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What I love about this whole conversation is that Jin and V were not afraid to admit that they were both hurt by what the other had said. Most conflicts escalated not only because we can't admit when we're wrong, but also afraid to admit that we're hurt. It's ok to be vulnerable. It's what makes us human.

I remember being so impressed when I found out their ceo made them handle all conflicts together (especially when they started so young). If there was an issue between 2 or 3 of them, then all 7 talked it out. That definitely builds maturity.

"Apologizing does not always mean you're wrong and the other person is right. It just means you value your relationship more than your ego." - Mark Matthews

I was very impressed with Jin going up to V prior to the start of the concert and sincerely apologizing. He swallowed his pride and went to V first, given the cultural context that means so much. And I think he remembered just how much they love each other and shouldn't hold a grudge. Jin as the oldest, leading by example. I just love them.

As an Asian American, Asian American culture almost teaches you to throw conflict under the rug. When we have arguments, we are blunt, reactive/emotional but it’s the aftermath that’s difficult. There’s a lot of pride and not much apologizing or compromising. Because Jin is older, he could’ve easily said, “I’m right, you’re wrong. Respect your elders” + hold a grudge against V but he didn’t. They had mutual respect and love. I’ve never seen (in our culture and in my life) conflict resolution and management. So refreshing to see open communication and honesty without gaslighting, victim blaming, shame, etc… they really are inspirational people 💜

Actually Jin is one of most serious one off camera and one of the most mature one in the group. He is the one who manages, maintains and make the group stay intact in all aspects. He is like the Glue between members. RM as leader manages mostly professional things. People always overlook his wise, mature, intelligent, intellectual witty, spontaneous, kind, humble, caring ,good- hearted, nice,pure, selfless and vulnerable side because he only wants to show his good funny light hearted side to Fans.

As Korean myself, when Jin apologized, I was like WHATTT????Jin? Oldest??. That kind of attitude toward younger one is really rare to witness in our culture but Jin did it. Before Jin apologized, V even said something a little disrespectful word(빡치게하네, 'you are pissing me off' in a rude way) but Jin apologized first..I was so SHOCKED. I think he did it for V who felt bad arguing with Jin and for the concert. Jin is so mature that he didn't use the 'age hierarchy power'...so impressive.

Jin has an amazing personality. it was so nice of him that he apologized first even though he is the oldest. he never fails to impress others by his characteristics.

Seokjin literally is the most genuine idol there is. He does what makes him and his fans happy without pleasing or sacrificing his freedom and happiness. He attracts people naturally because he is real, unbothered, naturally talented, and always chooses the things he loves doing MORE THAN what the society, the music industry, or the korean pop culture would tell some idols for the SAKE OF POPULARITY AND FAME. That's why since day 1 until now, Seokjin is always so vocal to say that his motto is to "always be happy" as the kim seokjin on and off stage. No pretences, hunger of fame, or jealousy for other's success. He truly is beyond blessed with top-tier looks, talents, silver voice, supportive, rich, successful immediate family, and great personality everyone would appreciate. He knows how to live his life as an idol and how to keep private things for his personal life. Truly truly truly admiring and I wouldn't get tired of praising a man who has this kind of personality despite being so successful in life already. I stan the right man 💜 As what his closest celebrity friends esp Korea's veteran alcohol master, Mr. Park Rokdam, said: "Seokjin is untainted by worldliness and he's such an unpretencious innocence..." ✨️🙇

This is video is what caused me to stan BTS without hearing a song yet. My therapist and I were working on re-evaluating my relationships and setting healthy boundaries. I realized that I needed more examples of healthy relationships and around this time I was watching Hwarang. I googled V’s character to learn his real name and this was the first video that popped up so I watched it and was completely AMAZED that 2 had a disagreement but all 7 men sat in a room and discussed it and no one was rude or disrespectful or took offense to what others said (from my American point of view). After that I HAD to know more about them and fell down the BTS rabbit hole. That was over 3 years ago and I’m thankful I did.

