Brené Brown's Top 10 Rules for Overcoming Vulnerability and Fear

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= BROWN'S RULES =
1. Show up!
2. Cultivate authenticity
3. Set boundaries
4. Actively practice gratitude
5. Embrace vulnerability
6. Let go of perfectionism
7. Explore your emotions
8. Build shame resilience
9. Risk failure
10. Don't have any regrets
= BONUS =
* Let yourself be seen
She got her Ph.D. from the Graduate College of Social Work at the University of Houston in 2002. She began her career as a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work. Her research focuses on authentic leadership and wholeheartedness. Her articles have appeared in many national newspapers. She's the founder and CEO of both COURAGEworks, and Brave Leaders Inc. Her 2010 TED Talk is one of the most watched talks on the Ted.com website. She has received numerous teaching awards. She is the author of three #1 New York Times bestsellers: The Gifts of Imperfection, Daring Greatly, and Rising Strong. She and her work have been featured on PBS, NPR, TED, and CNN. She's also the CEO for The Daring Way, a training program for helping professionals who want to facilitate her work.
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@EvanCarmichael 4 жыл бұрын

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@BlackBusinessesMatterPodcast 3 жыл бұрын

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@bryansapp7930 6 жыл бұрын

"if you're not in the arena also getting your ass kicked,then I'm not interested in your feedback." awesome

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing :) #BTA800 Luka

@cath1961 3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely! This is gold

@AmyStruloeff 6 жыл бұрын

"It's not about winning it's not about losing it's about showing up. And being seen." So well said.

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Agree. :) Thanks for the comment and for watching Amy. #BelieveNation #BTA595 Shine

@AmyStruloeff 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you Sir for comment. Much respect for your work as well. Peace

@tyrahigh9243 6 жыл бұрын

It amazes me people find ways to criticize how she looks, I'm usually staring at how natural and beautiful she is.

@private15 5 жыл бұрын

Tyra High. bullies have often been bullied or have a weakness or fear that they try to protect themselves by using bullying on others. Remember. They are not in the arena.

@suemcclellan1004 5 жыл бұрын

Tyra High I agree with you. She looks fresh and wholesome. Sad that there were those that had the opportunity to listen and see her in person and only commented on her looks and not her profound message!!

@whatrosebud 4 жыл бұрын

She's awesome and beautiful

@nicoleprice354 4 жыл бұрын

Focusing on her looks and expressing negative opinions is to deflect from what they have going on on the inside of them.

@TheNinnyfee 3 жыл бұрын

People who do that want to hide their own feelings of ugliness or shortcomings. Nobody that feels good about themselves for real would ever say that to another person. People liking hurting people are not coming from a healthy place.

@woodharr 6 жыл бұрын

5 BRENE BROWN LESSONS TO FIND STRENGTH IN VULNERABILITY 1. Vulnerability Is an Act of Courage 2. Belonging Starts with Self-Acceptance 3. Show Up Even When There Are No Guarantees 4. Strive for Excellence, Not Perfection 5. Explore Your Emotions, Don’t Numb Them

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing :) #BTA798 Luka

@karenannscott1619 4 жыл бұрын

Yes.

@moniquevamado 6 жыл бұрын

Love her. "Shame runs two tapes: not good enough and who do you think you are." Accurate again, Brene'.

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing :) #BTA841 Luka

@pamleo999 6 жыл бұрын

My favorite definition of empathy is...”your pain in my heart.”

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

@mahalieoshiro7804 6 жыл бұрын

"We need to love with our whole hearts even though there's no guarantee."

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching and for the comment Mahalie. :) #Believe #BTA568 Shine

@sophiawest17 2 жыл бұрын

You’re brilliant and gorgeous !! And by the way you’re a beast in the arena 💞

@shadanzahrooni8416 6 жыл бұрын

"it's not joy that makes us grateful, it's gratitude that makes us joyful" #begrateful

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing your thoughts and for watching Shadan. :) #BelieveNation #BTA569 Shine

@berryzem 6 жыл бұрын

@Christian McKnight The problem with that understanding is the reliance on external circumstances to bring joy. Practicing gratitude is internal and can be consistent with continued practice. Being joyful does not exempt us from experiencing hard times and it does not mean we *only* feel joy. The gratitude Dr. Brown is referring to is "counting your blessings" or rather choosing to think about what you *do* have that makes you happy and what is going right. It does not mean ignoring difficult events either. It simply means choosing time and time again to be conscious of what you have and what is going right and allowing that to affect your sense of being rather than spending the majority of your energy on what is wrong or lacking.

