You hit the nail on the head with this one. My ex-husband once asked me why I don't encourage him & stroke his ego because he gets up and works hard at work every day? My response, "you want me to motivate you to do what you should be doing anyway?" I would thank him all the time, cook for him, do whatever he needed including taking care of his kids. He didn't reciprocate much. Paid all the household expenses for a year; then demanded we go 50/50. He rarely helped out around the house or with the kids saying it was woman's work. When he did do something, it was because he wanted s*x later. The relationship was very transactional. I later found out that he was cheating on me with multiple women, including while I was pregnant with his only son. I divorced him as soon as I could. Every now and then he'll ask for s*x. I always turn him down. I told him before we got married, "if this doesn't work out and we divorce, I will never come back to you. I don't do second chances. I give it my all the first time. So, once we are done, I'll move forward, not backward."

"Little black men" is wild!!! 😂. Ima just sit back and eat my popcorn..this a fight that don't concern me 🤷🏽‍♀️

She’s doing this for attention! It clearly works for her with those specific black men. I just went to her page and the men in the comments are loving it smh 🥴

I love the "imma sit back in my feminine energy and let y'all handle this" attitude in here. Girlies, stay burning the cape and let's mind our own business and enjoy the infinite blessings from the most high.

Your wife is so blessed to have you at the head of household. You always articulate the nuances of these issues so well. She sounded like a teacher😂smh

The funny part is all of my white friends wear weave (including this “fit” woman presented today). They just call them “extensions.” They get Botox, lip filler, eye lash extensions, the works. Bm still think they are “all natural” 😂😂😂😂

I’m glad you as a black man recognize this.

Some black men don't respect themselves so others don't respect them

Black men don’t need to be uplifted by this Caucasian woman nor the black woman. No brothers need to turn back to the most high. That’s the only source we need and once we do that the black woman will follow us and the other races will respect us. It’s supposed to be the most high, his son, the black man and the black woman. That’s the chain of command.

The disrespect that Black men have for themselves and each other is being reflected right back to them. To be respected, you must respect yourself, and that self-respect gives birth to self-confidence that no one can ever take away because it is rooted in who you are as a person and who God has made you to be. More of us men and women must choose everyday to conduct ourselves with the highest respect and dignity because we are worth it. We show people how to treat us, and right now, sadly, we are being mistreated because we mistreat ourselves and each other.

The men in the comments said bw don't uplift or ride for black men. But bw are they main ones marching, bailing out, etc etc.

BM are so easily amused sometimes. Easy as heck 🤦🏽‍♀️

My step brothers are WM and I showed them this video and they agreed with they need no encouragement to perform what’s expected of them for their families, also she’s the type of WW they reject. She knows she has no choice but to appeal to bm.

Oh she’s going to be rich rich! She knows what she’s doing

Black women been trying to uplift black men since the 40s 50s 60s 70s 80s 90s early 2000s. I don't see a lot of videos of black men uplifting women for decades. I know blk women today that stick by men thats don't love them. Ive seen older women in and out of my family carry the family even when married. Theres a lot of men that don't have anything to offer. Even when they're broke, they are to broken to be there emotionally for you. So whats the point dealing with a broke broken man. Whether you're a woman or a man if you're broken work on yourself this is not the time to be distracting yourself with ideas of dating. "If you need someone to talk to you like this you a kid". Yep and grown women DO NOT WANT TO MOTHER a man who wants to be in her bed.

I'm glad they have other women to depend on. Black women need rest and their efforts to help bm have gone to no avail. Helping folks who do not care, respect, love or like you is complete insanity. Just saying.

Men have to act like kings to be treated like one. We as black women get blamed for everything 🤦‍♀️.

This lady isn’t stupid, she knows exactly what she’s doing.

“My little black men” 😂

White men and white woman are DEFINITELY airing their grievances as well. I see ALOT of it on TikTok. The problem, in my opinion, is SOME Black men got real nasty, demeaning and downright disrespectful to Black women. Many Black men 'that didn't agree' but stayed quiet. The disrespect got louder and grew. Then Black women began to defend ourselves (which is typical) verbally and out loud. Now all of a sudden, it's a Black gender war and it needs to stop. It should've BEEN CHECKED by the 'Leaders' to maintain respect and order but that didn't happen. So now, we're here.

