I was in a relationship from 2005-2019 with a promise of marriage. He broke up with me to be with someone else and married her within there 1st year of marriage. I was confused and heartbroken. I lost so many years. Please listen to me! Know when to move on. Know your worth.

Unpopular opinion but if you’ve had a baby with a man and he’s not your husband, you already lost…. Please eradicate this baby mamma/daddy culture

She’s not serious… And she’s not tired yet.

15:30 “Ladies, men don’t respond to our emotionalism. They respond to our actions and they respond to our absence.” Gold.

She is still sitting there. LEARN TO DETACH. These men will drop you for a woman they’ve just met. FLEE for the love of god!

Venting on social media is like telling the whole world how you sell yourself short to a man amongst many men.

The fact that she said" I'll say no" instead of " I'm leaving now" is delulu

She did "wifely" duties without being a wife. Men only understand actions, and they are only as faithful as their options. Sorry babe!

No LETS BE HONEST WOMEN- Her man doesn’t think she is the one .. Men don’t take that long for the woman they want …

Ironic thing is I’ve seen many situations like this where they’ll finally break up and the guy will MEET, PROPOSE 💍 AND MARRY someone ELSE within a year!… You just have to cut your losses and realize when you’re not the one! Before you get too resentful and bitter.

She's not going anywhere, she's still moving the goal post, "if he proposes I'm going to say No", "unless he pulls out all the stops I'm going to say No", "if he doesn't propose before July I'm going to say No". She's still not tired of this man playing in her face.

He's not going to propose dear.

I’ve been engaged twice and they proposed within a year of dating! Their exes were women who stayed with them for over 4 years. Yeah absolutely not and my dad would’ve stepped in for sure! As for myself, I simply got cold feet 😅. Later met my husband through my dad, married 9 years. He’s 37 and I’m 29, pregnant with our first child. We decided to put off children to enjoy our marriage without children. I make $200k and he makes $350k+ …. But since I’m pregnant I’m retiring, he doesn’t believe in women working child or not, but allowed me to work. PS: He said men stay because they’re comfortable. Free sex and free food, until they find their wife. When they meet a woman with real options and she’s a wife, they move fast.

*If a man does not marry you, he is not worried about another man taking you away from him. It is so simple and she was talking in circles, men know who they can string along. Also, stop thinking men feel guilt like women do. I promise, he will meet someone and wife them up before Christmas, if that's his dream girl.*

He didn’t take her to the wedding??! Girl 🚩🚩🚩 Leave or let him be your boyfriend in peace.

One of my older cousins was in a relationship for a very long time! I met her when I was in 2nd grade and they broke up when I was in 10th grade! By the time I got to 12th grade, I got invited to his wedding to another woman! I learned a valuable lesson: Don’t Let No Man Waste YOUR time!

Your boyfriend is holding you back from your future husband.

I feel like anything over 2 years of dating is a placeholder situation

"Why are you STAYING if you are going to say no ?"

She thinks saying no is hurting him but she hurting herself.

The fact she never met buddy’s best friend after all these years is one of the wildest parts.

The fact that she will refuse his proposal but remain as boyfriend and girlfriend is wild and wrong.

She just needs to leave him and stop watching his friend’s relationship and comparing the two she will never be happy

Ladies lets learn to detach...Have a certain time personally less than two years....

The man did not keep his word, and that would've been enough to walk away. She stayed, had a baby, and so he kept playing in her face. She messed up!

I scroll past all post of women complaining about their horrible husbands/boyfriends because these women aren't going to leave these men. The woman in the clip hasn't even considered leaving her boyfriend. She said, "Oh well, I guess I'll just be a babymomma," and will continue the relationship with him as if that's the only option.

My question is why would she have a baby 4 years in when he broke his 1 year promise?

Ladies don’t lay down with a man off the bat. Don’t give a man a child immediately. Keep a strong mind, and don’t think yourselves less than a man

It’s not too late to leave

She should be happy he never married her. She's free to move on.

Here's the thing... a proposal/engagement does not mean marriage. People be "engaged" for years.😢

He obviously thinks he is the prize. I made you the mother of my first child.... how about I made you the father of my first child. Weird

She has let him restructure the relationship everytime.

I don't know how old she is but she clearly gave him her best years.....

In the case of that young woman, I sense that a “shut up proposal “ is on its way (10 years down the line). I also believe she will never leave him despite her frustration and “threats.”

“Never let a man tell you more than once he doesn’t want you.” Old sage, wisdom. Did he sign the birth certificate? If he dies tomorrow, will your child get survivor’s benefits? Will you wait around until your child has to share resources with other kids?

Why she even put this on social media? To complete strangers online. Talking about a man she's still dealing with. She should be talking to friends, family, therapist.