@travisloetz7201 6 жыл бұрын

“Gratitude is the attitude that sets the altitude for living!”, James MacDonald

@danielraypickrel4316 5 жыл бұрын

Shadan Zahrooni thanks for sharing that mind gem.

@SonicPlayah 6 жыл бұрын

What an incredibly intelligent and amazing woman.

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing :) #BTA770 Luka

@bepresent84 2 жыл бұрын

We all are intelligent

@karenbelland7519 6 жыл бұрын

Brené is MY FAVOURITE SPEAKER EVER !!!#1 Show up! If you are going to show up and be seen, there is only one guarantee you are going to get your ass kicked! If courage is a value we hold...this a consequence!

@TriggeringLight 6 жыл бұрын

I love Brene Brown. She is the reason I did my TEDx Talk and wrote my bestselling book. This top ten is awesome!!!

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Awesome to know that Deliciously Fabulous TV. :) Glad you liked the video. #Believe #BTA576 Shine

@OhheyitsReeislife21 5 жыл бұрын

What’s the name of your book

@nursegaines3519 2 жыл бұрын

I wanna support you sis... What's your book?

@krystalmckinley5413 6 жыл бұрын

"Set boundaries. And if you don't you will become resentful and hateful". This completely defines every relationship I have ever been in. I have became so resentful and hateful by the end of relationships because I did not set BOUNDARIES. I allowed someone else to define my boundaries. From today forward I decide my boundaries :) Thank you for sharing this Top 10 Evan!

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing your thoughts Krystal. :) All the best! #Believe #BTA569 Shine

@snowman4242424242 6 жыл бұрын

I like what you're saying, Krystal. I just came out of a 12 year marriage. Ironically, I have huge self awareness (I am good at noticing and reading my emotions) but little self control with boundaries. So even though I knew that relationship was ultimately bad for us, I went ahead anyway. Now I am dealing with not only the loss of the relationship, but knowing that I CHOSE to get into it despite my better judgement. That is huge, because in this case I feel responsible for everyone involved (not only myself) because I could have set strong boundaries and stopped it, giving us both very different futures built on a healthy base. The "resentful and hateful" is to myself. It's all on me. (Hmm. Feeling very vulnerable posting this!)

@hollycline2427 6 жыл бұрын

Agree 100 percent

@Sarasarah3 5 жыл бұрын

This ❤️

@graceolabisi 4 жыл бұрын

This! I throw all boundaries in the air when I like someone and it never ends well....

@SusiePettit 6 жыл бұрын

Most inspiring to me: "if you're not also in the arena getting your ass kicked, in not interested in your opinion" #BOOM #empoweredwomen 👏🏼✨

@emsargnt 6 жыл бұрын

OMG I love her so much!!!!! EVERYTHING I needed to hear right now...what a beautiful amazing soul she is.

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Glad to know the video is helpful to you Emmalee. :) Thank you very much for the comment and for watching! #BelieveNation #BTA632 Shine

@AbidingHopeMentalHealthCoach 5 жыл бұрын

#8. Practiced it this morning on my husband. He said something thoughtlessly that threw me into a shame storm. Instead of stewing over it and resenting him, I just told him what he had done, and how I felt, and how he could have been more thoughtful in his answer. He apologized, and the shame dissipated.

@EvanCarmichael 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing with us, Lisa. :) #BTA1239 Luka

@bonniegn4008 6 жыл бұрын

"This is who I want to be. I want to create. I want to make things that didn't exist before I touched them."

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing, Bonnie :) #BTA817 Luka

@dseer13 6 жыл бұрын

God bless Brene Brown. This made me realize we need to overcome our insecurities to be truly happy. We need to establish better internal boundaries ( we need to stop what people think/say change how we feel about ourselves). We need to be better friends to ourselves.

@dseer13 6 жыл бұрын

lol, you did not know this people, how do you know what they were like really? Every human being has insecurities but to be "crippled" by them would mean they have overtaken you and prevented you from growth. Hence it is important to make yourself vulnerable and leanr to be comfortable in that so as to grow and overcome. It is unproductive and maladaptive to fear taking the steps into it. Most people who get cancer do not know where it came from, one cannot control the drunk driver, we all age, and we cant control an unfaithful lover (unless we make ourselves so invulnerable we never date anyone). Vulnerability is a deliberate choice we make, stray bullets, cancer, drunk drivers are not things we have deliberately chosen to make ourselves vulnerable too She has not "stigmatized" shame. She is warning you about toxic shame. There is shame (plato's shame) and there is toxic shame. She is speaking against toxic shame. The shame that destorys self esteem. Normal shame can act as a rudder to guide you when something is wrong, although it feels so unpleasent. Be careful not to turn your healthy shame to toxic.

