LES GOH. Here's the timestamps: 00:00 Intro 03:44 Understanding Charisma 09:17 Charlie’s Biggest Influences 13:17 Definition of Introvert & Extrovert 21:21 The Problem with Hustle Culture 29:50 Principles for Charismatic Communication 37:13 Charisma Lessons from Russell Brand 41:13 How to Overcome Shyness 48:36 How to Flirt with Women 59:32 How to Add Humour into a Conversation 1:07:59 Ben Shapiro & The Problem with Modern Debating 1:12:52 How Charlie Got His Whole Family to Take MDMA 1:23:57 Opportunities to Reprogram Yourself 1:41:54 Where to Find Charlie

It's amazing how Chris meets Charlie at his level of emotion.

Having “strong opinions held loosely, rather than loose opinions held loosely” is the key to a more harmonious way of life… Brilliant sentence.

Chris, you’re probably the best podcaster I ever listened to. Better than the big ones.

This was great :) even though I was hoping for more beauty tips 😉

Having something interesting to say exponentially creates charisma. This comes from actually developing an interesting value, be knowledgeable, be valuable, be interesting

00:00 🏋 Charisma is like fitness; most people neglect it, but a small effort can make you stand out. 03:51 🧠 Charisma has various styles: high conviction (e.g., Conor McGregor), authentic (e.g., Joe Rogan), funny (e.g., Kevin Hart), energetic (e.g., Will Smith), and empathetic (e.g., Oprah Winfrey). 06:10 🔄 Changing yourself for charisma isn't self-betrayal; it's evolving to be the best version while retaining your essence. 08:30 💪 Personality is shaped by past experiences; evolving involves unlearning patterns from younger years. 11:45 📚 Books like "Six Pillars of Self-Esteem" emphasize that confidence is earned through behavior, not an inherent birthright. 14:47 🔄 Introversion and extroversion are about where you get energy; it's fluid, influenced by both genes and experiences. 17:18 🔄 Unintended consequences: Pursuing constant socializing for charisma can create anxieties and new neuroses; true choice is essential. 19:13 🔄 Be cautious about dedicating yourself to certain pursuits in your early years (18 to 25), as they may become obstacles later. Consider the potential challenges of unwinding commitments. 21:48 🔄 Advantages in one phase of life can become obstacles in the next. Recognize when the strategies that brought you success need to be reevaluated and adapted for future growth. 23:13 🔄 The video discusses concerns about "hustle culture," emphasizing the importance of working effectively over working harder. Balancing life and avoiding burnout is crucial. 30:06 🤔 When initiating a conversation, set the vibe a level higher than necessary to be a conversational leader. Avoid literal responses to common questions and provide multiple hooks for the other person to connect with. 31:18 🔄 Instead of answering questions literally, offer responses that provide interesting hooks for the other person to connect with, creating more engaging and dynamic conversations. 34:04 🔄 Breaking away from implicit social norms in the workplace by injecting fun into interactions can foster human relationships, leading to professional success. 35:42 🔄 Charisma levels are not infinitely malleable, but anyone can considerably improve their charisma. Not everyone can transform drastically, but improvement is achievable. 37:21 💬 Russell Brand's charisma principles include treating everyone flirtatiously, using a push-pull dynamic in communication, and exhibiting unpredictability, suggesting authenticity. 38:57 💬 Russell Brand's unpredictability in responses adds authenticity, making him fascinating to listen to. The ability to switchbetween jokes and sincere, value-driven answers makes his communication style captivating. 39:25 🎭 Authenticity is crucial; some public figures may raise questions about their true selves if their stories always have the same punchline. 40:08 🤝 Russell Brand excels in authentic communication, maintaining curiosity and playfulness even in political or spiritual disagreements. 41:35 🦸‍♂ Overcoming shyness involves progressive exposure therapy; start by saying one extra sentence to lower the filter on what's acceptable to express. 43:28 🗣 Finish sentences with the same decibel level you started; practice deliberate conversational assertiveness for shy individuals. 45:20 🔄 Balancing deliberate skill-building with being in the flow ofconversation is crucial for growth in communication. 46:45 ⏰ Deliberate practice, similar to Tiger Woods rebuilding his swing, may involve stepping back initially to improve conversational skills. 48:41 💬 Principles for men communicating attractively to women: show interest, have genuine standards, and manage sexual tension. 54:16 🌐 In small talk, focus on playful world-building; engage in improvisational fantasy scenarios to create a fun and flirty vibe. 56:24 🚀 When discussing your job, speak to your values rather than just logistics; share what drives you and your life philosophy. 57:59 🌐 Most men go wrong by not engaging in conversation; they often disqualify themselves before speaking, missing opportunities for genuine connection. 58:55 🌐 Flirting with the world, being outgoing and friendly habitually, creates a powerful social presence that feels natural and engaging. 59:22 🤣 Adding humor to conversations involves having both a genuine answer and a playful response to common questions, providing a balance of authenticity and lightheartedness. 01:00:56 😄 An easy way to inject humor is by saying the opposite of what people expect, creating unexpected moments that induce laughter. 01:01:24 🎭 Prime yourself for humor by watching content from comedians you enjoy before social interactions, influencing your mindset and conversation style. 01:02:34 🤩 Tim Dillon is praised for his rapid and clever humor, showcasing the value of quick-wittedness in communication and comedy. 01:03:17 🎭 Improv comedy classes are recommended for those serious about developing humor, offering valuable skills in world-building, quick thinking, and comedic timing. 01:04:41 🗣 Effective communicators like Tony Robbins, Oprah Winfrey, and Bill Clinton excel in storytelling and creating a sense of safety for open conversation. 01:07:30 🌟 Kevin Hart's ability to command attention and lead conversations, even with a significant height difference, highlights his exceptional communication skills. 01:09:01 💬 In debates, using humor strategically, as seen in Ben Shapiro's tactics, can be powerful in discrediting opponents and winning social approval. 01:12:05 😄 Stephen Fry's ability to inject humor into debates can bridge gaps and humanize individuals with opposing views, fostering better understanding. 01:13:57 🌈 Psychedelic therapy, particularly with MDMA, facilitated significant positive changes in Charlie's life, leading to transformative family experiences and a sense of purpose. 01:17:28 🌌 Exploring the concept of psychedelic therapy is recommended, acknowledging it may not be suitable for everyone but emphasizing its potential for profound personal growth. 01:19:40 🔄 Early childhood experiences, especially in the family, shape one's understanding of concepts like love and power, forming lifelong "accents" in these areas. 01:20:22 🤝 Recognizing and respecting parental wisdom, even if they lack knowledge in modern technologies, is crucial for personal growth and avoiding the dismissal of valuable advice. 01:21:47 🔄 Life involves a continual process of self-discovery, where what serves you at one stage may become problematic later. The challenge is to navigate these changes and find a balance. 01:23:09 💔 Overcompensating to avoid past pains can lead to unhealthy behaviors, and the willingness to experience discomfort is essential for personal growth. 01:25:40 💰 Achieving financial and other goals may not provide lasting fulfillment; the mindset and thought patterns play a crucial role in one's happiness. 01:29:10 🤔 The pursuit of goals can become an endless cycle if not grounded in self-awareness, leading to perpetual dissatisfaction and the constant moving of goalposts. 01:31:55 🔄 Anticipatory beings, humans often find the most enjoyment in the anticipation of events, and dissatisfaction is inherent in our nature. 01:34:56 🔄 Unrealistic idealism is wired into human nature, and recognizing that the imagined satisfaction of an experience will always exceed the reality can lead to a more content life. 01:37:15 🔄 Pursuing external validation, such as charisma and social approval, may not significantly enhance one's subjective experience of life; the real joy often lies in appreciating the present moment and reality. 01:40:55 💡 The journey towards enlightenment involves navigating disappointment and frustration rather than achieving a state of perpetual satisfaction.