I see so many black women saying some of the same things and not in such a condescending way. Black women make songs about how much they love black men but that falls on deaf ears.

the day black men finally show the world that black men have respect for themselves, then....

This Video Accomplish Exactly What She Wanted it too!! There's Not One that Said Anything Positive About Black Women, And She knew that's how would be!!!!! Thanks for Your Content Shumake, Blessings!!

This woman is treating black men as less than and some of these men can’t even see it. I’m praying for my brothers.

She's treating these men like children.

She couldn't even say "My black men" she had to add "little" in that sentence. Smh. Disrespectful.

Black women STAND DOWN…this NOT our business…let Amy and Marisol go rescue them!

She’s being condescending.

This is really disturbing if you really think about it. We are a failure community. Smh! Every black man I’ve ever dated I encouraged them and constantly stroked their egos guess what it got me, cheated on, abused, used and ran over. It was never enough so I give up.

If someone called me perfect, I would be so creeped out

They want us to treat them like men but talk to them like this!!! 🤣🤣🤣

I agree because the black men in my own family are terrible.

I just don't want black women to be baited into entering her comment section.

I agree with you with that video.... Just weird, disturbing and not genuine at all.

“Now get out there and be somebody Jamal” 😂😂😂I’m done 🤣🤣🤣🤣

There is some definite Mommie talk here, cause Mommie loves you sooo much.

She have the confidence to do this because the way black men talk about black women. We just need to focus on healing ourselves within our communities. We don’t need a snow bunny to save us.

All yours sis!!!

man as a black man this was a super cringe video. I'm lucky that the BM in my lineage were working professionals. My Great grandfather first generation freed slave was a Mechanical Engineer and Green Beret. My grandpa was a Accountant and Army Ranger. My dad Logistics Manager for Dennys Coorp and myself a Sr. Data Engineer. I was taught to Love God, Marry one woman, and dont look for anyone to understand you as a black man rather establish a solid reputations as A MAN. Any other personal concers talk to God. God help our brothas and guide us to God.

Not “little black man” whew chile that was so belittling but I’ve noticed how black men are VERY preyed upon. I know what that feels like 🙏🏾🙏🏾 I love yall and stay strong

i appreciate what you said about the coddling part. If you are an adult no one needs to coddle you or baby you. You need to stand ten toes to the ground and take care of business I am a black woman and the only one working at my engineering firm. Somedays get overwhelming and no one tells me good job you can do it or hey that design you did was the best we had. i do my job because I am an adult and I take care of business, I don't need someone telling me anything, My satisfaction comes from my bonus .

Sad part is the unhealed ones are eating this up from Big Becky

She know who the easy target is lol she in ha bag

As a black man I learned art of self respect because I know what my limitations are as a man . 💯

lets talk good about eachother . Gods watching! this topics been hurting my heart lately! when i see people talk bad about blk woman or men i try to say something nice in the chats to bring unity. this aint right.

"Lil Black Man"... I am unbothered by her. 😂

Her name booty pri says enough

Not "little black men" but 😂😂

I have seen a Yt Woman insult BMs intelligence, called him poor and being with a BM was terrible, etc. She constantly belittled this Blk guy, but the BM found the Yt Woman's comments uplifting. I was like,...what?! Can u imagine if a BW said that?? Honestly, most BM self worth is so far on the ground that they don't know or realize that they are the joke. I agree with u. A Yt woman comments can be belittling but to a BM,..he hears a love song. Go figure 🤷‍♀️

Your right, the devil has succeeded in turning black women and men against each other

“Now get out there and be somebody Jamal” 😂💀 Man bye

I saw a commercial for Ukrainian women marketing them for American men here on KZfaq. It was extremely disturbing. Now for ole girl… I can only imagine that if she was 50lbs lighter she wouldn’t be concerned about black men.

