11 Reasons Why The INFJ Has Fewer Friends

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Why do INFJs have fewer friendships? And is it true that some INFJs have no friends at all? According to the Myers Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), INFJ is the rarest personality type in the world. They are deep and complex individuals who are often misunderstood. The INFJ personality is introverted, intuitive, feeling and judging type. And while they have some truly amazing qualities that make INFJs great friends, they are not only highly selective of whom they let into their lives, but they are often hard to get to know due to their mysterious and private nature.
And when it comes to friendships, these individuals value quality over quantity. And yes, this means that an INFJ personality type would rather have no friends than waste time on the wrong people. They prefer to have fewer close friends with whom they can have shared experiences and deep discussions about the things that matter most.
So, if you are an INFJ, the world rarest personality type, or know someone who is, you’ll enjoy this video. It sheds some light on some of the reasons why INFJs have little to no friends.
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@BrainyDose Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching! For anyone who isn't familiar with the INFJ personality type or the Myers-Briggs type indicator, watch this video - kzfaq.info/get/bejne/idqXart4zNHVaWg.html

@Lancelot_Jago Жыл бұрын

Too bad your introduction and your pinned comment never outlined the acronym. Therefore your finale “watch this video” is worthless to someone who is seeking a genuine explanation. Thumbs down

@firebladetenn6633 3 ай бұрын

@@Lancelot_JagoIt sounds like you're unfamiliar with the Meyers-Briggs test as a whole. It breaks things down into four aspects of personality type. Interaction with the world: Introvert and Extrovert. Absorbtion of Information: iNtuitive and Sensor. Decision making: Feeler and Thinker. Organization: Judger and Perceiver. There are sixteen of these personality types, and one of them is Introvert iNtuitive Feeler Judger. There's the acronym for the rarest personality type of the sixteen. There is a fifth aspect that isn't really discussed in these types of videos that's put after the personality type. Turbulant or Assertive. So, there are INFJ-T and INFJ-A type people. It seems to me that videos like this are designed for people already familiar with the Meyers-Briggs classifications in some way, but essentially, it's more than can be put in a single comment to give an informed comment, so he linked to a twelve minute video in which defines the acronym in the first few seconds of the runtime for people who aren't familiar with the classification. I hope this helps.

@tom_olofsson Жыл бұрын

I am starting an INFJ club. We will not have meetings and will all agree to leave each other alone. 😎

@rosemariekimball5787 Жыл бұрын

Your comment is hilarious!

@Automedon2 Жыл бұрын

@Cj Johnson and be annoyed and feel imposed upon that someone intruded on our inbox.

@Donna-cc1kt Жыл бұрын

Lmao. That was a great comment!

@hopalong4822 Жыл бұрын

I suspect any club that would even consider me for membership.

@kimberlyrogers9953 Жыл бұрын

I just might be interested,lol

@catherinemelnyk Жыл бұрын

A psychiatrist once told me I had a "rich inner life" and I agree with that assessment. I am at my best when I'm alone. Being around others depletes me.

@beverleyreid563 Жыл бұрын

Me too.

@amyshehi4731 Жыл бұрын

It’s exhausting!

@lorenza2589 Жыл бұрын

Totally, I've found on average, a day around people means I need minimum 2 days to recover by myself, insanely draining.

@naama3636 Жыл бұрын

same

@lynnwasdin3731 Жыл бұрын

It really is exhausting sometimes. Especially taking on what others feel and I can't stand conflict or drama. Being alone re-energizes me.

@barbarakaminska3237 Жыл бұрын

Just because I don't accept someone's BS and don't talk BS myself I'm considered intense by many people? Yes, you're right. Authenticity is viewed as intensity. I don't understand why it's INFJs who are called odd. Why being deep, sincere and empathetic is odd? (it's not the question to you, I just don't get this world :))

@jessitabonita Жыл бұрын

It is why I like the quote, "it is no measure of health to be well-adjusted to a profoundly sick society." 💛

@sparrowwilson4514 Жыл бұрын

Yeah, same. I don’t understand why everyone at work likes this girl who shit talks LITERALLY everyone but is nice to their faces. I’m honest with people (maybe a little blunt) but highly empathetic and i’m basically ignored. So weird. I hate people who I know are being insincere towards me. It makes my skin crawl and I don’t want to be around that person. Yet so many people are fine with / prefer it. You’d think human instinct would reward being honest and upfront. Yet, it literally rewards dishonesty / insincerity.

@padmakhobragade1464 Жыл бұрын

I agree with you completely

@realretta Жыл бұрын

Odd simply describes that we are 2% of 100% and that makes us the odd man out.

@JT-gm4fk Жыл бұрын

Anything that falls in the minority especially in a society of blindly following is deemed scary or odd. It's not right, but it is true.

@stonerwitch8554 Жыл бұрын

I don't have any friends because I see right through people's bs and I'm tired of wasting time.

@enmanueldelgado1348 Жыл бұрын

Agreed

@goldtowers Жыл бұрын

There are a lot of good people out there. You just haven't found them yet

@tangela0725 Жыл бұрын

Yes Lord!!! I agree with you 💯 percent!!! I'd rather be alone than to be around fake people!!! They can stay their fake ass away from me!!!

@sandygarcia6684 Жыл бұрын

Ain't that the damn truth.

@melloroful Жыл бұрын

Girl I hear ya. Much happier in my own company if it comes down to it.

@moniquehuchet3646 Жыл бұрын

I am INFJ but now 85 I am no longer secretive of my feelings,somewhere around 70 I started to express who I am at the deepest levels to anyone I come across. It is as if I am Impervious to what they think of me. I have found an inner strength and assertiveness I didn’t know I had.

@JR-nt3ep Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing that, Monique! I just celebrated my 70th and am learning to speak candidly about my gifts as a psychic. It’s been liberating and I’m finding that generally, most people are highly interested. 🔮🔮🔮

@loriwyoming835 Жыл бұрын

I found that in my early thirties. But I have neither the interest or the energy to express myself to everyone. But I did find the confidence of not caring what others think of me. My family being exempt from that of course. But I still avoid drama like the plague and happy on my little farm surrounded by my animals.

@Quietcloud Жыл бұрын

I'm turning 67 and finally feeling like I don't have to apologize for not wanting to hang out and engage in small talk. I'm ok now with expressing my own authenticity.

@mondopinion3777 Жыл бұрын

Yes, it is the same for me. I am 81 and my true inner self "came out" in old age. Impervious is a good word for how it is. Even as my body becomes more fragile, I feel I am just now hitting my stride in the art of living. I think old age is a wonderful stage of life for many INFJs.

@sulusu4812 Жыл бұрын

Ooh la! That's awesome. Thanks for the inspiration

@kelliesmith4068 Жыл бұрын

My entire 61 yrs of life as an INFJ & have always been fiercely independent, autonomous, friendly to most yet have only 1 or 2 close friends...always felt 'odd' & now understand why! I LOVE being INFJ & am so glad to have a better understanding of self thru the MBTI personality test. This video is so spot on for me!

@nineangels7572 Жыл бұрын

100% on point. I am this same exact way & as humans, we are self-protective at all costs. I would rather be an INFJ than a door mat.

