It's honestly a bit confusing how Oli London spent hundreds of thousands of dollars to look Korean, and still looks anything but Korean, when people like Ariana can switch it up like it's the Sims 4 😭

I think it’s easier for people to hate Kim K because of the whole “she has no talent” thing, whereas Ariana is a talented vocalist. Not justifiable, but I think that could be why.

about the mixed babies: it's incredibly disturbing how some people will fetishize biraciality to the point of moving across the world / cherry picking a partner just to get that biracial baby.

“americans loving to take things that aren’t theirs; like america-“ Is going to be my senior quote

I remember being 12 and laying at the beach for HOURS with friends trying to get tan all summer, and then going to thailand and people telling me they wish they had my pale ass skin and that it was so pretty. Really made me realize how ridiculous beauty standards are. Let's normalize existing without perfection.

I genuinely believe that Ariana is extremely insecure and suffering from delusions of body image. Her constantly changing her look to fit the current trend reflect that

Ariana trying to look Asian makes me so uncomfortable as an actual Asian person. It’s like she’s just using different races and ethnicities as costumes. People dismissed a lot of this criticism when she was tanning like crazy too.

"Can we normalize not putting much effort into how we look" LOL YESSSS. I use to get dressed up for work but then my feelings changed and I didnt feel like doing it anymore. I shower, brush my teeth and hair and slap on some clothes and come to work. I'm comfortable, I feel agile, I dont care how I look and it feels GREAT.

What's odd about Ari changing her skin tone is that when she does change her skin, she also changes her hair/makeup/outfit/accent to go with it as well. I think it goes beyond "she went out in the sun and got a tan or she hasn't been in the sun so she's pale" it's almost like she's wearing a costume or playing a character.

The people who defended her in her “black” era, haven’t seen Italians. As someone who has been living in Italy for the past decade I can say, yes Italians can have dark skin, but they don’t pass as black. Arianators would genuinely lie for her like they feel personally attacked

Exactly! Ariana can take off her makeup, but Asian people look Asian ALL the time. She doesn't have to live with the hatred (especially since covid) day in & day out. She can just play dress-up.🤨

It kills me when she was dating Big Sean she was in videos saying “y’all!!!” And putting on a “sassy” accent and now she’s with Dalton she talks like a 50s housewife. I think it’s super bizarre… and as she gets older and feels she doesn’t fit the standard anymore, I’m worried what will come next lol. She doesn’t just tan, she changes her personality and clothes. It’s really unsettling!

I’m half Korean and I remember being ridiculed as a child because I looked more Asian in elementary school. It does suck when others get to benefit off of the same things I was teased for. I have accepted that celebrities are out of touch with the human condition and I have no expectations of them. They are professionals in whatever entertainment they are in. Not our friends. We need to understand those boundaries so we can hold people accountable.

As someone whose WHITE ASS parents pressured me into climbing into a tanning bed 3om a day on the weekends because "you'll be so much prettier with a tan" bless you for calling out tanning and bleaching as being equally problematic. This is a huge problem in the south of all places. I'm constantly told how weird it is that I have no problem being pale (the color I naturally am!) And see no need to change it. White ladies telling me how odd I am for not wanting to spray myself 10 shades darker, but then turn around and have the gall to be openly racist. Mind blowing.

finally people are catching up with what’s happening with Ariana. She’s been doing this for a long time and needs to be called out just like every other celebrity/influencer that does the same.

“I’m straight up Mexican, i got the animal blanket and everything” Me: **glances at tiger blanket on wall in Mexican**

as a brazilian, "brazilian butt lift" bothers me quite a lot. makes it seem like all brazilian women have huge butts so we're supposed to fit that standard as brazilians..

i find it kinda sad how when fandoms find out their "queen/king" does something wrong they defend that person to their grave but when its the fandom they're not in they send death threats and wont hear another point of view lol

As a life long fangirl, one thing that has always bothered me about ANY fandom I’ve been a part of is the lack of nuance. I can Stan someone/something and also criticize it. In fact, I cannot in good faith stan something with out criticizing it. It’s so important for us to recognize both

Super white girl here, I loved this breakdown. I've had a hard time relating to people WHY Ariana's skin tone changes bother me, and now I can just send them the link to your video lol. Also from my perspective, I have absolutely had societal/peer pressure to tan. I'm very fair and so are my mom and sister, and people comment on it ALL. THE. TIME. That racially ambiguous beauty standard has definitely tried to push us paper pale girls to fake tan. It's annoying, but I do want to clarify that it isn't a huge deal. I'm not trying to relate my struggle to that of actual colored people.