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing your thoughts dseer13. Great to know you learned a lot from the video. Always #Believe in yourself. :) #BTA569 Shine

@marykatsundahl4228 5 жыл бұрын

Hope Brene reads this: YOU have helped countless "normal" , vulnerable souls. Please keep giving them these life savers.

@EvanCarmichael 5 жыл бұрын

Much love Marykat! :) #BTA1250 Luka

@eric_martindale1711 6 жыл бұрын

You DO NOT need Botox!!! ...at all! For the life of me, I can't figure out why someone would say that to you! I recently separated from the Marines after 15 years, and I will adamantly agree; getting your ass kicked is part of the business. Great talk on an important topic, and so nicely delivered. Thank you!

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing your thoughts and for watching Eric. :) #Believe #BTA583 Shine

@tokki8070 6 ай бұрын

Lesson implementation: decrease replay of criticism. Limit the number of times I replay critical comments in my head. Thank you for sharing this awesome video!

@EvanCarmichael 5 ай бұрын

You're welcome, glad you enjoyed it. 😊 #Believe - Feb (from Evan's team)

@ASPAseethrough 3 ай бұрын

The amount of times Brene brought tears in my eyes…brought me back to my core over and over again…

@EvanCarmichael 3 ай бұрын

Awww, much love. ❤️ #Believe - Feb (from Evan's team)

@RobertaSetzu 6 жыл бұрын

Even her voice is healing. And her words so powerful and transforming. I love listening to her !

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing with us and thanks for watching, Roberta. :) #BelieveNation #BTA611 Luka

@myffyhopkins86 6 жыл бұрын

"the most compassionate people are the most boundaried" so true

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching and for the comment Myffy. :) #BTA568 Shine

@gingerspence1677 6 жыл бұрын

Its not only okay to try but imperitive to allow myself to fail so I can grow and recognize those who are critical of me, my style, or whatever.... are really projecting their feelings of inadequacy. What I can do for the critic is send compassion his/her way.

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing with us. Learn from it and grow. #Believe #BTA724 Luka

@Jenessa-uu9ty Ай бұрын

This isnt a make up tutorial. This literally is a video that talks about vulnerability. This lady i s beautiful. All of the douchie people that watch themselves in the mirror as they watch videos/movies/talk to peoplw everyday...you're so awesome. You're so much more evolved with every moment with yourself in your mirror.

@EvanCarmichael Ай бұрын

Thank you for your comment, and for watching 😊 #Believe - Feb (from Evan's team)

@WhiteElvenDragon 6 жыл бұрын

I love the editing of these videos together with the list on the left!! It really helps everything become really cohesive!!! Really smart.

@1969Spursgeezer 5 жыл бұрын

Brene is a true inspiration 🙏🏻

@EvanCarmichael 5 жыл бұрын

:) #BTA1222 Luka

@valeriedyer3341 2 жыл бұрын

Brene Brown is an incredible breath of fresh air!!!

@EvanCarmichael 2 жыл бұрын

Couldn’t agree more 😊 #Believe - Feb

@TheJanayWellsShow 6 жыл бұрын

She is so inspirational! I love all the points she said. Vulnerability is necessary if we want to grow and have empathy. Thanks so much for creating this. This is really awesome! 😃

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Glad you like it, Janay :) #BTA810 Luka

@stephaniecornwell8766 2 жыл бұрын

Yes! Gratitude has basically become like my new religion. My kids and I left our house one day and came back with nothing more than what we were wearing. Learning that there are things to be grateful for even through the worst difficulty and how to focus on it instead of the negative stuff changed my life and how I live, parent, and interact.

@EvanCarmichael 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing your thoughts and for watching. 😊 #Believe - Feb

@iwnunn7999 5 жыл бұрын

Sometimes people are so mired in ego it's difficult to connect or see their true selves. My approach, as wrong as it is, is to give what I get. Rudeness begets rudeness, coldness begets coldness, unfriendliness begets unfriendliness, etc. I'm working on it.

@EvanCarmichael 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing with us. Much love! #BTA1217 Luka

@angbren11 5 жыл бұрын

Ego! So true and hard to get past. #7 is important here I guess!

@WasiSaleem 6 жыл бұрын

"It's not as scary as getting to the end of your life and thinking...what if I would have shown up? What would have been different?"

