a girl. The first time I cut my hair really short I had people say things like "oh but your long hair was so pretty why would you cut it?" When my peers started wearing makeup, they tried to pressure me into wearing it too. (I'm autistic cannot wear makeup because it triggers my sensory issues). I have always felt uncomfortable and judged by others when I presented more masculine and I felt the need to keep my more "boyish" interests to myself to avoid mockery from others. I present more feminine now, and while I am okay presenting this way, I feel as though it isn't really my choice. Ultra feminine women are vilified by society for being "vapid" and "trying too hard", but I'd also like add that masculine/gnc women are not treated any better. There is still an immense amount of pressure for women to perform femininity, and those who don't/can't are often treated as deviant or wrong.

I love how touched on how POC cultures and the gender expressions in said cultures got buried thanks to colonialism, and are now being brought back under a different label.

It's sad that Penny and I had the exact same experience. It was always, "You're one of the guys, you don't count." When we do count.

Also when it comes to gender conformity and stereotypes, viking men were also notorious for wearing makeup and perfume and being very well-groomed. A lot of men today see vikings as this symbol of raw and hard masculinity, but their masculinity and gender expression were pretty different than ours.

if you assume someone's sexuality by their clothes, i.e if a man was to wear a dress and u automatically label him as gay or bisexual, is this not the same issue everyone faces when choosing to explore different gender expressions? Like people try to insult men who are more feminine, using gay as an insult, so what is the difference between someone trying to attack a person and everyone else making assumptions, either way you are labelling them and their sexuality due to the way they present themselves (through clothing etc). I think people should be free to dress as they please, whether or not you mean harm, ur taking steps back, proving to those who don't agree w being more fluid w femininity and masculinity, that clothes do define sexuality, when this is exactly what we are trying to disprove. One example being the Harry Styles situation.

God. Thank you. Thank you for this. As an ultra-feminine woman who has been ultra-feminine *my entire life* (I never went through a "tomboy" phase, even when I was young!) I am so fking tired of being automatically assumed to be evil, catty, bitchy, a gossip, a bad friend, etc....JUST because of the way I prefer to present myself. It's wild that loving makeup or fake eyelashes or long nails means we're put under such a minimizing and demeaning label. Femininity isn't bad and evil and being feminine, no matter who you are, shouldn't be something so demonized. Thank you. ♥

Just a comment from the sideline, as I am not really your target audience: I am 48 years old. When I was a young person, things were - on the surface at least - less complicated. You were basically pressed into your gender stereotype mold and that‘s where you stayed. No matter how untrue to yourself that felt. I grew up as a classic tomboy girl. I hated wearing skirts and girly clothes and anything pink or glittery. I wanted short hair. I hated dolls and preferred to play with toy cars and collect soccer cards. I preferred boys as friends. Until today I still prefer the friendship of men and have problems with the social rules of interaction among women. The way they behave and treat each other is strange to me. If I were a younger woman today, maybe I would have had the chance to explore this side of me further. Young people and the way they stand up against strict binary mindframes is amazing. It complicates life but at the same time it is liberating because it challenges people to really look at themselves, who they are and who they want to be.

female-created content on youtube is so introspective, analytical, aesthetically pleasing and well-edited. it's only recently that I've been trying to watch more female-created content because I realized I didn't have a single woman in my subscription list and whew. y'all are so distinctly cool. salem, mina le, chad chad, karolina zebrowska, micarah tewers, simply nailogical, bernadette banner, olisunvia. my fave youtube girlies.

I use “Mary sue” for fictional characters I find over-powered, I never thought or knew someone would describe a real person as a Mary Sue, that’s weird.