I’m a British girl of Indian descent, I’m olive skinned but get a decent tan in the summer. South Asian people praise my lighter skin and white people praise my tan. I recently had an Indian man in the gym come up to me to ask my ethnicity - he thought I was Spanish or Arab and said i was ‘interesting’. I hate how skin colour is fetishised and I don’t go out of my way to look a different race, in fact growing up I wished I was more tan so I looked more like my cousins. I think that all natural skin tones are beautiful and should be embraced. We live in a cookie cutter world where we are saturated with images of women who all look the same and are so overly processed. Our differences are what make us beautiful x

I think everyone is confusing what Salem was trying to say. If you tan, do you still look like your race? If yes, that's great. If you tan purposely to look another race, then profit off of, that's problematic. Colorism and classism is the issue here. My family comes from Cambodia, trust that I know about this issue all too well. The lighter you are, the more "attractive" you are seen as. I was given bleaching products as a child and it has ruined my skin and taken years to repair. I can't take off my ethnicity or skin color. Anyone whose skin doesn't have enough melanin can. Nothing wrong with being pale either. I grew up hating being Asian, specifically from a country that has dark skinned Asians and wanting to be a white woman because I was so pressured into not wanting to look my race because my features aren't desirable unless they're on a white woman. There's nothing wrong with wanting to look "sun-kissed" but it can look and be wrong and harmful to a BIPOC person. That's just how I see it and my experience. I love Ari btw but I see the point of this video and have seen it for years.

As someone who is mixed raced and quite ambiguous because of how light my skin is, I have witnessed how my family who is darker skinned than me be victims of racism by society. Their features are celebrated on me but not on them.

tanning can naturally happen, but as someone of southern Irish descent, thank you for calling out tanning so much. Most Southern Irish people physically cannot tan, but I've been pressured alot by both my parents to attempt to tan and its just ruined my skin

I really love Ariana Grande as an artist and I very much respect her but the tanning always felt wrong to me... I'm black so I grew up with getting told that my skin was dirty and constantly have white people compare their skin to mine. So I was hyperaware of how their skin got much lighter during winter, just like mine. But Ari never even got any paler....

Tanning is a bit more nuanced than that, its an intersectional issue of class too, it became trendy when going on beach holidays became a trend with rich people, and stayed a symbol of wealth as it requires having free time. Just like being pale and being chubby was a symbol of privilege because it showed you didn't work in the field like the lower class, being fit and tanned has been the new privileged look when poor people now work all day indoors.

respectfully, ariana grande gets tired of being one ethnicity and just “thank you, next” to another one….

In my unscientific observation, I have noticed that when pale people start tanning regularly, they gradually choose deeper and deeper shades. In addition to Ari, Kim K and similar celebrities, I had classmates who started picking very dark shades after years of tanning. I know that tanning beds are considered addictive by some. Could there be some kind of psychological addiction to seeing oneself in a deeper shade? Also, didn’t Ari take a DNA that showed she had a good bit of northern African ancestry (as many southern Italians do)? Something similar was recently discovered in my family in that a DNA test showed our ancestry as being from a country that neighbors the country listed on immigration records

One of the things that I did learn in art college was constructive criticism. Not only has this helped me navigate discussing difficult topics, but also how to discern toxic people from those that are trying to help. When I have feelings of defensiveness, I can pause and ask if they are doing this to help me grow, or if they mean it to hurt and diminish. HUGE difference in the two, but so often criticism is seen as a "bad" thing.

As an Asian person myself. These celebrities keep changing their race to fit the trend. Now that having "kawaii" or "k-pop" style is trending. People out here changing races just to fit it and I'm very tired of it. I'm glad you talked about this because Arianators scare me so much, especially when you bring this topic.

