And it doesn't mean "raising" them either - which is an enormous job in itself IF done the right way!

THIS

@purplefashion03 Yeah, I'm not into kids and def don't want to hold a newborn. People assume you want to hold their baby, just stop.

I don’t even like them, so the choice is easy for me.

Yes.

It's probably a good thing you aren't having children.

​@@JackSardonic Elaborate, please. In my experience, the reasons that motivate people to be consciously childfree are (ironically) indicative of qualities that would make them great parents - selflessness, compassion, thoughtfulness, careful decision-making, conscientiousness...

Well said

I am a childless spinster who has failed my biological mission as a woman to produce children and continue our species. I am a shame to my family and my ancestors, who all fought so hard to bring me into being.

I wish i was smart like you at that age. I never want kids but at age 22 i was not using my brain and got pregnant. Sometimes i regret having a kid. But know i am 29 and smarter and using my brain i will not ever get pregnant again.

I feel proud for you. That being said, do treat the kid well.

John2Riley Amen, brother. This female shouldn't be allowed anywhere near microphone to deceive younger women that are listening to her, as many often following such an advice will discover for themselves what being childless lonely aunt truly is. "Or becoming a nun." That should be a red flag right away. But them chicks are sleepwalking into the same cesspool that this individual has just climbed out.

Kris Religious beliefs always work their way into these things huh? I have always called religion brainwashing.

Misery loves company. It's like the blind leading the blind.

You got it. HAPPY AND AT PEACE WITH YOUR DECISION. NO REGRETS.

@Tyler Durden Since I was 5 I knew I wouldn't have any kids, so your statement is completely wrong.

@Tyler Durden Well one is completely unrealistic and the other is not. But in the end; my uterus, my decision.

Tyler Durden you’re amusing. You claim women only say they don’t want children once they can’t have them, then when someone says they were a child when they knew they didn’t want children you say they were too young to know. So which one is it, sweetie? Pick a lane so I can cruise by enjoying a child-free life

Tyler Durden how does her getting skeeted in effect you? I just need to know.

great one

Oh you are soooo clever!!!

A music teacher at my old school used to refer to children as "spawn of Satan". Poor guy. Apt description.

When I hear someone plopped one out I think "Round of applause. You performed a basic human function"

How about: "Don't worry...my not having kids won't affect you a bit"

Good to see some other Indian girls who are open to childfree notion

The total fertility rate in India has decreased a lot.

Naxalite? Seriously? Get a grip.

Anwesha Kar I totally agree with you .. in India it's almost like a sin to not want a child

shekhar pratap what has got into you?

Same here, call me selfish, so what, i am true to myself.

Childless coalburner? I guess it has some benefits.

@Spanish Language Educational Resources Why would she want to turn heads? What does that have to do with her not having children and enjoying her life?

Susan Burris Your short post contained the word "I" 10 times.......I guess that pretty much says it all!

@@leeosborn4641 I guess what you're inferring here is the notion that choosing not to have children is selfish in some way. By definition, being "selfish" means to prioritise yourself with a lack of consideration into how your actions affect other people, and while a large part of my desire to remain childfree is so I can prioritise my career and interests, in what way does that choice affect anyone other than myself? And lastly, so what? You only have one life and you never know how long you have left; I'd rather spend my time on this planet seeing and experiencing everything it has to offer rather than being shackled to dependant offspring who had no choice in whether or not they were born. If that makes me selfish then I'm going to keep being selfish until the day I die.

I KNOW right?!

The reason I left the Latter Day Saint (Mormon) church. It’s driven home repeatedly that a “woman’s eternal divine purpose” is to be a mother. You can only imagine what the heck that does to a young girl’s self-esteem and how she knows she is viewed not only by the world, but how she is viewed by the actual people who she sees every Sunday, people who are watching her grow up, seeing her as a walking womb. Lip service as to how women are equal and loved in God’s eyes while also preaching “your purpose is pregnancy” is utterly baffling and mind damaging.

