Before I started watching this channel my confidence was in the trash. I traded in my everyday t-shirts and sweats to sun dresses and sandles with pedicures and all that and the response has been mind blowing... What started off as a silly experiment has been life changing Thank you Cloe 🤗❤️

I just want to say just because your not your crush's type physically doesn't mean your ugly. Don't let one man make you compare yourself to other women and make you feel insecure. Be yourself and stay feminine. You are somebody's type.

Update: I’ve lost 18 lbs so far! Yay! This video was right on time! I’ve just accepted the reality that NO ONE will support me on this hypergamous & femininity journey. Everyone in my life benefits from me as a BW being a mule. I’m dedicating the next three years to getting my feminine appearance together (100lb weight loss, skincare, hair care, etc.). It sometimes hurts that I have no one I can talk to or having friends who support my journey. So thank you Chloe for being the only motivating force in my life right now! ❤️

I get my confidence from my parents. Growing up, I saw how they took care of themselves and always telling me how special I am, how beautiful, talented and proud they are of me. I always reward myself with candle light bubble baths, going out to my favorite 5-star restaurant and making sure my home is peaceful.

Ladies!!! Today was the first day I said “no” to a man wanting sex before relationship/ marriage. I’ve had 2 partners so far and they were a waste of time, I learned through experience that’s it’s best to wait. I’m so thankful for you Chloe, your videos are truly changing my mindset. Much love! ❤️

Chloe, I recently had a falling out with one of my “friends” she just cut me off out of nowhere. I’ve been nothing but nice to her and I found myself just overthinking how did I make her mad? After a lot of reflection, I realized that God has a way of taking people out of your life. I enjoyed this video bc I realized being friends with her wasn’t helping me evolve. She benefited more from me then the other way around so it’s really her loss. PS- I’ve been watching your videos for a while now and I really love who I’m becoming. Mindset is everything. Thank you for your content.

Since starting my feminine journey I’ve been actually walking more and watching what I eat and the weight as been falling off even fit into old jeans and I’m 20 pounds away from my goal.

I just wanted to say before watching this video. I've lost roughly 50 plus pounds since watching your videos months ago. I just want to thank you for your content. I'm happy to be apart of the hive 💜 Blessings beautiful

the earlier you start taking care of yourself the better.

I maintain my confidence by steering clear of negative or toxic people. I have more work to do in order to be the woman that I want to become. However, I am at the place where I do NOT care about losing "friends". In addition, I accept who I am without the approval or validation of others.

I don’t think you can even realize that you saved my life Chloe. I was on the edge after spending my entire childhood being humiliated, disrespected, gaslit, and isolated. I actually would get into trouble for being feminine (wearing dresses, makeup, baking cakes) because of my messed up culture and their gross expectations of women. I had so much social anxiety. Because of this, anyone that so much as just had a conversation with me, became my world. I had been so ignored so many years, simply talking back to me felt like love. Even if the way you spoke to me was extremely disrespectful. I so desperately wanted friends and people to love me. After watching you for just a few short months, the horrible heavy feeling in my chest has significantly subsided. I basically eliminated 99% of my “friends” who always made me feel so badly about myself. I have a newfound hope and joy I used to have before evil people stamped out the beautiful light I have inside. So many tears and pain that wasn’t mine shed not just with this video, but your other ones too. I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for changing lives and the trajectory of lives. You have no idea. You have become a part of my life story and I pray one day I get to meet you so I can hug you and may god always bless you.

I have often been criticized for speaking "proper" and using correct grammar and have even been told that I should quit sounding white. In the past this would trigger some irrational and insecure feelings but as I matured, I realized that my face is my canvas to the world and my voice and dictation are the what people will use to determine whether or not I know my own worth.

I’m 5’8 curvy I love my body! Some guys want shorter girls or real skinny but Its never stop anyone from approaching me. When I was younger being skinny was more in and even tho I wasn’t fat my curves weren’t seen as Desirable but now OMG curvy is in! And I get a lot of play lol. Society changes all the time. Love yourself no matter what! Take care of your Temple!

I'll be 50 in two weeks, I feel like my confidence is stronger than ever. I was a people pleaser for a long time. Know a dibbie out my time to some people and hang out with people who we equally support each other. Another great video Chloe ❤

A lion(ness) does not worry about the opinions of sheep. I've learned that in this "likes" and "loves" driven society, you can't win them all--and that's okay. When you're busy posting your life, you can miss out living life. People also don't like when you're body confident (first hand experience as a former athlete). Co-workers make sly comments about me bringing my lunch and the damn size of it because I care about what goes in it. I realize these comments come from those co-workers shaped like Ms. Pac-Man or an ice cream cone. Awesome vid!