I grew up during the taTu era. I’m old lol. Nevertheless, my years allow me to say yes, yes, YES to this whole video essay. I have a ten year old girl who we are trying to raise without any of the bias of our own upbringing, as both my husband and I reject the rigidity of own upbringings. My husband grew up being stigmatized. I grew up being stigmatized. We share our experiences with our daughter as appropriate as she grows, and have organically grown (so far) an open-minded, beautiful little girl. She has cheered for every Pride commercial and show she’s seen this month, begged for a “Yuri on Ice!” Poster for her wall (to go next to the BTS one, because “Mommy! Yurio and Beka are my OTP!”) She sat her friend down the other day when she said, “why do you want to wear pink? It’s so girly!” And proceeded to explain why she found the comment hurtful and that colors didn’t have genders, “they’re fluid! They can be anything!” My point is this: how we raise our children matters. The content we expose our children to matters. The questions we answer, and how we do, matter. Being open, being honest, and being willing to have the uncomfortable conversation with our children matter. To all those wondering (and that have made it this far) I’m 41. I was born in 1980. I’ve seen more than I want to admit. But I see my daughter and how we raise her as our most important contribution to society. And to all the “kids” reading this? Don’t give up on your parents. Ask the tough questions. Force the issue. Be calm, be measured, and be a teacher when you need to be. Accept you may not be able to change minds, but aim to change HEARTS. No one is a lost cause if you don’t let them be. And as for Billie, and Harry, and male Korean makeup norms, etc? Dear Flying Spaghetti Monster, leave it alone. Leave them all alone. Every time I see a tweet or someone shaming someone for this, I want to ragequit the internet. Srsly. Again, amazing job. Brava.

Salem and Penny my FAVorite people. Yall are so honest and say what needs to be said. I have the utmost respect for you both

People forcing their standards of wearing makeup onto others: NOT ok🚫 People using makeup to express themselves: OK ✅

The idea of only a gay or queer man can wear a dress is an example of how we still want to continue with stereotypes, keeping straight men in a box that they cannot get out of. Controlling what they can and cannot do, say or wear.

I'm native Maya and our ancient Maya kings and queens sought to look like our maize god, Hun Ishim, who even though is male, embodies femininity, fertility, and ideal beauty. 🌽✨

I'm wondering if anyone else had a similar experience as me. I can clearly see now how "I Kissed a Girl" is problematic. As a middle schooler, I LOVED that song so much, and I think it's because it was the first time in my life that I saw attraction to other women as an option. It took me 7 more years to realize I'm bi

Why are we were wondering about her sexuality what we should be worried about is the toxic men she has close relationships with (not saying that she's dating this lastest guy) but this guy she's hanging around is an explicit racist/homophobe online up to only 4 years ago and as a queer POC fan, it feels like she's betraying us.

It's 2021 and some women still think girls expressing feminity are a "inferior" type of girl. This type of internalized mysoginy bothers me so much.

OK BUT SALEMS VOICE IN THE INTRO IS SO SOOTHING

It takes a big person to realize that they contributed to the misunderstanding of another due to personal insecurity and internalized misogyny. Big ups to Salem’s sister. I love that now we are seeing the nuance of the human experience in these feminine and masculine bodies or presentations we possess. GREAT JOB SALEM!!!!!

Imagine growing up as a kid having the whole world watching you. I could never

Growing up as a girly girl, I felt so universally hated. I was the only kid in my class that wore pink or dresses/skirts. Thank you for explaining some of this

i would love to see a video from you about the male gaze, i think it goes hand in hand with female stereotypes and women getting demonised by men and all that

As a gay woman I get the exact same vibes from Billie's 'Lost Cause' video and the way she advertised it as I did from Katy Perry's 'I kissed a girl'. I still do think it's queerbaiting, just tailored to the 2021 audience. Obviously there's nothing wrong with exploring your sexuality, but this argument can be made for Katy Perry's queerbaiting too.