@sagebay2803 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing.

@stephenstuart9881 Жыл бұрын

I relate 100% - I'm about the same age, have a couple of close, life-long friends and apparently strike others as "odd" if they don't know me (as well as feeling like an outsider myself). MBTI can feel validating.

@4021971 Жыл бұрын

I am the same age and I have zero close friends. People who wanted to be closer to me are often offended by how I slowly build a friendship. I just can't be close friends with someone overnight. In all my years I've never had a true close friend. I've had friends, but those friendships never last for many years and they are never very close. There is always a wall between us and I know it was frustrating for them. One person told me recently that I have little capacity for love and caring. This is untrue, but it often seems that way to others.

@august7027 Жыл бұрын

i am a 22 years of male INFJ. Nowadays i am finding extreamly hard to blend in between normal peoples. I took the quoat "Be yourself" too personally and when i be myself and talk with people, they look at me as if i am speaking a language they never heard of. I am in a state where i have to now understand this *"Society-Game"* . People are very delusional. Playing games with is other and they love playing "love & hate" game in the most dramatic way possible. I always spoke a truth in a most straight way possible when people say "be honest", then they look at my face saying why u said that, as if they regrate asking me that. Life be complete mess now. Oh yea, empty bench in the park is just the right place to sit and really let lose everything and take a deep breath.... that's the time when i leave earth for a brief moment. I would love to hear your words, how things went for you.

@rachelschrantz1015 Жыл бұрын

Being an INFJ, I am always misunderstood, that I am not a team player, stubborn, anti-social, OCD, etc...I don't sugarcoat if I say something and they think that I am mean. But I really don't care! They just don't know me. I have 3 best friends since we were 12 years old and they love me for who I am, even now that we're in our early 60's. They think that I am funny, straight forward, caring, dependable and independent.

@Bat_Boy 13 күн бұрын

You might like a movie called, 'Romantics Anonymous'. (Edit: or 'Castaway on the Moon' on Tubi).

@auntylinda7640 12 күн бұрын

Hi, 66yo f infj here. Please learn to say your truth but using gentler language. Most people think you are scary and unpredictable until I learned this skill, then they were ok with me.😂

@pinkydavis6113 Жыл бұрын

Everything I thought about writing in this comment section has already been written by my INFJ brothers and sisters. It's comforting to know that there are others like me...

@sufyb6432 Жыл бұрын

And that is the beauty of the internet, as much drama as it brings also ✌

@Donna-cc1kt Жыл бұрын

And grateful for it. I depend upon myself and appreciate others.

@dwalker399 Жыл бұрын

We are everywhere!

@jillferrier8715 11 күн бұрын

❤

@natalier7204 Жыл бұрын

Being able to read people is a double edged sword. You know how rude and nasty other people can be

@BTS4lifeOT7 Жыл бұрын

It's crazy how this video describes me. I don't have friends and before I took a personality test I only thought I was weird. I felt I never fitted with the rest of the people, and I'm a very honest but respectful person. And it's true, I'm 100 percent happier being by myself than spending my valuable time with superficial people.

@joejoejoejoejoejoe4391 Жыл бұрын

I had never heard of INFJs until about a month ago, when I did, all of a sudden everything in my life made sense and I have found it very helpful, I just wish that I knew about it when I was young.

@BTS4lifeOT7 Жыл бұрын

@@joejoejoejoejoejoe4391 isn't that right? I love knowing I'm not alone in this planet 😅

@naama3636 Жыл бұрын

same!

@royston6451 Жыл бұрын

@@joejoejoejoejoejoe4391 Yes, I Only Found Out the Other Day that I am an INFJ.! I too Wish I had known when I was Young.!.

@angieangiel2666 Жыл бұрын

Same as me. I knew I was different at a very young age. I was different from my family and they made sure to let me know it. And they hated me for it. I have never fit in with family members and school and work. I have social anxiety and don't interact with people unless they interact with me. Otherwise I just keep to myself.

@uckBayNguyen Жыл бұрын

Our high standards can get in the way. Our high expectations can often leave us empty

@joycee5493 Жыл бұрын

@@Askadena213 Me too!

@fairydreamz Жыл бұрын

We could build heaven though

@grahamariss2111 Жыл бұрын

I am an INFJ and so is my wife, when I first met her, I was immediately attracted to her, because she was fascinated by the world around her and we found ourselves breaking out from our social group into our own focused discussions when ever we met. I recall after we had drifted away into one of these focused discussion at a dinner party, her then husband said privately "I apologise for my wife, she would be beautiful if she did not have a f-ing opinion about everything", I so wanted to punch him in the face, because I thought that this was the most beautiful thing of this beautiful lady.

@annecaulder9495 Жыл бұрын

Aww, I love this story!

@Trutheseker Жыл бұрын

I love this.

@fairydreamz Жыл бұрын

💘

@janetjacobsen5850 Жыл бұрын

I love this story, thanks for posting it. I am an INFJ and I truly love to be around other INFJs- no time wasted being loud and saying nothing-instead good solid conversation or sitting in quiet. I wonder if other types enjoy being around their own type as much as INFJs do.

@grahamariss2111 Жыл бұрын

@@janetjacobsen5850 Thank you for your comment. I suspect other types do not, because they do not need to value friendship in the way we do.

@lorenza2589 Жыл бұрын

As a dude, INFP and INFJ are the 2 that I bounce between. Almost 40, and this describes me quite well. Little patience for drama, and sensitive about authentic people is 100% accurate and has led to only a few people in my life that I can relate to. I hate what social media has done to connecting with others. ZERO deep, meaningful interactions.

@vk2ig Жыл бұрын

The quality of the interactions can be quite good on social media. It just takes time to find such people ... just like in real life.

@ednafrench6269 Жыл бұрын

I’m 81 years young and have had 3 close girlfriends, 2 of whom are deceased. My husband was my very best friend. From my experience, your analysis is spot on.

@kelleysussman8114 Жыл бұрын

I only took the Myers-Briggs test a few months ago and found out I am an INFJ , but I now understand why I have felt the way I do for my whole life, like I have always been on the outside looking in ( I'm 57) . I now have a better understanding of why I act the way I do and it has giving me a true inner peace . I only have had 2 very close friends and 1 was my husband but I lost him in 2020 , my other friend has been my rock and really help me deal with his lost she means the world to me and I love her like a sister . Everything said in this video is me to a Tee . I have been called WEIRD my whole life but now I'm okay with that . Years ago my hubby bought me a pin that said " WEIRD IS A BY PRODUTS OF AWESOME " to make me feel better I think now I will wear it as a badge of honor 😁.

@trestelle65 Жыл бұрын

I’m 57 too!! This all makes sense now at this point. I wish I knew and had the resources back in the day when I couldn’t understand myself. ❤

@RD9_Designs Жыл бұрын

Oh, what a gift as an INFJ to have a spouse who is also a best friend! I sometimes think that I'll never find that. I'm 54. I'm truly sorry for your loss!

