Kat Napiorkowska Hey, hi ,my name's Mohammed Adil & I'm too A Victim of Social Anxiety disorder Since childhood,.. it has Badly affected Social life, Stopped me from Doing & Learning things .. i too Get Fear of Being judged Constantly WHICH MAKES ME FEEL 'Insecure' many times , Fighting battles with Own MIND'S Fears,worry, insecurities & self hatred😓 creating negative thoughts ... I can Totally Relate with ur Condition 🙂. And i want say You are BEAUTIFUL inside & Out ,Inspite u have a Mental disorder just like me .. I wish to have a Friend Like YOU with better understanding & support..

Same is with me, btw how are you doing now has your anxiety been any better in these 2 months?

@@notusingaccountanymore1249 Bro I've had anxiety for years and idk what to do, I haven't told anyone that I have social anxiety

@@surge534 seek help before it gets worse!

@@anaryz3963 yea, I finally told my parents and I'm going to therapy soon

Same..

i tell them stop staring at me i aint black

Can I ask which kind of therapy you tried?

Thank you in advance for the cheerful message :)

@@AdlyChan I haven't actually. Or rather, not until recently and not for solving anxiety. I used to never leave the house due to being burned in my teens. The way I believe it got better is by leaving my comfort zone and exposing myself slowly. Judging by where I started, I'm a social butterfly now :P So it's not all in vain. I don't let it keep me from living my life anymore and I don't avoid things because of it.

See, as someone with both GAD and SAD, I hear what you say and understand it, I even tell myself this during panic attacks but the voice in my head is MUCH stronger than my real self. I've made great strides and progress within my own anxiety and can do more than I used to, but it has never gone away with the thought of "well other people experience this too" this doesn't help for everyone.

@@legorockstar2000 I don't want to dismiss your side of things.. I can see that for some people it's probably way worse than it was for me.. but even for me.. this process has taken.. and is still taking years. I still feel quite uncomfortable in public sometimes.. etc. If people are dismissive to me or ignore me in conversation that will actually get me brooding. I just don't let it control my life anymore.

You aren't alone bro. Even when i am at work, I feel like I am crap with some of the crappy people who walk in the store or for no reason at times. I am quiet usually.

Same😭😭😭

Sorry you had to go through that, I hope that one day it stops making you feel traumatised when you remember it... Take care :)

Sorry that happened to you. I suffer from it as well. It was worse when I was younger but has improved.

I was avoided in school because I was really quiet too. I still suffer from social anxiety even today.

I hated that same thing too. I made myself suffer by going up there with them just so I wouldn’t look bad

As someone with social anxiety, I realized that you have to do a lot of things on your own because no body is gonna do it for you (it may sound harsh when you read this, but this is how I told myself from observation). I basically realized when you have social anxiety, people tend to leave you out. I overcame it, and I even include people who are shy and can’t speak up because I understand them. Also, this does sound like a horrible experience, if you want me to tell you something from mine, then I had a teacher catch me drawing in class, and said it and embarrassed me, and a few people laughed. So I think we’re alike. I don’t think you are weird for it because a lot of people in my high school were very shy too, and some were just by their own, just know you’re not alone, and people have different disorders too, but obviously they keep it to themselves. It made me feel better when I found out that I am not alone

Same

Same

That's what I've been feeling my whole life🙂

i have the same feeling, i always think why I'm not like an extrovert who always talk and make laught to everyone, why I'm not able to do that i know that i can do it even if i can do better, but i stop myself there's something that stopping me to being open in front of everyone 😔, sometimes i think that one day I'll be old at that time I'll only think that why i didn't enjoyed my life why i stopped myself from doing what i wanted I'll be regret

@@hybridboy9_9 I feel you and that is what happens to me. We just have to be strong and deal with it.

Me too but since l have C-PTSD my social anxiety and depression gotten worse i have suicidal thoughts now ldk l feel like this world is against me sometimes.... It's a struggle, l'm so worried and anxious about my looks i hate it l want my old life back that's all 😔😔😢💔💔💔

The problem is that if I let it, I throw up in front of everyone. And this is a fear that in my case, translates into reality. For example, I've thrown up in front of all my classmates inside a train on a field trip. That was one of my worst moments and I can now safely say that my fears do become reality, which leads me to avoid... well... life.

@@duartef02 i'm sorry my anxiety wasn't as severe as yours apparently cause I never felt the need to throw up... maybe that's why mine got so much better. Anyways, I do hope yours will become better xoxo

Welcome to the socially anxious club. I’d like to set up a meet up for us, but no one would show up. 🐍👀

@@KatAmarie 😂

Im to living korea. Same feeling here bro. Social anxiety kick me everytime

Thanks buddy your comment really motivated me . I’ve even screenshot your comment 😅

Feels like an awful advice. I've been going to school for 11 years and I felt nervous asking a question or walk into a classroom even in 11th grade. Is it not enough? I tried. Doing something very out of my comfort zone made me feel extremely ashamed and I will never do it again. Cognitive behavioral therapy works better for me.