I hope there's a time where people learn to love the skin they're born in (like, everyone.)

This is so mindful and informative. Thank you for articulating my concerns about tanning, in every way. I'm sort of light-tone Mexican and was worried how I tan was wrong somehow. Thank you for explaining the difference.

“I am a certified Mexican, I have the animal blanket and everything” I felt that to my core

I was dying for someone to call out this issue. We’re all basically living in a build a bear workshop and everyone acts like it’s empowering. :/

Love how you pointed out her lack of acknowledgment. This is a consistent problem that she has had. She still to this day, has not said a single thing about the Dan Schneider situation. Part of it of course, I can understand his trauma, but the other part of it was the fact that she chose to be paid to be silent. She just really isn’t somebody to acknowledge a lot of problems in her life, as well as her own problematic behaviors. Definitely the type of person to run away from her problems rather than to actually acknowledge them. I hope she changes that aspect about her before she dies. But 🤷‍♀️

I’m very pale (and white) and constantly am made fun of due to it. People call me things like transparent and Casper which has made me feel significantly less attractive in years past. I don’t think it’s fair to say there is no reason a white person would want to tan, because before I was able to accept my skin color I was incredibly insecure (and still am sometimes when I need to pull out a pair of shorts). Now becoming so tan that you look a different race is a different story and situation, but I think it’s silly to say there is no reason a white person would want to darken their skin.

Thank you for touching on the weird obsession people have with mixed babies. I'm scandinavian/white and my husband is vietnamese, and when we first started dating, I'm not joking when i say the first reaction of at least 80-90% of people was "omg you're gonna have such cute babies!!" We had been dating for a few WEEKS at this point. Like my child was years away from being born and their features were already being fetishized. i know ppl are trying to be complimentary, but when my sister, who is dating a white man, says she has NEVER had a single person make that kind of comment about their future babies, it becomes clear it's a racial thing

"Americans like to take things that isn't theirs -- like America." 😂🙌🏼 Amen, Girl

I agree to certain extents…. BUT if someone wants to darken their skin, braid their hair, perm their hair, wear head pieces, tattoo their skin with ABSOLUTELY whatever they want…. no matter what anyone says that DOES not specifically mean someone wants to be another race. I’m Native American and white… my granny has always wore her hair in braids and I’ve always thought they were so beautiful. I started wearing my hair braided. Form of flattery in my opinion.

no but your like to dislike ratio is AMAZING 100k likes to 3k dislikes? calling out ariana? whaaaa?

Actual biracial artists like Mariah Carey gets shitted on coz she looks "too white" for some in the black community, and "too urban" from the white community and now everyone just plays along with the "mixed girl" aesthetic for their artistry. It's honestly so weird how things change so quickly. Edit: Yall arguing over Mariah's blackness and dismissing it in the replies while letting FULLY WHITE artists slide with their blackfishing is the biggest part of the problem here.

Italians are white. We identify and present as white because we are. "tanning" easily ( im almost full blood PLUS Sicilian and I am pale and have cousins with blond hair and blue eyes) does not mean we are somehow less white or that it makes it OK when an Italian appropriates. So, using her being "Italian" as an excuse for appropriating other cultures is pathetic and just flat out wrong.

I do believe you CAN admire cultures bc there's SOO many cultures that are beautiful so yes. But there's a difference between admiring n appropriating

I love what you said about variation in race. Most people are so ignorant and they use looks to classify race as their way to combat racism? I’m asked all the time what Latin American country I’m from because my grandparents are from Sicily. BUT if you actually have those Italian features, your skin-tone changes incrementally. It doesn’t naturally go from extremely light to dark and back again, it takes a while to build and fade. I met my ex three years after doing a case study in Belize and he could still see the tanlines on my back

I hate the whole “I’m tan in the summer and pale in the winter” excuse. I’m Greek and my family bloodline & genetics are very Mediterranean. While it is possible to be pale in the winter & tan in the summer etc, due to being born in hotter climates of Europe and naturally having a less chance of sunburn, I have never (or seen anyone ever) naturally have my skin as dark as hers during the summertime. Ariana, girl, just put down the tanning spray bottle and just admit that your tan isn’t natural. You’re making Greek & Italian people look mixed when in reality we’re as white as the people who colonized North, central & South America. Yes, don’t forget Christopher Columbus was born in Spain and had an Italian background.