Chloe you have definitely helped me grow in my feminine energy. For me, I definitely need to work on boundaries more. I’m beyond scared to speak up for myself. I’m not for sure if something happened in my past which stopped me from doing it now. But as an adult I need to do better. I also need to be okay with everyone not liking me. I’ve dealt with this since I was a kid. As an adult, I can tell that other women and even men can fear and dislike people with confidence and/or a calling on their lives!

I will listen to this again and again until I am an actual confident woman rather than someone who pretends to be. Thank you for sharing your knowledge. I really appreciate the points about trauma dumping and being your own best friend.

#1 Be Your Own Best Friend - YES!!!!! I absolutely love my own company.

Loved this video, I recently cut ties with a low value man after 4 weeks of dating. I could immediately tell that because he was older than me, he tried to be manipulative, and used certain tactics to tear me down/get a rise from me! I simply did not engage, and made the choice to move on. My well being will always come first along with MY goals. I cannot have a low value man enter my life and try to take this away from me. Thank you Chloe!!

I have lost 44 pounds (20kg) and now I actually feel happy with my body. I still have about 20 more pounds (10kg) but its okay. I just loooovvveeee myself. Like a lot lot and I value myself too. I dont tolerate nonsense or anything. And feeling confident in myself just feels so liberating and free. I am a Malaysian lady. Thank you Chloe. ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

Trauma dumpers! I never heard that term but wow that’s the perfect term. I knew it was toxic but couldn’t put my finger on it. We are not qualified to absorb trauma of other people. Recognizing unhappy people, and recognize the source of criticism. Wow! I needed all of this 🤯

Self- forgiveness is my struggle

When I was in my 20’s I was a major trauma dumper. My mother has passed and no family. My friends had grace, I’ve learned people don’t have the capacity and I started seeking out professionals for the help I need. It’s ok, to be friends with people who are sad because we will all be sad at some point and we too will need grace.

I released 30lbs* this year and the body dysmorphia is up a few points. Learn to love yourself at every stage.

I know a woman, recently divorced and single mother of two, tried to tear down my confidence when I made it known I was dating someone. I recognized her hurt and the reason why she was miserable, I secretly wished her healing and decided I no longer wanted to interact with her. She’s been trying to be “friends” with me ever since smh

Y’all please when on this journey, stay away from negative people. Those negative people will bring you down and also make you feel responsible for this insecurities. Smh

I love Chloe a million pieces! May her life be blessed a billion fold! Thank you so much for what you do, remaining authentic, and using your voice as a revolutionary platform!

The most beautiful thing you wear is "Confidence "...

Those who LOVE to remind you of your past mistakes are not your friends and may also be dying inside from their own mistakes and the negative voices in their own heads.

Chloe is the big sister and I never had although I have sisters I am so grateful for this video because I had a few rejections before which really destroyed my self worth I'm 16 so now at least now I have better things to focus on Boys/men will always be their, my childhood won't so I will enjoy the rest of it

I like how the video's title is body inclusive (though being healthy is obviously encouraged). Women tend to want to wait to be confident until they're their ideal "body goals" but you should be confident at all sizes!

“Go tell them to step on a lego” 😂😂😂

This has been very hard. I’m overweight and no support nor encouragement to lose weight.

Therapy taught me that I was raised to put the interest of others above my own, I am still in therapy and it is the best thing that has ever happen to me. I used to be emotionally dysregulated and lack self-worth due to have had a crappy childhood. Now I can tell when a guy does not have my best interest and I can get rid of overly narcissistic people in no time whereas b4 therapy I would allow these people into my private life to use me. Lately, I can make healthier choices and I don't share details of my life with abusers anymore.

Thanks Chloe. I tell myself "oh well" when faced with negative, confidence-draining people. I either move on or treat them with quiet politeness (i e. long-handled spoon). I have a co-worker who is toxic--I speak to her, give her eye-contact and always have a light smile. I do not deal with her.

Thank you Chloe. I’m 2nd year in therapy and I still have quite a way to go but I must say that therapy is good for self respect but not very supportive on hypergamous journey. Therapists see becoming a ‘full package’ for that man and wanting a provider as shallow and codependent. So I don’t talk about it anymore but just heal my issues.