When I first saw this clip, I broke down when Jin expressed he has a darker/depressed side because it’s so rare he gets this vulnerable & open. I can only imagine how self aware he is in everything he does in order to make the mood lighter & help other members feel better. And some of those times at the expense of taking care of himself first.

I come from a Chinese family, and as the oldest sibling the most phrase I hear is “you are older and you should protect your sister” and what my little sister get the most is “you are the younger one so you should respect your sister, there’s an old saying in china that older sister is like a mother and you should apply that”. Like it may sounds ridiculous to the Americans and Europeans but if my little sister talks to me like what Tae did there, I would actually go slap her. So I really understand how much “pride” that Jin needs to put down and go apologize first cuz I know I never would

The way they both grew since then and their bond became much stronger, i still remember the time where Taehyung made Jin a special birthday gift, he messaged all his friends and told them to film a "happy birthday" message to Jin, he edited all of them together and sent it to Jin, he said he was really touched on his live especially when it was at a time Jin was kinda anxious about growing old... Taejin always care about each other, Tae doesn't like when jin talks down about himself or doubts his talents, he's always there to remind jin that "he's the best dancer" that "he's the most beautiful person" to "stop saying he's old, He's at a blooming age". Same goes for jin when when Tae needs love he'd hug him to sleep, and give him a push of confidence when needed, just like when jin said "Blue & Grey" was his favorite, and it was Tae's original song. I can totally say all the members have a soft spot for taehyung, and they treat him like their little brother which they call their "happiness preacher", even jungkook who's younger sometimes gives Tae advices, and over the years you can also notice how Tae grew as a person, and his love for the members grew just as much. Same for jin who they all love and respect a lot, he took a lot of care of them and taught them many things, I know for a fact that they miss him a lot now that he's in m!litary with hobi. Sorry for the long message, thank you for your reaction, hope you get to see more beautiful compilations about how much they love each other too💜

I find it very interesting too, since you mentioned RM stepping in as the leader, that he also is under the context of age difference here, Jin is still the oldest of the group RM Being the youngest of the Hyung line (the older brothers line) Jin still followed the instruction instead of dismissing him for being younger cuz he could have totally used that excuse as Koreans, I've seen it lol but he didn't and that's what I also find really nice.

This is why i started liking Jin..He is so humble. He is amazing human being. I'm so proud that he is my bias. I love you Jin.❤❤❤

The fact that Hobi was eagle eyed during that performance to see where the issue was..

What's really awesome about this is that now Taehyung's number one defender of Jin whenever he is hard on himself or trying to downplay his own talents.. And Jin always try to make sure Tae is speaking his mind when someone talks over him or makes a joke about something he said or doing... both learned of that conversation and we see it till now

The point you missed I guess for cultural reasons, in Asian culture the elder is always right. You are trained to apologise to your older siblings/people/whoever, nomatter who is wrong. So coming from that, it's kind of a big deal that Jin came forward and said sorry.

Sad but Amaze at jin even he doing nothing wrong he still be humble and apologize

Jin is amazing!

It must be hard for RM in times like this. He's the leader but he's also their friend and basically like a brother. Not the oldest, he's right in the middle. So it would take a lot of tact to figure out when to put on the leader hat and use his authority.

I love the two of you reacting together.

Idk why, but Jimin casually brushing his teeth, while Jin & V are having a big conflict is always funny to me. It also kinda shows that those issues had happened plenty of times before and they worked it out every time

From the very beginning it was decided that if there was a conflict that all the members would get together and help resolve it. That is why they were all there at the beginning. Then they walked away giving the guys some time to themselves to talk about it. Very respectful.

I really feel that Jin tried to resolve the situation prior to them going onstage in any way he could. He said he took it as a joke, but it didn't appear that way at all. I really think he was trying to take the high road so their performance that night wouldn't be affected. They learned at a young age how to work out their differences with respect to keep the group strong and to keep resentment to a minimum. Max I always enjoy your reactions and Uncle Harley's perspectives are a great addition. Thank you.

I'm always amaze by seokjin. Like from the video performance, jin never wrong but he apologize first also he always the first person to comfort member everytime.