People who say that Ariana is just getting sun-tanned are ignoring the fact that if that was true, Ariana Grande would have signs of skin damage by now.

In 2012, I spent a year as an exchange student at an American high school. I very much noticed the unnaturally white teeth and the preference for tan. And then as we were approaching Prom, suddenly all these students (mostly girls) were coming in with excessively noticeable dark tans; the teeth became even whiter; everyone looked sort of photoshopped... I was just recently looking through old photos again, and you would not believe how much I stick out in a group of white people for being a good 5 shades paler than everyone else. I was really not used to seeing teenagers changing their bodies in that way. Many of them were underage. You're not even legally allowed to bleach your teeth or tan your skin if you're under 18 where I'm from...

Y’all will say being white helps u in the music industry and then say white artists are profiting off of looking black make it make sense

As an Italian (like from Italy, not how Americans say "Italian" to mean "from Italian descent") it's so confusing when they attribute all the racially ambiguous traits she got from the surgeon to her "being Italian"

I'm white, pale af, and I agree on tanning. I've been pressured - not knife on a throat, but many people over the years trying to 'help me', give me advice - to do fake tans because I'd be prettier and I've always been weirded out by it. I find it disturbing that some people suggest that I should change my skin color for aesthetics. Not only it is a budget, is unhealthy but also that's not me (I don't even tan in summer, nor express the desire to have "sun kissed' skin).

I agree with almost everything you said!! You are so fun to watch and what you say stays with me. Regarding one random thing : the mixed race babies ig, one aspect from my personal experience is that it was enjoyed by my biracial ex because being mixed was positive. He struggled with that his whole life and found that as a way to see a nicer side of it, where people celebrated people like him instead of ostracizing and bullying them. It doesn't take away from what he and his family went through and probably will still deal with, just a little something I guess to bring a smile. Anyway, everything else I echo your vibes on.

I honestly don't think tanning in general is problematic, because there is a difference between going to a tanning salon and tanning artificially, and just going to the beach and getting really tan. I myself, get VERY dark in the sun after a few days at the beach, and it's not like i'm changing myself to look like a certain race. I personally will not share my views on the Ariana spectacle, but there is a fine line between going out of your way to change your skin color and just flat out wanting to look sun kissed.

As a full Arianator / stan, I really appreciate this video. I feel like in the fandom, it is so blasphemous to talk out against Ariana and point out the problematic issues that her complexion has been promoting

I do think there is a culture of tanning, especially back in the era of 2005-2012, that is not focused on looking racially ambiguous, but rather about looking "sun-kissed" no matter the time of year. Like I don't think girls going for that Hollister surfer aesthetic in 2007 were trying to trick people into thinking they weren't white. They were trying to look like white girls who spent their days in the sun. Not a note on the ethics of that or on Ariana, just something I think should be included in the conversation about tanning.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with intentional tanning until the person does start to look racially ambiguous, or has the audacity to claim that’s how they naturally look. a lot of people fake tan because it’s almost like using makeup on your entire body - they want to even out their skin tone or hide ‘blemishes’ on their arms/legs, but that definitely doesn’t require going like three shades darker than when they started.

Girl I just discovered you and I’m LOVING your channel. Keep on preaching sista!! 💯💯💪🏽💪🏽

i feel like people stan Ariana's 'fishing' more than Kim's because Ariana actually brings something to the table, like her music and also probably because she is literally a lot of people's childhood....causing them to be in GREAT denial

I'm Italian. We usually have olive skin, so we get quite dark in the summer and quite pale in the winter. But I have never seen someone get as dark as Ariana Grande. That's not how olive skin works. At the same time I don't see any problem with tanning a little. But not too much.