I don’t even think it’s about black men not feeling valued, I think it’s about black men valuing white validation over black validation and I say that because historically/ presently there is not one group of women who has publicly demonstrated the amount of love, support, sacrifices, and protection for black men, besides black women. The black woman who went off on Courtney Clenney after the death of Toby obumseli is a prime example of this. So when they criticize our behavior as to why they prefer non black women I can’t help but wonder what it is about the women who birth and raise their oppressors that’s so appealing to them if we’re as bad as they say we are.

Blackmen are being disrespected because they've done nothing to earn respect.

We been trying to uplift for years. Not saying BW are perfect but we try. We only have to be strong and independent because we’re busy raising kids alone

For a while my husband kept coming to me reminding me that he needed to hear affirmations from me. He said it was his love language to receive thanks and praise in the form of words. And sooo.. I tried to accommodate and affirm how grateful I was for him by speaking it all the time. It started feeling a little unnatural because I usually just thank him when I'm ready to say it or show my appreciation with other gestures. Long story short our marriage fell apart and one major contributor was him stepping out and having a baby by someone else, she was white. Recently we try to work on our marriage but when I had questions and spot it out any hypocrisy he blamed it on the fact that I'm black. He said black women are the only women who won't just shut the F up. Soo yeaaa

You💯💯. Black men and women deserve the best from eachother❤. Your accountability is the characteristics of a strong man🔥. I hope other men find their equally as accountable woman to help be an example of a successful relationship for the next.

I’m sure she don’t “hey little yt man” her own ppl. Because she respects them more

This lady has some of the wildest content I’ve seen on the internet. Just mind blowing. I need to go pray 🙏

Interracial dating is not the problem. It's how people view it tbt

Thank you, thank you, thank you for keeping it all the way 💯. What you said was SPOT ON. Especially them not seeing the subtle disrespect, while they hate black women who have done NOTHING to them. Finally, speaking about the desire to have a second mother out of us. It's terrible. They need to grow up.

She’s definitely talking to grown men like they’re children.

Black men and women are the most disrespected sadly

I work with WW who speak this way all the time about BM. We as a people must ask the most high for forgiveness and getting back to the covenant we have with him. Your integrity, self esteem, and self respect comes from the most high and no one else. You are awesome Shumake, keep on doing the work that Yahweh has for you. God bless you and your family

"Go out and be somebody, Jamal." 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

All imma say is "Johnathan Majors" is a perfect example and guess whose picking up the pieces (cleanup crew) of his downfall....you guessed it a bw "Meghan Good." 🙌💯

I'm glad you went over those comments.... Why are they all talking about black women??? Obviously A lot of hurt men.

This is just another Pearly things, capitalizing on lost black men

I’m sooooo happy someone covered this. I wish more folks realized this! When I see these kinds of things online I hit the Not Interested or Don’t Show Again etc. Like regardless of my perception of any topic, I practice not participating in ANYTHING that involves the conquer & define tactics. Which includes Gender war, colorism, Diaspora wars, age war, classism. It’s just ridiculous & yes absolutely embarrassing. Even if I may agree with the topic, my pride won’t allow me to publicly join in on those convos because they’re generally not intelligent enough to actually come up with real solutions. It’s just a bunch of outlandish back & forth as if folks are more interested in attacking one another rather than finding a common ground. Yes, also. The world sees this. I’ve traveled for 12yrs & folks’ are seeing this & talking about it. Some super negative & others are intellectual enough to examine real issues. 1 of which you’re speaking of today Mr. Shumake.

I’m not religious like you but I agree and I learn so much information from your videos that helps me . you keep the good work going. I also been feeling the same thing about how our community, we only ones that bash each other on the net

I literally was just talking about “men” who can’t control themselves sexually. Sexually active SINGLE men are not for me, and I’m not for them. I said what I said. And meant it.