@l.5832 Ай бұрын

Once I tested as an INFJ it started to make sense the things people have said to me "You are too intense"....An inexperienced manager said to me "You are different. I don't know what to do with you" (I was doing my job just fine). My ex-husband thought I was anti-social because I didn't want a ton of people around me all the time just gossiping about nonsense. And people seem to think I don't like FUN. They will come to me if they have a problem or something serious is going down, but when there is going to be fun, they invite their 'fun' friends and leave me. I still enjoy some fun!

@chrisrobin409 Жыл бұрын

Solitude is heaven for me

@Sandra-wj4on Жыл бұрын

I've always felt out of step with everyone else, I hate drama and avoid crowds (because usually drama comes from crowds) and I have only a very few people I truly call friends. I'm a writer and value my solitude. Now I know who I am! Thank you.☺️

@Sandra-wj4on Жыл бұрын

@@JT-gm4fk Feeling invisible is a great way of putting it! Another word I sometimes use is "Afterthought". What do you write, JT?

@bullzdawguk Жыл бұрын

@@Sandra-wj4on You'll find many of our greatest wordsmiths were/are INFJ. As writers, we have a way with words. Or, perhaps it's more accurate to say; words have a way with us. I say this because the creative process of writing is magical for me. When I'm in a flow, it's like a trance. It's as if the words are waiting for me to be used. As I often do, I tried to find the right words to describe my creative process in its simplest terms. Eventually, I found them. With an uncluttered mind, clear of thought, I speak from the heart, and allow my soul to find the appropriate words on my behalf. Peace. DD. ☮

@ernstvandijk6342 Жыл бұрын

Big kiss to you, Sandra!

@rosethornil Жыл бұрын

Sandra, that defines me, too. I also *hate* drama and stay far away from crowds. Airports are torture for me. And yes, I'm a writer too. Working on my 11th book now. I'm so grateful to find this video (and these comments)!

@Sandra-wj4on Жыл бұрын

@@rosethornil That is awesome! I don't have as many books, but I'm going to try and catch up with you! (LOL!) Stay strong and keep writing, my friend! BYW, what are some of your titles?

@black8thelement8008 Жыл бұрын

I LOVE MY FELLOW INFJ'S .... WE ARE SUPERHEROS

@joejoejoejoejoejoe4391 Жыл бұрын

Invisibility is our superpower...

@vparker3601 Жыл бұрын

My Mom was an INFJ who also had depression as she grew older. She had few friends. But in many ways I saw that what helped her was taking her to art museums, new places, going to plays and spend days afterwards talking about what we saw/did. I was perceptive enough to help my Mom, but I wish I had known about Myers-Briggs while she was a live. I'm an ENT/FJ.

@christineperez7562 Жыл бұрын

She didn't need help. Sounds like she didn't fit in with American culture and would fit perfectly in Europe especially Germany.

@CitricLemon92 Жыл бұрын

I’m a new mom and an INFJ… I’m pregnant with my second child and very nervous because as much as I LOVE my baby and miss her when she’s sleeping, I feel my introverted side being burnt out. I will take your learned lessons to heart and make sure I do these relaxing tasks with my kids!

@marcheno7431 Жыл бұрын

Welcome to the club fellow INFJ’ers… we often find ourselves on the outside looking in when we’re among 3 or more people. We do best in one-on-one interactions and only have a handful (the most) number of close friendships while the rest remain in the periphery as acquaintances. Most of us are late bloomers and remain young at heart. At 62 looking back, I’ve suffered not knowing why I’ve always felt like the odd man (woman in my case) out. Since taking the Myers Briggs personality test 8 years ago, the dark veil was lifted and suffer no more from being “special”. Proud to be a part of the 2%tile, tho not necessarily blurting it out loud.

@billfarley9167 Жыл бұрын

I'm now 90 and am an INFJ. Can relate to all the comments. I've moved around Canada quite a bit, exploring and doing new things. In all those years the most real friends I've ever had at one time was two.

@nancym5341 Жыл бұрын

@@billfarley9167 Thanks for sharing and Canada rocks! My Dad was from New Brunswick and I lived there for a bit. Great people!

@jaycarlton2010 Жыл бұрын

I am definitely an INFJ and this video describes me to a T, 100% My mother said that I was a loner and the whole family was always concerned about me. I felt defective, not fully understanding myself most of my adult life until I finally discovered my true personality type. I have since accepted myself and would never want to change who I am.

@roslynmac Жыл бұрын

I identify with all these points yet on MBTI tests I am INFP. I find this confusing. Can one be INFP/J?

@sarahyip2825 Жыл бұрын

@@roslynmac INFP and INFJ share lots of common grounds. In fact it has been said that an INFP may mature into an INFJ. Thanks to maturity and growing courage, the INFP becomes more discerning and vocal, therefore will speak the truth to a situation out of genuine concern. No more being content with feeling and observing in the quiet. Engaging with the inner circle of significant others.

@celesteassi2721 Жыл бұрын

HaHa I saw the part about the family worries and i laughed so hard because it's totally my life.

@angieangiel2666 Жыл бұрын

I was different and kept to myself as a teenager and my family hated me for it. People at school thought I was strange because I was quiet and kept to myself. In high school I only knew two people.

@kwalker123 Жыл бұрын

I'm thinking my nibling is in the same boat. My sister is constantly concerned about her not having friends (my sister is much more E who had a large group of friends that she hung out with in high school). I suspect that my nibling is more like myself (with a much smaller circle), but she hasn't found the core friendships in a few trusted people that she feels she can relate to.

@MichaelaH2059 Жыл бұрын

I’m 62 years old and am a very content INFJ. I can absolutely relate to everything said about us in this video. Thank you❤

@veronicaj20 Жыл бұрын

Same, I'm 63.

@nancym5341 Жыл бұрын

Ditto @ 56

@hilariecalijo4643 Жыл бұрын

Yes, sounds like me. Very few friends and happy that way, don’t like drama and really dislike conflict and confrontation.

@bobbyhill5067 Жыл бұрын

finding genuine friendship is as hard as finding genuine love/intimacy for INFJs

@joejoejoejoejoejoe4391 Жыл бұрын

Well, I'm well into my 40s and still a virgin, so yes. I just want to find anouther INFJ to marry.

@nessus47 Жыл бұрын

True! I am 53 years old and I have no friends at all. I have searched all my life for someone I could truly trust, have had some shortlived 'friendships', but they always stabbed me in the back. Better to be alone I think. Less disappointment that way.

@Automedon2 Жыл бұрын

@@nessus47 What you consider being "stabbed in the back" might be this: Our personality makes us too quick to offer opinions, where none are sought. Because we are constantly thinking and formulating explanations for the world, we can be insufferable to those who live on a more surface plane (which is fine as well). Surface people have more fun because they DGAF and have little time for people like us. You weren't stabbed in the back. Your actions made people want to retaliate. I couldn't even make a list of all the friends I have alienate in my life - it wasn't them, it was me.

@stopper90004 Жыл бұрын

@@Automedon2 wow this is the first comment here , among thousands, that displays some ability and willingness to be self-critical and objective. I'm worried that many of us are a little insecure and possibly mildly narcissistic.