@350daysofhappy2 6 жыл бұрын

I concur.

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for posting the quote and for watching Wasi. #BTA569 Shine

@blissfulbaboon 6 жыл бұрын

350 days of happy , I think what they mean when they say, "courage to live a life true to myself",is about finding the guts to give their own consciousness enough space to be ,just simply to be,without disturbing it with a bunch of mental constructs of what it 'should' be.As we approach death,we start to allow ourselves this undisturbed pure consciousness,this peace,and we realize that this state of grace was in us all along and that it's what we actually are made of .So there is this regret that there wasn't more time in our lives to be and experience this expanded consciousness,which is who we really are spiritually.

@oldyeller85 5 жыл бұрын

Wasi Saleem wow

@empressofrussia 6 жыл бұрын

Showing up despite the critics grabbed me too, Evan. #1 made me cry because my new project is a blog but it requires putting myself out into the world and making myself vulnerable in order to connect with others. But that also opens me up to criticism. She reminded me that all I can do is just show up and do the work. Thanks once again for taking the time to make these videos!

@350daysofhappy2 6 жыл бұрын

I can relate too.

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing empressofrussia. Yes, showing up would mean being vulnerable and open to criticism and I hope you won't let that stop you from moving forward. :) All the best to you! Always #Believe in yourself and keep taking action to pursue your goals. #BTA569 Shine

@deborahsmart2655 6 жыл бұрын

empressofrussia

@buru44 6 жыл бұрын

You go girl!

@martinburke3528 6 жыл бұрын

@theresadimarco764 2 жыл бұрын

Showing up the courageous act, because people around me my entire life have shamed me for "being too much or not enough" that I have tried my damnedest to blend into the walls to not be seen. Now I have reached a place in my life where I am choosing to fight back in showing up and allowing myself to reach for my dreams but not allow the critics around me or inside me to shame me away from creating joyous beauty in the world.

@EvanCarmichael 2 жыл бұрын

That's great!. Ships don't sink because of the water around them but because of the water that gets in them. Don't let what's happening around you get inside you and weigh you down. 😉 #Believe - Feb

@amandadanes8975 5 жыл бұрын

I love #4: Actively Practice Gratitude! 🙌😊❤

@EvanCarmichael 5 жыл бұрын

Glad you like it :) #BTA1019 Luka

@sunijajoseph8894 4 жыл бұрын

Love Brene Brown's talks. She is a great story teller and can capture the audience for long periods of time. Keep up the good work and continue to take us to places in our mind that we have not explored before.

@EvanCarmichael 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching :) #BTA1319 Luka

@c.9231 5 жыл бұрын

⭐⭐⭐Courage is not the absence of fear; it's feeling fear and doing it anyway! ⭐⭐⭐

@EvanCarmichael 5 жыл бұрын

:) #BTA1187 Luka

@AmyStruloeff 6 жыл бұрын

It's not joy that makes us grateful, it's gratitude that makes us joyful. Again so well said. Quote from a Jesuit priest. So much appreciation.

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the comment, for the appreciation and for watching Amy. :) Stay grateful...always #Believe. #BTA603 Shine

@debstein8811 3 жыл бұрын

Brene is breath in my body. And LOVE her humor inserted at just the right times. Brilliant.

@EvanCarmichael 3 жыл бұрын

Much love. Thanks for watching Deb. 💛😊 #Believe - Dondon

@reneebammelhomes2608 6 жыл бұрын

Being shamed by people you thought were your friends and not quite understanding why has highlighted how vulnerable I am. I could choose to shut down or I can choose to learn and grow from it. I choose to stand tall, learn from it and to consciously choose to not be like those mean woman who tried to destroy me through shaming me. I choose to be a compassionate strong woman.

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Great to know that you chose to stand tall and learn from that experience Renee. Stay strong but compassionate...always #Believe in yourself. :) Much love. #BTA569 Shine

@deepanshubaisoya8232 6 жыл бұрын

"There is no innovation and creativity without failure.period" "Dont be afraid of impertionism people are afraid if they be themselves if they are not prefect they wont measure out in the world."

@salmamohamed3962 Ай бұрын

I call perfectionism the 20-ton shield. We carry it around thinking it’s going to protect us from being hurt, but it protects us from being seen.

@EvanCarmichael Ай бұрын

:) #Believe - Feb (from Evan's team)

@c.9231 5 жыл бұрын

When she talks about choosing, creating, and doing what you want despite negative feedback, it reminded me of what author Liz Gilbert said- you have to ask yourself if you want to do it despite the "shit sandwich" that is attached to it because there always is one. If you want to go for it anyway, then you've found your path.