“One of the things guys miss out is having genuine standards” 😂 he said that so sincerely.

I never comment but this is worth my time. These are the two fellas, along with Ben, that have changed the way that I think and live. It's great to finally see this collab. This is the type of conversation that I strive for in my own life. I really appreciate the work that these two are doing. Thanks!

One of the best podcasts I’ve listened to lately. Two of my favorite personalities! 🔥

I think it’s important to remember that being yourself can be different in one moment to the next.

The Bill Clinton thing is true. I was one of those people in a line to meet him and he absolutely made every single person I could see, have that important moment with him. Every single person thought he was so warm and comfortable. He hardly had to say anything to convey that feeling. He had that air. And just saying “thank you” he made it feel so genuine. It’s like he is so comfortable in himself that he doesn’t need to say much to make you feel comfortable and important.

Just finished 6 pillars of self-esteem after hearing about it on here! Such a great book!

Learn to find people fascinating and you will draw most people to you. People really enjoy being seen and heard. Be open hearted and generous and you will have others respond the same way to you.

I was thinking it would be great if you had talked to Charlie and/or Ben. I love charisma on command, it has given me tools in life that have made a real difference. They are both great!

I've listened 30 something minutes in, and I keep thinking that I'm listening to a person that plays video games and wakes up at 11am on how to be attractive, yeah right dude. ✅️

“Self-esteem is your reputation with yourself” “Your nature is not pre-determined, but it is pre-disposed” “The advantages of one phase in your life will be then obstacles in the next” “Strong opinions held loosely, not loose opinions held strongly” “It is far easier to achieve your material desires than to renounce them” Wow... This podcast had way to many quotable mic-drop moments. Great listen! Thanks for this you two!