@Automedon2 Жыл бұрын

@@stopper90004 I quit drinking 30 years ago, with the help of Alcoholics anonymous: much in their book applies to many of us if we are honest with ourselves and step back from the victimhood for a bit "Selfishness - self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles. Driven by a hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity, we step on the toes of our fellows and they retaliate. Sometimes they hurt us, seemingly without provocation, but we invariably find that at some time in the past we have made decisions based on self which later placed us in a position to be hurt. So our troubles, we think, are basically of our own making. They arise out of ourselves, and the alcoholic is an extreme example of self-will run riot, though he usually doesn't think so"

@gilliancormode Жыл бұрын

Spot on! I have tried to figure out why I don’t have friends, and now I get it. The whole drama thing and inauthentic superficial blather is just too much for me. So, after 60+ years I’m satisfied to have my family as my friend group because at least most of them “get” me.

@veronicaj20 Жыл бұрын

Really? I am 60+ too and I have always felt that the people who understand me the least are my family, both close and extended. I feel very alone with them. But I have found several good friends over the years that I really value, so I am satisfied with that.

@Keyboardje Жыл бұрын

@GILLIAN I guess you're one of the lucky ones in that regard.

@Donna-cc1kt Жыл бұрын

Anyone who doesn’t get you has a sad loss indeed.

@janberry4516 Жыл бұрын

I'm 73 and have no friends, just acquaintances. Psychics can't read me either. But I have a lovely time on KZfaq daily. I've had some lovely conversations with strangers many times. Maybe INFJ's recognize each other? And we quickly unload with someone we will never see again? Being alone does not mean you are lonely. Few understand this.

@Marie-lf8ut 7 күн бұрын

Very true. I am 75 and can honestly say this is the best time of my life.

@morningskylark Жыл бұрын

INFJs tend to be highly selective when it comes to choosing friends, and they often have only a small handful of people in their inner circle that they truly trust and connect with. Another reason is that INFJs are introspective by nature and often spend a lot of time alone exploring their thoughts and feelings, which can make it difficult for them to socialize in a typical way. And finally, INFJs can be quite sensitive and empathetic, which sometimes makes them too forgiving or accommodating towards people who don't truly deserve their friendship.

@sparrowwilson4514 Жыл бұрын

I don’t know if anyone else has encountered this, but I have on several occasions made acquaintances with more extroverted people whose whole lives revolve around socialising. These people will notice I spend a lot of time alone and assume I must be lonely and in need of saving. Then they invite me to things, which I usually accept because I feel rude not to (plus, I’ve been made to feel weird for preferring my own company, which makes me feel like I should try to be more social), only to have those same people start treating me like I’m some kind of burden and resenting me. It’s very annoying due to the fact I was happy just being by myself and doing my own thing. I’m happy you invited me but I really wouldn’t have cared if you didn’t. Why do extroverted people always make introverts feel weird for wanting to spend time alone? Just because you can’t cope with being alone doesn’t mean you have to save me from my self-imposed solitude. This has happened to me on multiple occasions and it makes me even less interested in trying to socialise.

@margietucker1719 Жыл бұрын

I have absolutely experienced this. One particular extroverted friend---never could conceive of the notion that being alone--does NOT mean lonely. I told him this so many times--that I need, and love my solitude. He always had to be in the thick of people, big-time socializer, who couldn't be alone. Strange how people can't accept that people can feel differently than they do.

@nancygrover8959 Жыл бұрын

You have just described me perfectly. Thank you for expressing it so well.

@billfarley9167 Жыл бұрын

I sure can relate to that.

@buckleymordecai9605 Жыл бұрын

'Why'? Partly because many extroverts are shallow, assume everyone is like them, assume others need the stimulation they do and are often terribly lonely themselves...but just don't know it.

@margietucker1719 Жыл бұрын

@@buckleymordecai9605 I think that's a big part of it!

@kathrynpacis7298 Жыл бұрын

I'm an INFJ married to another INFJ. He's more of an INFJ than I am. Our marriage is the most soulful, pure yet challenging experience in life. We're both sensitive, deep thinkers and intense. Authenticity is 100% the priority for both of us in every area of life.

@mharrtj6350 Жыл бұрын

Infj+sigma trait=me I don’t need no friends to function

@wr4050 Жыл бұрын

That's me and my exact sentiments expressed

@flowerpower4944 Жыл бұрын

👍👍👍

@OKGODMAN Жыл бұрын

Omg so many like me. We are not alone. Love 2 all.

@saiprateek5779 Жыл бұрын

Incredible thing to see that there are people like me who don't seek validation from society.. we be our own boss in life 🥰❤️

@sarahhurst701 Жыл бұрын

@@DC-fe2fx 😂

@rdgreeley Жыл бұрын

I’ve heard that introverts draw energy from solitude. This has helped me explain my need for “down time.” I have always felt on the outside looking in: apart and different. I appreciate this video!

@eleanoreleanor6156 Жыл бұрын

I cried watching and listening to this. I’ve always questioned my personality. Never understood why I am like this. Always thought I was the only one like this. Thanks for making me understand

@tonyasager2921 Жыл бұрын

Yeah me too

@ernstvandijk6342 Жыл бұрын

Big kiss to you, Eleanor!

@brianunderwood7437 Жыл бұрын

No, you are not alone. I spend 99% or more of my time alone. I don’t like drama, and will keep to myself in order to avoid it.

@kelliesmith4068 Жыл бұрын

What you say resonates deep! I always knew, even as a child, that I was so different & like you, thought I was the only one like this! I love that I've found others who get me, even though I haven't met peeps responding to being INFJ, it is comforting to know I have a tribe & I'm not totally solitary! Though, I do enjoy my solitude!

@csabaszombati Жыл бұрын

I feel you

@lisad2701 Жыл бұрын

Fiercely independent and enjoy solitude: I have been electric mobility dependent due to MS for 16 years. I rely on a hospital bed as well. My legs and left arm/hand are useless. But, I still live alone in a glorified shack on 36 acres in an Arkansas national forest and love it! A part-time aide brings me groceries and does chores 5 hours each week. There are 6 local people who I trust with my life and it took 18 years to find them. I am truly fortunate.

@catherinecastle8576 Ай бұрын

I appreciate your INFJ attitude!

@tnt01 27 күн бұрын

👍

@jacksaintjack2844 Жыл бұрын

As an INFJ, I know lot of people but only have one friend. I haven't had a date or company at all since my wife sent me away in 2016. I prefer to stay alone in my apt. I don't go out. No clubs. No bars. No restaurants. Just the grocery store and gas station. I have 3 cats who show me love and gladly accept mine. It's all I need. All I want.

@theresathicthe3475 Жыл бұрын

I hear you

@margietucker1719 Жыл бұрын

Jack--we are almost living the same life! The only difference is I have a small part-time job--just 3 days a week, 6 hour shift only--and I basically work by myself when there. So it's the PT job, the grocery store and gas station every couple of weeks, and library once a month. Other than that--home all the time. No going out for entertainment, no restaurants, etc. It's always been me and my 2 cats--who are very loving, and the best companions ever. I talk to them, and they talk back to me. Like you--it's all I have ever needed, and all I want ♥

@alsilva3578 Жыл бұрын

...ditto, no cats though.