@EvanCarmichael 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing :) #BTA1187 Luka

@thelaughingfoxx 6 жыл бұрын

#3. Set boundaries! You are not a doormat 🙏💕

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and for watching The Laughing FoxX. :) #BelieveNation #BTA631 Shine

@clcleather 6 жыл бұрын

There's no joy without #gratitude. I loved point #4. All of her points are stellar! Thank you for sharing.

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

I'm glad that you like it! Thank you for watching. Much love. :) #BelieveNation #BTA711 Luka

@CrimsyMeg 6 жыл бұрын

I just love listening to her I have learnt so much from her. I value all the rules but my fav is shame resilience. THANK YOU FOR YOUR HARD WORK EVAN!

@lixandraurresta4398 6 жыл бұрын

I've watched a bunch of Brene's talks, but it's great to have this recap of 10 highlights. I'm bookmarking this video! Thanks!

@jessesmith-fulia1510 6 жыл бұрын

I love the idea that we show who we really are when we are vulnerable. I usually want to be a chameleon and act like everyone in the environment. But then I get critical of others because everyone acts the same (because, apparently, they want to blend in too). So I want to be more vulnerable so that I can be truly me and be unique. .

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing your thoughts and for watching Jesse. :) #Believe #BTA583 Shine

@alexanderSnilsson 6 жыл бұрын

BRENÉ just makes me aware of who I really am, and then go out there and be that person. She opens me up to asking the right kind of questions where I can't avoid the answer, and once the answer is put out there, everything changes.

@JostensGradAuto 6 жыл бұрын

Fantastic video. Wish I knew these 2 points when my kids were younger. Shame Drives 2 tapes: Your not good enough Who do you think you are? Shame corrodes the part of us that believes we can change, so to shame someone into changing is saying to them,"you are horrible and hopeless, now go change!"

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching :) #BTA817 Luka

@leahalskog 3 жыл бұрын

Brenè is my Roosevelt, her words are SO POWERFUL!!

@EvanCarmichael 3 жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it, thanks for watching! #Believe - Feb

@bhekisisangomane9027 6 жыл бұрын

The first one "Show up, and don't pay attention to those who are not in the arena getting kicked..." Great one Evan thank you... #BTA5

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching and for posting your comment Bhekisisa. :) #BelieveNation #BTA569 Shine

@sarahelisabeth6721 6 жыл бұрын

I've always wanted to create a t-shirt that says "Vulnerability Sucks." I remember how hard my friends and I used to laugh about it. I still think I'm going to create the t-shirt because it probably resonates with a lot of people. My favorite quote: Our capacity for wholeheartedness can never be greater than our willingness to be broken-hearted. As she said "mean" and for me breaks my heart to read it, but off we go with new understanding.

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and the quote Sarah. Interesting to know about that T-shirt, I hope you'll be able to create it. :) Always #Believe in yourself. #BTA635 Shine

@pamelathompson3304 6 жыл бұрын

I have been having the hardest year of my life due to losing ALOT of people but the hardest loss has been losing both my parents within 9 months of each other. I have been embracing how to break through and work through due to being a MSW (social worker) and work to continue to advance in the face of adversity and be able to be present and there for my clients. I have enjoys all your videos and others. Thank you

@pamelathompson3304 6 жыл бұрын

Basically staying vulnerable :)

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

I'm very sorry to hear about you losing your parents and other people in your life Pamela...for sure it's really hard but it's great that you keep your positive attitude and you continue to advance in the face of adversity. I hope this video will also be of help to you: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/rN2oiNF1p5e0lnU.html Keep the faith! Always #Believe. Much love. :) #BTA617 Shine

@jibranak8941 6 жыл бұрын

#5 'Embrace Vulnerability' makes so much sense. I have actually gone into complete discovery mode and that requires me to constantly put myself into new settings and be ok with feeling vulnerable. Thanks for sharing Evan, I wasnt familiar with Brené Brown before but this was a great video.

@gailslabbert2386 5 жыл бұрын

I am so Grateful that I heard BRENE on Boundaries. So I re-instated mine , and reminded them of the Consequences and WOW and WOW backwards

@EvanCarmichael 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching! :) #BTA1181 Luka

@gborowme 6 жыл бұрын

"AUTHENTICITY" is my favorite, it is a choice to be that. Good to know, I like that.