One of the many things i learnt from BTS is their way to handle unfavorable situation so beautifully. In their 12-13 years to being together, they have shown how a real communication should take place within family, couples, friends, siblings, colleagues, strangers. Real maturity.

Was this the one that Jin has to run so far from the stage to catch up? V was in all point unreasonable here, irregardless of age. But Jin apologized which shows he is the man!

Yoongi said often in the interviews that at the beginning they clashed all the time. 7 boys who were one day suddenly put into one space and told to form a group. Complete strangers, right??? Look at their bond now. They're basically a family of different blood. Love this for them.💜💜

I am so impressed by how Jin handled the situation. He is so admirable. There is so much things to learn from him. He has so much love to give, its overflowing. For Tae, I know for sure he also learned something from him after this incident. I believe, Nobody is perfect and corrections can be done with respect and gentleness. Correction is always for self improvement.

We love your Uncle …Jin and V grew even closer after this…I like what Suga said “ Things like respect are more important the closer you are”

they have shared before that they always made sure to try resolve all conflicts before the night ends so it was nice to see all 7 gathered, heard the opinions on both sides and reached an understanding together. i think their way of never avoiding the sensitive topics play a huge role in why they're so tight knitted today! i think it's also why many armys relate to their music too because they're very brave with their vulnerability

Jin is such a good soul. The way he apologized first is so humble. I feel what he is saying at the end. People who always seems to be funny and happy, hide their sad feelings. Jin does hide his sad side and acts goofy to make army happy which is so selfless.

Jin😢❤

It adds another layer to know that in the performance V was talking about, it was actually V who made a mistake. He went past his normal spot making it more difficult for Jin to keep his timing and both of them to get back to center.

Because of this argument Jin and V made a big effort to better understand each other and are now much closer than they were before! As an ARMY who has been with BTS since 2016 I really felt the difference in their interactions after this event! So amazing to see!

Usually the comment section under this clip is all about who's fault it was reading the choreo, letting go of the main reason why this clip was even aired... It was never about choreo all of them make mistakes during the choreo, this is about learning how to communicate & resolve issues.. you think that's the only fight BTS had behind the scenes?? 😅😅😅 I assure it isn't. What's so special about this one that made them adding it to their documentary is the way both of them opened up and to show us that with the correct guidance and support we can actually overcome any conflicts we have... I hope one day the bitter comments under this clip understand that people fight, I bet u did this week too 👀🫠

“So many lessons we can learn from these guys” One of their many gifts to the world is to share a variety of sides of their experience w/ us. Love watching you guys watch them

BTS is a master class on group conflict management and resolution. They've used the same method of resolution since they debuted, and I think it's one of the things that's contributed to their family-like closeness. Even if a conflict is between only two members, they all talk it out as a group, and then let the members involved in the conflict talk more after that to finish clearing the air. I think it's contributed to their mutual respect of each other, and their ability to truly support each other in their individual endeavors, because they've had more than a decade of openness and learning to understand each other.

Another reason why this got so much attention was because J hope is the dance leader of the group so other then The choreographer if there is an issue with anybody being slow or not getting their steps right J-Hope is the one that helps them and does the correction . So there’s actually a person in the group whose position it is to deal with the members when it comes to dance . the fact that Jin was older and V was actually not the dance Leader he was out of place for saying what he said to Jin it was seen as disrespectful .

Instead of lecturing and saying empty words they stand up as role models by sharing these types of interactions. So much can be learnt from just watching their dynamics. That’s why their bond with ARMY keeps getting stronger and stronger.

I love the part that Suga said that fighting is not a bad thing. It is really a healthy way of keeping the relationship. The key is to have a respectful and good natured way of fighting. It would allow us to listen more and explain truthfully our issues instead of putting up defenses and listen to counter the other's take on the matter. Good job Bangtan! Always love Uncle Harley 💜💜💜

Jin said sorry because that is how who he really is not because RM or his boss says so. That what’s I thought at least

Conflict is natural where there are people but the beauty of it is how its resolved. Tae made a mistake without knowing and actually taught it was jin who did, and he innocently wanted to correct jin but it escalated as Jin was not at fault. At the end, both felt bad, and resolved the issues.

