Breaking Free: The Link Between Social Anxiety and Shame
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Understanding that having difficult experiencing the emotion of shame is not your fault. It is likely the result of childhood traumas and you may not necessarily recall why it developed in the first place.
Practice experiencing the emotion of shame on your terms. Improve your ability to tolerate the feeling by using self-compassion, kindness, understanding and permission to be imperfectly human.
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@Eserr7856 5 ай бұрын
Thank you for this video. I still struggle with social anxiety even after several years of exposing myself to social situations and getting to know larger groups of people. I have made significant improvements being comfortable in my own skin,, but I still feel lingering shame and I fear being exposed of my awkwardness and secret anxiety of my daily life. I don't have any significant childhood trauma as I grew up in a stable home, so I can't figure out why I struggle so much. Maybe ill never know and I just need to have compassion on myself and not self loathe anymore. I might be my own worst critic and bully 😔
@PaigePradkoTherapy 5 ай бұрын
It sounds like you are challenging yourself and doing the best you can. Treat yourself with compassion and kindness as it sounds like shame is there. ❤️
@jacespacin 3 ай бұрын
I've looked into social anxiety so much, but I really thought shame was a result of the anxiety. Never thought of it the other way around. Thank you for the workbook recommendation!
@PaigePradkoTherapy 3 ай бұрын
I never thought of it the other way around either. It was an eye opener for me to realize that social anxiety is a problem with tolerating the feeling of shame. And, if we understand that shame is so painful, it makes sense why we have tried to avoid feeling it. But, understanding this can help someone have much more compassion for themselves as they experiment and learn that they can improve their ability to tolerate the feeling of shame. And treat themselves with compassion when they experience it versus feeling terrible about not doing enough social exposures.
@zoppelo8739 5 ай бұрын
Thanks for this perspective. I have suffered from social anxiety for a long time myself and have also tried helping many others with it as a psychiatric nurse. Exposure rarely really works well compared to other anxiety issues as you say, i never saw it this clearly before! Focusing on shame seems like a very promising idea and it matches well with my own experience of social anxiety. My thing started with fear of blushing in my teenage years, at times i felt shame so intense it's a wonder it wasn't fatal!
@PaigePradkoTherapy 5 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing your experience. I was also an anxiety ridden teen. It is a different perspective from social anxiety and one that hits home with me as well as my clients. If we think about helping ourselves tolerate shame with self compassion, it seems more helpful than exposure alone.
@jaimeegilmoreduetcovers9406 5 ай бұрын
I used to be a really huge social butterfly and I even hide it well for awhile up to a certain point and then that's when the floodgates come crashing through and I end up self sabotaging or making a fool of myself. And it's really a shame because there have been some people in my life that I really liked and wanted to be friends with or be social with and I ended up ruining any chance I might have had. People will end up blocking me.or ignoring me or misunderstanding me... Which in all actuality ends up being more frustrating because the whole reason they misunderstand me is because I have shown them something that isnt me it's so frustrating. Then you try to apologize and you try to make amends and you try to ask them to forgive you and to start over which makes you feel even worse.... But I am not realizing that I am a human being I need to forgive myself and love myself and not be so caught up in what others think. It's just when you make a fool of yourself and it's not really who you are you want to explain yourself but it's already to late. This is why I'm so thankful for my friends that have stayed by my side knowing this it's not easy to admit thank you I love you guys!!
@PaigePradkoTherapy 5 ай бұрын
My heart goes out to you because it sounds like all you want is love and acceptance. Those are basic human needs. Yes, give that acceptance and compassion to yourself until you find those people that accept you no matter what. We all have times when we put out different amounts of energy and emotion in social situations. Try your best to not criticize yourself for those times but accept and love yourself for trying to connect. ❤️
@malps7028 5 ай бұрын
I really needed this. I actually struggle with social anxiety and fear of judgement. Thank you so much for this video!
@PaigePradkoTherapy 5 ай бұрын
You’re welcome. ❤️
@patriciaanndemello4652 5 ай бұрын
Mele Kalikimaka ( Merry Christmas) and Mahalo for another video.