Please stand by me as my whole family calls me selfish 😞

I used to be Mormon. They’d say this ALL the time.

@@HollieBelleAK those are the cult. I'm glad you leave

What a terrible thing to say to a couple.

Amazing!! I hope that I could have an amazing husband and marriage too!

Abigail Hornibrook.....Well, statistically your husband is most likely to die first. My Mum is 103. My Dad died 43 years ago. She had 4 sons with him and now has 12 grandchildren and 13 great grandchildren with 2 more on the way. She feels so loved and blessed. She said to me fairly recently, "You know I don't know where I'd be if I hadn't had children. Everybody of my generation that I knew has gone, both family and friends. I'd be a terribly sad, lonely old woman. But here I am, living in this beautiful home, surrounded by a large loving family that constantly makes a fuss of me. I'm supported by my daughter-in-law and taken everywhere by my sons and their wives. I consider myself very fortunate." So good luck Abigail!!!

@@leeosborn4641 Sir, In 21st century it will be a sin to create such a huge family. Food is going scarce, jobs are scarce, Living in a Tier 1 City will burn one bank. More people means more mouths to feed. Having children in this century is a Sin. We should reduce overpopulation and save the Earth.

@@mridulbarman4114 No, wrong answer.......we should stop 1% of the people having 85% of the wealth and then strive to keep the birth rate at about 2.3 children per couple or at the replacement rate. As the Earth stands at the moment the Earth is not over-populated. The problem is not over-population. The problem is the terribly unequal distribution of wealth. The wealthy will tell you that the world's problems are caused by we, "the useless eaters", having too many children......that it's our fault, because they do not want us to realize that it is actually their fault. You have bought into their lies and are helping them by passing their lies onto others.

Same! When someone asks I smile and say 'Fortunately not. We are blessed to be childfree especially during the pandemic.'

U sound like fun!!

@@ViagensGringa Thanks! I am a lot of fun, especially since I'm not burdened with children.

Baaah!! Me too!! It's the best 😁

It make sense when I look at your blue hair

I love this. Im stealing this.

Indeed.

Just because we have the ability to procreate doesn't mean we have the right to. Breeding is murder.

That does not fit into God's plans and not biblical. Using birth control is an abomination!

@@patsaxon5284 Is this sarcasm? If it isn't then who said anything about birth control? How exactly do you know what God's plan is for anyone, for yourself even? That is almost like saying you know the mind of God and I strongly doubt that you do.

Has it ever occurred to you that if you have "so many childfree friends" that are the same as you then this would form a comfort zone? With a comfort zone, anyone who would upset the mixture of the zone is bound to get pressure from the others there. Much like it wouldn't be a good idea to announce to friends that you were going to lose some weight as the response would be: "Oh, but you look good the way you are." Then there is the single guy with a bunch of single friends, but one by one they all get married and in 10 years not only aren't his friends comfortable with him, neither are their wives and out of zone he goes.

Thank you, I really needed to hear that there is some sense left here.🙏🏻❤️

@@maxskyfan he literally said he has children in his comment, "i love my children", he's not "the same as" his child free friends. Check your reading comprehension

It is only questionable if they ended up having unexpected children out of wedlock. I know a few guys who have have multiple baby mamas and still pursuing romantic connections with other women; it’s crazy and unnecessarily complex. Not to mention financially draining.

95% of my friends and family are married with children, makes me feel very marginalised by my situation

Hey, I'm with you on that, but I don't have a "career" now and STILL don't want a kid and NEVER did! I am 60 years old.

Star Gazer Good for you! live your life your way :-) you can be free from child-rearing chores and still choose to be career free, and just do whatever you choice. Your life is your choice. :-) (I am ChildFree too, love it!)

Same! I’ve had a Salpingectomy, it was the best day of my life and it means I am medically ChildFree! :-D

@@veroniquecastel9582 I had a tubal ligation at 23 years old, the best decision I've ever made for myself.