Karma is real. Let them keep doing what they're doing. It doesn't miss an address. They will pay! Self hate is real smh

A lot of men just don’t want to grow up

It’s soo clear what she’s doing smh 🤦🏽‍♀️ Some BM are actually falling for this pandering? 😵‍💫☹️Something kind of cringey about it.. Good advice, but seems verrryy disingenuous Great Video!🤍 Thanks for keeping it real

She is actually very smart. Like you said. She is making money of of this. And BM who follow her are too delusional to see it. It legit is scary omg. I have no words. This is so shameful. How is it that they themselfs dont see that? God, help them🙏🏾 Bless your hearts.

Kings with no kingdoms.

💯 💯 💯 💯 💯 💯 IT IS EXTREMELY EMBARRASSING AND IT SPILLS OFFLINE! Other ppl are literally laughing at us, both online and around their dinner tables. What a tragedy.

YES SIR, My Brother, You Have To Come Out Of ALL SIN!!! Just OBEY The HEAVENLY FATHER!!!!!

Pearly and many others did the samething they ran up the bag, disrespected them, and they were still supporting these women.

That's wild,it seems to me she is trolling and mocking men in general,especially black men

This was a great assessment on how vulnerable the black community when it comes to divided and conquered! She really putting black men down as if they are low and the bottom of the barrel

This reminds me of one of the slogans from George W's campaign "The soft bigotry of low expectations" as they described the way some in the Democratic party cuddled black people. I don't know about other folks, but I NEVER forgot that, and I tell my brother ALL the time, when people keep commenting on how nice you are, it means they don't have anything else to give you credit for. As a man, the motivation to get things down depends on me, not my woman. She keep me motivated, but it's never been the women's job I have been with. You're right, if any woman talks to me like that, I would walk away and/or change the subject. I got what I needed from my parents already.

‘They Were Her Property’ Stephanie Rogers-Jones. Every Black American, male & female need to read this book. We gotta come together and stop allowing this stuff to separate us. I love Black men, my dad is a Black man and I have the upmost respect for him and I turn I have the upmost respect for all my Black men . Thanks for making this video, Sir 🤎

Now say it with me ..... I is kind, I is smart and I is important 😊. Thats the energy i felt from her... condescending much? 🙃

What's hilarious is if a Black woman said what she's saying, these men would destroy her, call her condescending, nasty, etc. And she thinks she's doing them a favor showing them her skin they love to see, not our skin. I heard someone say that men want to be talked to like a nice lady. I speak softly, but I say what's on my mind. And I want the same.

I Love Your Representation, Shumake! I shared with Family & Friends! 😂❤

Thank you so much, brother, for sharing. The last 8 minutes of this video is exactly what black men should be listening to. Thank-you brother

THANK YOU MR. SHUMAKE. .. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 If you are watching this video and you TRULY LOVE/CARE about a MELANATED MAN presently or in the future, please send them this video and pray to our creator that it inspires them to WAKE UP… STAND UP…LEVEL UP…MAN UP‼️✌🏽

To be honest, profiting from others pain is nothing new. The western, eastern, and entire world was built on that action

She knows that black men are not little and she is fishing knowing exactly what she is doing...at least its not a black woman saying that...well am off to bed 🛌 😴

She sounds like she is speaking to children and not men.

I used to own a daycare business, and this is how I talked to my preschoolers😂

And this is the direct result of Fathers being absent from the home. Many BM lacked seeing what a man is, how he operates, how he provides and how he shows up. Their only example of a woman is their Mother. They look at all women as needing to operate in a Motherly role to them.

Brothers are down bad when men like you have fo make warning videos like this

Black Men & Black Women are fighting the SAME battle truthfully... So, instead of Us going "toe-to-toe" against one another, we SHOULD be supporting one another "back-to-back" and holding each other UP in order fight the battle TOGETHER❣️🖤💚🙏🏾

27:55-28:28 Thank you so much Shumake. Black men can date whoever they want, I don't like them disrespecting black women in the process . Also we are not here to coddle grown men, we coddle children .lol

Why she's not talking to her own race?

I'm not disrespected, and I'm a Black man, I don't allow it. You're only treated how you allow yourself to be treated...🤨

Im not a black man. But ive been listening to your content. Your videos are transcendent. What is troubling any of my brothers is troubling to me. God is really speaking through you.

They talk to the men like they are children.