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the comment and for watching gborowme. :) #Believe #BTA659 Shine

@lynnanderson8062 4 жыл бұрын

I think Brene Brown is wonderful. Her message touches me so deeply as a man who has known shame. I did stay in the arena, showed up screwed up many times.

@EvanCarmichael 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching #Believe :) #BTA1501 Veljko

@tebohosamuelnteso 6 жыл бұрын

"If you are going to show up, one thing can be guaranteed you are going to get your ass kicked... if you are not in the arena getting you ass kicked i don't give a fuck about your feelings"- Teboho Nteso

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the quote and for watching Teboho. :) #BTA569 Shine

@AtlantisIndigo 6 жыл бұрын

I was taught to express my emotions and that it was ok to talk about them. My parents were psychologists. To us, having all of these feelings was normal.

@emercarr1120 6 жыл бұрын

Setting boundaries is essential and doesn't mean uncaring which has been thrown at me so many times. Perfectionism brings paralysis and it's a struggle for me all my life. "When I do it perfect, I will avoid or minimise shame, blame or judgement". Very true and only just thought of it now and validation on a tough decision I had to make yesterday. Thanks.

@emercarr1120 6 жыл бұрын

"Shame drives two things, you're not good enough and who do you think you are".

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing with us and thanks for watching, Emer! #BelieveNation #BTA591 Luka

@emercarr1120 6 жыл бұрын

Evan Carmichael Thanks Luka. I've started writing a line blogs that relate to all this and one on boundaries inspired by this. I'll post the link when I publish it today. Thanks ❤

@ingeoud8292 6 жыл бұрын

Wow, Every word, every sentence of Brene Brown resonates... Thanks a lot!!

@rosa-heidemarie 3 жыл бұрын

I LOVE Dr. Bréné Brown! She's a powerful inspiration to me and I appreciate the carefully selected clips you chose and the 10 take-aways you found from her teachings, Evan. My fave was #7: Explore your emotions. I would have placed it first, because, just as vulnerability is the birthplace of the core qualities that bring us happiness (connection, creativity, innovation, authenticity, courage, etc.), self-awareness is the womb from which the courage to be vulnerable is born, and the mother that guides us each day to make those constant choices to show up, to be authentic, to set boundaries, to let go of perfectionism, to build shame resilience, to risk failure to release regrets, and, of course, to embrace vulnerability.

@EvanCarmichael 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing Rosa, appreciate it a lot. Much love 😊❤️ #Believe - Feb

@Lyricist1anda2 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks. I have never seen vulnerability as negative, I find it freeing (as long as one doesn't go dumping all their stuff on other people). shaming: agree with you: "not good enough and who do you thing you are", or "who do you think you're kidding?" I always got that growing up.

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing your thoughts and for watching. Always #Believe. #BTA593 Shine

@JoeSegal 6 жыл бұрын

This is such synchronicity and serendipity finding this great video tonight! I just had two major realizations in my life dealing with how I deal with my own inner critic and fear of others criticism and how these emotions are signals that there's a real opportunity present! Its a Mind Blowing Realization to reframe the shame, fear and gut wrenching problems in life into the opportunities to be connected to our true selves and really show up in life! Thank you for sharing this Evan Carmichael!

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Great to know that Joe. :) Self-awareness/realization is a start of making progress. All the best to you! #Believe #BTA569 Shine

@sofievb1994 6 жыл бұрын

I love her so much, her research is groundbreaking . Thanks for sharing!

@rep4godrtralston175 5 жыл бұрын

For me I related to #8 ! I Am a Minister A Man of God. A Son of God, Born from Above ; yet in my natural thinking dealing with shame and disbursing it to others. For the first 42 years of my life and beyond believing lies about myself that DIDNOT come from Our Father. Sometimes we need a physical take on what has GRABBED ahold of us to GET a Spiritual Awakening! Thanks 😎

@EvanCarmichael 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing with us. Much love! #BTA1079 Luka

@EclecticAlu 6 жыл бұрын

Actively practice gratitude. My favorite! Brene Brown's work on vulnerability is so interesting. Great video!

@izawaniek2568 2 жыл бұрын

Vulnerability is the birth place of creativity and innovation. Gratitude breeds joy. When we numb negative feelings we numb all other positive emotions. To feel vulnerable means we are alive! We are enough!

@EvanCarmichael 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing that and for watching. 😊 #Believe - Feb

@kckazcoll1 4 жыл бұрын

thank you so much for sharing Brene's words of wisdom. Life changing!