I had the snip on May 8th, 1982 at 23... No kids either...

Power to your independence!

I was raised to be independant by an equally independant mother. She married my dad in 1952 but chose not to have a baby until 1957. That was 'radical' for that time!

50!? Factorial is a big number

You are narcissistic. That is why. Imagine your mother that narcissistic!?

*hugs you make me at 38 not feel a sense of doom they shame women with esp bc im an only child yOu wiLL diE AlOne *rolls eyes ...

I like this.......one of the few honest statements on here. :-)

Same

Beautiful, simple honesty - as Billy Joel sings, "Honesty - is such a lonely word - everyone is so untrue"

XDDD SAME

Exactly!!!

T Anderson 😂😂😂👏👏👏

You must be a joy to be around.

Seems to me you're the one that's the problem.

It's always the men commenting on women who make the choice to not have children😒😒 get over it...

@@RG-lu6fz Hmmmm, strange you should say that..........the person commenting in the video is a woman and nearly all the comments underneath are by women. Has it occurred to many women in general, and you in particular, that a woman's partner, whom I suppose ideally she professes to love, might want to have children and seeing biologically he can't have them it has to be up to her. But of course these days it's just all about the woman......her rights, her wants, her entitlements. It never used to be this way; this complicated. There was relative harmony between the sexes and generally men and women liked each other. Women are so busy trying to compete with and beat men at everything that they have lost their uniqueness and forfeited their femininity. Women's rights and radical feminism is tearing apart the very social fabric of our civilization by destroying the family unit and obliterating the birth rate.......which of course is the aim and intention. Has there ever been a sorrier sight than to see women march, demanding the right to be able to kill their unborn children if they so choose. Men cannot stop all of this.....it has gone too far now. Only women can, but I cannot see any signs that is going to happen anytime soon! No wonder men in ever increasing numbers are throwing their hands in the air and choosing to go their own way. God help our country if it ever has to defend itself.

I can completely relate! Thanks for watching.

They don't care. They just want to do the normal mundane small talk that is socially acceptable and is the social norm. More than likely they don't care one iota. If they did they would be there to help you raise them. Most people are busy with their own life. This is just the normal banter that really isn't that interesting. They have nothing to add because they don't have interesting things to talk about or would want to even try.

Alexis Munson, because MISERY LOVES COMPANY, that's why!

That's your opinion and experience and it is extremely narrow. I can't see your point.

@@77Tadams Very true, it's just the small talk. I used to wish people could be more imaginative with their questions.

An attractive woman

leeche she doesn’t look 60 :O the perks of being child free!

Because she's childfree obviously

I’m sixty-five and childfree. I’m obviously past child-bearing age now, but when I was younger, I got little or no flack from women about my childfree status. I did get a certain amount from men. Most of these men were uneducated and/or conservative, though.

Lol seriously? If the only people who are capable of missing you are the ones you gave birth to, there’s a good chance you’re a miserable person and they’ll be dancing on your grave.

@@terron7840 well i definitely don't think you should have children just for the sake of them mourning you in the future. that's not a good enough reason in my opinion.

@@terron7840 that doesn't mean everyone should have children. This isn't a primal society, my financial, social and emotional responsibilities outweigh "primal responsibility". Its not anyone's duty to have children they don't want. That's why kids get abused or get put in foster care.

Lpoleo P The strongest most fulfilling love any couple or friend has experienced is but a pale shadow of that between a caring parent and child.

Violet Lee Your fashionable duties to your social circle are utterly meaningless in the grand scale of things, about the only good thing to come out of this cult of equality ideology is that you are actively breeding yourself out of the genepool, it won't take more than 3-4 generations to completely wipe out your genetic disposition and the rest of humanity can get on without this socially transmitted cancer.

Awesome isabel! All power to you!