Wait! What does she mean "HE" goes to HIS friend's wedding? Honey. If you're in a relationship, that should be YOUR friend as well... GIRL, that is not your man. Better be careful he wasn't the one that got married! She gave him all of her power! It is not too late to leave. He is living his best life, he has a child, saves on bills, doesn't pay child support, s.ex on demand, a maid, and a chef. All while living his best single life. Because honey, when he is away from her, HE IS every bit a single man. I wish her the best, but this will not end well for her. *Also. When I met my husband, he called me "wifey." I stopped that immediately and literally said "Oh sweety, I'm no ones wifey until I walk down the aisle. Ladies, its ok to challenge a manwhen it comes to your worth

Happy Father’s Day! I say this because my husband pays most of the bills and he helps me with cleaning, cooking and raising his son. If i had to do most the work and I have to pay half, I would be single! 👋🏿

Women are comparative and competitive in nature as Chloe says. The below the surface resentment is real.

It’s her fault for not having standards. She needs to forgive herself and move on now that she knows better. She see his actions are not lining up with his words.

She’s too immature to understand that she’s getting played. Not only is dude wasting her time, he sitting there giving her all the stories on his friend and what he does for his woman. To me, it looks like he’s deliberately trying to upset her and it’s working. She’s sitting up in a car comparing her situation to a friend of her man who she has NEVER MET 🙄🤦🏽‍♀️.

So true ladies, men will waste your time and years by blocking your true blessing. I am greatful i grew up with both good and toxic men so I learned early what to look out for and I dogged a major waste and and a month later met my now husi and was married 3 mths later fast forward we are married 7yrs. People know exactly what they are doing or not doing don't fall for the tricks. Listen to what is said and not said and lead with logic, not emotions. 🥂🍸 happy Sunday and happy fathers day to all the great fathers.

Comparison is the biggest thief of joy. He thinks he can do better. She wasting her time. Bless her heart.

Men don't like 50_50. They do that when they want to con you.

These most recent seasons of "Divorce Court," the majority of women are baby mamas, 2, 3, 4 times over by one man, been together for 5,6,7+ years and now all of a sudden they want a ring. You didn't require it after the first child, but you kept having his children, thinking that by doing that, it would make you more valuable to him. If he passes and you 2 are not married at the time, in the eyes of the law,( in most states) you're a baby mama. You have no legal protection. Marry before you carry.

Actions over words.

Thank you Chloe!! This is definitely a Placeholder story... As they say people will treat you how you allow them to treat you.. Love yourself and have boundaries!!

She's trying to bully him into giving her a ring.

Ladies she wasted her youth/time, beauty and femininity. 2-year limit, learn to set boundaries.

What incentive does he have to marry her? She’s given him a home, 5 years of his life and a child. She’s still saying “if”. If she wants marriage she won’t find it with him. She’s in denial that she’s settling and denying her worth. And even posting this with proposal ideas hoping he gets the hint. Poor thing.

Plot twist...what if The boyfriend is the Married Provider Husband "friend" in his other life, he's actually talking about himself as the friend for 6years that she's never met.

Thank you. If many of us were taught this information from the beginning we wouldn't end up in these frustrating relationships thinking they're going somewhere that they cannot because they're not set up to do so.

People will do everything but leave an unhappy situation 😪

No no no all the way around 🤦🏽‍♀️! Girl!! What was YOUR timeline? Why not leave after a year?? “Idk care about 50/50.” You SHOULD!! My God!

She never met the friend so she didn’t go to the friend’s wedding or the pre-wedding events. Who did the boyfriend take to the wedding? I have no doubt she’s being used a placeholder.😢

The last video clip was everything! No need to force a thing! Live your life with positivity and in the present, and everything that you desire will be yours!!!!!!!!!!!

Well said, “ladies, men don’t respond to our emotionalism they respond to our actions and they respond to our absence” 👏👏

Sometimes it’s a sign not to marry a man. It works both ways, there’s always a man out here that can give her what she wants. Match the same energy with these men and always have a exit plan

She’s not going to leave because she more concerned about saying no to a mediocre proposal… she’s also convincing herself by saying “ to each their own” try not to make herself look bad. The lack of accountability “he said after one year, after 3 years, after the baby, after 5 years” she MUST take responsibility for staying with a liar. I feel sorry for her; at the same time she needs to get them standards up.

Unliking the video so I can like it again

Girl, STAND UP!!!! Making yourself feel better on camera by saying "I'd say no" is pitiful. She doesn't believe that herself. Ma'am, keep on being a placeholder. We don't need to hear about it.

I'm not sure what she thought she was doing by bringing this debacle to social media, but all she did was embarrass herself. She came on to talk about him, but all her actions said more about her than it does about him. We need to bring "being a lady" back to society, because all these women airing out their dirty laundry for millions of strangers ain't it. If you're really that mad about it, just leave without making any public announcements. 🙅🏿‍♀️💅🏿

I'm just confused as to what are we as the public supposed to do with this information? Does she want us to beat him up😂

Yeah he strung her along and wasted 5 years of her youth…but….. she allowed it because his words didn’t match his actions…learn our lessons, set standards, AND move on…

When you go into a relationship without a plan, you cannot expect the outcome to end in your favor because you failed to execute. He thinks you're good enough to be his baby mama because you allowed it. I learned apart of the level up is accountability. Men don't care about hints, threats, or even loyalty, they only respect standards, and we as ladies need to remember we hold the power! I know she thought making this video was a flex...baby girl it really wasn't

The moral of this story is “Beloved it’s time look inward, make a new decision to choose you”‼️

Look at it like a “lease payment “ should have made you RUN!!