@EvanCarmichael 4 жыл бұрын

Glad you like it :) #BTA1283 Luka

@lesleyanngoslett9774 6 жыл бұрын

The whole clip was awesome - I am new to meeting Brene Brown and I think an instant addiction has just been born. The insight into perfectionism was an eye opener & the info on shame resilience profound - you have to mention the word shame - it cannot hold on when you name it in talking about it. Thanks for much for posting this clip. Many new insights to integrate...

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Glad you liked it LesleyAnn. :) Thanks for the comment and for watching! #BTA569 Shine

@margaretholden5857 6 жыл бұрын

Hello from Northern Ireland....Thankyou for sharing, love this let yourself be seen, love to you 💕

@DarkBlueNutrition 6 жыл бұрын

Brene Brown is my favorite speaker and author!! Been waiting for this video 🙌💓

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for patiently waiting Dark Blue Nutrition. :) #BTA569 Shine

@andrewoconnor5605 5 жыл бұрын

2. Cultivate Authenticity. Discern those who are fake and walk on. 'Fake it 'til you make it, NO thanks!' I love you Brene Brown, THANK YOU, real!

@andrewoconnor5605 5 жыл бұрын

To ACCESS empathy we NEED vulnerability hallelujah!

@EvanCarmichael 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing with us. Much love Andrew! :) #BTA1053 Luka

@patricialyons491 6 жыл бұрын

I love everything that Brene` gives us and will watch, read, and absorb it all like the fresh air that she is! I love the Theordore Roosevelt quote and especially, "Shame cannot hold onto us when we name it" This is the big one for me. Thank you for sharing this video!

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you very much for sharing your thoughts and for watching Patricia. :) #BelieveNation #BTA596 Shine

@christinalowhorn1808 6 жыл бұрын

Evan, absolutely love all the videos! The Theodore Roosevelt quote is one of my absolute favorites. My takeaways from this video are to save a seat at the table for my best self (the one who believes in me), to recognize my emotions and "rise strong" but acknowledging them and learning more! Keep up the great work!

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

It means a lot to know you loved our videos Christina. :) Thanks for sharing your thoughts and for watching! Much love. #BelieveNation #BTA569 Shine

@trenauldo 6 жыл бұрын

Evan... First, I want to say I appreciate your including Brene Brown in your series because the things she researches and speaks on are some of the most vital, in my opinion, for cultivating happiness in our lives for keeping the quality of our relationships high. This is the first video of yours I've watched, and I'll be checking out some of your others. That said, I feel like reducing her material to a Top 10 list is dangerous. So many of these things have cause-and-effect relationships and are interconnected that taking them out of context or trying to distill them down to talking points leaves things out that matter. Brene herself says in the Sounds True-published talk you showed on your point #5 that if how-to worked, we as people wouldn't be in the shape we're in. We would just do the steps, and everything would be great... and it isn't. This isn't a criticism so much as an observation. Based on this video, I think you have noble intentions and great presentation. Again, I'll be looking forward to enjoying your other videos in this series. Keep it up.!

@nolareno 6 жыл бұрын

Boundaries - demanding people be authentic themselves if they are going to be in our circle. Nice job, love the nutshell.

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing with us and thanks for watching. :) #BelieveNation #BTA598 Luka

@sarahblue1940 6 жыл бұрын

Her talk about being vulnerable to be empathic. When her seventh grade comes home and Saturday she had a rough day, Brené has to dig down and find her inner seventh grade self and not shame her daughter. That got to me. I need to start doing that and not try to fix everything and shame others. :/

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Make it happen! #Believe :) #BTA783 Luka

@linnmacdonald2246 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Evan! I needed THIS video today.

@susanac1679 Жыл бұрын

Being Vulnerable is having the strenght to confide and trust the good within yourself, and have the courage to stand for your beliefs by having the faith in ❤ , and accept to be judged and criticise for your flaws, even if you loose it all. Maintaining enough patience and compassion even for those who wrong you and your love ones the most...by thriving to sacrifice more for the real people in need... and preparing silently, to trully rise with humble ❤... "Grounded" 4 eternal heavenly life here down to earth. 🙏

@EvanCarmichael Жыл бұрын

Very well said. 😊 #Believe - Feb (from Evan’s team)

@firestorm17wowclassroom81 4 жыл бұрын

I NEED this encouragement so much. I almost quit the ring (or at least wanted to sit out some rounds) but my husband encouraged me to stay in and fight. Now I need the subtleties of why it is so important. THANKS SO MUCH!!!