Have you ever heard the sound of one hand clapping?

In third world countries women hardly have anything and they have kids because they are not selfish

@@monikfreak19 no, because they don`t have anticonceptionals.

Giulia ZUNINO these days they have access to birth control for free but they are afraid to use it because of their cultural beliefs and social stigma

nothing wrong ..all the best ...if u want u can adopt later ..or not at all

exactly :)

Here’s to powerful personal choices!

What's wrong with it? I'm 73 and like you I've been 30.....but you haven't been 73. When you get to 73 ask yourself the question again. You may have a different answer.

I'm 60 now. I remember my mother telling me, "one day, you'll find yourself saying to yourself that something is missing". Well, 40 years later, that day NEVER came! And do you know why? I NEVER WANTED ANY.

Which country are you from? Can you tell me the name of your doctor and the address of their clinic?

Abortion must not be wrong if they're not willing to sterilize women who dont want kids. How many abortions must I have before a doctor will realize I'm serious?

@@harleenquinzel9369 I can't believe doctors wont sterilize woman who don't want kids how twisted is that?!

Paula D. Stone Good for you! Your body is your choice! :-) I’ve had the the snip too, a Salpingectomy, removal of the Fallopian tubes via keyhole- BEST DAY IF MY LIFE! :-) my partner and I enjoy our ChildFree life of making music; he’s a drummer and I am a cellist. We sleep in when we chose and do yoga and art when we choose, because we are not tied down with child-rearing chores. Right now he’s doing yoga and I am in my art room. :-) all the best to you Paula. :-)

Mehak Malhotra I am in Melbourne, Australia, ChildFree and had the snip (Salpingectomy) and it was done by Dr Judith Fleming. No lecture, no drama and free too! :-)

unfortunately high iq thinkers like u r less in numbers

I TOTALLY agree especially when there's so many children who need to be adopted

@@AN-zz8ps not only adopted, but generally cared for. Not every child with parents has support and a safe haven to grow.

Wonderful message!

😘

Said by spinsters in the mirror.

It's all about control. It's either men or women over 50 who are so invested on whether or not someone has children. You have to be suspicious about people who get so bent out of shape over a personal choice.

I think they just call out the awful logic used by the childless people. And I mean, you can't take your idea into a public forum and then complain when the public has a different opinion than you.

The crybaby "men" commenting in this section, are likely "'red-pilled" anti-feminists. Such misogynistic BS.

@@jay1jayf where is the logic wrong hmmm? And people are allowed to have different opinions. That's what we're all doing, right?

Jay Jimenez where and when is the logic behind not wanting kids “awful”?

Imagine you and your fellow chimpanzees are sitting around socializing. By now you would have been impregnated, so yes, it's odd for our species too.

I agree, I just wish it wasn't a "normal" question to ask. At least if they want to ask it, they can ask "do you want to have kids?" instead of acting like you definitely are, as if there is no other possibility.

She's speaking of herself personally. She isn't saying you have to be that either.

2DirtyDogs That's just a Freudian slip, sister.

So much yes to this!

I have very little interest in children. I'm not an aunt, so maybe if I knew some personally it would be different, but in general, not so much.

@@VickiLMcLeod There are some who just don't like kids and I feel it's okay - doesn't make 'em any less of a person. Not every woman has that "maternal instinct" Personally, I don't like hanging around kids, and together with other reasons, informed my decision to never want be a mother.

You can also choose not to get married and not have a proper relationship is all up to you. A boy and girl can also be friends and go away without commitment.

They struggle with it because seeing childfree women is the ultimate threat and insecurity to them. We're walking reminders of the better choices that they should have really thought of and made, but didn't. We live lives that they secretly want and thus end up resenting both us and their kids (that had no say on being here) for it. It's quite sad really.

@@sissysovereign1294 Exactly. Childfree women being happy reminds them of what they could've been without the misery, and they can't stand it. It's such a narcissistic mindset to have.

