This is my favorite comment...thanks !

This feels so true!! 👍🏾

Mine is beginning at 33

Makes sense. I've only just started as I creep toward 38.

It is weird isn't it but it is true. I love embracing my childish side. I laugh at kid's shows, old kids shows I grew up with, The Simpsons, any cartoons, anything childish and full of wonder and imagination. I actually wanted to have kids from the youngest age as I love their nativity and innocence. I find a lot of intellectual people secretly have a very childish level subconscious (just some expose it more than others). I always laugh at stupid things and have an immature sense of humour because I think life is so mundane I love to just make it a joke. It's like Picasso said "It took me till my teens to draw like Michelangelo but my lifetime to draw like a child". It's almost like we know the happiest period of the human life is that of a child. A period of unknowing and excitement. Energy and imagination so we want to emulate this. Most stuff for kids is always exceptionally positive and happy so it's almost like we are trying to go back to these safer times hence want to relive them. Then, as you get older, adult life is preconditioned to be bleak, no fun, no imagination etc. This is why I think it is imperative we do learn from our children. Not intellectually, necessarily but their outlook and approach on life. This is what we want continued throughout their lives. It's interesting to try to understand where this creativity and tenacity burns out (at school, work or human nature); it is odd. It's like children are cute and happy to get their parents to care for them but then we may all be secretly instinctively going to become less so.

Wow same.

Yaaaaas! Well said!

Yes when you smile, it's like it makes people upset. It's like coming back to who you really are and the person you've always been hidden underneath coping mechanisms and societal expectations and molds.

@@lettinggrace yes!!! Thank you for articulating it perfectly.

I so relate to what you said.

I just want to thank you for sharing this. I’ve realised due to my childhood with sick parents that I’ve been afraid of committing in case I would ‘end up’ a nurse and to see you writing that it was tough but also an honour - and you don’t regret anything - has actually lifted a burden a smidge enough so I can get my fingers in and lift it more. So thank you so much for this and I wish you all the best 🙏♥️

Rubbish

Thanks for sharing, I was married 30 years , my husband passed 13 years ago , I cared for him until his passing due to cancer , I'm 56 now .

Respect ❤️

@nan robbins That is so beautiful. You deserve every good in this world and more. Thank you for sharing

🤣🤣🤣🤣

Ain't that the truth.

Same, sun screen and sleep do wonders. Otherwise, I eat a lot of junk food, drink energy drinks, am naturally active. So, I tell them sunscreen and sleep, and the rest is genetic. I'm 56 and pretty solid musculature, running around, walk fast, trying to fit in everything I want to do for the day. It's a passion for life and living

I always tell people that I often lose track of time. And it makes sense to me that consequently, time loses track of me. Truth is, during my mid thirties, after 33, I started forgetting how old I was. If not for remembering my birthdate, I always had to count back from that whenever someone asked me how old I was. And I'd soon forget again.

@@courtneymeyers82 lmfaooo that’s so funny.

Yeah we don't get bored, everyday got new stuff.

Yes. 65 here, zero meds.

I always tell people that I am the only one who can bring your inner child out, and I love it because I can be a kid too. I have a mischievous side that I love to show people but it's heavily guarded.

Agreed. We don't get bored, there's always plenty to do in the mind 😂

Love this! 😍

Same! 🤍

Hopefully you can get past your pains from powerlifting.

Yes!!! This!!! Singing and dancing is life💃🏻 🕺

I've always done so I've been told I'm a walking musical. I've come to the realization that there is an outlook many in society seem to have concerning having this kind of childlike joy in life. As a child it's acceptable, as a teen it's become a given, if your a mother or someone taking care of children this too can be acceptable concidering there are children around. Yet for some odd reason once a person gets to adult stage if there no children there is this ridiculous idea that one must be drunk, high on drugs or crazy.... apparently adults cannot have true joy an enjoy simple life simply unless one of those factors applies.🤦. It's Not true. It simply isn't as common in a society that seems to push negativity in one way or another. I've always kept this free spirited childlike joy an appreciation of little things. We mature an grow yet we should not neglect our inner child.