I go to the gym but my figure is not the skinniest but people always say they notice how confident I am

I love the advice of disengaging! That's exactly how I navigate social media. Report, Block, and Disengage. Why let things rattle you??

Lol she said go step on a lego….. that really hurts 🤣

Another gem! Confidence is key may sound like a clichè but there are few statements that are truer. My confidence comes from knowing that I am filled with Devine feminine energy. My crown Goddess has one rule: love yourself. Whenever I need, I refocus on that and my life gets right every time. Love yourself and you benefit. Love yourself and your loved ones benefit. Love yourself and the world benefits. Just imagine what the world would be like if people even just liked themselves… If you are reading this, may you be filled with the inner knowing that you were born kind, capable, worthy and beautiful. 🌻🐝🍯💛

I had confidence growing up in Haiti then I lost it when I came to America at fourteen then due to so many hurt and bad circumstances it just got worse now I am beginning to heal and slowly get it back recently cut off all the situations hips I had they both were white dudes now I am learning to love myself and heal while waiting for the man who is meant to love me the way I deserve

Literally right on time! I finally cut ties with my trauma dumping, narcissistic ex bf and I am now at a place of self forgiveness, healing and soul searching. I realized I really sold myself short during that relationship and pushed aside many of my personal values just to appease him. Now I'm finally at a place where I'm putting myself first again and remembering who TF I AMMMMM! 💪 Stay up ladies, we got this! ❤️❤️

Trauma dumpers!!! I just encountered this and I refused it. She was upset but not my problem.

“Keyboard banshees” killed meee!!😂😂😂I was just trying to fall asleep to her knowledge.

A very much needed video. Will definitely be passing it along to my 19yr old daughter and 11yr old niece🥰

Omg,i never knew trauma dumping could take so much energy,when i stop talking to that person.i feel so much energized, n less 😟 😰 😟 anxious.

Love this video! Confidence is key and we have got to stop letting other people shake us. I’m getting healthy because I want to live my best life for a long time and not for anyone else! Thank you for this video!❤️

Hi Chloe, I had a childhood friend actually repulse and repel me away from her by all her excessive use of profanity, her harsh and vulgar comments about relationships and men. She would always try to belittle my feminine ways and the softer I spoke the harder and mean she was. She noticed I just cut her off, and she contacted me questioning what I hadn’t invited her out. Ans she actually had the audacity to to say she will pray for my jealous spirit! Honestly I couldn’t think of a think she has had or has that I would even remotely want, so I assumed like you stated in the video, misery loves company and that she was actually projecting her jealously towards me. I should have known to release her months ago when she told me she’s not like me, she has had to work hard for everything she’s got! And that’s a shame because she was married twice, and me just one time. I’m unfortunately now divorced, but my ex was extremely generous with me. I’m thinking that’s what she’s mad at too. SMH....

I'm actually very playful and joke alot. People often enjoy my company 🤣🤣🤣 my best friend is a trauma dumper. Today I told her that we need to take a break as we are not adding value to each others lives. I would be stupid if I'm still listening to her talk about her dusty in the next 6 years when we are both 40. I love her I wish her the best but I can't.

Chole did not lie. The story of my life…Jaded and miserable people love company. Ask yourself does this person add any value to my life? Block. Delete. and Ignore / Avoid these types at all cost in-life.🏃🏾‍♀️x

This was a wonderful video Chloe. I just journaled on most of these topics and being my own best friend was number one for me too.

Thank you, Chole. Your messages are always so motivating and encouraging. Your channel is more than just teaching femininity but helping us realize our biggest self.

The comment section 🥺😍

Dust bunnies, dusties and keyboard banshees!!!

It was the “go step on a Lego®️” for me! Very timely! Thank you

I’m so happy my career gives me the time to work on these things. I make 10k a month doing credit flipping & I have so much more freedom for self care ❤️ thanks Chloe

Recognizing all of these traits within myself at 24 makes me happy. Especially coming from a complete different world, but I made it my point to heal & be the best version for myself! ✨

Chloe, I listen to your videos over and over lest I forget this valuable information. 23 years old & never had anyone tell me this ✨vital✨ advice. Happy I get to learn this early on. Praise God

Your worth is not in your shape. Women, you are human beings, stop selling yourself short!

I personally enjoy your sense of humour and the way you describe things, such a delight 😆!