Wheeewwww chile... YEESSSSS I agree.

Soo true!

“Oops, I forgot to, too busy have a fun life” 😋

Me: I care about my mental health.

If this isn't the best comeback ever... Thx for the idea haha

I laughed a lot at this comment because it's exactly what my sister says after having 2 kids and not very happy now 😂

Sending you love, hon.

I'm sure a lot of people think that but wouldn't openly say it... A lot of people would choose the option not to be born if they had that choice!

Same

ditto....If I knew what I would have to live through day by day from very early on and how it would come back to haunt me and relationships, I would not be here.

Such an openly honest statement. I have never said that I would have chosen not to be born, but I have marveled at the fact that I was born, but didn't have any choice in the decision of whether or not I WAS born. Things that make you go hmmmmmm!

holulu777 same! My partner is a drummer and I am a cellist and we jam when we want, I am doing a psychology degree, and we sleep in whenever we want and just yesterday I said to him “imagine trying to live our lives with children, would be hard, we’d be tied down to them!” We’re a ChildFree couple too. And I’ve had the snip (a Salpingectomy) and we don’t want baby-making chores to interfere with our lifestyle. :-)

@@veroniquecastel9582 Guys in the office once told me that I do not have kids because I am SELFISH. I told them there is NOTHING WRONG WITH BEING SELFISH, Peanut gallery went silence after that.

@@holulu777 but it’s funny because ask them why they had children. Most of the times a selfish answer will follow

same same here holulu! We've talked about this extensively and have no regrets.

@@slaonestephens7575 exactly. Too many people will cite "legacy", which is extremely selfish.

Ooo let me look it up

@@vimbayikajese2336 thank you. 🍀

Agree

such sad women here..mother emptyness! your hearts must be so cold ..its ok you don't have kids, its your own will..but its so weird how you see the world and see beautiful children! scarry!

@@HopeLaFleur1975 such sad woman you are, your world is so small you can't find anything else to be happy beside children. It's ok if you have kids, it's your own will but it's so weird when you expect everyone to see the same small world of yours. Scary!!!!

@@Princessalicekawaii You are precious, never change (From a random 16yrs old Girl)

Because that is why you exist and we still exist is the future

Carrie totally. People actually are thinking that they should have no loyalty to their race and people... isn’t it crazy?

@@lukasmccain3529 You are only loyal to yourself

Skylar jane not me personally. My first locality is to my wife and son. Secondly to my family and race.

@@lukasmccain3529 No has to be loyal to anything

Skylar jane I’m assuming you meant “no one has to be loyal to anything”. And Id say wake to you that you should wake up from your nihilism. Do you have a family of your own?

Erin Nelson I agree 100%. It seems like people who have children give up completely on themselves and it's acceptable because they have children to raise. I think they find comfort in that.

It is rather dull isn't it? I find people around me in misery lots of times and just don't try...but they pooped out a kid and now they think they are better than people who didn't even though they are lousy parents and don't car about others at all.

You're absolutely right

I was questioning the purpose of life and what I wanted to really do in this world and an acquaintance said that I didn’t feel fulfilled because I didn’t have children. 🤔😒

@@fiascochick3 Did you laugh in their face? I sure hope you did because they needed it!

Intelligent, educated and civilized people don't fall for propaganda.

You can have intelligent, educated and civilized people in both sides. But the ones who are uncivilized are those who force the others to adopt their own views.

And infertile one unfortunately

@CanadaQBank, very true as Iv observed.... poorer less educated low skilled people tend to have way more kids than they can actually support and care for than people who are highly educated, wealthier and who have the means but either don't have kids or might have 1 or 2.

That is not true at all. People who are childfree are simply those who never were able to see the value of this relationship and never had the deeper level of thoughtfulness or the broad- mind which is required to genuinely see, realize and understand that value. Are you really trying to say that the people who fit in this criteria are intelligent, educated and civilised or are they the literal opposite??