@@GypsyDove yeah as of lately I think it's rubbing off on people because when you look around you the average person is severely depressed and they see me so independent always alone but so full of joy dancing and singing it intrigues them to want to know why I'm so happy. But they're also too intimidated to approach me which cracks me up because I have one of the most beautiful gentle Souls you could ever meet

I sing in my cubicle at work, sing in my car, sing in the shower...must be something to it, as a lot of folks are surprised by my actual age and I get hit on by younger guys, which is a good ego booster. 🤣

YES!

Achieving growth isn't always that easy for everyone. It's a state of mind not everyone can achieve easily. Being a doer and taking action makes all the difference and half the battle. If that was that easy everyone would be doing it. ✌️

Absolutely!

We have the perfect recepie for this. I think that all begins from the sigma mentality. Being able to keep yourself out of hierarchy and out of the mainstream, that's the biggest secret. Mainstream isn't mant for you. It isn't made by you and for you and it's not ment for you. Mainstream is what keeps you limited, but Ni works by perspectives and possibilities. If it is a question that explains one of the key characteristics of Ni it's why and I will answer why not. You cannot get happy, younger and fulfiled if you are limiting your self in norms that are not made for you and can't fit to you. Money, fame, popularity, we don't care for them, they mean nothing to us without we knowing what we really want and what we are really good at. I don't build my self on promotions, I build my self on actions and objectives. As I look into some people I get terrified of how they are limiting themselfs in popular beliefes and emotional ignorance. We have to think more often of what we leave behind us. It's not about being №1 in the hierarchy, having last model Mercedes, profitable business and all the material good's you can imagine. You wont be rememberd for your money, car and fame, you will be remembered for your love and devotedness and in order to achive those you have to build your selfawareness first.

Aging backwards? INFJ guy here. Yes you get prettier every vid Wenzes!

Love this. Gives me something to look forward to.🤍

I just want people to know life is hard but it can be easy if you see yourself through my eyes. Life is tough for me, because I want the world to see the world through my eyes - because it's beautiful and the concept of time doesn't have to exist.

I am 65,people always guess I am 50+

Hey missy you seem to be having the same issue as - “ the miraculous life of Benjamin button “ … 💘

I wouldn't call it in an issue lol. I am grateful. I feel better too. @@byronryan4216

Kate Beckinsale is half-vampire so that's cheating lol

Yes I'm 58 and I've seen women in their 40s who look like they could be my mother. Keanu Reeve's current girlfriend is a good example of one. She looks like she could be HIS mother too! And he is 9 years older than her. His biological mother actually looks younger (and way prettier) than his girlfriend. What he sees in her is beyond me. She must have some kind of magnetism and personality!!

INFP Here.

I think it makes dating and finding a relationship at 55 much more difficult though, the combination of that, the childlike enthusiasm and excitement, and the analytical thoroughness stresses people out, and they find you too intense on every level.

How have you actually accomplished this? Like what are the actual practical steps you took to doing this? Curious INFJ stuck in a rut here