@jenna2431 5 ай бұрын

66 here.Alone since 2016, 2 cats. My big conversation each week is with the grocery cashier. Only get gas once a month.

@l.5832 Ай бұрын

@@jenna2431 I work part time as a grocery cashier. It is the only socializing I get and I told my doctor that it was unhealthy to have no social interaction so that's why I took the job. It is part time though because I couldn't stand the people more than that! It's all in the dosage! I am 65.

@jax7715 Жыл бұрын

Omg I can relate to pretty much all this video, so yes guess I am one myself! 😁 But as Richard Stevens (another Poster in here) said....it can be a bit of a curse when you dont meet like-minded persons. Even with my mates, I can feel ....odd/judged/unpopular....I feel as if everyone around me is normal and I'm not! Lol! But perhaps I, and we, should view it as a 'gifted' personality type because it's few and far between. It's something beautiful and natural, and it's wrong to fight against it. So hello to all you others the same!!! 😎❤️

@connied8507 Жыл бұрын

True. There's a few things I've learned from being an INFJ for over half a decade. I let people know up front that I'm the one that asks the awkward questions 😜. When I socialize I learn 3 topics to discuss. Gossip is sooo boring. Dinner parties are a good thing to have. The burden of conversation is on the guests, not me. The best way to make friends is to be one. It will become obvious who are users and who are true friends. Set boundaries. Closer friends have fewer boundaries. INFJs tend to have a good work ethic so a job with self direction is fairly easy to find. Stay spicy my friend 😘

@genxx2724 Жыл бұрын

🌶

@nancym5341 Жыл бұрын

Spicy Indeed!!!

@Automedon2 Жыл бұрын

That was crazy. Me to a T. At 65 I am exhausted from a lifetime of trying to fit in and understand other people. The last few years I have become almost a complete hermit - and I've never felt more myself in my life. The deep depression I have suffered all my life is almost completely gone.

@jeank8061 Жыл бұрын

Spending another evening alone tonight and wondering if I should encourage myself to socialize more. Yet I find most people draining - I have to be in the mood to be around other people. Additionally, I find most people too shallow and/or self-centered to connect with - and therefore they're draining to me. I'm sure many here in the comments can relate!

@BelleOfAmherst Жыл бұрын

This could not be more accurate! A great video to share w/others who don’t “get you”. Thanks for posting. 💗

@internationalentertainment6906 Жыл бұрын

AGREE 💯👍💯💯💯💯💯 TRUTH TELLERS SPEAK NOW HERE IN DA CHAT ✨💫🙌😍🙌💖🔥🙏🔥✍️🔥✍️💖🌈 10/15/2022

@internationalentertainment6906 Жыл бұрын

INFJ ALL DA WAY💘😇😇🥀🥰🌄🥰💋🤗🐾 MYSTERIOUS, 🦁 🐯 😘 GREAT LOVER'S FRIEND'S CRUSHES, GIFTED BY THE HOLY SPIRIT, 🦁🐾🦁🐾🦁😎PERHAPS YOU ARE ENTERTAINING ANGELS 😇????💥😎💌❤️💯💯🎼🎶🎧🙏🙏🙏🙏💖💖🔥🔥🔥🔥

@internationalentertainment6906 Жыл бұрын

INFJ PEOPLE ARE EXTREMELY PERCEPTIVE , DEEP, DIFFERENT, PASSIONATE, INTELLECTUAL, Don't TRUST ANYONE EASILY, U CAN'T FOOL US! WE AVOID LIAR'S THEIFS CON-ARTISTS NARCISSISTIC ABUSERS TOXIC PEOPLE CRIMINALS

@mekad7900 Жыл бұрын

Right???!! Omgosh, I was like how does this person know me.

@keepsmiling5937 Жыл бұрын

Hwy you guys want to talk with me?

@stevenwilgus5422 Жыл бұрын

From early childhood, my relationship with other people has ever been curiously different. The litany of peculiar interactions is seemingly endless, and spins out for decades. Oddly, I actually love other people. When I give, I do so from the heart. I do not need recognition for having helped when I see a need. Doing things to assist, when needed, is just the good thing to do. We understand the frailty in humanity because our cognitive function is "turned on its head" for others. But don't lie to me.

@patriciaherlevi6217 Жыл бұрын

I relate to this video 100 percent. It reminds me of my father who isn't an INFJ. He lectures me about all the friends he has and he wonders why I don't have any friends. I do have friends. I just don't give lists of all my friends to others. People who brag about the number of friends they have bore me to tears.

@fairydreamz Жыл бұрын

I have many friends but I’m not sure they consider me a friend or an acquaintance but it doesn’t matter in the end because I can enjoy people without reciprocation.

@johnrbreazeale7799 Жыл бұрын

I always wondered why I was so "different". I have always preferred my solitude yet enjoy some people.. I'm very selective. Which makes me short on friends. Your list describes me perfectly. Thank you for the insight

@setfreebygodsgrace3996 Жыл бұрын

It has always aggravated me how my other friends tried to "change" me, tell me to get out more, be more outgoing....they don't understand...this is who I am...I need my alone time, crowds are stressful

@sarahhurst701 Жыл бұрын

We INFJs are the "crème de la crème," of personality types! This video really improved my day alot! Thanks friend! Strength & solidarity to my fellow INFJs!👍🤟👏💜🌍

@AfterTheRains Жыл бұрын

Welcome to my world.

@enmanueldelgado1348 Жыл бұрын

Salute 😉

@zaram131 Жыл бұрын

Thank you.. I’m feeling really down about myself right now

@sarahhurst701 Жыл бұрын

@@zaram131 I can totally relate to that. I hope things improve for you friend. You're not alone! Have a blessed day 🙂

@deetles98 Жыл бұрын

@@zaram131 Don’t be down on yourself..there’s NOTHING wrong with you! You are unique and totally cool because of it!!! It’s other people’s lack of understanding that makes you feel down. Now you can understand yourself and be happy you aren’t a lost soul trying desperately to be a player. Embrace your type and see these others for how shallow and superficial they really are! I thank god I’m not one of “them”!

@xyzmsbright Жыл бұрын

I took the personality test months ago, and I found out I am an INFJ. True! I have very few friends. I find it difficult to trust. I love being alone. I don't like to argue. I distance myself from negative things/people/situations. I am very observant. I can easily sense whether a friend/office mate/family member is in a good mood or not. It's just so ironic that me being an INFJ, work as a Team Lead handling 13 team members. I have no choice but to learn to associate, interact and collaborate with different types of personalities.

@sufyb6432 Жыл бұрын

I was in a similar situation. You will be better off for it!

@nancym5341 Жыл бұрын

You got it!

@pdill9712 Жыл бұрын

The fact that I have this personality became very clear when my husband and I left the US and moved to Costa Rica. We did not know anyone and had been with friends we knew for 30 years back in the states. It came as a shock when I began to try to make friends of how difficult it was. I had 2 friends in the states who knew me inside and out. Here I found people to be so shallow. Small talk was excruciating and facebook was so important. I can say I have found 1 good friend here. That is all I need.