As an indian man it surely cannot be worse than mine. I actually relocated to another part of the country just to get away from all that chaos.

Society will try to make you conform. Don't.

My mother beats me when I say I don't want children.

Omg as a Nigerian woman it’s even more difficult 😞

Dame Darcy Say it louder for the people in the back!!

I think we should make guys babysit children and do all of those things for months and see how they feel about having kids after.

So true!

Exactly...If I want to buy a car, house, stereo, go on vacation, I need a job and money, BUT if I want kids, with no responsible to anyone, I can pop out 4, 5, 6, etc and then whine when I am too broke to survive...

Agree

Nah I'd never ask a guy if he has kids

I’ve had a Salpingectomy! :-) And boo to your father... but glad you have a loving, like minded life partner :-) all the best to you.

So your father rejects you, you, a born child, HIS BORN child, because you reject the IDEA of having your own children. Sorry, but your father has problems with logic.

Changing litebulbs

You probably also think teens and young adults still using bounce houses is okay.,.

Yeah man, chug those Starbucks lattes, you don't need kids You just need those urban apartments as the future of modern housing as opposed to single family homes in the suburbs or a house in the country right?

@@monsterstackwizard9313what could this possibly mean 😂

I knew at 13 I was not going to be a mini-me of my mother..being the 6th of 9 kids, 3rd daughter, life was babysitting, cooking, cleaning while listening to her resentment and being caught up in a parents griping marriage. Yes there were good times but I just did not want to be anything like her. (2 of my 3 sisters are childfree as well)

you aren't being selfish at all if you don't want kids and don't have them it doesn't hurt anyone

ϯLady_ Sinisterϯ Dr Judith Fleming removed my tubes; no lecture, no drama, and free too! I am in Melbourne, Australia. If you are too, search for her details on Google. Ask for a Salpingectomy. That’s what I had done, and it was the best day of my life! All the best to you :-)

Me too. You have the same reason like mine. I am parentifid children, it means i was unintentionally forced to be a parent since i was 8 years old. It was traumatizing till to this day. The parentification makes me not to wanting children in my life. I want to heal oneday

@@momosnainggolan4468 totally agree

So do I I love it

Not Childfree.....you are Childless......you are Without Child. You cannot be free of something that was not there in the first place. It is fudgy double-speak.......to cloud the issue and make you feel better.

What motivated you to post this? You feel uncomfortable when someone is feeling happy & free without children? There is enough people in the world to show love to, I do not need my own children to give love or feel loved. Peace.

@@apeskatt I respect everyone's right to choose.....rightly or wrongly. On such an important issue though I do not respect intellectual dishonesty and manufactured, fudgy double-speak, like "otherhood" and "child-free", designed to cloud and obfuscate.....and artificially make the choice appear more attractive to the reader and listener than it otherwise might appear. Peace.

@leeosborn I‘m 35 year old woman, with no children, and I 100% feel more childfree than childless. So that’s the right word for me to use :)

SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK

For people who don't want children being a parent is like life imprisonment

being parent is not a contribution to modern society (we already hv more than enough people )

🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻

45 and a half... no kids ... no stress ... xx happy xx

I hit menopause at 38. Happy dances ensued!!!!!!!!!!

You are probably the same kind of person who also thinks teens and young adults still jumping inside a bounce house sometimes is okay too .:.;

YES! I think in a way, this is the point - it takes courage and spiritual warriorship to live with what we are given.

I am ChildFree! :-)

You are a sad individual

Same x x

Utsav JOSHI lol how is she said?because she loves animals?not everyone wants kids get over it

Jarod wow calm down dude

I am raising my two senior dogs and NO. It is not cheaper ! NO. You still get emotionallyattached. You need to learn how to take care of another life. Raising animals is not an escape .