Yeah I glad I saw this vid because I was shamed by a relative that I was too white so I was pressured to tan which actually caused skin issues. It hurt alot because I found out that I'm white, asian, and hispanic and my family just erased my asian culture and pushed hispanic culture so I don't associate with it anymore. And it's hard for me because I feel pushed to look my race/identity and I have to deal with others pushing a label me. So I know reverse tanning is bad but for me so since I did get pressured to tan my skin, now I would need to reverse my skin to get my skin back to its normal form which was very white but I understand the toxicity of this

8:14 "Korean" and "Chinese" are not races. Also, saying that Koreans usually have monolids and Chinese usually have double eyelids is just wrong. They literally belong to the same race so there's no comparing features.

“I am a certified Mexican. I have the animal blanket and everything.” NOT THE ANIMAL BLANKET 😂😂😂 not the tiger print! 🤣🤣🤣

It really hit home when you said that people are taking the benefit of POC traits but aren’t taking on the consequences POC face for those traits

Thankyou for not being afraid to speak out against this literal BULLSHITE! People will literally completely ignore there wrongdoings, even if Ariana did blackface, I’m sure she’d still have millions of fans standing up for her. This is the problem with society, is people will stan or idolize people and defend ALL OF THERE WRONGDOINGS, no matter how messed up it gets, simply because they worship that individual. It’s hella sad, because there people don’t care about there “fans” they care about the money, fame, relevancy, and the fact that there “fans” continue to monetarily support them. Just as you said, it’s like we are living in a black mirror episode.

I think fake tanning isn’t that bad when your goal is a natural color you can get to without fake tan. So people fake tanning during the winter isn’t unreasonable if they like that color on themselves and they can get to it naturally. Over tanning though- idk lol. I’m as white as paper so I can’t really talk too much on that.

Girl I feel this so much. I'm mixed and I have mixed babies, and the DEGREE of correcting I have to do for white women telling me they wish they had mixed kids or hope they get a man of color so they can have kids that look like mine...girl They're babies. Babies are cute. Don't have to be mixed to be cute. Also: I've had people WALK OUT on dates with me when I wouldn't elaborate on my racial makeup. Like, why does it matter? Why do yall want a "just barely white enough, just barely brown enough" partner? What's wrong with yall? Talking about getting the good hair and whatever, like POC are livestock...

Your mom is GORGEOUS, I love the indigenous features that are present on her and on you!

I feel like some people (celebrities especially) don’t get the difference between cultural appropriation and cultural appreciation.

I really enjoyed this video. I feel like you did a really great job just laying out the details of this complicated situation. Thanks

As a person who grew up in a Colombian family seeing people enjoy the movie Encanto made me really happy. People can appreciate a culture without cherrypicking what they like and claiming it as their own.

I'm so glad a bigger platform is finally talking about this because as a black girl myself it seems like she used black culture as her experimental exploration aesthetic and now she's settling down and married and acting more 'mature' and has lighter skin and is different now. I notice celebrities use black culture as their experiment and when they are ready to 'grow up' they are done. It's upsetting seeing her get away with constantly back fishing. I used to be an Arinator and it makes me so uncomfortable. People constantly use our aesthetics, love our music and overall culture yet continue to uncredit and treat us horribly. This has been happening for YEARS and its tiring.

💕I REALLY REALLY like your videos. You are so down to earth and umm yea REAL. Props to saying what so many of us think and in the same way we think it…not sugar coating it…one more subscribing here to add to your growing numbers💕

I've noticed that a LOT of filters on snap chat and Instagram make me look Asian. I do have a slightly more slanted eye shape than the rest of my family but I've done a side by side with these filters on and off and have been asked to clarify my ethnicity from it. Thats ridiculous

Just in response to the tanning thing, I’m half Puerto Rican and half Jewish and I self fan sometimes. I use the lightest color and only develop for two or three hours. I still look like a light skinned person after I tan, it just covers up my acne scars, stretch marks, and discoloration so I don’t have to wear makeup. It is possible to not tan yourself into a different race people just choose to take it too far.

I've been fetishized for being "the perfect tan" and then being too tan. I've had many points in my life I wanted to bleach my skin and hated my natural hair. It's so strange to watch people want to achieve a certain look that I, and others, get criticized for because it's "trendy"

"People are changing skin colour depending on how convenient it is for them"... Ariana Grande, Bebe Rexa, Meghan Markle, The Jenners and Kardashians, Bhad Baby. The list is endless.