I had a VEEEERY different experience growing up as a "tom boy" and still do. One thing about that "not like other girls" trope is that you can't be TOO masculine because that is a big no no. Anyone who wasn't a child made fun of me for not being girly, were extra aggressive and disrespectful or just straight up said that that was something wrong with me because I didn't presented feminine enough (aka not wearing dresses, not having "female interests", being loud, etc ). This of course until I hit my unfortunately very early puberty and started being heavily sexualized, so the behavior changed from calling names and aggressive judgement to grooming and "no one is going to like/want you" type of manipulation. I am the same age as Billie (and I really really love her music) and I still don't do certain things like make up, heels and well, shaving, but it doesn't matter if I'm wearing short shorts and cropped tops or baggy clothes, I still get hate for "not taking enough care of myself" or something worse so yeah, the exact opposite of being treated with more respect

At first I couldn’t decide if it was queer baiting. But when I look at it, it does seem like girls having fun. But if a guy did that, everyone would immediately say he’s gay. I think peoples issue is she has said she is straight multiple times and is then kinda kissing up in girls. Personally it doesn’t seem like an issue to me. As long as she isn’t using queerness as profit and stuff I don’t think it’s a huge issue? Sadly there’s a lot of gray area. If she ends up saying she’s straight again, then idk how to feel lol. Honestly we should let people live 🤷‍♀️ *ALSO if we listen to the lyrics it’s not talking about liking girls or anything. She’s just having fun.*

The impression I got from Billie was always positive, I had no problem with her femininity or masculinity and I applauded her for doing what she wanted! But the “i love girls” captioned post on her insta with pics from the lost cause music video really hit. I felt like she was using those words coupled with those pics to get a reaction, but at the same time I don’t feel entitled to know anyone’s sexuality because that’s none of my business, but it felt like very poor timing right at the start of pride month and with the last slide being her and another girls booty I’m just not sure where her intentions were at. I wouldn’t have thought this until she made this post, but it does seem like she used the sleepover stereotype. I really don’t know what to think because I really like her for a lot of reasons, and I still don’t feel entitled to know her sexuality but I also feel like something needs to be addressed. Just my two cents as a queer woman, not meant to hate, really enjoyed the video Salem you always push out really thoughtful content :)

an issue needed to be talked about and salem delivered

The thing I personally felt so conflicting is how you cannot dress up and be a girly girl and considered to be intelligent. I always try to dress up the worst when I have an interview or quiz just to except me as an intelligent passionate women. Its not only that, I always saw women who dress better than me as low witted. Now I realised that its not them It was me.

I used to be "pick me" too, only we called it hipster. I used to judge feminine women and hated makeup, heels, etc. I used to feel "guilty" for liking feminine things (guilty pleasures), but as soon as I realized that my mindset was internalized misogyny and genderroles, and I broke out of that, my life became so much better

Just to add, humans never stop learning, growing and evolving - adults never have everything figured out either.

There’s something to be said about not forcing celebrities to come out. However, as a sapphic woman watching the Lost Cause music video made me a little sick to my stomach - it was an obvious use of feminine bodies as set pieces to billie’s song - the big issue here is that her “aesthetic” and the way she framed that music video was through using the male gaze and fantasy of what a “girls sleepover” is like - pillow fights, “exploration” ect - even though she produced it, it still reads like a music video made in the male fantasy/male gaze. In most music videos, women’s bodies are used as set pieces (not like backup dancers, just women existing and being pretty/sexualized and nothing else) and Billie did exactly that in this music video. She used these women and played with the idea of lesbian sexuality specifically with this song - because the song is being sang to a man it feels like the women set pieces and possible lesbian sexuality are used as revenge on the man she’s singing to. In the music video, she doesn’t even often look at the women around her, but only to the camera and makes chemistry with that - with the viewer and the man she’s singing to in the song. No I don’t think that we should force celebrities to reveal their sexuality - everyone deserves privacy, but when statements like “I love girls” are made in response to criticism for queerbating from the community affected - it only feels more confirming and a half-assed response. It’s not about her presenting as feminine, it’s about her recycling these music industry tropes (women set pieces, performative bisexuality) only after she started presenting more feminine and using the queer relationships/aesthetic/community to appear more interesting - perhaps because her branding is changing to be more industry aligned (feminine/sexualized) rather than her original masculine-but-soft branding. I mean this isn’t the only shady stuff she needs to be held accountable for (using aave & black culture, & dating a 29 year old racist homophobe). I just thought the topic of queerbating might need a sapphic voice to explain why it felt toll so icky and queerbate-y.