😂 brahmins are a defeated community, will be off of the face of this planet in no time

Finally , a smart Indian girl ❤❤❤

@@nullinlack585 Thank u so much..Atleast we are a few people who will support each other in this case no matter what

yeah, noone asks you if you want to be born into this world

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this

Mary Sanchez I nurture my art making and my cello, and my plants :-)

Very true! I just think it makes others uncomfortable when they come across people & especially women who do not have children.

bob marker You’re just one person, but if childlessness and decadence becomes the norm, society would fall.

You just go along to get along don't you?

@@niltomega2978 Absolutely. A force to reckon 💗

@@mollypinto4666 lol... 👍

@@niltomega2978she’s speaking hee truth

First they bring us into this bs world, then they act as if they did us a favor, illogical breeders

@@kwijebo What? You don’t appreciate being brought into a dying world against your will?

@@ohno7153 r u an atinatalist? (lets skip mambo jambo sarcasms)

I LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE STOPPING AT STOP SIGNS SOOOOOOOO MUCH!!!

good for you!

Don't forget u were also annoying when u were a child too

karthik9t0 LOL that’s exactly my point!

@@Christina_320 but the society will put pressure to get married n kids ,

karthik9t0 Um ok ... and? Who gives a care what society does. LOL

Bingo! My sentiments exactly.

This is powerful story and demonstrates true spiritual warriorship - “enjoy my life as it is” is staking powerful claim to live in dignity with who you are. Inspiring.

You can still adopt if you really want kids. There are so many kids stuck in the system that needs loving homes.

@hahahaha - I have no cats. Catless by Choice, also.

@hahahaha Whats wrong with owning pets? You say that like it's a bad thing

Have you told anyone besides your father in law that you don't plan on having kids? It's hard to deal with all of those needless comments so hopefully it would put them straight on the matter. Then, if they still don't get the picture, they'll learn soon enough when they don't have a baby to gush over. Also, I'm sorry to hear this. It's sad how often women are stripped of all humanity and desires, just to their reproductive organs. Whatever choice you make, be sure it is yours and yours alone.

We married at 20 and had 10 yrs infertility. People mean well but I got so sick of friends and family saying "just relax". So annoying. We adopted 2 girls and had a 3rd in our 40s naturally. My 20s were awful. Life gets better as you age.

How old are you? Don’t think our single uncles are really fulfilled either…

same. i don't want to get a partner either lmao. and if ppl were to try to give me the "pity" look, i wouldn't hesitate to be rude to them, like, "i don't need your pity, so stop it with that pathetic look and mind your own business."

I'm actually a bit jealous because I often get caught in the mindset that I'll finally be 'happy' when I find my romantic soulmate. When in reality, happiness is so much more about being at peace with yourself and doing what makes you passionate. I think being aromantic has a lot of benefits in this regard because you can completely focus on improving your life as an individual. But of course both ways of life are valid - I hope more people will come to accept aromantics and the idea of living life w/o a romantic partner in general.

my pleasure! Thank you for watching :)

Exactly. The sad thing is that there are so many idiots that belittle and harass people who choose to don't.

And i was several times asked If i had children lol

I am not childless, I am ChildFree; I am free from the burden of baby making chores. :-)

its a choice

We live in an age of options and choice, best of luck as you travel your journey...

Wasteful? Anna Theamazing, can you elaborate on having children is wasteful? Oppose to adopting if you don't mind. Thnx! I've never heard this term. I'm childless also, however it was due to religious fear input in me. Even though it was a choice to be childless, I was not choosing to be. I didn't know. So, it really wasn't, because I was emotional enslaved. I didn't know myself. I lived lost within myself. I lived a fearful life do to religion. I am 57 years young. And, I am still healing! Healing my mind of all the brainwashed by all the lies! My healing started eight years ago. Of renewing my mind! Thx for sharing!