@joejoejoejoejoejoe4391 Жыл бұрын

I guess that your friends (and husband) are, or similar to INFJs, so you got used to proper conversation and debate, and came to assume that most people are capable of the same, it's surprising how few people have much worthwhile to say.

@melloroful Жыл бұрын

Bless you. I completely understand what you mean. It's hard enough to begin with, especially in a foreign country. I'm dealing with that myself ❤️

@cfrandre8319 Жыл бұрын

@@melloroful Ditto.

@didgemama4890 Жыл бұрын

I’m a INFJ and was able to be more so, as I was an only child after my parents 25 years of marriage. On a farm, surrounded by adults I was able to truly be me. My mother was wonderful and supportive how ever I was the odd duck at school and with relatives. Certainly makes us targets for bullying as people can sense that we are different on some undefinable level. I have had many people try to create drama for my life, surely I can’t be so calm and contented with my life, on my own. When people complain about things going on in the world, I ask “what can you do to fix that?” They don’t want to hear that at all. We are too honest and see too clearly.

@edwardsharpe6234 Жыл бұрын

I once had a management job and the senior manager had her four managers do the Myer-Briggs test so she would know what personality type we were. She was very controlling and to my mind this was self-serving. As complex as people are and as varied their life experiences I don't think any one can or imagine to put people into neat little personality boxes. When I took the test I purposely answered the questions opposite of my actual personality. I think the personality type labeled INFJ merely describes a person who is smart, perceptive, sincere, honest, unsuperficial, and who distrusts most people learned from experience. The reason it is so rare is because most people choose to not possess or cultivate any of these positive traits.

@kjbdn Ай бұрын

Just like a "stubborn, independent" INFJ to answer the questions opposite of your actual personality. Funny!

@RD9_Designs Жыл бұрын

You did a great job of summing us INFJ's up! One sentence that stood out to me was 'would rather be alone than with someone they don't like'.... I think we can be a lonely bunch, as we just don't click with 99.9% of people, but we really want to click with somebody!

@MrHlcg1962 Жыл бұрын

So refreshing. I likened it to my new take on stoicism, but with INFJ I'm truly at home with that. Finally. Thanks for the video 🌹

@theroseofversailles Жыл бұрын

This continues to explain why I never fit in with anyone. My only friends are my books that I read.

@courtneycaswell1628 Жыл бұрын

I was going to ask if other INFJs found books, music, and art to be really meaningful aspects of their 'social life'. I do consider books to be my friends as well. The level of emotional intimacy someone puts on the page is rare in person to person interactions. Have you read The Name of the Rose by Umberto Eco? I loved the idea of a library being the space where long dead people converse through books across the centuries.

@anapadron2048 Жыл бұрын

Everything on this video describes me 100% I’m considered aloof many times people say I’m boring and I spend a lot of time alone this personality is terrible when you have children because many times you are not there for them. Many times just being around others bothers me so much that I leave the event. Thank you so much for for making this video I will share it with those I love

@food4444lyfe 10 ай бұрын

Now I am wondering if that's the reason why I have no children at age 46 ( not by choice ). God had it all planned out for me....

@matchalover08 Жыл бұрын

This is so accurate... Although I enjoy my own company a lot as an INFJ, it gets lonely as it's hard to find true friends that you can genuinely connect and share your experiences with.

@MariaRodriguez-me8db Жыл бұрын

This list describes me perfectly. I have a small group of friends who are genuine and accept me as I am. I am all about quality. I have a low tolerance for BS, liars, and superficiality. I do prefer to be on my own though I have a small core of like-minded friends with whom I enjoy spending time, outside my home. My home is my haven and I prefer to it keep that way. 🌹🕊🌹🕊🌹

@elsahoffmann8719 Жыл бұрын

I thought there was something so wrong with me, until I took this test. Now I get me. That is just great to be me. The need for solitude created allsorts of problems in the past. No more amen!😋

@poetic4371 Жыл бұрын

Being alone is something most people are afraid of, because society disconnects them from who they really are since their young age, and being alone would mean having to reconnect to who you really are because there would not be anything left to distract you from your own self, and that process is really scary for a lot of people, since it involves facing your biggest demons

@mondopinion3777 Жыл бұрын

Well said and so true. I am lonely at a gathering of such people but not when by myself and tuned to God and Nature and my inner being. And I think we make the disconnected people uncomfortable because we disrupt their artificial matrix.

@lynettec66 Жыл бұрын

Accurate. I have a few select friends, and I feel like finding a partner I can trust is nearly impossible. Too many people seem very superficial to me. I don’t feel *special* but I do feel different. This is very good most of the time, but some of the time it isn’t.

@DogsReignSupreme Жыл бұрын

I had a very abusive childhood. Like many others self identity and the trauma become so intertwined. I was not sure what is from the abuse and what is part of a stable personality. I now know I am INFJ all the way. Now I am able to recognize how this helped me survive.

@elizabethowens8548 Жыл бұрын

Me too

@Bzzzzzzzz535 Жыл бұрын

Me three

@sulusu4812 Жыл бұрын

Don't get your identity from abuse, trauma. Eckhart Tolle is healing to listen to.

@DogsReignSupreme Жыл бұрын

I am finding comfort in my weirdness being part of who I am and not from the trauma...interesting.

@mignoncat1 Жыл бұрын

I have always naturally longed for solitude, & I have that . I have always loved being alone , & I have that . I have about 5 friends that I see once every 2 or 3 months ; at the most ; & I love that. If I see , even someone I adore ;4 times a year , that’s plenty. I love my life . I love my world . I have never stopped asking “ why ?” When it comes to most other individuals & their lives & their many , many crises & dramas. I simply cannot be bothered. It simply doesn’t register.

@andrewm4138 Жыл бұрын

As an INFJ, I am a loner most of the time. So many people think I am weird because I am so quiet all the time. When I was in the military, it was a struggle for me.

@bobbyhill5067 Жыл бұрын

Im a INFJ and in the military still; but over time I just became more extroverted (INFJ-A) but still keeping my quiet/alone time

@buckleymordecai9605 Жыл бұрын

Military life is the worst for us! USAF...'76 to '80.

@randydiluzio8269 Жыл бұрын

Hello Friend, I just realized I am an INFJ!! For years, I struggled to understand why I feel so out of place or alien in society? Honestly, I have all the personality traits you talked about in this video. You just gave me the key to understand myself in an entire new way. Thank you for this video!!

@annieo1092 Жыл бұрын

I go out with friends but I can’t wait to get home and be by myself…thought I was weird

@sagedakotalmft7763 Жыл бұрын

Can relate to a lot of this except the over-emphasis on independence and not wanting to be around people much and hiding myself. I am pretty open, authentic, and very intense! That does cause me to spend a lot of time alone. Definitely dislike conflict, need time to regroup, don't like small talk, have high empathy, can read people to a level of scary at times. I am definitely well suited to my career as a marriage and family therapist!