Like you said, we need to feel it in our intuition. if you know he’s not the one because he don’t treat you like he knows you’re the one, walk away. he’s either gotta step up or step aside but us as women need to be strong and walk if it’s not a mutually nuturing relationship

She’s a work mule, building him up to be a provider -for the one that he REALLY wants 🥴

She needs to turn her evil eye away from his friend's relationship and get herself together. Why is she still with him if he is such a villain....and ma'am don't plan to say no to a proposal from a man you don't plan to leave.

Lease payment🤔Girl your mistake was breeding with him.

The fact that she keeps saying "if he asks" tells me she still has hope that he one day he will ask her to marry him.Gurl, he's not! Hope shouldn't be alive bc he ready told you that your relationship is a lease. Lease means you're on borrowed time. Take your pride and dignity and leave.

Just another point he hasn't even introduced her to his friends and he probably took someone else to the friend's wedding. He hates her!

💥Dont hold anybody down but yourself. Dont have anyone's back but yours. These 50/50 men take care of themselves. So should you, LEAVE! 💥

Men love through investment. She needs to stop going 50/50 and get that man to fully provide for her.

I refused to have a baby before marriage, and didn't sleep with my now husband for the first year+ that we were together. Now my husband uses me as an example to his younger sisters. Don't play wife when you're just a girlfriend.

Lease payment … smh 🤦🏾‍♀️. Dating & surviving this “ baby mamma “ culture in 2024-2025 is wild!

If a man is telling you about all the things his best dude is doing with his woman that he KNOWS you want from him, PLEASE take that as a full hint that he doesn’t want you and he is pushing you to tell him that you want out. Then he can blame you for the decline of the relationship and he will likely be married within a year or two to be even more vindictive and hateful.

One thing i will say is you shouldnt look and compare other people’s relationships to yours. Everyone different and you dont know everyone elses relationship

Wait...he told her "you had my FIRST kid"??? Soooo...ummmm...Girl, please hear what's underneath that statement.

Only thing worse than 50/50 is when you as the woman is paying it all.

What she dont get is, his friends now wife didnt allow him to play in her face. She did. Thats it. Thats all.

Everything I’m hearing is on HER!! You should have left long ago and NEVER had a baby before marriage!!! You ma’am could have avoided ALL of this!!

He knew the first day. All that one year, then three years. He basically told you the truth. You didn’t believe him. Leave now while you can. 🏃‍♀️

Comedian clowned couple in front row because they’ve been dating 22 yrs.

It hurts but you gotta walk away 😢 and have faith it gets better.

NEVER,NEVER,NEVER,NEVEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEER give a BABY to a BOY FRIEND. Give them 2-3 max to propose. Don't love him more than he loves you. Never be a ride or die. PUT yourself first. The more we give, the more they take and the less the respect you.

Good Morning Chloe, This lady is clearly Dry-Begging. This is so sad bc she's broken and gave all her leverage away. She did. She believed the lies and is delusional.. Its not his Fault. We need to stop searching for affirmations, validation, and love outside of ourselves. We need to do the shadow work exculsively and love ourselves FIRST. That's essential and the key to everlasting love and satisfaction. Walking away is powerful and sends the universal positive vibes to send your match to your experience. Her intuition is not activated and she feeling the rejection and do not want to be alone. Therefore, she's searching for some internal resolve which will continue the downward spiral. Men show you in their actions that they do not want you. She thought she could win and appease him into committing to forever with her. Men love to Provide. She proved to him she wasn't worthy and turned into a placeholder. All of Her. He just banked the goodies and givemes... She gave and did TOO MUCH, too soon with NO BOUNDARIES..

NEVER, NEVER give a man a child out of wedlock if you desire marriage! This is the worst decision!

Im so thankful for this channel. Life changing feminine information. Thank you Chloe ❤

8:02 😂 girl you still want it.

I would have other men on the side because girl what idc your single until your married idc what men say because they will waste your time

He hasn't proposed because she's not who he really wants. He's keeping her around until he "finds" that person.

She's going to stay. She moved the goalpost on saying first "no", then "no... unless...". We know when a woman's fed up. She hasn't hit her limit yet. This is the scenario where he gets married six months after their breakup to the next woman.

She will stay until he finally mans up and says it’s over and he moves on officially and publicly with another woman

She’s making these videos hoping to convinced him to change. Imagine settling for 50/50 (less) and he still won’t marry you. But ladies no man will marry a woman he doesn’t see as a prize and they won’t see a woman desperate for marriage and to be with them a prize…

Thank you for this teaching 🙌🏾

She wants to him to beg for her. But unfortunately, that's not gonna happen.

She stays and will become a bitter Betty that will always complain about sticking around with a dusty