PD Bang said he didn't mind people seeing them in conflict, but also wanted to show they are not perfect and how they cope and work things out. What was amazing is that the others stayed out of the conversation behind the stage too, to let them converse. One other thing is Jimin and V always stick up for each other and cover each other so he did well in loving both of them in the after-conversation. After this discussion, they changed up the moves a little and kinda do it differently every time remembering to have fun.

I know for sure Jin was right and he's 100 times more mature and humble than v.

Actually it wasn't about who was wrong or right here ...the pressure is so much such things are inevitable ..but the thing is how nicely they resolve such conflicts .

I'm just so grateful to Bang PD for training them how to manage their emotions and how to deal with each other from the beginning. No matter how we say these boys have good personalities, conflicts are inevitable part of living together all these years. They're not perfect. In fact, they've told us of instances of childish arguments when they were still trainees, but through the years they were able to master how to deal with disagreements and conflicts, thanks to Bang PD's guidance. And now we all know how they love and care for each other so much they found it difficult to live separately.

It was cute to see that Jimin was kind of hovering at the door when they were alone together, making sure that things were okay. Thanks for the reaction, and for having Uncle Harley back. 😊

I learned a lot about human emotions and communication skills by watching you guys. (I am neurodivergent and most of the time, i am inside of my head and has difficulty in reading social cues so i want to learn and be more communicative). I learned a lot abt the tannies too, and we, the viewers, could use these knowledge to widen our intra and inter personal skills. In their earlier days, the boys and the rest of the creative team behind them with the ceo and producers had a sort of ritual where they shout whatever grievances they felt. It was held in their buildings rooftop and I feel that other companies did not have that kind of team-building activities and i really want to know what you guys think about that. Thanks and borahae!!

RM é um ótimo líder, podemos ver isso, mas, a humildade do Jin me impressiona. Jin, não estava errado, não estava dizendo que nao tentaria, apenas coloca sua verdade ali.

this incident was quite a long time ago, even now v is the one who often defends jin because sometimes jin lacks confidence, but v is always at the forefront of the example during a concert in las Vegas when his hand injured, jin felt like he was a burden but v stood up for him and said nothing should be a burden.

JIN ❤

I really admire Jin in this conflict resolution, conflict happens since we are all imperfect, but it really impressed me how Jin reacted. As an older sibling myself, I can say it does feel like pulling teeth to apologize to a younger sibling, especially, given the context…for something I felt I wasn’t in the wrong for. But Jin put others first in this situation and acted very mature. He put V’s feelings first. I am also one to be lighthearted if I feel it’s a non-issue, and increase conflict, but I learnt a lot from Jin in this. He took the first step, apologized for his actions, and you can see the impression it had on V. Jin is actually very mature and selfless, and although the members joke that he’s the “maknae”, his maturity shines in serious moments like these. I especially see Jins older brother side come out with Jimin, their friendship is beautiful and it makes sense why Jimin would be the one for the final conflict resolution in the end. I really feel like Jimin sees Jin’s almost “inner” personality and respects him like his older brother. I learnt a lot of lessons about this conflict. It reminds me that in a conflict it’s about making peace and not about proving who’s right. No wonder Bangtan is so close.

I am not Jin but knowing Jin’s personality I feel like in this situation he is like, let’s just do what we practiced Im doing’s my best already. Please know this happened minutes before the show and they have rehearsals before that. Jin dont like heavy environment so I think he is trying to joke about it to make it light but it out it became salty.

Why did you skip Jin's opinion part? Jin said if he moved faster he could not fit the beat on time. That is also a important part.. but you skipped...