@BananaGrace Жыл бұрын

I’m an INFJ and make friends fairly easily because I’m friendly and take a genuine interest in people, however I have very few people in my life I would consider a close or true friend.. and out of those close friends… I really don’t know whom I would consider my actual best friend.. I have a couple “best friends” but not in the way I wish I actually could have a best friend. I’m grateful for them nonetheless, but I’m really not sure I have an actual best friend… people come and go and I’ve learned to be content in my own company.. this video is very spot on.

@yogaganesh9596 Жыл бұрын

1 truthful friend remaining, many people have let me down trough the year years,so I cut them out of my life.

@rymanh9094 Жыл бұрын

Loved this. So nice to be validated. I have often had conflicts at work with supervisors because of "my attitude" which is really me just actually caring about the quality of work I'm doing. I had to move to a state where my job is Union protected because managers just think I should "Smile more". Seriously 2 jobs said this and I work in an ER. If you have a stroke do you want someone to help you efficiently or just give you a silly grin? I'm empathetic and care. None of my patients have complained. They know I'm authentic and no BS.

@noidreculse8906 Жыл бұрын

Friendship traits: Honesty, and Integrity are most important

@tangela0725 Жыл бұрын

That is so true!!! It's so many people these days lack these character traits: it's almost impossible to find!!!

@WandaWojcik Жыл бұрын

Yes, and INFJ's are NOT easy to get along with, way too intense for me. I have many friends who have integrity and honesty and are NOT intense. INFJ's don't roll with it, and are NOT flexible and become discombobulated when plans change. Difficult for me. I guess different personalities can mesh with them. I can't!

@noidreculse8906 Жыл бұрын

@@WandaWojcik I get, I have heard that before. I am a loner with a small circle of friends. A square peg, in a round hole world ☹️

@WandaWojcik Жыл бұрын

@@noidreculse8906 Thank you for understanding. You are wonderful and have wisdom.

@RiriINFJ Жыл бұрын

I didn't know I was INFJ before taking MBTI test in 2017, I took more than 6 times, and the results are always the same, INFJ. I always think I was weird never fitted in any groups of friends. I was devastating trying to fit in, but now having 0 friends makes me even happier, peaceful. I'm so grateful being me, having my own company. This video describes how am I exactly, thanks a lot!

@bullzdawguk Жыл бұрын

I discovered I was INFJ (quite by accident) 5 years ago. At the time, it was the most profound realisation of my life. That is to say, while the realisation was shocking, it was not surprising. In essence, it made total sense. While it didn't tell me anything I already knew, it did attest it. This appears to be common when a person discovers their identity as an INFJ. No doubt, our very nature means we would be aware of our rareness anyway. Discovering I was INFJ didn't tell me WHO I was, it told me WHY I was. So, despite the profound realisation of self, the impact didn't change me, simply because I was still the same. It all made sense. Ultimately, if you need to ask yourself if you're an INFJ, most likely you're not one. I believe you either know in your gut (a typical INFJ trait), or you don't. In fact, the first clip I watched describing was beyond accurate and felt like it was made solely to describe me. When I asked my partner and best friend to watch the clips without telling them what it was about, they both came to same conclusion.

@SoulScribbler Жыл бұрын

I've never felt so validated as I did while watching this video. I've never heard it said so well from a point of view that truly understands INFJs.

@petratimper Жыл бұрын

Perfect description of me. It is really difficult to find true and honest people you can really trust. Sometimes it bothers me, but then again, I am quite content being on my own.

@leahoakwood9988 Жыл бұрын

Respect, love, dependability and loyalty make for a good friend.

@41Wanda Жыл бұрын

Thank you for posting this affirming video. Very accurate. I've always felt and was told that I am very odd/different from other people. I've only found out I was an INFJ-Assertive later in life. The problem I have with others is that I am friendly with everyone so many think that I am "friends" with them. It takes me some time to consider others as friends as I feel trust has to be earned over time because I want quality friendships that are a blessing to them as well as me. And, even though I tell others this, I unintentionally hurt them. What I have found is that those that will be quality friends will wait and be patient with me. If they aren't, they are usually toxic in some way or want something from me so I see this as a red flag instead of accommodating them.

@thordisfynehair9442 Жыл бұрын

Amen to that!

@junesaxon Жыл бұрын

this is so true. I’m proud to be an INFJ. ❤ what a great community here in the comment section 😊

@Mal_1908 Жыл бұрын

It's somewhat weird hearing your life described in such intimate detail on KZfaq. Great video.

@nancygrover8959 Жыл бұрын

Yes, it is! I had not heard of this, and just clicked on the video out of curiosity, because I have a difficult time socializing. It was both fascinating and unnerving to watch, and realize that they were describing me and my quirks. I have just figured I was weird my entire life. It's also nice to find that I am not alone in my preference to be alone. It's weirdly comforting..🤔

@maureenlarsen961 Жыл бұрын

This

@petelaurahero8774 Жыл бұрын

Most people don't think about life as deeply as we do. Hence, why we make good counselors and advisors. We've already played out the thousands of possibilities of an any action in our heads.

@genxx2724 Жыл бұрын

Perseverating. It’s healthy to identify it and stop. :-P

@johnrogers7846 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this. Retired from teaching going on 2 years. It was the ultimate drama stage, constantly engaged with phony personalities among students, other staff, and administrators. Having this personality type made it exceedingly difficult. I was even a head varsity athletic coach for several years. Being able to detect phony self-interested assistant coaches, parents, and even players made it hard to play the political games. I could see right through all of it. Most were decent, loving, hard working people. It just seemed that those with "agendas" and other personality types seemed to be in positions of power and influence. Now I can go for days speaking only to my spouse. I thought something was wrong with me. Anyway, let me get back to my French lessons. That way I can avoid people in 2 different languages.

@judene9944 Жыл бұрын

Same👍spent a lot of time in my room. I loved to teach, but meetings where some gossiped it was tiring

@megha9018 Жыл бұрын

You know this as you are an INFJ !

@TJRohyans Жыл бұрын

Wow! Totally me! Didn't know there was a name for it. I'll add that even though we are very good at reading people, on the rare occasion that we misread someone we care about it can be devastating. I suffer from depression and anxiety and recently had my heart broken by a woman I was head over heels for. I really misread her feelings for me and it triggered suicidal ideations for me.

@shanel9939 Жыл бұрын

I did a Briggs/Myers test about 10 years ago. I wish that I had known about who I was from an early age, it would've saved me from a lot of 🐂💩. I am 100% INFJ, however, the making other people's problems my own changed, as I got older. I no longer do that part. I can empathize now, I just don't let other people bring me down. All the rest in the video is spot on though.

@hair2050 Жыл бұрын

Precisely me too. Followed the same evolution you describe. Overall I am very happy with who I am and glad to be an INFJ, however the flip side as pointed out by others is also true. Life would be easier as a more generic average joe.

@damonjohnson8248 Жыл бұрын

It’s refreshing to know that I’m not alone. I love being an INFJ

@oldman975 Жыл бұрын

This pretty much describes me. As for friendships,I have a multitude of acquaintances, but only a very few I can truly call friend. I like it that way.

@WandaWojcik Жыл бұрын

I am blessed with great friends, so I don't get INFJ's. I also have acquaintances.