Definition of charisma;( at 36 seconds in) , saying he gets up at "around 11am" and not looking like he's being judged!

Two hot guys with amazing smiles and personalities and hyper intense minds, this is what Im looking for.

I’ve always talked about how anticipation is better than the actual thing, and haven’t heard someone else articulate it so well! Thank you!

He wakes up at 11am? Whew he definitely charisma’d me into wanting his life.

This is probably one of the best podcast episodes I’ve ever listened to! Thank you for this gem gentlemen. Will definitely be revisiting this one time and time again

So cool listening to him admit that he's made it to the end of the rainbow and the pile of gold ain't all that. Hearing someone admit that their path/ program/ company ISN'T the end all be all to happiness is really refreshing.

15:15 "Our nature does not predetermine but it does predispose." Fascinating aphorism!

I think what makes Chris one of the best interviewers is that he finds out why people say what they say rather than just accepting it at face value.

The thing about the shyness filter and conversational assertiveness is so spot on.

Being the eldest son for 5 siblings and 2 working class parents, when Charlie got to the part where he talks about his family it hit me on a very deep level I didn't know existed up until now. Thank you Chris for this podcast, it was amazing to listen to!

This is one of the greatest conversations of all time . Yall covered stuff I think about every day.

I remember years ago when I started bartending and discovered Charisma on Command. Looking back on how many things I learned from Charlie and how useful they are to this day. Great interview, love the reminder to be present in life rather than anticipating the next dopamine hit

This guy is legit! He’s sharp, level headed, and genuine! He’s helped me land some talent

typically being sober and facing harsh challenges is the best route to becoming stronger

Extraordinarily engaging and insightful conversation. Thank you both.

LOVE THE PODACST. So much learning, acumen and insights I have got!

One of the most helpful podcasts I’ve ever watched! Thank you

That is the largest smile I have ever seen. It's wonderful how just some physical features can bring me such joy and positivity.

I'm 35 and i'm going through all this that you guys are talking about. Thanks guys this helps alot. Hope you both have a great day!

I love these dudes. Such positive influences for everyone especially us men. Big ups guys. Y’all are doing some very good work 👍

You two are by far my two favorite KZfaq people thank you for this conversation you are both brilliant and I appreciate the wisdom I hear from both of you

I love the fact he gets up 11am and doesnt paint some BS picture of an early start and grind. Nobody aspires to have a life like that. And he plays video games what a legend.

Charlie is a legend, really helped out my social abilities with some good advice.

I thoroughly enjoyed this conversation! So many nuggets of wisdom; I'll definitely need to watch this again to revisit some of the topics discussed.

Absolutely fantastic podcast. So much wisdom, I'm literally taking notes!

How did I miss this? Been listening to Charlie for a few years and love his channel.

@ 27:04 I made this realization recently. I started writing down and reflecting on parts of my life that are already the way I want them to be (reflecting on gratitude, too) so that I'm already predisposed to identify that my life is good.

Why does this video have so few views ? what the hell, this has got to be one of the first podcasts I really want to rewatch because there was SO MUCH ground covered. Holy crap, too many lessons that could span a decade to truly understand. Thanks Chris.

convicting, challenging & truth! You really have a gift to see & interpret things the general public does not

Omgg!! It's so good to see Charlie on your podcast!! I've been a long time fan of his videos!

1:21:14 is why Chris is winning at podcasts. Taking something the guest said an hour ago and flipping it to make it relevant in a new context. Amazing

Peace be upon you all of you, Just like The Speaker from Charisma on command channel In my young days I was somewhat of a reserved during my teengage years and People would tell they Like my personality. I spoke often infront my peers and even got up to answer question at a conference of about 3000 people. But I benefited alot my channels like Coc and this one. To be more charismatic empathically, energitically and comedically For the young people reading this Go and own your charismatic self.

The guy wakes up at 11am and plays video games for rest of day. What an inspiration

Great guest. Charlie is a very interesting guy. Looking forward to seeing them interview you on their podcast too Chris.

I watch both of your podcasts and was super excited to see you both collab, great episode 👍

this is one of the realest convos i’ve ever heard. fantastic stuff boys

Well done. Thanks for sharing this conversation. I thoroughly enjoyed hearing his take and listening to your questions.

This was a good and solid episode! I have been following both of you guys for a while, so it was cool seeing you do this! Much love from Norway!