I am non-binary and someone expressing themselves in a gender nonconformist way IS NOT QUEERBAITING AT ALL. It is literally someone just existing as a person. I have noticed that liberals who want to destroy these conservative boxes fall into the same trap of putting everything in boxes. I think that is how our culture promotes reality and is something that needs to be unlearned by people who actually care about progress and not being in trend with "wokeness".

Hearing that “just because legally you are an adult, doesn’t mean mentally you are” made me feel a bit better about myself.. I’m 22 and I still feel like a 19 year old trying to still figure out where I need to go in life~ this whole video made me feel more confident in myself and my fashion. Like for instance I kept hearing my mother say “you’re not wearing a dress” at a wedding I was recently at.. it made me feel like what I wore wasn’t good enough (even though it was a nice smart casual with jeans and a jacket). But watching this video made me feel like it’s okay to wear pants as smart casual…. Thank you Salem for putting these videos up. Because they are the truth and it needs to be said.

When are y'all gonna stop considering what a woman wears/looks to be a statement lol we're just trying to go on with our busy day.

Now I notice a lot of hate towards "tomboys". Just because I like dinosaurs, heavy metal, sci fi movies and baggy trousers doesn't mean I hate other women 😒

This conversation is frustrating to me. I was a tomboy growing up then lived in baggy clothes until I was around 18. The ONLY reason I took off my hoody, was because I was encouraged to do so (on a hot day) by my boyfriend at the time. I was terrified to be seen in a T-shirt, and I remember the day vividly. It was because he gave me confidence and started to encourage me to like myself a bit more. Since then, I have become more feminine over time, but still most comfy in jeans and a cosy top. It strikes me that Billie is doing just that, growing, learning to love herself, exploring her style… the problem for her is that she has the eyes of the world on her while she does it. Do we not remember how badly this can go for people? Britney? We all need to back a ways off and let her do her thing. She is an absolute queen and a talent for the ages.

Your sister’s experience is so relatable and it made me tear up. I’m in my late 20s and it took me way too long to realize that I was a “pick me girl” and the internalized misogyny behind it. I’m still learning and hearing other people’s similar experiences really is invaluable.

🌺💖🌺 I used to pretend i didn't like pink. Then i let that go & wear it + ruffles despite of my size. I LOVE Glitter !! I Love Pink !! I LOVE RUFFLES !! I LOVE Purple & Lavender !! 🌺💖🌺💖🌺💖🌺💖🌺💖🌺💖🌺💖🌺💖🌺💖🌺💖🌺

please NEVER stop doing vids like thissss!!!! i love them:)

I SOOOOO relate to Salem's sister. I was also "tomboy" growing up and alot of my friends were talked down about (people calling them h**s, s**ts, etc) so it bended my look on how women should dress act etc. I was also one of those girls that "didn't count" in those male convos and I feel like it did have a big impact on my younger perception of other women and it bothers me so much now that I was like that!

I noticed recently that when I started to open up more and act more like myself at work, I get less respect at times compared to when I would keep to myself and express less of my feminine side. it's very sad.

My 9 months son wears pink socks and I plan to expand his wardrobe with pastel colors. We are rebels in our family.

With celebrities, it's especially hard to tell what their true feelings and wants are because we never know what their managers are pushing them to do, what clothes/styles/etc. were their idea or not. Celebrities get fed lines for interviews and made to sign contracts with things they might not 100% like, so that ads to the complexity.