I never understood why white celebrities feel the need to change their appearance where it has people questioning their race. Like they won't be to experience the same discrimination other races face because they can take it off. Like imagine someone says other races always playing the victim when what they feel is justified because at the end of the day someone who cosplay other races need mental help because that's not healthy

She is probably the biggest celeb who does this, but yet she is the one we talk about the least when it comes to blackfishing? Which is funny because she was one of the first celeb to start doing this. I think the reason people think of other celebrities such as Jesy Nelson and Rita Ora when we talk about blackfishing is because Ariana has been doing this so long, most people have only seen her with heavy bronzer and other makeup on. Also, Ariana has this good little girl persona which makes it hard for people to call her out when she’s done something wrong. She’s actually really shady (literally). *EDIT:* If you don’t think Ariana Grande was built by her team to project a good girl persona, you’re in total denial. Also as other people said, she also has a lot of talent. Despite her flaws, she is an amazing singer, so people often turn a blind eye on her crimes. People also turn a blind eye on her crimes because she is good looking and very talented. Ever heard of pretty privilege? It is a real thing.

it's just soo convinient that in the 2010's black culture was the big thing and ariana and other's changed their style to addapt to it. Now in the 2020's it's korean and asian culture is the new popular thingh because of kpop and tiktok, so influencer and ariana suddently changed their style to follow the beauty standars and also get hype from their look

I'm not surprised that she's doing "Asian-Fishing." She follows trends, and sadly the USA (I can't speak for other countries) treats ethnicities as trends. I remember in high school everyone wanted to partake in Latinx culture, like using Spanish words as slang. In my college years everyone wanted to partake in Black culture. Now, I'm seeing K-Pop become so popular, and tons of Korean dramas and shows becoming popular, so I feel like a LOT of people are going to start trying to appear Korean. The USA takes enjoying things from a culture, like listen to K-Pop and eating Kimchi, and apricating those things, to fully culturally appropriating them in less than 60 seconds.

She's (Grande) getting praised for her "foxy eyes" meanwhile when my slavic ass posts a picture of myself people tell me that the fact that I have sligtly (very, very slightly) slanting eyes is racist and I should be ashamed. I was born this way!

the fact that ppl cherry pick the characteristics they want to incorporate, pass as racially ambiguous for the aesthetic *and beauty standard, and despise all the racial problems that really happen, with the targeted group is truly distopian, and fr looks like a black mirror episode

"tanning is as bad as skin bleaching" YAAAAAAAAAAAS IVE BEEN SAYING THIS FOR YEARS it's so infuriating to see people tan as dark as me and then be confused when I'm a little put off when they want to appear ambiguous or Filipina without having to deal with actually being Filipina

When I was younger I went to a private school where basically everyone was white. When spring break or Christmas break would happen and students would come back without a tan they would be questioned by other kids and asked “oh… your parents didn’t take you on vacation?” It was very gross and weird since some kids there could only afford to go to the school cause their parents worked there. Idk reminded me when you talked about white ppl tanning at 22:00-24:00

honestly the whole thing is that you shouldnt feel the need to change your skintone to look "more beautiful"! all skintones are beautiful and unique and wonderful! the range of color that human skin can be is amazing and people need to start accepting that fact. youre pale enough to see your veins? thats awesome, me too, its super cool! you have darker skin with spots of discoleration? beautiful! no other human has the same discoloration spots as you! thats unique to you!

There is a huge difference between appreciation and appropriation, and people really need to find that distinction. People get away with cultural appropriation so much that they begin to call out people who actually appreciate the culture. Example: I am in the Chinese language department at my uni. We had a celebration for the Mid Autumn Festival, and we all dressed up for the occasion. One of the teachers had me dress in traditional clothing. I was called out for posting those photos for cultural appropriation, but I wasn't appropriating; I was appreciating that culture. This goes along with what Salem is saying about all these celebrities getting away with cultural appropriation. It's so common that it's blurred the line between appreciation and appropriation.