Thank you for the video ...I love them all for different reasons But jin ooohhh jin i think is the reason why they are so selfless and chaotic and free .Jin is the oldest and in Korea this is a huge thing but jin never used the oldest card to the members.he was the first to apologize and this is so sweet and lovely about him and he is the most chaotic in run bts or when they are out of performance .he brings joy and freedom to all the members .I love him so much 💜♾️

My bias is V but here I'm definitely with Jin in this argument. He was humble enough to go to V and tried to solve the issue very maturely. Jin was wise for his first step

뒤에 거리가 좀 있어서 한계가 있는데, 앞에 있는 사람은 알수 없음. 저건 v의 무리한 요구임.. 뒤에서 추는 사람은 생각않는 v자신만 생각하는 것.

What your uncle said....grown adults in meetings are barely able to handle disagreements without letting their egos run wild....so seeing them behave so maturely.....with calm clarity even during conflicts....is testament of their characters. But most importantly, their dedication to make the team better as they better themselves is so impressive. Many are talented in this world....but there is reason why BTS enjoys this unmatched fame & loyalty. You guys were as usual amazing......Uncle Harley complimenting you in the middle of the video was a very sweet moment. Thanks for your hard work. Looking forward to whatever you guys have planned :)

man i was at this concert. jin REALLY pushed himself that night after this. i saw jin collapse (onto jimin, not the floor) as soon as the lights went out on stage. :( i had binoculars on and could see everything

Regarding the camera presence, they personally decided to show the bad moments so that fans are not disillusioned about them being perfect. That fans can learn from these difficult moments too.

7:55 RM's calm, reasonable response remembered Jin to his responsibility as the elder. One must never forget the cultural background and in Korea the eldest of a group bears the greatest responsibility. That's why Jin gave in and tried to de-escalate the situation as well.

Pobrecito mi Jin.💔

Thank you for your thoughtful analysis of BTS. I love BTS as performers but even more as people. They give me hope for humanity.

I would like to see Uncle Harley reacting to Jin and Tae videos. The way their relationship has become so solid.

One other thing I noticed, the other members did not interject while the conflict was happening. That would have caused more damage, sides being taken etc. it may be something they decided to do early on. But something I wish more families would do that!❤😂

I appreciated that you explained to your uncle that SK has a different view of elders. One year or more and you have to be respectful. However, maybe the way you all see it from your point of view...not SKorean...you'll see both of them as being respectful. But what you missed or maybe you said it in the longer version, is that the fact that Jimin HAD to mention it meant that V was a bit disrespectful to Jin in bringing it out the way he did. And in the video you see the members going to talk to V more than Jin...why? Not because they care more for him than Jin but because of the respect for elders and maybe because V needed to tone it done a bit more than Jin. We can see Jin apologizing first but V didn't...so the members still needed to talk to him more. Tae is a character all on his own, apart from his V persona, so he needs to be listened to and if he's not, he gets upset. Because he could have also let it go when Jin said he's doing the best he could but he didn't. Jin could have also said ok V I'll try harder...but when you're doing your best it's tough to hear someone say it's not good enough. And as he said...from someone younger hurt his pride! Also your uncle recognized RMs leadership, which is awesome. Because no one questions his role in the group. I also commend Jin because he could have said ok and moved away but he took the opportunity to apologize!!! He took the blame on himself immediately and that's who Jin is! That's just my thoughts lol. I enjoy your videos btw and love your love for our boys ❤😊

I think what disappointment me most I am sorry to say is that people are still playing this video. I am not sure if you realise Max but it caused a lot of controversy at the time because of how it was shown and edited for the documentary. Jin received a tremendous amount of hate mail from V’s fans for supposedly making V cry. This caused a retaliatory reaction from Jin’s fans which caused a sort of fan war. Each blaming the other member for the argument and hate going both ways. It was proven the next day that the actual performance in the discussion that V had roamed much further than normal that night making it difficult for Jin to run back to his place. This is what V noticed but was unaware it was because he had gone too far and not that Jin was too slow and it was discussed on how to make that part smoother. The problem is every time someone reviews it the same old arguments manifest and new army watch it and jump to the same conclusion and the hate cycles start again. For this reason I wish people would not review it. They only show partial clips of the argument so no one knows really what was said and only partially how it was resolved and leaving viewers to assume Jin was mainly at fault for being weak at dancing and unable to accept criticism and V just trying to better the performance instead of the truth which would have been known but not discussed in the documentary.It is in my opinion a very badly edited view of the argument designed to show how BTS resolve their problems without caring on how the members were represented. Jin being the man he is once again swallowed all this and just got on with it and we are just lucky that he is resilient