I used to be "one of the boys" and "not like other girls", then I realized I'm a man

The end of your sister's segment made me tear up. It's so crazy how internalized this is for all of us and it just hit me how frustrating it's been making me feel all this time. Its heartbreaking but so unifying to know every girl born into this world goes through this, since growing up its always such an isolating experience (since the whole issue always pits women against each other). Thank you both so much for your commentary. Hearing this issue being so articulately deconstructed has helped me understand my own experience with it so much. It makes me feel so much empathy and love towards all women/fem people, knowing that this is a battle we're fighting together rather than alone. I wish everyone the best, and I hope you all can recover and find yourselves through this crazy world we're living through

It reminds me of Ta-Ku and how they pretended to be lesbians for the wrong reason such as the male gaze and making more money. Which is why no one can ever see a women and women being together romantically because they think it’s for the men :(

YESS QUEEEN HAS POSTED AGAIN😭♥️

I don’t think this situation has to do anything with femininity or masculinity. The statement itself is vague and bold (on purpose?most likely ), the meaning behind it could’ve been innocent (in terms of liking girls in a non sexual/romantic manner) just displayed with the intention of also getting the attention of the 🏳️‍🌈 community. With a team like the one Billie has, I doubt that her and or her team didn’t know what the public’s reaction was possibly going to be by posting that post (especially in current times) Could’ve been a market strategy that backfired.

I can be all 4 stereotypes depending on the day i really dont like being put in a box

I love ur serious videos. I feel this, I was the girl with lots of friends who always wore makeup and dresses, and I had long hair. Well as an adult I wear T-shirts I have no friends and I have a shaved head. I get so many questions about why I don't dress up, or why I'm not "girly" anymore. It's honestly exhausting. I'm just me, and that's all I ever want to be...

oh wow i don't think i've ever been this early to a video like ever. anyywayyss, i love ur vids and i absolutely love the way you approached the whole billie situation. i hope u have a great day, MWAH

I love this video. You explained these topics so well. I used to be a pick me girl for male validation as well even though deep down I knew how much I loved “feminine” things such as make-up and dress. I’ve changed a lot through out the past few years and learned that I should not be ashamed of the stuff I like and enjoy and be more comfortable with who I actually am.

when i first came out (a bit over a year ago) i always thought i was too feminine or basic to be queer. i was scared that other queer people wouldnt know im a part of the community too. i changed my style and cut my hair which i later regret. i still miss looking as feminine as i used to ever since i cut my hair. i just wish that people would believe me if i told them im queer even tho im feminine and in a heteronormative relationship (kinda since im bigender). i seriously hate the stereotypes among the lgbtq+ community. i just want to be my feminine omnisexual bigender self without anyone doubting it.

We Stan avatar the last airbender not having these stereotypes 👏 Edit: I’m thinking about moving to mars

Thank you for making this when I was a kid I labeled as the “ tomboy” having guys friends them never seeing me as a female. Until I started to become more feminine they distanced themselves or stay but only bc they want to umm let’s say date. This hit closer to home without me realizing making me see yes I changed and bc of that I’ll have things come at me but in the end that doesn’t matter. I like being me and I am different my culture is different ( Native and Hispanic) I’ll figure myself out a long process and no labels can define that. 🥰

Your sisters story REALLY resonated with me, I was never a “pick me” girl but I definitely was a tomboy and had the “not like other girls” mindset until like 6th grade. I was scared to try and be feminine, since it felt like I was giving in to the standards. On top of that most of my friends who were girls never lasted long. I was friends with mostly guys. This whole idea of girls who were feminine were “bad was kind of reinforced”. It wasn’t unlit recently that I wore full makeup for the first time at a dance and I was surprised to look in the mirror and feel… FINE I liked the way I looked, I would never wear makeup on a daily basis but for that one night it was really nice. I’m a senior now and I’ve recently been experimenting with my style and trying out overalls and even a skirt (younger me would be shocked) and I’ve had a GIANT boost in self confidence that I’ve never felt before. I love my overalls so much I wish I could wear them all the time. I was terrified to wear the skirt I bought but once I did I actually really liked it. Don’t let yourself get trapped in any box you put yourself in, you should always feel free to wear/do whatever you want. And if your scared just go for it, it can really help you.