Love this Chloe! New Yorkers love to say kick rocks 🤣🤣🤣 I used to say this a lot when living up there! Unfortunately, my family has a lot of negativity and it’s such downer especially since you don’t want to trust any and everyone with your information but it’s just as bad if those “close” family members are so negative and jealous they are of no help as well.

Just what I NEEDEDDDDD!!!! Thank you Chloe❤️

Chloe thank you again! I needed to hear this so badly! No settling!

This video came right on timeeee thank you so much!❤️❤️❤️

This video hit home today! Great Stuff here Chlo’e

Lots to reflect on. Thank you for posting.

One of your most helpful and informative videos yet!! I am replaying this over and over until I get this info is a part of my life

Love how I was just having a conversation with my spiritual advisor about me working on having a positive body image of myself, and then this pops up!

Chloe as always, thank you for your wisdom and words. Stay Blessed

Chloe's back! Yes!

I see Chloe is absolutely in her BAG with this video 🤌🏾🤌🏾🤌🏾

I love the organization of your videos: a dive into the current problem and then a in dept discussion on how to owercome it. Your truthful and direct words are needed.

I'm so grateful for your advice and guidance, Chloe 💛

I absolutely love and appreciate how you go deeper than the physical in feminity. 💫

The timing of this video is impeccable! Chloe you’re really out here saving lives & I cannot thank you enough. Love you 💕

Chloe’s videos have changed my life. Hearing someone articulate your intentions is so helpful 💕

This is such a great video. Definetly gonna rewatch until everything is nailed into my head lol

Your channel is literally a God send! I REALLY needed this! Learning SO much! Thank you for dropping the knowledge 🙏🏽

LOVE this. Thank you Queen!!!!❤️

Thank you for properly explaining shadow work. I have ask people in the past but when they explained it I never really grasp or understood what they meant until you explained it for me to understand. I am doing this now even though I know my flaws etc I will write them out now. Thank you Chole!!!

This was amazing and so needed! Thank you ❤️

This reminded of me of things I knew within but at the same time something I needed to hear. Thank you, to me you’re better than most. I resonate with what you’re saying. Have a bright day! ☀️

I really love you chloe and appreciate, your channel is one of the first classy and feminine and mostly sportive channels

This video is speaking to me very loudly! Glad I can hear every single word & put it to use! Thankyou Chloe!💎🤗🙋🏾‍♀️

I just want to say I love it here Chloe. 💜 It’s just so crazy how much I’ve changed for the better because of you and others like you. Thanks for doing what you do.

Speak that truth! We are worthy Black Women!! I'm a new subbie! I love this channel!!

I needed to hear that intro when it comes to replacing therapy with youtube videos... thank you so much ma'am

I’m already liking before I start listening!! I’m so excited 😆 ❤️

I love this video! I struggle with confidence and after talking to my therapist I went on KZfaq and this popped up. This was divinely posted to allow more women to grow out of their shell!

My love, you are always on time. Thank you for being you Chloe. I appreciate your advice and wisdom so much!

This video is right on point! I had these experiences and loved myself more each and every time!!!

Always a good word and on time. THANK YOU.

Chole! This is refreshing! Protect your boundaries from an unhappy person…they are not allowed to humiliate, annihilate or pick you apart…unhappy people like to criticize…they don’t come from a place of constructive criticism or genuineness. They are toxic energy vampires, jaundiced, bitter, and jealous. As a confidant woman…I know them from a mile way…it’s not your responsibility to be someone else’s emotional dumping ground. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙅‍♀️

Chloe when I tell u I so needed my fix from this channel ,,,,And lesson 6.. hit home for me Cause it’s a jungle out here and like u said people are Dedicated to misunderstand you And not like you ,,,and lesson 2,, and 8, made me pause of truth Thanks Chloe 🌸🌺🌸 u are a jewel

Simply A CLASSIC.

Another great video. Since achieving a few personal goals, I stopped doing the work needed to remain in this position. If I’m being honest, my transformation has been exhausting and yet well worth it. Your videos consistently force me to reevaluate my way of thinking. So glad I came across this tonight. It serves as a reminder that my work is not done. Thank you 💜

Yes to this video!!!! 💯 Thank you Chloe!

You Truly are a Gem 💎. Thank you for helping us all Re gain confidence and Re focus 🧘🏽‍♀️ on how important our powers are as Women.

This video is everything sis

Thank you soooo much for sharing your wisdom and insight Chloe! I will forever be grateful! EDIT: This video is SO timely! Wow!!!