@PaigePradkoTherapy 5 ай бұрын
Thank you, Trish. Mele Kalikimaka to you too! ❤️
@victory9285 5 ай бұрын
My anxiety is mostly because of a physical deformity (terrible dentition). Treatment is so damn expensive🙁
@PaigePradkoTherapy 5 ай бұрын
I am so sorry 😢
@Mr.Solefighter 2 ай бұрын
Hi paige I'm exactly in the same phase of this social anxiety, I am trying to fix it but still those previous conditioned mind hardly preventing me to fix the issue and feeling those types of fears like fear of failure, success,rejection, criticism, society, fear of taking wrong decision, talking with others etc, I am trying to fixing all this by self expose therapy myself but failed in short term and feels normally sticks old negative thinking patterns 😢 especially when it comes to long time spending in outside or any social situations I felt like shame also then I thought its may be type of anxiety but when it comes to fix myself this problem I'm only lasts short time period then my confidence is suddenly declined Sometimes even difficult to understand myself what exactly is happening to me😞
@PaigePradkoTherapy 2 ай бұрын
I want you to know you’re not alone. I believe that there is so much more going on than an anxiety condition. There are deep seated shame traumas likely from early childhood and we developed ways to avoid or cope with that shame. This is where anxiety steps in. What we avoid, of course reinforces anxiety. So…if we avoid feeling shame…we are attaching our fear response (anxiety) to the experience of feeling shame. Now we have shame and anxiety linked together. Awful! The way through is to remind ourselves that our strong reaction is based in the past, when we were children and not equipped to cope with shame. We can get better at tolerating that feeling. We can treat ourselves with compassion and understanding when we feel overwhelming shame. Exposure helps, along with the understanding and compassion of why it is so painful. ❤️
@karabutler467 3 ай бұрын
So I’ll go to the gatherings and try to put myself out there to enjoy the company of others and have a good time but a lot of times I feel like my presence isn’t wanted. When I try to engage I’ll be met with replies that feel like they’re trying to say something rude to shut me down. Or just simple quick responses and then continue talking amongst each other and then I still don’t really feel included in the group and then when I can finally get out of there I feel even worse and lonely than I did before. I just want to feel accepted or wanted.
@PaigePradkoTherapy 3 ай бұрын
I understand wanting to feel accepted, wanted and part of the group. That is a natural human need. And sometimes it is very difficult to find a group or even a person that makes us feel that way. There has been research that people with social anxiety, and possibly anxiety in general tend to read people’s neutral expressions as negative. I found that research interesting. I wonder if it is a self protection mechanism that causes a person to read neutral as negative. Please have compassion for yourself and do not let negative group experiences keep you from trying to find that person or persons that make you feel accepted and wanted and included. ❤️
@karabutler467 3 ай бұрын
@@PaigePradkoTherapy Thank you for taking the time to reply. I will try to keep that perspective in mind. ❤️
@Khora 5 ай бұрын
Hey Paige, thank you for your work! I have a question (maybe a potential topic for a video?). We know that, most of the time, the outside content of the obsession(contamination, relationship, harm, etc) does not matter that much. I have been successful in detaching, at least to some extent, the outside content from the suffering that obsessing causes. For example, instead of letting myself be convinced that I am getting contaminated, I acknowledge that my mind is trying to find something to latch on. The problem, however, is that I end up in a "pure suffering" state, something that feels like mental pain, "brain frying" without outside content. Any tips on where to go from here?
@PaigePradkoTherapy 4 ай бұрын
When you describe ending up in a “pure suffering” state, it sounds like you are sitting with the discomfort/anxiety/distress without doing anything to calm yourself. This is exactly what it feels like when you are beginning ERP. When you sit with this feeling of being contaminated for example, and not trying to fix it, you are sitting in that suffering space. This is how your brain learns that you survive and are okay and what you thought was harmful was not harmful. You are learning that you CAN tolerate what you thought you could not.
@paulwiley8902 5 ай бұрын
Same with all fears and phobias, the only way to defeat them is to face them head on, but many people don't want to face them..
@PaigePradkoTherapy 5 ай бұрын
Yes. This is true.
@Sam-uk4mb 18 күн бұрын
You're pretty much right I guess, but for social phobia specifically the thing holding me back is the crushing fear of negative reinforcement. To go out beyond my comfort zone and be scolded, ridiculed, derided; reinforcing, effectively, my view of myself as a social failure. It's that fear of imagined failures in social situations becoming a reality- lending legitimacy to my low self worth- that keeps me away from them
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