Honestly the real problem imo is people being hateful in general, like nothing you do is ever good enough. People's judgments are too shallow from what they can see even though there's often a different story behind it.

I think her music it’s cool…what she wears has nothing to do with me 😂

As someone who has a degree in sociology. I approve of this videos and the concepts.

can i just say, i LOVE how you make your videos while being informative and well put together, they're also very aesthetically pleasing and invoke emtions in me that really get me in the mood for the video. i love the outfit changes and the makeup and all of it

This made me reflect on a lot of things I just assume about people (mostly famous people) based on how they dress even while knowing that, like... You don’t dress your sexuality or your gender. Those are all very different things and we gotta remind ourselves about that constantly. Thank you for this video!!!!!

a salem post is always awaited! also, loving the nails gurl

PRREEEEEAAACH!! I’m so glad I found this channel. I only found you about a month or 2 ago and this video is just what I needed to hear. I loved the aesthetic of the video. I loved your sisters story. I loved your take on the topic !! It honestly gave me a lot to think about.

This was so heart touching. I started crying when you’re sister started talking, I really resonated w her cuz I used to be a pick me too.

Honestly the most clear minded, well spoken, and intelligent person on KZfaq when it comes to topics like this and also just in general 🥰 Love you gurl❤️

So true everything you’ve said. I’ve always thought that the obsession for labels and trying to fit in whatever box isn’t really that important, and we should be free to express ourselves however we feel like it at whatever moment. It’s expression, not something unchanging or definite

Hey girly so glad your back and can’t wait to watch!💜💜

I love how honest and self aware they both are in this video. It brings up such a big problem

Thank you for putting in so much work into this video!! The makeup, the editing, the intro, and the research is immaculate ✨✨

24:30 They only want to know Billie's sexuality so that they can sexualize her the more. Don't get me wrong,I would love to know if she likes girls so I can either drop creating false scenarios in my head,or get my hopes up😹 However,she doesn't owe anyone an explanation.

the quality and format of your videos have always made it worth the wait

gob, Salem your videos are always so well put together but that part with your sister was amazing. like not only was her story great but that was sooo sweet. keep being the realest on the internet

I LOVE the way you make your commentary videos, I was captivated the whole time. You're an amazing creator!

What I've learned the most is you only need your approval just yours nobody's else ( learning a lot, love your video sis ❤)

Can we talk about how much effort you put into your videos? The aesthetic scenes in between? The acting? The research? I see it and I’m living. Seriously, I’ll be busy watching all of your videos. Love you sm!

I remember that as a kid I pretended to hate pink cause I was so sick of stereotypes- Like I was 2-5 Now I just wear whatever I want :)

Yesssss another essay ! Tbh I do be worried for Billie because she’s dating an older man (apparently) and she already went through a lot with her ex Q who she dated when she was 16 so I hope she’s okay :)

I love this video so much. It feels great having my thoughts being expressed through a video, by another person, in such a beautiful way

Now this, this is a masterpiece! I can definetely identify with Penny as I used to be the same, but growing up my style changed and if I wore heels or makeup everyone was like "oh you're doing this for a man, did you get a boyfriend? etc etc''. I was a girl, I didn't care how I dressed and all, now I'm a 24 year ola woman, my mind has changed, my style has changed. That's what happends as you progress in life. Congrats on this video sis! Keep up the great work!

Love the way u edited this video with the flowers. I find your videos always put me in a calm mood although talking about serious issues and I always learn something positive. Thanks for for making KZfaq a better place.