V always want to have an awesome performance

im tired of this fight and this narrative, some people here are saying jn gets sensitive when it comes to dancing skils because he didn't come from a dancing background but if you've seen the ACTUAL video of the stage that day, he didn't make any mistakes he was in the right position, i really dont know why v decided to blame it on him and disrespect him that way (you know how the korean are about age etc...)

I love your reactions with your uncle👍👍👍👍👍👍👍 The eldest got more authority but at the same time responsibility.. Jin is the amazing eldest. And all other 6 members respect him very much.💜💜💜💜

I have seen a video where it shows that V's position was farther than usual which made it more difficult for them to go to their next position. That's why it used to take Jin faster before and it seemed it took longer that time for Jin to go to their next position. It wasn't Jin's fault.

I love it when you have Uncle Harley on - his input is so interesting! These videos are so different from other reactors, please continue to have him on. I’m really enjoying your channel.

If Jin pulls himself down at times, for his dancing or anything for that matter.. V is the first one to shut him up and goes on to say that thats not true. See some TaeJin moments to how much they love and care about each other ! 💜 Loved this analysis :)

Both v and Jin are great actors🎉

loved how they worked it out well together and jin and taehyung’s relationship was never strained bc of this. they probably got even closer and they’re such a great duo, i’m glad they worked it out well

That argument and the way they solved it is what made me fall in love with BTS, they are an example worth following

Oh thank you so much for this video!!💜 really love you two

Uncle Harley who is a V bias, love him ❤❤

YESSSS THANK YOU WAITED FOR THIS

I see a lot of hate comments against V like people are so immature

Yes! Enjoyed this quite a lot. Thanks to both of you.💜🌝🌺

conflicts come and go but these boys' maturity to handle a very sensitive issue is commendable, other boy groups need to hear and watch this.

I disagree with one thing MAJORLY. Jin did NOT apologize because of RM (the leader). Thats his personality. Jin knew it needed to be resoolved because they needed to be on stage. Hes not a righteous person or stubborn. He put himself behind and did the good for the team like he ALWAYS does. I dont think you understand how important age hierearchy is in Korea and Jin putting his head down and apologizing when it wasnt his fault and V was rude (its considered rude in korea at least to talk to him like that and raise his voice )especially in front of their whole crew

I remember watching your reaction months ago and now hearing your uncle's perspective is awesome. Thank you for bringing him back

Can't wait for more of ur reactions to bts 💜

Great video! thank you Max and uncle Harley! BTS members are so mature, humble and down to earth, that’s why they have won us over, besides their amazing talent of course!

Brushing teeth is a habit BTS members follow to de-stress before their performances😊

Loved this reaction/analysis so muchh... thank you for this video 🥺💜

Yes! Love the two of you, thanks uncle Harley for joining! 💜

I checked the choreo. Adjustment would have been easier for V in the choreo. Nevertheless, this occurrence made them closer, according to them. So I guess it had a good effect on them.

The beautiful one came up when we saw the video actually no one was wrong. Jin didn't take slow move, its because the distance between the twoo of them were too far.but he didn't mind to admited that he was sorry. Big hearted indeed

I find psychology so interesting so I love hearing your Uncle's interpretations. I've really been enjoying the two of you reacting/analysing together and always look forward to the videos 💜

Thank you and your uncle for your reactions! I’m really enjoying the way Uncle Harley puts everything in perspective.

I think it is important to note that none of the others chimed in during the actual argument. The conflict stayed between Jin and V.

Max es de los pocos creadores de contenido que reaccionan a BTS que continuo viendo porque realmente siento su sinceridad y respeto por ellos💜

What a great discussion! So insightful. Thank you for taking the time to comment about the team interactions. So much to learn from their conduct 💜

love seeing you both reacting together, uncle is a absolute gem 🎉