@Velvetwings9 Жыл бұрын

I am an INFJ and this is100% true

@Donna-cc1kt Жыл бұрын

I’m an iNFJ and married an INFJ. It was the most beautiful friendship and marriage of our lives. Never married again. We loved people and adventures and not self centered as one could suppose.

@lh4615 Жыл бұрын

I learned from a very young age how to assimilate. It’s unnatural and can be very exhausting, but it’s been helpful for superficial social situations. My most significant job was a struggle not because the work was complicated (I thrive with solo work and enjoy a full workload), but due to low-grade conflict with my supervisor because I did’t fit her idea of work culture. I’d prefer to be in my office steadfastly on task instead of frequent breaks to coworkers offices and communal areas to socialize & gossip. I was even reprimanded once for being too productive because it made my coworker look bad. Seriously. I’m being paid to work, not be part of a toxic work culture… On my time, I thrive with creative pursuits. At times INFJ-T can be lonely, but I do genuinely care for the betterment of others. Well, others that aren’t malignant narcissists!

@nineangels7572 Жыл бұрын

Just described my life at my job of 14 years exactly.

@joejoejoejoejoejoe4391 Жыл бұрын

In my first occupation I was a mechanic, I quickly found out that if the machines broke down and I was busy all day, the day would pass really quick, if all the machines went well the day dragged on and on, I used this in my next job to stay busy to make the day go quicker, but I to was told to slow down by my manager....

@buckleymordecai9605 Жыл бұрын

Good grief! What a toxic environment.

@Automedon2 Жыл бұрын

Funny how we can be cameleons, isn't it? I have been told that I am personable, and sociable, but I know it's just because I learned those traits so that life can go smoother. I'm semi retired - working just 3 days a week. The other 4, I rarely see anyone or go anywhere and that's the real me.

@sandrap4188 Жыл бұрын

Old woman here who is this personality. Hard lesson learned too late is dont be too comfortable with it. Will come a time when all your immediate family has passed & you will get longterm sick & need help. If you don't have alot $ for home health care, you will be in trouble. Really work on coming out of your comfort zone & develop an expansive network of friends - the younger the better. Be a good neighbor, learn to trust. Even if you get burned by others, move on & keep reaching out.

@williambotha5864 Жыл бұрын

So accurate it's weird. I once lost a job opportunity that I REALLY wanted because "you don't seem to have many friends, and it's important in our consulting team to be social."

@carlamarlene2927 Жыл бұрын

I can't say for sure I could get this diagnosis but I really identify with this whole list. My husband and I are each others best friends since the drugs and alcohol got replaced by our shared love of life. All the "friends" we had couldn't handle our grounded responsibilities. Now that we are empty nesters life is showing us true colors. We have a few friends that touch seldom and that's fine.

@boldchick101 Жыл бұрын

As an INFJ-A this decribes me to a T. The MyersBriggs system has finally revealed so much to me that has led to understanding myself, my life and how others relate to me. Maturing as an INFJ-A has been a revelation and an adventure. Being different to the mainstream presents many challenges yet if given a choice I would choose who I am over fitting in any day. Much love to every INFJ.

@joejoejoejoejoejoe4391 Жыл бұрын

Finding out about INFJs (about a month ago) has been a revelation to me, now everything makes sense. I think in the past it was easier for people to be different, and individual, but now everyone has to fit into the modern norm, sharing the same views and opinions as what is currently popular, no matter how it fits in with facts.

@boldchick101 Жыл бұрын

@@joejoejoejoejoejoe4391 I simply never fit in, ever.

@thordisfynehair9442 Жыл бұрын

lol. I never really have "fit in" either. My head is in a different place than most people. I tend toward intellectual, learning things. I found out my mtDNA is from around the world & laughed. I have always been more interested in the wider world than in a small locations. I like ethnic & bohemian, long before it became a "thing."

@boldchick101 Жыл бұрын

@@thordisfynehair9442 It is fun to be different, why fit in when we were born to be set apart and stand out?

@geraldestabrooks8330 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for posting this video! I struggled for most of my life to understand who I am, and now I have a label and a better understanding of my personality. And I feel vindicated knowing that this is a real personality type and my quirks or totally normal. I appreciate the work and detail you gave for this video. I hope others can see this and gain understanding about themselves and others with this personality that have struggled like I have. Well done!

@ranaebybee3036 Жыл бұрын

Although I may not fit this category because I do have many friends, I resonate with many of the incites. At 83 I love being with someone willing to “go deep” , one of life’s very special gifts. I also crave time alone to assimilate those gifts.. Thank you for providing a forum for sharing. The more opportunities we have to share the more joy we can spread.

@georgosdidymus2023 Жыл бұрын

I have never thought of myself as a personality type but after watching this video I think I am an INFJ. Over the years I seem to have become more and more detached from even the few friends that I had in school, in the university and the social circle around me. Yes, being aware of the hidden agendas of the people you interact with can drive you to solitude, if you are looking for authenticity in others.

@isabellamori299 Жыл бұрын

I remember realizing one day that I didn't actually 'like' my friends, and that I truly felt trapped in romantic relationships. I dropped all of them and haven't forced myself to have a romantic relationship in almost 15 years. I feel like socializing maaaaaybe once or twice a week and that's just having a twenty minute conversation with an acquaintance or four people I categorize as friends. Bear in mind, I only know the last name of one of them, lol. Having said that, my life is the best it has ever been. It's fantastic to be who I really am. I'm INFJ with, I suspect, an attachment disorder due to ACEs, but it seems to work for me. I want to do my art and hang out with my bird and my dog. And a couple of wild crows I know pretty well. After that, then people, sometimes. =)

@IsabellaRanck 3 ай бұрын

I too am an INFJ, and it took me quite awhile to get to, "I don't care what people think of me." I'm now 66 close to being 67, and I'm the happiest I've been in my entire life. Also, almost zero close friends. The point about trusting is huge for me. Thank you for reading my post in its entirety.

@sharonraffanti3632 Жыл бұрын

Wow, finally a good explanation of who /what I am. This has caused tremendous loneliness and misunderstandings in my relationships, so much so that I always believed that I am totally unacceptable and would constantly beat myself up.

@LifewithAmber24 Жыл бұрын

Oh my! So get it now! Just discovered that I'm an INFJ and totally resonate with every single point in this video. I feel a little more validated and free to be me and lean into my personality type more! Thank you so much for sharing!

@csabaszombati Жыл бұрын

It’s a long run, but it’ll worth it i guess. You’ll become more experienced, see what others not or dont want, and it is worth to like a step ahead to God’s wisdom, the only thing that is satisfy us :D

@michaelclark4043 Жыл бұрын

I would like to share a quote one of my old school teachers gave me that went The more you come to know the more you come to realize what you DON'T know.

@marcp.1752 Жыл бұрын

According to different tests, i'm INFJ or INFP, but INFP scored more within tests, so i guess that's just right. Thing is, we can't stand (un)social networks, fake people, superficial people...and gossip, i hate it since the kindergarden. Life and interacting with others depletes my batteries way easily, and it's stressing, -overwhelming, too. I love my peace, harmorny, doing and caring about my things, hobbies & interests. I love animals way more than humans, especially loud people are a mess.