I totally think you're right with everything you are saying! A bit of natural tanning in the summer is totally normal. I'm a very pale white woman and there actually is social pressure to tan. I constantly hear: you look sick, go into the sun. Also, skin marks like stretch marks or pimples are easily seen on very pale skin and are judged harshly in our society. In recent years there has been a definite rise of the ambiguous look, thus making it a trend. The exoticism and racist implications in that are huge a problem!

thank you for touching all these topics. they’re very sensitive and I KNOW if anyone at my school seen this video(majority white) they would flip their wigs, but the truth needs to be told! you said everything so perfectly and I couldn’t have said it better myself. continue the amazing work, and I’ll always be here to support you.

🦆i completely agree with you Salem! Thank you for educating us especially on this topic !❤

So I do not want to offend anyone, but… I’m from Hungary, Europe and there’s no way I can agree with pale people not being pressured to tan. There was not a single week in my life where I wasn’t told that I look like I’m sick because I am pale. My doctor, every time I went to him, prescripted iron deficiency tablets, because he believed that I don’t have enough iron ( I do have) and that’s why I’m pale. I was pressured to tan because people here associate really white skin with illnesses. But I learned to accept this and now I am happy with my skin. Anyone can relate?

"15 seconds ago" and girl I am HERE. Let's go

as an balkan person (litterally next to italy and most of our genes are somewhat conected to it) who tans pretty easy in the summer (i get darker in one hour in the sun) i could never be as dark as ariana in my life... in the winter she should look like her natural skin aka white as paper. and im just speaking from personal experience where when im tanned in the summer to the point i could pass as *mixed* (note that i said mixed) i would gradually become whiter through the autum and in the winter im back to paper white. so theres NO point in trying to defend her in the point of tanning.

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR TALKING ABOUT THIS!!!! THIS!!!🎉🎉🎉

"You can be a fan of someone's work and artistry, but still criticize their artwork and the stuff that they're doing" I like the way you think :)

A lot of ppl are purposely or comically missing the point….. it’s OK to tan and want to be a nice golden color(in moderation) ITS NOT OK to tan so dark you look like a different race and ppl have to question what ethnicity you are…. And then adding certain aspects to your image to further look like a different race(ie: stereotypical things and or behaviors)

Asian Americans were getting brutally attacked for no reason, hated on, killed, and lived fearing for their well being and for their families at the peak of the pandemic and Arigato grande decided to shed her black woman costume and put on an asian one shortly after that calmed down and asian culture started becoming popular.

I'm Polish and I can assure you there are MANy girls here who are simply addicted to tanning and it has nothing to do with trying to apropriate a different race (many of them are also racist but it doesn't make them question their skin when they fry it in tanning booths). However, I'm really puzzled as to what is appropriate in the US anymore. Why someone wearing their hair braided could be considered offensive? What it they simply like the way it looks? In Poland it's normal to braid your hair during summer holidays, girls love it, it looks super cool and once you are done with it, your hair looks super cool. And then you wash your beautiful, frizzy hair and and it's gone. And you miss it but then you move on, or do it all over again. No big deal. Why is it made into more than it really is, which is simply an individual choosing specific things that they like from others? I'm not trying to be disrespectful, just genuinly curious, you guys have a different history, but why is it ok for a Mexican girl like Salem to bleach her hair but not for a white girl to get as much tan as she likes? (Just to be clear - I think it's all ok) Plus celebrities are mostly rather disturbed people, it dosn't surprise me that Ariana might change her styles so often....again, if any part of this comment seems indelicate, I'm sorry, I just really want to understand, bc I've been more and more confused as of late.

🦆 I don't fake tan, but 20+ years ago, there was intense social pressure to tan, or have a subscription or punch card for tanning salons. When I was in high school, that was a status symbol. Looking back on that, it was really gross, and since it was all tanning beds, also super dangerous. ETA: I have a high school kid, and they said that isn't really a thing anymore, the way I described it.

🦆I feel like a lot of people still see Ariana as their innocent child star that they loved as a kid, especially since her whole aesthetic has always been so subtle and cute…but they gotta snap out of it lol That’s a grown woman and she knows what’s she’s doing lol

7:49- can we talk about how pretty her mom is, tho?😭 girl is ethereal

I just discovered your videos and honestly, I really appreciate you taking the TIME and your ENERGY to bring to light some of the things that need to be spoken on and thought about. God bless you! Got me to subscribe lol