@@liaduriez9531 sorry you’re going through this girl but you’ll come out of it stronger! the last thing we want as infjs is to grow old and realize that we lived our lives and spent our years months even days planning, overthinking, and daydreaming of the future and what could be without ever stopping to enjoy the present live in the moment or take the time time to act and not just dream. With doing shadow work I didn’t have a set of steps planned out it happened because I was in a rut and decided to find out why I felt so empty. That’s how I found I was a INJF and looking into it I saw that I was low on Se. And that was the one thing that infj youtuber I watched explained that resonated with me because I always saw it myself staying away from people as being cautious and unproblematic but truth is I was very scared to live unapologetically and I was crushed by people’s expectations and views of me. I slowly stopped attending social events I only went out for groceries. I stopped taking care of my body my diet was bad I stayed home all day not doing anything while I had things on my todo list pile up. I always said id get to it and never did because I was stuck in a rut and a rabbit hole of self doubt. The first step to getting out is knowing that you are an infj and understanding how Se and Si work. Identify what times of your life you kept to yourself because you wanted to minimize interaction with the outside world because you’re in a bad mood or dont want to deal with something out there. Once that’s done you will slowly start to notice the times of your life where you kept to yourself for the right reasons because you wanted to work on a project, because you wanted some you time, because you wanted to spend your energy on something that brought you joy. If you don’t notice that You will at least notice the unhealthy patterns (we’re good at that lol) in your life and in your interactions with others. Especially those who are toxic, or emotionally abusive around you, there will be more friction between you and them and you will be more sensitive to the things they do that are “violating “ to you be it violating meaning they abuse you emotionally or violating meaning they pour their trauma on you. You will realize even your patterns of enabling these people by not saying anything or consoling them when you know its not your job to. To increase Se you will have to get away or at least keep a distance from these people who drain you and figure out where your boundaries have been crossed. Get awareness of your own triggers and trauma and work on healing you could be stuck running away from your emotions and past. You are not a well that constantly pours out you have to understand that in order to help others you have to be your best self to begin with. If you are empty, drained, low on energy you wont be able to help anyone not even yourself. The way you get energy as an infj is by doing those thing that bring you joy as well as things you have on your todo list. You’re probably in a rut rn because you have thoughts and feelings of not being good enough to accomplish the goals you have in mind. And because you dont think your person is able to achieve it you resolve to dreaming of it without ever actually taking action. Or you started taking action but you feel discouraged easily because the road is long and you have a hard time seeing the good things on the way to the destination. You only focus on the destination, the final product. It takes a lot to get up and do the same boring things everyday without seeing progress and thats what us infj are not good that. Se. doing the things you know you have to do at the time it needs to be done so that the feeling of not showing up for yourself or trusting your word does not surface. Declutter, in every area of your life if you have friends and family you lost touch with that u Miss contact them, if you have hobbies that you use to do as a child or any age for me it was sketching clothes and sewing. I had not done that in almost ten years doing it again recently gave me a surge of energy and mande me happier. If you have being wanting to make changes to your diet do it, if you’ve been wanting to take yourself out more do it whether or not you have a friend to go it. The key is to do those things that you constantly tell yourself you will do but never get to it. Be it in your career, relationships, social life, mental heath, or even leisure, start to do those things you can start with getting one thing off your todo list done. if you are stuck in a pattern to constant self gratification to avoid dealing with your everyday life you can try to start by planning your days, and each day in the morning you knock out two of the most important things you have to do that day. The afternoons and evenings you can use to relax and indulge in your hobbies, get acquainted with them again (the ones youve forgotten). Slowly you will get your mind used to the pattern of doing something serious and doing something for fun. I promise you once you start working on yourself and your goals in reality your mood and view if things around you and of you will change and you will feel more accomplished and self assured. The importance of Se and taking action as an infj is not that you get to not feel like you can’t believe in yourself anymore (its a reason) it’s that taking action is what fuels you to take even more action everyday. It gives you a “surge” of energy knowing that you have a vision and are working on it while also being the most authentic and best version of yourself. Even when it comes to relationships and friendships once you know that it is okay to feel different and think differently from everyone and you are doing your best to advance (thats it do something little everyday) every department of your life and being unapologetic you you will feel way more secure in your ability to get that career and the partner you desire. You can be a blessing to someone out there if only you would give 100% of Lia to the world in every area of your life and might I say dare to impose yourself unapologetically. Hope this helps!

@@erinak7008wow that’s exactly how I feel 💯 thank u for ur detailed reply; u’ve really just helped me understand my pattern; I’m gonna screenshot this to help me take action! Bless u ❤

Same! I was just saying today how the 40’s feel so young!

I feel the same way. I was extremely serious as a child/adolescent.

Same Capricorn moon