@EvanCarmichael 4 жыл бұрын

Glad to hear that. Keep it up :) #BTA1270 Luka

@mrose9008 6 жыл бұрын

I highly suggest Brene Brown's books. They are extremely applicable and helpful.

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. :) #Believe #BTA569 Shine

@KaddyFeast 5 жыл бұрын

Being awake to shame....I needed that reminder today. As the holidays call up a past back as far as I can see.

@EvanCarmichael 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing with us. Much love! #BTA1094 Luka

@kaarenremley7585 6 жыл бұрын

Her book is already on my wishlist but this well done montage naked it a book I'm going to own in my library... thank you!

@leannewakeling5015 6 жыл бұрын

I am a huge fan of the work of Brene Brown, I am thankful for the compilation of great thoughts, some of which I hadn't heard before. For me the biggie was the words of Teddy Roosevelt on what is the next phase in my development personally and professionally.

@patfromdurham1547 5 жыл бұрын

I love number 1 as well. I think some people focus on the small stuff and her message is what is important and there are double standards for women than men. I am glad she pushed thru the rude criticism I recently moved from VP to president. I agree show up. I feel nervous, with this transition, but I am going to show up. Her work is so helpful to women in leadership.

@EvanCarmichael 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing your thoughts! #BTA1186 Luka

@MONICATAUZIN 6 жыл бұрын

Evan and Brene', thank you for the work you do and the ways you inspire all of us. I'd love to see you profile Viktor Frankel, Evan.

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you very much for the appreciation and for watching Monica. :) Glad you are inspired. Also, Thank you very much for the suggestion and it would be great if you could post your request under the comments of this video: Top 10's - Who Should We Profile NEXT - kzfaq.info/get/bejne/ZseijcVh3bKtdIE.html if more people would vote or like your request and there are available videos/clips, we might do a Top 10 rules video for it. Much love. #Believe :) #BTA588 Shine

@SkyePhoenix 6 жыл бұрын

WOW. Amazing! Just what I needed to hear today.

@artlovelife5525 6 жыл бұрын

excellent!!! thank you so much for putting this together!

@veenushivdasani8872 6 жыл бұрын

Evan thank you so much, you are simply great. More strength and joy to you.

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the love and thank you for watching. Much love! :) #BelieveNation #BTA687 Luka

@ryanoneill-haugh3813 5 жыл бұрын

This is amazing!!! Each of the talking points resonated with me, and they are so true about life- very inspirational.

@EvanCarmichael 5 жыл бұрын

Glad they resonated with you! Thanks for watching Ryan :) #BTA1038 Luka

@robinwhitmarsh128 5 жыл бұрын

I absolutely love Brene Brown. The first time I saw her was on Oprah and she was beyond amazing. I am learning how to do #10 Don’t have any regrets. Finally working on having a business of my own that I always wanted.

@EvanCarmichael 5 жыл бұрын

Glad to hear that! Keep pushing. :) #BTA1205 Luka

@moniquemarquez7537 6 жыл бұрын

Found Brene's top 10! Love her! Thank you Evan! ☺️👍

@EvanCarmichael 6 жыл бұрын

Glad to hear that :) #BTA834 Luka

@jaqifurback9885 5 жыл бұрын

I just found this and even though it is old (comparitively), it is my favorite piece I've seen you do. Thank you

@EvanCarmichael 5 жыл бұрын

Glad you like it :) #BTA1010 Luka

@rachelle3445 2 күн бұрын

Thank you

@EvanCarmichael Күн бұрын

You're welcome 😊 #Believe - Feb (from Evan's team)

@heidisommer138 6 жыл бұрын

This was great. Thank you. Number one.

@denisemason6550 2 жыл бұрын

The entire top 10 was excellent, but the thing I took away and will begin using immediately has to do with setting boundaries with others, being honest with what is ok/ not ok, and also allowing my wife to do the same and not stand between her and other members of my (blended) family to “make things ok” or go smoothly. In my efforts for “everyone to get along” I have overstepped and she has felt she had no voice, which was wrong of me. And I plan to continue asking myself what is ok and not ok and being more honest with myself and others around me in order to have appropriate boundaries in place. I will need to sit in the discomfort for awhile as I make this change but hope it will be worth it.

@EvanCarmichael 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and for watching. 😊 #Believe - Feb

@janetball2484 2 жыл бұрын

Explore your emotions. Very powerful stuff. Hard to choose just one. I jump to conclusions before I explore every detail. This knee jerk reaction never ends well for me.

@EvanCarmichael 2 жыл бұрын

Glad it resonated with you. 😊 #Believe - Feb