HappyTimesVan I just feel like the child u adopt already exist and is a human that needs to be cared for as opposed to bringing a child in to the world and adding to the over all amount of ppl in the world consuming resources and further straining the environment either way i would love my child but the earth is quickly approaching the cap for the amount of ppl it can support and having excessive amounts of children to me seems a bit selfish but I'm still young myself and this is a opinion that could change I have nothing against ppl who decide to have children it just isn't really for me

anna Theamazing, thanx for your input. I understand your thought. I also respect your feelings. Thnx for your honesty. And, yes, you are still young and can choose to change your thoughts in the future. Whatever you choose you are respected as a female. Thnx for sharing!

I agree that there are enough humans who need help and that it is better to care for the humans who already exist than to mindlessly procreate like animals.

Maybe she wasn’t judging you and was implying that she understands we live in a world that may... but she is consciously choosing not too? Just a thought

Maybe it was a sarcastic comment meant to convey that she, as a mom, understands how stressful it is to have children so she doesn’t blame you for choosing not to do it?

18 yrs old is a child to you?

@Jane Smith Me too. Just hate when people who've just had a baby ask me if I'd like to hold it. NO. A pet on the other hand, is an angel from the heavens.

I’m 33 and could have written this myself. I hope I’ll feel similar when I’m 50. Reading your comment gives me hope and reinforces the fact that I should listen to my heart and true desires, not giving into the societal pressures of having children.

I miss the days when getting pregnant was considered a bad thing....

Well said, Erin Nelson! Breeder apologists are shitheads who cannot comprehend causation.

I feel that in modern society, children are simply an appliance that temporarily satisfies ones selfish desires to have a "human pet".

@Bethany Rentfro no, being selfish does not make you a bad person, just selfish. Your act of procreation was based on your DESIRE to have a child.

@Bethany Rentfro It is and it isn't. On one hand, having a child has the potential to consume your life and identity if you let it. Some people let parenthood define their entire being, and that kind of selflessness is deeply unhealthy. But parenthood can also be selfish. So many people here are talking about "having a legacy", "being remembered after I die", "passing on my genes", "leaving my mark on the world", "keeping me company at Christmas and Thanksgiving", "looking after me when I'm old". Those are all selfish reasons to have a child. Sadly, some people look at kids like they're an unpaid labour force built in their own image.

I TOTALLY agree! this world sadly IS inhumane I wish it wasn't but it TOTALLY is! I will never have a kid for that reason among others.

I agree with you. Some people think all childfree people are heartless monsters just because some of us don’t like children. It’s honestly weird.

Shawnice Lawrence its true!! Mothers always say "its the greatest thing I've ever done!" and "my life didn't start until I became a mother." However, its not all perfect and beautiful. There's no shame in being honest about the hardships. Of course you love your child but its so hard. Its ok to say it. Thank you for being brave and telling your truth in a world that shames honest moms.

Your so right! It totally ruins your body!!

I am ChildFree, I love it! I appreciate your honesty and I hope you have support. :-)

Harold Potter that's the idea the world would be better off without people. People that murder each other. People that abuse everything: pollution, wars, killing animals just for sport, we take are parents and put them in nursing homes, have children and put them in daycare? The world would probably be a beautiful place if there were no people in it.

People will reply by asking you "And what if my child become a criminal instead?"

People will reply by asking you "And what if my child become a criminal instead?"

There is no reason. Like with all the jobs the natives don't want to do, let the immigrants do it. They're happy to have their children inherit the legacy your ancestors fought and struggled for.

Frida Nyberg Please help me, if you can find away to do it without pain, ley me know! The number 1 reason more people don't do it is because they along with me are cowards. It takes guts and courage to stop this pain. Just today at tge very least 62 are dead in las vegas. But people don't care and they think it will never ever happen to them. I hope it doesn't. People only really care if it effects. That is the bold truth. Very sad world.

Jenny Gao THIS! Child free women still experience the love of family or solitude as they wish, because we have the world as our home. There are so many changes to make for good that one can make while not reproducing biologically. Be well everyone!