I get it, it's really different per person. For me, I had a buddy do a couple of these things with me, and so some of the discomfort was lessened... but I know these are quite extreme. It's not something I would do all the time, but maybe something I would do once, just to observe that people only look at you for maybe a split second and then don't really care. More regularly, what I like to do is things that are only mildly uncomfortable, to build up your social "muscle" so to speak, so like on a scale of 1-10 (10 being an anxiety attack), doing something that's like a 3-4 until it becomes more of a 1-2 and your 5-6s feel like 3-4s, and so on. That method feels more sustainable to do day-to-day, but the extreme one is kinda interesting to do once or twice just as an experiment.@@DashieDe

As someone who also had social anxiety starting at 11, I think that most likely came from bullying. I just thought that if I kept my mouth shut, and not get involved into problems that start conflicts with people or make teachers angry for other stuff I did, I would get through in school. I just didn’t know it was gonna impact me so much to develop social anxiety, at that time I didn’t even know what that was, and I was like that for 3 years, until I started realizing my heavy breathing or feeling tense, and scared. I usually talked a lot with people from my middle school who I was comfortable with, but speaking in class was difficult like sharing out in class my opinion by raising my hand, or doing presentations. I didn’t talk bc I was afraid of getting made fun of for what I say, but everything changed when I graduated and came to high school. I started having traumatic reoccurring dreams of my middle school, and they didn’t leave me until I started my senior year. Eventually I came to high school, and my junior year, I started getting off of my comfort zone, I met and made many friends (stayed out of drama). Many people who were extroverts found me interesting, I tend to love people who are completely opposite from me in personality, I have this extroverted friend who has adhd, and he says it so proudly for having it, and I find him interesting. I like people who are complete opposite from me, I didn’t see it as a bad thing and I accepted him for who he was, and we are good friends. I don’t think I have social anxiety anymore since I learned how to overcome it, and become more confident, I practiced social skills, but I still get anxiety panic attacks if I don’t turn an assignment in on time, or if something bad happens, like something isn’t working for me, I can overthink, worry, and then this thought constantly gets stuck in my head for more than an hour. I might have an anxiety disorder but idk, I never have diagnosed it, but I just can tell. It probably came from my childhood or something, I don’t really know. But I know that many people have different disorders, even some of my friends opened up to me about things I never knew they had, I realized I’m not alone. It makes me a bit better feeling that everybody has their own different problems, and that I’m not lonely through this.

Right my social anxiety gotten so bad to point where I can walk in public places, this is why I just stays home

@@Zia._20210 😔i understand sis.

I hope Uni goes well for you, it's a fresh start where no one knows you! All the shit you had to deal with in high school won't follow you there, this is your chance to take back control. There will be others going to your Uni that will feel the same way - it can be very nervewracking. Just be your awesome self, and there is definitely light at the end of the tunnel :)

I can relate most times I tend to look down on my phone to avoid people staring at me 🤦‍♂️

@@rarebreed345 same😭😭😭😭

As someone who doesn’t have social anxiety, from the outside looking in you guys don’t even look or seem as anxious or weird as you think. Someone asked me the other day if I think they’re weird and they were one of the chilliest people I’ve met. Lol it’s just a thought guys. you’re really fucking great and I wish you guys knew it!!!! I love y’all you can conquer this

I hope you feel better soon lovely :)

@johnj5783 thank you.

A job might just be the best thing that could happen to you! Cause the only way it will get better imo is by getting exposed to it. You are basically doing all the work without needing to do it via will power. If you have to go to work, then all the tough decisions are already taken care off. :) No doubting, hesitating, cancelling plans..

Hi, i used to have the same thoughts, but i work now so i bet you could too :) i work at chat customer service, so it's not demanding, there's even option to work from home. I don't have college degree. You can find something like that too, so don't beat yourself up, there's hope :)

@@restrykcyjnie thanks that is encouraging

I encourage you to try gradual exposure therapy! It helps build confidence with this sort of thing

Same here 🖐

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Absolutely I've had many things said to me like what's wrong with me everyone is talking and I'm to quiet it's not that I'm quiet it's just hard for me to be myself unless I get to know you

@@keiron.4612 it can be really difficult.

@@kflecha1 it really can it's only us who understands it you have a lovely channel btw just subbed

@@keiron.4612 awww 🥰 thanks 😊

it doesn't matter sweety I know a lot of people with normal faces have a lot of friends and enjoying their life its all about confidence!!!

Try go on-line! I know it may seem unreal and yeah, often it does. But i found some people much more casting and understanding than most people i know "real" world. Let me know how it goes!

@@ac4694 I have few friends online but I really do need at least one irl. Thanks for your comment btw

@@seymaae All I can say is baby steps, dont preassure yourself to hard on real life. I have a few online friendships which evolved into irl, but those took time and distance (obviously) makes them feel semi-irl if I can say so. Maybe you could progress with those you already have? Regardless you do, I wish you good luck!

As someone who used to be crippled by social anxiety.. I think the only way out is slow exposure. You just keep putting yourself out there until your brain finally accepts that it's not dangerous after all. That people are actually so concerned with their own appearance that they have no time to worry about yours. The thing is.. finding friends is not trivial. And it's not like you are to blame for not having them. You just can't force it. They happen naturally, or they don't happen. And you're not alone, most people would probably like to have more or deeper friendships. Being a good friend yourself can be hard work though. Either way, I think you'll be fine! Just don't be too hard on yourself. Every little step counts.

@@hgzmatt thank you so much for you comment it actually helped me feel better 💕

don't depressed everything will be ok 1 day just believe