This is such a fantastic video. So easy to listen to. Had to share it with several people. ❤

Charlie is awesome. Really like him, and feel we’ve had similar journeys over the years

"Your ability to be idealistic is always going to outstrip realities ability to deliver that to you." - Chris Williamson

"self-esteem is your reputation with yourself" something that sounds so obvious once you've heard it. But I honestly never thought about it in that way. Great insight barely 10min into the video bodes well for rest of the interview :)

The friend repeating your joke loudly is such a relatable experience. I can't believe it happens with others too.

The conversation towards the end was so good and so insightful and I didnt realize i needed to hear those things

Just discovered this podcast. Spent my entire day off just listening to several episodes.

This was one of my favorites so far! GREAT podcast, fun, informative, and educational!

The best podcast episode I’ve ever witnessed. Helped me a lot honestly. Thanks!

This is one of the best podcasts I’ve ever watched if not the best

Thank you very much for this amazing podcast.

This is a long video, and yet I have never been so completely captivated that I could not turn it off. Great information, and interviewing. Top performance. 🤩

Yay! My two favorite KZfaqrs!! Didn’t see this one coming

Just found out about this podcast. So glad I did. A lot of good information here. Gonna rewatch it again!

These longer videos are the ticket. Keep em coming

Been listening to Charlie for years. Great podcast, fellas.

man, I enjoyed the conversation so much. Its so saturated with value!

I love this guys channel it helped me alot with confidence and social skills! God bless

Charisma: "compelling attractiveness or charm that can inspire devotion in others", or "a divinely conferred power or talent"... I almost feel like I have a form of charisma, if only the definition was broadened, to inspire hate and loathing in people; yet I know I am affecting them greatly with my mere presence and so feel I have charisma! Perhaps my idiolect has expanded the feeling the word "charisma" has on me! I guess charisma is the word to use when others aren't scared of you, and something else like psychotic or narcissist is used when people are scared of you!

absolutely love this

Always loved charlie

Love this guy!

Wow, incredible discussion!

We all need to get better with leaving the marshmallows! Delayed gratification for something real and consistent. I love the dialogue here, so much wisdom, awareness and maturity! I love your talks! ❤I’m 51 and I’ve finally got better at enjoying the journey as well as the learning and humility from the suffering and struggles! 💯desire happens in the anticipation! 🎉

the opening line got me cuz there's been a lot of stuff happening for me and since it's been happening because I'm not clinically depressed anymore suddenly I'm just exploding and people are just delighted to see me. It's so unusual to my expectations but it happened before I felt like I was even trying, just getting funny jokes being cool relaxed confident and suddenly the world just changed. It's not even hard.

you guys just listened to each other and also talked to each other. That is a great one.

Just finished watching the whole 1,5h, really awesome interview, great video! Thanks also for the timestamps in comments, helps in rewatching. Liked and subscribed 😁👍🏻

Charlie kicks ass :) Great conversation.

This was absolutey and utterly amazing

Love guys who think they’re charismatic but they’re just good-looking so people pay more attention to them

Awesome episode, great info and thougts/ideas

Great podcast mate, perfect amount of time too with loads of details.

"Strong opinions held loosely not loose opinions held strongly" is what distinguishes a person with integrity vs. someone with none. Someone with strong beliefs for themselves yet is open to listen to different views, and does not superimpose them on others, is someone you want near. And a person who continuously change their stances/beliefs depending on how that benefit them in the moment via shapeshifting to appeal to different groups, yet quick to anger when others believe differently, is someone you want to get rid of as soon as possible.

Great collab. Charisma is somehow both the easiest and the hardest thing to work on and definitely needs more of my intentional effort. Also, what a relief when a video podcast has excellent audio and visual quality.

fantastic episode, life-changing advice

hey dude, your podcast is awesome, been listening lately more and more from your stuff!

Great discussion. Thanks

As Charlie Munger said: The best way to cultivate such things is "to deserve it"

This was so relatable, i think thats part of the charisma, make people feel like your human like them more of a potential friend, i certainly relate with playing LOL, is a addiction if you can quit it, i did and felt better but i can understand the hook, the other thing is the evolution into the acceptance that life is always falls short of expectations, and that is OK, we need to swing from stage to stage as best a we can knowing that perspective is key to find balance in our decisions, really deep stuff and heart-felt.

As always awesome Chris 🙂

As an introvert who constantly works on this… I thoroughly enjoyed this episode. Can relate to all this! 💞💞🦋

Great talk!

This was honestly one of the greatest podcasts I have listened to lately. More power to you Chris and Charlie!

The conversation at 28 minutes, reminds me of a quote from "The Orchid Thief" something along the lines of passionate focus on one topic prevents you from being overwhelmed by everything..

How much of charisma is just looking good? Atractiveness creates an instant positive feedback loop with interactions.